Part Two:I apologized to my husband's sidechick to save my marriage,my children are paying the price

[@LynnNgugi]

In case you missed Part One, feel free to watch it here kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaqul5d3fK-MZ80 You can reach Susan on, [phone] or [e-mail] To share your story with us, kindly send a summary to [e-mail] or [e-mail] Thank you so much for watching💛

[@marymugo6960]

I was really waiting for the part two aki

[@audiadarliance8329]

Susan is a strong woman....God bless you Lynn for bringing us this amazing episode with many lessons to learn

[@blessedmama5367]

Madam Lynn !! you both looks gorgeous , Susan’s dress is classy , Lynn dress is fabulous too . Bright colors brighten the story ❤️❤️!

[@KuiWaKamau]

Susan, u are really a strong woman and am Happy that u are Nolonger in Bondage. Ur ex was a weak man who wanted to exercise his "ego" on u. I salute u #TeamSingleMums 💝🙏🌻🎉

[@sarahm316]

@@audiadarliance8329 wow kumbe sio Virginia Wangari kamotho peke yake alinyimwa watoto wow may God have mercy upon women it's so sad

[@chepkiruiflavious5672]

This is my former boss..Such a great woman and mentor!. hearing your story has made me cry ..I now understand why you passionate about family matters. You are a great lawyer. You are strong and Destined for greatness.. my take away is Know God . God bless you.

[@joyceadoyo7008]

You gonna get a husband who will look at you as the only thing in the world. God has a purpose for everything. You're beautiful mommy

[@catherinek3409]

Do you know the husband?

[@leahchristamakori6992]

I remember we met the guy while working with her we never liked him even at the wedding the guy was just there more like a forced guest

[@joycendungu301]

Relating 100%

[@christinemutanu3185]

Strong woman of God. You are so beautiful!! in and out. God bless you

[@veronicahnjoki5014]

Sue is my personal friend and former schoolmate. She’s a strong strong lady and this whole story is just a tip of the iceberg!!! She’s been through so so much more than she can narrate on the show. celebrate you sue and God will take you to great heights

[@gracegracey294]

Thank you for being there for her

[@esthermaluki5593]

So so sad she's so beautiful may God wipe all the tears she has cried. God has your back. Your life and future is bright

[@naitwamugure6953]

Continue being there for her. I already like her!

[@usajimary]

Hugs to her

[@dorothymaila773]

She's a very strong lady, I salute her. God will give you beauty for ashes. The best is yet to come. God will wipe her tears.

[@marykamau4790]

Loving someone who doesn't love you back...is like hugging a cuctus..the more you hold on to, the more it hurts!!!!!

[@sophia4christ]

Perfect analogy! 👍🏽💯

[@margaretengendi1385]

Its hilarious but true.Its like hugging a cactus.

[@paulakavita6347]

Hiyo analogy imeweza. Well said.

[@georginamakena1660]

@@paulakavita6347 he was not in love with her.according to the story

[@georginamakena1660]

Apo Kwa kudance 🤣🤣🤣🤣msee akados🤣🤣

[@florencechitulangoma1038]

Thank you Susan. Your husband did not hate you, As someone has mentioned, he could not stand the light you brought in his home. You are an angel!

[@petersonkamau9018]

This came right from the beginning when she frist did the marriage preparation by her own and later buying almost the entire house hold items. This made her ex to become jealous with hate as a result

[@everlynwangila3861]

Well spoken

[@perrismwambia4713]

EXACTLY...!!!

[@malengemalenge9599]

Thank you

[@susanapollo284]

He was intimidated by her beauty and wisdom. Even coming from a wealthy family was a problem to him.

[@_the_piano_project_9214]

I’m so grateful for this story. The greatest lesson I took from Susan’s experience is that we must not ignore the signs. When someone shows you who they are even in dating, believe them.

[@luckykisaka6135]

Exactly.

[@dorcaskamau5573]

True

[@Miz-B]

I'll say this again: the number 1 duty of parents is to protect their child. This woman's parents let her down. No two ways about it. No justification for bonding with their daughter's abuser, while at the same time discarding their own daughter. Let's not sugar coat the toxicity of the parents in "they were worried about society's perception after the marriage breakdown". End of.

[@rachellarry5803]

Could agree more💯

[@mildredmoraa213]

Very sad.

[@joanmiksabel3598]

You can say that again! Her parents let her down big time. However, being an artoney, I dont understand how and why she couldnt go against her parents decision and just walk away.

[@Kakwasi]

What is marriage again? To cause all this pain?

[@juliakamau8422]

A very touching story God is at work to comfort you

[@godssplendor7779]

Your husband didn't hate you, he hated the light that shines through you, the light that has strengthened and guided you through this journey as it wattles the demons operating in him but his time is up. He is about to vanish in the redsea like Pharaoh and his chariots! You are beautiful, You are strong and the apple of ABBA YAH'S Eye! 🙏🏾

[@sereronaturals4325]

Hallelujah 🙌🙏

[@shaniquepaul]

Oh yes, I wish she reads this comment.

[@a.muchemi4360]

i couldnt have said it better

[@mercyk2672]

Amen. Some men cannot stand strong women.

[@godssplendor7779]

In the first video of Suzan's story at exactly 15minutes 34 and 35seconds, THE HOLY SPIRIT Reveals HIMSELF out of no where flies above her head. She was saying she couldn't imagine Her son with out a father, How? And at that point WHITE DOVE flew HALLELUYAH 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@chituruoji8939]

Her parents contributed to her problems. They abandoned her when she needed them.

[@j.m9189]

Chituru Oji-- Tell me about it you are dead right 100%

[@jacquelinea2110]

Like she narrated, the man befriended the family. They could not read the truth

[@ntombifuthidlamini3372]

True

[@julietkutegeka1513]

But your child comes first before others. How could those parents trust the guy more than their daughter?????

