Is Love On The Way This Year? Here's How To Know For Sure

[@hellostephco84]

Important vocab for this video: Harbinger: a person or thing that announces or signals the approach of another. Synchronicity: the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection

[@user-po2mz1wk7h]

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[@ladimoe1]

I love your teacher brain! I’m also a Capricorn! Happy birthday Steph! Many blessings and peace this year ❤️

[@wildewildestrawberries]

@@ladimoe1 she's a pisces

[@hellostephco84]

@@wildewildestrawberriesI wasn’t clear yet again lol. I have a lot of Happy Birthdays in the chat!

[@hellostephco84]

@@ladimoe1thank you! And in another life I think I was one (in fact, according to my Dad I actually tried to be born today! But my bday is actually in the first week of March, there are a few people here confused about that lol.

[@deglow19]

I pray that we'll both be pleasantly surprised by life this year

[@jenz_world]

I pray that for all three of us 🙌🏽

[@shaesun3720]

Emphasis on pleasant

[@deglow19]

@@jenz_world Amen 🙏

[@beautifulfaith52]

Include me too:)

[@genevieveohara5360]

Me too!

[@red6hot1913]

My sorority sister traveled the world. Made money, bought a home and never considered marriage through her entire 20's and 30's. She's 42. She got married last summer and her baby just turned 3 months old. Quite honestly, my 40's have been my most powerful years. Physically and financially.

[@hellostephco84]

I look forward to the same report 😊. (I don’t know why I wrote that like that I sound like a computer)

[@lillypieisme]

Steph, I’m turning 30 in March and my biggest fear was not finding my future husband before 35. I never had a boyfriend, a relationship, or any men find me attractive. Well, end of 2023 I finally pushed myself and went on my first dates and now as of Jan 1st, a miracle has happened have gotten my first boyfriend who is head over heels for me. It hasn’t set in and I still can’t believe it. Kind of scary having to learn to be affectionate and intimate with someone but I’m excited for this year.

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

You’re so gorgeous, can’t believe you ever felt anything but. I’m so happy for you❤❤

[@lillypieisme]

@@rosedalinevaletine6931 Thank you so much 🥹🥰🫶🏽 I hope for nothing but blessings for you this year. 🤍

[@hellostephco84]

Yup. Sounds right! 29/30 Saturn return time, solid relationship sets in. Good luck to you and Happy New year ❤❤

[@rebekahkingbello9560]

Love this for you. 😊

[@lillypieisme]

@@rebekahkingbello9560 Thank you so much 🥹🤍

[@angelahairston4761]

We’re girls who’ve never had boyfriends. My family definitely stopped asking 😂 my dad even said, “Angela ain’t worried bout no men.” I was like …. Dang!! I love men, they just haven’t started lovin’ me 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

[@drnstjhn]

lol that was his fatherly way of trying to comfort you sis. he was basically saying "my daughter good. don't worry babygirl." but i'm sure he knows you want someone and he would love to see it

[@leahdtv8177]

This video was so necessary for me in my life. I turn 32 this year and I'm so worried nothing is gonna happen for me. You're like a big sister to me and this chat gave me hope. Thanks sooo much for this

[@hellostephco84]

Oh 32?? You’re at the beginning of it all!! 🎉🎉

[@Myjahnee]

@@hellostephco84your reassurance in this comment is so endearing ❤🥹

[@Synquette]

Omggggggg! I was just about to say Steph is like a big sister to me too & I loved hearing what she said about turning 33 as I turn 33 in April 😊

[@mariamu92]

I turn 32 in June as well😊😊

[@fumisoko7303]

I'm also turning 32 this year, hoping for growth and good things for 2024.🙏🏾

[@jessicab331]

I’m 33 and the man I’m dating has surely made everything I felt about love switch around… I never thought I would be making plans for the future or spending so much time with a man. I didn’t expect the love I’ve been receiving from him and I’m so surprised at myself for letting it just be and not stopping it. I’m actually embracing it.

[@hellostephco84]

Sounds wonderful and congratulations!!! I really do love to hear it. And thanks for sharing bc ppl need to see it.

[@jilllisa5724]

Hi Steph, as a hairdresser for overv35 years, it always amazes me the people that fall in love and get married at older ages , i can tell you of 3 woman late 60s even 70 falling in love and say they are the happiest they have ever been. Big woman, old woman plain Jane woman.

[@ashley85919]

Hi Steph! I have never commented but I just feel compelled to come and thank you today. I am a 28yo South African girlie who adores this channel. Your videos have been such a source of comfort for me. At my loneliest in 2021, I would put them on, leave them playing while I got myself out of bed and ready for the day. I had a weekend ritual of practicing my make-up application while propping a video of you next to my mirror. It felt like I had my own bestie who kept me company and made my days less lonely. You do not have to do any of this, however, I am so grateful that you do. In 2024, I continue to watch and doing so regulates my nervous system in a way I cannot explain - my emotional support KZbin channel ❤ I enjoy your content, I enjoy hearing your views about issues, I enjoy you as a person. I hope you have the best year in 2024 my angel ❤

[@beewest5704]

You are such a sweetheart. My ❤ cannot even.

