Overcoming A Bee & Wasp Phobia I The Speakmans

Shana believes she's had a fear of bees and wasps since childhood. If she ever encountered a bee or wasp, she would just run away no matter what she was doing. Naturally this dramatically affected her social life during the spring and summer months, as she is literally petrified to the point she won’t go to places she knows that wasps or bees will be around, such as parks, picnic areas or barbecues.
Working for the ambulance service, if Shana did not overcome this fear, it could potentially be disastrous if she had to attend an emergency situation in a park over summer.
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[@waynedrake4400]

my fear of bees and wasps is the noise and the sting not gonna lie it did give me anxiety watching this especially when the noise of the bees came on

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Hope this film helps a little, and do take a look around our channel, and subscribe as we have tips to help with phobias, fears and anxieties here, and we are adding new films every Monday and Thursday

[@strangeziga222]

Comparing bees to wasps is like comparing honey making angels to demons.

[@nTrubl3]

strange Ziga facts im notvscared of bees but Red Wasp 😩

[@TrueInkpoint]

Im scared of both cause bee once stung me in ear for no reason

[@MartinLaforce]

They’re both evil

[@asphaltandtacos]

Honeybees are the only bees that scare me. Cicada killer and mud daubers are the only wasps that do not scare me.

[@charlotteburford2240]

Funny. I've been stung by a bee twice but still terrified of them. It doesn't even hurt that much yet the fear doesn't go away. But don't even get me started on wasps. Don't even like seeing or hearing the word out loud 🤢 😭

[@leog3151]

honestly same Wasps be bullying people for no reason Im just chilling vibing to some fresh breezing wind and a red wasps starts flying in my face so i move(and scream but thats not the point😂) and this thing chases me in the house And thus we moved to a different house

[@vananthan3781]

Same thank God there are people like me.

[@localreviewking134]

Watch the video, or go to therapy. Many hypnotherapists can help you in one or 2 sessions.

[@clarinetstar14]

I can cope with bees. Its wasps that I cant deal with

[@markuspumpkin1]

Same

[@JayStar-qm6mk]

I can't do neither tbh

[@allycatR5rox]

Same.

[@Bulldog-mi3om]

Bees are sweet. Wasp and yellow jacket are terrifying.

[@Ruktiet]

same

[@s.m.h.u.]

As a lot of people have commented on here, bees, while scary, are not as threatening as wasps. How can one do such "exposure" therapy with a wasp? I can understand holding a bee and being fine, but wasps are a lot less calm... what is the solution? How can one hold a wasp??

[@izzydelaney411]

I am in tears watching this

[@nikandevaspeakman]

So sorry to hear that but please take comfort from the fact that all phobias can be cured.

[@lu4goldenchild]

I'm a 35 year old man (i know!) who is still wary of bees and wasps. If the buzzing sound is close it causes the body to feel some weird sensation, slight panic. Was stung by a bee in summer as a young child, and stung a few times by a wasp some years later, was putting on my trousers taken from the wardrobe, and the bugger stung me a few times before flying out of a trouser leg. No wonder I still haven't recovered lol

[@nikandevaspeakman]

That is understandable that you created a phobia, but in defence of the wasp in your trousers, it must have been terrified too. Hope our film helps.

[@localreviewking134]

Well done, Eva and Nik. I find your work in helping me and other people to have normal lives, and a bit of fun to be heart warming. You are the bees knees! Many thanks and keep spreading the wisdom!

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Ah thankyou so much, that is really lovely of you to say!

[@localreviewking134]

@@nikandevaspeakman Thank you., Eva and Nik. You are the big life winners, who keep sharing the wins! 👍👍👍

[@Why_Knott_Me]

I've been stung in the jugular by a bee when I was 6 and in my jaw (by a yellow jacket) below my right ear when I was about 11. This is why I'm terrified.

