🏥 PAINFUL SURGERY RECOVERY! 😬 (4.20.17)

[@alisapiper5452]

Peter, do take care of yourself. Are there any friends close by that can sit with her for a couple hours to let you unwind. You were going to the coffee shop to work on your sermons. You need that tome. I was a caregiver for my mother and a friend finally drug me out and I realized how hard it is. Take care of yourself. She needs you healthy. Prayers.

[@lilymela2674]

Alisa Piper that's a good point it's really hard to be a caregivers

[@tati_9984]

It's so heartbreaking to see the look on peters face when she's in pain, he is such a good person and as Mary is going through all of this he's standing right there beside her , let's give peter some much deserved appreciation.

[@SuperMissblueeyes]

The Vlogging Murrays I'm so sorry your hubby is so ill & that he's in so much pain. It's horrible seeing loved ones in pain. But keep doing what you're doing, you're doing an awesome job! I'm so proud of you!

[@ciannamccoy6253]

I love when he stands behind her, literally and emotionally holding her up. He's an amazing man, with an amazing woman. I wanna clone them.

[@lyt6732]

she lucky shes got someone to care for her like that honestly. ive never experienced love like that and probably never will

[@puppielove591]

wow I cannot believe the people bragging about handling pain better than Mary in the comments. she just had major surgery and is in a lot of pain and is allowed to get meds so that she can recover. if you didnt need a lot of pain meds for your situation that is completely irrelevant. the last thing she needs to see in comments is people bragging and talking down about what she can handle. she is fighting a serious chronic illness and is kicking its butt.

[@darlenefoster3379]

I agree. Pain is relative. different for everyone in every situation. Commenting about themselves is like saying "oh I know exactly how you feel" BS.

[@hjc9114]

Michelle G i haven't seen comments like that but anyone saying it is ridiculous!! Being in pain after surgery is totally normal o.o some people :

[@kenziet720]

Yup. It's basically like telling someone who suffers from depression that it can't be that bad or that someone else had it worse. Everyone experiences it differently. Even if she did have a low pain tolerance, technically,... the pain she is actually feeling may be terrible. Some people take painkillers even though they "only" have a "minor" headache, whereas other may be able to handle pain after open heart surgery or any other major surgery without any pain meds (I'm sure these people exist). Pain is relative.

[@oneseeker2]

Michelle G it's called "oneupmanship", look it up in a psych book.

[@helenj8963]

Michelle G I agree it's quite the procedure and painfull

[@wrapwire]

So cute that her friend made her a pillowcase to match her favourite blanket! Sending quick healing vibes your way!

[@chrisbrownrigg1]

Would love a blanket like Mary's like the mint green too wonder where they are from?

[@Escape0900]

Christine Brownrigg they're from an Etsy shop, I feel like they have a video about it.

[@pamelaruth6909]

Christine Brownrigg they do have a video and I just tried and tried to find it but couldn't. If I find the Etsy shop I will let you know.

[@pamelaruth6909]

Christine Brownrigg Dmsgrl94 answered but I can't find it on here so I copied it for you . The shop is called KelleysCuddleCottage. It's linked in their "Guest bedroom tour" video. She is currently sold out of Mary's blankets. Hopefully she will list more (or more custom order spots) soon.

[@chrisbrownrigg1]

Awe Thank you so much Pamela Ruth x

[@muffet90]

We LOVE YOU MARY!!! You have got to be one of the BRAVEST peoples I know!!! You're such a rockstar!!! Bless you and Peter. Peter, your caring and love always shine through, but during these more difficult "bumps in the road" the love is epic!!! Hi Ollie, you're also doing a great job!!!

[@caitlinkerr8405]

I pray for a quick recovery for you.

[@whitec1981]

Mary I prayed for you at church today. God is with you, especially through the hard times. I also prayed for Peter that God will help him care for his beautiful wife and find peace. :) Love to you both.

[@Trekkifulshay]

I have chronic pain and my two closest friends are also chronically ill. I call our husbands unicorn husbands. People aren't sure they exist but they go above and beyond not only working, caring for all the things, hospital stays etc etc. They truly do exist. Sometimes I'll thank my husband for all he does and he's like uh it's my job but still it's nice to say it out loud. So when I found this channel I told my husband Peter's a unicorn husband. :P

[@lizzieb1318]

Trekkifulshay that's so sweet!

