Parents - 11 HARSH TRUTHS. | Ankur Warikoo Hindi

A lot of what we become as human beings is about how we were parented.
If your parents are the ones who made these mistakes, I hope these perspectives help you look at those mistakes objectively, and then make your choices.
If you are a parent, I hope you do not make these mistakes, and make sure your kids do not have to deal with this. This is the best gift we could give to our children, as parents!
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[@AabHum24]

Sir can u please make one video on toxic people or toxic family or toxic parents. To understand what r the signs of them ..

[@tanyia009]

Sir kindly make video regarding how many children we need that we can lookafter them perfectly and we can also live financialy free according to current situation

[@theratracer6937]

M exactly dealing with the 5th point. I feel useless that I can't to anything for my parents .

[@paripathak3191]

Sir ,one request , pls make such videos "entirely" in hindi..

[@hitenlalwani9174]

ye video humare school k teacher ko dikhana chahiye jo is comparison ko justify krte rehte hai

[@musiclove7107]

The fact is always a child changes their mind for Parents, but parents never 😣

[@utkrishtchaudhary9657]

Bro it's truly pointless to convince or talk to parents sometimes u just have to take the step and never look back 🙁

[@musiclove7107]

@@utkrishtchaudhary9657 It's sad but parents also need to understand and give up sometimes

[@meghakanchan2811]

Ye parents kbhi nhi smjhenge

[@musiclove7107]

@@meghakanchan2811 Chalo hamare generation ke parents ache honge 😌

[@RashiSingh-mn6zd]

This means none of you guys learnt anything from the video, sad that he tried to make us see pov of both sides but still you guys can't help thinking of your own pov..... They also sacrifice a lot and give up for our happiness we just need the wisdom to see it.

[@VinitaKumari-sr8hq]

How could you forget these??? 1. Imposing their dreams upon their children or not letting their children follow their dreams. 2. Not letting their children choose their life partners. 3. Not accepting their children's decision to adopt a child, or have child through IVF/surrogacy. 4. Not allowing children to live as one from LGBTQIA+ community if they recognize themselves being from this community. 5. Not getting divorce despite being in abusive married life. 6. Patriarchy, double standards, discrimination between the female child and the male child. 7.Not discussing family problems with children or not involving children in family discussions. 8. Not letting their children make their own mistakes, experiment, explore and allowing them to learn. 9. Not unlearning with time. 10. Not discussing sex education, consent and sexual harassment, good/bad touch, male/female body, body positivity.

[@praveenkumar-md8di]

Yes, these are also important aspects which could have been discussed. But then the video could have been longer than one hour, probably that's why he discussed the most important points as per his understanding.

[@nachiketkm5178]

Underrated comment

[@happychirpysoul]

Much appreciated!

[@thatbunny6383]

Haha Indian parents have so many restrictions, if anyone starts, won't be less than 2/3 hours

[@SSCCGL-ph9eb]

This comments seems more relatable to me than the video!!

[@akshat3391]

Fun fact - WE DON'T HAVE ENOUGH COURAGE TO SEND THIS TO OUR PARENTS 😅

[@hars771]

I didn't even think of sending this 🤣

[@juileeshinde8933]

iam gonna watch this along with my parents..😎

[@surejreginald]

First thought

[@mukulpatil85]

If we did, the further moments will be like, apne baap ko mat sikha🤣🤣

[@debanshuprusty7848]

@@juileeshinde8933 If u are able to do this......U don't need to watch this vid😅

[@navedrizv]

Breakdown 1:59 Comparison (Sharma ji ka Beta dekho ...) 3:52 Killing Curiosity (Let the kids ask question .. Curiosity creates geniuses) 5:53 Focusing on Society (Samaj kya kahega) 8:00 Looking at the world through their experiences 9:41 Emotional Blackmail (ROI) 12:00 Dismissing Mental Health (We are what we are, first in our minds isn't it) 14:02 Lack of Trust 16:10 Not discussing about money (beta abhi tum bhaut chote ho ye sab samajhne ke liye) 17:58 Ordering 19:19 Imposing Relations 20:55 Not making us accountable

[@sumitprafulljena5697]

Thanks for time stamp 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 literally love it

[@aishwaryarath6211]

Thank you

[@mrunalpatel211]

Pin it

[@archanadwivedi4588]

Thank you

[@shilpapandit4634]

Very nice topic .it will help a lot

[@rahulupdhy]

But these are the major problems : 1. Looking at the world through their own exp. 2. Focus on society 3. Comparison

[@pritamdebnath703]

Also, Order you to live your life according to thier opinion.

[@lahari-1509]

And not caring about child's mental health and emotions 🥺

[@aarya08247]

Correct !!

