Paano Ba 'To: Tanong Nila, "Kailan Ka Ikakasal?" At "Kailan Ka Magkaka-Anak?"

[@MatCruz]

This is so true . Some people just don’t understand others happiness. Most of them always compare everyone to their own idea of happiness.

[@hecooksshebakes9472]

Not all married couples are happy. Some chose to be single and are happy. I have a married friend who tried to have kids but can’t and one time he was asked by his aunt, “Bakit di ka nalang mag adopt kung di ka magkaanak?” He answered, “Bakit ikaw auntie marami kang mga anak, ni isa ba may natira sayo?” Makes sense because not all kids are guaranteed to take care of their parents when they get old. Sad but true.

[@jhoena24]

I just turned 30 last year and I must say, these are the hardest questions that I’ve always been hearing since. Honestly, for a woman like me na may plano namang mag asawa pero wala pang boyfriend that time, I feel bad whenever I’m being asked. Di ko maiwasan makaramdam ng awa sa sarili ko. Feeling ko wala na kong pagasa. Kasi gusto ko pero wala namang nanliligaw. Ngayon naman na may boyfriend na, puro kasal at anak naman ang tanong. Kahit na bago pa lang kami. Minsan hindi mo alam san ka lulugar. Pero syempre, hindi naman talaga dapat mapressure sa sinasabi ng iba. Sa decision mo pa rin nakasalalay ang future mo.

[@jessicapelagio4801]

4 years ago and I’m still here. Hahaha! Anna’s advice is GOLD kahit ilang taon na ang lumipas ❤ I watched it twice (or thrice) in the past but naisip ko ulit to watch it now because medyo natatanong na naman ako ulit and a lot of my friends are getting married and having babies. So, so good to be able to go back to these episodes!!!

[@DocJoanaviMiranda0829]

On point! Or just be sincere and honest with your answers. Like “we’re both praying for the right time” or we’ll cross the bridge when we get there.. or “only God knows when.. and SMILE.

[@SimplyAby]

2 and a half years married but we don't have any plans on bringing a child in this world. It is something we (my husband and I) have decided together and until now, same pa din. Pag may nagtatanong and we said wala pang plano, they will eventually say "2 yrs na kayo.. eh bat nagpakasal pa kayo?" So in the end, sasagutin mo nlng ng ngiti kasi di naman nila magegets. Akala ko nga abnormal na kami ng asawa ko dahil tlgang nagdecide kami na no children. I even started looking for other people na may kapareho naming decision para may kadamay. Di naman pala kami nag-iisa. There are lots of people (most of them outside the PH) who are married but have no children. Basta kayo parehong mag-asawa nagdecide, you are on the same page, ok lng. Parenthood is a great privilege but it is not for EVERYONE.

[@lalilulelo]

I hope makahanap ako ng babae na ayaw rin magkaanak.

[@hey.its.carmina]

Ako ung Ayaw, pero may option na kung magkaroon ok lang dahil kay partner :), pero kung aq lang kahit wala. Hahahaha ewan ko I dont see myself din kasi as a "Mom".

[@lizigcalinos8691]

Im 32, runnning 33 this year..the all time question i've heard from my relatives and my friends and I was just used to it now..Its funny naman talaga how they cared your personal life, its annoying sometimes but I keep in mind that i have purpose in life why i haven't yet get married, people doesn't have the same timeline in life note to that, :)

[@alexiagabriel1724]

Relate much ako sa topic na ito. People often asked me kung kailan ako mag-aasawa. At times, nakaka-inis talaga na matanong nang ganoon, especially when love life has never been my priority even at this point in my life. I am not averse to marriage or having my own family; it's just that I am happy even when I'm on my own.