[@iwas2951]

Susan just broke so many women out of so many spiritual prisons. Thank you, Lynn, for the FULL story!

[@mrembodiambo1584]

Susan you are a very strong woman. You are helping so many women with your testimony. You were good enough. And let me tell you. Prayers are the Answer. This forum will save many . Lyn this is good.

[@glorymakena8339]

Lord have mercy

[@julietkutegeka1513]

Just a love prison

[@overseasstories]

Never judge Single mums. By the time a woman is leaving her home, she has tried everything to no avail. To men, women are not reproductive machines to make you babies then discard them and pick someone else to enjoy life with while frustrating kids. It's painful! To Susan, you are so beautiful and neat. I couldn't help admiring you from head to toe. You look so Smart my namesake Waithira❤️

[@mofaizontuc1203]

Well said I really feel her pain ..it ia strange for me to know that these things happen I thought that only I went through this stuff..my story is the same as she..The creator is so great

[@mofaizontuc1203]

May God continue to heal her Ameen..this story hits so close to home for me..

[@alicethiary]

Never judge.

[@anniekawa3105]

Imagine wakili msomi going pole dance lesson to pls his man na bado haikusaidia take heart Suzy your boys are yours forever he is the one who loose

[@emilymbashu502]

Very disturbing judgment of stopping a mum from breast feeding a baby!! Just so that the father can spend time with the baby!!! Strange!

[@esthergithinji6935]

Imagine a lawyer going through this, what about a jobless woman with no or little education. I relate to this story.

[@Wilky254]

Biiiiig problem. Only God

[@beatricendungu9535]

God have mercy

[@2n161]

Wooi...God help us.Women go through alot

[@TheCandidTherapist]

I can only imagine

[@denisetheur5641]

Exactly this!!!!!

[@Patricia53545]

The day we stop socialising girls and women to view marriage as an achievement and status in the society is the day our girls and women will break free!what an inspiring story and kudos to Lynn for the platform 💞💞💞💞

[@franciskamau3442]

The society norms must change our sisters are suffering in the name of marriage.

[@carleeramsey1444]

His carma is on its way

[@angulaaagula5926]

What do you mean achievement? Marriage is to get children and keep as your husband and father to your kids. Parents needs to train children in good manners. Enslaved men that it his parents issues in that man now make it his wife suffer! Parents stop abusive children cause once the grow up their will abusive everyone , friends to wife's

[@angulaaagula5926]

Yes we need to gets children and we need husband as father. If your husband has mental issues cause he was abusive traumatic from his childhood. Stop abuse children so we can have good wife and husband. We need marriage.everywoman needs own man

[@angulaaagula5926]

If they were real punishment for those abusive they would suffer own childhoods traumatic inside and cannot do anything in life jobless,loss things in life. because no punishment to abusive traumatic man..NOW HE MAKE OTHER ONE TO SUFFER IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE OR IN THE NAME OF FATHERHOOD. Please stop abusive child...once they become adult s they will harm the countries people

[@margaretgachoki394]

To Susan, you deserve to be celebrated, if you went through all that and yet you have the courage to come up and share, you have slot of grace over your life. You're such a beautiful lady. Even your smile tell how beautiful your heart is. That abuser needed his eyes checked. Only a blind person can say otherwise about your beautiful. Also Incase God gives you the desire to marry again, you're still young and your Adam is still searching for you. God will cause him to locate you. Keep up with your faith in God.

[@perpetuamuturi3886]

Perfectly said, his eyes have problem, This issue needs intervention for susan to get her kids

[@agneswandia3659]

True

[@patandkercy7902]

Amen you can say that again,she's a Beautiful woman.

[@beatricemuringi4120]

Very very beautiful. And her voice is lovely too.

[@maryjabernyiri8497]

Say it loud! She’s very beautiful 😍

[@ndengayumbi7682]

That man was suffering from an inferiority complex and couldn't handle it. Thanks Susan for sharing this story. We all learn from it. Thanks Lynn this is divine 🙏

[@ceejaysjourney]

Wow! Story of my life! The separation from my kids, the court injustice just because he could bribe and had the court system in his pockets. My kids having 2 homes, the emotional abuse, the insults....Susan's is my story and God has made my life BEAUTIFUL 😍

[@shironjuguna5853]

As a fellow practitioner having walked a similar path...I feel you wakili! Especially that mum part...the day my son came home calling his step mom mom....I wanted to cry 😢 and even told him he has one mother but I had a small meeting with myself and said if he is comfortable calling her she must be a great woman. She's saved on his phone as mom 2 🤣. I've never met her but I am so grateful for the genuine love that she shows my son! Unajijua mom! You've been so kind..co-parenting is not for the faint hearted. But I also try very hard to encourage my son to have a relationship with the dad because that's his dad. Hii safari ni Mungu!!

[@TruthMustBeTold_911.]

Don't force a dead marriage for the sake of children, bringing them up separately while being happy is better than bringing them up together in a house of disrespect and violence

[@dorisappah-dankyi3589]

So true

[@kembabaziphionah2702]

Thank you Kweli

[@sarahnjeri105]

Plus marriage sio everything.

[@eunicenjeru215]

I agree but co-parenting must not harm kids.

[@totozworldkenya]

This is my testimonial right now. With this peace you can take of the kids right and sober

[@puritywawira4368]

She has excatly narrated what I went through aky it's the most painful thing to go through in the name of marriage and I must say she is lucky she had some money she could afford a house,I can relate to the curfews by 6 running home like a small baby to be in the house before he get home Waah wengine tulilala chini 3 months before tuweze kupata hata mattress but God is faithful that is past us.All Glory to God .Susan may God keep Gracing your Life💕💖❤️

[@gracenyaboke8483]

Pole mum

[@lucymuiruri7851]

Hugs mum

[@eunicendungu8868]

Hugs Mum❤

[@jotaya]

Her story reminds me of Princess of Wales Lady D, and Charles! I bet there are many situations like this. Men taking advantage of vulnerable young women/single mothers, having kids with them, and then dumping them. Dear Susan, thank you! Thank you for your inspiring story, brought forth with so much courage. The humility and patience you have mama! God has brought you so forth, He is/will take you even further. You’re the best. Own it! May blessings upon blessings be yours. May divine protection and guidance be yours, and your children’s. Thank you Lynn. This is a great one! Much love to you both!!

