20 MORE Autistic Traits in Adults You Never Knew Existed!

[@Jill_MA]

1-needing to re-set 2-loud talking 3-overexplaining 4-overpreparing for social events 5-indecisiveness 6-hyperawarenss of smells 7-inconsistent skills 8-brutally honest 9-unique thought patterns 10-echolalia 11-"acting" trying to be normal 12-1talking to yourself 13-difficulty in starting tasks 14-preparing for every possible outcome which leads to you procrastinating other tasks (I have an appointment later in the day so I don't want to start any new tasks that might get my mind off the appointment) 15-memorization of odd thing 16-clumsy 17-overly litera 18-disliking sounds 19-struggling with unwritten rules 20-stickler for fairness

[@ExaltedDuck]

No time stamps? Slacker. :p

[@AutistiCoder]

that's why I like talking to healthcare providers. they use very precise language and will answer any question I have regarding my health (within their speciality ofc)

[@MichaelLesterClockwork]

Thank you for your service o7

[@Htrac]

For me: 1, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 9, 11, 13, 14, 15, 17, 18, 19, 20 - very much 2, 7, 10, 12, 16 - no, never or rare

[@kristin7101]

​@@AutistiCoder too bad most Healthcare providers are spouting off data and details that aren't necessarily accurate or true.

[@Taurusboy07]

Spot on. The more I learn about Autism the more my entire life makes sense from a toddler to an adult.

[@nerdtubewtf]

So same

[@stellamcqueen4809]

@@Taurusboy07 the more I learn the more about autism, ADHD, PMDD and perimenopause, the more I wonder if I have any free will at all! Where is my personality fit in amongst all of these neurological and endocrine systems that rule my life??

[@Taurusboy07]

@ I get it. I also have ADHD. I agree, it feels as if the free will that the world of neurotypical people created or expect us to have is damn near impossible. We have to go accordingly to our bodies. Sometimes our nervous system is overwhelmed and riddled with anxiety and or depression. That goes to say that when we are under such pressure and stress, we can not willfully give our best when our best is suppressed by many internal forces.

[@stellamcqueen4809]

@@Taurusboy07 Exactly! Except neurotypical people must be as controlled by their neurotype as much as us. They can no more will themselves to experience lights and sounds physically hurting, or being physically unable to start a mundane task than we are to wish these experiences away. But imagine explaining to neurotypicals that being able to use a calendar to organise their life is NOT a tool they learned, but their neurotypical brain has an innate, evolved ability to use calendars, just like how hands have an innate, evolved ability to grasp things...! That would go down as well as trying to explain to the average man, who think hormones only affect women's moods, that they every mood or thought they have ever experienced involved hormones.

[@Taurusboy07]

@ Great points that I totally agree with. Everything works Simultaneously together but unfortunately the neurotypical people out numbers the neurodivergent people which makes us have to suffer from the enforced nature of their world.

[@aslpanda]

Instead of ppl telling me i speak to loud i am told they can’t hear me so I keep having to repeat myself and i become very annoyed at continually having to waste my breath on repeating myself when to me i feel like i am speaking at a normal volume

[@sksk-bd7yv]

Interesting! That's exactly how my father acts. It drives everyone mad - him included. But I have my very annoying habits, too. And concerning those, I feel that humanity is wrong. So... No high horses for me today, but rather a chance to eat humble pie.

[@aslpanda]

@@sksk-bd7yv thank you for sharing that! Very interesting, are you and/or ur father ND , or NT?

[@amorrow250]

I’m a mix of both, too loud (a lot of the time) and too soft spoken (often enough) that people ask me, to say it again.😅

[@GullibleTarget]

Sometimes people people to it to me on purpose. Especially when I stand up for myself and they see me struggling. 'Sorry what? Oh I don't understand you, you are so difficult to understand'. But when I say what they like; I'm erudite,,well spoken...etc. people can be real cu next Tuesdays.

[@sksk-bd7yv]

​@aslpanda Both ND! But as he has zero adhd and I have a 50-50 combo audhd we often clash.

[@windalfalatar333]

23:37 The reason why we forget names I think, at least in my case, is that we are so overwhelmed by all the sensory input from meeting a new person that how that person looks, moves, the sound, including inflection and tonality of their voice &c., while at the same time forcing ourselves to act neurotypically, that paying attention to their name when they introduce themselves is just too much information to take in. The bandwidth is already full.

[@suecollins357]

Going with flow often causes internal exhaustion. Unconsciously speaking loudly has gives me memory blushes decades later. Overexplain, don't get me started. My family camping skill is legendary, prepared for anything. Saved family Queenslander from burning down because I smelt a cockroach sizzling from chewing wiring in on off box for our old ceiling fan. Avoid candle shops, instant headache. Catching balls is one of my super powers but I constantly trip over my own foot and don't use expensive glassware because I'll inevitably break it. When kids squeal in play, I feel like I'm being stabbed in my brain. Lesser high noises it's just a hammer. As you started talking about unfairness my throat started constricting. Fake politicians hurt my heart. I warn new acquaintances that I'll forget their name. Can't remember any more. Good vid, thanks Orion

[@carladelagnomes]

This is me exactly!

[@angelagregoire6811]

Exactly me too

[@Cnsalmoni]

Ooh, I like that term,”memory blush.”

[@bclarson09]

Same here!

[@tomiedollie]

Sometimes when I’m watching a movie or tv show, I’ll pause it and commentate on what I just saw, but completely in my own head. So someone could walk in on me watching a movie, pause it randomly, sit in total silence for nearly a full minute and then unpause it. I look absolutely insane but it makes sense to me.

