Parents in Islam [Juz 8] - Nouman Ali Khan

[@wajihatnafiu3322]

I really wish it wasn’t hard to stop speaking back to my mom. Subhanallah it is very stressful, by the time she finishes yelling at me and I reply. I become so sad and start to cry because I don’t want to go to hellfire or have a sin. I really really want a good relationship with her. But she just wants things To go her way. Sometimes I try my hardest to be patient but subhanallah it’s truly hard. May allah make it very easy for us to respect them and show love to them through thick and thin. Ameen

[@AnoushaSpeaks]

Wajihat Nafiu ameen, i truly understand how you feel, i have this kneejerk reaction to her whenever she shouts and retaliate only to snap back into my senses after the deed is done and i say to myself “astagfurillah” i try to avoid any conversations that would lead us to quarrel. But if anything try to lower your voice as much as possible and reply calmly as you can it will soon be ingrain in your habits if you start it! Best of luck to you fellow muslim!

[@elite_n2699]

same :\

[@costarica9685]

I understand. I am going through the same. My mother is the hardest test Allah has bestowed upon me. But look at the positive side, you really have to do less than others who have good parents. It's in fact easy for you to enter jannah. Just control your tongue. I know it's hard because my mother insults me every single day. Leaving in one house with her is like hell. I cry almost every day but I am sure this will all pay me in akhirah. Turn back to Allah and repent and control your tongue.

[@Penn.obsessed]

Agreed ma mom drives me crazy, but it's not her fault ma father is da absent 1. Inshallah he gets what he deserves fo never being there & acting like a father.

[@NickiGomez]

I really thought I was the only one going thru his but I'm not. Alhamdulilah , May Allah give everyone who is struggling with their parents ease & may Allah show our parents the right path 💖

[@guylusac1937]

My mum passed away a couple days ago. She had a though upbringing and life in general. May Allah (swt) make it easy on her now. please, please make duaa for her.

[@radhinblitzahmed]

Did your mom made you feel great or just acted toxic and made you depressed?

[@guylusac1937]

@@radhinblitzahmed she was the greatest blessing Allah swt gave me after Islam.

[@radhinblitzahmed]

@@guylusac1937 so she made you feel great. You're blessed with such mom.

[@oppositecube]

ameen brother!

[@Hazel_artwork]

Ameen

[@Foggy_Mustard]

Make Dua for me. My parents always berated me and me feel worthless; I have a studder and I was ridiculed by my peers. I was always against the ropes against others. People would always make things up about me because I was different. I cannot justify treating my own child like that; I can't understand why someone has enemy motivation against me if they love me. I see myself as that hunted animal I always was. And I see them as monsters. Make Dua to take this burden out of my heart. Make Dua for me please

[@trenddz9939]

May God Helping you bro !

[@zaynekhan3098]

May allah make it easy for you. Please remember allah made you and for that purpose alone you are special no matter what anyone else thinks . Remember allah loves you and that's all that matters

[@hijabiheart8865]

May Allah make it easy for u. Ameen

[@Lifeinasec]

Same here

[@sarahsultana8628]

Stay positive brother may Allh (swt) give you sbar and happiness

[@MuMu124]

Why do parents now a days abuse the authority Allah gave to them over us? My mother hates that I have a beard and tells me to trim it, when I refuse and leave the room because I do not want to raise my voice over hers she tells me "I haven't told you to commit kufr" they need to understand that their authority does not go beyond the authority of Muhammad saaw. My parents have been pushing me away ever since I decided to grow my beard and not listen to music and not to take RIBA loans, they think my life is sad and that I am weak because I don't have my degree yet and a high paying job. They think I will at anytime become a terrorist because of my beard. Parents sometimes make the worst enemies with out knowing it May Allah forgive them and us Ameen

[@Mary-yl1bx]

MuMu124 Assalaamu alaykum, May Allah help and guide our parents. In cases of sunnah (such as growing a beard, praying additional rakat after fard prayers, fasting during the year other than Ramadan, etc.) Allah commands us to listen to our parents. In cases of Allah's commandments (praying 5 times a day at the set times, fasting Ramadan, not asking riba, etc.) we must follow them as closely as we can regardless of what our parents say. Therefore, parental authority over an individual does go above the example of the Prophet (saas), but it can never go above the authority of Allah or the authority of the Prophet (saas) in commandments from Allah. Be careful to note this difference and be good to your parents. They probably fear for you in this world and only want what is best. For myself, I have often fasted outside of Ramadan only to have to break my fast when my mother became upset with me for not being able to share a meal with her during the day. Alhamdullilah, by breaking my voluntary fast for you Allah grants me the Ajr of fasting and the ajr of listening and obeying my mother, inshallah. By obeying your parents you can have double the reward, inshallah! May Allah help you, dear Brother. Ameen.

[@Deaxon1]

Trimming the beard isn't a sin. A beard is sunnah. Thus you must listen to her unless she is telling you to commit sin, avoid prayer, or commit kufr. Even if she tells you do to those three things, refuse, but still respect her and treat her with kindness. EDIT: the beard is wajib. Forgive my mistake from a few years ago.

