Why not adopt?

[@wannabefitthompson602]

I think it is being VERY judgmental to question you about WHY you have not adopted even though the person prefaced it by saying “Not to judge”. This is usually a sure sign that they ARE judging. I think it is wonderful that God has blessed you with a large family and there are plenty of people who cannot have their own children who would love to adopt. Let them. But it seems that she is is wholly judging you for NOT adopting and almost calling you selfish for having a large family but not adopting. God bless those who do adopt AND God bless those who have their own large family but don’t adopt! Love your channel. Love your family.

[@melaniev4390]

I agree, I was chuckling because the "not too judge" question came across as *very* judge-y!

[@hollylindow-uz8xj]

Nah, I think they might just be curious.

[@anissia1210]

I'm 54 and an only child. Both my parents were only children also! I have no aunts, uncles, or cousins! NONE!!! I always say an only child is a lonely child!! Please have more than 1 child!! My entire family is now myself and my 2 girls. No grandkids yet, but I can't wait! My girls are 33 and 25. Have at least 2 kids if you have 1, I was always alone growing up. It sucked!! Nobody to play with, nobody to bond with. It was horrible!!

[@tammymorgan9309]

Hey y'all! Sure enjoyed our visit today! Love from SC!

[@bonniemullen4990]

W¡ll you Sarah and Solo have children ? ❤

[@dearleah7299]

All of their children are theirs biologically, so they’ve had children.

[@toniabrock7677]

My advice for the person wanting to stay home. Try living on only the husbands income alone for several months while still working. Her income could be saved. Possibly going down to part time would be another way to transition into staying home.

[@suzanneford1571]

Considering most childcare exceeds the second income it’s a no brainer

[@melaniev4390]

I agree, and while doing this she could dump her pay on some of those debts. Might make her husband feel more secure on one income.

[@GaryAndHeatherBush]

To that mama who wants to stay home I am praying for you! There’s a book I read ages ago called “you can afford to stay home with your kids”. It talks about the expenses you incur working that you can cut when you are at home. I agree with Solo to look at the budget and what is realistic. I stay home and my husband is a pastor making 65,000 a year and we have 6 kids. It’s very hard and there are sacrifices and outside pressures but it can be done. We live in a very low cost of living area and every month I see the Lord provide and encourage my soul that I am living out my calling to homeschool and be a homemaker. Ask the Lord to do a work in both hearts of you and your husband and be diligent while you wait for an answer. Invest every moment you can with your kids even working. 💕🙏🏼💕

[@ayronsmama05]

As do I! I've been blessed to stay at home with mine and have loved every single second and wouldn't change for anything! God Bless

[@Soy_niah]

I'm very confused how does your husband make 65,000 a YEAR but yall live in a low cost area ...?? That's sad what do you do for work bc ain no way yall live in a low cost area and he makes all that money something tells me you don't work and that's problem why yall live in a low cost area and your husband is the ONLY one WORKING HARD... and your being lazy choosing to do house work and you wonder why you live in that area😂

[@loji5315]

Why are you people being so judgmental the women said that they prayed about it and God provided. Are you saying that just because they trust the Lord for their division that they are being lazy. Then that means you are doubting what God can do and is doing for that family.

[@pattidavis8043]

Those people saying that staying home to raise kids is lazy..... You've never stayed home to raise kids. And, certainly not a mediocre life for the kids. (If u think that, we can see where your priorities are) and I'll say, not in the right place! You mothers that stay at home are a blessing to your family

[@nanysunflower3010]

@@loji5315🎯💯

[@LauraS1104]

I was shocked at the question about why you don’t adopt. Don’t they think you have enough on your hands lol. Adopting a child,especially an older one is a lot of work to have them adjust to living with you.

[@kazoolibra7322]

My college dorm experience was essential to becoming an adult and succeeding in my life. I was NOT part of the party scene, nor were my roommates or friends. We were all serious students. Learning how be an adult while having the support of people going through the same things worked well for me

[@pammccabe7535]

I loved being pregnant (and worked full time on my feet during the whole time), the newborn stage, the toddler stage, and even the teen-ager stage. My only child is almost 30 and I am still in awe! Many ask why I only have the one if I love children so much, and there is no specific reason really. I just dedicated my ife to the one I had. I come from a large family and do feel bad at times that my child has no siblings, but it is what it is.

[@susanrichardson8035]

As I age I realise how important cousins are. I'm thinking your child has several cousins. They will become increasingly closer.

[@Just-YOLANDA-T.C]

Why do people ask large family's Why don't they adopt? How rude?!?!

