Painful Secrets Part 9

[@misskrissxoxo]

Rhea Perlman played the therapist in this movie and her husband (Danny Devito), played the therapist in The Virgin Suicides. They both came out the same year too.

[@Aja-Christian]

The only thing worse than having a dad that touches you inappropriately, is having a dad that doesnt show you any affection at all, just treats you like you have an extra head or something. . . .

[@Bekll]

Aw, that's really sweet of you to offer this to everyone out there who cuts. I'd talk about it, but my SI isn't cutting at all. I'm an odd-ball.

[@girl123interrupted]

That was so sad "if you need to cut something than cut me, you already are everytime you hurt yourself" aw its EXACTLY what she needed to hear rather than "I can't have this again because it hurts ME AND ITS ALL ABOUT ME!"

[@bodieslikesheep531]

i feel so bad for her i swear i cried like 15 billion times during the movie. I wish this kind of stuff never existed.

[@annielynge]

You know, the dad could teach the mom a friggin life lesson.

[@sosicobesepig]

That whole scene when she talks to the therapist about her dad totally hit home for me, it was like i was Dawn and i was talking to the therapist.

[@0Xenabby0]

If I were Dawn dealing with a family like that I'd move in with my best friend.

[@JessicaJABBERWOCK]

That's how I feel. I only have my one best friend and she's busy living her life with her boyfriend, and I have my parents. I feel like I have to live with my parents forever because I don't want to be alone.

[@marinagiachos3331]

her father in this part is so beautiful!

[@Avath]

Oh Gee, mother, I wonder where she gets her controlling behaviour from.

[@XxRebornNationxX]

Until today, I thought my family problems were bad. This takes the cake.

[@Madi24x7]

"You're not the only one in pain" that part makes me really sad.

[@ashleyroxs4264]

That's what my dad says"when you cut yourself it feels like your cutting me" paraphrased though

[@thismyfisher]

[@briecheeks]

inside that house is like walking on eggshells. i know how that feels.

[@vadjobbigtdetkanvara]

Aww, the thing her dad did for her was kind of sweet in an odd way...

[@annoyedbyyourface]

I hope viewers are also paying attention to the effect Dawn's parents are having on her mental health. Dawn's parents need to divorce. They are clearly not in love anymore and their shitty relationship impacting their parenting skills in a horrible way. Moral of the story: If you can't be a partner with your S/O, leave! Don't ruin your kids lives thinking "holding on" is a viable option. *IT'S NOT!*

[@Danniika91]

i love how its all about how everyone else feels

[@nicksgirl231]

I can relate to Dawn. Being a former cutter myself, I understand how it feels to get release from internal pain by physically harming yourself. As far as her "orgasm" face, that was a little much, but the high I got from the cutting was similar. I agree her mom is a little overboard, but when she tells the story of her sister, she felt responsible fro her death, and is afriad the same thing will happen with Dawn. And the dad is the way he is because of the belittling he gets from his wife.

[@proanalove13]

"wherever it is you sneak off and cut a vein" wow

[@InternetFad]

This movie came out shortly after I began cutting myself...that was so long ago now. I still struggle with it to this day... This scene in particular has stuck out in my mind all of those years. It's really...really striking, I think, if you're a self injurer. To have someone say "Cut me, don't cut you"...it's just...very emotional. This scene is burned into my mind, even after all those years.

[@losthope98]

hahaha thats when you start doing your own laundry.

[@mistakenappearances]

I still find some respect for her father. The way he came about that was intense. But it was good at the same time.

[@ktar007]

That dad just gave her one more reason to cut. Maybe without realizing it, but he just guilt tripped her.

[@BeJustInTime]

i cant switch places. the feeling isnt the same. i need it in this perfect place

[@Crazybutnice91]

it really can make it worse....shes already feeling terrible and then her dad makes her feel guilty so shes feeling even worse. cutting isnt something you can just stop if you feel you have to, its like an addiction

[@Moviestoexcape]

Pills...Pills...Pills...they want to put her on drugs. I was put on prozac when I was young and it only made me want to commit suicide...till I was 16 and stopped taking them. Prozac ruined my life, I hate how psychologist think they are the miracle that help everybody...God, that may even be why I gained so much weight and who knows why I cut. Also the reason why I am studying psychology, to help others and to figure out my own problems without drugs.