[@My_Little_World345]

I really love this topic! I just turned 33 this year and still single but I'm happy. Kasi nakakatulong ako sa family kht sa maliit na paraan and para magawa lahat ng gusto ko para walang regret pagtanda. I know God has perfect timing for everything, ibibigay yun if kailangan mo na. Basta ngaun, I am enjoying being single coz I can travel. Honestly, hindi ko alam if makakapagasawa ako dahil feeling ko hindi ko sya forte. Sa ngaun, mas more on ako sa pagsesecure sa future ko dahil Di naman tau forever magtatrabaho. Thanks B for this video!

[@liltapdasan4133]

I always go back to this video everytime I get asked, "when will I get married?" Or "what are my plans? Do i plan on staying single forever?". Other people, especially the older ones (not all ha) often forsake people who wants to remain single esp women. Mahirap sila i-educate, pero yun ang kailangan ng mga taong katulad nila.

[@imtwo4075]

Yun kasi ang sinasabi nilang purpose ng pag aasawa at pag kakaroon ng anak para daw may magalaga sau pag tumanda kana.. But for me its a big NO. Depende lang tlga on how you view life. Mapa single man or married. Thanks for this vid ms. bianca. Happy happy lang.

[@hey.its.carmina]

So true, yung napapaisip aq na kailangan ba mag anak pag kasal or may asawa kana.requirement o required ba yun. Hindi dw kasi matatawag na "pamilya" pag walang anak. Parang sakin "so?" hahahabaha

[@mhyrrfortz2225]

im 43 now still single but very happy and contented...great episode bianca

[@ginanamistoso530]

My Gosh! Relate na nmn ako sa topic na to 😂😂😂 it's like the whole world was asking you " kelan ka mag aasawa? And paulit ulit ulit na lng 😂 at first I can come up with so many answers but later on..I get tired of it... So Sabi ko na lang bukas mg aaswa na ako..o kya mmya mdling araw 😂😂😂 people must understand na hndi tau pare pareho ng kplaran...at iba iba tau ng choices sa buhay. I choose to help my family first before I put my self into trouble este into marriage 😂 and lastly, I believed there is time for everything.

[@iamsuperbianca]

Yes exactly! As long as you keep that in mind, other comments should not bother you. :)

[@princesslara334]

napaka articulate ni anna... epitome of strong independent woman

[@floriankristel]

SOBRANG RELATE...ha ha ha ha kasi ako din mas gusto ko yung career life kesa marriage life ..iba iba kasi ang definition ng success

[@tiffinalbindo8903]

Lagi ko po pinapanood tong video niyo with your friend! very in time na lahat halos ng kakilala mo nagpapakasal na im so happy d pala ako nagiisa akala ko ako nalang hindi pa kinakasal now i have ideas na kung paano sumagot politely ng hindi nakakabastos hehe! Iloveyou Ms. B! forever abangers sa vids mo! Godbless you more! 😘😘

[@annetanada3342]

I love you both. I remember na magkasama kayo ni ate anna sa isang interview with Atom. And I love Ate Anna's personality and advocacy in life.

[@misslaforteza7157]

Very timely! This episode goes to everyone who can relate including myself. Now that's wisdom right there.

[@job.1272]

nakarelate ako dito hahaha.. before turning 30 family and friends were asking the same question (kailan ka mag aasawa) after my twin sis got married and had a kid, more people keep on asking the same question.. I was able to answer them in a comedy way like Maybe bukas sarado na munisipyo, naubusan ng marriage contract, etc.. hahahah in a serious note, I explained to them that all of us have own destiny, destiny to be with someone or not.. And like what Anna said as long as you are happy and you’re not stepping anyone’s life, then stay Single.. It’s not a crime 😊 God still loves you

[@ayieecruz7256]

Relate much! Yan lagi natatanong skin ng mga rlatives ko everytime magbabakasyon ako sa provnce namin, "klan ka magaasawa?" "Magasawa ka na." Mdyo naiirita ako pag nrrinig ko un at nssbi ko na lang.. here we go again then smile 😁.

[@katesamson6686]

Nothing is more accurate than this! Thank you, Ms. B!❤ Eto talaga kelangan ko ngayon☹😭 Buti nalang I watched your video mejo gumaan pakiramdam ko. Godbless!