[@semsem185]

I'd like to offer different perspective as the oldest of a large family, I have one child. I have no desire to have more. As the oldest a lot of responsibility fell to me but also my parents died so even more so. So when I was making the decision to have children I had no desire to put my children through raising their siblings or helping with siblings. When my son was old enough I asked him how he felt about having other siblings and he said no resoundingly. I respected his wishes and to this day he has never changed his mind nor have I changed mine. Even having one child with such a stretch for me because I was so determined to not go back into raising children the way I did when I was a child.

[@alyndoyle5378]

My husband stayed home with our children for 16 years. As the main breadwinner in our family in a job that is very stressful but rewarding this was a great blessing for our family. I worked long hours in the mortgage industry (Solo will understand). Dinner was always on the table. He was available for doctors appts, etc. We made the decision while our youngest less than 1 year old. We sucked it up financially and it was good. However, we are still in the same house. Hah! Now I am about 15 years to retirement and looking forward to it.

[@LytonaKirtz]

I was an only child as was my husband. I HATED it! It’s lonely. I lived in the country. My children have no aunts or uncles or cousins. I encourage people too have at least two.

[@josieratliff2551]

I love big families, especially families like yours that are raising your children to serve the Lord. It is such a beautiful thing! However, not everyone is equipped to do this. I had severe, long-lasting post-partum depression after having my first child. Everyone told me it would be better after the second. I suffered debilitating post-partum depression after the birth of my second child three years later . We decided not to have any more children, and took care of things when our youngest was 6 months old. Soooo thankful for our two children who are serving in ministry today. They are the joy of my life! NO regrets whatsoever on not having more children.

[@michelleh5727]

Yesssssss I agree being home with your children is always the right choice especially when one of the parents feel the need to be home with your kiddos... such good stuff here!! ❤.... 😊

[@racheleldred8346]

“Your biggest legacy is the children that you raise” ❤️❤️❤️

[@ayronsmama05]

And how they are raised!

[@bonniemullen4990]

True

[@taraschmidheini4674]

🤗

[@tarigeorge6122]

I’m not sure how to respond to that last answer about number of children. My mom wanted many but was only able to have two. I wanted to be a mom more than anything, I am not. I’m now the only person living in my family. Do I wish for more still yes, however I believe God is in control and He knew what was best for my family.

[@jillkennedy6993]

To the mom who wants to stay home and is a nurse. I always worked full time until I could not because of my husbands mental health. He fortunately gets enough income for me to work one shift a week. I LOVE LOVE being home More and not missing my kids sports. I work around their schedules and it is perfect and brings in a little income.

[@christyemmons7279]

I Love 💞 When Solo Is Part Of The Q&A He Always Has Some Great Words Of 🤓 Wisdom, & Please Tell Him That I Think He Should Join In More Often!! To the Lady who has a 5month old 👶 I Just Wanted To Let Her Know That Just Because She Had Gestational Diabetes During Her Pregnancy🤰Does Not Mean She Will Have It Again Or That With More 👶 Babies!! I've known of people who had it with 1 but not the 🤷👣others!! So Please 💗Don't Let That Discourage You!! I Pray🙏 GOD 🙌 Blesses Y'all💕 Greatly In JESUS 🙌CHRIST Mighty Name Amen💖

[@brittanyolson5235]

I would like to give my opinion on having one child. I was a only child. As an adult life can be lonely. Both my parents have passed and life changes as we grow. I have 3 kids while it's been hard I am so happy the Lord gave me 3 so they will have each other later in life. ❤ note absolutely no judgement on anyone's choice, just my thoughts.

[@jillautismhomeschoolmama6994]

When my kids are struggling to get along I remind them that when my husband and I are gone, they’ll be the only people on the world that they can remember all their stories with. They’ll be able to say, “Remember when mom … 😂” and that is such a blessing. Having that witness. My brother and sister both have health issues and I dread the day I’m on my own, with none of my nuclear family to share memories with.

[@shellyb5014]

Why do people think EVERYONE should adopt? Adoption is for those who have a special calling to do so! People need to stop just assuming everyone who likes kids should adopt. That’s why we have so many adoptees in effed up situations.

[@cynthiafisher9907]

It’s a fad right now in younger people.

[@taniquepalmer]

People tend to use their own circumstances to judge everyone else. They really need to stop doing that. How can someone think to expect a family to adopt simply because they are a big family, or because they can afford it? Children are not pets that you can just return to the shelter, so one has to have a true calling for adoption

[@cynthiafisher9907]

@@taniquepalmer I agree! They do tend to act like they are pets.

[@karinalemieux9396]

In my personal opinion, I think so many ask others about adoption because a lot of people who are pro-life tell those who want to get an abortion to “just put the baby up for adoption”, yet never have adopted or have thought about adoption. I think it also goes into the idea of “all babies and children deserve love”, yet when those children do not come from the same people and/or have their own ‘damages’ to them, people do not support or care for those children the same because they are ‘different’ or ‘unwanted’. I feel it’s one of those cycles that is just a double edged sword.