[@Patricia_Stewart337]

I seem to need a few days to process an outing. Just a trip to the store

[@Patricia_Stewart337]

I seem to need a few days to process an outing. Just a trip to the store. MEDITATION allows me to just go with the flow

[@Patricia_Stewart337]

I seem to need a few days to process an outing. Just a trip to the store. MEDITATION allows me to just go with the flow

[@aprilmendenhall6705]

Wait… Other people don’t normally do that?

[@debbie8094]

I Always do this. It drives my husband batty.

[@19MadMatt72]

Funny thing about perception, I don’t notice the things people want me to notice with hints and clues and cues. However, I do pick up on things that people don’t want me to pick up on.

[@nerdtubewtf]

So true. Like fully getting the curse of Cassandrs greek myth style

[@19MadMatt72]

@@nerdtubewtf wow. Just looking at that. Scary.

[@debbie8094]

Yes, same for me too

[@mollerthereal]

I listened to this twice. Sometimes they’re like 70%, the video is talking about traits in common between autistic adults, but this one was 100%, not as a placebo, no imposter syndrome, just straight up accurate with my experience in life.

[@DJ_Black_Tourmaline]

honestly i have a lot less problem with self-checkout than i do dealing wth the cashier & bagger. they want to chat and they put the heavy items on top of the fragile items or give you 7 bags for 10 items.

[@Mary-Mar]

@@DJ_Black_Tourmaline I agree. I also need an earbud in with a podcast playing in order for me to go into a grocery store. Self-checkout makes it easy for me to keep the earbud in all the way through the in-store shopping experience.

[@resourcedragon]

Whereas I can't handle self-checkout, _I've only got two hands._

[@AnniePharm]

I think the thing with self-checkout is that if you've never done it, for some people it's like, already implied what they have to do while you don't have an idea of what you can or cannot do, or how things are supposed to work. I hate interacting with people but self-checkout kinda intimidates me. There's a cafeteria in my university that's also supposedly self-serving and I just don't get how it works so I prefer not even going.

[@aprilmendenhall6705]

Yes! I know how I like my groceries bagged. I’ll be angry all day if they put like two items per bag and go slowly while they scan the items. And then they wanna converse? Nope! I can bag my groceries far more quickly and efficiently than any employee and I don’t have to interact with people

[@sallyhamilton7202]

@@resourcedragon I loath self checkout. I can't do that, it's not MY job, I don't know how to do that, what if I make a mistake, what if I screw it all up, what do I do omg???? (panic attack ensues). I'll go to a line with an actual cashier even if it means standing in line 20 minutes.

[@user-ye1go6hw9r]

3. Is SOOO loaded. Once someone accused me of lying because I left out a super small detail that *I* didn't realize they needed. Phfft! I'll never do that again! Also, being constantly misunderstood and being constantly accused of bad intentions leads to over-explaining to fend off the inevitable misunderstanding, made worse by my now convoluted story that will require exhausting amounts of clarification. Also, needing all the details myself and not knowing how to cover the story without every single facet, since, in my head the simple story looks like a hellish kaleidoscope of details that no one could possibly understand without all backstory and intent described in detail in advance of the actual story itself.

[@carladelagnomes]

Yes! Exactly! And sometimes when I think about having to explain something to a Supervisor or someone I am answering to and the amount of information I figure will be required to get them to understand just...makes...me...tired before I even start talking about whatever it is!

[@desiree2086]

This is why I barely talk to people anymore. It’s useless because people will always assume I mean something bad. It’s impossible.

[@DaveAndStuff]

Orion--I've been listening to you for over a year, going "me too, me too!" Well, today I got my official diagnosis (after a year of imposter syndrome, wondering...). Such a relief. Thank you for all the support. Also, I love that you bring coffee into so many of the examples in this video 😂 I can relate! Great video! I have so many of these aspects...

[@PlantingDiversity]

Omg yes!!!! 👍🏻 The “why are you yelling?”, over explaining and over preparing EVERYTHING for social events 😅 And as for spiky skill sets, I’m a scientist who can do super complex stuff but am completely banned from using photo copiers and label makers at work because it’s a disaster whenever I use them 😂🤦‍♀️

[@sallyhamilton7202]

I had a conversation at work recently and I wasn't mad at all, not even a little bit, and someone asked me why I was so angry. And I kept insisting I wasn't angry at all and some other person said Well you sound angry, and THEN I was angry because they kept insisting I was so then I got REALLY LOUD and said there you go, NOW I'm PISSED but I wasn't pissed at all before you kept insisting I was!

[@PlantingDiversity]

@@sallyhamilton7202 I've had exactly the same thing happen! It's super frustrating, isn't it? You weren't angry at the start of the conversation but by the end it's hard not to be!!!

[@deborahbennett6544]

I got such a huge wave of compassion for us watching this. The things we have to do just to get through each day. I wish more neurotypical people would watch these. When I tell someone I'm autistic they just start talking loudly and slowly like I'm deaf and stupid. I feel like we do have super powers and super challenges at the same time. I loved the bit about coffee,. hilarious. Thank you for another great video.