[@theunhingedjournee]

I'm so late on this but Prozac ruined my life too. I have complete memory loss and brain damage because of being on it

[@Bloombaby99]

As the movie progresses, you can see the ENTIRE Cutrell family needs counseling: from the neglient father, to the self-absorbed mother, and finally to the I-need-a-good-ass-whooping, son and of course, Dawn who slices and cuts herself like salami or Wonderbread.

[@Kawaiichickin]

How come if she's trying to hide it she keeps letting it bleed onto her clothes can't she put a tissue over till the blood stops?

[@redranger337]

She is knowingly doing it to gain attention and let her family knew that she does it.

[@mustange550]

Having one friend is no big deal as long as they care. I 'd rather have one then 2, 3 or 10

[@sraphael]

I feel really sorry for the dad in this ;( It's obvious that he's not perfect and he isn't outward with emotion....but I know there are a lot of guys who have issues surrounding that. I think he's well intended but he just doesn't know what to do or how to help. My heart felt so heavy when he told Dawn to cut him. It revealed how little he understands about cutting and also just how far he'd go to help her ;( So heartbreaking.

[@LickingInTheRain]

She looks like a tiny angel, my goodness.

[@kkid28]

When the dad brings teh knife and tells Dawn to cut him reminds me of one of my ex's. When I told him I cut myself, he told me he used to do it too and showed me his scars. It was all sweet and stuff and he cried which made me cry too lol, anyway he said if I kept cutting myself then he would cut himself. That really made me feel horrible & I hadn't even been with him for a week at the time, but he cared enough to tell me that. The Dad is really lovely after all, he's just troubled himself.

[@suelizjohnson]

7:14 the television seems to be on in this house constantly. It was likely used as a babysitter when the kids were pre-schoolers...

[@BetterLifeAhead35]

this looks so much like my family. it's really emotional to watch

[@ArtofSkwiggerton]

Oh, god. When her dad started rolling up his sleeve, I honestly thought I was going to see scars... That, somehow, his behavior was going to be explained with a fucked up past.

[@jaredman1011]

you know autumn when my parents got divorced i thought my life was terrible, then i remembered how bad it was when my parents were screaming at eachother and then my dad would go to work and all my moms anger would get taken out on me so after maybe a year i realized my parents divorce was for the best

[@AtumnLeaf7463]

exactly. Im glad that things are better for you now. My parents got divorced when i was younger so i knew what it was like to see them fight all the time..... things were hard when they got a divorce but it was for the best...

[@KurtCobainsMicrophone]

when the dad told her to cut him and gave her that speech i burst out crying!!! honest!!

[@ceriiisliiily]

i wish i had a therapist like hers.

[@NoveltySocks]

Those parents are unbelievable.

[@ImYerDadJourdan]

@tiffanykyleluvsjb It was actually a brilliant idea for him to do that. He created a great analogy by telling her that. He used a smart idea to get it through her head how much it hurts him when she hurts herself. It showed her how much he loves and cares about her.

[@Heida77]

WOW how I can relate to Dawn.... Cutting myself, feeling alone, a messed up family. It's like a movie about my life.

[@Horrormane]

Seem like a bad idea to me. Cutting is one of those thing that if you force, it's going to make it worse. Stress -> Cutting -> people "trying" to help -> Stress -> Etc.

[@Cabbie465]

self harming is a coping mechanism most used by teenagers. People make fun because they don't understand what it's like. Those girls need a good slap, bullies should be locked away.

