Our Productivity Obsession (even during a pandemic)

[@tiffanyferg]

wow new vid can u believe!! hope you're all doing ok, and hope this discussion about productivity is interesting! ** captions will be uploaded soon! ** TIME STAMPS BELOW: 0:00 - intro 1:24 - should we use this time to be super productive, or to finally relax? 2:46 - Icons of Productivity (CEOs, millionaires, tech bros, etc... secrets to success?) 4:23 - capitalism!!! labor!!! means of production!!!! 5:28 - the gap between productivity and wages 6:59 - productivity (like paid work) vs the sense of accomplishment that we crave 7:47 - motivational content (study with me, clean with me, productivity tips....) 9:38 - don't compare your life/habits/workload to others. be kind to yourself! 11:42 - let's start an anti-productivity revolution!!! 13:03 - getting work done helps us have a sense of normalcy, structure, and purpose 15:34 - fun things that feel productive (reading, puzzles, journaling, make some art!) 18:05 - how are you? how am I doing? let's catch up a bit

[@lamibonxd]

i was literally just binging ur videos stop watching me JSKSJSJS💀💀

[@arthur-b1b6e]

There is a book about it by Byung Chul Han!!!!!

[@choicethetaurus]

@@arthur-b1b6e cdddcdc kzbin.info/www/bejne/eKDRpp2haJx0gJY

[@guadalupeaccareddu3239]

I would recomend you to chek out the music video Noir by Sunmi (is a korean artist) the music video and song haves a lot of symbolisim and critics social madia, internet and how afect us, to me is like the internert analysis unoficial theme song haha!

[@Feliciatanktop]

Y’all don’t understand how much i appreciate youtubers who put timestamps on long videos ❤️

[@johannauhl8862]

"don't tie your productivity to your self-worth" me: *nods in agreement as if I haven't been doing that since I was 11 years old*

[@gabriellameattray9778]

FELT THAT

[@riseandshine2243]

Second that 😹

[@TheUnknownDeath]

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[@lexmarlxn]

Me three

[@saltbending9701]

I started doing that at seven to cope with bullying as a child :'c

[@irisjean]

John lennon said: “time you enjoy wasting, was not wasted” and i live by that

[@vividdreams1054]

IRIS I’m sad because I literally just found out that he was a self-admitted abuser.

[@kittybunny3325]

John Lennon was a racist misogynistic creep, “imagine” that

[@c.t.martin3915]

@@vividdreams1054 siiigh

[@nadjak3410]

@@kittybunny3325 And because of that he cannot have given us good quotes?

[@LM-ix7pk]

kittybunny3 the quote still applies. Besides, half of the population on the Internet always quote the founding fathers or Gandhi, who were all racist and misogynistic. Don’t see ur point

[@teom.4888]

"Shakespeare wrote King Lear while in quarantine" Umm, yeah he also wrote all that other stuff while out of quarantine. I think the lesson here is that Shakespeare wrote a lot.

[@elizabethportant7305]

LOL well said.

[@laurramore]

😂😂😂

[@stirnersghost7656]

Lol true

[@AikiraBeats]

Yes he did well more than a normal person

[@MidnightMoonProductions]

Yes. Because writing is one of the ways of interaction outside of our phones.

[@butterflybaby1111]

“We do not exist just to work.” This is the sentence that truly got through to my brain and the reminder I absolutely needed. Thank you

[@MidnightMoonProductions]

Same! In this world were taught that working is living. Our well-being, needs, and wants, are more important at the end of the day.

[@Wolf-wn6nk]

We don’t exist for anything. 😃

[@haute03]

@@Wolf-wn6nk Y'all are about to trigger another existential crisis.

[@hichaelhighers]

Really really sad that one needs to hear this.

[@teetheatersanonymous]

Me: *doesn’t do anything* Me: *feels awful* Me: *spends hours being productive* Me: *feels tired and depressed*

[@thatswhatteesaid]

Same! Why is that 😭

[@MysticKenji2]

Productive... but for who?

[@ElenyM]

💯

[@NyatashaAce]

That's capitalist realism for you friend.

[@frmaha]

The Golden Hedgie I feel personally attacked by this relatable content 😝

[@Mary2theeClaire]

“I’m not a slob, I’m not a couch potato, I’m a woman chilling, okay? And there is nothing wrong with that.” PREACH. this video hit me exactly where I needed it to. thank you thank you thank you

[@vivvy_0]

i'm a slob AND a couch potato - so what xD

[@missrelaxed3872]

Yes exactly !!! Love this sentence

[@one_smol_duck]

"extreme fasting / disordered eating habits that are disguised as 'biohacking'" Preach. I'm so sick of this stuff lmao

[@teresahowick5197]

Laura Phelps yes!!

[@magickaldust1213]

Do I sense a video idea!?!?

[@KathleenAndEmmaShow]

KZbin is rampant with vloggers encouraging disordered eating but they treat it like it’s normal or healthy. It makes me really sad. I’ve been through a lot in my life and I’ve come to realize that weight really doesn’t matter. There are way better things to spend your time worrying about than your diet!

[@poorainbowshit2570]

@@KathleenAndEmmaShow i mean, you're diet does matter to some degree

[@kaggapu]

@@poorainbowshit2570 Sure, but some people out there disguise their eating disorders as the ultimate key to whatever they're preaching. The gratification you get from following the rules concerning your eating habits is not real happiness. However, they're often advocating some sort of 'clean' eating, encouraging disordered eating to their audience, saying how much it has helped them be more energized, focused, healthy and all that stuff while still maintaining their weight or even losing some. As a person with an eating disorder it disgusts me how people with a large following advertize their eating disorder and influence their young audience to do the same 😬

[@madisonsierras]

*Prime Example!* I told my friend; “I think I want to start knitting” and they replied: “For like Etsy or something?” 🙄

[@tiryaclearsong421]

I learned to knit at 7 and I still only knit for fun and for myself/gifts.

[@StarlingofAzerath]

Same. I get asked if i sell my work or make stuff to sell. Like thats not the point people...

[@jlbeeen]

Yeah, I draw and sew, and while a few people have paid me to make things for them, it's not that common, and I do it because I like it. If someone wants to pay me I won't complain, but it's not a priority. Maybe it will become a part time job later, but the point is that it's fun. Do something because you like it, not because you think it will make you rich.

[@dorothyscheines3194]

Knitting for friends/family is so rewarding!!!!! Or just yourself it feels so good to make a thing and then be able to parade it around and be like I MADE THIS

[@annamallett879]

Knitting just for yourself is great! I bought loads of yarn ready for the lockdown and will probably never even end up wearing half the stuff I make, it's just really relaxing to make pretty things. And you can watch Netflix at the same time - win! :-)

[@coolbeans5911]

I work at a bookstore, and before my country's lockdown, people were in high-gear panic buying mode, so there were tons of people buying literal stacks of books, puzzles, colouring books, self-help books, etc etc. People buying 30 books at the time because they're so scared of being bored and unproductive. Like, you don't normally read for fun, so why do you think you're gonna read so many books in 3 weeks? You're allowed to be bored, you don't need to keep your mind active and you don't need to feel guilty about not doing anything. Don't force yourself to binge read books you don't even like; if you'd rather rewatch a show on Netflix, do that!!

[@mangaartist1995]

Except that I did allowed myself to be bored once or twice, and now I had a shit ton of school work to catch up with....lol

[@AikiraBeats]

That is so true I only read when I really want to and watch Netflix when ever I feel like it as well as Hulu and Disney plus

[@caultfouu]

you don't know if those people are frequent readers or not though? someone who is just starting to read would not throw the money for a stack of book this big, believe me. Those were most likely people who love to binge read and they were just afraid of running out of books since libraries were closed. I did that lol. People who are only occasional readers would only buy a couple books, because it usually takes them AGES to finish up one book.