[@scarlettmills9679]

Ohh my Spheksophobia was through the roof when the video and sound was on 😂

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Hope the tips helped. Most phobias are a learning from childhood. Take a look at the film 'This Is Why You Have a Phobia' here on our KZbin channel, and be sure to subscribe to our channel for more films on overcoming phobias, if you haven't already :)

[@MrKr4dy]

I don't really understand why I am so afraid of them because I have even been stung. I remember when I was on the playground, I'm chilling and all of a sudden a wasp gets mad at me. So it starts chasing me, and I go to a place where there is a lot of people. My heart is beating fast, I'm shaking, and I want to cry. It's almost like a panic attack. I'm repeated the words "I don't know what to do, get it away from me!" Just hearing the buzz of it gives me a awful feeling of dread. Nobody even understands it, they make fun of me or tell me that I shouldn't be afraid of them. I also remember when I was sitting in a van waiting for my Grandma to come out of the bank. I was SUFFERING. She was taking a awfully long time. It was warm weather, the windows were rolled up, and there were wasps everywhere. I was sobbing, I didn't know what to do. I was drinking my juice and one came near the window and it almost made me drop my drink. I tell her about it, and she takes it as me exaggerating. Anyways, I can just simply see a wasp outside and it makes me feel like I'm about to fight for my life. I always take a break for it. Can you please explain why my phobia of bees and wasps is so huge?

[@nikandevaspeakman]

All phobias appear to grow over the years. Imagine a phobia is like a muscle. The more times it is exercised, the bigger and more pronounced it becomes. Thus, the more phobic responses you have, the worse it feels. Also, every time you have a phobic response you can add more triggers, for example if you see a wasp in the park, after this the park becomes a trigger and so on with each event and hence why it feels it gets worse. The good news is you’re not born with it. It’s a learning from a scary event, or copied behaviour and always from childhood. All phobias can be overcome with therapy or the right help targeting the start. Also hope our film helps.

[@leog3151]

lemme just say that bees be chillin its just scary when they all over the place left and right But when a wasp be lfying and he unpredictable when you tryna go right and he goes top right and you gotta do a military crawl to get around it but then it goes low so then you jump up to a sprint Thats whats scary and theyre agressive for no rreason

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Consider when it started Leo. You can totally get over your phobia.

[@nosorog2724]

its much better when you think they just a riding miniature motocross bikes

[@zul4yy]

This girl is me but I go to gardens but I still run and stuff XD ever since I got sting by 4 wasps i never liked them it's because I went to a party when I was 6,5,4 and I was playing in the grass then I stepped in a whole and I think it was the wasps home and then they started stinging me and I cried so much and every time I see one I RUN! I can't be near bees T-T Also I'm scared of spiders idk I was like 3 and I killed a spider and it was in my head like I kept thinking about it and then all of a sudden in the middle of night everything black I saw was spiders! But that was in my head and I kept screaming crying my dad woke up my mom was at work my mom gets back at work at like 3am 2am and then she got back and my mom was like what happen!!! And they tried to calm me down but couldn't and they took me to the hospital and put this medicine on me it was a gas and then woke up fine but I'm still scared of spiders

[@xSMOKExEMxALLx]

I'm not worried about bees! I stepped on a hornets nest when I was around 6 or 7 years old, I was stung 28 times, from head to toe! My Mom heard me screaming in pain from 2 blocks away, as I ran home! I'll never get over that, no matter what you say or show! Glad the bee lady got over her fear that came from nothing but I lived it & you can't help me!!!! 🤷‍♂

[@nikandevaspeakman]

How would you or your parents feel is someone came into your home and started trashing and destroying it? Are you saying you'd not fight back like the hornets? Or would you do what they did? Defend your family, children, property and home?

[@Checkmate1138]

I'm terrified of bees and wasps (and i the same vein, jellyfish). I can cope with bees as I can see them in a benign way. But I just can't do that with wasps, there's only negative connotation with them. How can we change our perception with wasps to go from a negative to a positive one?