[@hellostephco84]

Thank you so much ❤❤

[@Luvanmusiq]

That’s so sweet and thoughtful for you to write. She deserves all the positivity. God bless you this year ❤

[@Letsgohsiwb1782]

I want to mirror this comment. I feel the exact same and also same age

[@dafneytales-lafortune6396]

You're spot on. I met and married my husband within a year and a half, just before I turned 30. We had our first child when I was 34, about to be 35.

[@holamissmusica]

I'm 41, will be 42 in the year, and still single. I'm reminded that I should be so selective about what I should surround myself and who I should be. I hope we all get our greatest year yet.

[@pricklypear1111]

I literally used to fall asleep to guided meditations where i would visualize my future husband holding me in bed. I could feel his arms around me. I felt safe and seen. I imagined being a wife and held that in my consciousness. I re-wrote my beliefs about love and men (to positive thoughts). That created the momentum for me to meet my fiance at age 33 (now i'm 35) and we are getting married in May. Literally everything I visualized came true. I ONLY acknowledged positive thoughts and didn't keep beating the drum of my single-ness (even when I was single) because I knew if I kept repeating the energy of being single out loud, the universe would keep bringing me more single-ness. So I shifted my thoughts and words to being in love, being attached. That is the key.

[@pricklypear1111]

@@HA-yt4eu I used Shelly Bullard meditations!

[@cmg25]

I wish we could unlearn some of these time consuming thoughts. Being single is not leprous. Being partnered isn’t a fairytale. Some of us get into relationships that ultimately fail because the self is not known or the self is lost in the pursuit of checking off a box. Hoping for a person and actively getting the right person are entirely different things that require entirely different energies. There isn’t one right person, there’s quite a few viable possibilities in one’s lifetime. Best to all.

[@hellostephco84]

I think they consume some of us bc they are apart of what we’re meant to experience. Everyone desires different things and places those desires in a hierarchy. Some people are aromantic or asexual or just more independent and committed to our own paths. Everyone is different and to me, the answer is not to unlearn, but to recognize what it is you truly desire and to hope that’s what you receive. To your point, when you don’t receive it, you have no choice but to embrace the life you have, and yes, it can be wonderful w/o any of these things taking place.

[@stormiomalley7757]

Omg. I was single all of my 20s and at 29 I found my husband! I married him in 2022 at 31. You're so right!

[@rosemarie5489]

I will be 28 this year and I was single my whole life till now. Hopefully I also meet my husband in the late 20s.

[@hellostephco84]

Saturn return 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@angieangiel2666]

I hope you find love this year Steph.

[@ThatGirlMoi]

Steph, you’re metaphors are ALWAYS the best 😂😂😂😂 “March doesn’t even have the opportunity to stretch his legs and pass gas before my birthday even come and gone” 😂😂😂 What in the world 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭

[@Tayteonagurl]

I so badly needed this video. I turn 30 at the end of this year and it’s been weighing on me mentally being so very single 😂 and wanting to be married and able to start a family. I’ve been trying to remain delulu and reminding myself that for some it all happens seemingly over night and that is possible for me as well. I pray we see movement this year. Love your channel!

[@hellostephco84]

You’ve got time ❤❤❤❤

[@MariJamila]

Girl I feel the same way

[@shemiibrahim817]

You are telling my story. Also a march baby and I turn 30 this year. After this video I feel a bit better x

[@NeoBlessedGirl]

I love this video. I’m 35 and seem to have the isolation spirit. Never had a boyfriend either. No matter what I do, I can’t get a boyfriend or make friends period. I’ve tried many ways to do so in person and online and nothing ever works. I’m so glad you spoke on these topics because not many people I know experience this at 35 years old.

[@drnstjhn]

28 here and extremely socially stunted from being extremely reclusive my whole life. i feel like i'm playing catch-up and it's overwhelming and intimidating. i literally get anxiety if i hear my neighbors laughing with friends or having fun because i feel like i'm young and supposed to be experiencing that and i'm not at all

[@sodaswirls]

You're so pretty no matter what light you're in. I think it would be awesome to see you go on love is blind because your heart just shines through in your personality and voice. You're so real. I just wish you lived in Windsor Ontario! We would be besties for sure 😊❤

[@hellostephco84]

It’s funny you say that bc it’s Freezing in Texas right now and I just told my Dad at my limit lol. I would never survive!

[@genevieveohara5360]

​@@hellostephco84please go on Love Is Blind, it would be the best season ever

[@anhserc3534]

I’m 33 now. About a week before my 30th birthday my good friend passed away. Literally at his funeral I was thinking to myself “I’m so tired of having to process these difficult emotional situations on my own.” I went to leave the funeral and couldn’t find my friend who rode with me, instead I bumped into a guy who I ended up spending the next 2 1/2 years with 🖤by far the best relationship of my life and shifted my energy from toxic/f-boys to princess treatment only. I just want you to know how deep in your bag you are with this one!!!