[@coolbeans5911]

@@caultfouu a lot of them definitely; but other's just looked so completely clueless, not even sure what genre they like to read. Also, the bookshop is located in an area where people have a lot of money, so spending a fortune on books on such short notice isn't weird or impossible for them. I'm not trying to judge people, of course. Some lady walked in and bought all the Cassandra Clare & Sarah J Maas books because she finishes a book in like half a day (which is some kind of X-men shit to me cuz i'm an exceptionally slow reader)

[@bente1695]

cool beans my mom always says “boredom is good”. As a kid, when I said I was bored, she would maybe give me some suggestions at most but never intervened. I ALWAYS came up with something to do, generally something creative. I think I owe my creativity to her raising me this way.

[@krystalb661]

I feel like lots of people think that hobbies like reading, painting, or crafting are good things, but ONLY if you’re doing them at certain level. You only read one book? Read five more. Your paintings aren’t pretty or at an advanced level? What’s the point. People think that how much you enjoy the action isn’t as important as how impressive that action is to other people, and that prevents people from feeling proud of what they did. It’s ok to be bad at something. It’s ok to do something once without being perfect. It’s okay to do something for a while without improving. As long as you enjoy it, it was worth doing. You’re hobbies don’t have to be impressive/pretty/worth money to be good hobbies. Be mediocre. It’s ok.

[@poetry_grrrl]

Krystal B wow. this comment.

[@anonyme3838]

Thank you !

[@SweetTooth1102]

As a perfectionist, this was comforting to hear qwq

[@borkbork4124]

I like drawing and coloring, but I hate doing it as work, so I will doodle and color when I need a break, which is a perfect balance. I do not desire to be a professional or even good at drawing, I do it to enjoy myself and take a break from work. I never tell people about it or show my work because people then assume that I should be talented at it because I have been doing it for years….. like uh its my therapy, my relaxation time, my turn off my brain and color time.

[@Kevin-ok8dj]

I've never in my life heard that hobbies should be something monetizable. Idk is it an American thing or smth?

[@LizziesLukas]

"CEOs and Billionaires are not God that I worshipped. They didn't do anything to me, they are not even related to me... So, why would I care?"

[@dorotheapeach9606]

🙌

[@whereismymindddd]

which part did she say this in the video?? :)

[@LizziesLukas]

@@whereismymindddd she didn't... I purposely made it in quote

[@manelsaadi7836]

exactly and their formula for success does not work for everybody. If you watch their interview they always give conflicting advice.

[@AikiraBeats]

Preaching to the choir 🙌💙

[@nicogiovannimusic]

"Okay??? I'm not Shakespeare" mood

[@pedrocavalcante4939]

I feel like everybody should take a break and not put too much pressure on themselves to be productive all the time Except me, I should be working twice as much because I'm not good enough (Does anyone else feel like that?)

[@cymonescurio]

Pedro Cavalcante Yes!

[@galacticmess7050]

Yep, my dumb brain always tries to tell me that's the truth. And it's toxic.

[@eddiepollau4577]

Pedro Cavalcante oof I felt that!!

[@Xan1120]

Pedro Cavalcante yep, basically.

[@aka_ko]

Yeah, I hate how I always think that because I’m not working hard I don’t have any worth. Then I try to work hard, but I never feel like it’s enough, which then repeats the cycle. It’s so awful how we constantly feel like we’re obligated to work hard/be productive 24/7 in order to feel like we are valued for what we do.

[@samkcatladyaks]

It’s triggering my husband with his health anxiety too. We’ve just been trying to live for today. We sat out on our back porch and watched birds eat from our bird feeder. We’ve painted. We’ve taken many walks, done many fun photo shoots. One day we sat down in a bed of clovers at sunset in silence. It was beautiful. We’ve had some really special moments in all this. A few months ago before this happened he read me a quote about us paying rent to spend most of our time in the office but now we’re having the time to value our home-the thing we spent thousands on for over 2 years. Home feels more like home. I feel closer to my husband, my inner child, the earth, and humanity.

[@lazerfocusedstriver9960]

I 🙏 PRAY that your marriage will continue to be blessed 🙌. Have some Beautiful Babies 😍 on me!!

[@deniunique4831]

This is so lovely

[@sweetness371]

I read something that said tiredness is a reaction to trauma. Our bodies and our minds are trying to shut down, to shelter us from the trauma. So if you're feeling particularly tired, lethargic or lazy right now, don't sweat it. That's a perfectly normal response to the world that we're currently living it.

[@nozhena]

Oh, damn...that might explain why I suddenly sleep so much and am always tired right now...usually I woke up after six hours and was perfectly well rested...

[@Polisciandfries]

I feel like the main thing hustle and productivity culture leave out is that the point of everything we do at the end of the day is to be happy and enjoy life. If working a regular job and watching netflix makes you happiest, then why are you killing yourself waking up at 4am to read a lifestyle book and meditate while downing lemon water.

[@AikiraBeats]

Big mood

[@janabachmann689]

Because we mistake needing something for wanting things because others suggest you to want/need it

[@thebelievers11]

so maybe i can cheer you up with a little story: i am italian and my parents are living in the north of italy. since they now have much time on their hand, they decided to pick up their old hobby of making comedy skits and making funny short movies. now they send me everyday a little comedy skit (they last one was of my dad going for a bike ride in the living room), it's hilarious.

[@wellwhoknows9567]

Aw that's so cool!

[@nahiaalbrechtotxoa-errarte4310]

biking in the living room😂

[@jav4346]

I’m so glad they were able to rediscover something so important to them ❤️❤️❤️

[@hopetateword]

I got laid off last week and this has been reassuring that I don’t need to spend all my time getting a job, working out, cleaning, running, reading, etc etc etc. I’m allowed to sit down and mourn my situation and am also allowed to sit and relax after I accomplish my day to day to do list.

[@rossanalopes3114]

Hope Tate Sorry about your job loss, everything will be fine hopefully

[@micahcook2408]

And to add, I think a part of this is also not doing things that are essential to us: shelter, water, food. Not saying we don’t need hobbies or jobs (especially since medicine and science is needed and entertainment has its perks and effects) but I realize during this Lockdown, we aren’t working on the essentials to surviving without these modern items... it sucks.

[@charleyhadley7759]

Lost my job too!, I agree this vid really helps hey

[@clogsworth456]

Did you have a shower and brush your teeth today? Congratulations! Relax away!

[@armitahosseini8683]

Aside from the pandemic ofc, I’m enjoying the fact that everything is being slowed down. Like, there were so many times where I’d feel overwhelmed and felt like I could never truly take a step back and breathe because the world would just pass me by, and I kept wishing the world would stop or slow down for a little while. I never thought that’d be possible, but that is what has happened now, and I wish we didn’t have to have a pandemic for our world to not be so fast-paced

[@maelle1819]

I feel exactly the same :-) (from France).

[@mauriceestelle4619]

Same here, I feel really bad for enjoying this "break", but just like you said I, too, needed to slow down a bit desperately

[@337Murder]

Thanks for putting my thoughts into words. It's been such a relief, even though most of us are struggling or will struggle. It will get better.

