our obsession with glowing up

[@jordanatheresa]

not too sure how i feel about this video but i hope you guys enjoy regardless! time stamps - 00:00 - intro 00:48 - what is a glow up? 03:25 - what goes into a glow up? 04:04 - there is no such thing as a natural glow up 05:17 - glowing up is seen as a necessary step in adolescence 05:38 - why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to have a glow up? 07:23 - growing up in the midst of glow up culture 08:00 - extreme transformations are not possible for the average person 09:08 - glow ups feed into toxic beauty standards 10:10 - my experience with having a glow up 11:16 - how i've gained confidence 11:52 - do we value physical glow ups too much? follow my twitter + instagram - @jordanatheresa stay safe everyone!

[@violetneedsahug3652]

Jordan Theresa 👏👏👏

[@theweirdclassmate6840]

Thanks

[@rubyviolet7127]

🙏

[@chichi_717]

Thank you for this 👏🏾💕

[@saima9796]

Please don’t ever delete this video it made me gain so much confidence

[@raquelnavarrete776]

“Acne is not ugly” tell that to the people at my high school telling me to wash my face :/

[@lailarahiman4075]

Exactly I hate when people say that like that doesn’t help at all people are so ignorant 😐I wash my face every single day and I still have acne it’s normal and I’m sorry you have to go through that no one deserves that

[@felix.mp3639]

Acne is normal. To me a glow up is when you are confident in yourself with your body and who you are. even with acne and all.

[@annas9941]

I used to get the same comments i’m so sorry :/ just know it’ll all get better

[@socialside5332]

I had acne and I can say it is ugly it hid my natural beauty beneath it. But it didn't really bother me apart that physical pain in would cause me but people always had to bully me for that and than I hated them so much. If anyone here has acne focus on it for physical reasons. And try not to care what others say about you I know it's hard but try. I had acne now it's gone I still have a few pimples and acne scars but physically I have no pain no excess oil and it's great.

[@inhle1688]

Raquel Navarrete ouch😣 i hate when people make you hate a whole part of yourself. they’re just insecure and i hope you know you’re beautiful

[@sheisaMachine]

I’ve said it once I’ll say it again a 24 hour glow up is just taking a bath.

[@valdapierre6650]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@angel127_]

Legit tho I feel like a whole new person after a bath

[@lockheart619]

C A C K L I N G 😭😭😭

[@ashleighr.136]

Woooow😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@autumn0378]

This is so true 😂😂😂

[@BriaaSimonee]

"The jock boy who had a bit of a soft spot for her now sees her true beauty now that's she's took off her glasses" 😂😂 why is this so accurate!?

[@scottydog6713]

this part of the video playing right as i started reading your comment like a voice from heaven

[@tranquilitybasehotelcasino2932]

as a girl with very very curly, frizzy hair, mia from princess diaries and hermione’s transformation were so frustrating for me!

[@glamorizedbiohazard7189]

same :( curly hair just started being viewed as beautiful and it’s frustrating that it took so long

[@ayeshanazli111]

i feel u

[@Rinaa11214]

Definetly agree, especially the trope of ALWAYS having their glasses removed to be 'beautiful' was stupid and made no sense, especially since sunglasses are often used to make people look 'hotter'. The irony.

[@nothing-fv5xc]

I also have curly hair and I have felt the same way

[@jillianrose1104]

I like to think, “you didn’t glow up. You were a child in the before picture and you GREW up.” like ??? It’s so toxic

[@sarahbbb5281]

people making fun of their younger selves for not being hot... in elementary school???? it's deranged, i hate it

[@leila8579]

I know, right? I think the same thing.

[@keyanna2633]

@@sarahbbb5281 Exactly like whos "hot" in elementary school. You're a CHILD you're NOT supposed to be hot. Like wth

[@youneedtocalmdown2061]

haha,the standard now its being hot in middle school,it sucks for the average look person

[@sarahlevine2397]

thats the whole point lol. Glow=Grow/puberty

[@moniccastar011]

it would be so interesting your take on the obsession of young girls (tweens and teens) of looking older and not allowing them to have an 'awkaward phase' (in their 20's) like danielle cohn and the cash me outside girl

[@artvid-1915]

Yes!

[@shadybeashooketh1911]

i don't think the cash me outside girl really applies b...

[@helloworld7818]

@@Mel-cx8qv But it's the girls who CHANGE for the standard to get the guys. So at the end, it's girls fault. Guys like something yes. But you don't have to change yourself to fit in that.

[@gem6105]

Mel from my experience it’s just trying to top other girls

[@gb917]

@tiny breadstick I don't recall any guy telling girls to look like pornstars when I was 14. Most girls that age are not trying to look like that. People like Danielle Cohn have parents who don't care what their children do. It has nothing to do with beauty standards.