[@nikandevaspeakman]

You can change your perception of wasps positively by researching facts about them and the fact that they are imperative and a help to humanity and our planet. To get you started; only female wasps have stingers (so not all of them) and the purpose of the stinger is actually a modified egg laying organ. Wasps have been proven to have logic, they can use 2 pieces of information and draw a conclusion (so far they are the only invertebrate proven to be able to do this). They play a vital role in pollinating crops and flowers. They are the most proficient in managing pest populations and we’d be drowning (literally) in aphids if it were not for wasps. 1 wasp kills around 100 aphids a day & aphids are the fastest breeding creature on the planet and eat our crops & plants. In autumn ALL wasps die except the queen 😢 They mean no malice to humans at all, but are very protective of their young, queen and food so if we appear a threat they’re telling us to go away. Hope that helps to get you stared 💕 xxx

[@Checkmate1138]

@@nikandevaspeakman Thank you for the reply! It's certainly hard for me to process and accept, but in due to time I can, no doubt. And through willpower.

[@Stolasupremecy]

Person:im a afraid of bees and wasps i don't say a word about hornets Me:so let me get this straight you have a phobia of bees and wasps but not hornets because bees and wasps are way more scary than hornets

[@notaprogamer2782]

No no, I hate hornets too

[@sunflowerplayz7363]

That’s the same phobia I have I also have triphoboa

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Its a very common phobia as is trypophobia too.

[@jdawg9722]

My name’s Michael with a B and I’ve been afraid of insects my whole life.

[@Aisha-ws8ef]

With Clancy in Dema where is the b ? ( lmao 😂 I love this video )

[@jdawg9722]

Aisha252 *_T H E R E ‘ S A B E E?_*

[@nikandevaspeakman]

No-one is born with a fear of insects and most insect phobia are a learned behaviours, usually from a parent.

[@jdawg9722]

The Speakmans - The Worlds Leading Life Change Therapists bruh

[@kawaiicrossing5047]

I actually love bees, it's wasps I'm afraid of.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Granted, wasps are a little grumpier in late summer but like all other insects they want to be left alone, and have no hatred or animosity to humans. Wasps are essential to humans x

[@xlonewolfx1703]

I’d run too

[@shadowgirl6354]

I'm also scared of bees

[@nikandevaspeakman]

You are not on your own, a lot of people are .

[@endrefrigstad4422]

It is the sound of the bees and wasps that is terrifying bcs you dont know where they are. Sometimes they even try to get in MY EAR

[@papalouieG]

Endre Frigstad finally someone said it!!!

[@peazyp]

I got stung in the ear by a bloody wasp

[@TrueInkpoint]

Once got stung in the ear terrified of bees ever since

[@TrueInkpoint]

And wasps

[@antisocialboy818]

I feel ya

[@c.e1404]

Me: *waves away wasp* Wasp: *is that like a personal attack or something*

[@ErenJaegerDidNothingWrong]

I heard the buzzing on the video and I started panicking

[@forgottenpaths9781]

I have been scared of bees ever since I was 7, I was walking through a trail when I was camping, or we were in a forest, I honestly have no idea. But, there was a log and little me playing video games all the time, I wanted to seem cool in front of my best friend... So, I jumped on it... And, the log broke. A swarm of yellow jackets coming out of the log, because they had a very large nest in that log. Anyways, we quickly ran and we cut off the trail and had to jump in a gross moss pond, after that.. Whenever I’m about 20 feet away, I sweat and I start shaking, and at the age of 10, in about 4th grade, we had a bumblebee problem, a wasp problem, and a yellow jacket problem, and so there was a wasp or yellow jacket nest where I liked to hang out, and one time one chased me and my friends, after that I was crying, sweating and screaming "GET ME OUT OF HERE!” And banging on the gate of the playground, until a staff let me inside, and here’s another story... So, after French reading (I went to a French immersion) there was a fire drill, they had lots of bee problems at the elementary school I was going to, and I was with my friend, finally it was over, nothing really happened that scared me at the drill, but everyone was like "Oh hey ___ (I’m not going to name them) there’s a bee flying over you!” So I was honestly really scared.. I start sweating and running as fast as I can, until suddenly it flies over my head, I run and accidentally trip someone but I keep running, after I got inside I though all of it was over, until it got in the building... So, that’s how I got my HUGE phobia of every type of bee, I hate the sound, how they look, and there stings. Even though I haven’t got stung yet. Thank you for reading!

