Obsessive-Compulsive Woman interview-Kate

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Soft White Underbelly

Soft White Underbelly

Күн бұрын

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@katewilliams5230
@katewilliams5230 Жыл бұрын
Thank you everyone for the kind comments. I'm so happy that people are resonating with my words. My biggest fear going into this was not representing the OCD/mental health community well enough. Your kind comments are proving to me that I did it to the best of my abilities. To any of the negative commenters: your misunderstanding of other people's struggles push me to end the stigma that comes with mental illness even more than before. To all of the people that found solace in my words: thank you for hearing me; you are not alone. MUCH LOVE MARK
@purpleonmymind
@purpleonmymind Жыл бұрын
They are just words after all, its the meaning you attach to them which create the heartache, you will be fine, I know it .🙂
@SoftWhiteUnderbelly
@SoftWhiteUnderbelly Жыл бұрын
You are amazing Kate.
@transmaniandevil
@transmaniandevil Жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing your story and experience Kate! it seems like you’re really self aware and emotionally intelligent now since growing through the OCD
@AKayfabe
@AKayfabe Жыл бұрын
Kate I also have OCD and started having terrible issues with it very young at like 5 or 6. It’s really hard to have an issue that you know logically doesn’t make sense but that you are still compelled to do. I had to have psychological therapy for OCD for a long time. It improved from what it once was. I still have issues especially when stressed out. And who isn’t stressed out these days. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
@brunolima7402
@brunolima7402 Жыл бұрын
All the best to you, Kate. Thanks for sharing your story.
@yadisjourney1875
@yadisjourney1875 Жыл бұрын
Her mother was definitely an amazing woman for not ignoring or downplaying her daughter’s condition.
@tiffb1300
@tiffb1300 Жыл бұрын
But also contributed to it. Let's be honest. Unintentional obviously but yep
@craigslist6988
@craigslist6988 Жыл бұрын
@@tiffb1300 how so? I think whatever ways she contributed must pale in comparison to all the things she did right. Honestly she's super lucky, of course relatively considering having OCD isn't lucky, because even most well off parents wouldn't know what was going on and react super poorly. Her mother appears to basically support her without putting any guilt on her for not doing it herself at her age. Most parents would have probably done the whole "tough love" routine and kicked her out to figure out her problems alone... which would be obviously bad. I could go on but seriously her mom sounds much better than most in that situations
@farmerchick3040
@farmerchick3040 Жыл бұрын
Many doctors would say she actually made it worse. Ocd is only a 1st world problem.
@LS-ry5ey
@LS-ry5ey Жыл бұрын
@@craigslist6988 totally agree with this, her mom seems really supportive
@elpida6071
@elpida6071 Жыл бұрын
I totaly disagree. Her mother did not protect her from the beggining of her life. She's her fault what her child is getting through.
@alissamassey
@alissamassey Жыл бұрын
"The anxiety is worse than the actual event" is so relatable. Thank you for sharing.
@nicolasjeannet1063
@nicolasjeannet1063 Жыл бұрын
In chess there is a saying that the threat is stronger than the execution
@marquel325
@marquel325 Жыл бұрын
So real
@marquel325
@marquel325 Жыл бұрын
So real
@erikmorales17
@erikmorales17 Жыл бұрын
I feel like I do this to myself on purpose cause I overhype the event so it’s not so bad but leading up the anxiety kills me
@Cnm4200
@Cnm4200 Жыл бұрын
My tattoo say “the fear of suffering is far worse than the suffering itself” I feel this
@unforgivenkd
@unforgivenkd Жыл бұрын
I have never heard someone admit to the things she has admitted too. I can relate to some of the things she deals with as far as intrusive thoughts. Very brave of her to be so vulnerable and transparent.
@DeeGee-fw7qd
@DeeGee-fw7qd 8 ай бұрын
Same it's crazy because I thought I was crazy for having these intrusive thoughts and have never felt validated and I've always been scared to voice these ugly thoughts I have been able to deal with it on my own but just hearing her story lifted such a big weight of my shoulders you're so brave and thank you for doing this for all of us and letting me now that I'm not alone in this 🫶🏽
@Sunnydayz5656
@Sunnydayz5656 6 ай бұрын
Very brave, and so appreciative that she did...think i have ocd.. intrusive thoughts are pure torture.
@unforgivenkd
@unforgivenkd 6 ай бұрын
@@Sunnydayz5656 a friend of mine told me one time that “we are not our thoughts” that helped me understand to disconnect thoughts and my self. As a newly religious person, I chalk it up to the devil trying to confuse me or bring me down. A few prayers and the devil ain’t got shit on me!
@heidimichellemoenkhaus3569
@heidimichellemoenkhaus3569 5 ай бұрын
Same!!! I'm so grateful to her for being so vulnerable cause some things you just feel like you can't tell people because they'll think you ARE your thoughts.
@autonomousindividual7780
@autonomousindividual7780 Жыл бұрын
People have no idea how someone with an active imagination and anxiety can torture themselves. Especially if they are sensitive and empathetic. Living HELL.
@dawnholmes2136
@dawnholmes2136 Жыл бұрын
Your such a sweet caring girl ❤
@emilywheeler1199
@emilywheeler1199 Жыл бұрын
I felt this
@lorriest.pierre4236
@lorriest.pierre4236 Жыл бұрын
I know exactly what it’s like to have gone through most of what you have as a result of OCD. Thank you for being brave enough to speak out about what it’s like living with OCD!
@fjb3544
@fjb3544 Жыл бұрын
Sums me up in one paragraph. It is
@fjb3544
@fjb3544 Жыл бұрын
This video has made me realize that I am not alone. OCD of this nature is a living hell. It makes you believe you are evil.
@revelationbisaillon
@revelationbisaillon Жыл бұрын
i’m on the verge of tears… this is the first time anyone’s explained how OCD feels almost perfectly for me. she did a great job.
@ayamata8950
@ayamata8950 Жыл бұрын
@patrickcirenza1824
@patrickcirenza1824 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, the first time I even knew what OCD was when I was 16 watching a KZbin video. Didn’t go to a physiatrist till I was 22, this was my whole life and I didn’t tell my parents till I was 22. If you haven’t seen a professional I would recommend it, Prozac really helps.
@revelationbisaillon
@revelationbisaillon Жыл бұрын
@@patrickcirenza1824 i take prozac!! it’s been great for me. i’m glad you’ve been able to recognize the help you needed, i know it can be hard. i was diagnosed at 16 but didn’t really understand why until i spent time researching it and in therapy.
@helenayount507
@helenayount507 Жыл бұрын
@@patrickcirenza1824i wish I had access to resources like that. I’m religious ocd, it’s so hard
@spyder_33
@spyder_33 Жыл бұрын
I had ocd as a young boy and was washing my hands down to the bone from dry skin especially in winter time. As an adult I don't wash my hands enough yet feel much better lol
@MikeJ2525
@MikeJ2525 Жыл бұрын
I’ve had OCD for 7 years and one thing I’ve found with people with OCD is that they are very self aware and gentle people. We are gentle because our OCD beats us down until we are humble. And we are self aware because we spend 80% of our day in our heads trying to understand our thinking and constantly analyzing our behavior. It’s exhausting. But at least it makes us have some good qualities we might not have developed without it.
@annethompson4886
@annethompson4886 Жыл бұрын
❤😢❤
@jackiewey1962
@jackiewey1962 Жыл бұрын
yes! very much so that I am finally realizing to always detect my energy level and to know when to recharge and replenish with food . you know?
@taylerthecreator8078
@taylerthecreator8078 11 ай бұрын
This is so beautiful. Thank you for this, brought a lot of comfort to me.
@kathycamac1011
@kathycamac1011 11 ай бұрын
Just want to say be kind to yourself and your OCD thoughts/behaviors. We are self aware and many times beat ourselves down because of the OCD behaviors. Just allow the thoughts to happen and let them pass. Don't speak negatively to yourself. It only makes the anxiety worse and spiral into panic attacks
@lennarthagen3638
@lennarthagen3638 11 ай бұрын
"we" ?
@sew75962
@sew75962 Жыл бұрын
The ocd around telling your mom about all of your sexual experiences makes sense to me. Durning the time you were being molested, it was a secret that you wanted to tell but couldn’t, and felt shameful about. And then as a teenager having sex and feeling ashamed about it, you were immediately compelled to tell. Something you weren’t able to do as a kid. You’re an amazingly strong, beautiful person.
@life_withl
@life_withl 6 ай бұрын
Agreed…
@carolapostolos8929
@carolapostolos8929 Ай бұрын
Well said.
@DeeRayOfSunshine
@DeeRayOfSunshine Жыл бұрын
She understood the assignment 👏🏾. One question and she took us the entire journey. OCD is a very serious overlooked disorder. She’s right, it’s not a joke or something cute like people make it seem. It is utterly exhausting. I pray she continues to get better.
@mikemccaine4229
@mikemccaine4229 Жыл бұрын
You know what must be so frustrating for her? When people say "Oh I have OCD, that's why my cushions have to be neat on the bed". Like, really? What this woman has gone through and the volume of knowledge she has on this horrific illness is astonishing. She is so strong to have come out of this without a major addiction to opiates or alcohol or anything that temporarily quiets the mind
@ashleylapsley3294
@ashleylapsley3294 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely! It’s quite annoying hearing people mention that they “have” OCD when they know absolutely nothing about the true horrors and struggles with the disorder. I’m 30 and still battling it but it does go overlooked.