[@totozworldkenya]

Watching this today after 2 weeks of leaving my marriage. I dint know peace with this narcissist... I am free, I am peaceful ✌ 😌 ☺

[@dianamungai6413]

I'm happy for you...choose yourself everyday...May you hve the strength to keep keeping on 💪

[@winniewangui9661]

It is well

[@soniag4516]

Never look back, forgive and give moving for a better future. There may be dark days but than comes the morning, a new day.

[@esthereugene6403]

And you are a warrior

[@alg9442]

Am privileged to know her in person, she is an amazing human being, down to earth,may God keep blessing you

[@nyawirakirori2116]

I wish I could meet this woman or even get an opportunity to work with her

[@carolinee7405]

Thanks for being her friend all through!

[@nancywanjeri3953]

Susan, I love your story. Not because you went through a lot, but how you came out victorious! Go go.... Sky is the limit.

[@liloshania6612]

I passed through a similar situation, I cried a river, but when I said enough is enough and moved on I haven't looked back. You are lucky you didn't get sick. I got ulcers, high BP, and depressed. Ironically, he has tried to come back not once not twice, but aah, not me. I have peace without him. I got my freedom back.

[@tziheriamboka1642]

It is well dear

[@teresakiruthi4261]

Never look back my dear..the guy is wondering how you are making it without him..no wonder he wqnt to crawl back to you..never ever. And btw most of these narcissist end up very badly...either financially or in their other relationships

[@angensengiyumva5624]

Your story is mine

[@wambosunshine5600]

He wants to come back and finish you completely. He did not have enough . He craves to see you suffer . Keep running and never ever look back .

[@Mo-cp9so]

@@wambosunshine5600 absolutely true!

[@ESSIEMUMA]

I like that Susan did not sob during the interview, the healing is evident and ongoing.All things work together for good....indeed.

[@deotio2768]

She did.. you just dint see the tears physically

[@waridim9249]

I'm sure this beautiful woman now knows it's perfectly fine to be a mother and be single. She is watching her sons grow and she's not getting assaulted physically and/or emotionally. I believe that's a better place to be. Kîrîndî (kîaremire Mutha)🙃 can talk unkindly all they want about her being a "single mother." She's an accomplished woman. She's going places. 👍🏾I like her laugh; it's sincere and I'm happy that she can even publicly talk about her attempt at pole dancing and laugh about it. 😅 May God bless you Susan and your sons.

[@charitynamakau7531]

Thank you for part 2 Most of women are passing through the same thing,Thank you Susan for coming out and encouraging the women. It's not easy. Lynn thanks you are a blessing.

[@lynnmakena1738]

I wish our women legislator can watch this and change the childrens law and more so hoping our Chief Justice a fellow woman can intervene in this particular case.

[@jacintamutua422]

Sure I hope and pray for it to happen

[@mamaJayboys]

As it should be.

[@everlynmutunga7975]

Is the problem the law itself or how judiciary officers apply it?

[@samwelochieng3030]

the law is fine, the problem is people who implement it

[@minajose6602]

For real . For the kids sake they deserve a say atleast. It's like they are imprisoned.

[@catherinemaina8206]

The guy destroyed his own children by separating them from the Mother's love, to punish her. This is simply madness.

[@irushmain]

This will have a long term effect on them and how they relate with others

[@mohtheesweet2083]

Narcissistic don't care

[@jennifermcwhortet7934]

Kenyan Laws needs to change. They really are unfair to women. Such men die miserable because God ALWAYS and SHALL forever be GOD OF JUSTICE. AMEN

[@kelvinkipchumbakoech9758]

@@jennifermcwhortet7934 it's not unfair to women, it's unfair to those with no power and money

[@DRPAP66]

Read. My comment above

[@joyajuogaosano3507]

As a Kenyan, that name FIDA, sends chills up my skin. I will one day speak about mine. Lynn, you should have a writing segment then you can reach a wider audience. I will one day speak.

[@mercykai7346]

Advice young gals crazy to run to FIDA

[@nancymunene]

I think I have to tell you mine first so that we can weigh 🤣

[@catherinendonye6578]

It takes 'balls of brass' for a woman to open up about such an experience. God has strengthened you Sue. You know your worth and have emerged strongest amongst us.Your story is so so touching and full of lessons. Thank you for sharing.May God shower you with PEACE that no man can understand.

[@sophia4christ]

Her ex-husband is a malignant narcissist. He is also very psychotic. Daddy Jesus, give Your daughters eyes of discernment. Amen. 🙏🏽

[@judithochoro9882]

You can imagine how this man is handling cases that come before him ,the heart is dark but appears holy outwardly.

[@matovuabu5215]

A story has 3 sides

[@jnjerinduati]

The unfortunate thing is that people don't know who are narcissists what NPD is. Many abused people have had a narcissist partner. Let people get educated to be able to see the red flags early. May God bless you Waithera, God knows the truth and He will never leave you nor forsake you. You can't change narcissists, only God.

[@charitymwangi2062]

I cannot understand how someone could hate you to that extent..lets teach our girls to love themselves and know their worth.

[@leedear8379]

@@matovuabu5215 what's your side of story?

[@efiyad3939]

🤣🤣 The pole dancing was a curve ball I didn't see that coming. This lady is the sweetest God will release you on his timing.🙏

[@margaretmwangi1286]

Look at the way she laughed about it, she removed her regalia and slept🤣🤣Susan is blessed.