[@elysemusil4902]

I also have chronic pain!

[@StephyLynn]

I know how you feel. I have Endometriosis that causes chronic pain and multiple surgeries. Not fun. ❤ Also sadly infertility.

[@ala13642]

I have fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis so I completely understand depending on our significant others. my guy does tons. he takes care of my boys (previous marriage, so not his), tonight my legs just did not want to work, so when I got up to finish fixing dinner, I fell. he jumped right up, made sure I was okay, and finished fixing dinner. he also fixed the kids plates as well as mine. plus he cleaned up after dinner. such a rockstar ❤ he wheels me around in my wheelchair when I need to use it, puts my braces on me and takes them off, and so so so much more. definitely a unicorn

[@Trekkifulshay]

I also have RA and Fibro. :D

[@EileenJOfficial]

mary, any surgery to the abdomen hurts. hold a pillow to your abdomen when you cough, sneeze, or laugh. it's comforting. im asthmatic and have had one to many abdominal surgeries. take it easy. I'll be praying for you, i will be in your same boat next week. im going to have surgery next week.

[@lizzieb1318]

Eileen J best of luck xx

[@pamelaruth6909]

God bless Eileen J.

[@juliamacleod2523]

Eileen J good luck ⛄️☃️

[@hamiltonobsessed3233]

Eileen J LIKE THIS UP SO MARY SEES IT

[@kerryjenese8773]

I was thinking the same thing . Use a pillow like a cardiac patient . Good luck with your surgery.

[@sydneymcilrath6816]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 three thumbs! One for Peter, one for Mary and one for Oliver❤️ hope you start feeling better soon Mary!

[@meowsthree]

Thumbs up, Peter! You are the epitome of a loyal, loving husband. Thumbs up for you, too, Mary! You're a brave, strong woman who is full of grace.

[@Chloe-mw3gq]

I am always impressed at Mary's ability to stay so positive through these tough times!!! Lots of love from NY❤️

[@wheelchere]

Dear Jesus please comfort and heal Mary. Give her peace that passes all understanding. Please give the doctors wisdom to know how to treat her. In Jesus name Amen

[@laurenmathews1344]

Wendy Packard amen

[@pamelaruth6909]

Amen.

[@masue6726]

Amen...holding Mary high in prayer!!!!and Peter too!

[@chekeshag25]

Wendy Packard Amen!

[@melissamartin5506]

Wendy Packard Amen!!

[@user-ee7kb6sf5g]

Thumbs up for Peter and a comment for Mary! You're a legend, girl. You're always so strong and positive through it all. Do what you think you can't do!

[@laurenfanson]

Here's Mary's request for "Peter Thumbs Ups"👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻. Please give a thumbs up here all in honor of Mary for Peter!!!

[@christierandall1858]

Lauren Allison 👍

[@lightpinkmommy]

👍

[@notevenjamie]

i pray for you to get better soon, Mary!

[@heathere7772]

Prayers for you to get better real soon!

[@supertatertot97]

Oh Mary! I thought you would love this. Tonight is Goatfest at my college to benefit the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. They have live music, snacks, and FIFTEEN BABY GOATS you can pet! Seems like goats are the official cystic fibrosis mascot lol!

[@karenbonham1359]

Alyssa Davis excellent goat therapy with Mary was one of my favorite blogs she was so happy!

[@PrincessMax360]

I'm learning so many new medical things from Mary and Peter. Thank you for sharing your lives with us. Mary stay strong and feel better soon.

[@xclusive5420]

To anyone thats reading this, You're strong. Life can be tough, and it can suck.. Alot. But I believe in you.

[@natalieh5843]

Anna jensen Thank you! 😘

[@shelbijackson5829]

That made me so happy. Thank you. I'm sick and strength isn't my strong suit

[@Daaaanielle]

Anna jensen thank you. I am a firm believer that there are no coincidences and I really needed something like this.