[@anam_mirza7]

​@@lahari-1509so trueeee🙃💔

[@sunilyadav549]

Every Parent in India has to be like this man!!🙏👌👏

[@Reginavici1234]

Yes every damn parent... Also the one telling you... You can do anything you like we are liberal is actually a facade that will fade over time. They think what they know is the best but it's the worst when you judge others with your lens

[@ca9744]

Sometimes i fed up.. Ghar se bhaag jane ka mann hota hai... But that time i cry and say myself you have to accept it. I can't hurt my parents... These all my karma's Face it with smiling face... This time will also pass

[@narindersinghsingh6588]

😢😢 same me !!

[@yaminiayachitam]

Many people would have thought about it at some point in life, when life gets tough, we like to escape. It is natural. Even after we grow, we feel like escaping from work, spouse, boss etc. These rules that parent set are not wrong, they keep us reminded that escaping is not an option. It doesn't matter why you didn't escape, it could be fear of society your parents set, it saved you from being kidnapped or worse things that could have happened. to you

[@mrshrek362]

Bhai bhag jao kuch din ke liye bina contact. Fir dekho

[@mannatbudhiraja8420]

90 % kids that are watching this unable to send this to our parents atleast we'll be supportive parents to our kids

[@JitendraSharma-v1b]

I am father of two, world has changed now😊

[@mannatbudhiraja8420]

@@JitendraSharma-v1b happy for your children ! Very less percentage of millenial parents invest themselves in being better for their children, most of them just think they're right and best parents never knowing their child does'nt think so ....

[@saibharadwaj4906]

I wish I had parents who have the kind of mindset you have, Mr. Warikoo.🙃

[@lucifermorningstar1954]

Me too

[@raksha6474]

Me too

[@Rbn_1903]

Mee too brother😢

[@minespotgaming3868]

Then you need to be born in a diffrent universe

[@tarunnow]

I don't know if Indian parents are ready for this video, I'd still require huge courage to share this with parents

[@shobhit7844]

Your kids are really really lucky to have a father like you.

[@prafulsinghdeode1122]

Ap bhi vase baniyiye apne bachho ke liye ❤

[@Mahi71985]

Exactly yrr❤

[@pclearning7974]

we can only understand their mistakes but can't share our emotions😔

[@Patelakshay007]

Exactly

[@Snehalata236]

Exactly right

[@anuradhan9637]

So true

[@apeyafromnortheast]

Yeass that's right... I am watching this video in low volume so that they don't here

[@MishraFamily1228]

😢

[@nakshgoyal6589]

Seemed as if my life is basically explained in 25 mins in this video 🙂 Our generation will probably churn out the best parents ever 💥

[@daniyal7409]

Lets hope that we won't make these mistakes when its our time. 😊

[@pritamdebnath703]

Same sir. But at least we learn that these was the mistakes and we will never apply the same on our future generations

[@abhishekkumarsinha4067]

Need to send this to my gf, she is getting so much metally affected due to her family. I love her so much but told her to do what her family want but still they are emotionally blackmailing her. I am a strong person and she was even stronger then me but now she is very much fed-up with life. Hope she stays healthy and happy🥰

[@musa_m2005]

Its been 2 years so whats up with your life now.Did you got married to her or with someone else?

[@maitrachaitra176]

I literally cried while watching, such keen observation and so well put !! My parents are typically orthodox indian but just accepting it makes me let go of how they are !

[@warikoo]

Hugs

[@vishwasraj7346]

Revenge is the ultimate truth

[@arjungupta3095]

Blessed to have a dad that taught me to live without caring about what others think of me.

[@thinkingaloud7925]

True privilege

[@WittyScoop]

Lucky you

[@arjungupta3095]

@@WittyScoop Im truly blessed.

[@prashantdhotre]

In my Dad’s word” samaj hame khana nahi khilata jo hame accha lagta hai wahi hum karenge” 🙂

[@mehakagarwal1542]

Same here

[@jagritipriya21]

i was crying like a baby 😫halfway through the video...i can relate to all your points😭....sir if you as a parent can understand this...then why cant our parents....happiness should be the priority for them...rather than society...comparison...or any such things....because of all these differences...we are drifting away from our parents💔

[@nimishar2417]

Don't worry dear..none of us received training to be parents. Best we can do is to not commit these mistakes

[@shafirahaman]

True, courage is to face all the ignorance and correct it in the society. That is the only way we grow rich in Mind and Heart.

[@laughoutloud99]

Hold on dear

[@laughoutloud99]

You are not the one. Every house has the same story

[@warikoo]

Hugs to you. You will be ok.