[@MuMu124]

Jazakallu Khair brother for your kind words. What I am trying to get at is that parents now a days have thrown aside their duties as parents and have started to chase the dunya for themselves as well as pursued their children to and they have watered down islam to only certain actions. And when they see that a child has the Drive to learn more and want to do more and get closer to Allah they get very upset. Why is this? When I was not practicing i was out with girls and etc. they did not care. Now that alhamdulilah I want to get married for the sake of Allah because I know how awful society is, they say a woman will meet want me because I do not make a lot of money because I now am afraid of where I get my money in this time of RIBA, and I asked them to help me I get married they turn me down, but so many other Muslims who live in haram with the opposite gender are allowed to do so by their parents. And not to mention the kuffaar who have opened every avenue of haram to themselves and to us. And our parents are sitting twiddling their thumbs watching us slowly decaying.

[@Mary-yl1bx]

Assalaamu alaykum, You have a very difficult situation, dear Brother. I can only imagine how hard it is for you and I will pray that Allah grants you patience and the best of spouses. Ameen. Know that Allah understands you and your striving and that any hurt or pain you feel while trying to please your parents becomes reward in Jannah, inshallah. Do not give up hope! Allah rewards the patient, by His leave. Perhaps a little advice: Focus on a halal hobby that you love to do and that your parents do not mind (a sport, art, writing, anything!). Make the hobby ibadah by using it to avoid haram and avoid people who do haram. Inshallah, Allah will help you be more patient if you are busy doing this hobby! Also, the Prophet, saas, counseled us to fast to control our desires. Outside of Ramadan, make fasting on Mondays and Thursday regular for you. Inshallah Allah will make it easy for your to avoid sin until you can marry. I will be making du'a' for you this Ramadan and praying that Allah makes this easy for you, Brother.

[@mlaher2k13]

Parents value is so overrated and exaggerated in islam. All they did was romance, had sexual intercourse and you're the result that's it. You really shouldn't give them so much authority and that much credibility over you, your mother maybe as (she went through pain giving birth to you) but your father is worthless. I wish and hope my father dies, but it never happens. Its like Allah gives bad people longer life. The worst ones always live.

[@Als1822]

what about emotionally abusive parents. what if you try your best and its never enough for them

[@MdAzharSPB]

Brother I can understand but that's there duty to give you love but our duty is to love and respect them even they are not good to us because they have done so many favor on us

[@gulaqsa7396]

@@MdAzharSPB that's so wrong. This behavior build passive agression which may lead you to further disobedience and misbehavior. I am sure Allah doesn't want what you said. Feels like u must not have gone through this abuse

[@gulaqsa7396]

@@MdAzharSPB it's super frustrating and suffocating when you find your parents keep telling you to do that and that and keep invalidating your efforts and call or make you feel worthless. That's hell

[@MdAzharSPB]

@@gulaqsa7396 I agree to you sister and I also had experienced this not too much but yes I had experienced and I also feel same like any other but I don't like it and I want to improve myself because we can't change anyone but we can change ourselves and we should learn from the example of Ibrahim AS pbuh. If we try our best to behave good then I am sure Allah will reward us so much more than a blank cheque even we can't imagine it. May Allah gives us patience and guide us .

[@gulaqsa7396]

@@MdAzharSPB hmm that makes sense. Pray for all of us who are having hard times

[@americayahya8439]

I have never cried so intensely from a video than this one. I have a very difficult relationship with my mom and even after trying so many times in so many ways to make it work out, I still find myself disappointed and hurt. But this video is another wake up call for me to do better because I can. I would not be here if it weren't for my mom, and I as well as many others, need to realize that before its too late. Allahu Kareem

[@tuxedo12345]

Same

[@TheTruth-fully]

This is scary. May Allah help us to live up to those standards.

[@molkark9274]

Faizah al-Katheri

[@mahnoor5280]

Ameen

[@QuranStudy]

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[@madihashaikh4787]

Aamen

[@anonnaislamnila7748]

I'm here because it's quarantine and have to live at home all time. I'm getting emotional abusing by my mother . Sometimes I feel I should die . Allah help me

[@muhammadsajjadshahid5552]

you better message me at [phone]. I am psychologist

[@hanimacchi]

my parents threaten me (a girl) more than they care to pay any attention to my brothers and they're manipulative; I too am in quarantine and there are times I argue about the sexist double-standard with them and I end up super depressed. I'm so glad I'm moving out in two weeks for college, there's no way I can put up and be patient with them for much longer.

[@khalidabdulghani]

I too am finding it too difficult to respect my parents and quarantine hasn’t helped it in anyway but made it worse and I can’t see things getting better in any way. May Allah help us all.

[@yazeedjohnson1516]

Muhammad Sajjad Shahid can I also call

[@muhammadsajjadshahid5552]

@@yazeedjohnson1516 yes you can

[@RandomMe93]

The best thing i could do for my parents is to be honest with them. Even if voicing out to them when they are in the wrong. It doesn't always mean listen to your parents like a sheep. And that has actually help my family by having communications with each other rather than "I say, you do" kind of relationship.