[@hellostephco84]

It a minute it can change! Thank you for sharing your story ❤

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

I love this for you.❤❤️

[@SagCuspofRevolution333]

Why does it feel like your friend who passed on had something to do with the way this beautiful story unraveled? ❤❤🥰 16Jan24

[@anhserc3534]

@@SagCuspofRevolution333 I say that all the time and that would be so like him because he was a true sweetheart 🖤

[@drnstjhn]

@@anhserc3534steph got the best comment section, i swear 🥲

[@MiscellaneousMoi]

I love these back to back videos for us! Go Steph!

[@Synquette]

Dang Steph! You are so deep! More talks like this ❤ & am I selfish to believe maybe you haven’t or didn’t marry or had children just yet is because you still have a calling/purpose in your singleness to fulfill? I always say this but your voice and transparency in this space makes me feel less alone because some of the thoughts and experiences you have I can relate to and I can’t even talk to my friends about without fear of being judged, so I feel like I’m selfish because I’m thinking “if she got married in her 20’s she wouldn’t have had all these experiences and dropping these gems of wisdom to me right now because God knew I would need to hear this” but I’m ready to release you lol and I want whatever you want in this season of your life & I just want you to know that you are a blessing and a delight & I really really enjoy your channel, I hope you know how blessed you really are and I admire you a lot ❤

[@truthteller816]

Awe, what a sweet 🥰note you wrote to Steph. And yes, let her go so her husband can find her 😅.

[@hellostephco84]

I agree ❤

[@hellostephco84]

@@truthteller816😂😂

[@YourGirl918]

Just turned 38, been in the wildest rollercoster of emotions with my relationships since 2020 and before , I came to a point where I said I’m done with dating and finding someone cause it was literally draining my mental health . Deleted the apps, deleted the IG messages that were leading me nowhere.I had to literally stop putting so much pressure on myself and let life happens even if it means that I hated that part of my life not being in a healthy relationship something I desired .Because it seems so easy for others. I relate so much to your video. Until my friend who recently got into a new relationship introduced me to her partner best friend and here I am in a healthy and lovely relationship so far so good. So yeah life can be surprisingly weird for the best with all their up’s and downs.

[@keilahbandstv]

2024 is gonna be a cute year for a lot of people 🫶🏾💅🏾

[@hellostephco84]

🎉🎉🎉

[@journeythrough3087]

Reminds me of the time when I had a sudden “nudge within” to start packing my grandma’s belongings. I had started packing and giving away things out of the blue to prepare for her house’s sale that I didn’t know would happen shortly after. In your Lizzo example, the point about “when I got where I needed to go, there it was,” reminds me about alignment. That’s my prayer to by in alignment with God’s timeline for what I’ve been waiting and praying for years🙏🏾✨

[@S-jy4fd]

I’m 28 and I just feel so behind in life, no job right now( I’ve been fired) no partner and everyone around me seems to have their life put together, I feel so embarrassed and lost. I’m keeping up a front that I’m happy and know what I’m doing but deep down I’m so lost and depressed 😢

[@hellostephco84]

When I was 28 I was a cashier at a spaghetti restaurant on unemployment. By the time I was 30 I was gainfully employed living in a luxury apartment in downtown. Each year can bring profound shifts, I know I’ve seen it. ❤

[@Nessajess7]

@S-jy4fd 💜💕🫂🌻 I'm with you in spirit. Trust and believe, this season will come to pass and you'll be on the other side thinking about this exact moment 🙏🏿🐞💖💚

[@tessy28]

Honestly don't feel like that. At 23 I was dirt broke with a shitty degree, working at a warehouse and now I'm 28 engaged to the love of my life, got my masters degree and owning my own investment property. Pls try and relax and do not panic. Your life will look sooooo different in 2 to 3 years. You will look back on this time and laugh.😊

[@S-jy4fd]

@@Nessajess7 this made me emotional, thank you so much ❤️😭

[@S-jy4fd]

@@tessy28 proud of you Queen, I’m glad things are going good for you and I pray the same happens for me soon❤️

[@thinkpink6796]

WE LOVE THESE VIDEOS PLEASE KEEP THEM COMING! KEEP THE ASTROLOGY, NUMEROLOGY VIDEOS COMING . YES THE LIGHTING LOOKS GREAT!!!

[@hellostephco84]

Thank you ❤

[@readbycandle7489]

So here’s something to look forward to in your 40’s. I’m 47, in my 40’s I have fallen in love with myself, in the environment I live and in my journey. There’s so much fear out about 40 and the changes but what happens as you emerge is transformative. Not enough is said about the butterfly you become and the kind of people and opportunities that transformation attracts into your life. We can think we missed love in our 30’s, maybe we were given more time to shed the cocoon of our previous experiences. To know our worth and accept the amazing people who come into our lives without doubt and fear. 40s are a woman’s primal years, the years we exist in our core and realise our potential to live and thrive in our truth. The love we find in our 40s and 50s is the love that meets all our expectations (even if it’s a new love for your existing partner according to my step-mum) because we are not up for dealing with just vibes. Post 40 are the best years to find true love. ❤

[@hellostephco84]

I totally agree. 40’s are for refining the self and one’s purpose in life

[@NYCFashionista56]

I’m 25 but I have started thinking more and more about relationships and what kind of family I want. The part you mentioned about community is sooo important. Both as an indicator of what might be to come for you, but also simply for meeting people. Some of my interpersonal relationships have broken down over the past year and I’ve been thinking about how I’m supposed to meet someone. I feel like so many people I know who’ve landed in long term relationships met their s/o through friends. I’m also picky af so I tend to need a sounding board😂

[@destaabigael9004]

I just wanted to say you are so sweet and an older sister anyone could ever ask for.