[@lyssamary5845]

This is such strange timing, because since being quarantined all I can think about is making myself look better and all glowed up. And being on social media so much when Im isolated is making me compare myself to even more people and its stressing me out why cant I just be happy with who I am? Im quite healthy and have wonderful people in my life. Edit: To all the other peeps feeling the same way out there... you don't HAVE to glow up during this time. You don't HAVE to start a side hustle, but it will help you, good for you :) everyone is coping with this pandemic differently and you do what you gotta do! Prioritize YOU. Your health and happiness are so important. Spread love to those you love and don't beat yourself up bc you feel like you need to glow up or become a productivity monster. I know I am struggling with this too and it can be easy to fall into the trap of social media. @Joanna made a great point to limit social media intake to help mental health and I think this is a great suggestion. It can be hard not to compare ourselves especially when we are locked up inside with our phones which are often the only way we can connect with people. I feel like Im rambling but I just want yall to know that we dont have to put so much pressure on ourselves especially when we are already stressed out. That is all and I wish joy, love and comfort to everyone in this time

[@jellybiome]

SO SO TRUE

[@Joanna.no3]

I don't think it is healthy that you spend a lot of time on social media. Start to do something more absorbing and try to find a new hobby. Maybe plant some flowers, read an interesting book, buy puzzle or adult coloring, educate yourself. I can tell you that after I stopped using instagram during this time, I feel so much better about myself, because I don't think about the way I look, but more about what I can do to improve myself inside. :)

[@lyssamary5845]

@@Joanna.no3 I appreciate your concern haha I actually read, hula hoop, dance, do yoga, take online college courses, watch informational youtube videos, make art, rollerskate, sing and play ukulele (on and off of course) :) Although during quarantine I feel quite sad so it can be hard get up and do those things. I have been trying to limit myself on social media but Im sure the way I feel is a reality for many people who are quarantined and I thought some might relate to how I feel. There are so many posts about people having to be productive during this time or glow up, when in reality that's not feasible for everyone and you arent a failure if you don't glow up during these hard times. idk why I went on a rant haha but I agree with you

[@lyssamary5845]

@Mely Kika This is wonderful advice :)

[@lyssamary5845]

@Earthling Amélie Thank you! Although I know Instagram is just a highlight roll I have begun to think that humans cannot help but subconsciously compare themselves to others. Its strange because I know social media can have a debilitating effect on mental health but it is designed to be so insanely addicting that I keep returning. Time to limit my use of that ish lmao

[@dw9524]

All I can say is that you cant fix internal problems with external solutions. kylie jenner and bella hadid are the most popular girls who has glown up through surgery and filler ect. But they still edit their photos and deep down they're still not complete. If you feel ugly that's in internal solution so you need to learn to love yourself and glow up internally! You'll find that if you prioritise glowing up internally like i did, then you'll naturally glow on the outside too! ❤

[@tj8169]

do you watch shallon lester's videos? I think she uses that first sentence in your comment a lot when talking about kylie jenner for example

[@dw9524]

@@tj8169 yes lmao. Shallon has taught me a good few notes. 😭💀 but also my mom says it alot whenever I'm feeling down.

[@mariatetraduce2523]

@@tj8169 yess i thought the same

[@pinaypie4]

@@tj8169 I loved her advices

[@camillefaith2005]

This stuff about Shallon has not aged well!!!😂

[@bunnyaguilar6703]

Foreal like every teen flick has a glow up lol its almost like it's the most positive thing that can happen for the protagonist yet there was nothing actually wrong with them in the first place lol i think it's that common feeling a glow up gives "When you look different you feel different " perhaps that's the motivation behind it too when I was a teen I use to dye my hair a different color all the time nothing wrong with that but I realized i was obsessed with wanting to feel different maybe it was boredom lol 😂🌸💜

[@DAMAXIII]

Blanca Rosa same. I had to convince my parents to let me dip dye my hair. Then I died if a few more colors. Eventually, I wanted to shave my head. I get impulsive and bored easily.

[@bunnyaguilar6703]

@@DAMAXIII yeah boredom will do that haha I try to remind myself ok there's gotta be other fun ways to express creativity 😄

[@els9781]

such a good topic + video! quite a similar topic really but i'd love to see you talk about the pressures of childhood/teenage/young adult years being the "best years of your life", maybe the stresses of feeling your golden years are running out or you that you've failed because you've never climbed onto your best friend's rooftop at 3am lmao. i'd love to see your take on it and how society, tv shows/movies and young influencers create and construct what 'childhood/youth' should be like- i think you'd do it justice! hope you're keeping safe and sane

[@jordanatheresa]

els thank you!! and this is such a banging idea i’ve added it to my list xxx

[@ThatDIYlifeAnastasia28]

Jordan Theresa omg that’s literally what I was thinking growing up!!! I will be 19 in two weeks, and I think I almost got rid of this mindset. I was literally exposed to this era of influencers and youtubers having everything best - best clothes, best friends, crazy adventures, and everyone was making a point that your teenage years are your golden years and you should be this cool weirdo crackhead! It hurt me so much, that my life wasn’t like that, up until like a year ago! Especially being from a post soviet country, everything was so different to what I saw from mostly american/british youtubers, and I was literally like 12-13 when I started watching them and comparing of course. I wish that I would never been exposed to all these influencers to be honest, since now my mind is so fucked up with all these “aesthetics, glow ups” and other unnecessary things that it’s hard to get rid of it now. I’m trying to rethink everything that I soaked up as a young teen and only watch and follow channels like this, that really bring value and peace and not the opposite which everyone else on the internet does!