[@mylyb01]

RandomMe93 I wish I could talk to my dad like that, discuss it peacefully, but he would probably strongly deny it and become defensive, ending in him shouting at me to get out of his house if I dont like the way he acts.

[@sara_sara5928]

@@mylyb01 the exact same thing with me. I could try as hard as i want, i would always be wrong, disrespectful and ungrateful for "criticizing" them. i feel like parents do not understand that "giving your child everything" does not mean an occupation, education, food and electronic devices. its just not. anybody can give me material things. its about the emotional connection, the unconditional love and understanding which most kids lack in receiving nowadays. thats what makes a good parent! but it does not matter to them because what doesn't go like they please is automatically "disrespectful and ungrateful".

[@MadAdz64]

“You can’t even say oof to your parents”. Please brothers and sisters don’t expose your sins may your family lives be as desired in this life and the next

[@abdelbaasit1]

This series is sooo awesome!! May Allah give our teacher Nouman Ali Khan and his family the best of this world and the best rewards of the Hereafter! آمِيْن ♥

[@omayerislamkhan468]

May Allah help us to serve our parents in the best possible way.

[@sohaibahmed226]

thanks usually i always hear lectures on kids respecting their parents but now its good to hear the other way around

[@rivlogs1717]

May Allah reward you for this reminder and may we all benefit from this and take something from this reminder. May Allah bless our parents with Jannah. Ameen

[@Shared_Wisdom_Aysheh]

Jazak Allah Khair dear Muslim brother

[@yumnahsalie4996]

Ameen🙌 Shukran for sharing verses from Quran as Great Reminder SubhanAllah 🙌

[@IncessantWake]

My mother is verbally abusive and always threatens to kick me out. Tells me I'm worthless and that I do nothing. I'm in school and I'm studying. I'm seeing a psychologist for my well being and I train daily just to be healthy and productive. Whenever she threatens to kick me out or insult me for having OCD it really hurts and my hurt turns to rage and when I'm angry I have these nasty thoughts, disgusting thoughts to which even scare me and I move away from. She drives me mad but I have to endure until school is finished and I find a job. I want to move away from her forever and never see her again. She doesn't know how to listen and get's extremely defensive when I tell her that her way does not work or if I disagree with her. She's never had an Canadian education and has never been intellectually challenged. In her mind, she's always right.

[@abdullahsohail3037]

I also faced this type of problems their are solution avilable for this .....

[@aziza4654]

LITERALLY SAME WTF

[@tywad8697]

It’s been 2 years and I hope you’re doing fine now, I would say the best solution is to not do anything to actively hurt her, even if you have nasty thoughts that’s completely fine, may allah give you the patience to get through your troubles and may allah forgive your parents also.

[@myloveforfood4792]

I think your story is parallel and same as mine. Ocd, parents, abuse, school and job.Everything you said happened to me but there are a lot of more complicated things.

[@Ayesha______]

Love your mother because of your love for Allah. The harder it is for you to love your parents, the bigger the reward. At night time, go to her and massage her feet, speak honourable words to her. Your nafs(lower self) makes you want to retaliate, engage in so called self defence, bit this self “defence” can ruin your hereafter. When you feel like being mean to her, do the complete opposite and love her instead.

[@rustybobbbypins]

masyaAllah may He always bring me closer to Islam. may we always treat our parents with perfection. insyaAllah

[@c0olj85]

SubhanAllah... May Allah accept such a noble duaa of yours... May Allah guide them to Islam and make you a coolness of their eyes forever. Ameen.

[@MeriemBounif]

Subhan Allah ! this Aya comes in the exact time for me. In need to hear that .

[@izzamismath5127]

Thank you brother ashif..... Allah solved the huge problem which my family ws facing specially my mum thank God cuz nw my mummy is having a great lyf Masha allah she hs got the reward for her patients may Allah give us patients ameen 😊😊

[@rukiaahmed1944]

Mashaa Allah I realy like your lectures vry intresting n it makes me to understand tha Quran more easily tha examples that u use comparing it with our day to day activities makes it more easier for me may Alkah reward u Inshaa Allah.jazakal kheir

[@indianguy9032]

I know a lady who according to me is the best daughter I have ever seen in my life. Her father is around 105years old and he is so weak and is on the wheel chair all the time. It is this lady who looks after her father day and night - changes his pampers, bath him, and she alone lifts the father in her arms to put him on a wheelchair and take him to the bathroom. His father doesn’t sleep well and he is awake most of the night and this lady is always alert responding to her father and to be with him. She is best daughter any father would desire his child to be. I imagined myself in her situation, and probably I wouldn’t do half of what she is doing to her father. This is true love of a daughter to the father. I ask all of you to please pray for this wonderful lady and may ALLAH forgive her sins and grant happiness in this life and hereafter.