[@cynthiafisher9907]

@@karinalemieux9396 Those are good points.

[@rachelday9585]

I'm an only child, not by my parents' choice, my mom was told she wouldn't be able to have kids. I think at least one sibling would be nice, as my parents age. I loved being an only child; however, as I've watched my mom's parents needing help, having a sibling is nice. My grandma fell and broke her leg and was in the hospital for a week or so in 2019, then she wasn't released to go home and had to go to rehab for like 2-4 months. My grandpa wasn't in a state of health to be able to stay alone. So, my mom and my aunt had to take turns staying with him, in his home. I think that the fact that there were two of them made it easier. It made it so they got breaks and could still live their own lives. My parents are divorced, so if they both need caring for at the same time, what do I do? They will be living in the same city in another month, so that's helpful.

[@leann4925]

Hi Sarah and Solo. My question is how are things going when it comes to Solo's Mom coming for a visit. I really look forward to her coming.

[@njlear6783]

Having only one child, or having no children, is a personal decision. Not everybody is designed to have many children. Having siblings can be a blessing and it can be the opposite. Do what you think is best for your family.

[@noahandashlyn]

I love when you bring Solo on these questions. He has his own wisdom to bring to the table, you both do, but I really like his perspective. Always coming from truth over emotion.

[@evieartsandcraftlover1079]

I long to be a believer, the community it provides, with good strong morals and traditions is so appealing. I’m healing from a fear of god , raised as a catholic but had so many questions and find my scientific critical thinking mind stopping me from being able to let go and move into the life fully. I uphold many or the morals of Christianity and try my best to instil these with my children. My husband is a strong atheist and his parents are too, but they also a quiet rude about those who are religious and so I find myself in a difficult position when trying to share religious aspects with my children. To get around this we learn about many religions so I am not seen as pushing Christianity onto our kids but rather exploring spirituality as a whole. I’m a stay at home , homeschooling mum of 4. I just love your channel and this homeschooling, homesteading, large family community here on KZbin.

[@megroux]

Catholicism did a number on me as well but I was able to find God again and have a true understanding of my beliefs. I hope you are able to find your faith and that you are given strength in the mean time.❤ The website got questions was a helpful tool for me.

[@karinhritz9381]

I agree that children are a blessing but not everyone is granted that opportunity. My husband and I struggled with infertility back in the 1990s. Insurance did not cover treatment and adoption was too expensive. However, God knows what is best for each couple. My husband has many various health problems that put him on disability. I worked as a special education teacher for 39 years and was able to put all my time and maternal feelings into my students. God does have a plan for you, it may be difficult to understand at the time but pray for peace and acceptance and you'll be fine.

[@edithwarria4794]

Hello Our Tribe of Many good to see you both. 👍Love watching your videos 🦋🌺🌈💖❤️😊😘🙏🏻God Bless all. Lots of love and hugs from Edith in cairns Queensland Australia 🇦🇺

[@dianaknapp1725]

To the lady that has a 5 month old, after my 4th I had my tubes tied. My husband now, had a vasectomy after his 2nd. We both went through divorces and then the Lord brought us together. I now tell people never do something permanent to your fertility, because you do not know the future. We now have 3 grandsons that we enjoy! Children are a blessing from the Lord. We can not go back, but God is good❤

[@spitfirespilie7931]

Ok you got me teary eyed talking about funerals. My husband used to say the same thing about the funerals of families with a lot of kids. He used to be a funeral director. It’s part of the reason he liked us having a lot of kids. We had our first 6 in six years thought we were done then 3 years later got our seventh and now we’re trying for number 8, so pray we succeed! Love watching you guys you’re great 😊

[@Soy_niah]

I hate when people put "trying" atleast word it different 🤮

[@anapepemartins]

Was I the first comment? =) HI SARAH!!! Seeing you for years from Switzerland =)

[@zoe0abundant]

On the SAHM question, I started staying at home when my husband was barely making ends meet. He worked two part time jobs until he got a better full time position. We just couldn't afford much. We made it work. If you really want it, you can make it work. A good was to transition is to start living only on his income. Then with your income you can start paying off debt. If you can live on his income and knock down a late chunk of your debt, perhaps you could work one day a week, maybe a Saturday to keep paying down the debt or do something else from home to give you a little extra to pay it down. There are definitely trade offs to only having one income (less/no eating out, not just buying stuff without consideration, very few vacations), but I cherish the time I have with my kids. I get to know them better than if they were away from me all day for all of their life.

[@taniquepalmer]

This is actually pretty solid advice. Yes, I was thinking about their debt as well. They would need to pay down some of those before they fully transition.