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Please just consider how this started. You were terrified the yellow jackets would sting you and that's what created the phobia. if you put the event into context as an adult and not a 7 year old you can overcome this. Realise that you totally destroyed the yellow jackets happy home, no wonder they would be angry! Once you see the cause from a new perspective the symptoms change.

[@jpn_119]

I'm the same as this girl, its hard to enjoy summer because i'm so afraid...i don't wanna be stung 😭 i always run and scream...i panic if i see a wasp or hornet

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Most phobias are a learning from childhood. Hopethisfilm helps, and take a look at the film 'This Is Why You Have a Phobia' here on our KZbin channel, and be sure to subscribe to our channel for more films on overcoming phobias, if you haven't already :)

[@ahahahzhzzmakas]

I cannot be near a single bee.. It makes me cry and even if it’s 100 degrees outside I’ll wear a sweater and sweats if I have to.. I thought I was the only one! I guess I’m just scared of every bug though..

[@nikandevaspeakman]

You shouldn't be suffering like that, all phobias can be cured, so please seek out a local therapist to help you.

[@komododragons4553]

Same. I mow the lawn in a hoodie and pants and cover my ears around them 😢

[@mayosmith888]

Your not i actually locked my self out side and almost got ran over i was literally crying just over i couple of wasp and bees who weren't even bothering me...

[@_HanaPanda]

Same as me then, I only go out during summer if I HAVE to. And if a wasp is around me I will scream and cry. I can't go out alone during summer anymore, I cant even walk my dog which is frustrating because he has anxiety too and when my anxiety plays up or I freak out on a walk it freaks him out too.

[@charlotteburford2240]

Also the thing is, I think, the real Phobia for me is wasps.. it's just that bees are so similar. But I actually think bees are super cute and I actually save them from the water I put out for animals when it's hot.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

You need to find out when this Started Charlotte as no-one is born with this phobia, so something must have happened when you were little. Once you find it challenge the memory, does it still apply?

[@Veriox22]

Im afraid of them too, even if i know the importance of bees to tje environment.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

All phobias can be cured so you do not have to live with this fear. Please seek help or email [e-mail] for options.

[@laurenh9543]

You know how when someone isn't afraid of something they should be, you feel like they might be a little...behind, if you will, or naive? That's how I feel about people who aren't scared to death of insects that sting you for no reason and can fly faster than you can run. Bless yall's hearts.

[@Andyy7444]

Although I’m cautious around bees, I know it’s my own personal fight or flight, but as I observe them they’re just casually minding their own business and even quite social. Wasps on the other hand s send me running because they just fly around like they’re trying to find some shit to get into.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Yikes. Wasps are a little more intense, but they too aren’t overly interested in us personally (maybe curious would be a good word to describe them) but they don’t target anyone personally.

[@bip-bap4774]

I can appreciate bees from a distance. They are cute. I like honey. But I just don't want them within 10 feet of me. I get scared and ai start shaking and get anxious. It's horrible.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

A lot of people are most frightened of the buzzing sound.

[@alfieschannelofstuff.1117]

I am terrified of bees and wasps so their buzzing is like boss music to me.

[@LtBasil]

She got over her lifelong fear of bees from one conversation? Forgive me if I'm skeptical.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

We accept that you would be sceptical, but the footage was edited of course. As no-one is born with a phobia, once you change the memory that created it the behaviours literally do disappear. If you look at some of the other examples on our channel, you should get a fully understanding of our therapy and how any phobia with new evidence can be cured.