@Chris-rv5mm
@Chris-rv5mm Жыл бұрын
I forget what vitamin. I think B complex? Dr. Berg covers this on his video on OCD. It covers anxiety and OCD. It's going to give relief. I have a friend who was only eating chicken, sugar and carbs. What a mental nightmare until she changed her diet. What finally pushed her to healthier eating behavior was the candida and rashes, I think hair loss, too. I had to tell her the physical and mental were all related. She's doing well, now.
@EllEss331
@EllEss331 Жыл бұрын
I hope she continues to get better also.
@katewilliams5230
@katewilliams5230 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@4316rodney
@4316rodney Жыл бұрын
There you have it, I’ll never say I have OCD again. What a brave person.
@EboniFlowers
@EboniFlowers Жыл бұрын
I agree…. I think it’s definitely Overused and thrown around carelessly, almost like it’s just the “trendy” thing to do…claim to have OCD, the same way they muse Anxiety. BUT……. I think just because someone doesn’t have it as severe as this woman Doesn’t mean they don’t also have it. It’s always a spectrum with things like this and yours doesn’t have to look like hers in order for you to feel like you can also acknowledge that you too may have OCD.
@4316rodney
@4316rodney Жыл бұрын
@@EboniFlowers Excellent point, thanks 🙏
@amyk.2500
@amyk.2500 Жыл бұрын
It took you this long to figure that out? We’ve been saying this for a decade at least
@tracib8757
@tracib8757 Жыл бұрын
@@EboniFlowersI agree, I have always said I have Tourette’s, but a mild case. I think it’s also a spectrum. I was never diagnosed but I have ticks that I can’t control very long. I read that ADHD causes ticks too and I have many of the symptoms of that so… IDK!!!
@susanbennett9062
@susanbennett9062 Жыл бұрын
Thank you from a lifelong ocd sufferer.
@MB.77
@MB.77 Жыл бұрын
Wow. I wonder if this young lady realizes just how many people she is helping and in which ways by being so candid on this interview. Hats off to her for her courage. She’s articulate and very self aware. Love her depth and I wish her peace and health.
@PKQ-md4hs
@PKQ-md4hs 3 ай бұрын
Couldn't agree more, she's brilliant & beautiful... I've got OCD & didn't even know what it was back in the 80's... People don't realize how crazy OCD makes you feel, & how difficult it is to describe these feelings.... Bless you, Kate, thank you for sharing your story with us. I learned so much, now I'm worried.
@MB.77
@MB.77 3 ай бұрын
@@PKQ-md4hs I hope you find the right support that brings you relief and makes it all better for you. I know it’s hard not to worry. There may be new ways or treatments out there to explore and Kate gave us hope! Wishing you all the best.
@PKQ-md4hs
@PKQ-md4hs 3 ай бұрын
@@MB.77 Wow ! Thank you, Very Nice Individual, whom I obviously don't know. I appreciate that. It's amazing how a total stranger can say something kind to you, nothing lengthy, just short & to the point... It changed my whole day, I really appreciate you & wish I had a good hearted friend like yourself in my corner, means a lot, really.. I think when you've bn around so much negativity, so many people doing underhanded thing's, it affects the way you view everything really. It has for me , anyway. I'm awful & I hate myself for it but everytime I let my guard down for one second, here come the leeches... Going through Life & not being able to have anyone you can trust & honestly count on, that sh#t is Rare to find nowadays... That's why I love & respect Mark Laita so much, the man says he'll do something & he's one of the few who you can still count on... With Mark, the old school, handshake contract will still suffice. Honestly, he's one of the few gentleman I would feel safe with doing an agreement like that with... it comes down to the individual & for all the naysayers's out there who thinks Mark would steal from The Whittaker Family, that's just wrong! First off, why would Mark steal from these people via thefund raiser he started ? Of course some idiot's gonna chime in & say, well that's how you do it it & get away with it ! Stop... just stop it Bro, I've seen so many guy's who were locked up for arson & they weren't getting away with sh#t ! Probably one of the dumbest crime's you could get involved in... Just my opinion, I'm nobody, just a #™
@PKQ-md4hs
@PKQ-md4hs 3 ай бұрын
@@MB.77 Hey, you ! We spoke yesterday... Look, idk who I'm speaking with, I think I've got a pretty good idea & I suppose that's why I feel less anxious about this... Idk ? Where did you or where should I begin, a Therapist I'm sure... I suppose they have specialist in the OCD realm, correct ? It's like I'm afraid to go b-/c I'm afraid of what else they'll find ? Granted,, I don't have a phd hanging on the wall, I'm 50, I know my body & brain pretty well & there's definitely something else going on... I'm afraid it's not a mental thing, a head issue, it's more like physical problems so idk, I honestly just don't know ? I'm scared to go b/c I'm afraid of the diagnosis, it's batshit crazy I know ! I'm just tired of hospitals & operations, being cut on.. Now, it's a hundred time's worse b/c of the 🖕Opioid Epidemic🖕 that our Government caused & is fucking responsible for, has made it so you can't get any pain relief ! Anybody with a problem w/ this, go f#ck yourself ! Come walk a mile in my shoe's mofo... Oh Snap ! Ya can't mofo, ya can't do it b/c I can't walk anymore ! The Doctor who botched the surgery & continuslly lied to me, us.. That some Bitch is doing just fine... Expanded his practice, hired some more young Secretary's to bang with promises of promotion or whatever ? He did help me get Disability but I feel like he kinda played a role in my foot being worse instead of better. Let me say that I can walk, you'd look at me & never think twice until I started to walk & you can see it in my gait but I'm very fortunate & can still move around... I think. I know, I've just gotta go face whatever is wrong head-on or in the end I'll certainly be the loser in all of this... Man,, life's so bizarre ! It's like, you can go from being one age, 19 let's just say. You can go from being in University, studying, trying to better you're life & one bad decision, not even a bad decision b/c the intent behind it was good but rule's are rules - they must be followed. I wasn' ready for University right outta High School, I should have taken a yr off or went to a community college my first year. I was trying to keep my parent's happy, I always have... ***btw, K. my Mom has OCD as well, so did her Father do I'm certain that plays into all of this somehow ? Great childhood though. I have no excuses, zero reasons I can give you for how I turned out like I did ? All of, or most of my life was spent addicted to substances so I spent 35+ year's just trying to make sure I had the next mornings fix, over 35 yrs, I did this, sounds crazy right ? Now add the OCD to the equation... It went from being something to do, to a full blown Heroin addiction & it was all b/c of the. U.S. Government, you sorry-ass prick's !!! You got me on Oxycontin, you & good Ole Perdue.. I'm a 60's baby, born in the late 60's, I grew up in the coolest decade to ever show it's face. The 70's were so phenomenal b/c at this point, nothing's bn made illegal yet, maybe just the Cannabis, none of the pre cursory chemical's & elements had bn made illegal yet... Hell, in China, they're obviously still producing the precursors to Fentanyl, it's in Mayberry, USA. now ! That damn Potzie & Ralph Mouth out there on the corner selling the sorriest ass excuse for crack cocaine, I ever did see... No, I apologize, I also Digress, it's b/c I am scared to go find out what's wrong ? I honestly shouldn't be here, I've died more time's than I can remember... I'm afraid I've got Cancer or some zh#t bad like that. My Father died of it young & I came home & stayed with Jim day & night, to be of help for my Mom, my Sister was in medical school at the time & due to the situation they let her come on home & finish up later, she also brought her 3 bf's who were in her Anesthesia classes, they were now all on rotation & working.. Bless all three of those amazing girl's who helped so much during a time my family was in need of good and kind spirited, loving people. They're all three grown up, gotten married and & had beautiful kid's of their own.... My Sister didn't get involved in drugs, thank the Lord if he exists? I'm the bad kid ! Not ber, but she got Cancer & she's got got this beautiful 6 yr old boy her & husband had, she was scared to death, she lost her hair, she got sick, it was difficult to watch but we're very close. I love my Sister, she's one of my Heroes & that was decided way better Cancer diagnosis so... She's younger by a few yrs. & she has great husband who supports her decisions, like I said, I'm an Uncle now & I've never bn married, I have no children sogetting to be an Uncle has bn an honor & a buncha fun as well. .. I know I need another foot surgery, I just don't know if I want to go through all of that again ? The skin grafts they had to take, all the scars, it's ugly ! It's really got me in a bad way, my friend, but I've gotta quit procrastinating & just find out. The fear of the unknown, that's so weird isn't it ? It's also about as common as a pair of blue jeans... This episode of Mark's swu, is my favorite one, I've got like 5 of them but this resonate DC most w/ me... I know I've gotta go get a physical & handle this, so I will begin tomorrow, well Monday will be better... Thank you for taking the time to listen, you are so kind, I've wanted to address this for such a long time. I've just had to be so careful b/c I depend on that Dope,, every single morning I have to have it, if not, I'll be r sick, second ,& third Day's are nad ! I want you to know I wasn't the guy flying down to Florida pain clinics, I had legitimate operations done, reconstructive surgeries on my right elbow, it was all legit at first ... At first for me was in the Big 80's with my bf, (Mark rip brother) We were already drug addicts but this took it to a whole new level. Also, I failed to mention this, my bf's Mom's was the sh#t ! Not a role model for any of you kid's... Please don't follow my pathnor anything similar, stay in school and work your butt off ! Get you a good job... I'm so sorry, I get off topic so easily & obviously, as I stated, I digress... I know what I've gotta do, I just need to man up & face it ,do this thing... There's as lot I didn't go into that probably has had a direct effect on my life, not probably, definitely... I didn't have a bad childhood though, my parent's were great people who took the time to raise us right...Dad had past away but my sweet Mom, the woman who put up with a needle, loving, pill popping junkie, she continued to Love Me as did my Sister & that's when I realized I wanted so much more outta life but I've just waisted over 35 yrs on Opiate's of some form. I've had a Xanax script since 1986, k er 38 year's ! They have helped me tremendously when it comes to dealing with people in public, being around alotta of peope, I'm always uncomfortabe if I know I have something to do that I don't necessarily want to... Like I said. its just time to man up & do it, ASAP.... Listen, I want to thank you for helping me establish that I definitely do have a problem but it's not unmanageable &, still feasible to live a good life & simply be happy.. I just can't thank you enough for your strength & encouragement, you're as very special young lady, so much positive insight.... Thank you for your time & you're kindness, you are truly a Hero of mine now, so much respect... Btake care of yourself lls, you're a fabulous advocate for something so misunderstood... I'd mever heard what you called ocd, "The that's not good enouh Disease... Thank you, I will always remember you fondly & for your strength.. You are a wonderful speaker, I hope you're alble to cont.- helping people... Big Hugs4u,,, Patrick Scott. !***btw,,, sorry it was so lengthy.... ⁷¹⁴🍋
@kateglastic9826
@kateglastic9826 Жыл бұрын
I'm 52..I've had crippling OCD my whole life..this had me in tears. What a beautiful soul❤
@LBowen-wg5rn
@LBowen-wg5rn 9 ай бұрын
What should we do? What helps?
