THIS is what happens over 40 (Gay & Over 40) | Patrick Marano

[@AngloFrancoDane]

I am 69 and 40s seems prime time to me. I am a lawyer and worked on a number of gay rights cases. I lost many friends to AIDS. But, I love the fact that I'm still here and life is good.

[@PatrickMarano]

Beautiful!

[@sgtpppr]

Without question my 40's were WAY more than 20's&30's.

[@Seraphi89]

Thank you so much! 🫂 ❤

[@alanaban1840]

If these friend was not gay they would be still with us today/ still and men do not do what is correct/ gay men do what is right/ put things in places they were design/ do not use an exit for shit as an entrance for you penis/ do not use you bottom ass hole as a vergina/ it is not/ sex is between woman vergina and men penis-only/ do not pervert the use of you body parts/ woman was made for man not man for man/

[@willgoliath]

I'm 69, almost 70. I've been HIV+ since the 80's. Truly grateful and surprised I'm still here.

[@PatrickMarano]

WOW! That is truly amazing!

[@pompom11]

I remember one of my best friends in 1995 was at his last and final “cocktail” he had Aids and was skeletal, his skin was yellow and green. The next time I saw him he looked healthy as ever, found a new pill. He’s 72 and doing great! I’m neg and monogamous, works for us. I’m way older than my husband I snatched him up, he’d only been with one guy; my Lottery 💕

[@tjegan1417]

I'm 64 and retired and enjoy the daily freedom!!!

[@palmermccall7309]

When I turned 29 (1998), I had a bit of an "I'm almost *30*" freak-out. The next year when I turned 30, I realized how lucky I was to have survived my (awful) 20s, and since then feel that each birthday is a reward/something to be thankful for. 54 now, and glad to still be here!

[@PatrickMarano]

Love that

[@djmixnmagic]

Being 29 is so awful. It's like, you're in the last of year or any real youth. Then you hit 30 and it's like, Wow... I'm 30. And then it's all free-fallin' fun from there! The constant aches and pains notwithstanding. 🙃

[@rubenlaracuente8991]

61 HERE SO GLAD STILL IN SHAPE HEALTHY READY TO SETTLE DOWN

[@bigg368]

I'm 61 and my partner is 71. We've been together for 37 years. We've had an amazing life together. Unfortunately my partner has come down with Parkinson's disease and is now slowly dying before my eyes. We both survived the AIDS epidemic in the 1980s and are well aware of the suffering and dying process. We lost many friends to AIDS. Watched my parents die in front of me 6 years ago and now my partner. I'm so so grateful to have found true love with him. You experience the extremes of life when you are partnered. Your highs are 20s not 10s and your lows are minus 20 instead of zero.

[@PatrickMarano]

Congrats on 37 years together. I"m sorry to hear your partner is sick, but he's lucky to have you during this time

[@dlg5485]

I use to think 30, 40, 50 were old, but now that I'm 55, I think every age is what you make it. I'm in better health and feel more vitality than when I was 40. About 5 years ago I started to put a lot more effort into protecting my health, but we all deteriorate to some extent, no matter how healthy you are and I'm no different. I'm just trying to stick around for as long as I can so I can really enjoy the fruits of my labor when I finally get to retire, but the insomnia, late night pee breaks, bad vision, etc all take a toll. The other thing is that I stopped dating years ago because I hated it. Truth is I never dated much to begin with. Gay men can sometimes be so goddamn shallow and fickle and I just got tired of the superficiality of it all, then I realized that I actually liked being on my own because it allowed me to focus on my job and saving for retirement. However, the older I get, the more I think I should get back out there and meet someone because I do want someone to enjoy my retirement years with. We'll see...

[@mtnboy95338]

I turned 63 just 3 months ago. It seems Patrick that you are reading my own story. Oddly I don't remember having these difficulties in my 40s.

[@dennismanning3964]

I'll be 65 in December. I was almost 10 when Stonewall happened. I came out at 22, raised in a small town by Southern Baptists. Soon, saw us being chased by baseball bats in gay bar parking lots, the fear and devastation of AIDS, the 80's!!! the shock of Angels In America, the popularity of Will And Grace, the vicious hypocrisy of the religious machine, the realization that my husband and I never think about going anywhere with fear. ..... um, WOW!

[@pauloafonsodeoliveira4575]

I'm 65. The only man I loved in my life didn't have courage to take on our relationship. That was a long time ago... After more than 25 years all by myself I met a 38 year young gentleman who loves me. We've been living together for two and a half years. I've survived ❤❤❤ all the prejudice of the 70's, The HIV era and had to endure all my friends death. Thirteen of them. Just one was left.I was exchanged for a woman due to social issues. Continued working... Survived the Covid! And life must go on! Greetings from Brazil

[@Sanpedranoazul]

40s are awesome 🥳🥳 but yes, everything changes, looking better than ever 🎉🎉

[@Ladiopfa]

You are so real, I just love you! I’m 54 but I must say that in my kickboxing class and in the gym I see a lot of guys in their 30ies and 40ies whose general condition is not really better than mine. So this can also be inspiring. 🤣 However, your observations are spot on. Thank you so much.