[@maredowell3296]

To the new mom who is pretty sure she only wants one child, choosing to have one child is a hard decision especially when you're in the newborn stage. I have a 6 year gap between my first son and second son. But to be honest I wish I wouldn't have waited as long as I did. My two oldest have a close relationship, but we added two more later and it makes it a little harder for them to have a closeness. Not that they don't get along though, they do. My husband is an only child, he told me he used to pray for a sibling. I myself am one of six. I loved having siblings growing up and couldn't understand how an only child plays. Ultimately it is up to you and your husband. But I agree with Sarah don't decide now, you're still learning how to live with a demanding little one and trying to decide on adding to that mix would be daunting. Enjoy this time with your little one and the rest will fall into place.

[@cheri3434]

The dorm experience is NOT what it used to be. Fortunately our daughter was able to live at home. She said “You don’t want me to live in the dorm. The influences are not good ( and this was a historically religious based school). College is a very dangerous place any more.

[@Blueray7971]

My daughter goes to NYU,and the stories she tells me... fortunately we were able to find her and friends an apartment. True horror stories. Now my son is going there next year,thankful his big sis will be there❤😊

[@Blueray7971]

Sarah and Solo been years now watching you beautiful family grow,learn,and grow some more.❤ Love Tuesday questions and all this new content. Thank you for being an inspiration 😊🎉❤

[@angelavitulli6994]

I ENJOY WHEN SOLO IS DOING ❤Q&A WITH SARA SOLO OFFERS A PERSPECTIVE PERHAPS NOT THOUGHT OF BY THOSE ASKING THE QUESTIONS. I LIKE THE FACT THAT BOTH HE AND SARAH LOOK TO GOD FOR HIS WILL IN THE SITUATION. VIEWERS QUESTIONS TODAY WERE VERY HELPFUL.

[@p3mamma381]

A life can always be celebrated with no matter the number of children one has.

[@tml3982]

What a great response to the question about the woman who wants to stay home, but her husband disagrees! I can see that you thought about every aspect.

[@tishharding]

Speaking of the more than 1 child. A lady that recently passed in my town had 8 kids, 26 grandchildren and 77 great grandchildren and 2-3 great great grandchildren. She always had visitors and people to help her. I myself only have 1 child. I want more but he’s almost 16 and infertility issues are not making it possible. It’s not the life I envisioned. I pictured myself with at least 4 kids. It’s been hard to accept that it might not happen.

[@zoe0abundant]

To the single child parent question. My hardest transition was from 0 to 1 child ( I have 3). With my first, I have GDM as well which resulted in an emergency induction which led to an emergency c section which led to an infection in my incision which led to 9 weeks of wound specialist care. I think I also had baby blues or post partum depression and I kept wondering if it would ever get better. We knew we wanted at least one more child, so we decided to space them closer together to get that phase over with. My second baby my only problem was hip pain which I got PT for. I had a successful VBAC and the recovery was night and day. It was an amazingly different experience from our first. Our third was a surprise but one I had prayed for and we got our girl. She was a very hard baby who wanted no one but mom. It was exhausting but looking back on the hard times I don't regret it. You will get through. I recently spent a night in the ER holding her for hours and even though the situation was miserable and scary, I cherished the opportunity to hold her for that long again. Children really are a blessing. No shame if you decided not to have another but for me, it got easier, and I am so happy to have 3 humans that have their own relationships with each other and each bring their own special joy to our family.

[@kelleyabitbol6156]

Tough labour 1st..easy 2nd..but I was a nervous wreck while they were infants...totally relaxed as they grew older.

[@ninag.3618]

Everything about my first was absolutely horrible, in almost every way. I’m three months in with my second and it’s like night and day.

[@judymayberry8259]

I gave birth to 1 lost 4 could not try anymore but as it turned out I have raised many many children. I recently took in 3 one is 6 months old and to teens. Love having children in my home.

[@rachelfrees1268]

How blessed you two are to have each other, your children and the love and care you show to them and all who are blessed to be your friends.❤

[@lisachapman9911]

Team ducks!! 🦆😃

[@monicauyeno7368]

The dorm experience is over hyped especially in today's society.

[@magen4190]

I'm a single child and I really wish my parents would have had more. I had horrible pregnancies, but I want my kiddos to have siblings to go through life with.

[@veronikaallen9623]

Unfortunately having siblings does not necessarily mean you are close. Sad but true.

[@TheRhonda1957]

I hate being a only child. My parents are gone and I have no family except for my children and husband

[@veronikaallen9623]

@@TheRhonda1957 I hear you but I have four siblings and we are all estranged because of our parents choices whilst we were children 😔

[@bethp.knight7774]

I’m an only child, and I can’t imagine wanting siblings. It has just never crossed my mind. I guess when my parents died it would have been less stressful because of all the decisions you have to make during those times. I just can’t imagine being unable to have extended quiet time or alone time.