[@sharoncox1734]

When I was a teenager, I often heard things like "girls are hottest at 22" "all girls can get laid whenever they want" and tbh now I know it was just pedophillic bs or stuff said by boys/men who only felt comfortable hitting on insecure girls/women. So they'd say stuff like that because the more insecure girls and women there are out there in the world, the better chance they felt they had of being able to "snag one". It's very difficult to have healthy happy relationships with people who play those kind of games, so it's kind of a blessing that they filter themselves out by claiming you're over the hill. Pretty mad that they pressure children and teens into dressing and acting like adults to get their attention though. Ignore that stuff. As long as you do some of: work out, wear sunblock, stay hydrated, eat your veggies, and have a healthy attitude - you'll look good up to 50. I don't know about above 50 because I'm not old enough to look at them that way 😂. I remember my granny checking out a man who was 70/80 once though so I suspect it might apply up until death (ew granny - tmi!)

[@TimoteoDeBaum]

Interesting video. This topic reminds me the idea of “peaking” and some people reaching their ‘peak’ earlier or later than others. I think that’s a harmful social concept bc it implies that once you’ve peaked or had your glow-up, your social or desirability value depreciates especially physically.

[@catashtrophe0]

good point!

[@amberv441]

Such a good point to make, I feel like face value people don’t take in the effects of growing up and seeing filler/surgery normalized without anyone ever coming out and saying they had work done and how damaging that is!

[@themothman2052]

You know the “aesthetic” gen z girls on KZbin who are just constantly putting out glow up videos because doing your nails and dying your hair only lasts for like a week

[@amber61pop]

Honestly so relatable. “Looking back I wasn’t ugly.” Growing up is wild

[@imshonilol]

I think there's something to be said about how glowing up can make you feel better because you're taking care of yourself. For me, I feel good when I have a day to shower, shave, do my makeup, cut my hair, etc. because those are things that I do to take care of myself. Kinda like cats, you know? They like to groom themselves all the time! But I do agree that focusing on your physical appearance as the one thing to make you feel good isn't healthy or realistic. It's easy to watch these girls glowing up and thinking that their life is now perfect after glowing up, especially since most of them live in families that are pretty well-off (I'm talking about the more 'average' youtube girl doing this trend here, not celebrities).

[@silviagrueva4361]

Lol I felt like i had "peaked" at 19 perhaps? Especially because the state of my skin worsened in my late teens and, at 22, it still doesnt look the way it did before. Now I work on loving myself as I am. I actually enjoy getting older because it means I have learned new things, gotten smarter and more experienced, thus more mature :)

[@catedunk5749]

Silvia Grueva yeah I peaked in 2016 when I was 20/21 haha.

[@sophie9611]

Do you have a skincare regime? Retinol single handedly saved my skin. You are so right though! Natural aging should be celebrated as you gain wisdom instead of shallow superficial beauty.

[@silviagrueva4361]

I try to come up with some kind of skin care routine, but I find that very intimidating cuz there are so many products and ingredients and they have to be layered a specific way, and I'm just a simple gal lol

[@sophie9611]

​@@silviagrueva4361 Honestly for starters, all that's needed is a cleanser, moisturizer, sunscreen, and a retinol (The retinol is the real magic, it's actually the only skincare product, other than sunscreen, scientifically proven to be anti-aging). I'm not a dermatologist tho, so in the end just absolutely do whatever you wanna do. Beauty is literally skin deep, and if your profile pic is of you I'd say you look like a very beautiful person, so you don't have much to worry about in the first place :)

[@mskawaiiism]

My personal definition of glowing up is, from being oblivious to being aware of your own beauty. You’ve always been beautiful; when you glow up, that’s when you realize you actually are. It’s what worked for me.

[@zoeysarona1303]

“Embrace your ugly”-Jahseh Dwayne Onfroy❤️

[@habitual_lover]

god what a good topic!!! skimming through the the points before the video, and i’m very excited!! glad you’re covering something not too many people have talked about :) and of course you’re looking great!! loving the butterfly clips :)

[@jordanatheresa]

harper forsythe thank you!!!💖

[@Capturia]

I feel some glow ups are genuinely just a way to disguise an "ugly to hot" transformation in a way to fit into the growing awareness of social expectations being messed up by saying it's wellness when unless there's a mental transformation it is still just surface level changing your appearance. I've started a glow up series about genuine stuff & would adore if any kind people saw it 💕

[@thearchive19]

To add a perspective to the mix: mental glow ups do have an effect on your physical appearance too! It sounds obvious that your mental well-being/health has an effect on your physical health, but for me personally I look back on photos when I was at my lowest and I genuinely look ill in comparison to pictures now where I look generally happier and healthier. I think in part it’s due to having more motivation to actually care for my appearance (going outside more = more sunlight/vitamin D and less paleness, trying a new style, etc.) but also being surrounded by people who are encouraging and loving towards me, feeling better in myself, etc. Mental illnesses are illnesses of the mind and, by extension, the brain which has a factor in your overall health. I guess my point is don’t rely on having a physical/appearance based glow up to magically change your mindset, but instead build confidence and resolve and allow any level of change to happen gradually.