[@efiyad3939]

@@margaretmwangi1286 she is truly a blessed woman of God who has a great testimony and her humbleness speaks volume. 😊🙏

[@christinendwiga2930]

That has left me in tears,,have seen her noticing the person she was trying to impress is fast asleep,poor girl, he was not the one for you,no wonder he couldn't see your beauty. God is faithful your king is coming and he will make you extremely happy.

[@Blessedjoy001]

😂😂😂Khai,the things we do to try to make it work 😢

[@mumbingigi645]

The fact that she didn't expose the guy despite the trauma she went through, shows how mature she is. She is calm, beautiful and has a good sense of humour. It hurts how the guy attacked the very things she can't change; her physical attributes, family, tribe, even her spirituality. He is evil through and through. Susan, you have enlightened many people. Thank you.

[@faridahfaddy4215]

Well no matter how bad the man treated her, he is still the father of her children. So as an adult, you put your adult/ relationship issues aside and put the children first. Chances are those children will still want to know and bond their dad despite what happened between the parents.

[@JulieMwamburi]

@@faridahfaddy4215 how do kids bond with an abusive father though? He even forced them to call someone else mum. This, ''he is still the father of her children,'' does not fly!

[@nankingaflorence9501]

Ì pray for you Suzie God connect you to a right person in Jesus name. We have almost the same stroy

[@justinekanja4947]

My greatest lesson,I will Never advice my daughter to hold on in an abusive marriage in the Name of pleasing the society or community around me ...Just incase she opens up and share with me ..

[@merdeux21]

Me too...and i M doing my Best to teach her her self worth and values...what She deserves, what She should not accept as treatment from anybody

[@Faymbuina]

True

[@marykariuki7381]

“What will people say?” “What will the neighbours say about us?” At times parents focus on what people think about them as opposed to what is good for their children. We are so blinded by maintaining social status and image, we would rather die that allow people to see us at our worst.

[@urshieurshie212]

The things we do in the name of love, having left my 15 year marriage. A month into my divorce I can fully relate. But God is still God. 🇿🇦

[@muringoliz4699]

I just can't comprehend the much love that Susan will be showered with by her three grown boys then men......they already love you now but I promise their love will wipe your tears struggles and all the pain and suffering you've been through.......Much love from this side

[@mawia9004]

I love her voice and she's beautiful and inspiring. Wish her God's crown of beauty for ashes💖... Isaiah 61:3

[@marthamwangangi5433]

Ilove her everything,her laughter is very sweet

[@mentalawarenesstz8276]

And can you imagine her ex husband said her voice is bad..

[@nansubugasophia4391]

Her x_ husband is adevil just wanted children from her but as aperson he didn't wanted her but truth be told this woman is beautiful , intelligent and inspiring as well but believe me such devil men will not see heaven

[@odionugbiyobo2316]

What happened took place to prepare you Susan for purpose.

[@beatriceakumu23]

It is absurd to know that a family can reject their own flesh and blood and pretend to understand a stranger. May the Lord forgive them and bring reconciliation 🤝

[@flowernah6364]

It is very disturbing

[@soniag4516]

Susan's story is almost like mine. Our parents modeled wonderful family life, gave us good education but forgot or neglected to school us in reality that there are evil people in this world and one of them could be our spouse! I've been divorced for 27 years after 13 years of marriage from hell. He still pokes his devilish nose in my family life. I live in California and he lives in Washington state with his MISTRESS-WIFE. Demon-possessed people are all over the world in every society. We must IMPART WISDOM to our children.

[@modestlife77]

She is beautiful, as she said she had to share her story and not to keep silence with it,in proverbs 10:10 Someone who holds back the truth causes trouble, but one who openly criticizes works for peace,she is blessed.

[@Gen2Revelation55]

Lynn, you explained it well @34 minutes. The family members befriended by the narcissist are called flying monkeys, recruited to hoodwink and shame the survivor.

[@Kakwasi]

Washindwe

[@paulinemwaura1980]

This story is so twisted. For the first time, I want to see the face of the aggressor because he is a "normal" guy who dresses up and goes about his business like the professional that he is kumbe he's a wife-beater. Kudos to Susan for laying bare her pain and weaknesses. She didn't listen and take him seriously when he said he wanted to have children with her or maybe she equated that with wanting to marry her. There are strange twisted people out here, but there are also strong and beautiful souls like Susan.

[@mercychepkemoi8676]

Wah ivo ni mkora

[@liznyaga3918]

I'm listening to this and I'm also like, "I'd like to see the face of this wicked man". He is the devil's incarnate for sure. I'm not even angry that she never left sooner, I actually feel terribly sorry for her for the hell that man put her through and affirm her for finally the day came and SHE LEFT SON OF SATAN.

[@manchesterunitedakamrtread8317]

Two side of story

[@norahgetenga5506]

The man was/is a monster 👻 I wish his name could be mentioned here 😕

[@faithkimathi4068]

@@liznyaga3918 Let me tell you Liz, the father of my children is an angel and born again confessor to the outside world! I don't talk about my problems in public coz very few people will believe my story. My story is similar to Susan so I do resonate with Susan. Anyway, I am older...

[@kipedition588]

How can a sane man ask for conjugal rights via SMS and you have a wife who is capable of listening to you and respect you. Men let's respect these women and take care of them.we loose gold and we remain picking stones. You may have money but you will never be happy when the other party is not.Lets value our families and protect..I won't throw away my wife no matter how much I have. I will always love them and take good care of them.

[@Wanjamburu.23]

Narcissistic disorders

[@thandiwemseteka3963]

Thank you Lynn for bringing Susan on the show. You have nailed it once again. She has made me realize that one has to remain positive & believe in one self even as one is passing through hell in a marriage set up. Susan really passed through hell in her marriage, it's good that she counseled herself & come out of the marriage a stronger person. Susan I love your relationship with God. Continue praying for your children. Take heart, God knows why he has allowed your children to be residing in two homes.