[@sander1645]

I'm gonna have to stay home alone due to the pandemic and just today, there was a big bee in my room. Mom was home so I ran to her and she took the bee safely outside, but when I'm gonna be home alone, I have no idea what I'm gonna do. I just CAN'T be near them. And I just can't stay calm around them, I have such a huge phobia. AAAAAA

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Hope this film helps, and do take a look around our channel, and subscribe as we have tips to help with phobias, fears and anxieties here, and we are adding new films every Monday and Thursday

[@joelgeorge.c668]

i am scared of bees and wasps my whole life. i think its ruining my life and i am 24 year old. i am Feeling ashamed because none of the people around me are afraid of them. i think no people at this age are scared of wasps or bees. when time goes on, i am scared i cant progress in life.

[@garythefishable]

Same I'm 27 and terrified of wasps. I swear I get more scared of them every year. I hear one and I run. I'm generally not afraid of anything, I can hold snakes and tarantulas no problem but yeah the thing I'm known and mocked for is my fear of wasps. Been in lockdown has felt like blessing knowing I dont have deal with those little fuckers.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Hope our film helps. Don't be ashamed, lots of adults have the same fear. It's usually learned from a childhood event, where you create an inaccurate overprotection. If the originating event is positively challenged as we share in this film, then you can overcome it so keep trying. Goodluck.

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Most phobias feel like you become more scared as time goes by, and that's usually because each year you have more experiences (it's like exercising a muscle, the more you exercise it, the bigger and more defned it bcomes), so you feel like you have to be on high alert in more and more situations and places

[@garythefishable]

@@nikandevaspeakman I appreciate the work you guys do and I'm sure it has helped many people but it's not made much difference for me. One of my earliest memories is of my sister been stung, my mum has always been terrified of them and i was stung around the age of seven when I didn't know one was under my arm so I think you are right that it was learnt during childhood. I'm aware that they are usually not aggressive unless provoked or if you wonder to close to the nest but the thing I get paranoid about is having one on me i don't know about climbing on me and then me accidentally triggering it which I've seen happen to two of my friends. Honestly don't know what my options are at this point. Just the buzzing sound sends me into panic mode now because I don't know where it is. I'm going to try spraying myself with diluted peppermint oil as I've learnt they don't like that. If it works my life can go back to normal.

[@joelgeorge.c668]

@@garythefishable gary, i totally get your situation. its the same as mine. the fact that i am in india makes me ashamed more because these bees and wasp kinds are very common here . I do know that nobody in my large friend circle has this phobia. probably they have never heard of this phobia. But when i came to canada, I came across many people who are scared of these beings and i was relieved that i am not the only one. i have been stung around 2 times in my childhood and that is the event i think that started my phobia.

[@nsfang2571]

I am too

[@themeep2766]

Same

[@larah9950]

I have 3 yellow jacket wasps and a hornet

[@leog3151]

yall got me messed up who doesnt have this phobia

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Whilst a lot of people are frightened, many people around the world keep bees and they are very important to the eco system.

[@callmesnowyyy4511]

I had apiphobia and still do but not of bees anymore.. if i see a bee i just don't touch it and don't scream or run. if i don't hurt it it doesn't have a reason to sting me but wasps can fuck off

[@catcowan]

I’ve been terrified since a was little and still run away now at 41 or if I can’t run away, get bad anxiety. I believe it started when I was little and was told my aunt who is allergic to stings nearly died, add to this the day I ran onto the road right in front of a lorry trying to avoiding a wasp and my mum getting really angry and shouting at me that I nearly died because of a tiny wasp both of these i believe has created a huge fear which has resulted in bad anxiety during bee/wasps season.