[@rebeccaahmed1341]

madison 🍺 not admitting she got work done has pissed me off so much

[@ginaangelina4933]

I just love these kids of KZbin really taking the time to make others feel better by doing research, showing us and then explaining “it’s okay to be you” one day I hope the word “influencers” is given to those who deserve to be called Influencers

[@alypragma2906]

I’m so glad to hear I’m not the only one who thought “why would I ever find the before one attractive? They’re literally a child.” Especially when it came to the 10 year challenges. So many of the pictures are of them from ages12-17 and I get a bit uncomfy comparing the physical attractiveness of a child to an adult. Hot take I know but you shouldn’t be thinking the kid looks better.

[@angelbait5]

this video means so much to me. i’ve never thought that what i see isn’t normal, as crazy as that sounds. the media makes me feel awful about myself because i feel like i’ll never be what i’m “supposed” to be. i think i just needed to hear it. thank you so much jordan❤️

[@dawnhapgood2907]

After years of starving myself and trying to look "cool and edgy" (i did not lol) my glow up finally came when i turned 30. I embraced my natural hair, invested in a better style and cut that suits me, exercised and ate healthy food, practiced makeup to suit my features and colours that make me feel and look good. I think a glow up is more about embracing and promoting what you already have rather than changing your appearance.

[@johannaswoab3956]

Hey, I love the vibe of your videos! Could you do an analysis of SKINS and how it affected us growing up?

[@rosapontin8310]

Johanna Swoab yess!!

[@jordanatheresa]

Johanna Swoab omg such a sick idea!

[@amira03]

Johanna Swoab good idea!

[@Siena-ic4dr]

Glow up obsession really negatively impacted my life. I always used it as an excuse to diet and exercise obsessively over my summer vacations and i think it partially contributed to my disordered eating habits. I was so desperate to be that girl who came back on the first day of school as a completely different person.

[@kattyude8256]

I’ve always felt the need to glo up bc I’ve seen it as a cure to my low self esteem and assumed that everyone with surgery was confident but I’ve realised that my face has become more attractive over the years but my self esteem is still the same. The truth is the only way you can build that self esteem is by finding ways to challenge that negative critical voice with positive thoughts and reminding yourself you have worth outside of your aesthetics.

[@catmerchant8699]

Humans have a habit to rely too much on the future. “I’ll do it later” “one day I will look like that” but actually we made no effort to reach those goals. Girls crave to see beautiful people on their Instagram or anywhere because they like to look at what they lack. Probably when they see those photos they think I will look like that one day, this person could do it so could I. But those other ppl were either naturally born beautiful so they grew up beautiful, edit their pictures/makeup or got surgery. True beauty comes from within and if you take care of yourself then you won’t worry too much about your outer appearance/you will worry about it in less quantities.

[@justinjandelacruz5998]

O sheyt this comment hits real hard down to spine straight to my heart and slap of realization just hit each side of my face. Hahaha thanks for waking me up with this comment 😂 i felt ashamed afterwards.

[@gissell920]

I’ll do it later w workouts is meee. I was called out. Lol but thanks you made a good point

[@kiaradendulk3866]

When I was a child I thought I was ugly so I placed all my value in my intelligence. Then, as I got to high school I began to place my value in how I looked because I thought if I wasn't pretty I would never date. Placing too much value in any one trait will make you feel bad when you don't live up to your own or others expectations in that area in my experience. I think it is good to value yourself for many different reasons including simply being alive.

[@philippaballard4953]

Somehow I’ve turned “glow up” just into a term to help encourage me to improve my lifestyle, mental health, and overall health

[@HeiressOfLoganbeeren]

Man I was so obsessed w this makeover stuff when I was younger... Jordan pls don't overpush yourself, we're thankful for all this amazing content, take a break if u need to x

[@jas.3307]

What i worry abt the most is the possibility that these young people wanting to glow up to sort of get revenge on people who insult their appearance or in hopes that their crush will like them, with shows like insatiable and 13 reasons why coming out. If you want to 'glow up' ie change your appearance, it should be because YOU want to.