[@deirdrestatham5730]

I never considered I was autistic until the last few years. I have an autistic son but figured it was purely the result of a genetic disorder he has. I really appreciate videos like these. I didn’t think I was autistic. I was simply weird, socially awkward, clumsy, had verbal diarrhea, easily scared by certain noises, a perfectionist, forgetful, disorganized but also hyper-organized in certain situations, and just know what I like so I stick to the same food, routines, movies, tv and music. 😂

[@deirdrestatham5730]

Adding: The over-explaining thing never stood out as unusual for me. I’m Indigenous (Canada) and relaying a story in my culture (Cree/Nehîyaw) is loaded with tangents and lots of exposition. So that never seemed odd to my family when I info dumped. 🤣

[@mammajamma4959]

me too exactly

[@clockworkthoughts7830]

Really appreciate you bringing up the "talking to yourself" thing. I have a really hard time keeping my thoughts in my head. I have discovered that the best way for me to work through my thoughts (as well as scripting) is to have imaginary conversations in my head. Unfortunately, this often results in me seemingly having conversations with people...that aren't there. I live in constant fear of doing this in front of other people.

[@mikeuk1927]

@@clockworkthoughts7830 I learned to own it and I talk to myself in front of other people. When someone brings it up, I put on my best act of confusion and go "You don't talk to yourself??" And when they say "Nooo..." I just reply "Hmm, weird" xD

[@daminox]

Me too 😭 I'm constantly thinking out loud as if there's someone with me to talk to. Sometimes i even say jokes out loud and then laugh at them...

[@WorthlessDeadEnd]

Orion, I appreciate you, brother. I love this list. It is so perfect. I absolutely identify with every single number on this list, though my thought processes may differ. It's kind of freaky. Also, I often spell random words backward in my mind and may occasionally spell them out loud, almost as a kind of tic. There is no reason behind it other than an "itch" that I need to scratch.

[@willij7]

Talking about random connections. You only have to say the word 'spell' and I go back to a spelling test in primary school where one of the words was 'exit'. I had a complete mental block and my mind went round and round not finding the correct spelling. Only after the test did I realise that there was a fire exit sign behind me.

[@smidgelette]

I watch these to understand my (diagnosed) husband better. The more I watch the more I’m having questions about myself. My husband has said before that he sees definite traits in me and I’m more and more inclined to agree.

[@jlande6]

Number 3 is what makes you great at what you do here with these vids!

[@palantir135]

A big yes to all you named here. I’m not officially diagnosed but after the intake interview for an official test they told me that I’m almost certainly autistic. I’m over sixty years old. I learned how to lie because normally I am very honest and not everyone appreciates that. And therefore I learned how to, very often, recognize if people are untrustworthy, have fake behavior. I can only remember people’s names unless I hear it repeatedly during several days combined with seeing that person. I often walk into people because I simply don’t notice them. And I often stumble over and into things. If I want to open a door and grab for the door handle and the door is opened by someone before I can get hold of that handle, I still have to finish that movement even if the door knob isn’t there anymore.

[@carolynbolus4917]

Does anyone else get triggered by lies? It's a big trigger for me

[@Vicious-Spiral]

Truths can trigger me, too... so do - obvious - lies!

[@margilvi5890]

I do!

[@brainybee]

Oh my God, at my core! Hate lies.

[@Vicious-Spiral]

I do not care if strangers or mere colleagues lie to me... but if my inner circle DARES without a DARN GOOD reason... that is something completely different. But over-sharing or extreme emphasising on one specific truth, also pisses me off grandly!

[@LadyLenaki]

Yes. I've literally stopped talking to and spending time with supposed friends over a single lie. Lying fills me with visceral rage. I sort of tolerate white lies as an idiotic social construct, but lying to my face? Absolutely not.

[@christianmiller1723]

I love you, and you have helped me be truly understood by my family for the first time. It always feels like you're talking about me, and have been in my room observing me in secret. lol

[@Frontfight]

Thanks for the validation. Always felt like there was nobody else like me.

[@warren839]

I'm able to start work well because of the urgency of it and vital need to pay bills and rent but everything else is so hard to begin. I experience every thing on this list. I was diagnosed at 38 three years ago, after having a bit of a meltdown during covid I had to figure out what was wrong and after watching one of your videos I sought help. So powerful was the effect of the video that I immediately stopped watching anything to do with autism because I was afraid I might affect the results of their assessment. I should not have worried because it was the only test I've ever passed so well. Sorry it has taken three years for this but thank you for your channel and understanding.

[@lonewhitewolf7772]

I can relate to about two thirds of this list , some key points for me are smells , I will get a headache if it is a very strong scent or a strong gag reflex as well. I talk to myself and always have as a way to remember things such as an errand list corner store, back , groceries. Sounds I have a very challenging time if someone has a voice I find irritating , I couldn't be with a partner or friend if I didn't like their voice. Unwritten rules , can't we just have a huge manual for life it would be so much easier ! Great video one of your best that I have seen.

[@althelor]

Im only about 3/4 through the video so far, and you have already said at least 4 things that made me either think or say some variation of "oh my god someone finally gets it" out loud. Especially speaking out loud, you basically gave the exact explanation I give people who question me when I talk to myself, almost word for word. That and the coffee spilling. You perfectly described how I am with drinks that I constantly spill a little of. Yes I could pour slightly less coffee in my mug, but if I did that... it wouldn't be full *enough.*

[@grow_wild]

Amazing sequel list. I laughed so hard I spat my drink out twice. I wonder if what I'm feeling might be akin to how allistic people feel when they share inside jokes with their friends. It's great feeling like I'm on the inside, instead of the outside, for once! Thanks for being exactly who you are and sharing it with the world!!!

[@MGriffin-u8x]

Unequal skill levels.. so true! Excellent as always Orion! Thanks!