[@Christopher3772]

I've met moms like that, n I've had girlfriends like the mom, seems like all they want are the perfect lives. The mom wants a daughter she can be proud of n show off. I know how the daughter feels. Only difference is, I made a change. N now I live a happy life. The only real person that can change u, is u. U are ur best friend and ur worst enemy. My advice to anyone who does this sort of thing. Change urself, make watever friends u can, wierd or cool, and move somewhere else for a fresh start.

[@mirrhi9829]

my parents are a lot like that. i know how dawn feels when her dad says that because my dad said the exact same thing to me and my mum turns it into something all about her. i agree Cabbie465, bullies should be locked away. it would be so much easier if there was a brochure called 'so, your child is self harming' with advice on what to do and what NOT to do

[@Darienlover999]

"Please stop doing this" ahh..if it were only that simple.

[@His1BabyGirl3]

This movie makes me wanna never cut again.

[@kaitykaitykaitykaity]

The dad's reaction makes me sad. :( I know Dawn is ill but still, it's just as hard for everyone else around her.

[@lemondropsclover2626]

I feel like this slightly mirrors my family in a scarily close way. I don't have friends, hate school, my brother is a d**k with friends, I'm not close with my parents especially not with my dad, they don't understand anything, and my mums sister died when they were kids. I suffer from anxiety, and I don't cut but I have Dermatillomania & pick and scratch at my skin. I'm about to go on meds tomorrow too. So scary how I relate to this film!

[@TheSaintSuicide]

The scene where her dad ask her to cut him, makes me cry so much. Because my mom did just the same.

[@plonkeh]

Shaming the person, asking them to stop, doesnt help- just makes them feel awful. Everybody in this movie is so focussed on what her cutting does to them. Not a thought for what she is going through and why she would need to do something like this to herself.

[@mgil612]

same my mum did that!! It literally broke my heart to see how badly she was hurting :(

[@killergriffel]

I am so sorry. This isn't gonna make any change for you, but I really feel with you. Truly hope luck will be on your side.

[@jsrcamp]

@Xyan11 it was to show that Dawn is still cutting herself but in a place that she knew where the mom would not think to look. hence the 3 or 4 blood stans on them!

[@ltplauren4138]

crying so much... i know how she feels about her dad, mine just yelled at me when he found out and didnt look me in the eye for almost a year, he couldnt

[@ColorMyWorld250]

i know how she felt, when the word passed around school. everyone laughed at me, everyone pushed me around like it was some joke. i would be almost in tears at school, wanting to jump in front of a bus, stab my vein with a pencil.. they could've watched me be strangled or hung and not have felt a single emotion but of disgust and hatred.

[@blackbloodedbeast]

My mom did that, what her dad did. She took me for a 'walk', handed me a piece of glass and told me to cut her so I didn't have to cut me. Luckily I managed to explain pretty quick that it doesn't work that way.

[@Heamartin]

What the hell. The nother doesnt let her see the only friend she has. I feel so bad for her though, like, she's asked politely too. The mom isn't taking this so well, and her saying "what kind of friend is that", that just makes me mad.

[@Zeddna]

Or it shows her (again) how all they can muster any concern about is their own pain.

[@jdStarlight]

@sraphael I agree. That scene made me cry the first time I saw it.

[@ltplauren4138]

i like the actress they chose, she reminds me of a cross between a friend of mine and marilyn manson and that makes me happy

[@celinesofie]

He is finally showing her that he cares about her. But it's not the right way. He's a bit like the mother... I, me, myself and back to me. But he is finally showing her that he cares...

[@withoutwings102]

Her mom is exactly like mine when it comes to my cutting and eating disorder

[@Kimaki980]

FINALLY the dad takes some charge!

[@kiwilimew]

I've never told my mom about my cutting except for the first time I did it. I felt guilty, and I felt like she would never trust me again. She did trust me, and I cut myself.. (I stopped about 6 mo ago.) When I saw her dad hold out his arm, I started crying. I could only imagine my mom feeling this way. I almost, in a way, want to tell her that I have cut myself after I promised her I wouldn't but, I don't want to hurt her anymore. I think that has a lot to do with why I decided to stop..