[@allisonward958]

Thank you

[@mashalena]

2 thumbs up for Peter! It's pretty stressful to see someone you love in so much pain. 💛

[@dianekurtz2754]

So proud of Peter! You're the best caregiver and husband Mary could ever have. And Mary is such a trooper. Always positive and grateful. Love you two!

[@rachcutiepie]

dear lord I pray that Mary has a quick recovery and is back to her head/handstands soon! we love you Mary! amen

[@laurenmathews1344]

Rachel Bender amen

[@katiealbright7461]

Thumbs up to peter for being an awesome caregiver and two thumbs up to Mary for being so strong. I wish you a speedy recovery!

[@phoebebrunt5971]

Thumbs up Peter 👍 And I really hope that your pain lessens soon Mary! I just wanted to thank you three (Ollie included), for always being there and sharing your lives with us x Sadly I got the news yesterday that my friend lost her life to suicide, and I have been struggling with my own suicidal thoughts for a while now. But I got to my GP appointment the other day by repeating 'Do what you think you can't do' under my breath on the way there. Having you to look forward to seeing everyday means so much to me, and so many thousands more. From the bottom of my heart, thank you ❤️

[@onegymnasticsgirl2910]

I hope you get to feeling better soon. Keep on fighting hopefully someday he will be a Q for this❤ it hurts me to see you in so much pain😢

[@nursefantabulous8182]

Is Mary's team suggesting holding a pillow to her abdomen when she coughs? I know for broken ribs it can give some comfort, not sure if it's applicable in this situation. All the best to you guys and hope Mary makes a speedy recovery!

[@16050390]

it might help, I remember doing that for surgeries

[@WholeFoodSpark]

Doing pretty much ANYTHING post op is gonna hurt for a while... I couldn't imagine having to cough as hard as she needs to clear her lungs. I couldn't sneeze, laugh, or turn over!

[@heighton7206]

Jess Awesomeness helped after my c section too

[@kimhurlbert8595]

Multiple pillows for your abdomanal surgeries two for open heart surgeries, i have quiet a collection! And every last one of them have been incredibly helpful for that rebound cough pain. Have Peter stand behind you and wrap you as tight as he can comfortably holding the end of each side of the pillow. Then cough, the first one is the hardest, but once you start it will get easier! But dont let it stop you, try your hardest! I really gets better!

[@kimhurlbert8595]

Multiple pillows for your abdomanal surgeries two for open heart surgeries, i have quiet a collection! And every last one of them have been incredibly helpful for that rebound cough pain. Have Peter stand behind you and wrap you as tight as he can comfortably holding the end of each side of the pillow. Then cough, the first one is the hardest, but once you start it will get easier! But dont let it stop you, try your hardest! I really gets better!

[@rachcutiepie]

we are all so proud of you Mary!! #dowhatyouthinkyoucantdo comment that hashtag to show Mary she can do what she think she can't!

[@lizzieb1318]

Rachel Bender #uhhuh !

[@camadams2172]

#dowhatyouthinkyoucan'tdo

[@karenbonham1359]

Rachel Bender #do what you think you can't do

[@raistlinismyspiritanimal921]

#dowhatyouthinkyoucantdo 💖

[@clockworkchloe2023]

#dowhatyouthinkyoucantdo 💙

[@Jay-hs7bz]

Roll a towel up and place it vertically over your sternum and abdomen. When you cough, hold it really tight and it might bring some relief.

[@Sarah.reads.sometimes]

I had abdominal surgery and let me tell you, it is PAINFUL. Mary is such a trooper! I've been thinking about you guys & praying for a safe recovery & will continue to do so.

[@Sarah.reads.sometimes]

My surgeon said it would feel like an 18 wheeler had hit me & run me over a few times. I avoided coughing like the plague so major props to you for getting through that.

[@kenzierose9198]

It helps to hold a pillow to your stomach when you cough after abdominal surgery. Praying for quick healing 💖💖

[@jenslims]

Oh Mary you are such a trooper! Big thumbs up for Peter too. And Ollie Boy who's standing guard. Praying for a swift recovery, as pain free as possible.