[@eshanakristelle]

That buzzing sound out of nowhere made me flinch so quick 😭

[@nikandevaspeakman]

We have another film here on our channel with tips to help x

[@vananthan3781]

If some bee,wasp or hornets comes near to me I'll be like I am fighting for my life. Especially hornets, I am super scared of them. They disgust me.

[@rachie_sherlock]

Bees are nice wasps are the evil little buggers. I have had my wasp phobia since I was 7 years old and I have my whole life not been able to be near one and if one comes near me I cry 🤷

[@Lungoose]

Bees are friend wasp is just guy who no one likes because is prick

[@kimwotherspoon4651]

This is so me I nearly got ran over twice this week and I'm too scaired to walk outside so I need to go to a therapist soon :( I'm only young I just turned 10 :((

[@TrueInkpoint]

Poor you but why say on this video

[@nikandevaspeakman]

sorry you are suffering Kim, but you can be cured. Please seek help, get over this and enjoy your Summers.

[@louiejonesponation]

I’m not scared of Bees but I am terrified of Wasps

[@insanity_jedi]

I have a lovely pool but I can’t go in without hoping out a couple minutes later because of the bees so I can’t enjoy enjoy being in a poo on a hot day and I’m in Australia

[@matthewhoey3058]

im not afraid of bees/wasps normally, its just when they get into my room i absolutely panic, because i dont know how to get rid of them, and im in such a confined space so i feel so scared when it starts flying around

[@nikandevaspeakman]

We usually wait till they land and then place a glass over them, and then gently slide a peace of paper or card under the glass before setting them free through a door or window. When they come indoors, they’re literally just looking for a way back out again.

[@PBC_WAS_TAKEN]

I just fear the buzzing and the sting I guess

[@Mister_MasterzRN]

I react to every insect the same way I would do to a hornet

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Hope our tips help :)

[@xxelyt4158]

I could barely click on the thumbnail

[@nikandevaspeakman]

sorry about that, we will make it black and white so its not as bad. Hope the video helped.

[@NightOwlGames]

man that test you doing there wouldnt work on me, strange thing is i cant stand been in the same room as an actual wasp however watching videos is interesting youd have to bring a real living wasp into the room for me to go batshit crazy! theres the real ones in the room but im watching a video after all so its ok.

[@s.m.h.u.]

Yes this is the same as me. While I don't enjoy watching videos or hearing wasps, it's their physical presence in my personal space that causes the phobic response. How can we get over that fear and flight response?

[@everythingisfake7555]

just smashed my teeth in today due to my wasp phobia, gutted

[@GrimmBreezy]

So I don’t like bees because they sting but I know we need them so I don’t freak as much with them. It’s wasps and hornets. They freak me out so bad, I won’t leave my house some days during summer. They are aggressive, and they get right in your face. They also can keep stinging so I’m absolutely terrified of them

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Wasps and hornets have no concept of what a human is therefore have no ill will or malice to us.

[@Thanos_Kyriakopoulos]

You can name it melissophobia😉

[@jakemears]

I have the same phobia

[@nikandevaspeakman]

It is a really common phobia Jake.

[@AntiCommunistMarine]

See I’m not scared of bees but I’m terrified of wasps, I kill them where I see them. But bees I generally leave them alone because I think they’re cute and fuzzy.

[@inocisa415]

I think that the host is freaking terrified even in her pink suit 😂 (and I don’t blame her). Everyone needs sone therapy/ support...

[@notaprogamer2782]

Bees should have there own separate video, because nobody's scared of bees. It's wasps and hornets that people don't like

[@someone-hz8tj]

A bee was on my face and it kept going in my eyes nose and ears I can't open my mouth bcoz they'll go in and today I took a breath and it went in my nose lol

[@rad5284]

usually i feel like looking at a bee is something that makes it chase me. so is the buzzing sound

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Bees don’t chase anything or anyone. They busily fly around, looking for food and hence they may fly towards brightly coloured things or anything that could be food just to check it out.

[@Lahjay07]

What’s up

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Thanks for the message :)