@claudiaj2138
@claudiaj2138 8 ай бұрын
@@LBowen-wg5rnlots of practice and building a strong support system
@Chungalhunga
@Chungalhunga 5 ай бұрын
Hello, two common things Kate and the other guy with OCD have is traumatic childhood with sex abuse. What do you guys think, is sex abuse important trigger for OCD, or abuse happens as a consequence of being vulnerable like people with other mental illnesses often are? OCD is pretty interesting to me because i have this tendency to count stripes at zebra crossings, floors of the buildings, floor tiles and similar. If numbers are not even, or sometimes odd like 14 instead of 12 i wish they were, this feeling goes away in a few seconds so it doesn't really bother me. The same thing is going on when doing electronics where i prefer certain numbers over others, in the last three days i was kind of bothered by getting 273 volts instead of 275 when both are technically correct, they could be well over 10V higher or lower. In my twenties i told this to a social worker who thought it is happening because my intellectual capacity wasn't used to full potential, which made sense at a time. I hope what i wrote makes sense, English is not my native language.
@lori5404
@lori5404 4 ай бұрын
I'm 53. I have developed the existential ocd. My whole entire mind is consumed with death and dying. Its causing panic attacks, last night was the worse one yet. I was completely convinced I was dying. Im glad this came to my feed when it did because I think I understand the problem now.
@Chungalhunga
@Chungalhunga 4 ай бұрын
@@lori5404 Try psychologist? Dealing with ocd like this on your own must be hard, i mentioned psychologist because some of them can help us change very fast.
@Omegaman101
@Omegaman101 Жыл бұрын
Fascinating. I’m a therapist and just learned more about OCD from this interview than in all of my study and experience. Thanks!
@endokrin7897
@endokrin7897 11 ай бұрын
Not making a very good case for seeing a therapist.
@PeronuPeric-wm9hx
@PeronuPeric-wm9hx 11 ай бұрын
Dr.Nick Riviera college I presume.
@ToniMilak
@ToniMilak 11 ай бұрын
It’s true - most therapists are not trained in how to treat OCD. You have to ask if the therapist has had experience successfully using ERP to treat it. Most do not.
@elleestdaria
@elleestdaria 10 ай бұрын
@@ToniMilakUnfortunately. However, they should be.
@tjjones-xj7kq
@tjjones-xj7kq 9 ай бұрын
@@endokrin7897 Therapists are typically like GP. They can identify there is a problem and point you were to go. Sure they can treat a fever or a sprained ankle but if you have cancer or a badly broken ankle they will send you to a specialist. Most therapists have a general knowledge but if you want trauma treatment for C-PTSD/PTSD then you seak out that specifically. If you have OCD you seak out someone who has extra knowledge on the subject. It's no different. No need to hate on the guy who is saying this helped him be a better shrink.
@Sara-sara86
@Sara-sara86 Жыл бұрын
Can we just appreciate her honesty and vulnerability to tell her story..I hope this beautiful girl gets peace one day...
@Shanemanarrow
@Shanemanarrow 11 ай бұрын
She's so classically beautiful. She's like a 1920s Hollywood star
@lisasuzanne8474
@lisasuzanne8474 3 ай бұрын
I was thinking the same thing about her beauty.
@maggiemolly111
@maggiemolly111 3 ай бұрын
Gorgeous
@susanmargaretwills6432
@susanmargaretwills6432 3 ай бұрын
Betty Boop
@pkc-n7p
@pkc-n7p 2 ай бұрын
Not to come off as some weirdo, certainly not insinuating you, just the topic itself... I appreciated you're comment & couldn't agree more... She exudes a classic, old, world beauty... I was captivated by her intelligence and beauty... I hate that she had to go through so much at such a young age... She is the epitome of natural beauty to me,, no make-up needed.....That smile,,, Bless her....🙏⚘️🦋
@Alissasness
@Alissasness Ай бұрын
She really is….
@brianmery761
@brianmery761 10 ай бұрын
Listen to every word this girl says, as an OCD sufferer myself, she hit the nail on the head, down to every last theme, every thought every compulsion. Wow, I’m not alone.
@TheHumanExperience1000
@TheHumanExperience1000 10 ай бұрын
Check out Dr. Chris Palmer.
@pinkandjewels
@pinkandjewels 10 ай бұрын
Right. I've never been diagnosed with anything except major depressive episodes but wow. This makes me feel less alone in some of my experiences.
@werbnaright5012
@werbnaright5012 9 ай бұрын
Have you seen the clown, Steve? He not only tells it from his perspective, but he does it in a funny, yet admittedly priveleged way. @@pinkandjewels
@fabianawilliams2454
@fabianawilliams2454 9 ай бұрын
Group therapy was a game changer for me and I realized that I wasn't going crazy, they are very similar themes
@calvin...
@calvin... 4 ай бұрын
you're never alone
@NicolePoliskey
@NicolePoliskey Жыл бұрын
That pedophile fear is very common in OCD sufferers with intrusive thoughts. You explained it so well. Our biggest fears actually become our biggest fears. This is such an in-depth, well explained, interview on OCD, especially the intrusive thoughts. Most people think OCD is just repetitive behaviors, they forget or don't realize that intrusive thoughts are a big component. Coping mechanisms help us survive until they don't. Thank you so much for this interview. Kate is strikingly beautiful and so intelligent, I wish her love and peace xx
@x-raymind7778
@x-raymind7778 Жыл бұрын
She is beautiful she could be a model
@SimplyAngelaRae
@SimplyAngelaRae Жыл бұрын
I never knew this
@tommylee9123
@tommylee9123 Жыл бұрын
Did you see the one with the clown man. That was a really good OCD explanation too!
@xoxoleidyj9085
@xoxoleidyj9085 Жыл бұрын
This!!
@amandarios448
@amandarios448 Жыл бұрын
I lost my best friend and husband a little over a month ago and he suffered from OCD for so long. He died at 34. OCD can be really cruel and he was a foster child.
@cherie7725
@cherie7725 Жыл бұрын
I wasn't molested, but your spiral into OCD from childhood is almost exactly what I went through. From the intrusive thoughts, seeking reassurance, dissociation, religious compulsions, confessions to mom, and obsession with socks/underwear fit. It's wild and stuff I never thought anyone would share in such fine detail. Thanks for sharing, Kate.
@Kangaroooooo
@Kangaroooooo Жыл бұрын
Same
@dangitgayle555
@dangitgayle555 Жыл бұрын
Sameeee
@JellyfishMotherfuck
@JellyfishMotherfuck Жыл бұрын
same wow
@annasmith5908
@annasmith5908 Жыл бұрын
Same!!! I am so shocked at how this is literally me and I didn’t even know about OCD. So many realizations today about my life. I always thought something is just wrong with me
@kassidymontford4703
@kassidymontford4703 Жыл бұрын
Same!!! I had so many similar experiences especially being confused about thoughts that sounded and felt like they weren’t coming from me. I wasn’t correctly diagnosed until my 20s
@tbev3363
@tbev3363 Жыл бұрын
I had no idea about OCD went this deep. What an intelligent, articulate, well put together woman considering the struggles she has. So happy she has a supportive mom, and others around her. Best of luck to this young lady!!