[@Shared_Wisdom_Aysheh]

I appreciate you beloved Muslim brother. Jazak Allah khair. Your teaching help me shukran Allah bless you

[@Za3rour]

now I'll rush off and apologize to my mom.

[@shahidafridi5970]

Mash Allah may Allah ta'ala reward you

[@flowerrainbow487]

Masha'allah best comment i've read so far.. Subhanallah!!!

[@HabibUllah-hv9zt]

Subhan Allah, a true blessing to everyone (not just for Muslim),imegan a person who successfully implement these in life.

[@thespectrebride]

Loved this video. Can everyone make duaa that my parents accept Islam, and that I can serve them for the rest of our lives in the best way possible, ameen!

[@peacelover101]

may Allah make it very easy for us to lookafter our parents in the best way possible.

[@ThinkerSociety]

May Allah make your struggles easy for you and bring your parents into Islam as well. Ameen :)

[@neematm8266]

Jazakom Allah Khair I needed this💙💙

[@madiyarabdukhashimov8570]

Alhamdulillah, Thanks for God that I could learn about how I should be respecting my parents. Thanks for you being the person who taught it. I will do my best to share it my friends and relatives.

[@lexuskc]

May Allah guide them to Islam this Ramadan iA -

[@sd-ni4lu]

Jajakallahu khairun . I love you brother.

[@SulemanKhan-kn9mj]

Thanks Ustad Noman Ali your are the best

[@muslimboy8228]

thank you very much, I am proud of scholars like you

[@MsSmileyQ]

wait and watch quranic gems bh nouman ali khan everyday in ramadan

[@norakmarrahman1886]

When it comes to your parents...it better be the best ..ihsanan

[@ammenatarannum9351]

Great reminder! JazakAllah Khair Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan and qur'aan weekly.

[@Alhamdulilah11]

Beautiful and life-changing. Thank you QW and Ustadh Nouman.

[@hazirahnajihahali]

Such an excellent reminder

[@Munavery]

Excellent! The grave reminders were spoilt by the flippancy at the end. Jazakallh

[@paranormallazivity9677]

When your parents are emotionally abusive, manipulative and narcissistic what should i do ?

[@abdullahsohail3037]

Simply just tolerate them.....

[@hanimacchi]

@@abdullahsohail3037 Though I shouldn't judge, you sound as if you haven't been though enough harmful verbal or emotional abuse. simply just 'dealing with it' isn't the answer and if you were considerate enough, maybe you could've put yourself in their shoes and understand their circumstances. Shameful. @paranormal lazivity My parents are this type and I'll admit: I'm the one who would talk back at them, rage with a boiling temper, then run back to my room and cry. it hurts. A LOT. Your situation may be far worse than mine (may Allah make your parents easy on you) but unfortunately, this may be (one of) the biggest tests in your life that will stick with you forever and it's more than tolerating it. It's knowing that if you're doing the right thing by being patient, Allah will reward you for it on the Day of Judgement and that hopefully, your parents will get what they deserve then. I recommend that you avoid being around your parents or anyone in general who's toxic to avoid conflicts and arguments with them (those people will never change, trust me on this one) because all you'll have to worry about is not to mess with them. And I know, it's easier said than done. So I wish the best of luck to your situation and inshallah you'll be independent, healthy, and mentally stronger than you are now.

[@_wazzer]

@@hanimacchi I mean what else can u do hes right u have to live like that

[@hanimacchi]

@@_wazzer you can distance yourself from them or refrain talking to them. A better thing to do is to express your feelings to them (I did and my parents were surprised and are now aware of their actions). I live away from home now and I don’t visit home often but I still see them. I’m happier than I ever was before and especially because they now see how I feel

[@Msnaajiaiqbal]

Just think they're humans every human has flaws but we ought to tolerate them for Allah's sake, there's no one more sincere and loving than Allah focus for love towards your creator for He is the all knower and He listens, rest of the people are His creation and have flaws like us

[@JuveriyaRockzz]

May Allah makes us an obedient child for our parents

[@aaqib1993]

I have very stubborn parents. They put culture in front of the religion of Islam as the youngest of my family they single me out. I have depression because of them. it's tough.

[@BEAST-of7br]

Aaqib Alyas same man same wallah

[@chicoboussahel4684]

Aaqib Alyas it is really depressing but b strong and pray to Allah that he will do whats best for us

[@zeesuhhvlogs206]

I’m reading this late but dude, I have the exact problem, I’m the youngest in the family, my dad tells me to support trump because of the influence he is getting at work, even though he knows trump hates muslims. He puts culture in front of religion and it really hurts me

[@Penn.obsessed]

Da culture in front of religion part, I've never related to smth so much. I feel u.😣

[@epulatov]

Thank you very much brother! I hope Allah will forgive me for the past. From today Inshallah I will do my best to be the best son for my parents!

[@SaalikahSakeenah]

May Allaah the Most Merciful and Compassionate grant us the ability, aameen

[@syedibrahim0102]

In Shaa Allah Catherine, I pray from the bottom of my heart that Allah show the right path to your parents!!