[@armitahosseini8683]

Maurice Estelle exactly! I’m worried that if do nothing, I’ll have “wasted my time” but at the same time, if I’m burnt out and forcing myself to be get things done, that doesn’t bring me any benefits either and it becomes counterproductive

[@armitahosseini8683]

200 subs with no video challenge exactly!! I keep thinking that once life gets back to normal, we’ll just go back to feeling overwhelmed, or that those of us that didn’t “make the most” of this time will have our lives in a big mess...

[@bozjeemma]

also important to remember that "success" is partly luck of the draw. You can work as hard as you want and not have it happen for you.

[@youisstupid2586]

Emma Ariena very true. A good example of this is a person working 3 jobs and barely getting by while another person makes millions only by working 1 job.

[@pokelover02]

@@youisstupid2586 Or getting it through inheritance

[@saschamayer4050]

There is a movie about this problem.

[@nicolearayaa]

Horst von Hinten name?

[@NaturalKachi]

We idolize CEOs and have the boss up mentality when we don't know them personally. Most CEOs have Personal Assistants for everything yet most of us will write crazy to do lists to improve our productivity for tasks meant to be carried out by at least 3 people

[@teresahowick5197]

NaturalKachi my dad owned a business and made a fantastic living. But! He had a wife home making 3 meals a day, grocery shopping, taking care of EVERYTHING else. I highly doubt he would’ve gotten to that level had he not had someone behind him like that.

[@gabriellameattray9778]

@@teresahowick5197 "behind every great man is an even better woman" -someome I don't remember but it makes sense

[@artrikapachori85]

Gabriella Meat Tray That’s the dumbest shit I’ve heard my dad built a million dollar business and he was literally divorced 3 years after marriage.

[@Kiasace]

@@artrikapachori85 women don't just come in the form of wives. There probably was a female friend, his mother, an assistant, somebody doing stuff for him in his life

[@amateurastronomer9752]

You’re right about productivity mostly being seen as virtue when it comes to fame and wealth. No one’s really asking the single parent working 3 jobs to make ends meet about their productive morning routine.

[@a1t3rmusic]

sadly true...great comment.

[@mcgil8891]

Exactly

[@missrelaxed3872]

This comment!!!!!!!👌🏼

[@Mej111]

My depression stems from the fact that I feel that if I’m not a productive member of society then what is the point of being here, so this lockdown has been particularly hard because I can’t even get motivated to do small things let along big things that I’ve been wanting to work on. Thank you so much for reminding me that it is okay to just not be productive and make it through the day. We love the Protestant work ethic 🙃

[@seth_piano]

Do you feel competitive with your need to be productive? (If it helps, great, if not, ignore me) What you said sounds a lot like how I feel normally. What's helping me now is knowing that even if I'm not being productive..........nobody else is either. There's no competition right now. We all just have to be blobs for a while. If you get one small or big thing done in a day, then it was a good day, and if you didn't make anything worse, then it's an okay day. There are many okay days ahead for all of us. :)

[@lollsazz]

It would just stress me out more if I just felt like I had to "be productive". I need specific goals, like: read "this", make "that", exercise this muscle group, water the plants, paint this shelf. Concrete things. When I was depressed, I sometimes had to make simpler goals: exercise for 15 minutes, eat breakfast, tidy my closet etc. Try making a list first :)

[@0skele272]

I wish you happiness during this time 🧡💕

[@RayneArt]

I struggle with depression too and the first couple of days in the lock down were rough. But now, it kinda feels nice. There is no FOMO. No event that I feel bad about missing, no invites I feel bad about turning down, no party/travel photos from other people I feel inferior because of. For once, everyone else is somewhat doing what I am doing. That is, to sit at home and just chill. Right now, most them are struggling to cope with all the free time and lack of structure. We're all in this together.

[@flor2637]

Same things are hard now for people with bad mental state like me 😕

[@pavladavlas]

“Shakespeare wrote King Lear while quarantained.” Okay??? He also got paid for playwriting. Most people who are in quarantine right now are not getting paid a dime and are legit fearing for their lives and financial stability. King Lear is also just one of about forty plays he wrote.

[@stephanieelwell1708]

“I am a woman chilling” is something I need on a shirt.

[@AikiraBeats]

And a hoodie

[@darlalathan6143]

@@AikiraBeats And I'm just the woman to put it there, lol! I'm in print-on-demand, now!

[@katerinavachova6217]

Yesterday I studied ‘only’ for an hour and then painted four pictures and painting made me happy but then I couldn’t sleep all night long bcs I was upset that I didn’t study more.... sometimes I wish my brain would shut up and stop telling me I’m worthless when I’m not studying

[@KpopManiac4Life]

Even an hour is good enough! I absolutely relate to you about feeling guilty and upset about not studying enough. As on overachiever (that's very much evaluating her values in life....), I feel like if I didn't spend a long time studying I did nothing that particular day. I have been having several intense panic attacks due to my anxiety about my future, life, family and the world hahaha. I took my laptop out, read a few sentences of my assignment question, typed one word, then shut it off and played my guitar. But at least I started. I read a bit. And it's sokay! Small progress is STILL progress! You studied for an hour, make it an hour and 15, an hour and a half, so on and so forth! You're doing absolutely great!

[@chloei_]

I’ve been doing this too! I have seemingly constant headaches and I struggle to work through them, but whenever I take a break (which is obviously good for my health) I feel terrible

[@RainasRoom]

"I am a woman chilling, and there is nothing wrong with that." -Tiffanyferg, 2020

[@kristyred981]

I really hate the whole 'use every minute of your day' productivity! In the begining of the isolation, I was very motivated to do everything. That lasted for five days and now I find all of the posibilities and the amount of online content (plays, museums, e-books and audio books, netflix shows etc) overwealming. So now one day I am motivated to put on some makeup, do some hobbies but the next day showering and cooking my meals for the day is sucess and I think that's ok too.

[@troybolton14]

"if all you can do is survive, then focus on that." i needed to hear that

[@dayboyy24]

when you looked directly into the camera and said "let yourself CHILL for once" i deadass teared up because it felt like you were talking directly to me. i truly need to remember this more often. you are the goat tiffany ferg :]

[@lalaartsy7140]

You are so intelligent, eloquent, and thoughtful Tiffany. It’s so hard to come across people who share similar morals but every video you post proves to me that we exist. Thank you so much for being such a great inspiration and so outspoken about toxic norms in society. I really appreciate you!!

[@tiffanyferg]

This is so sweet, thank you!!

[@uydudanbak]

Yea, as an euroasian, i wonder how come a western, usa born, blonde biutiful young lady can think about these like that humanely. U should be doing gossip, makeup fashion vlogs :) Haha salutes

[@oneofthetrasians]

@@uydudanbak what a gross comment. If you genuinely think that what you wrote is somehow a compliment and does not reek of condescending sexism and racism you need to get your head checked

[@sanchivarma2421]

armag k hey that’s extremely generalizing and stereotyping. Just because people are different from you: white, blond, USA born doesn’t mean they know nothing about anything and it’s offense to say she SHOULD be doing something or the other just because she was born a certain way. Americans are not just headlines, and while I understand the complementary sentiment, maybe you should rephrase it!

[@watsyourdestiny2086]

Lala Artsy absolutely agree!!!

[@phoebekate9018]

“Productivity” is so vague. I have always wondered what exactly people mean by “Keep grinding” etc. What exactly are you doing??? Who are you kidding? And does it make you happy?

[@krombopulos_michael]

It just differs depending on who you are. If you're a student it often means studying more. If you're a writer it might mean getting more writing done. It could even just be getting all your chores at home done. Whatever it is, the point is that you're getting results. It's not productivity to just spend a lot of time doing something, it's productivity when you get a lot done for the amount of time you had.