[@Patelakshay007]

I am final year MBBS student, i felt in the emotional blackmailing/crying of my mother, that made me so shocked. (My mother cried alot when i got 60% marks in 9th class)i couldn't see that, so i forced myself to do hardwork, was ready to sacrifice all my goods and did only study. (As any child who care for there parents would do). Today you might say- what is the problem bro, you have cracked NEET and going to be a doctor. But, Today, i am diagnosed with paranoia, and i can't figure out what are my hobbies, what do i like and don't feel like living any more. This is sad😓 Today I even can't blame them and feeling very guilty.

[@dilipbhagat9111]

Bro please visit Karauli Sankar Mahadev dham atleast one time in your life and do Vedic one day hawan, after doing this you and your family members feel very good and all negatives energy will go out from you and your family members ( this process is called smriti chikitsa) vill- pipar, karauli Uttarpradesh.If you don't believe it first research your own and then go for it . Jai Radha Raman baba ki 🕉️🚩🌺🙏..

[@dvlx8453]

I feel you bro

[@Bounceback-vc1jn]

​@sharma17020 yes bro you are right 90s parents always think about society

[@shafirahaman]

I was sure enough to get this understanding on many subjects with my Kids. Teach my kids about. 1. Politics 2. Religion 3. Money 4. Charity 5. Education 5. Business 6. Food & Nutrition 7. Nature Living 8. Freedom to give Knowledge & Help other people 9. Do not Depend on the Fake Media & System 10. Importance of Environmental, Animal and Human rights. I can teach my Kids Courage & Bravery to teach the world what is right.

[@CoderBoy2004]

I prefer no kids 😂

[@bhumikabatra1996]

I got 96%in 10 th boards . My mother was not happy with the result .. She didn't even smile after knowing my result ... This thing has crushed me from within...

[@bhumikabatra1996]

I don't know what she was expecting from me...

[@aditishukla587]

This really soo sad to hear !!! Trust me am sooo proud of you and am rooting for you !!! Please dont let their reactions affect you anymore, 96% is soooooo excellent and i hope you are doing well physically and emotionally!! As Indian kids we always crave for that validation and compliments from our parents but most of us rarely get it !! I got the same treatment multiple time ... But now am saving money to move out and start my healing journey. I hope you u heal soon and achieve tremendous happiness!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@kanikaparkash3707]

She was expecting 100%

[@ushmamehta7657]

My kids Grandfather telling My stress taking teens in 9th that 35 up means pass I was getting 3 - 4 extra and they laugh even I tell them if I am giving your exams I can't even score half then you score Marks doesn't everytime decide your success first parents has to accept whatever the capicity of child is and encouraging them to continue with efforts. Excellent Marks you got. Don't expect from kids but stand with them in every situation if you love them

[@ayanraj6295]

I can not explain in words, how much value this video has added in my life. I got to realise about my parents mistakes, some of the mistakes that I'd committed towards them and as a elder child, towards my siblings. Also, these pointers help me to become a better parent in future. Thanks a ton from the core of my heart 💓

[@user-Vickywins]

Yesss i feel same bro ❤️

[@Patelakshay007]

You guys are lucky. I wasn't

[@mrs.solanki7785]

Hello Ankur I would like to highlight rather add one more point which is *Financial Dependency*. Our parents are financially dependent on us (like we are their retirement pension plan). There is nothing wrong with this as they were raised with same mentality where children were considered as parents pension plan due to which they provided us with everything without saving anything for themselves. So this generation or new parents need to understand that we need to work on our future savings so that we are not burden on our children. Simultaneously we should provide for our parents because they have nothing to spend on themselves also please give them money upfront so that they don't shy away from asking for money for their personal expenses. I hope my point is clear and helpful in some or other way. Thanks. ❤️

[@pratiksharai8601]

You have such a good knowledge, i appreciate you , this point is literally remarkable! 🙌

[@84shubhamwale58]

2:07 COMPARISON 3:50 KILLING CURIOSITY 5:50 FOCUSING ON SOCIETY 8:00 LOOKING AT THE WORLD THROUGH THEIR EXPERIENCES 9:40 EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL 11:58 DISMISSING MENTAL HEALTH 14:07 LACK OF TRUST 16:08 NOT DISCUSSING ABOUT MONEY 17:50 ORDERING 19:20 IMPOSING RELATIONS 20:54 NOT MAKING US ACCOUNTABLE ❤️

[@indianparinayam6869]

My tears are rolling down while watching this… This is what I am facing in my house. Now I am standing myself to select my choice whatever the situation may be I don’t want to leave my choice. And I am a mother to my 2 year old kid I want to be a toxic free parent to my kid. I have decided this when my child was 6months and Iam following it. Now i am facing this toxic with my parents.. Hope I can win my choice with all the strength. Great words Mr.warikoo Ji. This was the first video Iam watching yours definitely I will watch every video of yours from now. Thank you thank you sooo much for making this video. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Wish you all the best in your life 🤝

[@jhanvikohli4674]

Yes truly said and besides this the biggest problem I feel personally is “Expectations” - they put a lot and then end up saying- “I expect nothing from you, do whatever u like..”