[@mystifying_me]

There are abundant lessons regarding how children should treat their parents but how parents should treat their children is not discussed much.. the truth is that parents mistreat their children in lots of ways and perhaps they think that doing this is their right and their actions will not be judged by Allah..

[@khaliltumandar3025]

Jazakallah kairan wa islhsanul jaza

[@Dawud_Cohen]

Ameen sister in Islam May ALLAH guide yours and mine We don't really convert to Islam but we revert so we go back to the roots and follow the Deen "the mother religion" Islam "submitting the will the ALMIGHTY" the religion of all the prophets from Adam to Muhammad pbut We just finish by yielding to the subliminal call to Islam Alhamdu liLLEH Infinite thanks ALLAH for giving us guidance though we are not from a muslim background

[@sekarmelati]

Assallammuallaikum, thank you for sharing videoclip, jazakallah khairan

[@SummeRain783]

My sister is mashaAllah very respectful to my parents. She even has a loving and affectionate relationship with them. I taught her to do that when we were younger. None of us were that religious then but I was starting to be and encouraging my family. Even before all this when i was 8, i made a dua to Allah that my dad never hurts my mom and to give all my moms pain to me and put any of my dads anger on me. The dua came true. My dad never laid a hand on my mom but beat me till i bled or couldnt breathe at times. Mostly these were for non haram infractions like i got sick, accidentally broke a plate or got a math problem wrong. The worst was when I got beat up and verbally abused for trying to be more religious or standing up amd refusing to be the presence of a friend of my fathers who had sexually abused me when I was a child. I was accused of making it up to try and ruin their friendships and the abuse made me very depressed. My mom often beat me as well instead of protecting me but her relationshop with my dad was fine because she was joining in with him on the abuse and hating on me. My sister went through the same but since we are 6 years apart they stopped when she was 12 and I was 18 because I finally got fed up and stood up to my dad. Also, being older, i got more of the blame and had to "stand up" more. So now my sister has a wonderful relationship with my parents but my dad still gets mad at me for setting new boundaries for the both of us. My father recently even almost killed me by choking me until I couldnt breathe. Because of the wonderful relationship my sister and mom have with my dad for not getting as much abuse, they dont even believe me. My sister hates me and thinks I am lying. They all say I am making it up because i just "hate" my father. It reminds of the time they refused to believe me about the childhood molestation. I dont hate him, i am still scared of him but I have also had enough of the abuse. Creating distance between us actually improved my life, deen and mental health. It even improved our relationship in the way that there are a lot less fights and opportunites for abuse and traumatic events to occur. It felt like a compromise to me to just avoid him as much as possible instead of calling the police. This has gone as far to the point where I got kicked out of my house for trying to speak the truth. I miss my family and pray for them but also feel a huge sense of relief. It was a struggle to be closer to islam while living in that home. It took years for me to wear hijab without fearing my parents getting upset. Now they are upset i want to leave the corporate world and live a more modest life as a muslimah and not take Riba. Today sometimes I wonder if I made a mistake encouraging my sister to be good to our parents when we were younger and encouraging my mom to be more respectful to my dad despite his abuse. I even wonder if i made a mistake not calling the police when they abused me as they can easily kick me out and accuse me of being a liar when I did my best to be good to them during times I was not overly traumatized. I am not sure if i am an idiot or did something good those times. Anyway, i pray still that Allah grants my parents Jannah. AMEEN. i love them but have accepted I will never have the healthy islamic and respectful relationship i once dreamed of having with my parents or appreciated for more close and beautiful relationship my sister has with them partly due to the struggles i went through and boundaries that I set so she would never have to.

[@computermech]

Thank you for the nice video!

[@leeanne0716]

I cry for my children everyday!

[@yawarabid]

ASLAMU ALAIKUM don't tell anyone, ALLAH ALMIGHTY knows

[@sakinahaljunid2710]

Jzkmlh for this. Great reminder, Masyallah. Pls don't stop making these videos. Barakallahu fikum, to everyone at Quran Weekly.

[@DeGoya]

this is my biggest hardship. My father is a brutal, choleric man, who has beaten & mentaly abused my mother and me for my whole life. I indeed hate him, but the only way of resistence I have is to ignore him. That's why I haven't seen or talked to him for years now. I don't know if I can do any better than this

[@775.-]

The best answer i would give to who got abusive parents is once you see that happens be yourself and dont relate alot,dont show no pain no hate No negativity be nice but dont relate alot. cause you worth more than that.

[@NarutoThethHokage]

Thx for the help

[@kholoudmanlucu]

جزاك الله خيرا

[@hafsaali3001]

I am going through the same pain. I love my parents a lot but my life has turned into hell for past 2 years. My parents quarrel with each other every single day. They fight , they abuse they just make the environment worst. I am always in a state of anxiety, nervousness when my mother is around me. I always pray to Allah so that my mom couldn't get angry around me because she can't control her anger. She abuse me alot . She throws household things..she breaks them. She sometimes become violent.. I cry every single day. I am going through Depression and then with it I have to face my parents anger as well. I also wanted to be nice to them to that extent But sometimes I got failed. May Allah sort this problem out.and give me strength to deal with them nicely.