[@josinaa9638]

I love this video and I totally agree that the energy settles in your bones and you radiate it out and attract it .I also believe that through healing, you can reset the energy positively . Fantastic video Steph, you are a natural when talking about these things 😊

[@genevieveohara5360]

How do you heal?

[@hellostephco84]

@@genevieveohara5360in community. Through positive experiences and through taking ownership over yourself…I want to make a video about this too.

[@alexandrahutchinson4516]

@@hellostephco84please do. Because some people unfortunately have no community. No outlets, no way to heal

[@akitamoore2185]

Hey! Keep your head up! You desire marriage, so it will happen! I got married for the first time at 50!!!! I am amazed at how God has blessed us! 😊

[@xEASTYNx]

Love it when you talk about these things, gave me hope that the 30s will be better for me. Could listen to you talk forever.

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

Right! I rewatch her videos all the time,because I genuinely enjoy hearing her talk.

[@virtuouswomanofyah3279]

It’s true I thought I would never get married I got married at 33 and got pregnant on our honeymoon.

[@hellostephco84]

See!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@angieangiel2666]

Wow I had a baby at 32 got married 3 months later at 33. Got pregnant again 2 months later. My girls are 14 months apart.

[@charmmesilly1000]

woah I just turned 25 and have been single since birth so I'm definitely in the target demographic for this vid hahaha. I've honestly never been scared about turning 30 so the idea that things could completely change in my next decade is exciting to hear. I relate to that girl's tiktok of finding it hard to imagine a connection happening when my lived experience hasn't pointed toward romantic love at all. But your theories have kept me hopeful! Also, I'm not very familiar with astrology but I do find the subject matter interesting so keep these types of vids coming (if you want to of course haha).

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

Today is literally the best day of 2024 for me, bc I’ve gotten you back to back. I need you to just post what you want, bc I’m here for it all. ❤❤❤❤ I’ve been waiting for my thirties for a while now. I’m now 26 and I’m counting down. I’m looking forward to being wealthier in the bank and in community. I’m looking forward to traveling more and being kinder and more loving to myself and those around me. I’ve always looked forward to aging-though, as I’ve gotten older (after 25, I guess), the fear of ailing health started to become a worry of mine. I want to age with good health. Anywho, single since birth, and 30 is my cut off for romantic connections and all, bc I’m terrified of romantic relationships and all that it entails. I can do without it. Plus, I think it’s cool to be one of those rare adults who’ve never gotten into romantic relationships. We’re rare. And that’s cool-to me, lol. Also, happy birthday! Life begins at 40!❤

[@taylakurner]

I agree with you about the energy settling in your bones. The body keeps the score sort of vibe. But none of it is set in stone. Working on healing, self-love, therapy. You can transmute that energy and work on emitting the energy you hope to attract :)

[@hellostephco84]

Absolutely. It doesn’t mean you won’t run into tomfoolery still lol, but what will happen is you will develop and inability to withstand anything that doesn’t align with you.

[@mickal777]

Hello! So I'm 33 and last dating experience was SO close to "my person" but that whole red flags & Avoidant/Anxious attachment stuff started happening. After an emotionally devastating "break up" my rebound has brought ALOT of reflection and understanding of my role in things. And I now feel like something great is coming. Like I went from a heart of turmoil, confusion and physical pain to a heart that is hopeful, open & at peace. I am FINALLY truly showing myself the love that I now EXPECT to receive and I feel the energy shift that you were talking about. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO! It was so timely & confirming for me to hear that energy shift. I'm about to watch the video all over again. Many thanks!

[@GiiinSage]

I just turned 30 this past December and I’m excited to experience this new decade. But I will say this video really resonates with me, especially when you mentioned how from your very first love experience and there after being dysfunctional. Life is a trip.

[@PopFizzPaperDani]

The timing of this was perf! Thank you for playing your part in the Universe’s plans. ❤ I think manifesting is something you create *and* something you know, to me it’s one and the same. Two sides of the same coin. I can create because I know it’s already mine, and it’s already mine so I know I can create it. Idk but my mind understands it best that way. 😊

[@hellostephco84]

Yes thats what I meant (I was sort of babbling at that point lol)

[@Carae101]

My cousin (who was never in a relationship and very shy) met her husband and had a baby in her forties. No one in the family saw it coming. Wish I had the exact age to tell you.