[@eralfion5316]

I noticed recently that my visual perception is actually overloaded, that's why I can't see things in the big picture and that's why things fall apart to individual details. And if I cover up part of my field of view (like letting my hair fall in, or even if I just watch videos and paly games on a lower resolution (which eliminates the unnecessary details and the sharp borders) I can see and process things much more easily. I can follow poeple's and character's movements, body language, easier to understand their emotions, etc. This small thing (narrowing my field of view) makes such a big difference I was so frustrated about it taking 30 years to notice it. Like before this I would have found your shirt very tasteless, bc it just overwhelms my brain, but now I can process it pretty well. Edit: just spelling

[@JamieAdventurer12]

Each trait I put a check on it, 20 out of 20! I am already diagnosed autistic, but still watch those traits to convince me even more. Definitely perfectionist!

[@tamberjune]

Sitting here with this on as loud as possible trying to drown out the crunching of my partner's chips. I'm so freaking angry and trying to not throw them across the room. It literally is painful. Please believe your family and friends and patients and clients and coworkers. We can get through this together

[@daezea]

Dude you're hilarious! I laughed so much watching this video, especially when you started imitating a talk show host (30:28 and forward). You talked about so many things that resonated with my experiences. Great content, it makes me feel seen.

[@daezea]

I lost it at 32:17 "You're being a good host. A HOST? We're back at the talk show??" 😂😂

[@Kewlausgirl]

Just a shout out here for those of you with Autism & ADHD. Yes, you can have both! And yes it's absolute chaos. 😂 So, I check most of these boxes but... My ADHD masks it so much more. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago (at 36 woo) & with Autism this year (just around my birthday actually lol) at 38. Never thought I'd be Autistic. But this channel really helped me to finally see it. My Psych thought it was anxiety at first but really it was my Autistic side coming out more when I started having my ADHD meds. My ADHD brain chilled out a little & my Autism side was like "Finally! The monkey is also! We can get all this stuff done that we keep procrastinating on!!" Suddenly it became harder to put things away or let things go. It became harder to deal with noises that I used to ignore up until a certain point or until I couldn't handle it anymore. But it was really hard to figure out the autistic side. What really highlighted it was that the anxiety medication didn't work & messed me up - a lot more than the Psych had seen before. But he's also only an ADHD Psychiatrist, not an Autistic one. Now I think they really need to be both. But the Psych did suggest the idea of being possibly also Autistic. To look into it a little & then if I wanted I could get an assessment. I had only known the non functioning autism so I thought it wasn't likely. But I came across this channel (and Autism on the Inside) and it was able to explain it to me better. I also looked up about girls with autism - didn't have as much on females, but went through the girls with autism & looked at it with the perspective of my childhood. And holy cow it was a really nice learning experience for me haha. One thing that really helped was going through the symptoms you listed, and another channel had called "autism bingo" - but my partner and I went through it together. I really needed his perspective on it because it turns out I have awful self awareness 😅 So, going through the autism symptoms helped, I found a lot of things I did as a child, dredged up some fun memories that had been forgotten of trying to communicate with my parents and just melting down and crying because I couldn't understand why everyone was mad at me... Why no one was understanding what I was trying to say, why everyone thought I was "being smart" or "playing everyone". Yeah, pretty sure that has little T triggers for me now too. Yay for rejection sensitivity! Anyhow I went through the Autism Assessment and man it's harder for people later in life. But I found out I had low self awareness, I can't read more complex facial expressions and I also have the whole word thing where I get mixed up with words, regardless if they are similar or if they just sound the same, and I wish forget words. But these traits are pretty common with people with Autism as well. Anyhow, I just wanted to share this all with everyone. Especially for those of you who might be thinking you relate to some things but not all parts of Autism. Especially if you have ADHD. For me, the ADHD side was much more pronounced than my Autistic side. But I'm absolutely glad to have gone through both diagnoses because I am able to understand myself so much better now because if it. ❤ So, thank you Orion Kelly!! ❤ it's been a huge help!!

[@franchesca411]

Having both is exhausting 🥴. I too am late diagnosed. 48 Adhd 49 ASD, I'm currently 51.

[@Kewlausgirl]

@@franchesca411 oh no you poor thing. But I'm glad you found out now! It definitely helps finding out exactly how you work. Hopefully it gets better in the long run for the both of us 😺🥰

[@BrittneyHillsbery]

No one ever follows the script!!!!

[@janismorris4336]

I laughed all the way through because I can so, so relate! Especially that last one, and oh, I am so clumsy. I relate to almost everything you said. A few months ago I asked God why my life had been the way it had, and why I had done the things that I had done. I immediately saw some videos about Asperger's, and what a revelation that was. I had read some articles on autism a good 40 years ago, and had decided that I was slightly autistic. Actually, I am definitely autistic. It explains everything. Thank you for your videos!

[@helenaskew4851]

Orion watching you on this made me think of me past and now thankyou

[@deborahmason7240]

Thank you for creating these videos!

[@JannatMiranda]

All of them except 7, 13, 14. Thank you for your help. It's greatly appreciated.

[@neurodiversityalumni]

I swear you are in my head and describing me to the whole world! Awesome video! 100% spot on! Thank you for giving it a name.

[@MelanieSteenwyk]

Thank you so much Mr. Kelly for a hilarious but extremely accurate description of our autistic world. You nailed it in this video. I love your sense of humor that is wrapped in truth.