[@FunElearning]

Hey there! I have been experiencing this since I was a kid so your comment was absolutely relatable But Alhumdulillah I have a sibling (a wonderful sister) who understands the trauma parents create when they fight unnecessarily My only advice would be spend most of your time with your siblings if any.Don't stay when they are about to quarrel and please don't judge them while they do it will only hurt you and make you self pity. Talk to your Aunts or cousins if they are close and older than you. Do not think everyone in the world is like your parents They're maybe incompatible with each other but they're still together and it could be for you. Parents living together inspite of their differences is a sign that they love their children no matter how they treat each other,but they're humans too and sometimes the pain they might be going through comes out in various forms as you mentioned. Just keep praying to Allah for your self,their forgiveness and if possible read Quran tilawat loudly while someone is about to burst. Allah's words are far more healing than any powerful medicine in the world put together! May Allah ease your difficulties Ameen.

[@hafsaali3001]

@@FunElearning JazakAllah this means alot. I have been depressed for past few months . Even I tried to do suicide. I was so much in pain but Alhamdulillah HE the Magnificent gave me strength. I am coming back to life. Pray for me and my parents. And I love them ❤️I understand them much better now ❤️

[@FunElearning]

@@hafsaali3001 I understand it's very difficult to go through all of this and adjust but always remember sister 'La yukallifullahu nafsan illa wusaāha And Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond her capacity Insha'Allah,Allah will reward you for all the pains you are going through now and He will certainly ease your sufferings Also,don't ever think of taking your life again we may feel worthless because too much pain can break anyone but our life is not our own right? After our death it's the people who will miss us and they may find it difficult to live happily after we're gone.I personally know someone who did this and now I can see her family broken and unable to live normally even after so many years. Our death happens to others and an attempt at suicide gives more pain than a natural death. Personally I felt living once again after I started working at an NGO I'm not exactly happy at home but I'm able to smile and feel satisfied when I work there.Sometimes you go through pain on the inside but helping people who are struggling more than you helps😊 Lots of Love to a brave woman/girl Pardon me if I'm wrong😁

[@faisalwest]

I’m 25 yo My own mother is disrespecting me and she’s swearing and shouting at me also slapping on my face she’s using this information as a reason I shouldn’t say anything to her...like i have no right to say anything to her...she’s not giving me a chance to explain myself so that we can get along...she’s panicking and comparing my siblings on who’s better than the other...I don’t know what to do...this is totally a bigger problem.

[@polaris.spacex.event24]

3:35 - 5:10

[@moonamalik4640]

beautiful channel for muslim kids.......@

[@Manuchehrism]

Ustad Nouman, you are the man

[@dzenetasuljic8036]

JazakAllah Khair! Masha'Allah great video! May Allah SWT reward you for making these videos. Ameen. the ending though.......(((:

[@faryalmazz6635]

My parents beat me up and verbally threatens me a lot. Please may Allah give me patience, ameen.

[@fasihazaib3695]

Scary ayah cz living in 2020 and not arguing with parents is impossible but if Allah has said that I don't care I LL try my best may he give me courage and patience .

[@shakhlosultanova1455]

I was raised by my mom my father left us when i was just infant . When I was 16 my mom had cancer but she survived my mom really amazing mother but I dont feel anything towarda her neither to my brother bcs in my childhood i was obese and my brother always verbally abused me my mother as well no one actually loved me except my mom eventually I became soo mentally strong person but now I hate my brother and mother as well . I'm trying my best to feel empathetic towarda them but i feel like I don't have any feelings to them only hate and regrets. Pls those who had this problem share how u overcame it. As a person I'm still have noooo feelings to human being I like no one .

[@lytemisbah]

I like the video before it event starts. That's how good it is

[@PrinceMGolds]

The Islamic scholars really exaggerate the status of parents. How do you deal with a mother who is the root of all evil in the whole family? who is the cause of all fuss, spoiling ties among siblings, with her husband, with the relatives and everyone is the environment! now tell me how we can do Ihsan with a mother like this who has been cause of the 1st divorce of a son and now she is repeating same non-sense attitude each and every second of her life. Hope you are able to answer that Ustad.

[@ashxx1442]

Good Question.

[@reemasyeda7224]

+Prince M. Golds She might be needing help from a psychologist. A normal person doesn't do that

[@coffeewoffee]

Hahahaha good one

[@mtauhid2278]

Reema Naweed, most of the normal person are sufferer in family, society and pretty much everywhere. The one who you think needs help from psychologist are the one who dominates in family, society and everywhere. Bottom line, ppl (father , mother, son, daughter) whoever are mean usually dominates in a family. And as it looks like (from what Nouman Ali khan just explained), Islam makes it easier for 'some' or a 'lot of' bad parents do bad things easily.