[@rockyhayles7693]

I am 44 and this video is exactly how I feel. I’m shocked how much my body doesn’t want to do the things it used to do. No one ever warned me this would start as soon as 40. I’m over weight and I thought it was just because of my weight but seeing how fit you are and you are experiencing similar things makes me feel a little better, and worse. I was hoping losing the weight might make it all go away. It’s all down hill from here it seems. Life is funny, you finally get wisdom and financial security right when your body starts to deteriorate. My 31 year old judo fighting fiancé isn’t feeling it yet and I keep warning him how much all those injuries he suffers now are going to hurt much worse in 10 years. Time to start coaching. We all think, it won’t happen to me, until it does. I feel you my friend. Getting older sucks. Thanks for sharing.

[@garryleegriffith1573]

I am 82 years old and watching you

[@PatrickMarano]

Yay!

[@tomterrific4377]

I’m almost 74 and I came out when I was 20. The 70’s were very liberating but the 80’s brought AIDS and major lifestyle changes. By the middle of the decade I discovered 12 step Recovery (Al anon) and got very involved in the program to the point where I earned a certificate in drug & alcohol counseling. I never drank did drugs or smoked so I was able to pass for much younger through my 4o’s. Then I met the love of my life and we remained monogamous. That’s when my body began falling apart. Since then I’ve had cataract surgery, developed high blood pressure and Glaucoma. I’ve also begun wearing reading glasses. I have a pair in each room and one by the door for when I go out. My partner passed away last year and most of my friends have either moved away or passed away. So my big issue now is loneliness. Thank God for gay porn!

[@PatrickMarano]

I'm sorry to hear about your partner. Sounds like you've lived a life! And yes, thank god for gay porn!

[@djmixnmagic]

Have you considered volunteering? I'm a pretty solitary character myself, but hope to make new friends by volunteering when I'm older. Rather looking forward to it.

[@gurneydocarmojunior9842]

I'm 57 and became disabled 4 years ago. Learning a lot!!!

[@keithblevins5093]

I'm the same as you. I became disabled 11 years ago. Kind of sucks. Good luck in life.

[@tvmasterc]

I am partially disabled, as I had a stroke 11 years ago. It happened on the 28th anniversary of my best friend's suicide. He was my first love. It turns out I had never come to terms with his death.

[@keithblevins5093]

Sorry for your situation. We are similar. I also had a stroke 11 years ago. It has changed my life in ways I still haven't come to terms with. Wishing you all the best.@@tvmasterc

[@willnoiles2001]

I can relate to this as well. Had a work injury in my early 30s. Am now 55. Need a cane (on good days) to get around along with pain meds for the constant pain. Certainly never considered this when I was in my 20s. But at least I’m still here, even if it does take me a lot more time to get anywhere…

[@peterdunlap7126]

I'm 57 and you look great in your glasses.

[@PatrickMarano]

Oh thank you!

[@briankraemer8139]

I recently turned 60 and I swear 40 to 60 flew by. A few years ago, someone asked me my age and I said, "47." Then I had to think about it for several seconds before realizing I was actually 57! I so enjoy listening to you, a handsome younger man, talk about getting "old," so funny. I remember in my forties reading a Craig's List ad from a young man talking about how attracted he was to older gay men. He went on and on about how older gay men are already established in their work. They make a good living. They know who they are. They are confident. They know how to have a deep and real relationship and so on. I was salivating thinking about this handsome young man in his early twenties who had the hots for older gay men like me! Then he finished his lengthy list with, "No one over 30!" I laughed out loud. For this twink, older gay men were 27 or 28, but certainly not over 30. Too funny. Anyway, welcome to 40. You are still SO young and SO handsome. I know it's fun to talk about your ailments, but enjoy how youthful you still are. Plus, there are handsome young men in their twenties and thirties who will totally think you are perfect for them. Enjoy!

[@PatrickMarano]

haha thanks for sharing that story... too much!

[@joser2347]

I will be 44 on the 24th. You had me laughing the entire time. Everything was true true. Loving the content and the honesty. It's an opportunity to improve is the way I look at it. I am glad I found your channel. It gives me strength to persist. ❤

[@PatrickMarano]

Happy birthday!!

[@beaukat3]

I’m 73 and still kicking

[@timothymoore6341]

Glad you're still with us!

[@frankcorrea8691]

You in your mind can control how young or old you want to feel, we all someday will age more and more, straight and gay, only when?😮

[@timothymoore6341]

I"m 47, will be 48 next month on the 22nd of November. I enjoying being in my 40s! To age is a privilege! I have been going to the gym more lately, as I'd like to be in shape. Stretching is important and I have been still sore at the gym. But it's worth it. If you're not sore, you're not doing it right. No pain, no gain!

[@mikeknuckles6430]

I will turn 75 November 23😊 i went to my first spa before covid. It was fantastic. It was everything I ever fantasized about. I went twice this year.

[@PatrickMarano]

So cool!

[@LuigiPalombi]

I'm 64 my husband 60 , we have been married for 30 years on November 4th.

[@PatrickMarano]

Wow congrats!!

[@dmherzer5848]

I'm 63 and cared for many older brothers during the AIDS crisis. So grateful for them, they taught me so much! I love your videos Patrick!