[@gimesegle]

The definition of "Glow up" should be Betty la fea, no acepto nada más

[@prettypookiebear]

gime segnini y la mujer en el espejo

[@lolanicolau251]

JSJAJAJ siii

[@anaguerrero1680]

@EMMA BREF they were talking about the original colombian telenivela💀💀

[@Vxyx23]

JAJAJAJAJA Y SIIII 🤣🤣🤣

[@sofvpgn]

@EMMA BREF bruh they were talking about the og colombian telenovela 😭

[@000AnnA000D]

great video!😍 also a weird fact about the youtubers who are doing those 24h transformation videos: they mostly do that for firstly views and secondly because then they can write off their hair dressers and nail tech appointments as business expenses🤦‍♀️

[@catm.l.5951]

I really did like your video and yes the glow up culture can be toxic if you only focus on the outside appearance and have unrealistic standards. However glow ups can be amazing to watch and get us inspired to improve some aspects about ourselves ❤️

[@Justonevideoplease]

Nothing wrong with glowing up, it’s good to self improve.

[@FilmsIMet]

i really feel this. i'm 16 living in indonesia, and my friends are obsessed with glowing up (especially in this social distancing thing). they'd be buying so many beauty products, working their assess out, and try different diets to lose weight. i'm not saying it's a bad thing, but i feel like i have to keep up with these people because so many are doing this, and if i don't keep up i feel ugly af. i'm 65kg and 162cm (yes i'm kinda chubby) and all my life i've tried different beauty products, i've been dieting for the longest time, and tried to create a workout routine, and it's honestly so, so tiring. god knows how much money i've spent and how many nights i cried myself to sleep because i feel ugly and undesirable. people be saying things like "love yourself" "body positivity" when they're trying to fit in the beauty standard such as clear skin, plump lips, great hair, and slim body. for me it also takes away the essense of teenagehood; of doing dumb things and just having fun, because instead of doing these teenage things i busied glowing myself up because i don't want to be the ugliest person in the room. not to mention the rise of kpop really doesn't help things at all.

[@kathrynac.h.3460]

Hai, kamu nggak sendirian. Aku jg selama karantina ini jadi pengen glow up, beli2 skincare terus, workout, dsb. Melelahkan banget dan sampai2 tabungan uang jajanku hampir habis :") Aku sadar nggak bisa begini terus, apalagi aku juga blm kerja, baru mau masuk kuliah (tertekan banget buat glow up, takut ga bisa masuk ke lingkaran pertemanan yg baru). Di satu sisi ga kuat juga liat muka makin ke sini makin ancur (aku jerawatan dari kelas 6 SD dan berbopeng). Udh semingguan ini break down parah dan stop buka instagram krn sering ketrigger kalo liat temen-temen posting glow up. Untungnya nemu video ini, dan ngeliat komen2nya ngebantu banget ngeheal, jdi nggak ngerasa sendirian. Semangat ya kamu, jaman SMA itu emg kerasa banget pengaruh pergaulannya, tapi aku harap kamu bisa enjoy masa2 SMA dan fokus belajar. Glow up itu ada waktunya kok, nanti kalo udh kerja, ud ada duit sendiri, baru deh coba2 perawatan ini itu (disesuaikan dgn budget juga jgn sampai kayak aku saking desperatenya buat glow up). Skrg cukup makan2an sehat, jaga kebersihan badan, dan olahraga scr teratur (kalo nggak kuat workout jgn dipaksa, nanti takutnya malah bikin cedera otot, olahraga pemanasan aja cukup kok cuma biar badan nggak kaku). Good luck 💕

[@FilmsIMet]

@@kathrynac.h.3460 wahh maaf ka aku baru liat tp makasih bgt!! 😭 ga nyangka akan ada orang indonesia yang reply, tapi bener ya kadang merasa tertekan banget untuk fit in ke beauty standard dan untuk keliatan perfect with no effort (padahal effortnya banyak bgt!) i think i started to accept myself no matter who i am. it's a slow process and i'm impatient but i to enjoy the process. actually i gained weight in this quarantine (now i'm 70kg lmaoo) but i'm not that bothered?? dulu mungkin aku akan nangis histeris bgt, tapi kemaren2 aku ketemuan sama temen dan walaupun ada rasa 'makin hari makin jelek' i just told myself that my outer appearance doesn't define who i am. mungkin hari ini aku sok2 percaya diri tapi besoknya bakal nangis insecure, but i will try to enjoy my high school years so that i won't regret it. makasih ka sudah sharing pengalaman, it's such a relief to know that i'm not alone! ka i hope wherever you are, i wish you the best in life and have a nice day 💕💖

[@GiaTheSweetPotato]

You actually looked great before! :O Your lips suited your face, and the darker hair looked lovely on you. I don't think you needed to change anything.

[@lillywantsheranchovypizza107]

Yes! I'm 20 and I don't give a damn if people get plastic surgery but the people who pass it off as natural bother me. It gives an impression to lot of people that they're natural and they're not.

[@user-pu9gd5lh2q]

nows a really good time to address all of this, Ive been seeing so much stuff about people trying to glow up during lockdown- I mean we're in the middle of a pandemic and its like a weight loss/productivity competition its kind of crazy :/

[@morgana738]

Could you please make a video talking more in depth about girls not loving themselves because boys don't find them attractive. I'm in that place right now and I feel very guilty whenever I try to change myself for a boy, but I can't help it.