[@hellostephco84]

I didn’t talk about 40’s here bc I was focusing on before 40’s but I should have mentioned 42, and 44 are ages I’ve noticed things like that happening for people. Especially 42. 🎉

[@yourfavpersuasion9385]

I turned 34 in oct so we will see. But i thought i was going to be married by 25..never happened. I told myself if by 40 i am not married i refuse to do it. To me there is no point, companion fine but actually marriage while all i will have are pets no thanks. A lot of us millennial women will not get married and i had to make peace with it. For 2024, i got off all of the dating apps i was on because it is all filth on it. I have to make a conscious effort to go out this year and stop staying inside.

[@hellostephco84]

I want to challenge myself to do all the activities I have planned for myself. That's my goal for my 40's...personal achievement and bettering of self.

[@jenz_world]

Same here! I said this is my year to peek out the door 👀.... we shall see fingers crossed.

[@tessy28]

I actually met my fiance on a dating app and we got engaged 3 months ago. We were only together 9 months before he started taking me ring shopping and then at just over a year and a few months he proposed. Life happens and when it does its super quick. Don't give up on anything because you never know what can happen for you.❤😊

[@yourfavpersuasion9385]

Yeah but i am done with apps. I have been on them on & off since i was 2 years out of high school. No thanks, It's been trash and got worse. I never met a man the normal way before. So i am trying that from here on out. I also do not want to build an addiction or dependency to dating apps the way men have either. @@tessy28

[@kaatyblue]

Just turned 30 on the 17th (wednesday) and have been holding back tears throughout the whole video, especially when you talked about how the way we're treated since birth is out of our control, and yet shapes so much about us, because YES, I always think about that and it's so devastating. But when you said you've seen miracles happen in people's 30's the floodgates were open lmao. Thank you for this video, Steph. So, so insightful. I really needed this.

[@hellostephco84]

I was watching!! It happened! So many good stories!

[@s.crockett5457]

Whatever comes into your life should flow! -Stephco🙌🏾🎁💎🤍✨️🦋 I just A-D-O-R-E you!🙏🏽🕊

[@peggyannpilgrim9703]

I try not to focus on time lines or seasons cuz it feels so much out of my realm of control. I just focus on learning whatever God is trying to teach me during "the wait." Every time I learn something new about the kind of I mate I desire or the feelings I desire to feel when I'm with him , I work on cultivating those identical qualities and feelings in myself towards myself. Eg .. If in the past I attracted a slew of guys who don't want to commit, then I look for the areas in my life that reflect a lack of commitment to myself and work on it ... Or if I'm attracting guys who I don't feel very stimulated by, then I work on creating experiences that stimulate me. I can't say for sure if this strategy guarantees the partnership I desire, but I do feel that the quality of people I personally attract is often a pretty solid reflection of or feedback on that which I either lack or possess from within. "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."- Rumi

[@sweetpetite2135]

Best comment imo ❤

[@peggyannpilgrim9703]

@@sweetpetite2135 Thank you!

[@sabrinaroseclifford]

You articulate your thoughts soooo well and every video feels so well thought out. This is off topic but it would be so cool to see BTS of how you prep and organize your thoughts for a video. 💕☺️

[@livinglife4273]

Love this! I’ll be 22 this year and I’ve never had a boyfriend but this is really great information to know! I have been stressing patience for myself more recently. I don’t necessarily want a boyfriend but I have been craving a touch or cuddle, oh well I guess! I can wait. 😂

[@avneetkang9192]

This wig looks amazing on you Steph😘

[@msd3879]

Watched all your videos today...loved them all! You're on a roll 🎉

[@waterminx777]

I really love when you touch on esoteric/metaphysical topics. You’re really good at conveying & I can feel you speaking from a place of deep inner knowing (I’m a cancer sun & moon) A whole Pisces mystic queen 👑 🔮

[@ManUntdForever]

This was a really enjoyable video! Loved hearing your thoughts - you excel at this and you don’t delve into your personal experiences to communicate your message.

[@catharsismemory]

God's timing is always perfect, when He knows you're ready, He will send them. 🥰 trust in Jesus and anything is possible.

[@truthteller816]

Awe, love ❤ this ❤

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Facts

[@Minney-Me]

Amen❤ JESUS Christ is the ONLY way to salvation ... Keep the faith!

[@sarahogayonne3710]

Im 25 years old and I believe in intuition and manifestation both play a role in our lives. In October and November i and my cousins were making jokes about “never experiencing a loss” and how good God was to us for NOBODY even being ill enough to anticipate such a thing. Anyways, thanksgiving came and went and we mentioned it again. I told my cousin, we are talking about death too much, we better stop! December 17 in front of my entire church congregation, my father has a heart attack and dies. Never even had a sign of a problem in his body. He was dealing with copious amounts of stress but besides that I was expecting to have his grandchildren. I now know that was the spirit of intubation warning us but we didn’t listen.

[@hellostephco84]

I’m so sorry for your loss. But you were absolutely right to call that out. I’m so sorry.

[@Haulapsychology]

You're sort of talking about Attachment theory. very real.

[@jamieb2289]

Okay, yes girl!! I loved everything about this video. (And the quantum leap comment! 😂) I have been able to "feel" the change in the air of several life path shifts for myself before they happened. I feel a lot of big things for 2024, but I don’t know if I "feel" love. The forecast doesn't show anything on the horizon. But I am ever hopeful as always! I do, however, feel a promotion in the air, so I will definitely be leaning heavily into that energy frfr. (I guess I'll have to return to this comment at the end of December to see if anything came true, lol!)