[@ashleyklein9917]

i wish you luck with your recovery. Though be prepared the air that was pumped into you will take a while to leave the body. I learned last year from a minor pelvic surgery that the air tends to rise to your shoulders and causes a lot of pain that pain medicine doesn't really help. The best way to relieve the pain and aide the air in leaving is to rock back and forth when you are able to. It truly helps. I learned this from my step-mom who had the same surgery. I love you guys and hope for a good recovery.

[@seaglassmomma4040]

I'm watching you guys from my hospital bed, I just had a colostomy put in. You guys cheer me up and help me, along with God of course, to be brave. Prayers for Mary for a speedy recovery, prayers for the both of you.

[@Tiertwo819]

Mary Ray the Brave, mary ray the fearless! Looking beautiful on her purple pillow.

[@IngridScottflutist]

glad you're feeling slightly better. Peter is an amazing husband and an example of a real man. This is how men and husbands should be. Thanks Peter and congratulations. Also, congrats to your parents for raising such a respectable gentleman. Oliver is a sweet sweet boy. He is a champ and it's so great to see how faithful he is to his momma. Have to catch up with your blogs but wish you a speedy revovery!

[@stephaniedomsic315]

Hi Mary, I am sorry you are experiencing so much pain. Hopefully tomorrow (today!) you can get some relief and be able to clear your airways again!! Sending much love and blessings. Where does Mary get her blankets from again? I know you guys have talked about it before, but I can't remember.

[@shannonshumake4710]

Stephanie Domsic I was wondering the same thing...love her purple blanket and pillow case set. And the aqua too.

[@noelia34ortiz62]

Praying for fast recovery. Love you family Frey.

[@beatricek3801]

Hang in there Mary , you are so brave , sending hugs and prayers.. speedy recovery

[@beckyfleig2308]

Mary you are a rock star & Peter & Ollie are too. it's much easier to deal with these rough days when you have good support. You're a great role model for anyone dealing with chronic illness. Tons of gentle hugs & prayers for you both.

[@valdis7215]

praying for you sweetie

[@DudeInAMotorhome]

prayers to you Mary for a speedy, eneventful and less painful recovery. you, Peter and Ollie are all 3 rockstars and troopers through this journey.

[@arctatos]

I've been praying for you Mary, you're a rock star ! Don't forget : fly when you think you can't walk 😘😘 Lots of love from the other side of the Atlantic 🇫🇷😘

[@kristindeitrick937]

Oh Mary, praying for a quick recovery and so thankful for Peter and Oliver's support for you. You rock!

[@jackiepovitsky8676]

Thinking of you both! Sending you love from Chicago. ❤️

[@karenpatterson4043]

You’re such a trooper and you and your husband are such an inspiration, prayers continue!

[@2listening1]

Ok, Mary! My thumbs up for Peter too! :)

[@savana9694]

It makes me sad to see you in pain. Prayers for quick recovery. You are a very strong and brave woman. You are lucky to have Peter and Ollie with you by your side! And of course your KZbin family!

[@vikiarttherapy]

wow. mary. praying!

[@gramzw7087]

A bunch of thumbs up for Mary, for Peter, and for Ollie!!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍from a grandma in Canada!💏You inspire me and so many others - thank for sharing your precious life. Prayers and love💞

[@life4living216]

prayers to Mary ❤

[@jeansmith1388]

sara oakes

[@beccadallas]

Thumbs up for Peter, Mary and Oliver. All 3 of you are rockstars!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@HusbandAndWifetesters1123]

Praying for you ❤️

[@carlaschurman4508]

Mary, my prayers for you that this pain is short-lived. So proud of all of you. You for your courage. Peter for his loving support. And Ollie for being so there for you. 👍💖👏💙🐶

[@ginadebenedetti7638]

I have spina bifida and hydrocephalus which hasn't given me problems in years after over 20 revisions and spins bifida related surgeries I have had one hip surgery & 2 bowel surgeries where I've had 2 different feeding tube procedures to flush my bowels. The first one worked but I had a feeding tube like yours but it wasn't for me bc it got in the way of everything so for the last like 8 years I have had a hole in my belly button & I just stick a tube in it & flush that way but yeah watching this recovery beings back many memories of those 2 bowel surgeries bc I had a lot of the same pain problems. Love your videos. Keep pushing on. You guys are awesome!

