We went for our baby carrot's 3D scan! and birth plan dilemmas we are facing.. ๐ซถ Gabie's IG: / gabiekook โจGabie's recipe book : bit.ly/3Jx69QV
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@crazykittensmiles15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Josh, I'd like to say this to you, as a mother who had a baby through the NHS. There may be a point where you have to be forceful with the midwives, not in a cruel way, but in a firm assertive way. Be insistent. If Gabby cannot go forward with the situation she could be in, it's down to you to stand up for her when she's most vulnerable. I didn't have this during my birth which ended up in an emergency C-section after 50 hours of non-productive labour. I had to fight and yell, literally. To make them give me the C-section. No one listened to me or stood up for me when I knew something was wrong. I know you're a good man and will do whatever you have to for your beautiful wifeโค. Please don't let this frighten you, just be aware of what you may have to do. Sending this message with love for you all.
@sapphireemerald610915 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Hi, can I ask you where you're from? Did they deny you a csection when you've in a NP labor for 50 hours?
@stephanietraylor605215 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I second this. Guys wonder what they can do when their wife is in labour. T best answer is advocate for her when she is too vulnerable to advocate for herself. My husband did this for me and I truly believe he saved my sonโs life. Sometimes unfortunately midwives in the UK donโt listen.
@stephanietraylor605215 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
My sons heart rate was dropping massively with every contraction and the midwives said it was because the contractions were so strong they were losing contact. They put a clip on babyโs head to measure the heart rate a different way to reassure my husband but it showed that the heart rate was actually dropping that low. 30 minutes later I had my baby out with ventouse. All the best guys.
@IA-tu7ld15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
@@sapphireemerald6109 since she said NHS, her birthing experience must be in the UK. NHS is very anti c section, there were many policies in place that capped hospitalsโ c section rates. it has caused much grief to many families. they are now doing inquiries and investigations on the c section denial issue, if you google it itโll come up
@jonok4215 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
โ@@stephanietraylor6052midwives and labor/delivery nurses in the US can be this way also. People need to remember, these people are NOT obstetricians, and sonetimes they just don't have the expertise to make these decisions, but they believe they do. Make sure you or your coach/partner are able to stand your ground and demand a obstetrician make the call. I had an emergency c-section also. Don't let anyone jeopardize your or your babies lives and well being!
@purplesodina15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
When Josh said, "This is not my decision." I felt that. That is how a true partner thinks, and acts.
@starsose583313 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Thatโs exactly how I felt!!! ๐ Josh is literally the best husband โค
@sandrajintoorkar318115 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I'm going to be blunt. Giving birth is painful. Don't be a hero. Get the epidural. Have that baby in a hospital, you can have have all the plans in the world, but things can happen in an instant that are out of your control. You want an immediate response. Best of luck on your delivery! โค
@alicehughes492615 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
also people underplay the very common complications of natural birth, incontinence etc are common following a natural birth. Also the UK seems waaay too reluctant to do C-sections, even if it is safer- my sister in law and her sister had their first kids naturally-and their pelvises were too small for it to be safe- they were both very lucky to get through and both needed transfusions afterwards. Don't be a hero, and do consider C-section if it is even suggested
@nanmattingly640215 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
@@alicehughes4926 Read my entry above. My pelvis was too small also, and after 59 hours of labor, finally had a c-section. C-sections are SURGERY under anathesia! It is NOT natural birth, and it is NOT safer. Your body is equipped for birth, not surgery, and the shock to the body produces many more afteraffects than natural.
@nikkirockznikkirockz855115 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
ALL births are Not "painful", I know plentyyy of women who do noT have complicated births so she should noT get that unless absolutely necessary!
@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
This is pure ignorance โ@@nikkirockznikkirockz8551
@nikkirockznikkirockz855115 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
@@shishurhuhajhso No One can say what it'll be, that doesn't need to be said-my point is that she should Only take it if necessary, otherwise an "epidural-free" birth could actually go quite smoother and faster. That shouldn't be hard for anyone to understand what I wrote in the most simplest terms-no need to complicate things.