[@a-5699]

And yes Patrick, everything you said, needing glasses, happier to stay home than going out, soreness, stiffness (not just the fun kind) and your bladder ruling the night is now my world too. And I can still party hard too, but the price I pay in pain and uselessness for 1-2 days is getting too expensive.

[@ejbear8403]

70-- I've used "Reader" glasses for over 20 years. Recently got a Wireless Mouse for the Computer and was SO glad I didn't have to read the Instructions...the print on the pamphlet that came w/ it is SO miniscule that even w/ a Magnifying Glass, it's still unreadable. Great fun video today!

[@DAVIDLRINER]

Oh my god! You have just, in this instance, brought ALL of my life factors as a gay man over 50. I COMPLETELY understand every single thing you have expressed so succinctly. Well done. I will definitely be watching you and have just subscribed. Thank you! Well done and very easy on the eyes, too…🤗

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for watching David! I'm glad it resonated with you!

[@GeneFX58]

I'm 65, my husband is 60. We've been together 24 yrs.

[@PatrickMarano]

Amazing!!

[@haywoodfowler4791]

I'm 70 years old. Love your videos

[@haywoodfowler4791]

All that you said happens and even more. I want gay sex all the time. Versatile

[@JackMason-oq8lf]

I'm the same age as Old People. Lots of coffee, cream and sugar, all nighters, 99¢ cheese & white bread, cigarettes, meat all colors, Coke and Pepsi, Fritos and bean dip, no reverence for marketing words "vegan" or "organic," definitely no gym. I always walked miles a day everywhere I go. If I couldn't walk there, I didn't go. More coffee. Dr Pepper. Pizza. All nighters. And of all the kids from my school who moved to New York in the 70s, I am the last one standing. Finally, peace and quiet. I can hear my film noir movie. Stanwyck is fabulous (I didn't get AIDS btw). The children have discovered Preppy, which puts my wardrobe back in style. They love maximalism in decor, brown furniture. Strike two, my place looks like an old aunty, with good taste, lives here. I like my decades of stuff. I didn't plan any of this longevity stuff. I just got lucky. Plus, I still have issues with High School.

[@JackMason-oq8lf]

7 in in of

[@dk5802]

I just turned 50 this year a can relate to all of what you’re saying. I must say it is weird to hear you referred to yourself as elderly, because you look greatttt and your skin looks flawless👍👏

[@deoradh]

Some of this started hitting when I was 35. :)

[@dominicflorio5708]

I'm 64 and I was grinning during your rants becasue it is all accurate concerning aging. I'm not a drinker, but the going out is totally relatable. I'll add something about sex. I still love it and I usually climax everyday, by myself or with a hookup, being that I'm single. If I find the time, I can climax more than once a day. the difference is that I may not approach a partner or porn, being "ready". The stimulation of making out or watching a film will do the job, but when I was younger, I was ready before anything began. The tightness of the body, as you spoke about, is a constant battle. It is sort of good to hear that I'm not the only one.

[@peterszecsi84]

This video is actually accurate to me as I’ll turn 40 in next September . I don’t feel like a 40 year old mentally but my body tells another story lol 😂

[@Tribalking]

46 and am dealing with some of this stuff ! I do get happy when people cancel , if it’s raining , snowing, past 8 am not going out . I can’t see menus very well. I have to take a pic w my phone then expand it . There’s a tip for u. I could go on and on lol 😅

[@Yanay30]

im 46, i;m just 2 months behind you. Can SO relate to the sleeping part, haha. "in my bed, in my room, darkness, silence, eye mask on, ear plugs in" - yes, word for word. And even then, wake up for no reason 5 times a night.... welcome to old age👵

[@luisespinoza8391]

The off ramp for 55 is quickly approaching for me and as much as I refuse to accept that I'm getting older, my body reminds me especially after yoga. I move like a turtle after class. But if there are cute guys in the class, I make sure to bring my A game in the chance they may be watching. Lol

[@user-yp7be3vz2e]

i'll be 70 in about a year. i'm done with sex, romance and relationships of any kind but there's other aspects of life that more than hold my interests

[@dandelan]

55 here. It's all very relatable... The thing is, when you reach middle age and beyond, a lot of us have seen it all and done it all (at least once or twice 😂). Most of us still could again, but there is a (usually very high physical) price to pay. So we often choose not to, because we don't need to prove anything to anyone anymore. We value other options more. And honestly, that's just liberating.

[@PatrickMarano]

Liberating is a great word for it!

[@pouetpouetdaddy5]

when you liberate yourself of your build up identity and personality...your need to change the world...the freedom you get. Can't stand newspapers now. Reading philosophy now is so much more fun

[@tcsargea]

67 here , Surrey BC , missed the bath house raids in Toronto by 2 weeks moving to Vancouver , still enjoy the baths every week usually blackout Sunday at the Steam 1 in New Westminster , enjoy your program , honesty and all the Bath House tours . Have been to The 3 “24 “-😅 in Tokyo AMAZING And “8” in Osaka WONDERFUL , all of them had fun at and would recommend . Different style in Japan but sex was same …big hugs

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey thanks for watching and the recommendations

[@markharty9772]

All of this resonates with me and makes me feel a lot better. Thank you!❤

[@wvusciguy]