[@shafeeqnouree5311]

You cant carpet the whole world fot yourself so just wear your own sandals and walk through the whole world with comfort. But that doesnt mean you dont remind them of whats right and whats wrong. She may need love that she never got from her parents. What do you know about her upbringing. The more you know about your parents the less it is. The mind is more complex then what it is . Think about all that hardwork that she put in your upbringing. Did she ever say omg look at this kid he doesnt even let me rest or doesnt let me sleep because he cries all the timw etc. She can complain all she wants. But you shouldnt complain. Because she has right over you. You have no rights over her. Please think about it

[@susankoroma3870]

Mashallh Alhamdulillah

[@onegodonemessage2517]

Thanku

[@annisaramita7597]

Number is 1. Allah swt 2. Muhammad S.A.W 3.parents ( mother, mother, mother & father) 4. Spouse ( husband/wife) If number 3&4 not following number 1&2 . Like their abusemend etc. So silent & Pray ( Salat + sabar) Cause in islam if you see "munkar" , Bad Deed. 1.stop by hand. If this is risk then 2. Stop by mouth if this risk. Then stop by 3. Do pray. I think for our parents silent , salat , patience & "Pray to God" is better way. Like Ibrahim he pray to God to make it stop/help him to His "Dzalim Father" Also he pray to have guide to his parents to in same time. If better if we take distance for a while.... but in order in somehow to pray our parents... it's better than we are debate like crazy with them. As long we do in order want take a peace& pray. But somehow if our parents to old to abuse... to tired to abuse... to sick to abuse... need our help... taking care.. than we back... with sincerety... taking care them... allah swt know. We do this Because Allah swt said so... so forget all hateness.... ignore the past... just do because Allah swt. But now if you treat by abusement of your parents or being affraid. Said to Allah swt. Pray to allah swt asking permission for a while.... but in sametime we always pray for allah swt. Check al quran ... the good deed kids to parents ==> is pray for them! "Is pray for them" check Clue : Surat Al-Ahqof (46) ayat 15-16 And at Clue : Al An'am 151 : in here you will see "Right" of the children, they can not being kill & forbiden to Abuse there Child. Also in Clue : QS. Luqman/ 31: 13-15 & QS. Al-Ankabut/ 29: 8]. In here if your parents make Allah swt being number 2 not number 1. In order also make you kafir... Allah swt order to children not follow their parents but still respect them in "world way" Clue : (Al Isra(17):23) In here is order taking care of them ,event we can not say "ah" because so weak old & event can not do abusement to us,cause they are so tired & old. So we do with sincere than And for you " muslim parents " you can not taking granted,! many requirement to you ,how you parents ! deserve good pray. In here : (Al Isra(17):24) It' say " love my parents oh Allah swt "like" my parents taking care me when i child... how come abusement parents...get love from Allah swt... ?! A get A. B get B from Allah swt. Look detail how God guide us... to pray for our parents.... "Oh allah swt love my parents like they treat love me when i am child" (Al isra 17:24) Remember Al an'am 151 ==> Order parents not kill & not abusement their child. And all abusement mother that dont want feed their kids with proper ? [QS. Luqman/ 31: 13-15]. In here some detail you need breastfeeding 2 year And there is a bonus when mother breastfeeding for 30 month . QS. Al-Ahqof/ 46: 15-16] Again at least mother do the best she could to breastfeeding, some toleration if she already try breastfeeding but something wrong with health etc, than Allah swr give tolerated in Qs : Al Baqarah 233. So each of you parents & Child. Both of you have Right & Obligation. You can not do this... oooh because i am parents! Or ooooh because i am child....! Both of you can not be arrogant... Allah said this in clue : (QS An-Nisa: 36). So... pray than to our parents.. . Al Isra(17):24)... but Allah swt is number one don't follow our parents if they make us not like that, but still try respected at least pray always for them. QS. Luqman/ 31: 13-15 & QS. Al-Ankabut/ 29: 8]. Also forbiden for our parents to kill child or abuse children at Al an'am 151. Wallahualam....

[@saadderaiya]

Well said, little broken english but thank you!

[@princessj7397]

My mother has accused my father of sihr after because he married another wome. Because of this I don't have a relationship with him because obviously I'm scared of him which is said because he was an amazing father. My brother has moved out because she screams alot and I live still live at home, everyday she yells at me for no reason, I'm only allowed to eat certain food and feel scared to even go to the kitchen. I'm not going to lie we do have arguments because of how she treats me. Will allah punish me because I'm being rude to my mom. She also accused me of sleeping with my brother something that still really hurts me today. Because of what my mom has done to me i have anxiety really badly and have no self confidence, she also calls the police on me all the time I am 22 so should not be living at home so I understand. I know I'm rambling but what is the ruling in this type of situation do I get sins for getting angry at my mom.