@juliasemenihina3776
@juliasemenihina3776 Жыл бұрын
Me neither. Had no idea it could affect the thoughts so hard😢 Sweetie, keep fighting this OCD bitch and what she's saying to you. It'not real, it's not true!! You are such a kind hearted ,loving, intelligent young woman´ i hope they'll find something to shut up these voices for good❤😢
@denniszipps1202
@denniszipps1202 Жыл бұрын
Being “a prisoner in my own mind” was the most on target description of OCD I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing your experience. Listening to your story was therapeutic to say the least. Never forget how much you are helping people.
@LVLaFofolle
@LVLaFofolle Жыл бұрын
I was in total shock for a bit when I saw Kate's face pop up on my Subscriptions page. We lived in the same city and hung out in mutual circles a few years back. She always struck me as insightful and empathetic and beautiful. It's inspiring to see her share her truth in an interview like this. Nicely done, Kate
@katewilliams5230
@katewilliams5230 Жыл бұрын
Hey girl hahaha
@mariachica9852
@mariachica9852 Жыл бұрын
Mark, thank you for the OCD videos. My daughter has OCD and it has completely taken over her life. its an awful disorder. Kate, your articulate details have helped me immensely to understand the struggle my daughter goes through everyday. thank you both.
@pambeforethestorm9784
@pambeforethestorm9784 Жыл бұрын
I understand your daughter's frustration as my form of it is washing my hands a million times a day and don't know why! It's sooooo frustrating, especially at work!! I can hide it at home but Omg I'm sick of it!! I hope your daughter heals, truly 💗
@valleychick2509
@valleychick2509 Жыл бұрын
My son also has ocd, it started when he was 8. My son is now 31, he didn’t tell me until he was 15. He says he didn’t know how to explain it until he did some research of his own. He started therapy immediately. Now he suffers with severe depression and has suicidal tendencies 😢 I completely understand how you feel as a mother. My son until this very day is under psychiatric care and sees a therapist weekly . It breaks my heart 😢 And yes, Thank You Mark ❤
@ferguson8143
@ferguson8143 Жыл бұрын
@@valleychick2509 what was his OCD if you don't mind me asking?
@lunamaharuni
@lunamaharuni Жыл бұрын
My daughter also has OCD. Existential OCD along with order, cleanliness. She's 24 she still lives at home because of the severity of her mental health. It's a heartbreaking and terrifying disorder. Sending everyone hugs and prayers here in this thread. ❤️🤟
@austincelaya1139
@austincelaya1139 Жыл бұрын
I healed my ocd doing three things: ERP, Meds and doing the heavy metal detox cleanse from medical medium. It saved my life, please check it out for your daughter.
@linds3904
@linds3904 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been struggling with severe OCD for 14+ years and I’m so glad to finally see a video that talks about true OCD, the intrusive and obsessive thoughts, etc. So many people say “oh, i have ocd i have a clean house” and stuff like that. And downplay the seriousness of what OCD really is. It is debilitating. Thank you for this video, Mark! And thank you, Kate, for sharing your story! You’re amazing!
@rebeccalavoy6655
@rebeccalavoy6655 Жыл бұрын
I have OCD as well. It can be so exhausting. I have had people ridicule it. I have told them, before they judge so quickly, they could not last one day in my mind and body. It takes a strong individual, to have this disease.
@harveyplantharvester1502
@harveyplantharvester1502 Жыл бұрын
@@rebeccalavoy6655 OCD is a form of poisoning/damage to the brain, the main culprit is childhood vaccines. There is a way to detox the toxins out of the body (sweating, herbal cleanses etc.) but nutrition is key as well -- brain food is plant based nutrients from whole foods from the garden.
@evehg117
@evehg117 Жыл бұрын
@@harveyplantharvester1502 She was molested as a child but sure, must’ve been the vaccine.
@hannahedwards1626
@hannahedwards1626 Жыл бұрын
Same ❤️ hate it when people use “ocd” as being an adjective to describe themselves just because they like order. People have no idea how hard it is to live with everyday
@lindseymirelle4946
@lindseymirelle4946 Жыл бұрын
do you take medication
@laylasilva7121
@laylasilva7121 9 ай бұрын
"OCD makes you debunk every truth you tell yourself." .... Yeah. I felt that. Thank you for putting that in words xx
@crybabynoir
@crybabynoir Жыл бұрын
I have NEVER heard something so relatable. All of this. Your story is very close to mine. As much as it is torture to live with, I’m just relieved to know that my experiences are valid. Thank you for being so honest. I can’t even imagine the courage this took. There’s so much shame attached to our thoughts with OCD… I admire you.
@punk.rock.hippie
@punk.rock.hippie Жыл бұрын
Same here. ❤
@coffeebean3627
@coffeebean3627 Жыл бұрын
Me too, I feel so incredibly understood. Even down to the absolute minutiae of my obsessions and compulsions, like having to confess again b/c I'm afraid they forgot the original confession, or I wasn't detailed enough the first time. It's maddening!
@themountainsandthesea4121
@themountainsandthesea4121 Жыл бұрын
Same.
@grimweeper420
@grimweeper420 Жыл бұрын
Me too! 💖
@Currently_Gaming
@Currently_Gaming 11 ай бұрын
I feel a lot less alone going through this now...
@Bob86339
@Bob86339 Жыл бұрын
"The anxiety is much worse than the actual event." This is so true. Having OCD myself, I was constantly worrying about getting cancer and that it would be the end of the world if I got it. I did end up getting cancer when I was 20, but turns out, it wasn't the end of the world; I handled it pretty damn well.
@sandonique
@sandonique Жыл бұрын
“This thought does not hold power over me. It is just a thought”. I will remind myself of this when my mind & anxiety tries to take over me. Thanks for sharing your story.
@lovedbyU333
@lovedbyU333 Жыл бұрын
@kathycamac1011
@kathycamac1011 11 ай бұрын
Oh wow! I didn't get to that part of the video yet, but I was once told by a psychiatrist to think of the thoughts as independent thought bubbles traveling through my brain. Almost like a comic strip thought bubble. He told me these thoughts are distressing to you and you don't want them, so they're obviously not your thoughts. Allow them to pass and keep moving?.
@abigailmartinez5086
@abigailmartinez5086 11 ай бұрын
A lot of people ask me why I spend so much time alone and I always say , "My brain is too loud. It's easier that way." What she describes is why. Thank you for being so honest and explaining it so clearly.
@saturnhex9855
@saturnhex9855 8 ай бұрын
Yup, fighting with your own thoughts is exhausting. I have a lot of the same obsessions as her that I've never admitted to anyone. Its good to know at least we aren't alone.
@jjd903
@jjd903 5 ай бұрын
We'd say stay out of your own neighborhood! But no joke, I was lucky to grow out of it
@wildtymes2429
@wildtymes2429 4 ай бұрын
​​@@jjd903I've had OCD since I was about 9, so 56 years. In order to deal with my brain racing I began drinking at 18 and finally quit at 50. I thought I'd get worse with my mind being more clear without alcohol, but instead, my OCD lessened even though I still have some obsessive/compulsive thoughts. Thank goodness it didn't get worse because always waiting for when the other shoe would drop was exhausting.
@RoaringJaguar
@RoaringJaguar Жыл бұрын
I’m a 24 year-old man and I have OCD similar to yours, although slightly less severe. I just want to thank you for doing this interview. Your in-depth explaination of the disorder is invaluable. I’m going to show this video to my close friends and family so they can see I’m not alone. You’ve done an immense service to all of us who suffer from real OCD and also to those who interact with us and need a better understanding. Thank you so much again and I wish you lots of love and serenity on your journey of life ❤
@Jason.cbr1000rr
@Jason.cbr1000rr Жыл бұрын
Quick question how do people with ocd even work a job? Do you work a job? I think most dont work
@RoaringJaguar
@RoaringJaguar Жыл бұрын
@@Jason.cbr1000rr Hi thanks for the question! I personally am unable to work so I’m in the process of applying for disability here in Iceland. I’m fortunate enough that the health care system in my country is excellent. Working a normal job with OCD is damn near impossible, especially if one is on the autism spectrum as well, such as myself. I believe this is the case for most people with the disorder. It’s best to seek support. How easy it is to get accepted for disability benefit differs greatly from country to country. Nevertheless, I would encourage everyone in my shoes to start the process because it can be a lenghty one.
@arikm8430
@arikm8430 3 ай бұрын
​@@Jason.cbr1000rr I work a job. It can be hard sometimes. Intrusive thoughts about work, the "what if my SO crashes on his way to work and I didn't give him a kiss/tell him I love him", etc.
@Jason.cbr1000rr
@Jason.cbr1000rr 3 ай бұрын
@arikm8430 what's SO mean and yeah some people think like that could be maybe you have depression and anxiety together? Going or been through some stuff. I wish you well and everyone too though 🙏 thanks
@coraliejames7422
@coraliejames7422 Жыл бұрын
Kate, when you mentioned your grandfather dying it reminded me of something. People with severe anxiety can be extremely competent and strong when something serious actually happens. They have to face their fears over and over every day for years in advance. Often when the event or loss they fear occurs, they respond far better than they ever anticipated. People around them often observe how they manage better than everyone else.