[@ken4722]

"I just found myself in the middle of someone's plan..." that's just painful

[@ruthpartridge6210]

Very

[@sylviakimuge63]

She is such a beautiful and brave woman. Narcissists are so poisonous

[@timnakemunto2046]

Tell me about it! My perspective exactly. Was a victim myself, now I can smell a Narcissist from miles away!

[@jacquelinerasugu6744]

@@timnakemunto2046 we are learning. Arent we?

[@totozworldkenya]

Toxic

[@KarimiRosemary]

The most dominant pain in your life is a direction to where you will be a savior (Apostle Joshua Selman). Suffering a broken marriage and being a family advocate is a clear pointer that God has ordained you to do that job for His glory.

[@thuwebaomar9381]

Dear Susan, You are beautiful,beyond measures! You are strong beyond strength! I am a product of a similar case, worse actually because for us custody was for the father, we've lived with the step mother for not less than 8years until age allowed us to leave...and I am here to tell you this Susan, your kids will thank you for leaving that marriage. Because they will learn what not to be as a man, a father, a boyfriend and a son! They will love you for the lessons and for your bravery. And through you, they will understand and learn to love themself and you even more. I love you! You are Beautiful. Dear Lynn, Keep it up. I love you, I admire you ..... My healing is getting better through what you offer us. I love you! I will see you soon! Regards, O.T.said

[@patriciakwetaict]

Susan, your husband didn't love you from the word go. Make yourself happy

[@JamesNdungu1]

My marriage ended a few years ago, during the initial stages I forecasted all this and saw it as good to avoid all commotions and just let the mum live with my son who was just over a year old, I knew the deadbeat will not take care of the child and would just take the kid to the grandmother. It happened, I don’t get to see my son, neither do my relatives, to avoid all these commotions, I just pay his school fees, don’t ask about him, and don’t talk about him with the relatives - to avoid commotions, I just picked one relative who is a pastor and update her when I have paid school fees, I have avoided all daily requirements to save my sanity, just the fees I pay directly to school & update the relatives with receipts. My son deserves a happy home even if it’s not mine.

[@isabellwafula8742]

God of mercy to grant you all your hrt desires You are a great Man

[@paulinewairimu2347]

If a legal practicioner can't get the justice she deserves, what about us who knows nothing about the law? This Kenya 🤦🤦🤦

[@hannahmugechi4205]

Asking the same.

[@teresakiruthi4261]

I think she mentioned he is also an advocate..so its clear he bribed for the judgment to work in his favor

[@cynthiaroberts2856]

Good question 🤔

[@carolBee2023]

@@teresakiruthi4261 My thoughts too.

[@kateleenwanjiko3188]

Asked myself

[@amazinggrace3749]

Wanawake Ngai yani unachukua miguu uolewe place mwezako ametesekea ukifikiria wewe ni mzuri sana.kikombe ni hicho hicho utakunyia.

[@beesilinda]

My dear cousin, it’s so brave of you to tell your story, to be able to share your story with such courage and composure is so moving. I was too young at the time to even know what was going on. Thank you for sharing your story as well as the lessons. May God continue to work in your life and our nephews lives, we love you ❤️

[@nellymtimkhulu4754]

My sister we thank the Lord who took you through all

[@blessingsnoel1729]

Sorry about what you Went through Susan in your marriage.but please stop forcing your children to take sides because of the toxic relationship with their father. Sometimes love fades away accept and move on stop holding onto it was a wrong decision to take your children to court they didn't deserve that. kids will always choose their mummy you didn't have to fight for them in court.prayer is the key. Secondly you are still lovable get more kids we women have powers in our hands but hatujui.my sisters from central borrow idea from luo and luhya women a child belongs to the father we don't question that Incase of a divorce or a separation. You did the best but he was never in love with you my sister.it was the main reason for his wearied behaviors.he doesn't have the same problem with his second marriage. Please look for your rib he's somewhere going through the same maybe.

[@mamageorge8289]

@@blessingsnoel1729 kindly stop preaching that ugly line immediately! The fact that you are treated like animals (being made to part ways with children you are attached to) in your cultures does not mean everyone should accept that retrogressive behavior! Most abuse to a child happens when the mother has been sidelined from a child . The mother gives birth to a child, and there is a Law in this Republic to that effect that people fought so hard to put in place (why are you rubbishing it?). What this lady is not saying here is that the magistrates were BRIBED by that narcissist (it happens a lot in these courts), otherwise she ought to have had her kids. Watu kama huyu mwanaume wanatakanga vita ya wanaume from the the woman's side, because that is the only language these PESTS understand.

[@beesilinda]

@@givethem3912 I was so young, I was a child I didn’t know! Please refrain from making judgmental statements without full context‼️

[@LillyofMtkenya]

Wao Susan ,I met you at your mom’s place at the market,your mom was my client and a good mom ,I later met you at Alabaster class but I did not know you had gone through all this ,you are one brave girl ,I salute you and thank God for this far He has brought you .you are a true mentor!

[@christineauma2525]

wow....this woman, I love her honesty. Sharing her pain, her truths, her experience. Sometimes family can fail you in the worst way but am glad she is coming out strong on the other side.

[@makenar]

Lynn, you should organize talks with some of these men that treated their wives like this and let us know how exactly they think. These stories are too many and even in our communities, we can pinpoint women who have undergone such challenges. We would like to understand what runs in their minds.