[@DreaAbercrombie]

OH wow 😳 definitely hit the mark 100%. I honestly thought something was really, really not right about the fact that I talk to myself a lot..... and everything else that you described was exactly what it's like inside my brain. It's still a little bit of a shock for me to hear you explaining basically everything I have issues with! I clip the door frame with my shoulder constantly and I am absolutely a clumsy person!! LoL I am so appreciative of your videos and honest discussions regardless of how embarrassing it might seem to admit that I will probably trip over nothing and Grover my way through life! Hilarious and true 🤣

[@monicajuarbe8972]

It took me until your explanation of neurotypical thinking to understand why associating books and summer wasn't normal, haha

[@tamberjune]

Summer was reading frenzy time

[@althelor]

It's not? I thought people would naturally associate those due to all the summer reading programs that libraries do or the summer reading assignments that schools would give.

[@DJ-qu5oo]

“I’m Orion I’m your host” I remember this voice like it was yesterday. 😂

[@beauty4love266]

I feel truly seen in every way! I talk so much to myself and narrate everything. I will even sing about what I am doing. Even while watching this video, I stopped this a few times to reflect on a few conversations I have had in the past about how literal I tend to be. When people do not ask, I do not share and they want me to READ in between the lines or assume I understand what they mean, when I really don't. When masking I use to "assume" I understood a lot only to be left confused and angst. Also the part about inconsistent skills and clumsy is a definite one for me as well. Thank you for this video and for all the comments. These comments and hearing other people experience and stories make me feel seen and not alone on this journey of discovery.🥰

[@malenkoicp]

22:45 I once heard a question in a pub quiz that had me a bit confused but then when the answer was provided I haven't been able to stop thinking about it "what does CAPTCHA stand for in IT" (this is the prove your not a robot by selecting all the traffic lights software when doing things on the internet) C - completely A - automated P - public T - Turing Test To Tell C - computers and H - humans A - apart

[@foxyfromthenorth]

I just found your channel yesterday and immediately became a fan. You are so pleasant to listen to and have a lot of valuable information to share. Your unedited/unscripted/unmasked videos are so nice ❤ So yeah I just ordered your book 🥰 lots of love from Denmark

[@laurahinks6653]

Ah... I relate to pretty much every single one of these! The reset.. one little mishap throwing off my whole set out routine. Over explaining things, mentally preparing for social events and playing out how I think it will go in my head and then being disappointed when it went absolutely nothing like that .. every damn time lol. Indecisiveness... That's a HUGE one for me. From what I wear that day, what I eat, what to buy in the grocery store... Decisions about the most simple things are like a nightmare... especially relate to the stress of eating out. Especially as I have dietary requirements from health issues which makes it even more restrictive... And God forbid my current hyper fixation food isn't available or someone makes it wrong 😂 Being brutally honest, stickler for fairness and justice. Gets me in trouble an awful lot. I just don't understand people who aren't authentic and who walk around being someone they aren't. Playing this role and putting on a mask. How exhausting. I feel like I have to do that enough to fit in to society and not be sent packing to the mental ward. Where the whole acting and and trying to be normal part comes in. I actually don't even know how to pretend half the time and it feels exhausting trying.. I think we just overthink it alot to be honest. Thank you for bringing up the hyper awareness of smells and talking to yourself. I honestly thought that was just me! I'm so sensitive to smells! And I narrate everything out loud. Sometimes forgetting I'm in public and do it in the supermarket about what I'm purchasing. Boy do I get some funny looks! Lol And oh wow the procrastination on starting tasks but once beginning being so hype focused that you are "in the zone" such a big relate for me ... Thank you so much for helping me feel validated and not alone. I get alot out of your content and a sense of belonging.

[@nathaliewilborts9869]

I am the 'smeller' at home. So growing up, we always ate soup in the evening (like a starter). My parents and siblings were eating like crazy and I would go *sniff* *sniff*. Guys, this soup has gone bad...they didn't even taste it because I often smelled it as it was just about to go bad. I still do that, whenever I am in doubt, I will take an extra sniff, and I will sniff out when food has gone bad (talking about fresh food like soups and meat).

[@mammajamma4959]

Im undx 64 mother of 2 autistic sons, wow since I've been watching you I now know I am also. I resonate with every single one of these, as well as past lists. whew. My son gets so annoyed when I talk to myself, sometimes I actually wish I could lie lol. Perfume sends me into panic, etc etc Thanks so much Orion!

[@KaylaLKwon]

I’m also a person with autism that am part nonverbal And I agree to all of this. Especially, the sensory aspect. Smell, hearing, sightedness(for me, farsightedness), etc. I fake myself, talk to myself, and I get a burnout after I come home. Procrastinating then hyper focussing.. and really everything else in this video. Thank you for this video Orion! I love your videos😁

[@Green_Roc]

20:01 Trait 14 - This 'perfectonism' developed as I didnt like being punished. Punishments hurt. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. My nervous system on constant overdrive.

[@roylapin2806]

My brain always goes for worst possible outcome of a situation, but then I was right about Facebook (psychology and data) and 23 and me (with the recent hack), so there is that lol

[@kevingibson3881]

Sooo damn relatable. Thank you for helping us feel a little less alone, Orion!

[@mountainheather]

I have conversations in my head before... and even moreso after, I replay the interaction, even small ones in my mind. If anything went the wrong way, I play through how I wish it would have gone as well. It's automatic it seems.