[@jerijerin1030]

Mary & Peter: the two of you are the first people I have ever prayed for online. It's your steadfast love and devotion to God that just shines through no matter if it's with smiles or tears, that love for God & each other is amazing. Mary I too have major breathing disabilities & my husband has to help me too so I completely understand! Praying for both of you! Love Jeri😃❤🙏🏻

[@kimthomas5704]

Mary your a rock star , and Peter your amazing too - and Ollie your the best !

[@ardiskazanjian6347]

Wow!! Oliver really comes through when you need him, as well as Peter being at your side always. You are blessed my friends and may Christ embrace all of you.

[@2listening1]

I love those purple blankets, Mary. I hope it is less painful today or very soon.

[@glendaruff125]

God speed on your recovery Mary- sending love.

[@SydneyRohmann]

HUGGING A PILLOW helps with the coughing... It gets better. A week in you will feel so much better :)

[@KayMaxoxo]

Mary is amazing, but her husband is also amazing! Not many people would sign up to live this kind of lifestyle, but he seems to be there for her every step of the way and never complains! A sweet couple!

[@heyitsem5375]

lets all prey. dear lord keep mary in your loving hands may you keep her safe

[@moogilymoo_6761]

My prayers are with you Mary xxx thank you Peter and ollie for being such an incredible support xxx

[@oliviawilson17]

Good job, Mary, Peter and Ollie boy!!! You are ALL rockstars.

[@katpiotrowski8078]

When you guys were struggling with it takes a village or the team I am thinking we are the Frey Life Tribe! Sending prayers to you, Mary, for healing and to Peter for strength! Seeing The Love shared between the two of you in this moment - you both are just amazing! God Bless!

[@kimkopjas8301]

really praying for a breakthrough from pain Mary.

[@sarahsherrod2012]

Mary, I am so proud of you, and of course Peter and Ollie get an A+ as well!! 🏆I'm sorry you're having a rough couple of days! 😷Just think, you'll look back and see how brave you are and how far you've come. 💪 We're all here for you and just take your time and get well! 👍Keep us informed and "do what you think you can't do!" 🌠

[@julialengyell4210]

Sending you lots of light and healing vibes!

[@addercat]

Mary (& Peter) are so very strong! Living proof that "do what you think you can't do" works. 💜💜💜 You're definitely a rockstar Mary. 🎸

[@sqemzie]

Mary and peter you are both so inspiring with how you deal with this and really are amazing with how strong and positive you are. I can't even imagine what you have to go through everyday but less than a year ago I had major spinal fusion and it was the worst pain I've ever had but it did get better slowly everyday and it has really taught me a lot more about life. Stay strong and keep fighting 💪🏼 ( I have been inspired to be a nurse from my surgery and I cannot wait to help people like you 😊)

[@Susabel]

You can do this, Mary! All of our prayers will help you along. Rest easy and leave the positive thoughts and wishes to us. God bless you and Peter and Ollie!

[@Socialbug1995]

Feel better lovely girl!! Think about what GOOD it will do for you in a bit

[@keric3673]

Amy A I had a radio frequency ablation in my lower back about a year ago. It was miserable! I hope you healed well and got the results you were hoping for.

[@Socialbug1995]

Ugh tell me about it.. I have another one in May, on my right side.

[@Socialbug1995]

Are we able to chat? I always want to talk to people with back problems. I have had chronic pain for 7 years.

[@lizzieb1318]

Amy A i had an ablation in my heart! it wasn't painful, but it was of course difficult to recover from after the whole anaesthetic malarkey. hope yours went well!

[@Socialbug1995]

Awe I am glad it wasn't too painful! Mine was terrible, I cried during it and then they just put me out because I was in so much pain and have PTSD from these needles going into my back. They offered me Tylenol after the procedure.. I was like???? Can I have morphine lol

[@nancybeth413]

Peter is just a awesome guy......praying for quick healing for you..... you are such a strong young lady.....