[@margotdenise5091]

Exactly. It’s a phrase that has solely been invented to make other people feel bad on social media

[@strawwberryyy]

also it kind of hurts me how everyone is like "yeah everyone has so much free time now!!!" when I just don't! I don't, okay? I still have the same university workload as before, even a bigger one than before because teachers are giving out so much more stuff to do between online lectures/group meetings! like how does this change anything other than the fact that I just can't leave my fucking apartment to go to the uni to work on things, for example? this is insaneee

[@i-just-threw-it-away]

THANK YOU. My parents keep saying that I'm just being lazy in my room all day, but I've actually been working towards important exams. My teachers all think we have "free time" so they are ALL giving us extra work. I JUST DONT HAVE THE TIME.

[@hattarapilvi]

im a healthcare employee being driven insane by all the ”bored at home in quarantine nothing to do” content considering im the busiest and most stressed i have ever been in my life 😅

[@wieauchimmer1]

I often feel like, we have that idea that "being productive" has to be a chore and things we like doing cannot be productive. For example: last week my sister came to me and said, she is feeling like she had done nothing all day. I asked her, what she had done in the last few hours. She answered, that she spent the time crocheting a wrap top for herself for summer. I would definitely count that as productive but she did not, because it was fun and relaxing

[@MrMarinus18]

I like to separate it in being productive vs being busy. Being productive means you are doing stuff that needs to be done and you are focused on doing those things to the best of your abilities. Being busy though means you are doing stuff for the sake of doing stuff. I think that's where you need to draw the line. Don't try finding work, let the work find you. Do it because it needs to be done.

[@cristinajimenez666]

I'm in the same boat as a lot of university students right now where I've moved back home and transitioned to online classes; and I've found that it's so much harder to keep up my motivation and productivity when I'm not in that school environment. At my desk in my dorm I could study or read a textbook for hours, yet at home I can only concentrate for like 30 minutes at a time, which is super frustrating because I still have so much work to do.

[@aphextwen]

Cristina Jimenez me too! I’m also really struggling to stay on top of stuff, it’s so easy for deadlines and announcements etc to get lost in emails, or are hard to find online. Feel like I need an instructions manual. Good luck w everything

[@rossanalopes3114]

Completely get you

[@janaeiskonfektknisterpapie7004]

Omg yes! I cannot find this turn on for being concentrated for hours, what I can do in univerisity, at home I barrely get anything done

[@DziewczynaZKsiegarni]

I have to be writing my thesis right now soooo...yeah. You can only imagine how great it's going.

[@StarlingofAzerath]

Same. I wanna "relax" but my teachers have not paused a second and kept assignments pumping even when there was the sudden shift to online...im finally catching up to speed on things...after this week things go back into a normal load of homework.

[@gracesquared1]

I feel the bit about hobby’s so hard. I studied art in college and used to draw all the time as a relaxer but now I can barely doodle without critiquing it

[@mg6933]

gracesquared1 have you tried looking back on your work without critiquing it and see your progress that is something I have done and it has helped me a lot and take the compliments that can help to.

[@ivanaas.9037]

me too!

[@Gruesome420]

Oh god same. I used to be an illustration major but now not only is sitting down to draw a reminder of my own past failures, if I cant make something I deem perfect, then I just feel like shit. Like I wasted my time just like I wasted all that time and money in college. What used to give myself joy now bring upon self loathing.

[@mauriceestelle4619]

That's the ultimate reason i don't go to art school, because i'm afraid i won't enjoy art anymore, decided to go for engineering instead

[@tuttochiaramentechiaro]

THIS

[@areyoukirringmeirriyaa]

this hits me hard. as a person with shitty teachers who give us way too many essays and exams to do in a short time I always freak out and put aside food and sleep. The little breaks I have make me feel as if I’m wasting time and should be workingz

[@lauriem6352]

are you kirring mi irrriya?? SAME I haven’t sat down to read a book in a while because when I try to I can only focus on all the stuff I could be doing that’s more productive

[@skeletonducc5232]

same

[@raynajcarter]

wow thank you bc this is exactly what i’ve been doing since school’s been out

[@Thatcaramelchic]

LMAO "turn yourself into a cartoon character and wear the same thing everyday"!

[@helloeli7162]

Since the quarantine started, I have been feeling guilty. Almost feeling like I have to justify my pay. So to deal with the anxiety and as a way to social distance while avoiding eating too much, I have been sewing. I made masks for my family. It's been helping but today, I needed a nothing to do day. And for the first time in two weeks, I enjoyed doing nothing.

[@LukeAlexander]

Omg I love this cause I always feel guilty when I’m relaxing cause I feel like should be working

[@kaylee7707]

“We do not exist just to work”. I can’t believe I’ve never thought of it. I’m only 17 and I’ve already gotten to the mind set of being super productive and feeling awful when I don’t work. Even on sick days I spend all day doing homework. This and all your videos are amazing. Thank you💛

[@onenighttoremember]

I had to come to 32 to realize this. There is hope in the new generation!

[@deraokoli7746]

We only exist to survive and pass on our genes. working is part of that

[@darajoyce5514]

@@onenighttoremember same

[@ValKagamineNyan]

6:03 OH MY GOD THIS it’s so annoying, i’m pretty good with “artsy” and beauty related stuff, but most of those things i do them for fun and i constantly get told that i should start making money on it and it’s just uGH i do these things to relax, having to do them for other people instantly takes the relaxation part away

[@darlalathan6143]

That's partly why I quit freelancing in 1999 and never looked back.

[@charliefawn2519]

"What's better than finishing a book" Finishing a book is awful! You'll never see your beloved friends again. 😔 it's heartbreaking.

[@justasmalltimebean]

I've been unabashadly chilling and letting myself do what I want when I want. I watch a ton of series with my bf. I make art sometimes, but usually start the morning not doing any art and just chill. It's amazing. I really needed this

[@georgiosz.9493]

things i have started doing since quarantine: -building an adorable hobbit house in minecraft -cross stitching -baking and cooking for my parents things i should be doing: -working on 2 term papers -reading -working out

[@georgiosz.9493]

@Grommet ok boomer

[@alternativered2568]

@Grommet Not sure what "most people" you're referring to, but I have never met anyone that didn't see the appreciation and enjoyment of something as not valuable.

[@AikiraBeats]

I felt that

[@sukumykaja]

That's like me except I'm addicted to video games so it's worse.

[@alternativered2568]

@Grommet So basically you're saying that gaming (and lots of other recreational pastimes) is a waste of time because it doesn't provide any improvement to one as an individual. Why does everything need to have self-improving qualities to be worthwhile? Consoles and games can be expensive, but that investment leads to years of entertainment. Is that not enough? Are you a gamer yourself?

[@hadleybristol1112]

Theology grad student here: few things get me more excited than talking about Protestant work ethic, and generally how it has negatively effected American culture. It fuels into the mythos of the American Dream and how, if you work hard enough, you can achieve anything! And if you’re not achieving, then you’re not working hard enough. Even worse, lack of success through the lens of the American Dream is conflated with the Protestant work ethic: you’re not successful because you don’t work hard enough, AND God doesn’t love you. This conflation is why the religious right abhors socialism and welfare benefits; these values are associated with laziness and a lack of faith. No consideration is given to systemic issues like racism, incarceration, and gender that could cause societal “failure.” Failure is a personal decision. Then churches who peddle a prosperity gospel theology take advantage of people who are deemed unsuccessful by society and religion. These churches, like Joel Olsteen’s, are often very wealthy at the expense of their congregation. They usually have the message of “give more to this church, pray harder, and you’ll be successful!” The attendants of prosperity gospel churches are disproportionately poor and minorities. So many are being taken advantage of by a system and blamed by that system for being unsuccessful, and are taken advantage of and manipulated through religious vulnerabilities. This is what I’m writing my thesis on and I CANNOT shut up about it, so sorry :)

[@tiffanyferg]

Yessss prosperity gospel is a whole other rabbit hole that I’ve been meaning to research more. It’s all fascinating but so troubling

[@margotdenise5091]

I want to read your thesis!!