[@LeonardBaerg]

8:00 Some perfumes, air fresheners, and scented cleaning products will give me an instant severe headache if I catch a whiff, yet I cannot smell skunk, odorized natural or LP gas, or a dirty bathroom. 17:20 I used to talk to myself all the time and now I sometimes mouth the words without voice and I'll still get questions about whether I'm ok or not. 22:45 Some things I can remember after seeing them once, like how high a certain mountain is, (in feet, not meters) but I can't remember your name if you tell me ten times. It helps if you write it down.

[@kathrynhaworth7599]

I got diagnosed last week. Everything feels weird now.

[@cherylfairbank]

Thank you! The very things I am belittled for, you have mentioned. Thinking aloud… literally… 😮

[@stevethewizard6502]

Well explained in a fun way, thanks! I don't identify with 4-5 of those traits, but the others I identify with strongly!

[@floridaLise]

I am LOVING your wardrobe choices.

[@fawnajohnson6130]

17:21 I narrate myself, but it is always quietly inside my own thoughts (or quietly mouthed to myself) and sometimes in 3rd person. I think it's because I like to write stories, so I'll often mentally rehearse my stories. When I don't have a particular story in mind, I'll just start narrating my actions ("She picked up the pen and began writing a grocery list." "She tossed the wrapper in the trash and pouted when she missed.")

[@CatS55587]

This is definitely my husband to a T!! I wish I knew about him being autistic early in marriage. It would have made things make more sense. We are, thankfully, still together. Learning about his autism is really helping us to grow together better. 😊 Lol it also doesn't help that I am ADHD inattentive. But we have learned to get along and still are on a daily basis. Thanks to God opening our eyes to these things.

[@Ingestohter]

Thank you so much for your videos 🩷

[@lumabi25]

The bulk of these definitely resonate with me, particularly the idea that most people were given the rule book for life, but I never got it.

[@alexandrawalters8953]

Hello thank you for this video. First, a confession: I figured this would be a list of things that were farther from the center; and the more I listened, I was saying (out loud, of course), “Yep. Uh huh. That’s spot on.” Darn near every item, as you described it, I was saying, “well, YEAH!” Can a person be quite relieved to be validated and seen, but also be kinda annoyed that so darn many of the things you talked about describe my life? Well done ☮️

[@erinevermay8926]

I found this video very funny. Thanks Orion!

[@raven4090]

I loved this. I'm formally diagnosed but I found this interesting anyway, because it's 100% identifiable.

[@msrottingroot46]

This video is 100% me. And speaking of your shirt…. It is pretty awesome!

[@RoweSandberg]

Yep, there are so many of these that apply to me. Only got a tentative diagnosis at age 57 but it explains so many things.

[@kristapittman7438]

Thank you for these videos

[@saraadams1391]

Great content!

[@homesteadgamer1257]

Yep lol. Talking about one topic opens up 10 browser tabs and usually the songs that topic reminds me of, and each open tab opens up another tab, and another tab, and another tab, and another song, and then I'm showing them pictures on my phone or things from my childhood.

[@autisticjenny]

Thank you! I love videos like this about autistic traits😊I pretty much skip social events bc my scripts don't work. I avoid them like the plague.

[@Green_Roc]

29:22 #19 - The unwritten rules, I cannot know. I grew up, watching my older brother knowing how to never get in trouble, to know exactly what's going on... the innate instructions he seemed to have been given that someone forgot to give me. This alone made me unemployable. I failed to know an unspoken instruction, and I failed job training.

[@zioah4560]

Thank You

[@malenkoicp]

When people ask you a "simple question" but the answer isn't simple because there are about 50 things that I need to tell you before I can answer the question in a way that you will understand. "So when are you moving house?" "well... in order to move house, I need to finish my renovations, but to finish the renovations I really just need to install the carpets and I am almost done, but to do that I need to fix the wall in the bedroom so I can paint it before the floors go in, but when taking the room apart I thought that if I am doing this wall, I may aswell do the other wall... so anywhere from next week to 5 months away is when I am moving..." "why not just say you don't know?" "because there will be follow up questions and I am just answering every question you were just going to ask me.... I could just give you vague answers and then get frustrated with your interrogation while you try and figure out what I am talking about, or I can just give you all the info your going to want to know in one hit so you can leave me alone to I can get my house ready to move..." "well I wasn't going to ask you any of that" "I am pretty sure you would have, because these are the conversations I constantly have with other people and myself" "Well I didn't want to know all that" "why are we still talking then?"

[@InterDivergent]