[@averillecq9188]

I love this episode. Tbh, it doesn't matter wether you choose to devote your life being single or married with kids. I myself, I was 19 when I had my son. A lot of people have a lot to say and very quick to judge about what happened to me. What I did is I brushed away all the chismis and issues, focus with my son's needs and happiness. I found my purpose. God planned this all along for me to understand that not all I planned for my life was meant for me. Now the scenario is, those people who's very opinionated about my early pregnancy are now asking me to get married, sundan na si kiddo etc. Sobrang dami talaga nilang gusto para sa ibang tao and I was like, ano daw? Before sobrang dami nyong panget na sinabi and all tapos ngayon pati yung pag aasawa etc kaylangan panghimasukan pa. Natatawa na lang ako e. Hahahahahaha. Maging masaya na lang po tayo para sa isa't isa. Let's all pray na lang para sa kabutihan ng iba

[@kincristobal9880]

Thank you, Bianca, that you were able to talk about this subject and I can pretty much identify with Ana Oposa (btw, I love her and her advocacy). Not a lot of people understand that not wanting to have kids or settle down is not a bad thing.

[@iamsuperbianca]

Yes! It definitely is a personal choice and there is no right or wrong choice.

[@katyfauri]

Ms Anna Oposa 👏👍💗 dami kong wisdom nakuha ♥ thank u alam ko na sasagot kung sakali. hihi. thanks ms. Bianca :)

[@sunkissedbonita]

We were just talking about this,Ms. Bianca. This is my fave episode na. 😁 Ms. Anna's answer gives a fresh perspective because for me, I either feel like I have to explain myself or bite of the nosy person's head haha. She's right, people may just be thinking about their source of happiness and want you to experience that happiness too. I hope I remember this on our next family reunion.

[@niceso3346]

So true, some people can't understand that diffferent people have their own definition of happiness, of being purposeful and that a woman is not only defined by marriage or having kids aside from those two amazing things. A woman is also amazing because of many other things that she is 💓😊

[@esantos3252]

Minsan talaga kainis. 👏👏👏Good Job Bianca!

[@anneaquino5105]

I wanted to share this in may Fb page to enlightened my relatives and friends but a little hesitant too, nkakainis na rin ksi minsan paulit ulit na lng sila. Skit sa bangs 😂😅😂😅 "Be honest and live your truth~not other people's truth for you."

[@jhs3591]

I like Bianca’s answer more than the guest. Its much humble, much sensitive to other people’s feelings. I do appreciate your guest’s answer but not all can do what she advices cause not all people can take her answers. Bianca’s advice is more humane and understanding. Kumbaga nga may “preno”😁😂

[@chariss9937]

Thanks po for having ms.anna! she's my lodi! and a lot of my friends & relatives asked me this question as well. I don't know how to answer them sometimes haha! This is super helpful! Love you Anna 💕💕

[@denisedelacruz2864]

haaaay always at family reunions... send ko nga po to sa family gc namen charat 😅

[@ellaagbon1333]

Very informative sya talaga!! Natatamaan ako.. may isang anak na ako.. nagsasama kami ng tatay ng anak ko.. pero hindi pa kami kasal dalawa.. so as usual lage ako tinatanong ng mama ko, pamilya ko kung kelan kami magpapakasal dalawa sa totoo lang nahihiya ako, kc laking province ako samin kc pag may anak na need na talaga magpakasal. Ang problema ung pamilya ng tatay ng anak prang di sila naniniwala sa term na kasal. 😭 so sa totoo lang nalulungkot ako.. pero wala ako magawa alangan naman ipilit ko sarili ko sakanya na pakasalan nya ko. So sa ngaun 3years old na anak namin. Wala padin sya plano.. parang ayoko ko na din umaasa.. 😮

[@roanjemimah2062]

This might be my favorite video of Miss Bianca! Grabe I love the points of Miss Anna!