[@rochelle1199]

I find glow up transformation videos so entertaining. They’re some of my favourite type of videos to watch, but I would say it’s more self care than a ‘glow up’ because they literally look the same but after giving themselves more attention and love

[@greenleaf4570]

I'm currently watching a lot of health, fitness and glow up related videos. To be honest, most of these are very shallow and just scratch the surface. I think that "glow ups" are more a way to find back to yourself MENTALLY so that you improve physically. It's not about getting rid of acne, putting on make-up, getting that "summer body" but about getting healthy outside and most importantly inside. At least that's the message I'm taking away from these videos (although you often have to dig deep to truly find that in glow up videos/posts). Maybe these things hit different because I'm a guy. Maybe they don't affect me that much in a negative way. I enjoy mental glow ups the most, sadly not many people put their focus on that.

[@sofiabrown7629]

I love your videos, you always talk about things that are so specific but are such real daily thoughts for so many that I thought I was shallow and weird for thinking about movies like that and being affected even now I'm older. Especially the curly to straight hair representing getting hot or glowing up in time for a new job/ school year/ uni. Probably won't see this but your videos always leave me feeling a bit more confident and like an important topic we were all thinking has been talked about in every respect and detail xx

[@marinadee2771]

My idea of a “glow up” is getting life together for yourself, being healthy, eating well, exercising, dealing with mental health issues and fulfilling your personal goals. Does that impact your physical appearance? Perhaps in some way but the real glow up is in your confidence and self esteem, and that shit is priceless.

[@Bananaoranges3105]

Honestly how did you ever think you were ugly.. you were so gorgeous omg!!?

[@HelloKittysFriend418]

Just wanted to say the thumbnail was super well put together, it instantly drew me in!!!

[@gabriela-yo6ci]

this video attacked us who wanted to glow up after corona

[@ofthesol444]

U really found your niche with these topics, you’re doing great!

[@emonthomas8018]

You were actually really pretty, and I look back at my old pictures when I was bullied I was actually really pretty . People only bully other people out of jealousy

[@ShaylaBot]

As a 27 year old mom with no "glow up" to speak of and a massive nose...I really appreciate this video haha.

[@NatalieLovesxo]

YOU WERE SO PRETTY!!!! THOSE BOYS CAN EAT DOODOO YOU’RE NOT AND NEVER HAVE BEEN UGLY!! 🥺💞💞💖

[@beyou2133]

"it's not fucking ugly ohmygod!" - luv it

[@inkedfairyy9057]

I got adult acne randomly at 21 years old after having clear skin my whole life. I have literally used the term « wow I’ve glowed down ».... I literally think that I’ve gotten uglier and I’m so insecure in my acne. I see clear skin everywhere on social media and especially adults with clear skin. Man, confidence is tough

[@TiffanyRay]

Same ive gotten uglier over the years i thought it would be the opposite

[@asc7391]

I was the ugly duck in high school, I had my glow up and definitely it’s great, I had to put effort on my style, makeup, hair, etc, I learned all I needed to improve my image, for some pl is easier for me wasn’t. But definitely if you feel insecure about yourself, there are tones of options in this times to glow up, in the past only natural beauty and that’s it, pl has to be grateful for all the options the we have, specially the amount of KZbin vids to teach u.

[@charlottekohnen2200]

i don’t even know why but last year, as soon as my mental health got better i started looking physically better. so it is definitely connected

[@becchoffie]

It feels like I've slowly glowed up throughout the years and still does at the age of 25. And feels like I'm starting to mature into my looks more and more.

[@newta5208]

A "glow up" is just a person realising what clothing, hair style and makeup actually suits them well and then acting upon it. It's literally when nothing about the person changes physically, they just know how to make themselves look better now.

[@roxvyrov7417]

You actually look gorgeous in the older pictures! ♥It's sad to hear you didn't like yourself and felt the need to make any changes.

[@CherryPie-xd8ql]

you were EXTREMELY BEAUTIFULL you didn't even had to do lip filler omfg ive never seen someone that pretty

[@dhisastrous1851]

YESSS! Talk about this queen 💕🙏🏻

[@willowhardwick2793]

I'm 15 and I'm going through the same thing you went through as a teen where I place my beauty and overall self value into what guys think and guys find me absolutely hideous and I get zero male attention so I have very little self worth and it sucks even harder bc like you did in the past, I too struggle with an eating disorder and it's just so hard and i hope it gets better with time😔

[@pastelmae4683]

Can you make a video on brandy melville and who is behind it?

[@anastasiamahrlander4638]

Omg, you looked SO GOOD when you were younger!

[@mooble1325]

this is it! this is THE video i've been looking for! it's not WRONG to change your body - but it is disingenuous to claim it's all natural to an impressionable audience... and your old photos are so pretty!!! 😍

[@MaddiexTV]

Honestly, I see some people posting "glow up pictures" where the only thing that changed is heavy blurry filter on the "after" photo. Basically on the first pic we see a real person and on the second - a lie

[@bubeudeh]

"when its not FUCKING ugly OH MY GOD" dis energy.