[@sofineshesmine]

My life trajectory has always been that whoever Ive been in a relationship with, has always happened spontaneously. And 100% when I wasnt looking for a relationship. That's why my personal belief is, just live your life and things will flow toward you if it's meant to be. I tend to not live my life looking, wanting or searching for something/someone. And honestly when you hear stories of how people met, more often than not it's always happen stance. Love simply comes when you're minding your own business and living life like it's golden. 💛

[@leyadeva9804]

I would love more astrology videos from you 😊

[@kaygeeRandomness]

You are offering some really good life milestone information on a high frequency. Thank you

[@SharonBurc]

This will be a beautiful expansive year for us, Steph. I’m rooting for you and I admire you like the big sister I’ve always wanted.

[@Aritul]

This is one of my favorite videos of yours. You did a great job laying out and supporting your points.

[@tonimcelroy9818]

3 videos in 1 day... Coming in hot. I love it.

[@hellostephco84]

Had so much to say lol

[@MeMeC283]

Felt. I cried on my 25th birthday , which in hindsight was a foreshadow because i had a serious stroke a couple of months later. I thought things were looking up bc i was having the time of my life at 24 Then 33 comes around and BAM - brain surgery 🥴. Turning 36 soon so at this point my goal is to buy a home- romantic partnerships are over for me I’ve always felt it would happen one i gained some independence and bc of my health that’s no longer in the cards for me I too have mourned and feel like a 35 yr old teenager 😂😂 but oh well- Tis is life and i will still serve and praise the Lord

[@NatureFreak1127]

Girl, I wish you the best. That being said, there is a lot of magic in your thinking.

[@feyokki756]

Stephco! I don’t know if I’ve ever commented. Usually I’m a silent watcher, but I have to say I am loving these numerology videos. It’s a good video about a pseudoscience without it feeling new-age culty or bordering on insane LOL I always knew my Life Path Number 8 too (and a Pisces too) but I never knew about universal or personal year numbers until now. You sent me on a deep dive. I was literally up until 3 am researching because of your videos. I have a friend who used to be into some spiritual/psuedoscience things but the videos she would watch seemed very creepy but this video makes me feel like I’m listening to a regular everyday person talk about a topic I just happen to be interested in.

[@_TinyHyeju_]

Nowhere near my 30s, I only turn 21 next month, but this video really came at a perfect time. Right before new years I just had a gut feeling that this was gonna be my year, and not like the cliche “new year new me” but a real definitive this year has a lot in store and I just couldn’t explain why. I’ve been watching u for a while and this video just made me feel even more hopeful not just for this year but way far ahead when I do get to my 30s and beyond

[@abbym1214]

Claim what you truly desire because its already yours. Remove negative self talk and limiting beliefs about your love life

[@hellostephco84]

This is something I want to address bc it’s a response that I run into often. I believe there is nothing wrong with understanding that we aren’t in total control of what happens in our lives. That things don’t happen on our time table. That even when we “decide” we may still face rejection, or not receive. I will always walk the line between understanding that I have the ability to ask for whatever is on my heart and the knowledge that I will receive what is planned for me according to the divine will of God. What you call “limiting beliefs” or “negative beliefs” I call the process of finding contentment within my current reality while still being aware of the desires of my heart. I believe that is a difference.

[@el_yuh6809]

Side note: I love that she has guidelines for the comments lol 😅 very teacher of her 💅🏽 But anyways, I hope the best for the genuinely good people this year and wish everyone some form of fulfilling love 2024 ! I want to put love out there and while I haven’t yet had a boyfriend before (whether that happens or not this year) I want to have loving new friendships! May God bless me and others ! 💜 💜 💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@lmusima3275]

Thanks 🙏🏾 for this video. For years I struggled to find myself through my expectations of settling down. I’d been through so many unrequited love situations. Friend zoning after another while friends got married around me. I’m 46 years old and didn’t even begin dating until my thirties. I haven’t had a relationship in over 6 years. I was getting to know someone 2 years after and ended it as he was dealing with some addiction issues. Nothing since then other than time wasting platonic situations. Now I’ve disconnected myself from the idea of dating. I’m not interested anymore. I don’t pay attention to guys or attraction. I just want a peaceful life without all the unnecessary heartbreaking failures of launching love

[@ArsIsFun]

Same here , i only attract married men, men who live in different countries, men who are mean to me, i know in heaven I’ll meet my spouse, i will pray for a nice man for you

[@toughcrowd9128]

Your videos have been recommended to me over the past year and I kept saying, “I’m gonna check her out soon!” This is the first one that I’ve watched and you did not disappoint. I’m looking forward to upcoming videos and catching up on what I’ve missed. I also don’t see any patterns around me now and feel doubtful that love will find me this year (though I will turn 35 so fingers crossed). However, I do recognize that there are some things I need to work on in the meantime that are best for me and will positively impact any future relationships. So this year I’m focusing on improving the love I have for myself and building a community that is filled with deep, platonic love. Best wishes to you, me, and everyone else watching!

