Separating Life Stress From Symptoms

Separating Life Stress From Symptoms
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[@EllyvanGelder-kw9kf]

Keep those messenges coming Dan. I've been on the Sarno/Buglio path since September last year. Since then my back pain is 95% history after over 20 years of struggle. The words that hit home were ' you are not broken', ' you are not in danger'. My brain must have been convinced that it was broken as well as in danger. In the meantime I've by coincidence met two people here in the Netherlands that have had the same results. People out there investigating and finding there way in the TMS/PDP; keep at it. Dan, I can't thank you enough for all the work and encouragement!! Loads of love!

[@PainFreeYou]

This is wonderful. If you would ever want to share your success, you can get on my calendar at: TalkWithDan.com

[@pnijland]

Good to hear! Here someone from the Netherlands as well:)

[@Lenneke8422]

Congratulations Netherlands 🇳🇱 here too ❤

[@mjoachim9554]

Can I add something here? Anyone going through a divorce, it helps to not judge yourself or your spouse. Cut the judgement. Very freeing.

[@adamcoloretti4202]

Thanks Dan! Perfect follow up to your help on email. Stress and anxiety (social especially for me) aren't dangerous and are normal. All emotions are normal and not dangerous! I'm getting back to more socialising and will break this conditioned response. Legend!

[@PainFreeYou]

You've got this.

[@mjoachim9554]

I know what you’re saying is absolutely true. I’m feeling it in moments. I’m getting there.

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome.

[@Inge508]

For me it’s helpful to disconnect from current life stressors and at the same time connect with a past pattern or limited belief. I realize that I’m still looking through a lens of my past identity and therefore am stuck in my pain/ symptoms.. Thanks for the clarity.. time to put more effort in disconnecting those 2. I’m not that old traumatized being anymore so I have to act and believe like it. Every day , every video brings new insights.. Thanks Dan❤

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome Inge. I appreciate your presence here.

[@Inge508]

@@PainFreeYou that’s so nice to hear! 🙏 thank you! Although I’m not proof of a quick healing, your presence, guidance and reassurance makes everything more doable !Have a lovely Sunday Dan!🙋‍♀️☃️✨

[@mjoachim9554]

Thanks Dan. I feel like you’re my best friend right now

[@Inge508]

Sometimes people asks themselves what’s their trigger. It can be so subtle. I read from a man who had headaches all the time when he was in his living room watching his favorite football game on tv. He got so frustrated. I love football, i am safe in my living room so why is my brain giving me those headaches.. Further talk with a Tms coach revealed that he was sad to know his friends were in a pub looking and laughing together at this football match. He felt can old rejection - wound from his childhood, of not belonging to a group .. when he started to go out to that pub or inviting friends in his living room to watch together, his headaches were never there. I just wanted to share this example, of how subtle and subconscious a trigger can be❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, the perceived danger is often in the subconscious. Subtle, yet very real. Thank you for sharing this example. It's a great one.

[@chrishairston8867]

@@PainFreeYouIf your triggers are very subtle and barely noticeable, how do you address the emotions behind it? What’s to be done when you might not know what your triggers are?

[@PainFreeYou]

@@chrishairston8867 we don’t have to know our triggers. Even if we did, what do we do about that? I think we jump right to reminding ourselves that were actually OK and that any trigger, whatever it is, is no reason to turn on symptoms or increase them.

[@chrishairston8867]

@@PainFreeYou Thank you! That helps me a lot because most of the time I don’t know what causes my symptoms to crop up and I never know if I need to spend a lot of time on that or just move forward from where I am. Thanks again!

[@chrishairston8867]

Wow. That’s an eye opener to how little we understand about how much we harbor and how that plays out in our lives!

[@janetterico8016]

Just listening to him relaxes me. ❤ Thank you for your content.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome Janet.

[@Meand1209]

Thank you so much Dan for your videos and thanks to all the people who share their success stories. I had stomach issues and reflux problems. It is pretty much completely gone now. I eat and drink absolutely anything I want now. After I started being afraid of the symptoms and food and drink, things started to change. My joint pain is a lot better too. It will obviously also go away but I don’t let it stop me anymore. I used to be so afraid to work out and now I work out everyday and enjoy it. I discovered that I can do a lot.

[@Inge508]

How wonderful is this! Congrats 🎉 enjoy your new painfree- you❤

[@Meand1209]

@@Inge508 Thank you so much Inge :)

[@PainFreeYou]

This is wonderful. If you would ever want to share your success, you can get on my calendar at: TalkWithDan.com

[@tina_820]

The Fast Start videos r what saved me literally. Thanks Dan. I’m now watching past videos. Boooooooom

[@Inge508]

So happy for you Tina❤ My comment disappeared, so I try again.. please you tube😜

[@jenniferlefort]

I really appreciate how you insert your own real life examples, it makes your videos that much more relatable and, honestly, it takes away any lingering fear that « I’m alone in this, or, nobody feels like I feel » . Today’s brief example of how you still deal with little twinges of symptoms was a great thing to share. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you. Twinges that you don't fear go away fast.