1. definitely. I have to put aside the entire day for one thing that knocks my schedule out. Tomorrow it'll be my bone density scan in the morning. This day is a write-off. Other days I do my best to minimise interruptions. 2. OMG "Why are you yelling?" "Why are you always trying to start an argument with me?" If I'm doing this, I'm passionate about something, and this is my expression coming out because I'm tone-deaf. 3. Over-explain 100%. 4. "Been there and done it before it's happened". And if something is out of place, it's time to leave or hide away somewhere. 5. I know the menu before I go. And if I can't get my hands on it, I'll need to go and get a copy from the joint before I go there on my planned outing. 7. Yes amazing at some things and very poor at some basic things that make no sense. If I can't pay cash at the self checkout (because the machine is not working), I'll drop my stuff and leave despite having a card I can use. And if a staff member should try to talk to me at self-checkout, I'll drop my stuff and leave. I am at self-checkout so I don't have to chit-chat. Leave me alone (for crying out loud). 8. Too honest. I tell people what I see/think/have been told. People don't tell me things any more as a result. And they say that I should know not to tell other people despite them not having told me that it was a secret. You can tell me whatever you want as long as you lay down the ground rules. I can keep a secret, if you tell me it's a secret. I mean if you don't, how on earth should I know? I'm not a mind reader. If I was, I'd be in a different profession. 10. I'll often repeat the last few words of a persons sentence, and I'll get accused of something, typically that I'm trying to annoy the person that's talking to me. 11. I'm not fake in any way. I will not laugh at a joke that I don't get (and that's quite often). 12. Who doesn't talk to themselves? 13. Starting, and finishing. 14. Always. As with no 1. 15. Who doesn't memorise licence plate numbers or phone numbers without even wanting to? My memory is otherwise very poor with most things that people expect me to remember. 16. "Hip and Shoulder people" lol. I knocked a person unconscious in the street once. Out like a light. Shoulder to the face. I don't even know how it was possible. 17. Coordination has always been poor. I thought it was on account of Klinefelter Syndrome. Perhaps not. 18. I have a sensitivity to quiet sounds that other people usually don't hear. Voices in other rooms, snakes in the grass. 19. I'm at my mates place and he comments on how good my hair looks. I say thank you. His wife says "And now you're supposed to comment back on how his hair looks". What? Why would I do that? I tell you what, by not commenting on his hair, well that's a comment in itself, because if I comment on anything, it's usually because I dislike it. My non-comment is a compliment in itself. 20. The cut in line I can relate to. I'll have a full blow out.

[@resourcedragon]

Oh, the person who cuts in! I had someone do that to me a couple of months ago, and I was shocked by how much it upset me. I vented to a couple of people about it and thought that would "get it out of my system" but I was still angry and venting the best part of a fortnight later.

[@duerremueller3609]

Okay so all of the above lmaooo but oh god going w the flow is a nightmare. If something goes off script enough, I sometimes feel like I literally need to either just go to bed and start over tomorrow or just do literally nothing whatsoever while internally combusting and wanting everything to be so reset that I practically want to flee the state are just restart my entire life lmao

[@eks2024]

Love the coffee part 😭

[@Mark-Bloom]

I recall a few traits explained to me at my assessment. The lady assessing me said there are some traits that don't get put online or in books in order to afford more reliable screening. One of the things I was asked in the assessment was if I carry something on my person always. When I asked 'like what?', she gave a list of seemingly random small items, the last of which was a stone or pebble. I then took a Welsh snow quartz pebble from my pocket and showed it to her, a little embarrassed 😂. Apparently this is a common theme noticed in recent years among autists. Another I recall was syntax - sentence structure - which deviates from the native dialect, that is. Adjoined to this is misuse of pronouns; not gender pronouns, necessarily, but saying 'you' and 'we' instead of 'I', or 'your' and 'our' instead of 'my'. That kind of idea. The only lesser-known traits she explained to me where the ones I exhibited first.

[@ncc-74656]

Remembering names is so hard. When I meet someone for the first time and they introduce themselves, I repeat the name a couple of times in my head. Completely useless offcourse as I've completely forgotten it a minute later. But I can remember random details connected to the conversation I've had with that person. It can range from what the person was wearing to a recollection of the weather that day or to remembering having difficulties finding a parking spot and finally finding a parking spot. So if I was to meet that person a couple of months later, I'm able to recollect the entire conversation by tapping into that specific drawer of memories. I just don't recall the name 😂

[@sallyhamilton7202]

I can't remember human's names. But if they tell me their dog's name I can remember it 3 years later.

[@Isaac-hm6ih]

The name of doesn't have any actual meaning, it's an arbitrary lable. I think that's the reason for me, anyway. I remember people by the interactions I've had with them, then try to recall the name other people file that person under afterwards.

[@homesteadgamer1257]

Even long after a situation, like 10+ years after, I will STILL go over every other possible outcome, especially when the actual event didn't go smoothly.

[@peterdalton200]

I had the same problem only yesterday at Lorne Street park. I was an over explainer to the neighbours, to Michael and to Jackie.

[@pookahchu]

Right! When I ask for an honest opinion, I WANT an honest opinion. NTs tend to be "yes" men!

[@jcollins3182]

Oh my gosh, i always say that my superpower is the ability to spill coffee on myself!

[@ShadoeLandman]

I love your shirt ❤ Beautiful combination of colors.

[@Capricornrose73]

I'm 50 was diagnosed as a child. I was reading, writing and doing mathematic s at 3 y.o. I am a terrific problem sol er and yet I can't tie my shoes properly. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🥴

[@deirdrestatham5730]

@@Capricornrose73 I still can’t tie my shoes the way everyone kept trying to teach me. When I was 9 my dad showed me the “bunny ears” way and I finally “got it”. 🤣 I still can’t do the loop-swoop-and-pull shoe tying technique.

[@Piroschatz44]

Tie my shoes....it took me weeks and months of practice until i was able to do it. Same was with riding a bike....While others simply sat on the saddle and pedaled, I kept falling over to the side 😒 But give me something with numbers or problem solving and my brain sees only a long list of possible solutions and delivers ideas and suggestions like an erupting volcano and it looks like a never ending pool.

[@FlyyGirl1000]

And as a 27 year old woman who’s about to be 28 next month ♒️, I’ve been having epiphanies and I’ve came to understand my own complexities & psychology & I have an exceptionally sharp memory. I guess being on the spectrum allows you to pay obsessive attention to detail.

[@kernanandrews3374]

Do I narrate my every thought and action and even analyse making a cup of tea? OH YES I DO!!!

[@whimsicallyyours1206]

My brain remembers the flavors and combinations of spices in food dishes. Even individual herbs.