[@milkamugo3777]

Susan am so sorry for all you went through she has an office at my church compound and am a witness she smiles all through when serving a client.she helped us when I was serving the church as a mother's union chairperson.Susan I still cannot believe it's you so 😭

[@alicewaithaka3496]

Ooh dea Iam happy to let it go move on with life en us kids Kuna GOD u r encouraging other women

[@williterrop759]

Please, Lynn bring a man on the show who knows and understands these things for us to get the men side of the story. Am shocked a man without God can really mistreat the mother of his children. To the men, know God, Don't know about God

[@daisykorir8694]

These are narcissists. They can pretend for so long as long as it suits them. Yet they can treat someone so badly you wonder if the devil mutates into some one

[@parrotfish1988]

A Narcicists can not come here and talk about himself in a negative way...they are one specie that should never exist.One must run away from them

[@carolinekamya2339]

We need to sensitise African courts on narcism/ psychopaths/ trauma bonding, stockholm syndrome!!!!!!

[@Kasweetie_254]

You're right

[@catherinek3409]

The judges themselves are narcissistic, the African male needs help.

[@carolinekamya2339]

@@catherinek3409 Sadly I think you are right. I call it post colonial traumatic syndrome. Will we ever recover? @lynn is making it happen as we share our stories. Let's get that dirty laundry out for all to see!!

[@teresiawachira1034]

Why do you think it's only Africa courts. Just because it happens in Kenya you tend to demonize everything Africa? Start researching how unfair American children courts operates, then you'd know humans are the same everywhere.

[@carolinekamya2339]

@@teresiawachira1034 The show is about kenya in Africa. Don't worry about the rest, let us sort ourselves out

[@bettychepchirchir5671]

Lesson: love yourself, as much as u Obey your parents never sacrifice your happiness for toxic marriage, Susan u r a Strong woman.

[@abbychristynjeri5002]

Susan is so beautiful and composed. I hope she finds a man who values her. Clearly, that man was a tribalist and narcissist

[@jeremykenya5768]

Point of correction....the guy may seem to have everything going right for him but let me tell you....God cannot allow so many souls to suffer....malipo ni hapa hapa duniani!

[@kyln4714]

Three things to take from this, when a person shows you who they are the first time, believe them. Also don't wait to be told the second time that you are not wanted, believe it the first time. Three, never represent yourself, it is said, "a lawyer who represents herself has a fool for a client". Throughout the 2 episodes, my take was an immature man found himself trapped in a marriage he did not want, and was doing all the wrong things to get out of it, in these cases, it is not strange that someone dies, so please ladies, there is no shame in starting over, lets teach our children that

[@Kasweetie_254]

In Kenya the judicial system is rotten 💔😭 no money no justice .

[@makenaodero]

I hope your parents can watch and see and forgive themselves. Because otherwise you would have died in that marriage. I pray for peace and reconciliation for you and your family

[@life-tech-talks]

Exactly. They neglected their daughter completely so sad

[@emelinemunezero9295]

I love this womens courage and strength but can we acknowledge how amazing of an interviewer Lynn is. She makes the guest orchestrate their story so well . So proud of your growth mami 💕 your the best at what you do 💗

[@LynnNgugi]

Thank you so much dear🙏🙏 This means a lot to me:)

[@jacquelinerasugu6744]

@@LynnNgugi yes lynn your amazing may GOD CONTINUE to bless the works of your hands

[@rackelngila5962]

As I am keenly listening to you, what comes clear about this man is he never loved you,this doesn't mean that no one loves you, so many people love you and God loves you even more. For sharing this story anyone who is contemplating marriage will be advised on self love in a way that she will know when a man loves her for what she is.

[@geraldineliznakachwa3219]

I was crying so much till u mentioned the pole dancing😂😂😂😂 we needed it

[@KarimiRosemary]

'The real help I have ever gotten is from God......' !!!! Thats the whole truth and the naked truth everyone should hear. Theres level of help which even professionals can not offer, Jesus Christ is the best option and He never fails us. Susan is a strong woman and God fearing, she has blessed our souls, may the Good Lord bless her and expand her territories. That pain will not be wasted, God has no dustbin of our experiences.

[@christabeladuda1382]

Am still laughing at the pole dancing part🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sophia4christ]

Never force a relationship with a man. It never ends well. May Jesus Christ continue to give her strength. For those of us who are single in Christendom, we will not marry wrongly in Jesus' Name. We will be led by the Holy Spirit of God to enter into our divinely-appointed marriages in Jesus' Name. Amen. 🙏🏽

[@janemulandi962]

Amen

[@emmanuelngwa462]

Amen I testify my younger Sis is getting married found a perfect man after waiting for more than 30 years. God is Good

[@influenceann2882]

Amen

[@verokori5805]

Amen and amen Lord hear us

[@Vickline23568.]

Amen

[@dorcasamimo2739]

Greatness is always fought left, right and centre.. Your sons are hugely blessed! Susan you are a testimony!

[@lyndaodhiambo7417]

Children always suffer the most in a divorce, especially when co parenting is not done in a mature way or lacks mutual understanding. Take heart mama may the lord give you strength.

[@refilwesharon1691]

I think Suzan deserve an award, she's acknowledging her own mistakes and learned from there. She is healed... Wow. Suzan I would like to meet you one day. 😍

[@Willys099]

This story has touched my heart a great deal. I am glad for this woman's healing. Many are wowed to see her have courage to talk about it. I have influenced men in our office to listen to this story. We are all touched. Thank you Lynn for bringing us amaizing guests with amaizing stories. I've always had something new to learn. I got emotional.

[@CoolkenyanInisrael]

It's wonderful how she remained strong for her kids....thanks for part 2 Lynn 👌

[@belvinmurumba969]

What a story! I have learned alot, she is very strong despite what she had gone through. If an advocate can go through such things without being given justice, in whose hands are we safe??? May God see her through.