@tiredhuman7715 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Hey Gabbie! Iโm a nurse, nothing in medicine is a 100% safe we canโt promise that but from what I have seen some moms would come in rejecting the epidural but 5 hours into the pushing process they give up and ask for it. The amount of pain you will experience is unexplainable so donโt make it harder for yourself, make it as smooth as possible. One thing I would add is the amount of strain you put on yourself does affect the baby and the longer the process and pushing the more risk for the babyโs heart beat to decrease. I had this hilarious mom who would wait with her husband for the epidural to ring ( itโs patient controlled anesthesia) to press for it, they made it a fun activity.
@gattamom15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I did my first 2 births all naturalโฆthey were grueling 24-26 hours. On my third I โcavedโ and got an epidural. OMG, it was like a vacation.
I concur with you. Josh would also have to be assertive when advocating for Gabi when she is in active labour when there are midwives or a staff member being complacent or too aggressive when foremost part is they listen to Gabi when she is the 1 living in her skin, flesh & bone.
@EnitZee14 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
On this show about women having babies, I saw one woman who opted for no epidural. At one point, she was in so much pain and shaking. It looked like she was having seizures, but she wasnโt. She ended up having an epidural.
@JJ-fr3id15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Best birthing advice ever is - Just Surrender. Surrender to the fear, surrender to the pain, surrender to whatever happens. Enjoy your last few moments as a couple, because once the baby is born, itโs a hectic flurry of changing nappies, breast-feeding, sleepless nights, crying etc. Just surrender to it all from a state of relaxed happiness, and know that all is well, no matter how your baby comes earthside. Remember back to when this was your wish? When all you wanted was to be pregnant? Donโt let a day go by without being grateful for the blessing, and just surrender and be in the now moment. All will be well. Enjoy x
@helloTracey15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
'Surrender' was my mantra going into each of my births - you can't control what happens, so you might aswell trust in your body and go with it. Experience it intentionally, be curious about how incredible your body is. If you need drugs, go for it. If you need intervention, let's go. If you get through it without anything, then that's good too. It's not a competition and no one should judge you for what happens, not even ourselves. xx
@lindabridget4915 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Excellent advice
@pinker81214 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
As if you have a choice๐๐๐
@ES-ku3oe14 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I must have a different personality type, this sounds terrifying to me. That said I was terrified of giving birth and opted for the c section โบ๏ธ
@nanolist909014 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
True.
@sondrafant36015 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
You both have fought so hard just to be pregnant with your baby girl. Donโt let delivery scare you I had my first with drugs and my second natural. Thereโs no right or wrong itโs whatever makes yโall happy. Iโm now 70 years old and I can still recall my pure joy at giving birth. You will be fine. Trust in the Lord because with Him youโve got this!! Peace, love and blessings from Oklahoma โค๏ธ
@najatm15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Josh is such a great partner. That's what every woman needs.
Elderly? I hope that is a lost in translation thing!
@kristie79713 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
โ @@nicolad8822 yep:) kinda misleading. it means like She is not giving birth in early age, could be little bit older compared to other ppl who's giving birth. And there is a short term for that in Korean that could be bit misleading ๐ (bc it's an old term came from chinese character so translator might get it wrong) The commenter is saying they definitely need ephidural because there's higher chance that Gabie could have more pain or risk situation bc of age factorโบ๏ธ
I've had 3 babies with 3 very different labours - epidural, no epidural and then emergency c-section. Each where as scary but as powerful as each other because I got to see how strong I could be, and what my body can do (with and without intervention) to bring my babies into the world. We're incredible no matter what happens xx
@OuCuiHua15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
What I learned from my birthing classes was that if I could RELAX, my body would open up and baby would come out. I chose a home birth, which was beautiful and best for me, but maybe not best for everyone. I would recommend getting answers to all your questions, then doing what will help you be the most relaxed during labor and delivery. For example, I learned that only 1 in 10 women who birth at home need to be transferred to hospital. That gave me peace of mind about my decision to birth at home. Praying for you!