[@swethapavani7185]

🤣 true

[@1702deepak]

Exactly 😂

[@angshumanchakraborty9437]

True

[@KetanMate-b8x]

Bang on !!!! "Live ur life.....but get married for our happiness...else what will people say.....baki hum kaha kuch kehte hai!!"

[@amolpardeshi4519]

Mistakes we do: 1. Comparisons 2. Killing curiosity - stopping to ask question 3. Focusing on society 4. Looking at the world through their experiences 5. Emotional blackmail 6. Dismissing mental health 7. Lack of trust 8. Not discussing about money 9. Ordering 10. Imposing relations 11. Not making us accountable

[@Idontwanttodeleted]

😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@anjusingh5082]

I am a mother of a young professional and what I am noticing that according to this video I have fulfilled all parameters of right parenting. Even discussions on finances too . Feeling elevated really .Me and my son have good compatibility and understanding . We discussed each and every thing under the sun without being judgemental. That is the imp key to keep transparency . My advice for parents are start to believe in your kids , they are more capable than you think .

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[@meerabakshi2676]

Is he married, yet? Probably the scenario will change ...99% that is the reality!

[@anjusingh5082]

@@meerabakshi2676 Hahahaha, right you are . But here my concern is only parenting . Transparency and discussions are the only key there .

[@Money_id]

Ur child is lucky

[@PranetVaishnaviPrabhakaran]

I wish my parents could understand ma'am. Their first reaction would be their ego overpowering them. "Oh! So you know more than me huh? "

[@paripereira1187]

Thank you Ankur for highlighting these few points... As a parent, I do recognise our mistakes...we are raised up in a stereotype rigid manner...though I have tried to bring about a change for my child but I guess that is not enough...I do see the areas I need to alter them...hopefully I am able to do so...I will change it for my child... thanks again...take care

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[@PushNagaKhiam]

I am a father to a 3 months old son. Thank you for the gift. Couldn't have asked for a better gift than this. May the children and the parents watching this video be blessed and have positive impacts on your lives.

[@Aishwarya-ew5vi]

I am gonna share it in my WhatsApp to only uncles, aunts and moms generation because the noise in my mind is killing me from inside

[@elamandeep]

You totally roasted Indian parent in intelligent way 🤣🤣

[@yasho9959]

Agreed

[@MyLife-uk3gq]

This hurts my parents do everything from this list but they will never change

[@studying1459]

Your every point is so true sir. As a teenager i can relate to it. And I will learn from the mistakes of my parents and would give my best to make the future generation better.💜✨

[@priyanujbora9089]

Oh! I don't think that "ye unki galtiya bhi nahi hai". My father is an expert in drinking. Right from my childhood(i.e. from the time when I started understanding things), I have seen my father's expertise in just two things: 1. Drinking. 2. Quarreling with my mother for reasons which make so sense(the quarrels usually last upto about 4-5days, or even may be longer). It sometimes gets to a point when my father beats my mother. I have tolerated this behaviour for 20 years(am 22 years old now). Just imagine the IMPACT THAT IT HAD ON MY BRAIN. I also had an argument with my father, which turned into a quarrel and do you know what he did?? He threw a stand fan at me, luckily it didn't hit me, the fan broke. My mother got between us, he pushed my mother and she fell. Such is his behaviour that he didn't stop even when my mother got in between us and didn't even have that sympathy to pick her up when she fell. My father is 60. He still drinks and I can't convince him, because when my grandmother(who is no more now) failed to convince him to leave drinking when I was just a baby(my mother told me this), WHO THE HECK AM I TO CONVINCE HIM. FUNNY! I don't even feel any remorse for him when I am saying all this. FUN-FACT: He is well-educated man. I didn't want to write this, but I am so angry that I can't stop myself.

[@ranjanapant9084]

Halfway through the video but already crying.. I have worked really hard in life , when I was falling down i kept on climbing. After 7 attempts i still fought to complete the toughest exam to make them proud... My mother still don't trust me..that I can earn my bread well. They are not happy with my chosen partner who earns better than me only because they think he is not educated enough to marry a CA but a just youtuber and comedian. I cannot share my mental health problems with them..my anxiety and depression and constantly going through emotional blackmail. This hits me toughest...

[@_parthivvv]

What happened? Do you get married or not?

[@ranjanapant9084]

@@_parthivvv 😊 Yes recently celebrated 1st wedding anniversary

[@raghavthinfluencer814]

This is clearly your most thought-out & true-from-heart video ever!! Sadly we can't even share this with our parents. They'll emotionally blackmail us even more! Gonna watch this video again & again!! Thanks team! Thanks AW

[@dinklethakkar6371]

How you speak to your children becomes their inner voice! A significant part of our personality and mental health issues have their roots in how we were treated as a child.