@oh-duh
@oh-duh Жыл бұрын
This is extremely accurate. I can help others in very bad situations, but myself...not so much. Minus death of loved ones bc I've anticipated it for so long - it's the suicides & sudden deaths that bother me, but even suicide, I can deal with it. I guess that's why I make a very good CO in jail/prisons. 🤷🏼‍♀️
@LeonardoDiCapri-Sun
@LeonardoDiCapri-Sun Жыл бұрын
This is so true. I have bad anxiety but I’m level headed and take action when actual emergencies happen. Same with other people I know who have anxiety.
@lucy-janewalsh9047
@lucy-janewalsh9047 Жыл бұрын
This is so true. It’s almost a relief to have something to channel the anxious energy into
@turdfergusonoutdoors5070
@turdfergusonoutdoors5070 Жыл бұрын
Yes indeed....at a young age i witnessed my brother pass away. Then at 17 i went into the Army in 2005 mind you. I feel like after youve witnessed so much trauma and tragedy you dont go into shock when things happen around you. You stay calm and take action to try and help.
@jonathangems
@jonathangems Жыл бұрын
Anxiety cases make the best fighter pilots.
@DrummerKen85
@DrummerKen85 Жыл бұрын
The brain is a scary place no one knows what’s going on in there , thank you for your story.
@_.10.cents._
@_.10.cents._ Жыл бұрын
“You all stare, but you’ll never see. There’s something inside me.”
@yesvember11
@yesvember11 5 ай бұрын
Her childhood trauma triggering her OCD makes a ton of sense. She’s a very strong young woman, thanks for telling your story.
@lukejholland2748
@lukejholland2748 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your bravery Kate. This is a perfect description of the hell that is OCD. Anyone reading this, I’ve come to know from suffering from OCD for decades, that we are the least dangerous people on earth. It’s your brain wiring torturing you and the fact that you’re horrified or afraid of your intrusive thoughts just goes to show, everything it’s telling you is bullsh*t. Be kind to yourself. Find someone who’s a specialist in OCD and go hard with exposure therapy. It’ll prove to you, that OCD is full of sh*t. You can be free of it’s grasp or at least get better at ignoring it. Sending Kate and all of you fighting this beast love 😃😀 Xx
@katewilliams5230
@katewilliams5230 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ozomahtlikey9190
@ozomahtlikey9190 Жыл бұрын
@@katewilliams5230 you're awesome Kate I pray for you and wish the best mental health is a huge problem in this country thank you for this video you're helping a lot of people out stay blessed ✌️✌️
@supermikeb
@supermikeb Жыл бұрын
A shrink told me one time that you are not your thoughts, and your thoughts are not facts. It helped me so much.
@absinthemindedJ
@absinthemindedJ Жыл бұрын
@@cherrygirl64 This 💯
@jgalt5002
@jgalt5002 Жыл бұрын
She explained it so well .
@Armyofelves
@Armyofelves Жыл бұрын
If I wasnt at work watching this right now I would be crying tears of gratitude. I'm really struggling with keeping it together right now. I am not diagnosed but I figured out by doing my own research that I am likely OCD and everything you just explained makes me feel so validated and understood its like a door just opened up. I'm going to ask my fiance to watch this because I think it will really help him understand me better. Kate, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. You just changed the way I think about me.
@StarfayeArt
@StarfayeArt Жыл бұрын
Good luck out there, Olivia ❤️ see someone for this if you can as well because life can be hard and it helps to get help
@andijonesgrif
@andijonesgrif Жыл бұрын
My partner has OCD intrusive thoughts and this video has explained so much about the condition to me. I wish I had this information earlier in our relationship. We have been through a lot. It is very difficult for me sometimes, but he's worth it. Don't forget, a hug can make a huge difference if your partner is struggling a little.
@apriltheInvincible
@apriltheInvincible Жыл бұрын
I have never heard anyone explain so precisely and completely what is in my head. I'm speechless. Thank you so much for telling your story. Love from Nova Scotia
@emilykileylawlor2071
@emilykileylawlor2071 Жыл бұрын
Follow ns :)
@kelleroper3490
@kelleroper3490 Жыл бұрын
❤no kidding! She explains it perfectly
@jeyounger103007
@jeyounger103007 2 ай бұрын
I worked with a 12 year old girl and started having intrusive obsessive thoughts about having sex with little girls and was HORRIFIED by them. Thank GOD she was diagnosed with OCD, treated and flourished. I’m super grateful to live in Maine, honestly we have some of the best mental health services in the country. Her mom was so so grateful for the support. ❤
@elmartell5724
@elmartell5724 Жыл бұрын
As someone with OCD and an eerily similar story- I promise you all that you can't imagine how much bravery went into her doing this interview. OCD is humilating and terrifying So much respect for her 😭😭 I'm so glad she had a good parent around to help
@g.v.9261
@g.v.9261 Жыл бұрын
This interview shows how painful and tiring it is to live with a sick mind. While you are physically absolutely fine but in so much agony inside. And it just reiterates how crucial your childhood is. And how important it is for the parents to nourish and keep their children safe. Hope you get well soon sweet child. Thank you for sharing your life with us like this.
@marvinangel8832
@marvinangel8832 Жыл бұрын
With mental illness that would be untreated the physical problems could soon follow... Like muscle cramps, eating disorder, self harm, anorexia, etc.
@socoamarettojustine
@socoamarettojustine Жыл бұрын
I love that Mark knows when to just let someone talk. This was fantastic and gave me so much insight into my own thoughts.
@evangelinagillespie1278
@evangelinagillespie1278 Жыл бұрын
I had to comment on this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and fears. I’m 29 and was diagnosed with OCD last year. Once I was diagnosed I realized that I’ve had this most of my life. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. It feels like you’re under a spell. It’s debilitating and I felt like a monster at times. You describing the fear of hurting someone while you’re asleep is something I fear every night. You’re not alone & you seem wonderful 💚
@TheHumanExperience1000
@TheHumanExperience1000 10 ай бұрын
Check out Dr. Chris Palmer.
@loto7197
@loto7197 Жыл бұрын
I admire how beautiful you make everyone look in your interviews. I don't know whether it's the frame, angle, lighting, etc., but everyone you put on that stool becomes a thing of beauty; regardless of whether they are attractive or not.
@student22044
@student22044 Жыл бұрын
This is so true. Mark is great at this. It’s quite remarkable isn’t it. One person can take the same picture as another, one will look fantastic, and the other not so much. That ability has always fascinated me. I realise with Mark there’s a lot of thought goes into the shot, but still, it’s a great natural ability that not everyone possesses. The lighting, colour coordination with the backdrop, and all because he wants the person to look beautiful, and they always do ❤
@chuchaftw
@chuchaftw Жыл бұрын
It really outshined in this interview with Kate. The olive green background 👌
@aliciae8751
@aliciae8751 Жыл бұрын
Agree....it may be that he sees the beauty in each individual and somehow that translates. Although to be fair, this girl IS stunning so not hard to do with her.
@FlushGorgon
@FlushGorgon Жыл бұрын
He had nothing to do here.
@student22044
@student22044 Жыл бұрын
@@aliciae8751 indeed
@linasofit1801
@linasofit1801 Жыл бұрын
As an 11 year old I knew something was wrong with me when I had OCD thoughts, rituals etc, but I later learned it was my brain’s way of coping with trauma. I’m 37 and still deal with it including anxiety, anxiety attacks, depression etc. Hearing someone talk about issues similar to mine really help me understand and cope with mental health issues. Thank you for sharing your experience with us here on KZbin.
@ireallylovecilantro
@ireallylovecilantro Жыл бұрын
I’m like you: started having OCD symptoms at 11-12 and in my thirties now. It’s nice to hear someone else talk about it. I feel like it’s so misunderstood by others and hopefully her speaking about it will help others be more compassionate. ❤
@mikimarkos4696
@mikimarkos4696 Жыл бұрын
It's genetic, trust me. It has nothing to do with trauma
@Michael-jq5pf
@Michael-jq5pf Жыл бұрын
​@@mikimarkos4696those two things are not always mutually exclusive I have no take on whether OCD is one or the other. Just noting.
@AnHebrewChild
@AnHebrewChild Жыл бұрын
@@mikimarkos4696"It is x, not z" In actuality, it is x and z plus y and also Things are typically multi-faceted and dynamic. Peace.
@hoek2000
@hoek2000 Жыл бұрын
As someone who suffered from intrusive thoughts in the past, this is pretty much a perfect description of what was going on in my head at that time. Big kudos to Kate for having the courage to tell her story.
@darbs1977
@darbs1977 Жыл бұрын
This was the hardest "Like" I can think of. I don't "like" knowing what this poor angel has been through, but I do very much "like" the courage it took for her to open up like this, and I very much appreciate and LOVE to the profound social good this channel is bringing to the world, by educating the masses. I just hope it never gets shut down or censored, because however difficult these stories are to hear, they are so preciously important to voice
@elliemay-y4l
@elliemay-y4l Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful, well-spoken and pleasant young lady. I learned a lot and I wish her the best.
@chera9951
@chera9951 Жыл бұрын
Yes to that…..
