OUR LOBOLA DAY STORY

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@zammajola 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations again to Mr and Mrs Ngaleka.Lobola day is comedic, romantic and interesting.I remember our day, amazing and perfect…I loved it. We only did our ANC after our lobola. Hubby sent an email. We also had a discussion of the expectations so there would be no extortion. The calling of clan names was very funny…they only knew Mhayise and Ngele. I think woman should also advise their families to avoid a bitter lobola negotiation. How you start a marriage does a lot for your future. 💕💕💕

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Some family members just make the process very frustrating . I'm just glad it's done .

@sehlodirachel3220 2 жыл бұрын

My lobola day I had goosebumps and at that time i didn’t know enough about what is gonna happen I just wanted things to be done after my then boyfriend proposed we have been together for almost 10 years now and we r about to do a big traditional wedding …during that 10 years I learnt a lot … we stumbled and fall through learning and discovering each other but one thing I’m grateful for is the fact that our relationship still looks like it’s I’m excited And ready ….our wedding it’s just our celebration of our journey together 👌👌😍

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Congrats !!!!!

@sehlodirachel3220 2 жыл бұрын

@@GuguMazibuko thank you

@NtandoMHope 2 жыл бұрын

Your excitement is evident throughout the video, G. Congratulations to you both. 🍾 I wanted to clarify two cultural things as an FYI, concerning imali that was paid after you were identified & ugwayi wezalukazi/wogogo. #1. the money Tshepo's family paid after you were identified, is imali eyokuhloniphisa (umakoti). It is traditionally not money, but a scarf. As a sign of respect to umakoti (as with all people in general,) kwaZulu, she is not pointed at directly, but is drapped in the scarf. With modernization, that scarf is accepted as money... This is scarf is one that umakoti will wear when around her inlaws going forward & is threefold in nature. (in no particular order) 1. The scarf is a display of how well umakoti was raised, by dressing respectfully (which is usually a midi/long length dress/skirt, doek on her head & a shawl over her shoulders or another scarf across her shoulder-waist, but really is at the discretion of her family - until a time where she is welcomed into the groom's family, and they then prescribe what she ought to wear). 2. The scarf is a sign of respect to her inlaws (in the same way that she was respected; wahloniphiswa with a scarf), she is expected to maintain that. 3. Remembering that historically, the institute of marriage is entered into between a boy/man & a maiden (who is bare breasted), the scarf is a marker that intentifies the stage of life umakoti is undergoing (where she can no longer do/dress as maidens do), kufanele azothe & only at this point of life, assumes modesty. #2. Ugwayi wezalukazi/wogogo is the ingqaqamazinyo or mvulamlomo for the women in the bride's family... Because women do not sit at the discussion table, they must be presented with “evidence” of what happened at the table. For other families, ugwayi is asked for at the table, after the negotiations, & is how the said women are shown that things went well. On account of the women's modesty, ugwayi may be a token of encouragement to ululate (louder). The ululation is what would spark dialogue amongst the (women of the) community on the beautiful thing that's happened for Family XYZ, & outline the need for helping hands in preparing for the endless festivities that are still to take place - remembering that “it takes a village.” Makukhanye. ✨

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Wow , I didn't know this . Thank you for the points babes .

@philadube3129 2 жыл бұрын

Mr and Mrs Ngaleka💕🤩love the sound of it.... congrats you guys, this is amazing 😍👌

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@samukelisiwegamede4380 2 жыл бұрын

Wow this is beautiful 🥰 and on what Tshepo came across in terms of what abakhongi did fighting he must not worry there's always that one person who will try to mess things out but I'm glad everything was a success. Congratulations Ngalekas❤️❤️

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sooo much babes

@ThembisileBFP 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful couple❤️

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@bomikazingcingwana8800 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations on your union Gugu, may it always be a blessed and happy one ❤

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much

@zodwathabede1024 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful story guys Kodwa all am saying is if there's people who will hlazisa you on your big day ,definitely family...😂🤞🏽 There's always that one uncle nje...😛

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

So true

@mpumitwala2614 2 жыл бұрын

I think there may be a misconception/misunderstanding or maybe my case was an exception I don't know. My part 1 of lobola was in February and part 2 was in a few months later then after that in September we saw a lawyer and signed a prenup and had umembeso and signing ceremony in November. The lawyer didn't let us know that once lobola is paid it's automatically in COP but then again she was white. The whole process was quick and cost us R3000. The lawyer and the prenup was actually recommended by our pastor during premarital counseling since he had done his through the very same lawyer.

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

www.lawforall.co.za/family-relationships/customary-marriages-in-south-africa/#:~:text=A%20customary%20marriage%20is%20automatically,a%20joint%20estate%20between%20spouses.

@nomondehlophe7726 2 жыл бұрын

This was very interesting to watch❤

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

@hoosaout4202 2 жыл бұрын

😂 You two are hilarious and adorable ☺️, thanks for sharing this interesting journey. It would be interesting to sit and chat with you both. Congratulations 🎊🍾, my your union be blessed for eternity.

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so much ❤️❤️❤️

@mbusoguma5504 2 жыл бұрын

Congrats guys.

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

@sehlodirachel3220 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 🍾

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@ZoeysMusings 2 жыл бұрын

I could feel your excitement 😁Love your outfits 🥰That one uncle was not having it 😂Such a cute story about the whiskey. Thanks for sharing your lobola day with us. Glad it all worked out. 🙂

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

@noxolonmkhize 2 жыл бұрын

I love you guys so much. Congratulations ❤️

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you babes

@nayelushaba3041 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you babes

@ntandokhumalo 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations Gugu ❤❤❤

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you babes

@seeman_a 2 жыл бұрын

not first here - still watching these adds for my fave though

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you babes ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@bridgetjones6819 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 🥳🥳🥳🥳 It’s always interesting when it’s different cultures coming together. I’m Zulu and my partner is Xhosa the negotiations were very interesting😅😅😅😅😂😂😂…

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

They are always interesting 😅😅😅😂😂😂

@AmandaMakade 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations guys 💕

@tshepang_gm 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations yet again Gugu and Tshepo, I just have one question, and I hope it doesn’t come off snaks… Did Tshepo ask permission from your family before proposing or he proposed then y’all involved them after?

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

Nope , he didn't ask for permission .

@thandombatha8242 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations again guys 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 your story has so many similarities with ours🙊 but im happy you guys are focusing on your things now. As for the traveling costs🙈🫣 yoh guys for us that alone was a cow on its own.

@phumezafetumani7509 2 жыл бұрын

We are here. He's not a guest 😂😂😂😂

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

He is now a channel resident lolol ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@tandekilefada4903 2 жыл бұрын

Lol ama China sikhaphe wona in our country cabanga. 🤣🤣 I can picture everything you're saying especially the cooking in the kitchen. 🥰🥰 I love how your family included you and were considerate of the plans you and Husbie may have had for the lobola journey instead of doing their own thing nje. Argh man so sorry the uncles had to put you through that after a successful lobola day man, lapho there's still other ceremonies coming for them to even think of splitting monies already, hawu. Lol yoh imagine losing your saved up lobola money, it's really not safe lana.

@GuguMazibuko 2 жыл бұрын

I'm also glad everything went well babes . It's really not safe babes . This happened to a few friends of mine .