[@stevethewizard6502]

I didn't think I was an over-explainer because I was thinking about work scenarios. However, your Hawaiian shirt explain rang a bell for me. So, I asked my wife if I was an over-explainer and she didn't have to contemplate at all. She just cuddled me and say I was adorable :). Sometimes I just can't tell when my wife is getting bored of something I'm explaining. She said she complained in the past to her daughter who is a psychologist. She replied that I just don't have the ability to read face expressions that way. However, I know that I can. It just takes me quite a while. Maybe I miss the early clues... Also, even when I noticed my wife is bored, I often have to complete my explanation anyway 😅. No official autism diagnosis, but my psychologist step-daughter has long thought that I was on the spectrum. It seems that getting an official diagnosis is very expensive anyway and what advantages does it offer? I do have a bipolar type 1 diagnosis and suspect ADHD also.

[@windalfalatar333]

7:46 I also want all the details from the menu the same I want all the details from everything. I realise people in general don't read the copyright (©️) information. I read the copyright (©️) information because I want and need to read everything or I feel unwell psychologically. I read the copyright (©️) informationon placards at museums. Some allistic people get angry with me at museums because I spend an extremely long amount of time (by their standards) reading everything including the copyright (©️) information on all the placards of all the available languages or at least English and the local language, though sometimes of all the languages, as well as spending several minutes studying the details extremely well of the displayed object because I won't go to the museum every day and I don't want to miss out on anything.

[@BrooklynMorgan-sh7nf]

I relate to most of these as an audhd adult female but the two things a little different for me is my voice being too quiet unless I am trying to whisper rather than loud and having the ability to fake giggle at others jokes as a way to mask/avoid conflict. As an autistic woman, these have then come across as flirting when it is indeed a mask that young girls are given (regardless of nuerotype). It's always interesting to me to see how much I relate but also the differences that can happen just based on the way someone is brought up/gendered as Orion has explored on the channel before.

[@roylapin2806]

Can totally relate to you. Despite my user name I'm a woman who turned 50 this year and the pressure put upon girls to behave and act how society thinks you should be is really bad and even more so in the 1970s and 80s. I think girls and women who are autistic tend to mirror those around them more. For voice volume example, after college I worked in London for half a year and when I came back, everyone was like, why are you so quiet. Fast forward 23 years and after working with a group on New Yorkers and moving to a team where I live, my coworkers complained to our manager I was too loud...

[@FlyyGirl1000]

I’ve learned I was on the spectrum since I was diagnosed at 17. I now see why my most of my ignorant peers wrote me off as weird, when I’m simply just too complex for them to understand. Even I’m too complex for my own family to understand 🤧

[@myfirstseven]

Wow, great video Orion. Thank you. I experience most of these, to different degrees of intensity. Since receiving an ADHD Dx, and being treated, some of them are increasing in how intensely the effect me. How does one get a proper diagnosis? My docs haven’t said a dang thing about autism being a possibility.

[@migi5374]

100% on needing a reset

[@richetonmarie-christine1835]

So true !

[@dominichadley2712]

I was watching the part about the ‘taking things more literally’ and you literally said ‘It’s Logic & Science’ right after me 🤣🤣 Great literal logical minds think alike 😉😝

[@Vicious-Spiral]

Overexplaning... loud voice... yep. I try to control this, but it often dosn't work. I never mentally run events on beforehand through my mind, because it always turns out different and gets me in more trouble. Btw, @Orion: your book just arrived to me in Belgium, and I love it. The content, very personal and easy to read, but foremost: the way it's written, with sidenotes with arrows and all... it kinda represents how I or my brain operates!!! ❤❤❤❤ Edit: echolalia, in my case is NOT soothing, it's irritating: I go to sleep with it, and it's the first thing in my brain when I wake up... for days, sometimes weeks... and it's always BS: songs I hate, a fragment of the news, a name that suddenly pops to mind, the sound of sandblasting... that kind of trash, never "benevolent" 😢

[@angelagregoire6811]

Freaking Eternal Flame by Bangeles has been in my head for 6 months

[@fabutrash]

I'll often quote Mommie Dearest. Christina: Why did you tell her I got expelled?! Joan: Because you did get expelled!!

[@tomh5094]

Taste is heavily connected to smell. Flavour is essentially volatile molecules that are released from food in the form of vapor that are picked up by receptors in your nose. That signal is sent to a part of the brain that speaks directly with memory. That's why smell is such a massive trigger of memory.

[@IndigoAngel1448]

I'm insecure about my autism. How do I feel better about myself when there's always a new trait popping up for whatever reason and everyone's given up trying to understand me? Telling me I'm making excuses to not help myself, when all I'm trying to do is explain?

[@cherylfairbank]

Remember there’s nobody like you! Celebrate who you are, regardless of the judgement and criticism others who are so-called experts on everything. Only you can be you. We need you. You make a difference in our lives.

[@roylapin2806]

I'm sorry to hear that. I know when I sometimes explain myself, I get the "oh well I have that issue too" and I'm like mine is different and trying to articulate how so people don't think you're making excuses is hard and I still struggle. Luckily I am around nice, professional people so they don't come right out and tell me I'm only making excuses. I direct people to places with info that I think explains best, either books or websites, or channels like Orions. All the neurotypical has to do is watch and read the comments to see our traits are a real thing and not an excuse. Cause how could we all make same excuses... nope. It's real.

[@TOGSolid]

I could feel my own hawaiian shirt fixation wanting to info dump when you started talking about that ahaha