[@shachede6828]

Love the lighting too. 😂😂 I have a weird path. Also this video was very encouraging even though I don’t have believe in some of these things. I’m the attractive woman that everyone wonder why they are single. But it’s kind of by choice. Mostly because I don’t want kids and most men wanna put 4 kids in me🤣🤣. I don’t fear dying without love personally for some reason. Hard to voice it out to people. I’m turning 30 this year…but I kind of feeling like I will be fine. 😁

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

I’m in a similar boat, except, it’s somewhat unintentional. I’m so wishy-washy, but too intense and standards too high, and people can just read that off me that I don’t know what I want.

[@shachede6828]

@@rosedalinevaletine6931 whew I soooo feel you, I know what I don’t want but even though I go on nice dates with great guys and all that, I just can’t see my self dating them or marrying them., I just haven’t met a man that I’m like YES. I can’t force myself. I feel bad for the good men I have let go but I really can’t force myself. 😩😩😩😩

[@denishabernard7537]

Steph you are a beautiful person and I’m so proud as a viewer watching your growth. I hope you get good surprises this year❤️

[@Rabiea160]

I turned 29 beginning of Jan so I loved this video! Im looking forward to my future now. I feel so much more at peace and am joyful after watching this video! Loved it soo much.

[@abbym1214]

Comparison is the thief of joy

[@tipp8076]

Thank u for this video 🤗. Love your hair too!

[@simplyambyy]

i’m a new subscriber and i felt that lizzo donut story HARD! literally went through the exact same thing last week with a donut as well. my boss has went out to run errands and i mentioned to my co-worker jokingly that he better bring me back a donut lol my boss is pretty health-conscious so he skips out on sweets often. 20 mins after he came back, he approached me with a donut sealed in its original packaging and asked if i wanted it because he grabbed it thinking he did, but lost all desire to eat it. that is so weird! what’s with the donuts?? 🍩 😂 i turn 30 this summer and haven’t had any relationship experience, romantic or sexual and while i haven’t really stressed about it throughout my life, i can definitely feel that this year something has changed, internally and in the air around me. i follow along with the energetic/astrological new year so for me, this video is this video is right on time in multiple ways! thank you to you and to the youtube algorithm for putting you on my feed lol i resonate with this and your viewpoints a lot

[@pikalee3492]

Wow! What a video! Theres something to your theory. I'll share a bit of my experience. I was the type of girl completely disinterested in dating (later figured out its because of my avoidant attachment style). I didnt feel any pressure to be in one because I knew I didnt want kids so no biological pressure. In mu late teens/early 20s, I focused on work and my survival as a young person living on my own lol Then at 28, by divine intervention, I met a guy that was adamant about asking me out. I felt compelled to say yes not because he was pressuring me (he wasnt pressuring me but was very forward in expressing his interest which I liked) but there was a feeling that this was something I was meant to do (idk if that explains it well but I hope so lol). This guy wasn't a terrible guy but there were obvious obstacles that wouldnt allow anything to progress, however I learned from this experience the value of vulnerability and how I was completely avoidant of it. I also got to explore a sensual side of myself that I never knew I had. The following year, i met another guy who was hardworking but I later found out, he didnt really have time for a relationship. There was a point in time where I thought that would be ideal for me (again, avoidant attachment style) but I learned that i actually want something deeper and someone who is available to invest in a fulfilling relationship. I dug deep into learning about attachment styles and challenging myself to not be so distant and be more comfortable with vulnerability. At 30, I met another guy where communication was consistent, we constantly saw each other, we felt comfortable together, etc. I was up front about the things that were important to me and what were absolute deal breakers. Things were good until he did one of the deal breakers and I learned that I was strong enough to walk away and no longer people please. With this experience, I felt like I was getting really close to meeting my special person. I thought this guy could be it but learned that he was not. Fast forward to last year, I met a guy from a dating app. He seemed really friendly, great intellectual conversation, and he took all of the little quizzes (love language, etc.) with eagerness and no complaints. We go on a date together and the flow was seamless, calm, comforting, and warm. This man was everything I had prayed for and he would even say certain things that were specifically said in my prayers. I couldnt believe it! We've been dating for about 7months now and things are still going well. I learned where I have some anxious attachments and have been challenging myself to be patient and communicative. Fingers crossed that this is it, but if not, it just furthers my belief that im getting closer to my person. Anyways, thanks to anyone who reads all of this and I hope this brings hope to some who feel hopeless. 🌻

[@chelsea545]

This was a great read. You are very self-reflective and worked on yourself and learned more about yourself every step of the way. Every dating experience is a valuable experience if we take the time to learn from it.

[@pikalee3492]

@@chelsea545 Thank you so much for your kind words!

[@caitlynmartin4020]

I loved this video!! I also like how it came out before Valentine’s Day.

[@ThisIsJessPaul]

Steph, your energy theory is RIGHT ON. My personal philosophy about the omniscient spirit of this world is not as much religious, spiritual or magical as it is practical: I believe peoples' energy, behavior, words and attitudes that they put into the world directly effect what they get back. I even use the terminology of people being able to "smell" it on others. It's a 6th sense we all have by growing up in society and learning how to survive since before we could walk and talk.