[@galacticwarrior4089]

I live my life like normal and I don't care about my symptoms. But they are still there. I go to the gym and work full time. Yes im at a better place than I was before on.the couch and scared but its still.there. I'm not scared anymore . Thats a win but the symptoms still.there. not sure how long this process will take seems like this is it.

[@christinehorne5165]

Fast start play list 24 messages of safety and proactive… kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6ucdq1qbrJrf8ksi=tmgyxBfgVPGDBdtm Just living life is not enough.

[@kazzey888]

You have been a HUGE help. I used to say it's easy to lower symptoms when life is smoothe. I got hit last May w a long ago symptom. More of an extremely annoying one vs intense pain, a very uncomfortable one. One that Dr sarno personally helped me with, one I started therapy with someone he referred to me. I remember thinking the true test is lowering symptoms when life is difficult which it surely will be.

[@estherzwaan9928]

So grateful for your dedication and love for people, Dan. It means a lot that you take time everyday to encourage and guide us on our paths of recovery. After many years of struggling alone, your video's became one of my beacons of hope.

[@delynnturner7904]

Thank you Dan. I'm new at this. 16 years of chronic back and leg pain and burning. I'm implementing this change. Read Dr. Sarno book. I seen myself on every page.

[@MouhamedGUEYE-yc4ng]

Love u Dane. Keep doing these. Never ever stop these. You are helping tremendously. You are perfect at it. It’s like you were destined to do it.❤❤❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you so much!

[@TeresaWalters-zq3mt]

For some reason if I socialize too much and that includes sometimes just talking on the phone, it stresses me out and then symptoms come on. Too much contact with friends and family triggers anxiety. I feel like I've shrunken my world. Why do I feel others drain me? I had an anxiety attack yesterday because I had 3 long talks with friends in one day. I'm usually already in pain even before the call. I did try to tell my brain that ai'm going to allow this anxiety to play out on its own, I just don't know why I get triggered.

[@PainFreeYou]

Set the expectation before, during and after the call that there is NO reason to be triggered. And if it does happen, respond as calmly as possible.

[@lauraschmuck5565]

So the way I deal with panic attacks is to allow them and not fight them. This is very hard. I do know mentally I am not in danger, but messages of safety doesn't seem to do any good. I am stressed all the time and nothing from the outside or relationships are the cause of my stress.

[@PainFreeYou]

Have you read Claire Weekes book Hope and Help for Your Nerves? It's wonderful and she speaks about panic attacks in depth.

[@lauraschmuck5565]

@PainFreeYou yes I have. I think I need to reread it.

[@seffie4363]

so helpful Dan thank you! when i get stressed, row with my husband, feel upset i always worry how it will affect me so i see these things as not safe x need to remind myself they are just part of normal life and drop the story and fretting about them to let it be released x thank you Dan x have a great day! 👍

[@PainFreeYou]

You got this!

[@joekelley3518]

Dans the man! You really are a life saver.

[@RiaandBobby]

Many thanks for this video reinforcing the life should not hurt message.

[@honeywhite1]

Thank you so much for your time & care in providing all this free content. It's a difficult concept & takes a while to get, but it's slowly clicking. Your help is very much appreciated...

[@michaelchua3942]

Thank you, so insightlful on stress and coping with everyday life pressures. Merci!

[@lindascott7644]

❤ Great Talk Dan.. you are Appreciated ❤

[@amelin1612]

Love you ❤

[@SurrenderCrew]

Thx Dan❤❤

[@shirleysheridan3947]

Your messages are the best!

[@abdulnadaf4669]

Thank you Lots of love from India

[@Aminta-gr9gb]

Thanks Dan! ❤ I really needed this today! God Bless You!

[@jamesroof6150]

Thanks for all you do Dan. In 6 weeks of following your coaching I have had success with my back pain. Not 100% but significant progress. I will continue to tune into your daily coaching vids. Thanks🙏

[@Lenneke8422]

Relax my body - I say be wet like a noodle ( credit to Jim Prussack) but it helps a lot ! I have so much emotial stress but I don't need to hurt however I am hurting 😢 my flare keeps going just copied the game plan 🙃 I believe my brain still thinks that all these emotions to be dangerous talk to my brain 🧠 what you say etc etc ty Dan love you 😍 ❤️

[@ruthie408]

Thx Dan enjoy your day!