48 here. Started doing yoga in grad school in my 20’s. Flexibility is so key to preventing injury and helping my joint discomfort

[@greggtilghman6349]

59, graduated high school in 1983 and watched friends die during "the gay cancer" by the score. It was frightening so much that I stopped having sex at 17 and didn't start having sex again until my 30's. The love of my life, an 11 year monogamous relationship started at 37 as friends, then friends with benefits and everyone that met us thought we were a couple until one day we realized we were. When we decided to accept it, 2 days later, we found out Mark had HIV. Thanks to combivir and sustiva, he became undectectable, at least till meth took him from me. I, myself am a meth survivor, but to be brutally honest, if it shows up one day, I'm not altogether sure I can say no to it. The addictive thing about that substance is what it unleashed in me during sex. That's the addictive part. Since Mark exited my life, I've had no life, no clubs, no bars, no friends, just work, home and porn, I'm just waiting to be recycled back into the earth.

[@bookworm5433]

Honey that's sad, I'm sorry. Meth is evil, I've been off it 10 years. All it does is hurt people. I hate it.

[@PatrickMarano]

oh geez... you have so much more living to do, and look at all you conquered... from HIV/AIDS to Meth! I kicked meth 15 years ago. I was a daily user and my HIV turned to full blown AIDS. But I wasn't gonna let that win. I got on meds and have been undetectable for the last 15 years. Have you thought about joining a club or sport to meet people?

[@dabeage]

Your story is not unfamiliar to me...we just have to approach things a little differently but we still have good living to do.

[@bigg368]

I can relate for sure about the AIDS epidemic in the 80s. I'm 61 and my partner is 71. We watched many of our friends die. We had two roommates who dies of AIDS. That was a lot of death at 24 and 34. Then my parents dies 6 years ago and recently my partner of 37 years was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. His is a rare form and compared to AIDS suffering, this is far far worse if you can imagine it. I am now his full time caregiver and still I wouldn't want to be with anyone else in the whole world. Hang in there. You could easily have 30 years left. Don't give up.

[@onehandtyping958]

Thank you bigG, I need reminding sometimes that some are atruggling just as hard if not harder than I am. Prayers are with you and your partner. Much ❤️!!!

[@bobr9689]

70 y/o here - actually had to put this video on pause so much, that I ended up with 7 (handwritten) pages of notes. Re: the sleep thing - when I was much younger, I actually fell asleep, holding onto a guy riding a motorcycle, on the Interstate (for where he was taking me I do not remember) - now keep a green nightlight under my bed at night, so it lights up the floor when I get up to go pee w/o waking myself up completely by turning on the overhead light. Re: water aerobics, they REALLY are a game changer! There was a period years back, where I literally could not bend over to pick something up off the floor/ ground. After 5 years of 3 X weekly water aerobics ( and every summer in a friend's pool), I have no trouble bending over - just hope I don't fall over like Arte Johnson in the old Rowan & Martin Laugh-In Show. And my dog knows if she wants some loving from me, she has to get up on my level (usually in the recliner or in bed)

[@protoculture4319]

Been a hot minute since I’ve watched a video of yours, good to see you Patrick! I’m 38yrs old and I totally relate to when people you are scheduled to hang out with cancel plans and there is relief. Like I do like hanging out with friends when I want to but I really enjoy my alone time more than ever now and I’m generally introverted.

[@PatrickMarano]

Welcome back!

[@hausofmstudios]

You have me dying of laughter so much and never have I ever felt more SEEN in a video! The way you describe various moments like the differences in going out in your 20’s versus now…. Wow.. SAME!!! I almost lost it when you were describing walking your dog lol keep the amazingly genuine, funny, honest, gay content coming! Great video as usual! 10:37

[@PatrickMarano]

Wow, cheers for that!

[@GCMCTORONTO]

I luv the honestly. I was laughing so hard because I had the same experience with reading menu. Once in my 40s, I put on contacts for vanity and forgot to bring my reading glasses. My best gf had to read out what's on the menu. We had a good laugh after. BTW, stretches are good and don't ever stop. 3 years of COVID lockdowns had ruined my flexibility! cos I didn't do stretching at all, excuses were not able to get to the gym (closed), reality was I got lazy. Now literally, I have a hard time going down on my knees... and once, I almost couldn't get (used to spring ) up and had to grab on the guy for support, soooooo mortified! 61 going on 62 (not 16, 17, lol!). I really enjoy your channel: real and honest.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for sharing your story with us!

[@jeffwatkins352]

I’m 71, having lived a very different life from yours. Never a party animal, I now relish solitude more than ever, hoarding the time I have left for my massive vlog. The physical ills I can relate to, however, especially the failing eyesight. I don’t have quite the same aches as you’re experiencing but do have my own. But why dwell on any of those? I’m now living my best life. Deal with the bad then get back to enjoying the good.

[@stoneself]

"wait 'til you get to my age" lol! 53, partnered for 22 years

[@salvadorlloret-farina8767]

Re over night thirst and pee breaks during sleep. What is your salt intake like and what are you drinking before bed? Effective distribution of hydration and more importantly retention on a cellular level requires sufficient salts. If just before you go to bed you are diluting the concentration of salts in the bloodstream further, such as by drinking plain water , you might be increasing the amount of moisture you exhale whilst at the same time filling up your bladder. I mitigated this by drinking less overall fluid before bed but with added hydration salts, it solved the dry throat and cut down the pee breaks.