[@starrynightsleep]

i'm happy for u that ur doing something that you care about, love, and appreciate ! that's amazing :)

[@sdictson7750]

whoa that's crazy, they literally are twisting the words in the Bible to fit their own needs, the Bible talks about how God will reward you for tithing and such, but it NEVER says he will punish you for ANYTHING. It only ever talks about how good God is. Which is interesting since i would assume they are teaching from the Bible.. I only know this because i study the Bible A Lot.

[@nicolekerrison]

@@margotdenise5091 I second this! It sounds awesome!

[@HamazingKayliee]

My friend studies while on the treadmill. He's outrageously productive, but being in med school he barely has time for chilling, and that really sucks honestly

[@rossanalopes3114]

HamazingKayliee wow that sounds quite sad

[@5thgearouttahere]

Doing two things slightly worse but at the same time is fairly productive though

[@tiryaclearsong421]

So many of the super productive channels are med school channels.

[@brianna_903]

You know, what hurts the most is even after watching videos like this, my mind tells me I’m just using them as excuses to be lazy. It’s scary to feel as though your own brain is against you, and this was a real eye-opener. Thank you for the video and I hope these negative mindsets, within myself and others, start to change.

[@imahimfan]

I chased a fly out of the house, I'm calling that a productive morning

[@Emilyjadeofficial]

Am I the only one that doesn’t feel even a sliver of guilt for laying in bed all day for 2 weeks now?

[@danaekolyva3309]

Nope, I'm with you!

[@teresahowick5197]

Jessica Katrakova I mostly don’t but here and there it creeps up. Doesn’t help that so many parents are now homeschooling. Wtf? We were told explicitly by our education minister not to do that. Yet they still are. And then some teachers sending stuff home even though we were told that they don’t need to. The messages are so conflicting. I just want to feel confident 100%

[@magickaldust1213]

@@teresahowick5197 and our school districts are being told we need to use the materials they intend to provide (and havent yet with no future plan to) and to just make do until then. Everything is ridiculously conflicting

[@schlongersaurus]

Dont you have shit to do?

[@AdamariMedia]

Right lol

[@admirbarucija2018]

I always feel that if I’m not doing something or “hustling,” that I’m falling behind and not living life to the fullest potential I can!! Thank you for your world-class videos Tiffany, I hope you’re doing well!! 💕

[@Xan1120]

It’s wild that my mom had a conversation about the trajectory of my life as a young adult (21) and my apparent “lack of productivity” after leaving college. Ever since like 2 years ago when I left, my parents keep feeling the need to steer me to be a “productive member of society” without realizing that I want time to figure things out more and reach my goals in a timely fashion. Thank you so much for making this video to make me feel better about all this in these v intense and strange times.

[@ariana-66]

👏👏👏👏

[@sarahfeng]

19 years old here, dropped out of college 2 years ago as well. i've finally realized that the reason i'm so suicidal all the time isn't necessarily because i want to die, but rather because i just want to be able to do/be/feel nothing without the constant guilt that comes with it. that and the fact that i don't have a future in the slightest lol my mom is the exact same way you described. i can't even escape by sleeping because she limits that as well. hang in there, hope things work out for you.

[@francescaellis8893]

I have always had mixed feelings about this because one of my favorite hobbies has been learning languages for a while now. People always are amazed when I say that I study all these languages when really I'm just like procrastinating in a new way lol. I've always had mixed feelings about whether it could count as productive and how to balance keeping it fun while like actually making progress and do I even want to make progress or do I just want to learn verb charts like what am i even doing. And yeah this video was a very interesting discussion. Thanks. I hope you are staying safe and sorry for rambling in your comments.

[@randomcomment7675]

100% same

[@JaclynForbes]

obsessed w this series 👏🏼 so well researched + edited!!

[@AlexaVonSuess]

This video is everything. With the help of my therapist, I've come to grips with the fact that I am indeed addicted to working. I feel physically uncomfortable when I can't - like I don't fit into my own skin. I feel guilty, restless, and anxious. Realizing that a person can be truly addicted to work was an amazing thing. So often workaholics are praised for their tenacity and drive when what it's really doing is tearing down our boundaries, affecting mental health, and preventing us from creating meaningful relationships. So I'm completing a mandatory quarantine period as I just got over the virus and I've been really forced to contemplate that addiction in detail. Super interesting.

[@wherethesunsets]

Well, then I hope you slowly but surely manage your way through it, sending you strength as this time can be especially difficult for you.

[@partytime8092]

My therapist and I discovered this as well. Mine was due to undiagnosed OCD.

[@gabriellameattray9778]

I'm so glad you're healing and recovering now!

[@rhythmictiger]

I definitely recommend gardening, I have no idea what I'm doing but snipping off branches and pulling out weeds definitely has an element of catharsis.

[@imaginareality]

I've completely dug up like a third of my lawn (i plan to turn it into a flower meadow) last week. I also have no idea what I'm doing but gardening is great and I am very grateful for having a garden right now.

[@pandalvr2691]

hey hey hey, Obama doesn't wear the same thing every day, he wore a tan suit once

[@teresahowick5197]

Pandalvr26 don’t forget his mom jeans 😂😂.

[@WinterReflections]

Was that the one that caused THE GREAT FOX NEWS TAN SUIT SCANDAL?

[@sezzyridge]

that suit was siiiick. he should've worn it more tbh lol

[@shoyuramenoff]

@@teresahowick5197 I think you're getting confused with Mitt Romney.

[@JoseSanchez-qc6qr]

Why isn't anyone else talking about how she plugged in I Am Not A Robot by Marina & the Diamonds? 🥺

[@eviesampson6418]

I was so happy and surprised :D

[@juliamarlin5612]

One of my all time favorite songs, would also recommend her song obsessions.

[@nokronis]

Feels like a lot of people never grew up learning how to figure out who they are, and who other people are, outside of work and productivity these days. We really need to teach people how to get in touch with their inner feelings, get comfortable with the unknown and the new, learning that you really don't know everything about yourself and that's okay and is a wonderful starting point. Humanity just loves causing itself hatred and strife, it's sad and frustrating. Good luck to all you guys in finding yourself in this mess of a world where everyone wants to tell you who to be.

[@robynrayford588]

Being a procrastinator in a scenario like this is absolutely terrible. I've been quarantined for a week and a half now, and I have waited until the last minute to turn in at least 5 assignments😭🤧

[@0skele272]

Robyn Rayford same!