[@hellostephco84]

Agreed. Especially with it being just as practical as it as magical. There’s just so much proof!!!

[@Yourcousincourtne]

This video was so needed. Thanks for being a light! About to turn 30 in a couple of months.

[@prettybrittany_]

i’m fed!! a little of numerology mixed into this. i love your videos like this. i also think your time is coming for a relationship

[@kaatyblue]

i feel it too, like, within the next three years

[@EmmaElysee]

Steph I needed this video so much. Im 29 and thought it was all over for me. Thank you for your perspective 🥹🫶🏾

[@keesenaglasgow5375]

Beautiful video Steph! I, also love your lighting and background 😂. That aside, I truly hope the tides change in the best ways for you this year ❤. You deserve every happiness that's enroute to you. Have a blessed and prosperous 2024 ❤.

[@michaelmitchell5098]

Keep yourself surrounded by very positive people and God will bless you. You are young, beautiful and influential so it will happen for you! Keep doing what you’re doing.

[@DanielaElana]

Happy Birthday! 🎉 I love the new content

[@turtle_goddess9522]

My parents didn’t get married until they were in their forties! Love has no age and will find you if you want it

[@lungamthembu5815]

I can totally relate to this comment, Steph has a way of expressing her views in a way that makes feel like im seen and she gets me, and everything will be just fine, even if that version of fine is not what we had hoped for ourselves . But we are here, and we are okay

[@SkailynTV]

Steph 3 videos in the past two days!?!? Thank you queen 😊

[@neaevangelina1682]

Love the honesty and woowooness of this video! Honestly don’t watch much as I don’t care for the gossip content, just not for me. But this is my cuppa. Still wish you well on your YT journey 🫶

[@beckyalero4909]

Hi Steph! I just want to say that you are inspirational, I always look forward to your videos all the time ❤ I love your honesty and your vulnerability. Your strength amazes me. Thank you for being you ❤️❤️

[@tishasuite4676]

Thank you steph ♥️ for putting yourself out there and talking about this subject, I’m 41 now and this is exactly how I feel also. It’s so inspiring listening 2 your videos.Again thank you so so much for this.

[@user-vz4xs4mt8n]

Wishing you all the best in love and life this year 💜💜💜

[@sashapierce4121]

This is true. I was working at a daycare/academy and everyone there was getting pregnant. I felt heartbroken because I had tried for years and I was going to give up. I left that job and the next year I got pregnant❤

[@R_I_L_Y]

My bestie got engaged on her 33rd birthday this past weekend

[@NDPenny]

My husband and I met when we were 20. Didn’t get married til 28 . Had our daughter at 31 and we are now 36! We actually met through mutual friends during an outing. We haven’t been apart since.

[@meg.marjorie]

Im 25 and literally 5 months ago I got the extreme desire of marriage (NO PRIOR DESIRE). I met my boyfriend (early 30s) 3 months ago on Hinge and he's amazing!! Our values aligned, he's a man of action and were just flowingggg. Anywho im tryna get engage by the end of this year ya'll.

[@akisearu93]

Beautiful and informative video as always! I don’t think I’ve ever commented but wanted to tell you how timely this is! I just turned thirty a few weeks ago and have met a man that I can see myself committing to.

[@pinkpandamiranda]

You will have feelings about things that you are meant to experience - amazing!

[@alesiethedon]

The lighting and quality of the video is beautiful steph. When it comes to all the stuff in the video I genuinely do believe that there are set times for events to happen in each of our lives. For instance My career. I wasn't supposed to have a great start, Or I would have stayed In that specific area of science. And now i've branched out, I make more money and I enjoy what I do. And for myself I didnt believe I would be one of those women who would have children In my twenties. I can feel that i'm going to be an older mum. I also believe in the red string theory that links people. I think a moment like that happened to me last week.

[@lit.travels5011]

Hey Stephco, great video. I know you mentioned how you are getting more into numerology and astrology and you were also speaking about how 29/30 tends to be people's Saturn Return. I wanted to mention that 30 is also when you enter your 7th profection year which the 7th house represents long-term relationships, marriages etc. You spoke about 35 being a karmic age and one of completeness. 35 is your 12th profection year which the 12th house represents endings, closure, healing, karma etc. 36 is your 1st profection year which the 1st house represents self, body, beginnings etc. I don't know how into astrology you may be but I know when I felt very lost getting a reading for my birth chart gave me clarity and really put a lot of things into perspective. Could be something to look more into if you want to know more. Anyways Love and light

[@lit.travels5011]

Sidenote: 40 is your 5th profection year which the 5th house represents love, romance etc. and 42 is when you enter your 7th profection year again

[@dancemomerika]

I'd have to agree. I think I've always carried myself like a wife. That was always the expectation that men understood. I've been married twice. (Also divorced twice so it's not fail proof. 😆) But yes, when I'm ready to get Marr again, I feel it will happen because I'll just go back to putting out that vibe and rejecting anyone whose energy doesn't match it.