[@dorothyball6003]

I was a stay at home mom and my daughter left teaching for the first six years,until she got both of her children in school. Those are precious days/years full of firsts and childhood. There are No do overs. And there are sacrifices. But so worth it to raise your babies. I could never of handed my tiny babies (3) over to someone else to care for. Our family, too, went for years with only one car. It can be done. It is a blessing to raise babies and they grow up too quickly. Rarely do you hear someone say they wish they would have spent more time working, away from their family.

[@missneoxoxo4553]

The mama who has a SAHM desire, there are work from home options for RN's that she can consider especially in the very begin to help with income. Part time would work or maybe take a few night shifts during the week. Hope it helps!

[@lindalaforge5369]

I love having my Diet Pepsi in the morning while watching and listening to Sara. Thank you for being there for me. You truly are a blessing to me.

[@arikaporche]

As for the only child question...I also have extremely trying pregnancies/recoveries and most of my children have been hard newborns. However the further I got from that stage the more I loved being a mother. Honestly 18months to 2 and a half is my absolute favorite time as a mother. So definitely wait till they are older to make any permanent decision. When considering an only child option I felt that when they were adults and dealing with different challenges such as parents passings, or even just generational things a sibling would be invaluable. Although friends can help there's something that is especially helpful when dealing with those very personal emotions alongside someone. I also believe that as young children siblings can teach life lessons that are harder to learn the older you get. Empathy, healthy conflict, fairness, unfairness, etc

[@COEXIST-ny4db]

To the person asking about ONLY CHILDREN!!!!! I just want to give you a couple things to think about while making your decision to have any more children. For reference...I have an only child. Im 53. She's 31. PLEASE think about what it is to have no one that really knows you and your history, your family, etc. Think about when you and your husband are gone. (Remember that could happen at any moment. You can't just always think it'll happen when you're 99yo) just think about how your child will literally be ALL ALONE! Yes they have aunts and uncles and cousins. But it's NOT THE SAME! Second... Think about all the responsibilities you're placing on just one child when you and your spouse are in your older years. If you were to get sick. Etc. That's a HUGE burden to place on just one child! And also think about this.... what if you were to get sick and in need of help and your child was upset with you and you weren't talking? Who would help you then?? It would be nice to have another child to call upon. Or you'd wind up like me... continually having to bite my tongue never being able to say how I really feel about things because if I upset my daughter, she's out of my life until a time she's willing to either get over the issue or willing to sit down and talk it out. Well... DARN IT ANYWAY if I didn't forget THE LIST I had in my head! I should have written it down! HOWEVER..... THE ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT REASON IS TO NOT LEAVE YOUR CHILD A COMPLETE ORPHAN IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO YOU GUYS! They need a sibling to hold on to! When I decide to only have one, it was because I wound up being a single parent! Thank GOD I had college under my belt. But I fealt like I only had the Resources to provide greatly for one. And if I had two.... BOTH would want for so much more and that wasn't going to be fare to my daughter. But at that time. I NEVER thought about the ramifications for her later in life. They NEVER OCCURRED TO ME!! If I could go back... that's something that I would 100% change! I would have had atleast one more. Possibly two!! I will update my post if my memory returns! Good luck to you with your new amazing baby!! Please make a TRUE list of the pros and cons. THE REALLY MEANINGFUL ONES! I think you'll find that the Pro"s column will just simply add up so fast that your answer will be very clear to see!!! Great big huge hugs and loves to you!!!

[@Lovysworld]

Same here had to stop at 7 kids but wanted 10 atleast had to tie my tubes almost died last 3 pregnancies but baby #7 was the real scare had me hospitalized for the WHOLE pregnancy 😢

[@janetakerlund7154]

I have heard about people who have 4 to 6 children and they had still been very lonely so sometimes it does not help to have a lot of children sadly enough.

[@joreyn7656]

Thank you for your thoughtful insight on these questions! 😊

[@autumn1768]

Nah, coming from a former foster parent, please don’t. You have to be warm and loving, and you lack that. It wouldn’t be a right fit.

[@dearleah7299]

@autumn1768 I don’t know who hurt you but you need to stop being ugly to good people like Sarah and Solo. You have been reported for bullying. So uncalled for. Makes me wonder why you’re now a “former foster parent” seeing how ugly you are acting in just that comment. I see your comment history and you have been bullying Sarah for awhile now. Grow up and stop obsessing over her.