[@mbrezovsky89]

I like the blonde hair but tbh I really really like you with dark hair. I think the contrast with your eyes and skin are beautiful.

[@NA-df1tk]

i suffer from an ed, and u really help me stay away from my negative thoughts. i love u.

[@duchessofstrawberry]

That scene stayed with me my whole life

[@Caroline-ux1hu]

I really like how you delved into your own personal experience, really similar to my own and has given me hope💕 Thank u

[@ingusch3783]

The part where you talked about how you would always call your younger self ugly really hits home. I'm 27 and have dealt with self image issues for idk how long, definitely since elementary school, when I hit puberty and started growing (not just vertically, but also, to my absolute horror back then, growing boobs etc.) and kids from my class started making fun of me, calling me fat and, the boys specifically, making uncalled-for remarks about my breasts. And god, I spent most of my teens actually thinking that I was ugly, to the point where you can tell I always hid on photos, mostly I volunteered to take them so that nobody would notice me avoiding to be photographed. Nowadays, when I see a rare pic from that time, I realize that I was neither fat nor ugly - I just felt incredibly uncomfortable and unhappy, and I didn't like myself - and THAT you could absolutely see I my eyes. So yeah, I did eventually have a natural glow-up - once I started being kinder to myself and to love myself! THAT glow-up I wouldn't wanna miss for the world, even if some asshole somewhere might still think I'm not pretty enough for their standards.

[@jamiescanlan1408]

the fact that I've been trying to "glow up" over quarantine and have researching it everyday made me .. think. thank you.

[@ali19296]

To begin with,the fact that this came up upon trying out 1/3 of the clothes in my closet in the hope that any of them would make me fit the """""perfect"""" standards of the hourglass shape when going out and having a nervous breakdown, really shows how much KZbin recommends the right videos at the right moment. Secondly, a while later,a few droplets of clarity crept up my mind: what am I torturing myself for? Who do I have to impress? Why do I have to think that I should reach an impossible sculpture-like figure,when I'm not even done growing as a person and the pictures I compare myself with are nothing but mere byproducts of Photo editing and whatnot?Why? Because I want some people from my past to think that just because "now I look better" I deserve to be actually respected??? I've always been deserving of respect,no matter how I look like. Ironically enough,as put my pyjamas back on,the remainder of confidence I had before trying all those clothes on came back. Perhaps it was the fact that the pijamas was the right size or the fact that it covered most of my body,I don't know,or maybe, JUST MAYBE,it was the fact that I stopped having expectations. To sum up,as a society we should completely abolish the misconception that one MUST fit beauty standards,as they are,indeed,(pardon my French),FUCKING BULLSHIT. PERIODT. (I should have practised essay writing for school,but this was topic was much more interesting to whine about,sorry,not sorry. Peace ✌️😔✌️)

[@ellaisboring]

When I was a kid and had a crush on someone I would ALWAYS try to take off my glasses at every opportunity 😂 I thought I was ugly with them on and they might 'notice me' if I took them off and became suddenly more beautiful 🙄

[@carlaeyyy649]

Glow ups are a lot about confidence. I physically glowed up when I found a good group of friends, started dressing the wag I wanted, doing sports etc. I put myself out there, gained confidence and I physically look better now than when I was isolated and lonely.

[@elinevd4399]

I have been WAITING for this. Everytime there is a makeover in movies where they take the glasses off as a part of the glowup I got so offended and grew up thinking that glasses make me ugly. So I’m happy someone spoke about this

[@Wonderfullcrazy]

this is especially prevalent in the trans community, where people compare and put so much emphasis into legit just how we look. we as humans are so much more than looks.

[@phantomcide]

A I've never really been told straight up that having features such as a big nose or acne wasn't necessarily ugly thank you this actually kind of helped me see myself in a little bit of a better light 🥺💞💖💕

[@ericah.9996]

I love the way you break things down & analyze them! Always entertaining and wholesome

[@sunshinebtyxo1739]

I’m sorry but I completely disagree with the fact celebrities, influencers, or people in general have to disclose the work they had done to them. I’m pro choice, so I believe it’s my body my choice, so I feel like this applies also to plastic surgery as well. You’re NOT entitled to know what people choose to do with their bodies. I just don’t believe that it’s an influencers fault for making some of their followers insecure because they had plastic surgery done to themselves.

[@allisonlee5251]

I agree. Their body, their money, their choice. In all honestly, a huge proportion of this problem is overwhelmingly echoed by teenagers and preteens and not really any other age group since since its during those years when the need for external validation from generally everyone around them as well as the need to fit in/form some kind of self identity but yet wanting to fit in is rampant. And some people just dont like it when others around them make self improvements due to jealousy. There is a saying that you can “better yourself, but dont be better than me”. Some people see other’s improvements as inspirational, others feel attacked and feel the need to downgrade it in anyway they can for their own self esteem which is quite toxic since putting down others is not a good character trait.