[@beautyandfashion1563]

Same sis😂

[@user-ge2es2bp2x]

Same ! I need to go to the library to get things done

[@elliepumpkin1]

Me too :(

[@hannavignolo6454]

I started a blog for no reason. One of the best decisions I've ever made

[@franrios1176]

I usually never comment online, but I started playing my favorite video game util 5 in the morning like my teenage years with this quarantine, and I almost cried when I realized that it had almost been 10 years since I picked up my xbox controller, like how and when did my life get so busy that I forgot about how to sit down and enjoy playing a video game without worrying about waking up early, finishing up a project, or only getting enough time off to do grocery, laundry, cleaning, paying my bills and preparing to go to work and repeat the same thing everyday. Like I could never catch up on "life." so in other words I AM ENJOYING THIS QUARANTINE

[@IlkaWaffy]

weirdly enough i feel this absolute urge to paint at the moment. I love being productive on my own terms and structuring my day differently than when im in uni

[@sandy-vm9nz]

Maybe we should start thinking of „time doing nothing“ as mental health productivity. Thank you for this video, you really made my day a lot better

[@alexandratrutter2730]

Nice to hear someone on KZbin say this! Capitalism has even influenced how we conceptualise time. Time is another commodity to be “spent”. Super interesting to compare with Native American languages that describe time without the influence of capitalism. I know it must be hard to do vids in a time like this but your voice and analysis is needed on the internet. Sending love 💕

[@jessiemoses4423]

Alexandra TRUTTER I’ve never thought about it like this, thank you for sharing!!!

[@rexappleby4731]

How did they describe it?

[@csvl7039]

...because feudal lords, long before “capitalism”, didn’t do this too? Oh yes, they did, and the workers got zero in exchange

[@Laura-gd4ku]

@@csvl7039 Not really. In feudalism the peasants worked on the land continuously, they didnt had the seperation of "private work" (reproductive work) vs. productive work. So there was also no time measurement .

[@oliviastelmach1750]

its stressful when the motivational people scream time is money and they actually do the math

[@haybalesxx]

i’m so fragile rn i teared up when you reminded me that we are human and allowed to have bad days. lmao! thank you.

[@tiffanyferg]

Aww! 💛💛💛 I cry very easily too lmao I feel you

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

@@tiffanyferg i tried to take this to heart but if i'm not productive i will instantly increase my anxiety because the only thing keeping me from feeling like death is the only way out is to constantly work on my mental health in order to have a semblance of relaxation from time to time. the moment i stop trying to better myself is the moment i turn into a pile of dirt on the floor. i've already died inside multiple times before and i can't bear to go back there. i don't want to _survive_ i want to _live_

[@flor2637]

Same :(

[@yemzi8366]

I’m a professional procrastinator with lots of productivity-related anxiety. My mind is always on fire and cant work but cant relax either

[@eggegg8181]

I’m the same

[@TheMightyAzure]

Someone put it into words.

[@KpopManiac4Life]

Took the words right outta my mouth! I've been having IMMENSE anxiety around working on assignments & catching up to lectures but I'm really anxious and i make a big deal out of it and I don't do it at all

[@ynl1359]

I relate to this so much

[@flor2637]

Same now is worse because the situation 😭

[@kadieel7447]

I have online classes, 7 hour shifts at work, and lots of free time and I’m having so much trouble balancing my homework and fun free time around my work and sleep and eating. When I was on campus things were scheduled for me and I had regular consistently scheduled breaks and I didn’t realize how much I needed those time limits until all this happened. I am so unmotivated to do my work because I have so much time so I just put it off. I also feel like once I learn to function amongst this madness the world is going to go back to normal and then I’ll miss this time. It’s all driving me a little mad.

[@imaginareality]

I've moved away from daily to-do-lists because I never keep to them and then I feel bad. Instead I've been working on just being more present in my life, taking schort breaks throughout the day where I stop, connect with my surroundings and actively think about what I still need or want to do that day. The sudden loss of routine and structure has been a bit hard for me. I still get up every morning at the same time I would usually get up for work and I've structured my day so that I know what will come next and I won't feel lost. But I don't know how well that will work in the long run (as it's gonna get harder to find things to do).

[@imaginareality]

Maybe I should add that my problem has never been being too productive but more not even getting up to complete the most basic tasks like washing dishes or eating regularly.

[@maddiegrace9787]

Same. I'm an incredibly structured person and having many classes be asynchronous is really affecting my grades and my motivation. I'm trying to structure it with my to-do lists, but it's absolutely a challenge

[@jakuth99]

This is the loudest the anticapitalism has ever been and I love it

[@krombopulos_michael]

No it isn't. It was much louder in the early to 20th mid century when socialism and communism were yet to be tested. Many communist regimes were being established and even many democratic countries had major parties that identified as socialist.

[@abbadabaddest]

Honestly I’m soo glad I never let all those productivity quacks get to my head. What does constant productivity get you anyway? Everybody needs a break.

[@eleo_b]

I feel like I’m the only one who’s not aiming to be productive. I’m always looking for ways to put in the least amount of effort with maximum results. And I have no problem with bumming around all day. According to my parents I’ve always been like that, even as a child.

[@mcgil8891]

Same! Feels good to know someone's out there just like me lmao

[@currybread5298]

Me too! Also I have unbearable pressure to be productive for everyone

[@eleo_b]

@@currybread5298 Me too? But that’s the opposite of what I am saying. I do not feel pressure to be productive, I’m an inherently lazy person.

[@randomcomment7675]

I’m not a lazy person I just do what I need to effectively to move on to free time. 70% of my life is free time and that is all I aspire in terms of “career goals”

[@eleo_b]

@@randomcomment7675 I do admit, even at work, I always try and cut corners where I can. I’m the opposite of a perfectionist. Apparently, I was already like that when I was 5 years old!

[@chrysoula5226]

it's been really nice for me actually. I completely understand this is a horrible situation but being in my last year of highschool with 11 hours of lessons everyday and an insane workload I finally have time to chill, sleep 8 hours and also watch a movie quite often which I haven't been doing for months and missed. it's all going to be over. sending love

[@musicxcoffee4185]

When I started chilling without worrying a lot about not being productive, I found out that when I had to finish school assignments I did them with a better attitude ♡

[@TheMarieCookiieChain]

thank you for speaking about this topic!!!!! Nowadays everything is about success, how hard someone works and how much they make.... Screw thaaaaaaaaaaaat!!!! Just be happy, enjoy yourself, spend some time with your loved one... isn't that what really matters in the end?

[@anulydal]

I always feel so guilty when I'm home being lazy. My job is literal production. (Sewing!) I've been taking this sudden state of lack of work to get little projects around the house done. I do lots of jigsaw puzzles, cross stitch, and play lots of video games.( Gamer girl since the 80s! Woot!) I'm also a home hobbiest seamstress. I sew for a living, but also just for fun. And if I had a dollar for every time a person told me I should sell my homemade clothes...No. Not happening. I don't want, or need to make money from my hobby, thanks. Then it's become a business, not a fun hobby, which defeats the purpose of the hobby. What I'm not going to do is pressure myself to do anything. I'm going to do whatever I can with all this free time at my own pace. Thanks for the insightful video! Hang in there, do the best you can, and keep being awesome!

[@TheNitpickChick]

I definitely agree that being obsessed with productivity is unhealthy, but that a certain level of feeling productive is actually very beneficial. I value my time off immensely, because I get overwhelmed very easily at my job, so having time to just chill and do fun things is very necessary for me. However, if I spend all of that time off just watching tv or movies then I tend to start feeling like crap. My depression really starts to kick in and I get super restless. (Sorta like eating nothing but dessert. It might taste good, but it would give me a stomach ache.) I stay productive by working on art. If I’m able to work on art _while_ watching tv or movies, I tend to feel better because then I’m still making something. I have something to show for my time. I don’t make art as a steady income source. I make it because I have a deep need to express myself and I greatly enjoy improving and trying new techniques! 😊 So yeah, during this time of quarantine, I have still been watching my fair share of tv and movies, don’t get me wrong, but I still do my darndest to make time for my art in order to keep myself sane. 🙂

[@charlietrancy6661]

Thank you for this! A while back a KZbinr I really liked sadly made a video about how 'self care makes you lazy' and no one understood why I thought it was a bad idea to tell people they're wrong for watching one episode of parks and rec between studying for 8 hours. I've also seen that other workers almost get angry with you if you don't seem productive enough for them. I told my classmate that during midterms week I sat down and played Mario kart and she was like...judging me? I spent the whole day studying but it seemed like for that one hour of video games I was almost looked down upon or seen as lazy. It's crazy how many people are brainwashed by this.