[@ShirleyWiggerman]

I really enjoy your family, your videos. I enjoy the question answering as well. I personally wish that I would have had more children. Circumstances of an physically abusive marriage had me praying I didn't have more. I am thankful for my son, so very thankful. It was difficult for me to become pregnant and after 5 years of trying, my husband and I approached our pastor and church in prayer. My date of conception was that day. I know without a doubt the my son was a gift from the Lord. I always wanted twins and after my son married his first were twins. I got my twins as well. Thank you Jesus!

[@skdjirrrdjdm3926]

That's beautiful ❤️

[@sarahrobertson3936]

We prepared our lifestyle before we had kids, to ensure that I could stay home. It was such a blessing, and now our kids are older, and I'm back to work, which enables us to do more with them. I hope anyone who wants to stay home can find a way to make it work. Think about how badly you want to stay home and it'll help you figure out exactly what you're willing to give up to make it happen. Great video, I always love these! 😁

[@shirleyperry8593]

I love the whole pregnancy new born phase. However the broken sleep ín the newborn phase I'm not so happy with. My body finds it so hard to switch off abs go straight back to sleep after those midnight feeding..

[@rachelday9585]

To the lady wanting to stay at home, budget with just your husband's income and live on that for a few months, obviously you might need to use your income for childcare; however, that expense would be cut if you didn't work. I live on about $1500 a month, that doesn't include phone, car insurance, or gas/car maintenance. We make about $28k a year, give or take; however, I budget $1500 a month. That $1500 pays for the house, lights, water, sewage, internet, car payment, 95% of the food, and all household expenses (clothes, shoes, toilet paper, diapers, wipes, medicine, dish soap, body wash, gifts, ect). The rest of the income stays in another account and pays for car insurance, phone, propane, 95% of the gas, car maintenance, pizza 1-2 times a month, a small amount of food. Overall, it's about $2300ish a month total with no assistance and 5 people. Now we don't do things like go on vacation, go to concerts, go out to eat (with the exception of pizza), have the latest and greatest electronics, have new cars, have name brand clothes, ect.

[@kathleenhutchison3896]

I have one daughter. I thought I would adopt, but that did not happen for me. When I went thru menopause, I realized that would probably not happen. But now I work in a Babtist Children's Home. I am struck by the fact that I was not barren, but the Lord enlarged my tent, so to speak, and I get to feed into lives that have never been taught about Christ and redemption. I will be 60 next year and am grateful that he still uses me.🙏🙏🙏

[@edwardcastaneda5485]

I highly recommend Dave Ramsey for any financial questions

[@dawns7062]

My parents were both only children ( fertility issues). ( I was one of 3) They always said if possible have more than one child. They wished they had nieces and nephews. I had no aunts, uncles or first cousins. My children have multiple aunts, uncles and cousins on both sides and it's truly been a blessing.

[@mindicardello3842]

Thanks for answering my question. Adoption in America tends to be difficult. Especially when you have children in the home already. Every child in foster care is there due to trauma, many different traumas but trauma. Bringing children into house who need extra care or who have trauma can lead to issues with your children in the home already. It is a situation that needs to be evaluated on a case by case basis. I do agree with birth order as well, like you mentioned.

[@mindicardello3842]

Oh yeah, and about the tough delivery and what not, my second ( adopted) child was a breeeze! Lol. I did have to travel to China for 2 weeks but she came sleeping 12 hours a night and was a Complete angel ( until puberty… haha).

[@lindabarnes4128]

In my family of origin with two loving parents and five children, both parents worked. My mother chose jobs where she could take me, the youngest, to work with her. It was a win win situation. I loved being with my mum, she felt the same. I learned how to help from a young age. It built confidence and stability. I too, chose a career where I could be with my children. I'm a teacher. Family, learning, flexibility and love are key to life. You show that so well. Thank you!

[@carolinelvsewe]

As an interesting side notes my kids randomly told me (as adults) we LOVE being from a big family. I was a little shocked, since there was less financially. Great topics. Love these QandA’s 🎉

[@sky02148]

I love this channel, you give such good advice. Thanks for sharing. Love ya Nancy PS I have a poem for you all. ADVICE When traveling the road of life One must remember this: It doesn't matter pain or strife Or embodiment of bliss. It only matters how you go Through every winding turn... How you live who you love And everything you learn. So find and ride the path you choose Till heartbeats nevermore... One precious moment's not to lose, Is what we travel for. (WK 2001)

[@kerrylennox7359]

To the person who wants to stay at home and revert to one income. Perhaps that could be be a 12 month plan. In the 12 months use your income to help reduce your debts. Live off your husbands income and during this time start reducing your expences and create a budget in order to meet your annual financial expenses. You will then have a better understanding of what one income will look like.