[@kerynjoyeux]

Annoying syang tanong pag ang nagtanong ay hindi mo kaclose.. ngengelam ng buhay.. or ako lang yung ang ganung feeling. 😅 thanks Ms B! 🤗

[@7eaNess]

Purfect! On point na naman Ms. B! This is a beautiful reminder for all of us to be extra sensitive and be tactful always of what we say towards others because in hindsight, we also want to be treated in the same manner. Golden rule pa rin ikanga... The additional pondering in the end part is 👌💡 ms. B since I noticed that you didn't interject your thoughts during the conversation which you've been doing in your previous episodes. 👏👏👏

[@renessagavileno9311]

Thanks B!!! Swak Na swak sa akin Ang episode Na Ito. But still I just ignore of what people think about me why up to now I'm still single. Getting married isn't a blink of an eye but it's a life time commitment . 😊

[@latriceresma2557]

I like her. Winner. ❤❤❤ pak na pak ang mga advice ni ate gurl!

[@joygonzales28]

Timing!! Kanina lang pinag-uusapan namin to e. Galing!

[@Andrei-ew4ct]

Ne honest lng talaga. Hindi pa ako ready. Madami pa ako gustong gawin.

[@niaonthego3442]

Right after I turned 25 may mga nag tatanong na rin saken when will i get married (mostly may mga edad na kamag anak) honestly hindi ko talaga nakikita ung sarili na mag asawa sa ngayon i have been single for 5 years already. Been to dates and such pero walang nag tagal. Im in a place where im happy with my own company actually right now my on a 1 week bday getaway solo travel pa. So ladies, (even gents!) If you are not yet ready wag talaga mag papapressure. Mas mahalaga na ready ka when time comes dahil once you got married expected kang mag anak for my case parang ayaw ko ng anak so gusto ko if mag aasawa man ako eh kami lang. So if mag aanak ako need maging prepared. So if di pa ready then dont marry.

[@vanniyeth1887]

Informative and empowering! Thank you!!!!

[@liltapdasan4133]

Hi Bianca. I am your fan since forever. And your videos are really helpful. Esp this one coz I get these questions a lot. Thank you so much! Keep them coming B. 😘

[@AnnRomey]

This is great. Thanks for sharing, Bianca! I've been following Anna Oposa since she started blogging on livejournal years ago and really inspired by her environmental advocacy 😍

[@iamsuperbianca]

Aaw this is wonderful! Yes Anna is amazing.

[@jang0719]

Love this Bianca! Strong independent woman represent!

[@thisworldrocks3261]

Ang galing magbigay ng tips nitong si Miss Anna. #Havey 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@c67997]

I love your Friend Ana ❤️ thank you

[@stephaniecitaapilado3740]

Super ganda!!!

[@azaraiahuriel7087]

Another inspirational video Ms.B.. thank you for always uploading videos like this. 🤗🤗

[@summerlovin3641]

Sa pilipinas lang naman ganyan ang mentality ng western live your life ung iba nga sa kanila mga late 30s na nagaasawa or may edad na kc ginGawa muna nila gusto nilang gawin. Or most of them hindi na nag college prang if gusto na nilng mag travel and explore at early age, go.May pattern kc ang society sa atin sa pinasso ang thinking ng ibang tao we should follow that pattern.

[@hazelleg37]

This video is very helpful. I am being asked by these questions or like an attack question 4 to 5 times a day by coworkers who already know that we are having a hard time getting me pregnant. At times I am being frank at times I am being nice in answering them but a lot of time I do snap just like your friend does. What i got from this video is that yes, they may be living a happy life that they want me to experience it too. Thats a nice thought. Your choice of speakers are really great Bianca. You have nice circle of friends! Please keep the video comming! God bless

[@vanessalindape]

Waaaaah I want to join Ms. Anna about the marine conservation!!!! Huhu

[@RoseKoOfficial]

Love this!!! Super helpful! Minsan nakakainis tlaga tama breath in breath out nalang. :) Thank you for creating mga ganitong videos. more power :)