[@PatrickMarano]

oh thanks!

[@markwagner4909]

I’m 65 and my partner of 22 years is 70 The honeymoon is still growing strong

[@garygansbrubaker]

Congrats, Mark! ❤ I hope that you have many more happy and healthy years together.

[@markwagner4909]

@@garygansbrubaker thank you. We know we are on the slope But I’m hoping to match my grandmother life and live to be 102!

[@frankcorrea8691]

Way to go, it's called compatibility and respect each other's wishes doesn't hurt😮

[@edwardlawrence2536]

I'm 78. Overall I've had a good life. 15 years ago my partner of 30 years died at the age of 92 I live without a partner now. Sometimes I wish I lived with a good partner. I'm thankful that single life is pretty good.

[@ScottA2345]

Right on point with the gym. A lot of gay guys started the gym in their youth - when the body recovers from an intense workout in a day. Now in my 50's, about 75% of my routine is about recovery. 25% working out - 75% recovery. Slow and steady is the rule nowadays.

[@rkgaustin]

My favorite childhood memory is my back not hurting.

[@PatrickMarano]

hahahaha

[@dramonmaster222]

I just turned 44 last month so this is SO relevant.

[@1912luigi]

I’m 36 and I totally understand everything you talk about in this video. I thought I was just getting weird but now I realize It’s just aging 😂

[@danielimpastato3466]

Patrick I am almost 69. I am very active; fit at 5'6 and 130. I have been sporty all my life. You are so right. Many of my friends never made it to 35 let alone 40. I recommend Hot Yoga over 40 along with weight training.I do 5- 6 classes a week and sometimes two in one day. Thank you Patrick for this content . It's been a minute since I turned 40. You look terrific❣

[@Greggory1987]

Excellent video! I am 59!

[@tomprivate3362]

I'm working on my 70's.....I worked hard physical jobs all my life, now I'm living with a body falling apart faster than repairs can be made. Life has become a challenge. The constant 24/7 pain just reminds me I'm alive. Ah the years of my youth.......I can relate to the stories you tell about your 20's.

[@sgjoni]

49 and I relate to it all… apart from maybe the bending, though I can feel it creeping on. But I now have the granny glasses on my head or on my nose all constantly… and the hangover for 3 days after barely drinking one time, while being fine after a binge another… I agree, what’s up with that 😂

[@dannygsc]

While it's still hard for me to believe it, I am now 70 years old! Where did the time go? I'm thankful I've made this far and also thankful I'm still able to take care of myself. It hasn't been easy the last several years.

[@a-5699]

I’m 50. Yes, I hurt myself sleeping too Patrick 😂. You comment about seeing gay marriage legalized reminded me the average early 20’s gay guy doesn’t know a thing about those who paved the way for them. Ageism prevents the transfer of experience and wisdom from older gays to the next generation. For example, the AIDS epidemic and the fear of STI’s is gone. We’re right back to the carefree days of the 1970’s. I don’t know how to change this, it’s cultural, but I hope it will change one day before the sequel comes.

[@garygansbrubaker]

I think about this a lot. I’m still HIV- at 57, and I’m not on PReP, but 30 years ago I was holding the hands of friend after friend and even my neighbours because their friends were either already gone or were unable to handle the situation. We’re talking about some of the most amazing, talented and passionate friends anyone could ever wish for, and I had times when I had two or three die in one day! Now they are able to go complete bareback, and I’m not slut-shaming, but I’m hoping that they’re taking their one a day pills as instructed because it took so many people away so quickly, and I worry that if they don’t stick with taking it they could create a resistant retrovirus that will be more difficult to treat.

[@a-5699]

@@garygansbrubaker Thanks Gary, I feel like my concerns fall on deaf ears. The same reckless behavior that helped perpetuate the AIDS epidemic will strike again in another virus/disease. I hope I’m wrong. I didn’t venture into the gay world until I was 36. Even then, looking much younger than my age, I was rejected by younger guys when they learned I was old (over 30). I think it’s worse now. There is such a disconnect between age groups amongst gays that the cycle of death and blame will repeat.

[@mattilahde5220]

I'm 42 and living my best life. Beeing young is hard when emotions are all over the place. And my sex life is better than ever with partners who are 16-60 years old

[@alexalexis7899]

You hook up with 16 year olds? Where do you live?

[@DukeSaiko]

Sleeping.... I can so relate

[@gordongt1272]

I'm 72, came out in 1975. Stood on the shoulders of many, now others stand on mine. Turning 40 was the best thing that happened to me as it was when I realized how much that had streesed me out and caused anxiety were all bullsh*t. Would love to hear how you feel in a couple of years, you may agree! Thanks for a fun video!

[@jodykostal9840]

I’m 66 and have been though all these things! I really hope these things don’t mess up your life.

[@ericnelson5171]

I'm 75 and getting ready for a heart operation. Lots of depth from all the years. Am a gay sheep farmer now. Love you.💗💗

[@PatrickMarano]

A gay sheep farmer? I love that!