[@yamanarslanca4337]

SübhanALLAH

[@aatrends7721]

Thank you

[@suryanisual5324]

My child abused me I have been trying my best to be a good mother..I wonder if Allah could just whisper this reminder given by Mr.Khan to her heart..I am scared of my own child😢

[@hadirehman412]

dont be sad , you are a mother and Allah(swt) made you a mother. i knowits hard to see the children like this. maybe it was not your fault ( read story of hazrat yaqoob AS and the lessonwe get ). You just pray for her guidance and the doors for her to comeback remain open . InshaAllah your tension will be gone soon

[@azaanasif3244]

Ameen ya rabbi

[@B_muslim]

Hope you’re doing well!!

[@Ayesha______]

I’m so sorry that you feel this way. May Allah give your child guidance and give us all guidance to be kind to our parents. This is really sad that you are scared of her.

[@hafsa2am]

we’re in the holy month os Ramadan. Make all the du’aa you possible can. Allaah requires no effort to get you to where you need to be. May he preserve your daughter and plant tranquility and mercy in her heart for you. Ameen. And i, too, will make du’aa for the both of you.

[@muhammadmechanic9868]

allahumduallah thank you so much for this video brother

[@naimoabdi4335]

I understand now thank you qaran weekly so much💕💕😘

[@queennefer5678]

My mom hated my hijab and she's the biggest reason I took it off. Being called a "terrorist, ISIS, Al-Qaida, "fake Muslim", weirdo"...and she's Muslim, too. I wish I had the strength and taqwaa to put it back on and ignore the hatred I got from her but it's over-powering.

[@rosieemainee]

My dad practices syirik. What’s already in him, automatically passes on to us. My sister did ruqyah and it indeed is in her. Here i am, seeking Allah’s guidance, keep me safe and at the same time please allow me to still respect my dad.

[@SaharaCaliSara]

That's a very good question. I hope Nouman or someone else from Quran Weekly answers that coz I want to know, too

[@aishasahilaezaz]

Aameen! Proud of you!!

[@fartuny28]

Ameen, But brother we also have to understand that our parents are humans with all the faults of humans and sometimes their guidance may be wrong. They may ask you to do things u know are wrong towards urself and others and u shouldnt do them. Respecting ur parents also means telling them in a kind manner that what they are asking of u is wrong. So please dont tell us to follow blindly every command that is uttered by our parents. Thank Allah i have kind parents, i feel for those who have abusive and mentally ill parents.

[@pwani4321]

Asalamu aleykum Fartun. Brother Nouman or aya didn't say follow your parents blindly.If for instance ask you to go buy alcohol for them you are allowed to say No because alcohol is Haram and the rule of thumb is Obey Allah first and his rasool.Even though you tell them No but you still have to tell them in a good manner and respect and give them daawa. Also mentally ill parents (don't have akil) they aren't accountable for even compulsory acts so you can't do everything they ask you but again you have to treat them nicely and kindly. Allah knows best.

[@savvageorge]

We should respect the laws of nature above all else. We all have a built-in knowledge of what is right and wrong. If a parent is behaving in an anti-social/unnatural way then we have a duty to condemn their behaviour in the best way we can.

[@786Tanzil]

Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen ...... for the concluding dua of Ustad..!! A need of hour..

[@musthafahadid2999]

May Allah Forgive my Sins

[@oringooo6498]

This is really difficult to do. Let's do our best :)

[@YusufWadud]

It’s a test from Allah

[@ashiksca]

In Sha Allah ,Catherine

[@kujoogclimatechangeomar4035]

Jasakalaah kheyr brother for you advice

[@Maryam-lo8lf]

Even nowa days, youngsters are disobeying their parents i must say that their parents deserve it the way they are treating their children 😔

[@hadirehman412]

atleast Play your part .

[@penibai]

Our duty is to make dua and present what is in the Quran and taught by Rasullallah saw. Allah swt that give hidayah or nur into one's heart. The most beloved uncle of Rasullallah saw, Abu Talib did not accept the Syahadah, so the son of Noah as, the father of Ibrahim as, the son of Luth as, the father of Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahal ra and many others. Keep on reminding wih patience, love and care. Insya Allah...

[@moallim100]

I know we’re supposed to give our ‘best’ but what if they’re telling us something wrong and we know it’s still bad? I don’t think we should blindly follow every command they utter but if we know they are saying* something wrong then we should speak up. My parents always give good advice and try to help me in any way they can, alhamdullilah but if there’s something ,say something in a non-confronting calm voice.

[@irfanwatan6736]

Subhan Allah Mash Allah

[@hebaibrahim4472]

مشاء الله و جزاك الله خير أخي.

[@maazsiddiqui685]

Jazakallahh brother for the guidance.

[@almaas001]

Masha'Allah... (Y)(Y)(Y) yazzakallah alkhair...

[@FletcherRenn]

JazakA for this reminder. Much needed.

[@fattaharif4422]

ameen

[@Deco.Son.of.God.of.the.father]

AAMEEN Aameen Aameen Aameen Aameen Aameen Aameen

[@rukhsarsaleem3955]

Aao sir numan Ap ki tafseer ma sha Allah buht achi hoti ha plz ak request ha k Urdu m bi zaida honi chaiya jzk