[@NotesByNiba]

youtubers: things to do while quarantined! how to make a schedule! how to be productive at home! t-ferg: *this video* I STAN TFERG

[@orueom7720]

😂 sheep, you realize she's being productive by making this video? She's gonna make her money off of ad revenue while patting your head and telling you it's fine to be lazy. 👏🤨

[@sarahmitchell7799]

I can totally relate to that anxiety about the pandemic. Every time I actually start reading about it, I definitely start feeling that panic, but I've realized that by simply avoiding the fear-mongering and keeping a light attitude about it (taking it seriously where it counts, of course), I've found it much easier to stay sane about it. I refer to it as "the Coronies" simply because it helps to remind me that it's not actually the apocalypse, and I don't have to stay holed up in my closet. Of course I'm still staying home as much as possible, respecting the six feet rule, washing my hands properly and often, and, as always, dabbing when I cough. I've been taking advantage of my time by working on home projects that I didn't have time for previously. Currently my boyfriend and I are doing a massive rearranging project in our living room, which is a big deal because we're figure collectors, with a lot of fragile things. We discovered a massive mold problem in the middle of it, and we may not have known about it until it was too late to save our couch if we had continued putting it off. If anything, this time has been a real lifesaver (er, couch-saver?). Other than that, reading more, cleaning more, and spending more time with each other (and our pets) have all felt really nice. We're both essential workers so we do have to work still, but both of our schedules have been cut down quite a bit so that we have significantly more free time. While I'm someone who was on the productivity train for a while, I suffered from massive burnout and depression after realizing I couldn't keep up with my expectations for myself. Nowadays I'm trying to focus on the things that make me feel stable rather than like Superwoman. Truthfully I don't think I want to be Superwoman at all, and I just want to make enough money to support my expensive hobbies. I'm even planning to go back to school to switch careers from art to accounting. Basically, I think there are a lot of things I can learn from productivity videos and books, but the things I'm trying to learn the most is to stop guilting myself for not meeting some made up standard, and that it's okay to have a career that allows me to pursue my true passion: enjoying my fandom, attending related events, and collecting merchandise.

[@tiffanyferg]

Love all of this! Ps “the coronies” might be stuck in my vocabulary now hahaha

[@noemiebastow719]

"There's nothing better than going on a walk for no reason." A few weeks i would have disagreed, but now that the whole country is in lockdown and we are literrally not allowed to leave the house unless we need food or have to go to the hospital, all i want i to go for a walk!!!!! On the plus side, this whole situation has made me much more grateful of what i have :)

[@hayden9802]

Noémie Bastow you cant go on walks?

[@hayden9802]

Noémie Bastow because I’m allowed to go on walks?!?

[@noemiebastow719]

@@hayden9802 i can, but it has to be within 1km, so i cant go anywhere!!😭

[@PHDBRplays]

My girlfriend sent me this video after I almost had a stroke due to work stress. I am a Game Programmer and during this quarantine I have been working 6 days a week 10h a day. This is not because my bosses tell me to, I simply cannot enjoy pretty much anything if I know there is a bug in my code or the designers are having trouble using my tools. I can't relax until something can be considered absolutely "done". This video has helped me relax a bit because of the fear of getting fired part (wich is VERY real). Would be cool to see something about how to deal with the pain of thinking you are not doing good work for a client, I'm sure artists must deal with this a lot. Its probably normal for clients to bash your work until it is exactly how they want, and then just proceed to give you the next task without any praise. But it has been soulcrushing for me. If somebody knows of something that will help, please let me know.

[@marlen3735]

Hi, I'm very sorry to hear that. To come straight to the point: you say that you are afraid of not producing a good-enough outcome because you feel like not being good enough, right? Also, it seems like you experience very high stress. So, something you could do is build your feeling of self-worth and have an exercise to decrease stress. To build self-worth, there are multiple options (Google is your friend^^). For example, every day you could write down 3 things that you did well on that very day. It doesn't matter if it seems like a small thing from the outside, what matter is that it made you feel proud. Let's say you managed to have a 10min break of work in which you managed to not think about work. Congrats, Nr.1 is found! :D Another thing is that you listened to your girlfriend and are now seeking out help. That is also something remarkable and shouldn't be downplayed. Regarding stress, there are also multiple options. One could be progressive muscle relaxation (there are guided videos on youtube). This helps you to bring you body from a high-stress to a low stress state. If you look into sth called "broaden and build theory", you will notice that being relaxed actually makes you more productive and creative. Therefore, it might be very beneficial for your situation. On last note: in any case there is something bothering you and hindering you in your daily life, you can always seek out counselling or therapy. I'm from Europe, so this is free of charge for me, but unfortunately I do not know how it is in the US or elsewhere. Good luck, stay safe, and please let me know if it helped you and if not, what you'd like to hear instead^^

[@KpopManiac4Life]

@@marlen3735 not op but this was helpful thanks

[@AikiraBeats]

Wow that's intense. I would say set certain hours that you can work and then stop once those hours are done. You can go for a walk and take a break from work and life for a little bit is very relaxing

[@lucysmith1507]

PHDBRplays I'm an illustration graduate and I really struggle with this kind of thing myself. I'm trying the app MindShift (it's free), to manage my general anxiety and there's a specific section about "perfectionism" anxiety and how to deal with it and how to break out of the negative mindsets, you might find it helpful!

[@VenusDoom1122]

I feel you on this. You are unfortunately in game programming which is one of the worst work hours in terms of devs. I'm just a front-end dev. I completely understand not relaxing when things aren't they way we want, done done so to speak. My advice is to take a small break at least twice. Could be tiny like doing something you enjoy for a bit. I like to just unwind a bit with my favorite KZbinr. Get some coffee. Get to good stopping points in your code and if you have lingering thoughts, write them as comments or in a notepad so you can come back with less of "what was I doing again". Feel free to reach out. I feel your pain. As a dev, we are easily replaceable unless we produce.

[@aliciajade8837]

living with my parents stresses me out so much because when i feel unproductive it’s like they don’t let me and tell me negative things for just being me and relaxing

[@milja4055]

"Omg, she's so right!" I say, as I am both watching this video and learning the ten-finger system at the same time because I'm not able to feel productive enough if I only do one thing at a time.

[@sepulchrums]

I just feel like this is literally the right time to be taking this time to relax, to get back into old hobbies. There’s no reason for us to work ourselves to death for capitalism. Like it’s okay to relax people, it’s fine to stop and smell the roses.

[@clareashcraft3411]

"Nothing to scary because I'm sensitive." ^^ we love a queen setting healthy boundaries

[@CrystalStackhouse]

these past 2 weeks my I had no classes so I didn’t have any schoolwork to do + I got laid off from my campus job so I’ve spent 90% if my break feeling like absolute shit for being so wasteful of my time. I keep being mad at myself for not “studying ahead” and doing more more more. I’ve had breakdowns. I’ve cried. And realized... not only did I not relax, not only was I not productive, I spent all this time feeling miserable for no good reason. Thank you for this. I really needed it to show me that it is okay to just relax and enjoy the leisures of our privileged lives. Many thanks :)

[@miche8868]

*uses Hank Green in the intro* true but Hank Green would be the first to rec-- *later uses Hank Green recognizing toxic productivity habits* oh nice

[@emilymarie596]

I've made myself a list of "must see movies" that I've compiled from different sources and put a little check box next to them... so as I sit on the couch and watch Casablanca... I feel productive when I can check it off my list..while also being a couch pota- I mean a woman chilling. I do not regret this.