[@arjunkarkera6322]

Very well said... I will write this down😄

[@pritamdebnath703]

Ekdam sahi

[@shashanksharma8056]

You can also add this to list: Between children, there is always a procrastinator and an active doer. The parents keep their hopes on the doer but keep pampering the procrastinator whose used to impulsive self benefiting decisions. The doer feels left out, less loved and the procrastinator never grows up to know the realities and accountability. Ultimately, the procrastinator’s responsibility is on the doer which makes him resentful of the parents and the sibling

[@bebobabu1]

Being a parent I'm listening this and I'm happy I have done less mistakes from the lists.

[@ivinitmittal]

My parents are doing most of it... Nahi pata kya karu.... 🤦‍♂️ But I have realised ki that their intentions were never wrong..

[@sauravseal3903]

Fun fact:- Everyone is not like warikoo and everyone (even if) they try cannot become like a warikoo😎.. Hats off sir🙂 ...u hv made our visions clear towards our parents....Hopefully, I pray to God that my parents and also all the Indian parents understand this fact and try to work on the same😀😊.We are thankful to God for getting an Entrepreneur, teacher, and Admirer like u....😇😇😇

[@kdrama_ocean2118]

I wish my parents could understand this

[@devnasankhla943]

Sir,thank you so much for this video. As a teenager I really needed this. I was always confused about whom to listen and what to do. This video gave a lot of clarity as u spoke from both the side or perspective. I request you to even make videos for all the teenagers like me who follow you and look forward to u for guidance and a better clarity on such issues which our faced by us. 🙂

[@shireenghaffar]

You've read minds! I've sent this video to my dad 'cos I lose my sanity sometimes due to his controlling behavior and interfering nature. Neither can we abandon them to fend for themselves at their age nor can we live independently. It's such a stuck up toxic situation!

[@modernmogli5155]

Shireen it's Same issue with many people

[@curiouspreetam]

Focusing on the society is a real issue because of which many kids who can't speak up for themselves have to suffer. I have seen that

[@Priya_JR]

Very first point and I'm already realizing the lasting effects of my parents comparing me to everyone else. I'm 25, yet I compare myself to anyone I see, and feel their life is much more colorful and happier compared to mine. Still trying to limit the comparisons to the Me from Yesterday.

[@curiouspreetam]

(VERY IMPORTANT) To learn a new thing, first we need to accept that we don't know that thing or we lack that thing

[@gouravmajumder]

Hi Ankur & team... Out of all the videos this one stands tall making much sense to change/ mitigate the prospective of generation gap. I am 34, not yet a parent standing in the middle where I can realise both sides of being a parent and a child. This content will run deep in the blood of both parents and children. I thank each of you along with Ankur for adding those eye opening examples. I hope this video will bridge the gap between a parent and a child. I will go and hug my parents after watching this video as now I feel that neither the parents nor the child is wrong, it's just that time flies and change is a constant thing. Kudos to Team Warikoo!

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[@draparnasinha9315]

Excellent talk Another perspective is that many kids are constantly comparing their parents affordability and assets to their friends parents or neighbours or relatives

[@aaryantiwari1793]

A story I would like to share A couple days ago I got my result of class 8th I scored 85% in it when I told my mother about my marks she told me that these aren't enough and wouldn't even stand in competition to other students who are scoring 98% marks it was heartbreaking for me like I understand she want me to score more marks and I will I am sure but rather than saying my marks rn are pathetic she could maybe encourage me

[@Patelakshay007]

Be alert. Don't fall in your mother's emotional trap. I fallen. Today it has made be paranoid. Do what make you happy.

[@KainatPanjwani]

I'm proud of you, Aaryan. You gave your 100% and that's enough. 👏❤

[@diptimoy1028]

Very nicely curated narration. I wonder how much time and deep thoughts have been put into to create this highly debatable video. Wonderful ways to explain how a parent should look into a problem, and how a child should look at the same problem. My heartiest congratulations to Mr Warikoo and his team for this awesome video.

[@shambhavisrivastava1681]

My dad scolds me daily for no reason , compares me with my younger brother .But now I realized that I have to stand up for myself and be patient until I become independent .I cannot fight with him , my mental health is seriously affecting by this , but this is the only solution to not reply atleast I can focus on my studies 😊 I can atleast control and improve my mental health❤

[@reemasingh7779]

how can i send this to my parents without sending it to them 💀💀

[@CulturedBear]

Unke saamne play kardo , lagna chaiye khudh dekh rahe ho Important : Don't make eye contact with them during this and don't laugh during the video especially while looking at them Savdhaan rahe satark rahe

[@nonamejustpain4492]

@@CulturedBear champaklal pe try kiya kya vro?