[@naturalsimpleliving]

Aw, love your ducks!! I have been asked often if we would Adopt because we have 11 children, and you answered that well! I'm so glad that I'm a part of your beautiful community! I agree with so much you said in this video; now I need to try making those bagels you showed! Haha! Sending love from Wisconsin!❤

[@cheriepanter9333]

Solo, my husband works away at the mines here in Australia 🇦🇺 Covid absolutely wrecked us😢my husband couldn’t get home for 2 years. I need him to stay in our state in future!! He now hates his job, but is doing it for the family ( we have 5 kids) How can I help him?

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Hi all good morning happy Tuesday morning and I loved your vlogs and you all amazing Supporter

[@redoksunflower]

We have five generations right now.. My grandma, my mom, me, my son and my grandaughter..

[@melissachapman6213]

I hate being pregnant! We are pregnant with our fifth child and my husband wants more. I told him to give me some years to get myself healthier so I can handle it easier! And I do love my children! So much! But i hate being pregnant. This has been the easiest pregnancy out of all of my children and it's still no walk in the park!

[@peggypeters6676]

Tell him that's it! He can sleep in a tent out side

[@dearleah7299]

@@peggypeters6676you really need to stay out of peoples marriages. Your comment about her husband is very disrespectful. She didn’t ask for your opinion and rude remark about HER husband.

[@juststoppingby390]

Btw the ducks make me giggle every time

[@melissamartino894]

I am currently expecting our first child. We have been considering and budgeting for sometime to stay home. Over the weekend we decided that I will put my notice in. Such a fitting answer from Solo. I know there will be challenges but it will be worth it

[@NS.Katz5541]

Why ask a mom & dad of 10 why they don't adopt? They have 10 babies of their own to raise, give a good education & support to my gosh.... I know plenty of christian couples who won't adopted unless it's a baby from the mom right after birth, now they don't want a child that's been in the system or are disabled so they say god hasn't sent them children yet & most won't even help with fostering children, they only want a brand new baby with no bad influences in their past, it's so sad & heartbreaking to say it but I've seen it with my own eyes as my grandfather was a pastor, I have fostered & then adopted a 2, 6, 7 & 9 yrs old they are full siblings biggest blessing of my life, it's hard work but isn't that what the lord calls on us to do take care of the abandoned or orphaned, It's sad we have so many lil blessings in our own countries who needs our love support and safety of a forever parents & home I really don't get going abroad when so many are in need here❤

[@Reborn2h2o]

God is using you and your Channel to spread his word in action. Perhaps it's not for you to adopt but to shine a light on it .

[@andreesimoneau6167]

Judah is living the “church” college life not really college life it’s all about god not a bad thing but not comparable

[@dearleah7299]

No one should be comparing the two. College is college is either way, Karen. Keep your rude comments to yourself if you’re going to minimize something that someone is accomplishing like that.

[@vickylin5126]

I am an only child and just lost both my parents and my dog! Very lonely as I am single.

[@haveablessedday7746]

I'm sorry you are going through a hard time right now. God is there to shoulder some of this pain. May He bless your days.

[@rburnett511]

Hello! I am new to your channel! (We live in Lincoln and I really wish I could buy your house!)😊 I did not know that you cannot foster children in Nebraska when you already have 6 children! Crazy! We have 6 children (4 bio, 2 adopted) and I’ve been recently praying about if we are suppose to get involved with foster care…. I guess I know the answer now!🤷🏻‍♀️

[@hmuchnick]

I have also have had many, many older women tell me they wish they chose to have more children.

[@marierobinson3935]

I really enjoyed your Q&A today it was good,Solo is such a great person to listen too,(sorry Sarah) no offence meant❤, when i had my first child at 19 I vowed never again to have anymore,we both nearly died it was an horrendous pregnancy,but 7years later i had my 2nd child😂 and it was so different my 3rd followed 2years later,all girls, I am now a nan to a granddaughter and 2grandsons and a great nan to a 3year old boy,I finally got my boys😂my mum makes it 5generations, we are lucky sadly my dad passed 2years ago😢I so love these videos especially with the ducks😂😂

[@baileya6585]

My thoughts on the individual that is leery about having a second child after struggling with the first one. I would use the phrase that Sarah and Solo say often, let the lord guide you and help you determine the next steps for the family. If your family feels complete with one child then great, if your family doesn't yet feel complete and your heart is tell you want more then go for it.

[@kyleeblose3677]

For the last question, my supervisor gave me advice on kids when I was 20. She was 37 having her second child the following year after her first. She was an only child with no cousins. She had no one in her family that understood what she was going through, that she could talk to remotely close to her age. Her parents divorced and she had no one to talk to besides friends or adults. She didn't want her child to go through what she did so she intentionally got pregnant 3 months postpartum because she wasn't sure how long she'd be able to have kids. I plan to have 2 kids because no matter what, I will be grateful I had them.