[@keithkeeler6938]

Love your videos! I'm 57. I should exercise, I use to. But now I'm single and I don't care. Lol 😂. Thank you your videos.

[@lazarusdeagneaux1817]

I am 2 weeks away from turning 40, and I am also a gay man, but I also understand that it's a privilege getting to be 40. I could have died right after turning 30! Literally. I had cardiac arrest and am in the 3% that survived. So, that has given me much gratitude now 10 years later. I can relate to a lot of what your talking about getting older, but I just try to get to the chiropractor at least once a month. Then, my daily routine stretching and exercise. As far as my vision that's always been a struggle since middle school. Contacts has been a close friend for years lol.

[@PatrickMarano]

I might have to have ongoing chiro appointments at this point... good idea!

[@kuransays]

37 here and yep so much of this resonated with me. I didn't used to workout per se, just regular cardio and walking, but now I'm trying to lift some light weights a bit and do more upper body exercises and more intense squats. Sometimes I can get away with not stretching but other times, nope lol. I'm so tense that I have to stretch to make it through the routine that day haha. However, I only recently came out as gay last year, so I don't have alot of gay friends yet, but I'm slowly working on it lol. Actually I'm going to meet one of them sometime next weekend at their house to watch a movie. I've only met them once before at a restaurant and he seems really nice, so please wish me well on this journey. 😊

[@PatrickMarano]

Wow, what an exciting time for you!! Let us know how it goes!

[@kuransays]

Thanks, I will - and thank you for doing the video, love it! @@PatrickMarano

[@jshonert]

Patrick you are so good looking and you don’t look old. I will leave another comment here later. I’m so glad you are having this discussion for all of us. ❤

[@michaelstuermer3915]

For me, I stopped feeling strong and healthy once I got into my 50's. Urinating is always an emergency. Aches and pains can no longer be ignored as they are likely symptoms of an underlying condition. It's that age when the habits of your youth come back to haunt you in the worst ways possible. It was the age when I truly came to realize and fear my mortality.

[@wichertvangelder1197]

OMG , you’re talking about me 😅 I feel connected 😊

[@CarlTippins]

i turned 62 3 weeks ago and I can relate to everything you said when I was in my 40's. My situation is that I was in a LTR until I was 39 when my partner passed away from cancer. I was devastated. It took me about 5 years before I started/wanted to date again. Boy, was I in for a shock!! Being 44, and dating was a whole lot different from when I was 23 and dating. After several bad relationships (thankfully, they were all very short), I just decided I wasn't even going to try anymore. I resolved that I was most likely going to be single for the rest of my life...which is ok. The only thing I really miss is companionship. Friends can fill some of that void, but not all of it.

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey don't count it out... you never know what the future brings!

[@PETER394100]

70 year old gay guy here. Being single is WAY better than being stuck with somebody you can’t get rid of for various reasons (drug or alcohol abuser, physical abuse, won’t work or contribute, becomes disabled). Don’t ever fear being single because when you are you have hope and endless possibilities you wouldn’t have otherwise.

[@PaddyEdwardC]

I am almost 40 ❤ I am 38 years old.

[@onefiercechild]

I'm about to turn the big 5-0 this week. As with many in the comments, we can all relate. I'm ok with it all for the most part. It changes your perspective, it's part of growing and prioritising your life. I don't think it is something to mourn. Your body is naturally aging as it should. You can't do much about that aside from being as healthy as you can be. Your social groups change. The ones that should remain in your life will others you will outgrow - as you should. With things like glasses, once you get past your own vanity, for me, they are another (necessary) accessory used to express yourself. The gay community is a fickle shallow community generally speaking. I've matured and not gotten old. You can still be fun as you age and remain young at heart.

[@PatrickMarano]

here, here!

[@johngalt5411]

62, partnered for 17+ years. Past couple of years started getting interest from younger guys, it appears I'm a "daddy" now, it's very flattering.

[@alienzardsketter.9076]

I am also 62 and when I was 50 years old they was no way in the world I would even think of talking to a man 40 Hey baby , I am from the country and Verna Jean ,, they ant no Little boy can fill up this mud hole of a heart of mine ,, It takes a brutal stud ,, I dont want to take on any children to raise at my age ,,, Verna Jean is a old weathered Mountain man ,, I never even looked at men under 40 I would say get out my way Little Queens ,, then I became on mature and grew in understanding.well a few years ago ,, I had some work done on my house and I hired this man and he brought three or four young men to help him ,, one was 27 ,, that Little fellow keep looking at me and talking to me , and I thought whats that kid messing with me for ? after the job was done he keep coming back to my house I said yea young man can I help you ? You sick need to call a Dr? No he would not stay away from my house ,,and It kind of made me feel ashamed I thought they Lord he is younger then my 40 year old son ,,but paid more attation to me then any adult male had in years ,, he wanted to be around me all the time ,,so the time came from the talk ,, I said Hey young man are you gay and do you realize I am well 58 at the time ,,He said no he was not gay ,, I said well you sure fooled me ,,I am a old veteran gay man ,, but in this small town every one forgot about me ,, so I thought well I will be nice to him ,, and I be damn if I did not start liking that Little handsome 27 year old man ,, Lord have mercy Verna Jean what in the world is wrong with you? He thinks I am his daddy now ,,I cant get rid of him and dont want to ,,I think in some crazy way I Love the Little fellow ,, He makes me happy when he visits me ,,, He has not had a girl friend in three years , and he lives with his grandmother ,, but it gives me something as a old man of 62 to do sometimes ,, and he seems to enjoy my company no sex , no kissy face Loving going on ,,,and now I cant stand to look at a old man my age they make me sick ,, that 27 year old man has distoryed me ,,I care about him now ,,and it happen just that way ,,,shocked me that that could ever happen ,, it does me good to just take him out to eat and look at him he is so beautiful ,,and that makes me happy I want him to be happy He says he Loves me , and I say why you say that ? your stiring up a old mans heart , for a heart break ,,and I ask my self Ok never feel nothing for no one or allow my self to feel and Love the Little man or run him off and buy me a grave plot? If he stays or if I never seen him again it makes no difference ,,I think he has younger boyfrinds ,, I dont care and if I did what good would it do me ,,, a young man is so much better Looking and healthy then a fellow my age ,,,Just be nice and enjoy in life what ever I can enjoy be kind to others...Love something even if it dont love you back .