[@areaakhil7266]

exactly what i was thinking 😹

[@CulturedBear]

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[@yasho9959]

@@CulturedBear lag gaye 😀😃🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@arunr1627]

This video literally crushes the argument "you have to be a parent yourself to understand us". Kudos to you for speaking on such topics as a parent and by being from the last generation. I wish more people were like you.

[@hemanthmeharkoppada7241]

I was hoping that this video never ends 😥. Worth every second watching it.

[@avanindrapratapsingh3968]

The '11 harsh truths' are entirely correct,especially when it comes to the accountability part. But I think there are still many parents out there who beat their children, just because they did something which is not acceptable according to them. Maybe this can comprise the 12th harsh truth.

[@dipeekathakur7117]

So so glad to have found you..ur videos changed my thought process in very very affirmative manner in so many walks of life..being a working mom of 2 sumtimes makes you commit these mistakes..dis vid made me so aware..plz make more videos on parenting(apart from investing 😅)

[@rutvivyas2848]

this video gives me hope that there's someone out there that understands all this, and can help others understand all this

[@TanishqMishra_IIT-R]

मां बाप के फैसले गलत हो सकते हैं, पर उनकी नियत कभी गलत नहीं हो सकती! - A dialogue writer

[@SavioToms]

True

[@ranjanapant9084]

No doubt, par niyat ka hawala dekar galat faisle karna bhi jayaz nahi hai.....

[@seemasingh-np2cw]

Sorry to see that lots of children had such parenting I was lucky to have such lovely parents who made us feel special and we were given reasoning negative and positive points and we were allowed to take our decision. I never pushed my kids to be top of class.... They decided their own journey of life

[@sanjaybhatia9]

You missed the biggest mistake - making us invested in FDs/PPF and crappy insurance ulips/endowment plans, without understanding the impact of inflation. Also, for many parents, raising a child is like 'bhudape ka Sahara banega', hence they try to control their children at every point of life, even when they r grown up. And, if they have more than 1 child, they will pick their fav.

[@ObserverGuy]

Thats why in western countries when parents grow old their kids are not there, bhai India k ethics hi yahi hai budhate m maa baap ka sahara bano, unko apne fun, adventure k liye sacrifice mt kro.

[@vinaytambey6954]

True brother 😂😂😀🥲

[@ipsitaaparimita1873]

I agree with you Sanjay.

[@subhashreebasa752]

Yess agreed

[@pritamdebnath703]

@@ObserverGuy but the real problem is they become fully dependent on their children. I have seen our tenant family where Uncle has his own house, his own investment. His children has jobs and they lives together happily because Uncle never demands a single ruppee from his children, and they lives happily. Stop depending on your children and they will always be your "budhape ki sahara". When you forcefully make them to become this kind, they will never become your "budhape ki sahara".

[@veenaj2030]

आपने इस विषय को उंठाया साहस किया यह वर्तमान की सबसे बड़ी समस्या है बहुत-बहुत आभार

[@Misthi570]

Targer audience - Parents Actual audience- Children 🥲💔

[@DivineBansuri]

1.Govt. Job Obsession 2.Inflicting Your Super Old Age Opinions, Ideologies , Thoughts, Ways, Social Conditionings, Old Age Customs - Onto You ; without recognising That 90% of them Doesn't work in current times. 3.Securing Your Child Future To Extreme High Level in Finance 4.The 4th Point in this Video - Extremely right The Child Become the Replica of the Parents in All Levels.....and then Starts the Age of Depression and Frustration in the Child

[@davidlochanb]

I cried watching this video 😔 each and every point is relatable 🙂

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[@shardasingh1573]

The only thing i understand is positivity.A person can be anybody,rich or poor, educated or uneducated, intelligent or not,many things of that kind,if they are of positive mindset, there are less chances of troubles in life.But if a person has negetive mindset,than the life is hell,in any case.Thanks for this topic.I am a sr.citizen and have seen both worlds,I being child and as a parent of two children.

[@savanrupapara]

Targeted audience - 💑 real audiance - 🙍

[@abhayprajapati4723]

If a kid falls down we can tell that you're becoming stronger and it's the part of process. This what I used to tell my younger brother and I advise everyone try the same.