[@LilBeannanas]

I nearly cried 😭 I've struggled with acne since I was about 8, I was bullied alot, obviously didn't get any romantic attention. People acted as if it was contagious saying things like don't touch it, you'll catch it. I wish more people would realise acne is normal

[@skylar8685]

I feel like this quote really summarises your last point: Does physical beauty really matter this much? I know it matters as a currency. But does it actually matter more than that? Are the snow-capped Rocky Mountains or the New York skyline at night as important as Bach’s Cello Suite no. 1? Are the muscles under a cheetah’s rippling skin as he chases down a kill as important as a poem by Pablo Neruda? And what about a human face? Is it possible that human beauty is as important as the soul? I’m beautiful, therefore I am. - Dana Czapnik, The Falconer

[@kashew44]

Honestly more than social media, it's the movies and books where the main character would have a "glow up over the summer" that messed up my thinking, because atleast on social media you still know that they've got stuff done but the movies would purposely make the main character look kinda bad at first and then show this big "transformation" because of which they're whole life would change and be better.

[@aspen1713]

That's horrible people used to call you ugly, you look beautiful now and in your old photos. ; ___ ; Love this video, love what you have to say, love the message you're bringing.

[@kaz1819]

I actually made a glow-up list for summer a few months ago. Including unhealthy ways to lose more weight that I don't need to lose. I still get "triggered" quite easy at it but during quarantine, I've had some form of self-reflection. Particularly from an Instagram influencer who promotes a healthy lifestyle. Made me realise how miserable it is to constantly put myself down and be in a cycle of distorted eating. I'm trying to priorities my happiness which I concluded is to be healthy physically and mentally. It a journey and I'm still extremely insecure but I'm coming onto the age of 18 and I do *not* want to continue my toxic mentality. I'm truly terrified of failing (especially having to face the world again after isolation) and falling into that black hole again but for the first time, I'm dedicated. I hope someone similar reads this and also take inspiration to make a lifestyle change. I'm still very much struggling however putting my focus on a brighter future *that* is what will be worth it at the end.

[@ramune1800]

*Some Advice* beauty standards change like seasons So just do your own you have a great day! 😊

[@laurennelson1160]

I feel it's important to add as well that not everyone chooses to refrain from plastic surgery because they don't have the money. Some people just don't want to adhere to every trend society throws our way, some of us are happier being our natural authentic selves and promoting self acceptance for how humans have always looked in a world that's quickly becoming overwhelmingly artificial.

[@secretly_an_egg-_-9683]

I’m so sick of shows revealing the character who undergoes a “glow up” or “make over” (usually a character that identifies as a female) changes their hair that was natural curly or “bushy” hairstyle to straight hair. Growing up, I always felt pressured to have straight hair (which I naturally don’t). Don’t get me wrong, straight hair is beautiful and if you feel comfortable you do you. But it was the stigma of media, shows and everyday life, that can majorly affect a young girls life.

[@videoeditor8857]

FINALLY A VIDEO LIKE THIS.I WAS SO SICK OF ALL THIS GLOWINGUP SHIT

[@trixxartarchive7705]

I arguable had a glow up but not in the traditional sense like I got a lot more of a grasp on my style and while I don't look society pretty I feel good soo I've glowed up for myself

[@hannerikruger7216]

Glowing into yourself🖤

[@luc_028_t4]

I swear, I could hear you forever and I would never get bored

[@marshiethe6th104]

For me personally while I'm still young, I defiantly did have a glow up because of puberty. My face didn't change much but I grew into it so while it's the same my features look better because they're more balanced

[@jadalynnn2583]

I feel like having clear skin is also a beauty standard. The same way a bigger person who eats healthy and exercise but still is in a bigger size because it’s genetic . It doesn’t mean they’re not healthy. Same for skin. I take care of my skin. I clean with the right products , I eat good and drink water and im not stressed yet my skin isn’t all “smooth” and I still break outs from natural things like having my period but that doesn’t mean my skin isn’t healthy. I come to realize that maybe it’s genetic for me to have this kind of skin and I accept it. As long as it’s clean and healthy.

[@jordynschaefer3180]

Wow I feel you on the boys giving attention thing - that used to really affect my self image

[@gormaline1024]

I value personal growth a lot. Very little of personal growth is how you physically look.

[@flavortown6280]

I always felt insecure for not growing/glowing up the way i should cuz the rest were, at 12 my many of classmates already wore makeup and revealing clothing. I didnt like wearing make up and i didnt have a sense of fashion and i kinda felt left out. I guess the start of me trying to "glow up" was at 18 but with just fashion and at 19 (quarantine) i definitely tried to glow up cuz i felt so insecure not alot of ppl would call me pretty and my family always mentions my weight and this was the chance that i had and i felt like needed to finally grow out of my ugly duckling phase. I did glow up tho. I lost weight, learned how to put on make up and revealed more skin. I definitely feel like im part of society cuz ppl now say that im pretty and send reactions to my photos and its pretty sad that i only found value in myself after my glow up