[@ps1999]

Wow, how open you are. Me north of 60 just got back into going to the gym this year in January. I don't feel so bad, my weight lifting increases have been gradual, but I am lifting heaver weights than when I was in my 20's and 30's. Hell I am still watching and attracting the 20 somethings. I love seeing the straight guys with their girlfriends checking other guys out when the girls are looking the other way. You have to ignore your body betraying you, muscle on.

[@frankcorrea8691]

It helps if you have an air of confidence because you are older, not being an old arrogant entitled screeching old queen from manhatten@😅

[@stevenshute7788]

I'm 71. I didn't come out until I was 50. I don't feel like I fit into the community because I don't have gay friends, and I haven't had many of the "gay experiences."

[@a-5699]

I’m 50 and just coming out now. I also don’t feel like I fit in the gay community. I’m so glad and also sad to know my experience is not unique. Thank you for your post Steven 😊!

[@lifesjourneyunscripted]

I'm 65 and thoroughly enjoy your videos

[@HenryBird-yq1hm]

Patrick- l'm approaching 80, & haven't been in any relationship for over 14 years, & no lovers since then. I now reside in an old age home, have fallen & broken my back, so your videos are of delight & entertainment, so thank you, & l look forward to the next. 😊

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for sharing and for the support. I hope your back heals soon!

[@artie360]

Wow, I’m 71 and barely remember being in my 20’s.

[@PatrickMarano]

LOL

[@michaelseigler4702]

I am 56 years old and I have seen a lot of change during my lifetime. You are so right about getting older being a privilege... it's something you can't know when you are younger. You hit on a subject with one of your comments about older people stretching.... "The funny thing is, I just never noticed them before...they must have always been there, I just wasn't looking for them, or they weren't on my radar." I know you were talking about stretching... but, you just literally described the experience of getting older. The older you get, the more invisible you become to everyone around you... especially in the gay community. The segment about glasses, absolutely I am lost without them now. In my 20's I had 20/20 vision... now, nothing without at least readers. Just last month I woke up, stretched (while still lying in bed), and threw my back out. I was out of work for almost a week. I can relate to everything you said. But I can also add this. I love myself WAY better now than my 20 year old self. I am a much better person and I am so much more secure with everyone and everything. Our bodies may give way, but wow our sense of self skyrockets! Thanks so much for the video!

[@PatrickMarano]

100%... that's the trade off isn't it

[@frankcorrea8691]

You have alot more respect for your well being, than when you were much younger, took things for granted, no more, so aware of your surroundings!😮

[@humor411]

Thanks for coming out with this video, it's nice to be able to relate. I'm turning 42, and I can relate with the stretching, my lower back is a lot tighter, and I have to stretch my back on a regular basis and before exercising. I get random aches and pains sometimes as well in the joints. My energy level seemed to have went down since I've hit 40, I have to stay active and exercising to keep my energy level up from what I noticed also.

[@xoanwahn]

I'm 35 and nothing has every been smooth sailing. Never been skinny or athletic, have weak knees, always worn glasses, always had issues with sleep, etc. I'm just realizing, from watching this, I need to maybe start doing yoga or something to keep limber. I've also always been that person who just prefers to like stay in, sweatpants on, hot cuppa, watching a good show. I had like 3 good years in college of going out Thursday to Monday, going to class still half drunk. It was fun, I'm over it. Also had like a good slut phase. These days, it's just soooo much work! I just wanna be COZY!

[@gregorykollarus8190]

I just love ur vids

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you!!