[@chineedesabille2609]

Woooow panalo to

[@LENalfaro]

yes very pinoy mentality. especially when you were raised in a foreign country parang you have to explain yourself to your relatives na time has changed and people don’t think like that anymore. i super get this cause my mom tells me na it’s sad when you don’t have a family and i always have to tell her that not everyone is made to get married and have kids. hindi lang ang pag buo ng family ang pwede mag pasaya sa insang tao (both ways im sure there are guys who can relate but these questions are frequently asked to wm). Please try to get Bela Padilla and Alex Gonzaga to do an ep :)))

[@theat.martinez9531]

Thank you for this Bianca. I really love this. I thought there was something wrong with me. Even though I am still 22 and some consider that as young, I don't see myself marrying very soon.

[@Cicero17-18]

Same! 21 naman ako. Lagi nila akong sinasabihan na magboyfriend ka na para may kasama ka sa pagtanda. Sa isip ko, so yun pala ang purpose ng pagboboyfriend at pag aasawa sa kanila. But mine is, wala talaga sa isip ko yun pati na rin ang magkaanak. Akala ko, ako lang ang may ganoong mindset. So happy na may katulad pala ako.

[@stephaniecitaapilado3740]

"Live your truth, not other people's truth for you"

[@ailenen.9147]

Loving all the conversations! Kudos to you bianca!

[@shend943]

I like the last part, mas naeexplain mo ung thoughts and opinion mo sa topic. Keep it up. Really love your channel. 😍

[@aprilmaralit2890]

looooooove all your vlogs!!! especially this one... spot on! thanks to Ana for speaking my mind...

[@iamsuperbianca]

Maraming salamat!

[@itsyaboyyabish302]

talino ng mga sagot nya! precise!

[@sky_4134]

Relate much 😅 thanks for this advice 👍🏻

[@nyc38]

Aiii! Ako super napipikon.. Kasi kng ung family mo nga super tahimik kasi bka mka offend cla tapos yung ibang tao kng mga tanong nman sobra .

[@hugotradio]

Sa amin naman... kailan ka magaasawa?

[@irenebayoneta3772]

Wow! I can relate super. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@artekollecziones1689]

I always look forward to every vlog from this channel.I find it very helpful..you are a very smart and sincere person..I love iamsuperbianca..you're the best host and speaker..my top favorite from all the channel I follow.. keep it up and more power to you.. Godbless 😘

[@rhenzcape]

I love this topic...thanks B.

[@joyborganio2303]

May natutunan nanaman ako 😊

[@EinnaAdventure08]

so love this episode ❤❤❤

[@michywichy]

I like the extended video, it lets us know what's your take on the issue, keep up the good work! 😊

[@belaniejimenez]

Super love the content of this video. 👍👍👍

[@charlottejenniferlabra8921]

I love this! this is the kind of wisdom I was looking for.. thank you for sharing Miss Bianca 😊❤💛💙

[@viennamariesalac4840]

Super like... thank you!!!!

[@athomemontessori838]

Love your topic!

[@gemaxsaludes]

I love your channel miss bianca it helpssss a lot !!!

[@ecyojenna]

Again, I can relate ☺ Thanks for sharing Ms. Ana and Ms. Bianca. I always look forward watching your Paano Ba 'To vlog, it makes a lot of sense. Keep it up and God Bless po.

[@gigimontalez]

Love this ep. More power to yur channel 😊

[@143aliah]

She reminds me of the Oposa vs Factoran case

[@janellecordero4973]

Got some tips :) all your blogs are very helpful

[@yassslinn3962]

Very timely! Keep it up ate B!

[@saaargeocampo]

Relate, thanks B!! 😘😘😘

[@travelwhys]

hurtful dn minsan na sabihan na in a relationship nga pero ayaw mo magka anak, iiwanan ka ng mapapangasawa mo etc. na parang yun lang yung dahilan kung bakit mag sstay yung isang tao sa buhay mo,

[@tricia.aamirr]

Precise!!!!