[@kateybug97]

FINALY her dad makes some sort of break through!

[@layneyloo14]

god. the dad is just scaring her to death.

[@ButterflyMagic]

@Noodles131000 She trusts her therapist. People usually can be more of themselves around people they know won't judge them. But at school she's bullied, and acting "bad ass n cool" wouldn't really help her out.

[@ashash4tube]

oh but finaly her eyebrows look better in dad scene when she is all squity

[@kleinerone]

wow... when her dad did that...scared the hell outta me. but then again, my friend did something similar to me.

[@AceVie_]

I just don't understand the way her parents ask her to stop carving her skin.It's like they say it,then let her do it herself.They don't even show her the proper way.All they do is,"Please stop doing this",get out of her room and yeah.That's it.Blargh!Her mother's really pissing me off.

[@shaylefaerie]

My mother would send me to the hospital if she sees the cuts on my wrist. She wouldn't understand.

[@KangokunoNaka]

@vabeach94 yeah but they are also not informing themselves about the illness

[@honestangel16]

Ok.Major daja vu.I was working with peer helper and it was like seeing this video all over again.I'll b praying for the people with these problems

[@jamantha97]

I fear that I'm becoming a sociopath

[@suus14]

@sleelyNbored so you're saying that everyone who rocks back and forth every now and then is psycho? and people with spasms/ticks as well? wth? who's prejudging now huh?

[@xGetALife]

okay, now I hate the father too.

[@TheOneThatYouLoathe]

@bansku88 Yeah, but what he did was pretty powerful in a way. It showed that he actually DOES care. He just doesn't have a clue how to show it.

[@pixigirl321]

@habibilenie if you want to understand, ask. if you want to judge, don't UNLESS you fully understand.

[@AmandaGenineMusic]

wow, thats one exciting dinner table

[@JaYnEsAyZ]

o yeah thats gonna help- the father telling her he has been staying in the marriage because of her and her brother..talk about loading a ton of guilt on her and messing her mind up even more!!

[@stummkind]

this dad is so gorgeous

[@Animebrity.]

that boy is Peter piper from Once in a blue moon

[@sgirl185]

Those gloves just kill me.

[@CraveOcean]

Good idea, parents. Make her feel like shit for what you're basically doing to her.

[@MistyPremium]

I'm crying cause how can they not see that see needed to see her only friend... they just sent her to her room this is how I feel... like if I say my real feelings that it won't even matter............

[@Julienne4wonder]

Her parents do her laundry FOR her?? I object!! >_

[@xxavzyxx]

its kinda sad to say but this mother reminds me a lot of my own :/

[@IndiBoo002]

(part 2) now my dad nvr drank except a beer here nd there and tht was VERY rare nd tht was at home nvr at a bar or anything nd he nvr smoked or did anything. as we passed it he said "whoa, i had a hard day at work, i think im doing to go to the bar and have a couple beers, get a lil drunk & let off some steam" & i was SO shocked to hear him tlk like tht i said "dad what r u tlking about? dont do tht" so worried & he says to me "if you can smoke y cnt i hang out in the bar nd get drunk" I got it

[@TiNa2927]

if my parents found out that i cut they would send me to a mental hospital... they were gonna take me there when i first got depressed... heartless cows

[@quasimoto270]

isn't that a lovely family( sarcastically)

[@XOpheliaX2]

I think it was a good idea to give her a phone so if she gets in trouble and hits something to call someone.

[@sraphael]

Note how the mother marches around that house like a dictator yet she can't bring herself to confront Dawn at about 2:30....who's truly the weak one in that household?

[@oncoolcat00]

I hope you're okay. :) x

[@barbieXO147]

wow i cried when her dad told her to cut him and not herself . I used to cut myself and it wouldve made me feel better if someone told me that :(

[@2LadyofShalott6]

the dad isn't so bad at least he cares but he sucks at knowing how to help or seeking help or...pretty much anything

[@ayoh124]

i see this girl and i see myself and this is sad, really sad