[@evadelgado7339]

The gas is the worst. The more you move the faster the gas leaves your body. It hurts like a son of a gun. But it helps relieve the pressure of the gases.

[@lorriel9629]

I am so thankful to have the 3 of you in my home everyday. Get well soon Mary. Hugs to all of you😘

[@hollandwhitehead3541]

Love you! Hope you feel better!

[@marlohilderbrand6827]

Thumbs up for Mary, Peter, Ollie, and the team all very positive attitudes. But most importantly to God for everything. Sending much love and prayers for a speedy recovery

[@lulu_junior_6469]

stay strong mary i know u can do it

[@fidilkid]

We're with you, sweet Mary and Peter. Hugs and love coming your way.

[@Isobel201]

oh poor Mary, hope she gets better soon.

[@cerry321]

mary is soooo strong 💖 im sending my deepest love!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@libbyspiess389]

my cousin has CF so when she is out of the hospital i say guess what! the frey life has alot of new videos

[@libbyspiess389]

she is very encouraged by you and she is doing the walk in her wheelchair and im pushing it!!!!

[@brennagonzales9562]

Cheering you on and praying for you Mary! Praying for you too Peter that you get the rest that you need. You're an amazing caregiver.

[@aknarxus]

Mary, you are a trooper! I pray that your healing gets easier, and that you're able to cough. And here's a 👍 for Peter. :)

[@suepritchard9287]

So proud of how brave you stay through all this Mary. You are a true Overcomer- lots of love and hope you feel better tomorrow xxxxx

[@kew9726]

Peter is amazing x

[@gardyslaw4779]

Prayers continued. Love you guys and Olly

[@stacyklostermann8378]

You guys are such an AMAZING trio!!! I would love to meet you guys. I'm a chronically sick one with mitochondrial disease & I look to you for inspiration. Get well soon Mary!! Peter, you are a gem!!! An Oh Oliver,!!!! You're such an awesome dog!!!

[@karenblanck7726]

All three of you are troopers. Continued prayers for comfort and healing. I've had several abdominal surgeries and seems like "day 2" is always the worst. I am hopeful you'll be feeling a lot better tomorrow.

[@lucyw.8911]

It's weird how you may have no clue who I am but I am so proud of you and you are truly and amazing powerful person. You have taught all of us to stay strong no matter the circumstances. Love you Mary get well soon!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@deborahtaylor14]

both of you are a great inspiration, get well soon

[@lemonpotato5267]

Hi Mary and Peter I'm from Ireland and I'm 14, I have cf I got peg tube/mickey button two years ago and I have fairly high pain tolerance but the pain honestly didn't completely go for six months mainly because the surgical team put a bigger tube than necessary in, but you get used to the pain after a while, I hope you feel better soon :)

[@kathymills1925]

Thumbs up for Mary, Peter, and Ollie boy! Continued prayers for Mary's healing and relief from pain.

[@debrastone6871]

Thumbs up for Peter & Ollie too 🙏🏻🙏🏻🐶🐶❤️

[@debbiesanderson9466]

Mary just wanted to say "your so inspirational ". My partner has progressive MS and after a months stay in hospital he came home with a feeding tube. Like you he takes this as all part of the journey - he now has all his meds through the tube and when he's not up to eating orally we can give him feeds via his tube. I have ordered some of the fancy little cushions to go under the port- he doesn't know but it will make him smile 😀. Thankyou for making me smile everyday and helping to make my days brighter.

[@jessicacox3591]

I hope your feeling a lil better today. You are both rock stars! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤❤❤

[@jessicacox3591]

And Ollie boy is the sweetest! ❤

[@joistevens6463]

Hey Mary, when I had a colon resection from colon cancer I had basically same incisions as you. They gave me a little pillow to hold on abdominal area when I coughed. It really helped the pain level. Wishing you the best! You will get through this!!

[@barbarasoal8620]

Love and prayers to you both from New Zealand

[@mylifeasamom3]

I hope tomorrow will be better as far as pain and you Mary, are a great inspiration to anyone who is struggling day to day. If you can do what you think you can't do then so can I. We are all cheering and sending love to you, Peter and Ollie everyday.