@seasalt615 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I had a similar experience with home birth! I agree it's not best for everyone, we are all such different people with different factors in our lives.
You should check out Sarahโs Day first birth. She went for a natural birth but she was so tense that her muscles actually prevented her from birthing, the epidural was needed to relax everything. Whatever you all decide, itโs right for you, regardless of what hospitals prefer.
@sapphireemerald610915 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Our body is crazy. I went in for scheduled csection at 37 weeks. 2 hours and a half before going in the OR they inserted the catheter and the result of that my water broke immediately. Doctors didn't say the reason that happened but because I went through the same thing with my first daughter, I suspect it was because of stress. Crazy how our body can response to things.
@sharonk8083 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I had to do an emergency c-section, because my son's heart rate dropped too low. I was so worried about my son. My doctor assured me that once they get me into the operating room, they could get him out in 6 seconds if they had to. They didn't have to rush that fast because, luckily, his heart rate stabilized, but it was reassuring that the doctors and staff know what they're doing. You will be fine. And the epidural is the BEST thing ever. (In my opinion) There is no right and wrong. You do what feels right for you. So excited to see baby Carrot! Congratulations again!
Yall so cute โค๐ฅฒโค๏ธ I hope you have a safe delivery and healthy babyโค๏ธ
@user-jl2gw9qb7y15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Absolutely adore how you can see the love between you two and how much your daughter will be loved. Congrats
@Ouranorable15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
You guys discussing your impressions as well as all the pro/cons is SO good, bc people get very up in arms about this subject very quickly (thinking that one is the correct choice and all the others are wrong). Good idea!
@ellieb291415 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
You guys are going to do great, whatever you decide! So excited for you both to meet your baby girl!
Gabi, you look more and more beautiful with each day. Baby girl, Carrot, is a real beauty. Enjoy each day and each and every change your body goes through... you're growing a miracle! Congratulations! โค๐
@leesepoll695415 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Iโm so happy for you Guys . Youโre in my prayers โค๏ธ
Also, remember that sometimes the epidural don't work! I had 2 epidural, and both didn't work! I had both babies 5 weeks early and both came out perfectly fine! Just learn to surrender to your body! Let your body do what it has to do to get the baby out! When you are in the moment.. nothing else matters but your health and the baby health!
@debbie545415 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I like how Josh is supporting you and letting you decide whatever is best for you. I know I was most comfortable having an epidural. I had two beautiful girls with epidural and it worked beautifully. Prayers yours goes very smoothly.
@JoeMama-kz4sx3 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Did you gain any after effects? A lot of people I know who had epidural said they got long term back pains as a result. So Iโm really undecided about the decision to do it if I ever do have a child. The unpredictability of it all is what scares me because all women are different and respond differently to things. And itโs hard to know what to do until youโre in that position. Itโs scary for sure.
@debbie54543 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
@@JoeMama-kz4sx I did not have any after effects, although the epidural actually only worked on one side of my body for my second daughter. They tried to get me to lay on my other side, but it was too late because it was time to push. But still it did help. And it worked absolutely perfectly for my first daughter. Itโs something that you have to decide for yourself for sure. Wishing you the best.
@mcneca115 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I love how supportive Josh is with your potential choices!
@Blossom6919015 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Omg weโre all here for you and we all hope you make it through safely! โค
They baby looks like Josh so far! Lots of luck going forward.
@lisaholt362715 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Sweet Gabie, your body is getting ready for sleepless nights. My babies are in their late thirties and forty. But I remember waking up during the night and not being able to sleep, while I was still working. Then when baby was born, they woke me up at the exact time I was during pregnancy. Labor is hard, no doubt. But you do what makes you and Josh most comfortable, and safe for precious baby girl. She is beautiful, and your life will never be the same. Oh the joy awaiting you both!