[@anishagupta6743]

Felt this to the core. I asked my parents for a year break after graduation so that I could take care of my mental and physical health and then would resume back for masters. I desperately wanted to make things right in my life. I've had an extremely turbulent life in school and at home. It shook me to the inside. I beg in front of them and cry so much for there emotional support, but it just never comes. I've still come this far pushing myself at every point thinking maybe I'm at fault. But I'm unable to continue. I need some time to myself. But they won't listen. All I wanted was there emotional support apart from the financial support they give. Whenever I'd be physically unwell, they would take care but always keep scolding me that its my fault that i got sick, but when im mentally low, they would see me crying so much at home, and emotionally manipulate me, scold me, would never even sit beside me or hug me for once and pacify me and support me. I feel depressed but i kept going, just now i wanted a break but they won't give me that. But this video made me cry, it touched me.

[@Patelakshay007]

Even it made me crying. Today I can't undo whats done. My mother's emotional crying has made me paranoid. (I am going to be doctor but don't feel like living) I am truly feeling very sad😓 But some how carrying ON! Sorry for you too!

[@anishagupta6743]

@@Patelakshay007 I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I hope situation gets better with time.

[@Patelakshay007]

@anishagupta6743 thank you and I hope things get better for you too.

[@anishagupta6743]

@Ksharma17 oh my god. That's a really golden chance you had to miss because of your parents. I'm so sorry for that. I hope you can find another good chance like that and move out.

[@crowgay1671]

Their actions/decisions might be wrong, but their intentions will never be wrong.

[@ltp]

Great video. You covered almost many things. Basically, give them Independence from very beginning of their life, start with letting them choose color of toys, clothes ( give them choices, if they are not able to decide). Start with small things then going to bigger things. Guide them but let them make mistakes don't scold them for every mistake but teach them to let go and forgive and tell them to learn from their mistakes.

[@meerabakshi2676]

I am happy that we did what Ankur is suggesting. We never forced our kids to do what we anted them to do. And whenever we differ, we used to tell them that yes, you can do /act what you like but then be ready for whatever the consequncies arise with your action. Of course this discussion was a nice discussion, not a threat! Many a times it happened that after thinking over the matter our sons would do what we had suggested, but it was with their understanding, not taking that as our command! :-D

[@dasariasritha7974]

Your points relate alot ,being a daughter the main thing I understood from your words is "Our parents might be our innocent well wishers sometimes so we need to forgive them and understand the reality".Your words show your positive mind set. THANK YOU I WOULD LIKE MEET YOU PERSONALLY IN THE FUTURE 🙂

[@pavanpatel5147]

Now I'm gonna share this video with my parents and I'm sure after watching it they will understand my perspective towards world 🌎. Thank you so Much Ankur Warikoo for making this awesome video 💥📸. Love From Gujarat Ahemdabad ❤️🤩

[@aradhayasen1704]

Ghanta smjhney walley h ulta blame karengay 😂

[@nandita5909]

This is best, Ankur ! You touched each and every point that a child has to face in India ! i am so grateful to you for this.

[@dhruvkumar2543]

I'm not even watching this video directly sending to my parents I trust you ankur

[@kaizenplayz4632]

This shows how good of a parent Warikoo is I promise if i ever be a parent i would be a good parent😊

[@Ukhandait]

Thanks for making this video. I have faced a lot of issues in my childhood but wasn't aware of the parents thinking. Hope this video came out 10-13 years earlier. If I am become a parent I will try my best to understand and support them. Thanks Sir 🙏 @warikoo. You have saved/encouraged/educated so many lives in future.

[@umarai8289]

Ankur, thanks for this wonderful video.. My growing up years were terrible. My parents made all these mistakes. But instead of learning something from them, I repeated the same mistakes with my children. How I wish I had seen some thing like this when my kids were small.

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[@curiouspreetam]

I am 21 and i can say for sure my parents trust me and i am proud of that

[@shubhabrataganguly1167]

U r too young to be distrustful dear 😃

[@curiouspreetam]

@@shubhabrataganguly1167 fact 😅

[@risefromashes5]

Loved every second of the video... I wish and pray that the next generation doesn't face all this issues... Sir I literally lived my entir life in this video... Could relate to each and every point some how... God bless you... Keep making videos like these because we really need it

[@jaysahab5462]

I love my parents and I have a huge respect for them 🙏🏻🙏🏻 They never forced me for anything, always be my guide and my best friends and respect my decisions and somehow I knew what were their expectations from me so I always tried to be a good child and never hurt them for silly reasons…I am 45 years old dad and I try to do the same thing with my kids 😊

[@rhinobgyt3881]

Lucky

[@rashminandakumar641]

I am parent watching this has opened my eyes. We don't know how to motivate kids due to our financial issues. All that tension we are putting on our kids

[@heyNijam]

No matter what i do, how mature i become - i can't forgive my parents for the horrible past they have gave me. I have become mature enough - now i don't hate them for what they did, but i cant forgive them.

[@romancena2332]

Can u give me a glimse like what they did to you?

[@heyNijam]

@@romancena2332 i don't wanna open that box full of memories, i don't wanna remember them.