@Anthony-dj4nd
@Anthony-dj4nd Жыл бұрын
She can get the D
@onejacket4603
@onejacket4603 Жыл бұрын
Totally disagree. I think she is an attention seeker and her issue is no issue. (Except for the molestation)
@adriannemason5451
@adriannemason5451 Жыл бұрын
That's exactly what I thought, a beautiful articulate woman
@fionadougherty8432
@fionadougherty8432 Жыл бұрын
Kate's story is so similar to mine and it is very relieving hearing it being told. I hate that when I say I have OCD, people's immediate thoughts are "she's just very organized, she's a neat freak.." and the struggles that I actually go through don't cross their minds. This video is a great first step to having people understand where OCD stems from and how severe and debilitating it can get. Thank you Kate and Mark!
@taramay8174
@taramay8174 Жыл бұрын
Same same
@supernova11711
@supernova11711 Жыл бұрын
I think the problem is that the word is vastly overused. People that are extremely organized or particular about certain things call themselves OCD. It’s used lightly by people that don’t understand what it actually is. I had a traumatic childhood and started developing symptoms in my mid teens but thankfully was able to overcome it before it overcame me. It’s obsessive thought patterns and takes over your whole life. People don’t understand that part of it. For me it started with dieting and then branched out to other things. If I had certain thoughts I’d have to wash my hands until they got raw and bloody. I was so lost and nobody even knew. I don’t follow religion but became really spiritual. God saved me. God and Matchbox 20 lol
@Toastergod44
@Toastergod44 Жыл бұрын
as someone who developed OCD in high school this was really cathartic for me. Extreme weight loss because I believed my food was poisoned, spending hours at my locker checking the padlock until it felt right and I could walk away, convincing myself I had contracted HIV because I scratched my hand on a nail while working on a set piece for the Drama department. The anxiety attacks were horrible, especially when my mind was so out of control that I couldn't remember things I had done minutes prior to recalling them. I eventually got help, but I couldn't talk about it for the longest time because of the subsequent shame I'd feel about hitting that kind of a low point in my life and believing no one could relate to it. Things got better going into my 20s and now, on the eve of 30, it's nowhere near the constant oppressive companion in my life that it used to be. Thank you.
@jttv2471
@jttv2471 11 ай бұрын
Hi Kate, my name is Javen. I went inpatient a few years ago on my 18th birthday. My brain absolutely snapped. Every single thought you are describing, I was stuck on for about 2 years. Sadly it won't really ever leave and it's terrible. Seeing your video actually helped me, I tell my fiance constantly I wish I would meet someone who is experiencing what I felt and thought, but would never wish it on anyone. Yet here you are. Thank you for talking about all of this, I'm hoping in my future I'll be able to think that there are others like me. It is true when you say it attacks everything you care about. I ended up using my fiance as my compulsion, the same way you used your mom. It's heartbreaking to have to explain these things to someone you love. Even if they love/care, it still tortures your brain and makes you worry that they think you ARE what you're telling them. I can't express enough how much I appreciate you sitting down and explaining these things going on in your brain. You helped me immensely.
@starkrazi
@starkrazi Жыл бұрын
OCD is a bully in our brain. I have a mild case and my son has it too. He’s in erp therapy. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
@EmilyP17
@EmilyP17 Жыл бұрын
It’s that the truth!
@HooliganMomma
@HooliganMomma Жыл бұрын
My 17 year old son is also in therapy for OCD and treated with ERP...it's such a tough road..OCD is ever changing for my son and so incredibly difficult at times!! Kate is just lovely and inspiring!!! Wishing you and your son the best of luck!!
@mochi_3600
@mochi_3600 Жыл бұрын
It’s so hard to get through interviews when they use the word “um” and “uh” constantly 😓😓😓
@3wishes777
@3wishes777 Жыл бұрын
Oh my my son and I both have it. It is hard to watch him battle everything I have already been through
@3wishes777
@3wishes777 Жыл бұрын
I wish I could talk to you more
@caitlynkoerner5884
@caitlynkoerner5884 Жыл бұрын
My husband was diagnosed with OCD before I met him. The part where you talked about how if you didn't think your mother understood you so you would say it again was eye opening for me. My husband does this. He repeats the same point over and over and insists I don't understand him to the point that I'm so over stimulated and frustrated I have to leave. Now it's clicking that this is probably part of his OCD. It helps me to be more patient with him knowing it's not something he can help.
@505olpha6
@505olpha6 Жыл бұрын
Why not watch mohan c Lazarus in English version.
@TristanMundell
@TristanMundell Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you had this understanding because I have ruined every single relationship I have ever been in by doing stuff like this. *Doing stuff like your husband
@MetalForLife1970
@MetalForLife1970 Жыл бұрын
I can't imagine how frustrating OCD must be to outsiders....it's frustrating having this and understanding from our families is so important!
@Whitneykag
@Whitneykag Жыл бұрын
We (OCD sufferers) usually don’t understand how exhausting the reassurance seeking is to those around us until some light has been shed on the disorder by a proper diagnosis/ therapist. It would probably help to sit in on a therapy session w your husband and get some guidance on how to handle reassurance seeking so that it doesn’t drive you nuts. ❤
@blahsomethingclever
@blahsomethingclever 29 күн бұрын
It could also be that he can tell that you don't understand. Like one doctor talking to another about the treatment of a patient where one doctor just obviously doesn't care. Or faked his way into the profession and truly doesn't understand. So maybe your husband is trying his best to connect to you. I was a husband in such a marriage and am glad to have the kids now and am happily divorced. Something to think about.
@kathybellptha
@kathybellptha Жыл бұрын
Excellent explanation of OCD. Mine started in grade 2 and was on and off throughout my life. I am now 63 and had to deal with it myself. You did not talk about mental health in the 70’s. Once in University my psychology courses helped me to research this condition and that helped a lot. This young lady will help so many people just by discussing what it is. Excellent talk!!!
@rebeccagabele3823
@rebeccagabele3823 8 ай бұрын
I have never heard a more reliable, uncensored source than Kate. I love her and Thank You!
@DianeBarron-vh8qz
@DianeBarron-vh8qz 7 ай бұрын
For real Amenn
@jaxonfordham6862
@jaxonfordham6862 Жыл бұрын
OCD is an incredible struggle. I’ve struggled my whole life, it’s a monster. I was completely convinced I had HIV in high school even though I had no reason to. I thought it was on every surface. At 25 I can say it still finds ways to surprise me. I’ve had the insane rumination flare ups that unwillingly move in and take over my life completely. Childhood trauma absolutely amplifies it especially when family doesn’t recognize it and you’re alone. Thank you so much for making this video Mark. I wish all the best to Kate. I hope she can continue to work through her OCD.
@gutierrezp49
@gutierrezp49 Жыл бұрын
Interesting. I run a subreddit called HIVparanoia and a lot of people have obsessions that they have HIV even though there’s no way for them to have contracted it. I always wondered why that specific disease plagues peoples brains.
@tiffb1300
@tiffb1300 Жыл бұрын
I went through that too
@joshforeman1648
@joshforeman1648 Жыл бұрын
The health anxiety part of OCD absolutely sucks. My first manifestation was being convinced I had schizophrenia.
@jaxonfordham6862
@jaxonfordham6862 Жыл бұрын
@@joshforeman1648 I was just going through that earlier this year, you’re definitely not alone
@joshforeman1648
@joshforeman1648 Жыл бұрын
@@jaxonfordham6862 thank you bro, I hope you’re doing well.
@jennyjenilton
@jennyjenilton Жыл бұрын
Thank you Kate! You have incredibly big balls for coming on here talking about this. I think your video will help a lot of people. I suffer from OCD, and it really can feel like you are going crazy, and can be so terrifying. It’s nice to know we are not alone. Thanks Mark and Kate!
@unknown-sx8sn
@unknown-sx8sn Жыл бұрын
Gross! Please reword and this time use adult language.
@hacky_sackin
@hacky_sackin Жыл бұрын
@@unknown-sx8sn it’s internet slang. Get used to it. People will be who they are and use the language they do. You can choose not to read it, or ignore it.
@vaekkriinhart4347
@vaekkriinhart4347 Жыл бұрын
big balls? c'mon, u couldn't think of a better phrase?
@vaekkriinhart4347
@vaekkriinhart4347 Жыл бұрын
@@hacky_sackin it's a dumb phrase- especially, to a young lady
@unknown-sx8sn
@unknown-sx8sn Жыл бұрын
Just because ignorant, immature teens use this”slang” doesn’t mean you have to spread it further by commenting on a lady sharing her story. Grow up and use proper etiquette in your comments from here forth.
@the-helpful-stranger1154
@the-helpful-stranger1154 Жыл бұрын
Her description of not having the words when she was younger and how it makes her feel now.. that is exactly what it felt like finding out I'm autistic at 30. So many hurts could have been avoided.
@phoebe-py6hc
@phoebe-py6hc 22 күн бұрын
Her OCD feels almost identical to mine. The misdiagnosis of GAD, the asking your mum for reassurance, the endless googling and looking at reddit for existential answers, the not sleeping or eating, the derealisation, the thoughts of being a bad person feeling like reality. This video validated the mental torture I endured as a teenager. I eventually started medication and it has reduced my symptoms 90%. Thank you for sharing your story and giving insight to the real suffering of OCD.