[@PainFreeYou]

You too!

[@paulaspagnuolo8285]

Key concept here. Definitely one I need to work on. Thanks Dan.

[@Blhj1]

Seriously, AGAIN this was the exact video I needed today! xD Spot on, Dan! :D

[@wednesdayschild3627]

I am sick again 3 days digestive problems. It started after a virus 3 months ago. Nothing is helping. I cannot sleep. I did the assessments. Scored high.

[@PainFreeYou]

You say nothing is helping. Begin by not calling yourself "sick". Digestive issues are very often a response to the brain incorrectly perceiving danger. Safety is the solution. The virus is long gone and you are not currently sick. Symptoms are not illness. They are the response of a brain perceiving danger. Safety is the solution. kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6ucdq1qbrJrf8k

[@akashverma5756]

I am a student. I need to study 5 - 8 hours a day. When I study continuously for one or more hour continuously, instead of feeling mental tiredness, my head starts hurting. This headache and eye pain doesn't go away even after two or more hours of break. What should I do to break my this association? I am pretty sure that my symptoms are TMS because it sometimes radiates down to eyes, teeth, nose and back of head. Also, My all test reports are normal.

[@christinehorne5165]

In Dan’s fast start play list is 6 steps to resuming activity. Listen to them all. Studying is safe. For me head aches are about me pressuring myself with to much. Might be evaluate how you can be less perfect, give yourself a break… I got headaches before trips because I would try to get a bunch of chores done, clean the house, pack… before the trip. It was impossible expectations. First trip the headaches lasted over 6 months. It did give me the opportunity to learn I could do Dan’s work & it would work. Another trip I started doing it again. Woke up one morning with a bad headache. I immediately started changing my plans and by lunch pain was gone. I am still working on other symptoms but we can do this!

[@kayladewaard4019]

Thank you so much❤❤❤

[@mlemay2486]

Thank you Dan ❤ But what about if we are dealing with a truly dangerous situation? My anxiety peaked yesterday. My 3 yo son is severely allergic to peanuts and all tree nuts. His 8 months old sister isn’t, but in order to decrease the risk of her developing allergies, we need to give her some peanuts and nuts 3x/week. We explored all of our options, but there is no other choice than to feed her the allergens in presence of her brother for the next several years. Despite every precaution, the risk of him being exposed to a particule of allergen is definitely real. So my brain definitely doesn’t believe me when I’m telling it that despite the stress, all is safe… because it isn’t! What do you do in these situations? Thanks!!

[@zeusthegreek4664]

Thanks you so very much🙏🏽

[@PainFreeYou]

Happy to help

[@elisabethj6613]

Thanks Dan! I have a question, one of the most difficult symptoms for me is insomnia. When i try a accupressure mat before sleeping, i could sometimes fall asleep. But the day after i feel terrible, more terrible then when i sleep less with medication. Is this a response from my brain? And do i need to handle this the same as you talked about responding to stress in the video? Thank you 🙏🏼

[@PainFreeYou]

I believe being unable to sleep is a mindbody issue. Have you seen my recent video on sleep? kzbin.info/www/bejne/b5S8q5iPobGHbNE

[@elisabethj6613]

Thank you Dan, i believe that too but i mean when i sleep whit the accupressure mat i feel terrible, can this be that my brain wants me to stop with this? Because i see no reason to feel more terrible with sleep than without

[@PainFreeYou]

@@elisabethj6613 it could be, that your brain subconsciously believes the use of the acupressure mat means that there is something wrong with you that you were trying to fix. That could be a indication of danger. Then, when the brain perceives danger, symptoms can increase.

[@Inge508]

Oh dear! My husband bought me such acupressure mat too! The pain I felt after using it was so extreme that I stopped it! I will try again if my nervous system is more relaxed in the future..

[@elisabethj6613]

That sounds like that could be the case! How can i handle this the best? To continue with the mat or to stop? The fixing state is also not good right? I think this is very difficult😅

[@jackiejovanoska7362]

Thanks Dan! You answered my question I had !! ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Happy to help!

[@AngelaBee_13]

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[@verovero8283]

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[@NoorHofland-kl3nw]

Hi Dan, but what about limiting beliefs e.g. I am not good enough (after getting negative feedback at work). Which follows with a lot of negative thinking and insecurity. My therapist says that these old patterns (just as fear for the pain is al onld pattern) need to be reframed by FEELING the opposite at that moment and STOP the thinking loop. But you are saying this does not need to happen? So when my pain flares because of these old patterns in my head, I only need to stay calm? And continuous negative thinking about yourself does not need to stop?

[@nicolar4242]

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