[@charulgarg3083]

Hey!! Just wanna say that try to accept your past and the fact that your parents were conditioned by their society in that way only.... So they accepted the same method for their kids.... Ps:- I know its very difficult,but hanging in the same boat i can definitely say it will help a lot to kind of make peace with our past and let go of it!!!

[@heyNijam]

@@charulgarg3083 thanks buddy i really appreciate your advice.

[@charulgarg3083]

@@heyNijam please try to follow once... Slowly slowly... It will take time for sure but make your heart happy and peaceful🤗

[@ca9744]

I never thought i have to watch these kind of topics in my life, but i have to accept it... My parents compare me with my high earni g sister, she sends lakhs of money every month, , in my family nobady ecven consider me.. Nobody talks... My mother never ask me anything even if i lovked in room and crying... She don't care... Ulta 10 galiya deke jaati hai... Jis se muje jyada stress hota hai... Why i don't have supporttivr parents... Kya parents k o pesa kamaane wale bacche hi acche lagte hai😢😢😢😢 Sometimes i really feel so lonely.. At the age of 27 , no friends, no family support... , hustling hard for success I hope one day my parents stop comparing me with my siblings😢😢😢

[@lalureangofficial3175]

Such an amazing smile sir Ankur Warikoo has , and it's fascinates me so much that i sometimes forget the pain of my past experience, as I have expected this video is worthy ,in the ends it really does and also has reminded me of the time how bitterly we were dictated by our parent's desires ...This video deserves to be watch by every Indian citizens as quick as possible to create awareness on them 🔥

[@veenaj2030]

बहुत-बहुत धन्यवाद येबहुत ज़रूरी है आपने रौशनी डाली इस विषय पर आपसेअब रिक्वेस्ट है कि आज के प्यारे अकलमंदजवान बच्चों को आप ज़रूर ज़रूर गाइड करें कि वे भी एसी कठिन परिस्थितियों मेंजीनमें जीनेकी राह पालें पुनः धन्यवाद और हार्दिक नमन

[@raziyasekh]

I sent this to my dad with my mum phone 💀

[@thunderstrike995]

Did you live?

[@Realn_s]

Can uh tell me what was the reaction plz?

[@PiyushThapliyal-gt8ru]

No reply means he s dead

[@KetanMate-b8x]

He is barred from using internet...

[@shristiiii4431]

I was thinking the same😭😂

[@prasanna6698]

Ankur, trust waali baat...very balanced view. Your advise to children is GOLD!

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[@FatimaKhan-xd6jx]

You're really like a friend who always support us through your videos I've seen a lot of videos like these but this one was really close to my heart and very relatable as if you're speaking about me only. More power to you sir. Thankyou for making such videos thankyou for understanding us so well.

[@onamissionforbetterment]

My suggestion to all students/youths, if you're facing such challenges then just understand your parents, try to talk with them regarding the issues immediately. If you can't talk then just share in writing with them. It's very important, don't ignore it & don't live in guilty.

[@debojotide8663]

Thank you sir for this video...I am so grateful for this lesson...I am literally argues with my parents for their wrong decisions and steps! But from today I never argue with them! I will try to understand them and try to make their understand! You are really a hero..Thanks a lot again sir❤️

[@diwakarsays]

I literally cried and smiled while watching this. I have seen 9/10 of these situations but am happy now I have regained the faith of my parents. I wish everyone to stay strong, love your parents and love yourself. You'll come through such times as a new and improved person.

[@mostlyyhuman]

I wish 🤞 my parents could understand my decision of marrying by my choice and trust me. But koi nai. I will believe in myself sir. Thank you for this video sir🌻

[@vedantshah3301]

Warikoo sir exactly knows what we people really want... Hats off to you sir🙏🙇‍♂️

[@drizzlers764]

idk why i cried while watching this being a teenager i know how traumatizing it is to be a victim of all these ... i also even dont know how to deal with all this if you have anything for me please go ahead i need a genuine therapy>>>>>>>>

[@rudraksh103]

I am facing all the said issues from my childhood and if I ask them why, they yell more and show my faults and failures without understanding their mistakes.

[@CP-wy6qi]

I can relate every single bit of this video with my life. Sometime I wonder if parents really do things out of love. Because whenever I discuss something with my parents, they say it's their responsibility. Despite having a succesful career, I get to hear from them is that I m their responsibility.

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[@veenaj2030]

❤

[@Shruti27003]

I wish all of us, We teenagers will try to never do these mistakes atleast we will try ourselves being better Parents and let our childrens build the Better Society 🙏🏻

[@parmindersinghsohal3129]

Rimmy this side And I really agree with the fact of comparing our kids with others and really appreciate the way you put all that facts together and create a very helpful video.