[@heatherharris2843]

I am one of six children, my parents are divorced, & I am only close with two of my siblings. My husband’s parents are also divorced, & he is the oldest of 3 (only 1 biological). His mother dislikes me & has only met my son once. My relationship with both of my parents is rocky. I have one son. My husband & I have decided to pour all we have into him & give him the best we can offer. A sibling isn’t always a gift. He currently has two cousins & we will make sure that bond is strong. Having more than one child does not always guarantee a legacy.

[@fromcanadawithlove1023]

I absolutely love your channel. I know that in the shows that featured Judah going to Japan you mentioned partnering with churches in Canada. I am in Canada and am in desperate need of finding a good church. I'm lost and need to be found. Do you partner with any churches in Edmonton Alberta? I am so grateful to watch your videos and am very inspired. God bless you, Solo and all your family

[@marieneu264]

13:25 first time I’ve disagreed with Solo! Living on a college campus in a dorm is SO amazing! Living on campus is such a community event. It’s so much different than renting an apartment or owning a house off of campus. There are plenty of people on campus that don’t party.

[@MrsIEllis]

For the nurse who emailed you about wanting to stay home with her kids. If you desire to work from home and make about the same income you have as a nurse, I would look into some insurance companies. Most of them hire nurses and you can do billing or consulting from home at any time of the day or night.

[@kimwillis380]

I did not understand the limit on the number of children in a foster home until we became foster parents. I come from a family of 3 children, but have seen many healthy families with 6 or more children. However, foster care (and adoption to an extent) comes with an extra set of concerns. There is almost always at least some trauma, even in infants, and often special needs. Also foster care involves case worker visits, family visits, and extra medical and therapy appointments. I look around and see such a need for loving, stable, Christian foster homes, but it takes sacrifice from the whole family, including any children already in the home. Foster care, or adoption from foster care, is a beautiful worth while ministry, but it is VERY different from adding a biological child to a family.

[@stephanieburgess8217]

I’m an only child. It sucked. I would NEVER have just 1. You don’t understand just how lonely the adult years are, especially when the duties of taking care of parents and maybe grandparents falls to you by yourself. I was lucky to grow up before technology in a small safe town and had cousins within a bike ride away that I spent a lot of time with growing up so my childhood was not as lonely as it could have been but now as an adult is where it really started to suck. I don’t have a sibling to have that adult relationship with. You don’t understand if you are not an only child but I HIGHLY encourage NOT to just have 1 child. I have lots of friends who did have 1 and I could not go out to dinner and visit with them because of the child constantly interrupting and needing to be entertained and for the mother to feel obligated to the child instead of training the child that while they are with a person the child needs to interrupt minimally and needs to entertain themselves. I think only child’s do become VeRy self centered also in a lot of ways including myself. I believe unless there is a significantly health reason resisting a single child home is best. Even if it isn’t another birth but an adoption or something. Sometimes family have to release custody of their children and the courts look for extended family to adopt. Maybe this is how you grow the family but I highly encourage not having just 1 child.

[@venusgal2706]

Praying that God changes and lets her husband agree for her to stay home, etc. isn't the answer imo. Does it hurt? No. But clearly the problem lies in communication between the spouses and/or it is a relationship where one maybe has more say than the other. With compromising and fair minded spouses, it can be figured out or a compromise be reached to satisfy botht. If the relationship isn't like that, then nothing is going to make it happen. Jmo.

[@stephanieburgess8217]

Usually dorms cost MORE than getting an apartment, sometimes even without a roommate. Even an apartment is more financially smart.

[@cindyfreshour1484]

Sara and Sola, I'm 65 years old. I often say if I could go back, I would have had more children.

[@veronicajean3612]

I was frightened that I would have to move into my cousins home as their parents were my god parents. They had 10 kids.I was one of 4. And had my own room and food was not scarce.

[@gwlgurley532]

Take your beautiful family and go to Kenya everything that’s happening in the world is in the bible

[@princessza1000]

I have a question but don't know the email. How do you explain the end times to your children? And have you come to terms with the fact that the world may end soon?

[@kristiw7528]

I think this is my favorite channel on KZbin. We are a family of believers and i was a single Mom of 2 for many years ( they are grown now) and wish i had a channle like this to watch when they were younger. I love the principles you have in place for your family and have so much respect for both of you. Thank you for the wonderful content ❤

[@gracefulcat68]

maybe one of the kids will get a pilots license one day, then chartering a smaller plane would be easier and cheaper for travel to africa! lol, never know!

[@grandma0405]

Momma nurse, how about work from home as a telephone nurse or a nurse reviewer where you work from home. Not perfect but part time and flexible online hours would be great for you.

[@deniseirish8913]

Network marketing businesses are very helpful for staying home. For the comment on trying to stay home.

[@SadieFeinstein]

Sara, your response to the question regarding adoption was beautiful ❤