[@joe791213]

you're literally describing my day-to-day life.... apart from the dog...but this video made me smile :)

[@divakingsley9020]

Hi Patrick🤗 I just turned 53 years old on October 20th..so I’ve literally lived through the AIDS crisis in the 80’s, known a few close friends, lovers that passed away. My 30’s were my best years…no ailments, credit score went higher and higher, not feeling awkward in my own skin like I did in my 20’s, etc..then my 40’s hit….Eyeglasses at 45 with Glaucoma in my right eye that I have to take drops for the rest of my life so it won’t get worse or even travel to my left eye I have to also put a drop in my left eye once a day, bumps and/or growths just showing up all of a sudden (this dark spot wasn’t here yesterday type of crap..LMAO), grey nostril hairs..UGH, SLEEP is more of what I call NIGHTIME NAPS…although I don’t have the Peeing situation I still can’t get an 8 hour sleep in..no matter what time I go to bed I still wake up at 4:30am..been about 20 years.LMAO), grey hairs (YEP TONS OF IT especially IN MY PUBIC region that are so sporadic that I find myself shaving it ALL off…which I’m fine with…I look young in my face and I’m skinny, but then I can’t expect a twink to go down on me and see grey pubes…So I completely SHAVE IT ALL OFF. Now I’m 53 and EVERYTHING above is still going on, but now there are certain foods that upset my tummy…onions, or any color of bell pepper give me soooo much gas, diarrhea, and just tummy discomfort I generally stay away from these food items or pick them out of the dish. Well that’s all for me, welcome to being considered Middle Aged and as long as you keep your heart and your mind healthy may you have many many many more years to go. It is what it is and it’s actually more normal than people would even care to admit. I’m grateful for EVERY year that I can remain wiser and laugh my way through this thing called life. I’m ALWAYS proud to tell people my exact age (even though I have grey hair on the top of my head..I still have a full head of hair and the grey downstairs well..oh what grey hairs?..Lol and I hope that you are too. THANKS for posting.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks so much for sharing your story with us!

[@divakingsley9020]

You’re Very Welcome

[@pirish236]

Pushing 71

[@raymondhall3399]

Love your videos. I am 84 and happy and thankful to be here. You are right on. Love you.

[@Lar308]

Looking good for over 40 - I had estimated you at 28/29.

[@sazji]

I turned 65 yesterday! There are definitely some older age issues, but the body is only half of the issue; we also need to make sure we focus on our mental well-being. There are so many messages (and not only from the gay community) telling us we're no longer relevant; that our value fades with our "hotness." Honestly though, as a person who had a bad self image for much of my life, and finally worked on dealing with that, I feel better about myself than I did at 40. But I certainly do stretching and work the best I can to keep moving and keep my flexibility. I can also look back and say, "I wish I'd taken better care..." One nice trick for microscopic text: Take a photo with your phone and blow it up. :-)

[@PatrickMarano]

Ah thx for the tip!

[@hectorstrachan]

Will be 40 next month and I can’t wait 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Don’t feel old at all I’m going to embrace it

[@PatrickMarano]

Right on!

[@migdon470]

Thank you for this, Since I have turned 43 everything hurts lol and my mind is always on. I keep thinking of days long gone and things I have wanted to do. My mind feels like im still 25 and want to party. But my body is all done and I just stay home all day

[@TheRealPsychicLeoBrown]

Listen, I'm 42 and I relish staying at home, can still sleep and I have to know who is all over there. You are not alone trust me. ❤

[@gregknight498]

Patrick, take the leap and find some nice looking glasses to wear all the time. I have had glasses most of my life and loved when transitions (change color outside) became readily available and now bifocals that are also line-less.

[@gregknight498]

I didn’t hear you talk about how vital day-time naps have become… like you I can’t sleep all-nite like I used too, but put me in front of my TV after dinner and I nod off.

[@slangofagespodcast]

I’m 60 and love being 60. The video is spot on but I wouldn’t change a thing.

[@garywilson9640]

What POs me off is a younger generation disrespecting elders. Who brought us to here today I'm pretty sure this hits close to home

[@JackMason-oq8lf]

Millennials are absolutely the rudest people in America. Their parents did not coach them in "please" or "thank you" or bank loans. Hold the door for a Senior with two bags of groceries? Not on your life. Say "good morning" back to me on the elevator. Learn to read. Books. Read "How to have conversations." Read-up on "Things that happened before the day I was born." How to "Work More/ Bitch Less" if you want to buy a house. The Zoomers are friendlier and hold doors, but for kids who just got to the party, they sure are bossy. They don't know how to make coffee or scramble eggs or run a copy machine, but they know more than us. Used to be the civilizing factor was in the Mom department, like scrambling eggs and stuff. Bank loans stuff. Since Feminism shouted it's arrival, Moms aren't home to civilize a cactus. Mom has hung up her apron, make your own milk and cookies. Would you respect older people? Mills are trophy brats who don't respect themselves.

[@PatrickMarano]

100%

[@StollenBunz]

Only 35 but when you mentioned the other person cancelling plans I felt that deep in my soul. I am so relieved when I don’t have to go out and put forth all that effort. It’s draining, I just want to stay home and cuddle.🤣

[@donaldfolkers8475]

Consider this a prequal to your 70's. I'm 7frigging8 and the thing I did as I was "maturing" (30 to 65) was continue for years a workout/exercise program that seems to be paying off now. I promised myself that when I retired at 65 I'd scale back on my exercise/workout schedule. So far so good.

[@PatrickMarano]

That's awesome

[@kevinwalsh9934]

EXCELLENT SHOW! YOU HIT IT ALL!

[@MusicHandsAbrupt]

Im 44 and i appreciate your content so much.

[@PatrickMarano]

I'm so glad!

[@mickyboles8278]

I am 59 and I absolutely love your videos❤❤❤