@laurentaylor6391
@laurentaylor6391 19 күн бұрын
Me too
@laurentaylor6391
@laurentaylor6391 19 күн бұрын
Do you mind sharing what medication you take?
@spiritually_drunk
@spiritually_drunk Жыл бұрын
I definitely suffer with intrusive thoughts that I know I don’t mean, and never had an explanation until now. All thanks to her being so fearlessly candid.
@EmilyP17
@EmilyP17 Жыл бұрын
It’s unreal. ☘️
@katerinatadenev96
@katerinatadenev96 Жыл бұрын
same! I am so happy that people come out to talk about this. :) Sometimes it is helfpul just knowing that there are other people out there who have similar struggles.
@GiGiGGenerations
@GiGiGGenerations Жыл бұрын
Same! I don’t feel alone now. I never understood my intrusive thoughts until now. Thank you for that!!!
@evaschroeder4614
@evaschroeder4614 Жыл бұрын
Lots of people do actually even none ocd people.
@JohnWThompson1984
@JohnWThompson1984 Жыл бұрын
Yeah man I’ve struggled my whole life with intrusive thoughts. I didn’t cope all that well as a teenager but in my adult life I think I cope a lot better, still really irritated with them tho. I’ve the religious side of OCD and have recently been diagnosed with having an extra chromzone in the 7th gene 🧬 which is an explanation as to why I do struggle a lot.
@ItzLikeWhaa
@ItzLikeWhaa Жыл бұрын
Your mother is an amazing person. The world would be such a better place if parents afforded more empathy, patience, and compassion to their children. Thank you for sharing your story with us, Kate
@frankbaird8645
@frankbaird8645 6 ай бұрын
Mark, thank you for videos like this. One of the main reasons I watch them is that they give me a window into the minds and world of people who I would never otherwise be able to see. I constantly relearn the lesson about being kind to others because you never know what they are going through.
@MrRE3P3R
@MrRE3P3R Жыл бұрын
Crazy I watched this because my wife saw this video and felt completely validated. She has had this her entire life as well and has always thought she was crazy. Recently we had been talking about her possible having OCD and after she say this video she could relate to so much! There needs to be more awareness to this in society so less people suffer in silence.
@christyferrari1125
@christyferrari1125 Жыл бұрын
I cannot thank you enough. I have been struggling with OCD, anxiety, and depression since my teens and had absolutely no one to talk to about it. I never met anyone similar to me and I appreciate your story as it helps me see that I’m not alone. You are so strong and brave to have done this interview and all of what you have worked through in therapy. Thank you again. You are a true inspiration.
@Teaally1913
@Teaally1913 Жыл бұрын
Kate is just lovely. She has opened my eyes to this torture of OCD. I think she could definitely become a therapist to help others with OCD. Not often enough patients go through treatment with Doctors who DO really understand. Her being there for others could make the cure / ease the symptoms, easier to achieve.
@julieemery8963
@julieemery8963 10 ай бұрын
Absolutely, i could begin to understand what she must go through everyday of her life. Shes had a bit of a raw deal since childhood. She would certainly make a great therapist.
@reinacrandall1553
@reinacrandall1553 9 ай бұрын
I thought the same thing
@cinthiasanchez-xc3do
@cinthiasanchez-xc3do Жыл бұрын
I am literally in tears…I feel seen. I have so much respect and admiration for you to be able to share your story and your thoughts to educate I would love to learn more from you!
@raquelpinheiro6300
@raquelpinheiro6300 Жыл бұрын
I feel the same. She exposed issues here that haunted me for a long time and I never dared to share with anyone. It can be dark and lonely. Kate is a very articulated and bright young woman and I am positive she will help many people in her life.
@Baylee_heart
@Baylee_heart Жыл бұрын
Same. There are things I can recall from my childhood.. very similar. The part about her Mom saying “she can’t lie,” hit me hard, bc I remember my mom saying the same about me. Omg I needed professional help. I still do. Thank you so much for your honesty, bc I don’t feel so alone rn.
@DDRGurlie
@DDRGurlie Жыл бұрын
Me too. I’m tears.. thankfully I no longer suffer from it but so glad I wasn’t alone with some of the thoughts I had prior to professional help.
@lilysaxhull6095
@lilysaxhull6095 Жыл бұрын
Don’t know what to say! This lady has succinctly and eloquently given insight into disorder that has at many times totally ruined my life, made me question my sanity and why I’m here. Thank you Kate!!!
@meganthomas8408
@meganthomas8408 Жыл бұрын
Holy Smokes! This is one of Marks best videos! Kate- you are an incredibly brave and beautiful young woman. It’s heartbreaking to hear your plight, but you explained it so so well. I wish you the very best of luck and love- you certainly deserve it. And your Mom sounds so lovely. ❤️
@hannahmay2125
@hannahmay2125 Ай бұрын
i’m so, so grateful that your mum understood
@melanieduke5816
@melanieduke5816 Жыл бұрын
I though I knew what OCD was until I listened to Kate explain it. Especially around the intrusive thoughts part as I always thought of OCD as mostly "behaviors". Kate, you are so intelligent and articulate - you would be an amazing teacher. Hugs to you and thanks for your profound insight. Mark, you also have profound insight for carefully selecting the individuals that you do and for so artistically bringing out their life story and experience.
@thehappyplace4u
@thehappyplace4u Жыл бұрын
I’d love for her to do another video with her mother. It must have taken so much love to believe your child and get her the help she needs. That mother sounds like she was really there for her.
@jmarrocco
@jmarrocco Жыл бұрын
That’s a great idea! 15:55
@thehappyplace4u
@thehappyplace4u Жыл бұрын
@@jmarrocco it might give people who have children with these challenges hope and some guidance.
@70spoem
@70spoem Жыл бұрын
so much of what she's talking about (especially her triggers) is extremely relatable and i have so much respect for her for being so open about the kind of intrusive thoughts one might have, because that's something those who don't suffer from ocd don't understand and never want to hear about. hoping things keep looking up for her, and it would be nice to see a follow up interview with her in the future
@ozomahtlikey9190
@ozomahtlikey9190 Жыл бұрын
The warrior princess!! Lol
@simoneelaine7468
@simoneelaine7468 8 ай бұрын
As another person with OCD, thank you for your bravery & vulnerability in this video. So much of what you shared are also things I’ve experienced/continue to struggle with. The derealization, the doubting. Your knowledge and wisdom was wonderful to get to hear. Thank you.
@PeaceLoveeNSN
@PeaceLoveeNSN Жыл бұрын
People need to realize how many of these horrible mental health issues are solely from sexual abuse or some other childhood trauma. Why are SO many kids being abused. It's absurd. I know more people who have been abused than haven't. It's so horribly sad. I was as well, and here I am, I also have OCD, BPD, and probably CPTSD. Our children need to be protected so much better.
@PeaceLoveeNSN
@PeaceLoveeNSN Жыл бұрын
Also holy moly I think I'm starting to realize a lot of my spirituality wasn't actually spirituality and was just OCD
@Francesco-cj3oi
@Francesco-cj3oi Жыл бұрын
@@PeaceLoveeNSN be careful. It seems to me like the surge in mental disorders diagnosis is a scam by the pharma companies to hook you on medication. It doesn't mean you don't have problems, but it might not be an actual mental illness and medication might not be the solution.
@beautyalaritz3310
@beautyalaritz3310 Жыл бұрын
Completely agree and appalled
@CoachShanique
@CoachShanique Жыл бұрын
Agree
@upperechelon3686
@upperechelon3686 Жыл бұрын
So true. It blows my mind as well. Every single girlfriend I've ever been with has at least A story of some abuse or molestation.
@DAVIDTORRESANI
@DAVIDTORRESANI Жыл бұрын
I commend her on her raw honesty. She expressed her disorder where anyone Could have an ear to understand with no judgment but compassion. Masterclass by her in explaining her disorder. I was a student listening.
@fabeled
@fabeled Жыл бұрын
I have never heard someone share so many similar experiences and thoughts to my own. Listening to this has felt so relieving.
@mandyd2319
@mandyd2319 Жыл бұрын
The confessions, the need for reassurance, the cycles. It's a living hell.
@amu9551
@amu9551 Жыл бұрын
thank you for opening up so deeply. i relate to your experiences a lot. i’m in therapy, but there’s so much that i’m not ready to speak about. you allowed yourself to be so vulnerable in this interview and touched on things that i haven’t heard anyone say out loud and it means so much to me and so many.
@pumpthebrakes
@pumpthebrakes Жыл бұрын
Kate is an incredibly insightful and self aware young woman, very open and well informed about her condition
@jeffzenick4795
@jeffzenick4795 Жыл бұрын
This video brought me a better understanding of what people with OCD experience. Thank You for doing what You do, Mark.
@mikaylalindsay3492
@mikaylalindsay3492 24 күн бұрын
She is so beautifully welll spoken and explained the disorder extremely well. It broke my heart to hear her story. She is so strong to go through this and have this be her daily reality. Much love and light to her and everyone else who struggles with OCD.
@KayPrattRealtor
@KayPrattRealtor Жыл бұрын
You’re incredibly articulate and able to help me understand OCD in a very real way. Because you dig deep to understand it yourself, you’re going to be an amazing and helpful resource to scores of others with the same condition. Bravo, Kate!