[@kammusic22]

God's hands

[@marymuchina1481]

Sure ly Lynn Kuna mambo na vituko

[@lucymuiruri7851]

And she said ONLY IN GOD'S HAND

[@dianamutokoma4577]

I doubt if that man is really happy in his new marriage after leaving this woman hurt, you may have forgiven him but believe me time will come when he’ll get on his knees to apologize. You’re a strong woman and I pray a lot of women out there have learned from this because most women give up at the point of death.

[@estherarigisinaaminga2668]

I sometimes wonder if he wasn't able to take care of the first wife do you think the second wife is treated fairly......never tabia ni ngozi tu.....

[@rochellehenry7334]

The first wife made him feel inferior by her kindness and prsence and intelegence. The second one probably is the opposite.

[@maureenakinyioduor8566]

This life is unfair , that's what am going through now Lynn ,my husband was given custody of my 4 children it hurts I have cried cried asked God questions , society blaming me for leaving my children to suffer it's traumatizing .I just need a shoulder to lean on. My husband doesn't allow my children to come and see me ....I have to go to their schools to see them it's painful painful

[@catherinecege8659]

🙏🏽😢💗

[@JoyRBLX]

Wow. Thanks Susan for sharing your story. It proves that domestic violence and abuse happens to women of all social statuses. I always thought that a learned woman should not endure such abuse. In your story I kept wondering why you endured such abuse but I also saw things in your perspective. The lesson we should learn from this story is to not wait too long to figure out things are not working. Let's learn to love ourselves in that you know to what extent you would not entertain emotional or physical abuse. Thank Susan for leaving that marriage before it was too late. If you stayed longer you could have gotten killed or get mental break down or get serious physical illness. May God restore your life and everything the locusts ate in your prime youth. Amen 🙏

[@queenstella5133]

But this woman is strong aki i have cried like a baby 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@gladysjebichii2576]

Me too

[@Reality_TV]

Post the judge's name! We need to know who did this! We need to know the judge who did this! You need a new judge! Petition to get a new judge! Maybe he paid the judge off.

[@julianochieng9955]

I thought so too, maybe he paid or was receiving a payment monthly, Or hes also another man like her Ex husband. May God guide his daughters from such men in marriages to come

[@rosemarykamau8698]

Akuna mahali mtu anaweza kustaki judge kama uyo?????just asking......

[@terryann19]

Yessss the idiot judge was clearly bribed 🥺🥺🥺

[@kinyualydiah7217]

I agree

[@Chings001]

My goodness. A whole magistrate asked a woman NOT to breastfeed HER child!!! That magistrate/s should be outed! The poor poor children!!! Also, kwani that man bribes everyone? Our judiciary is rotten!!!! To the core. And that man surely...no communication when the kids are with him? It is not fair. Why can't she go to a higher court?

[@dorineorucho5658]

He works there i guess

[@MuzvareBettyMakoni]

Great point. Why would a magistrate oppress a baby like this. Whole case must go for debate in parliament

[@katekaruga1820]

Right! No humanity in service 😭😭😭

[@liliankaminto3243]

Tkk worked on this issue.

[@fraciahgitau7624]

God please give this Lady a Man who will love her because they're good men out there.

[@susanobwogi9099]

If you have never been abused emotionally youll never understand why she stayed after all that. Emotional abuse is the worst abuse one can go through. It makes u feel so worthless

[@Njeri-]

She is so calm, one would listen to her all day This shows that God takes care of his own no matter what happens,He never left waithera even when everything else was against her and now here she is here encouraging so many people going through the same thing, let's love ourselves, let's choose ourselves over and over again💕💕💕

[@DM-rh7ul]

True

[@emillywandera5296]

Yeah I love her attitude

[@jpwabob8149]

For the first time i have genuinely laughed and cried with pain at the same time..... pole dancing for him and he still slept!! It's painful but the way she said it made me laugh.... Susan you are strong, Waithera you are gorgeous.

[@kammusic22]

She has reminded me of when I made up my mind to leave my toxic job no one could stop me I was like a prisoner breaking free. So you hate your child for a man who has never given you a single coin. Our parents keep siding with pple who can never buy them even a coffin when they die.

[@annnyururu4670]

Was looking for this comment. Susan's parents failed her from the very first, when she had to go back to school with the kid. They failed to let her know of her worth. I thank God that she is recovering.

[@wanjiruciru6237]

@@annnyururu4670 and to think they are well off.They failed their daughter and grandkids.

[@rozy_mnk7550]

@@annnyururu4670 sometimes parents discourage us

[@annnyururu4670]

@@wanjiruciru6237 exactly, was expecting after amepata mtoto kaachwe home with a nanny. Bt unfortunately they were already ashamed of her and that's why they were forcing her to stay in a marriage even if she was abused.

[@dianahenry4993]

No message to the Ex means absolute healing.

[@jacquelinerasugu6744]

awesome

[@jemimahkithuku]

This is what I call courage. Very few people in your profession and background would share such a story publicly. I’m astounded by the judicial process dealt out to you. In London it’s a no brainier, just by the virtue of the childrens age they would have automatically been left with the mother and the husband would have been asked to vacate the marital home

[@angelagaraipasi701]

That's what I also know , where I came from is the same all kids under 18 goes with the mother.

[@synthia-marlonm2138]

What you are describing is not common in the african culture, but it's very common in the western culture to side with the mother, unless there's evidence that she's unstable and incapable. In her case with tangible evidence of domestic abuse, that guy would be somewhere behind bars. And then with divorce comes spousal support which would stop if the woman remarries and child support would stop until the kids turn 18. I wonder if he would have remarried if he was held accountable for these dues!! She could also sell her storyline for a movie with Lifetime or Hallmark. networks.

[@estherevelyn.6729]

Yes

[@muge1928]

@@synthia-marlonm2138 please speak for your own country, don't lump the whole of Africa in there, because where I come from children less than 7 almost always go with the mum and if the kids are older than that they then consider other factors and decide accordingly.