[@sandraniar]

i can relate...

[@riaranada4660]

That’s the most problem of people nowadays, on how they deliver their message in a nice way... we need to learn to say the right words on a right timing for others not to feel offended 😊

[@iamsuperbianca]

Yes! I feel exactly the same way.

[@gP-cp3sz]

I like it when people asking me and il answer gusto ko kaso wala eh! hehe😀

[@MrandMrsB]

Spot on!!! Love it!!! #MrandMrsB

[@bernadethgabutan5510]

♥♥♥ Thank you for your channel super bianca, you inspire and teach us alot of lessons in life.. Godbless!

[@jaycustodio6686]

Nkakainis tlga mga gnyang tanung, kmi g 2 years n kmi kasal pero wala pa baby, yun iba png my galit samin pti byenan ko pinagppray n wag kmi mgkababy para mkapagbigay p kmi sa knila pti sa mama ko tama ba yun?parang di sila mga nanay, nkakainis lng tlga, kya nkablock nlng sila sa phone ko at ayoko ng kausapin pa, pag di mo binigyan ng pera sila pa galit samantalang nanghihingi lng nmn, sna itopic ni Ms. B yung about nmn sa dapat bng suportahan ng anak ang magulang khit my pamilya na? Ang dami mkakarelate dyan lalo mga ofw at mga bgog kasal, not just that pti yung mga ngsisismula plng mgwork, pinagusapan ng matindi din sa peso sense yan

[@mariedenverdedios5288]

Jay Custodio gusto ko rin yan maging topic. Hinihintay ko yan. Mukhang pareho tayo ng kalagayan sa buhay

[@ronron6210]

helloo ms bianca im a fan here! :) pede po episode for “ kelan ka magkakababy?” i want to know how to handle that kind of situation pag tinanong ako. madalas kasi nakakainis talaga. thanks!

[@iamsuperbianca]

Ronalyn Sarzaba Ito na po din yun. Same issue. 😊

[@iamsuperbianca]

Same! Sinagot din namin sa video!

[@danielle15ann]

Omg is that Anna Oposa of Oposa v. Factoran?

[@laarnieramosang1388]

💛💛💛

[@projectlifevlogs3968]

Update: And my boyfriend is now my fiancé, turns out that he was preparing his proposal for over a month without me hinting anything at all. So to all the women out there, don’t get carried away by the pressures, just take your time and expect the least. Your time will come and when it does, it will sweep you off your feetlike no other. ❤️ Nakaka pressure and insecure rin at times when you are asked when will you get married? Haha, been in a relationship for almost 9 years and of course I am open to getting married na, but my boyfriend hasn’t popped out the question yet for reasons I dare not ask about. And being asked kelan ka ikakasal, while all others your age are engaged and has gotten married already messes up with your brain and especially emotionally. It’s hard at times, but I just trust in the process and timing.

[@Cicero17-18]

Congratulations!

[@jhoanacandy]

is she one of the oposas in the landmark case of oposa vs. factoran??? 😱

[@hajiwonhehe3432]

nkrelate much ha ha!

[@riccamaelao3456]

True

[@jullx6k]

kya hndi nko maxado mg upload s Facebook ko.. kasi talaga may mag ask sakin ng ganun,,, espirito nlang ako sa old fb acct ko... 😌

[@jn-mt8wt]

Ako ang sagot ko kasi walang nanliligaw walang nagkagusto kaya eto single ako. BUT... i am happy

[@warpathsalomon2094]

jn 24246 oo nga naman, ibigay ang gustong marinig 😊

[@ladyjinx5985]

Klan daw ako magkakaanak? Sa isip ko itanong nyo na lang sa ovary ko?😑😅...thanks ms bianca and anna sa payo

[@c67997]

Pinakamasakit ung nasabihan Kang “kawawa ka nman Wala ka Pang asawa 40 ka na “😆😆😆😆

[@junacatague2037]

❤️❤️❤️