This was such a nice and healing topic to watch and itโs so cute to go with you guys throughout this journey! I cried my eyes out after you guys have been trying and itโs finally getting to the day! Congrats again and Iโve come to appreciate my mum more watching the process haha
i wish you all the best for you and your family โค๏ธ may your little carrot be born healthy and happy without any complications. you guys are always in my thoughts, stay strong!!
@brandispry57615 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I am so excited for yall! Gabbie you are going to do wonderfully no matter what you choose. I love how supportive Josh is and how ready you are to see your baby girl. Seeing your baby for the first time is hands down the moment jn life that will instantly change you forever โคโคโค
@beckyrinaldi662215 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
You two are going to be amazing parents!
@pixhu18215 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
The only thing i know is that Gabbie's tears are contagious. Everytime she cries, I cry lol.
You have been on such a long emotional journey for this baby. I am so happy for you. ๐
@Vicki9456515 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
So excited for the both of you! Not too much longer and you will get to see your baby girl and hold her in your arms. Hope your delivery is smooth with no complications.
@WaltUM-wl8ys15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I am hooked with you two! Jour journey be it the beginning of EnglishKoreanman and your married life and now this pregnancy, mind-blowing to say the least!. All is well. All will be well!!
In Singapore, we recommend nvd with epidural. Why suffer from pain like mediaeval times when our technology and medicine have improved by leaps and bounds? Also not recommending c section, unless absolute medical indications to go ahead. Not so much of risk to baby, rather, mum has to deal with both short term (wound healing and pain, possible skin infection) and potential long term (adhesional intestinal onstruction) complications. Nvd is still the way, where possible.
The same happened to me. Water broke Saturday afternoon, my baby boy was born Monday at 8 pm.
@TheOriginal1GypsyWoman14 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Josh is correct. Gabi, you have to do what makes you the most comfortable. This means you are more relaxed and less stressed for the entire experience. That makes it easier on your body. You guys are going to be amazing parents! Can't wait for photos of the beautiful baby carrot! ๐งก
I cried for the way you said that you feel are ready to meet her, that's love.๐
@JmarxA15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Stay strong Gabie! We're all excited to see baby carrot! We'll pray for your safe delivery
@haryhary39915 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
If you don't have any difficulty, try normal birth as first option, take epidural as second and C-section for a last choice. You heal fast if you gave birth normal and its a bit slow for C-section. Women giving birth is full of risk, normal or C-section, its going to be painful, but its all worth it when you meet the little one! Will be waiting the day you both meet carrot! Good luck & Fighting!
@ibrahimesther15 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
100% agree
@lamianaggelas179015 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
Agree
@courtney48915 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
All births are โnormalโ, I think thatโs the key thing to point out here.
@maymaymaia913915 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I canโt tell you how happy I am to see you guys becoming parents, my sister had very similar struggles but after manyโs years I FINALLY HAVE A NIECE!!!!! So I wish you all the happiness and health x I just remember crying so much during this journey and when you said you were pregnant I cried because I knew how much it meant.
@jennjenns548513 ะบาฏะฝ ะฑาฑััะฝ
I cannot WAIT to see Baby Carrot out of the belly!!! She's going to be so beautful and so loved!!! I had a baby girl 26 years ago, and she was the best thing that happened to me. I had a 29-hour long, fairly painful labor, but I got drugs to ease the pain, and instead of an epidural, I got a single shot in the spine, which *I* thought made me sleep for two hours, but I guess I was awake and talking to people. But after the two hours, it was time to push, and she came out perfect (well, a little hairier than I thought babies could be...she looked like a little chimpanzee!!!)!!! It'll be a great experience, and honestly, I didn't remember the pain when I saw the little hands and feet and lips and deep dark eyes. It'll be exceptional. :-) You two are in my prayers!!!