[@ActuallyAnanya]

So I'm on placement at a Mental Health Service for kids and teens (or at this point I guess I /was/ on placement... it's complicated). One of the group therapy sessions we ran was an anxiety management group for high school age teens. One of the things the occupational therapists who were facilitating the group really emphasised was the idea of Occupational Balance. Occupational Balance is made up of 3 categories: productivity, leisure, and self-care. People should try to split their waking hours equally between activities that fit into these 3 categories. As you mentioned, there are things that for some people fit into multiple categories; for example for me, writing is something I really enjoy and it's productive (and I've made a point of not doing it for money, because I think that'd stress me out too much). Exercise is often all 3 categories. One thing I find personally helpful is if you're doing something you wouldn't normally enjoy but has to be done (like washing dishes or whatever), pair it with something you do like - for example listening to music or a podcast or something while doing it. This starts to remove the negative mental association you might have formed with that task. I almost always have talk-heavy videos (like yours) on when I'm tidying my wardrobe lol Before I went to university I had a gap year where I was basically a shut-in and did barely anything except watch KZbin videos all day. I wasn't taking care of myself and I wasn't working towards any goals, it was pretty much the ultimate hedonistic lifestyle, and it took such a bad toll on my mental health that during my first week at uni I was a nervous wreck and barely left my room of the student flat, even skipping meals to avoid seeing people in the kitchen - which was ridiculous, since my first year flatmates were lovely. Having the structure of uni, going to lectures and having assignments and tests etc., back in place actually really helped me get out of that, and motivated me to take care of myself more as well. My mum left her old job a few months ago and was taking a break for a few months, but towards the latter half she was getting restless, because even with unlimited media out there to consume now, the lack of purpose was making her feel bored. She signed up for sign language classes and really found purpose in that. I think it's important to stress that productivity doesn't always have to be a job or something you have to do, it can be anything that makes you feel accomplished and gives you purpose.

[@Gogoslittlesister]

Honestly, my need to be productive all the time stems from needing structure in my daily life, otherwise possibly falling into depression or/and anxiety. And as a person without a lot of hobbies it's hard to keep up with myself 🤷🏼‍♀️ (especially right now)

[@imaginareality]

I really relate to that. I've been trying to stay productive and so far it has worked out because I still had some things I could do for work and I could work in my garden for hours a day (because the weather was great) but even so I can feel the depression sneaking in and I dread the next few weeks when it'll get harder and harder to fill my time with productive things.

[@flor2637]

Same

[@griselolmos5624]

Prioritizing my health, helped me not obsess over productivity, while starting my own business.

[@reem54]

this video ironically made me want to get up and get my life back together

[@BabvBlues]

your content is always well made!!

[@nesoberries]

High school student here - it’s really strange, but also interesting, to see how schools and teachers are responding to this. Some of my teachers are pushing for us to relax and assigning us minimal work, while others are interpreting this as the potential *end* of our education and giving us double the work. These past two weeks, I haven’t been able to do a single “”productive”” thing because of school. I wish school administrations would realize that they don’t need to constantly be assigning us work as a way to keep us occupied. Another thing that’s bothering me just a bit is college. I feel terrible for HS class of 2020 who might not be able to truly say goodbye to high school-maybe they won’t be able to even have a full graduation ceremony. I, as a Junior, am concerned about how the realm of college apps will change with this. Will schools go test optional? Are APs going to be taken less seriously since the exam is now different? Will apps be less or more competitive? I could care less about the current quarantine. What I do care about is how this might impact my future and everything I’ve been working for throughout HS. Just took the opportunity to get that off my chest. Hope everyone is doing well 💕

[@evie1262]

Kyra Johnson this is a weird response i guess, but i totally relate to what you're saying. i've been wondering similar things and reading this made me feel like i had to write a reply i guess lol :D i actually really appreciate reading your thought process and i'm glad you got write down what you're thinking! have a good one! 💕💜

[@unlikelytravelerc]

I've heard that parents complaining about children not having homework lead administrations to push teachers to put out work, which puts 2x the stress of teacher AND students. Its not far to anyone. Keep your head up bub, you'll make it! 💖💖💖

[@lizzye1952]

I have 6 subject right now, as opposed to the usual 8, and let em just say, the work won’t stop. Every teacher has taken the greatest pleasure of giving us a lot of essays. Now as an overly analytical person these take me forever. I have to make sure it flows well, matched my teachers intellect (not all can handle a nice basic essay, yay idiot teachers), and sounds nice to me. I’m a freshie btw

[@smultronst4ll3t]

i’m actually thinking about the same things!! online classes are really draining right now, they are longer than regular ones and on top of that we get tons of homework. and since you now finish classes later than you normally would and then start doing homework, it turns out your whole day is consumed by school. btw i’m a senior in hs sooo yeah.. i’m from europe though and we are supposed to finish school at the end of june so there’s still some hope that we’ll at least have graduation. but the possibility of never really having a class again/hanging out with my pals from school makes me so sad somehow, even though i didn’t like school much. also everybody’s pressuring us to use tHiS tiMe to prepare for our finals better (they r the ones that determine whether you’ll get into uni/college) but i can’t really because i’m too anxious and thinking whether i’ll fail them now that i’m losing at least 2 months of school. all in all things are just super weird... sorry for such a long reply!! it’s just that your comment really speaks to me hope we’ll all make it💖💛

[@kaggapu]

@@smultronst4ll3t Are you from Germany, if I may ask?

[@lauriem6352]

I live with my oldest sister who has basically taken over as mom of the family since our actual mom is sick. She has caused me so much stress but especially during this quarantine... she is constantly guilt tripping me for not being constantly productive. She expects me to be just like her: a workaholic. It’s like she only values me in terms of productivity and efficiency. Sorry for the lil vent but thank you for the video

[@saintt9044]

Grommet I agree with this in a sense. When an older child has to “take over parent responsibilities” with younger siblings, it’s incredibly stressful. I know from some experience, and depending on the age, maturity level, and resilience of the person, OP’s sisters response is totally understandable. She’s under a lot of pressure. She needs help, emotionally and in practical terms (helping her do whatever tasks are needed). Just talk about how you feel you’re being treated OP

[@onenighttoremember]

show her the video

[@agnespalfi6162]

This came to me at the perfect time. I'm extremely overwhelmed w online education and this kinnndda helps me feel less quilty about relxing. I'd literally rewatch all ur videos just to support u (and also bc they're entertaining as hell) but I have no time for that:( thank you, this was very well put together

[@emmaq3250]

I’m interested to see to societal effects of this quarantine . I’m one of those burnout “gifted” students you’ve discussed in the past. I have always guilted myself for not doing enough, for not contributing enough, for not accomplishing something “big”, and in any job I have I push myself hard even if I hate it or if my hard work earns nothing for myself. This quarantine has forced me to slow down and finally truly relax for the first time in my life. I’m cooking way more, I’m gardening, I’m getting into video games, I’m journaling, and learning way more about myself. I think I’ve only felt bad because of society’s expectations. Ive never considered the possibility of being a homemaker or stay at home mom as a future for me, but honestly this makes me think I would be happier doing that. I wonder if anyone else will have similar feelings to me, and if working less or not working at all will become more common.