[@evamai3545]

At least you "swept the House" 😂 😂 that man was WICKED!

[@healthywithbenna]

Sweeping that house made me feel a bit better too phewwww!!🤣🤣🤣 Such a beautiful inside out woman. Bless your heart Susan ❤

[@mamag6886]

Lyn thank you for sharing this, I thought I was cursed, my story is just like hers but the difference was that I am not a lawyer and he is. That guy tormented me I have never recovered, sometimes I feel like my body is numb I can't feel anything 😪. This has given me the courage to keep being strong for my girls. Someday I will be brave and come out to tell people about my life.

[@rodahjerop4582]

Hugs dear

[@Ryanabdgian]

Pole mum

[@beatricemuringi4120]

May The Lord restore to you what the evil one stole. The years, the courage and life.

[@elizabethmuthoni7049]

Be strong dear

[@jacquelinerasugu6744]

pole mum...hugs

[@benahtv5251]

My Lyn is going to get wrinkles on her fore face from frowning because of these sad stories 😢

[@chris-rosemlam8776]

Susan is such an amazing person. May God continue to heal and restore her soul through the work she does selflessly for others. Her life story made me cry for all she went through in the hands of this naccissist man. Her children will grow up and they will make their own decisions and pray they become good husbands to their wives. I am asured you have raised gentleman that will forever love you in all their lives. God will continue to bless you through your children.

[@michaelreeves5072]

Wow, This story really touched me in a special way for many reasons. I have a mother and sisters and the thought of them being devalued to this extent...It wouldn't end nicely for the guy.

[@MrsMabusu]

That part of breastfeeding!! That got me in tears

[@charitymkanjala5660]

Me too, i cursed the so called advocate, but malipo ni hapa tuu.i was even wondering whether they were bribed or they are the chosen "Judases" of this world used by God, lots of questions 😥

[@jacquelinerasugu6744]

can you imagine!this guy that gave this ruling can not be a father!not possible!how now!

[@paulinemwangi7560]

Imagine. Sad sad sad

[@lydiahwaithira3654]

Me too aki.

[@Wanjamburu.23]

Kenya Law is an ass. Am thinking he used to frustrate her case since he is a Judge he easily manipulates the guys handling the case

[@gracekamau2194]

Thank you Lynn for bringing Susan on the show,she is a strong woman, sharing such an emotional life experience.

[@jasminerron5625]

This was so me I tried all I could to my marriage but waaa..I came to make peace with me and tell myself you know what 'marriage is not for me..'since then I'm OK on my own

[@aieshasylla8186]

It is my theory this man just wanted what his deceased friend had. It could be extreme jealousy against his friend or hatred. Whatever it was, it was the same bad energy he showed this woman and his friend’s son. I pray you and your family are guarded against all kinds of evil. What a formidable woman you are!

[@evejblessing5401]

True,had the same in mind

[@pwanja]

My exact thought! He must have been insanely jealous of his friend's girlfriend & now that he finally had her the next emotion was spite! His day of comeback is coming! I wonder how his current marriage is going? I'm sure the wife would also have a story to tell coz a leopard does not change its spots tabia ni ile ile!!!

[@kadalaful]

My thoughts too. Also, what killed his friend? This is deep

[@gloriadraru8291]

You have articulately voiced my thoughts.

[@judynjeri766]

@@kadalaful my thoughts too what was the cause of his death?

[@TheCandidTherapist]

I can only imagine the pain you went through, you are truly a professional and a dedicated one, your story has given me goosebumps and I caught myself screaming from inside demanding for jungle justice, anyway let me work on my triggers, as the self absorbed and full of s-- -t narcissist, good riddance to toxic BS he can't be a husband to anyone, congratulations for overcoming the trauma bond.

[@irenekaptingei6593]

You are a strong woman the courage to come out and encourage other women going through the same situation, this is humbling and amazing ,may God continue to uplift you as you serve the families to the best of your ability in court and help you recover from the trauma.

[@SilviaWanjihia]

Her voice is beautiful,her face is beautiful.He was just trying to demean and make her have self esteem but she came out strong

[@fridahblessed9296]

My exact sentiments the man wanted to destroy everything good left in her.

[@leahngugi5918]

The man must be a narcissist

[@jacquelinerasugu6744]

Awesome mama beautiful inside and out

[@esezaapio4999]

I am watching from Uganda. Honestly I have tried to search out anything ugly from you right from your head to the bottom and I don't see anything. You are Very beautiful girl!!!!! May God cause you to shine again and again as well as your children. God has a purpose for your life. May you find that purpose. Lots of love from Uganda 🙏

[@esthernjoroge9686]

Beautiful and wonderfully made. He makes everything beautiful in His timing. Mama, you are raising mighty warriors of valour….yours will be beautiful victory ❤️❤️

[@rosewairimu5305]

Such a beauty,,God bless you gal

[@rosewairimu5305]

You are such a great lady

[@mercywambui3400]

Susan, we thank God for you. You were able to break free from an abusive marriage, you will be fine. God in his mercy, will watch over your children. Your life is getting better and it will be well. Your strength and refuge is God and he never disappoints. A few years from today you will by law, have reclaimed your children. God will take care of you. Your children will turn out well. God will turn this whole experience to your good. Just wait and see.

[@faithkimathi4068]

In South Africa, children are open about co parenting experiences to their peers and friends. I know it's difficult but I hope with time Kenyans ladies (from a global perception) will also accept co-parenting inconveniences so that the children will suffer less. I feel for you Susan, may the Lord uphold you and our children.

[@frankwilliams2018]

Finally the kids will come back to settle with their mother reason being she has a good base argument for the reunion for life. This question from kids to their father is very heavy "" what did our mother really do to you """ this question will set the kids free from jail. Finally this why I distance myself from any court related matters because there is no justice anywhere apart from our God YHWH. May the Lord continue giving her strength.