@beckymellon8135
@beckymellon8135 Жыл бұрын
I feel like this video is extremely needed in these times in particular. I’ve had a panic disorder on and off and the way she explained a panic attack was so true and I would constantly obsess that I was going to have one. Great to know we all struggle. Thanks for the interview ❤️
@carynmartin6053
@carynmartin6053 Жыл бұрын
True, it's like the fear of having one actually causes one to happen
@remylee1612
@remylee1612 Жыл бұрын
So sophisticated, so well-spoken, so self-aware. From the bottom of my obsessive heart, thank you.
@natalieo7693
@natalieo7693 2 ай бұрын
I'm not even all the way through this video and I have to say this is my favorite interview on this channel by a long shot. Beautifully said words and so much clarity in her communication when, ironically, she lived in a world of confusion and anxiety. It's so great to see someone overcome their hardships and turn that into a learning lesson or a reason to be grateful for other things that some of us take for granted. Beautiful young lady, inside and out.
@toledoleslie
@toledoleslie Жыл бұрын
This is by far my the best explanation I have ever seen on OCD. I am a special needs mom to two children with OCD, ages 10 and 13. Kate, you are helping so many people with your openness and willingness to educate others. Well done and thank you.
@harveyplantharvester1502
@harveyplantharvester1502 Жыл бұрын
Seems to be an explosion of this ever since they tripled the vaccine schedule. Did your children receive many? It seems to be taboo to admit what the real main cause is.
@-neverknowsbest
@-neverknowsbest Жыл бұрын
Jesus. The amount I relate to her. I’m crying. Just because it’s like for the first time I feel like it’s ok, it’s my ocd and I can work through it “ocd makes you feel like your something your not”. Thank you
@JujuMama23
@JujuMama23 Жыл бұрын
I almost didn’t watch (anxiety) but I’m glad I did. I’m 42 and just now really realizing that I have lived most of my life with OCD. My life parallels Kate’s in so many ways. Thank you so much for your honesty, Kate! Your interview will help others 💗
@staciajroberts2139
@staciajroberts2139 7 күн бұрын
I’m 51 and I totally feel validated! I couldn’t understand my intrusive thoughts I had growing up. Thank you. God Bless you, Kate.❤
@lumisateinen
@lumisateinen Жыл бұрын
She is so brave to share this🥲especially the intrusive thoughts are something seldom spoken about, as many have commented people tend to believe ocd is always about cleanliness, but there is so much more to it. I have lived with OCD past 20 years, and had both horrible and easy times with the illness. I’m able to work and live life with medication (had it for 10years now). I also had 3 years of therapy, which helped, but would not want to know how my life would be without meds. In my worst times I’ve not been able to even walk, since my compulsion has been to return to place X up to 10-20 times… and the embarrassment and shame is beyond describable, as well as the depression it led me to. I wish strength to all you living your life with this condition. And recommend medication and therapy to all of you.❤️
@daniellemichayla
@daniellemichayla Жыл бұрын
If you don’t mind me asking, what medication are they treating you with?
@lumisateinen
@lumisateinen Жыл бұрын
@@daniellemichayla not at all! I have 150mg per day sertralin (SSRI meds as several others have pointed out as well). I started with the 50mg dose and went up to the current within first two years. It is a lifesaver for me.
@halloweenjujube
@halloweenjujube Жыл бұрын
Wow - she is so eloquent! I really appreciate that she tackled lots of the nitty gritty parts of this disorder. Our stories are extremely similar. I’ll be 37 soon and have experienced huge improvement in my symptoms over the past few years. I have no doubt she will continue to improve, given how knowledgeable and proactive she is. Wishing you all the best, Kate! Thank you for your openness, honesty and bravery. 💜
@trippy6183
@trippy6183 Жыл бұрын
This is so incredibly close to my personal experiences with OCD that it’s UNCANNY. In 2013, I was hospitalized twice for an intense death obsession that lasted for months. I could not do anything. I would lie on the couch with my eyes closed trying to “imagine” death, knowing that death cannot be imagined. I could not sleep at night because I was terrified of death. I’d only fall asleep when I was completely exhausted, & then I would dream that I was terrified of death! I don’t struggle with this particular obsession anymore, but at the time I thought that it was going to consume my entire life. It is such a relief to hear someone else speak about a similar experience.
@7_Hats
@7_Hats Ай бұрын
Thank you!! I have rewatched this interview a number of times now. I had never heard from an OCD sufferer who’s had so many years to better understand their own condition. Hearing about her lived experience with trauma/abuse, OCD and her lived experience with therapy, medication, hospitalization and exposure therapy has made it far easier to understand this topic compared to anything I have ever read or heard from a mental health professional. Thank you Kate and Mark! This video has, and will continue to, help so many people! Please consider doing another interview with Kate!
@user-js9in4lr3e
@user-js9in4lr3e Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate how self-aware she is. She shows in great detail the torture OCD can be-it's not just a cute way to say you like having your home organized or have basic hygiene standards.
@phutureproof
@phutureproof Жыл бұрын
I don't understand why there's so many comments saying people think OCD is cute, do they? I don't think many people have that opinion at all.
@oceanaxim
@oceanaxim Жыл бұрын
Wow! just wow. I learned more in this interview about OCD than I learned in my entire lifetime. Knowledge is power to understand. Thank you Kate.
@unknown-sx8sn
@unknown-sx8sn Жыл бұрын
Sure 🧐 Jan
@69161239
@69161239 Жыл бұрын
IT WOULD BE GREAT IF SHE WOULD DO THIS INTERVIEW AGAIN IN LIKE 10 YEARS.
@hoganholo99
@hoganholo99 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, kind of like the "Up" Series.
@carolineelizabethfoster5795
@carolineelizabethfoster5795 23 күн бұрын
I have never once heard anyone explain exactly what it feels like to have OCD like this. I am close to tears watching this. I’ve dealt with OCD for over 10 years now and it’s one of the most misunderstood things there is, making it so hard to talk about. Kate, thank you so much for putting this out there and being so honest. We have had very similar experiences with this disorder. ❤
@promisejrhodes
@promisejrhodes Жыл бұрын
Watching this interview has brought up some major questions for me. I related so much to a lot of her experience. I feel, like… understood… and that freaks me out. I’m diagnosed with clinical depression and generalized anxiety disorder but have never been diagnosed with OCD. I’m literally crying tears of what feels like relief because I think maybe this explains the extreme mental anguish I endured as a child. It was horrible, every night was awful. And it was all my own thoughts. Thank you both SO much for doing this interview. I guess I should probably talk to a therapist now.
@hannahmitchell87
@hannahmitchell87 Жыл бұрын
me too! good luck X
@jjw6342
@jjw6342 Жыл бұрын
She is very fortunate to have a mom that can help her through life with this condition.
@sayraflores76
@sayraflores76 Жыл бұрын
Her soul some day will find peace. She is so brave to speak about it in public.
@gracebaksh5454
@gracebaksh5454 Жыл бұрын
Yes it will if she ask the Lord Jesus to help her.
@carmen7730
@carmen7730 Жыл бұрын
@@gracebaksh5454I did once. He released me from HORRIBLE OCD intrusive thoughts and depression. Jesus saves!!!!
@Chiller-pc1dv
@Chiller-pc1dv 11 ай бұрын
@@gracebaksh5454 FFS STOP. You are not helping peddling your religion like this! It's actually harmful!
@peachyclean93
@peachyclean93 9 ай бұрын
Only way to find peace and calm in your soul is to leave this hell on earth.
@KarimKarim-xy9py
@KarimKarim-xy9py 7 ай бұрын
@@gracebaksh5454so cruel to say that
@ali-yc2uu
@ali-yc2uu Жыл бұрын
You poor thing Kate, it must be horrible to be at war with your mind all the time. You are so amazing and resilient and also still so humble and sweet by nature despite all you’ve been through. You should be really proud of the woman you have grown to be. My son has just started showing quite severe ocd traits for his age, he is only 9. It’s heartbreaking to watch and I just want to take it all away. I so needed to see this talk and you articulated it perfectly. Thank you so much 🙏🏼 I wish you nothing but the best Kate, you are amazing🤍
@CMLCML
@CMLCML Жыл бұрын
This hit home so hard. I’ve never related to a video so much in my life. Thank you Kate, I can’t tell you the relief I feel to hear someone speak about almost the exact same intrusive thoughts. It’s one of the least understood illnesses and it’s so refreshing to hear someone explain it as more than just hand washing and light switches
@havenprizmich9217
@havenprizmich9217 Жыл бұрын
She explained it so well. I’ve been living with ocd since I was 7 and it really is hell. Obsessions within relationships has been a huge issue in the past, intrusive thoughts challenge your morals and make you think you’re a monster, and I have developed substance abuse issues trying to cope with it. It can still rule my life if I’m stressed enough, and I’m going to have to live with it forever.
@gila4424
@gila4424 Жыл бұрын
That voice is your primal instincts. For real. You acknowledge them and then move on. Don’t make any rash moves based on that ancient voice. It has no power over you but to protect you in the most extreme situations. It comes out sometimes but you always have power over it. Hear it, acknowledge it, and move on.
@havenprizmich9217
@havenprizmich9217 Жыл бұрын
@@gila4424 thankfully I’ve only had to use those instincts in one situation, that one was bad enough
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