OH NO... Why Female Bullying Is So Hard to Recognize - Paws React

[@1nt9rn9t-dudewillheim2]

The way that I see it, "Bullying" is any type of repeated and targeted behaviour that is used with the intent of making the victim feel "lesser" in one way or another. Whether that is by making them feel stupid, weak, ugly, incompitent, unlovable, alone, etc.

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

Yeah, exactly.

[@zeeteepippi275]

Men get a lot of shit because the way they do it is so in your face. Beating you up, or hurling insults in your face. Women can be more subtle or indirect about it, hiding behind the line of acceptability and layers of plausible deniability. It's much harder to punish someone turning others against you or spreading untraceable and unverifiable lies to ruin you. Most "passive" aggression goes under the radar, many times they even manage to make you the bad guy for retaliating or calling them out.

[@Skippy19812]

I hate that we have to have these stupid disclaimers every time we discuss women in a less than glowing terms. It's not misogynistic to point out that women can be bullies. It would be misogynistic to avoid the discussion altogether. We shouldn't infantalize women by absolving them of their bad behavior. More importantly, aggressive women mostly bully other women. Turning a blind eye to the bullying because of some silly unspoken social rule about not criticizing women is hanging the mostly female victims out to dry. Women, like men, are adults and as adults they have responsibilities. One of those responsibilities is to not act like a dick to other adults. If you're going to act like a dick you should expect to be called out for it, regardless of gender.

[@DarthSidian]

FACTS

[@jeevieseverino3949]

Its only a disclaimer to redpillers who have vast generalization of women being deemed to be worse gender compared to men. Its either that or its women wont see this video as educational because its about women being bad.

[@AzaTinto]

fax my brudda, spread your shit indeed

[@markjacobs3232]

To add to this his "remember women have their experiences" when trying to defend them choosing the bear, it further insult. If ANY of those women were being genuine, and are not stupid they would not chose the bear. Arguing "it's their experiences"...likes maybe some men have bad experiences, no disclaimer there?

[@Nurple17]

She didn't sing at the beginning or tell us what time it was. Guys, I'm scared.

[@pawsvtuber]

😅

[@geoffreyentwistle8176]

Your noticing this had been noticed. Run. 😅

[@user725t]

@@pawsvtuber you fmcls feel so sad that Man is talking about female bullying is hurting you.

[@BusinessWolf1]

Paws, our definition of booleaying is different from western folks, we grew up checking water bottles for alcohol.

[@pawsvtuber]

😂 or coke bottles for pepper

[@杠精-e3h]

I'm American and I put vodka in water bottles in high school, literally never got checked 😂 Sometimes I was nice and shared my "water" though.

[@joshuawillingham6363]

It's the fact that in the U.S., *anything* physical will get harshly punished. Drinking age is 21 here and providing alcohol to a minor is potential prison time. If you get caught doing that, literally police might be involved depending on how the teachers and admins react. Peppers in the coke is less likely to get as severe a reaction, but it's still a potential criminal level activity in most places. The reason you see this kind of social destruction behavior a lot more in the U.S. is because everything else tends to have far harsher consequences.

[@DarthSidian]

The difference between misandry and misogyny is that the former is entirely accepted now. The latter is a term used for literally anything that isn't glazing women as a collective to high hell. Women aren't perfect. Quite the opposite, actually. Same with men. Humans as a whole, across all categories, from different ethnic groups to the two sexes to whatever, have a fair bit to work on. The "Man VS Bear" thing is also a very clear vehicle to degrade men as a whole for the actions of a startlingly present and vocal minority. Rape is bad, no one in their right mind would say otherwise and mean it. However, rapists are (thankfully) still quite uncommon, though it would be better if they were eliminated entirely, by whatever means are necessary. Leading into my point with that: The bear will eat you alive. No ifs, ands, or buts. The statistical likelihood of the man in the woods that you get turning out to be a rapist is _extremely_ low, _far_ lower than the likelihood of the bear killing and eating you if it decides out of nowhere that it's better off without you there. Hating all men is cringe. Hating all women is also cringe. The modern world is a delusion-riddled mess and people suck. But not _everyone_ sucks. There's still some light in the dark. For now, at least. It's fading, along with my confidence in feeling justified in allowing the human species to keep existing, but it's still there.

[@GamingKo-u4f]

yeah its actually amazing how much misandy you see around you but I just let it be unless its a situation I can intervene

[@danielhuelsman76]

I had a major revelation from this. This is why people pick on sexy girls in videogames, they trigger female bullying. I'm thinking of Lara Croft from Tomb Raider, Bayonetta from Bayonetta, 2B from Nier Automata, and recently Eve from Stellar Blade. They're so attractive they feel threatened that they're not the prettiest girl anymore, and so they attack them with slander. They stop bullying the pretty fictional girls when their fanbase gets too big, like when a victim gets too many friends to exclude the victim.

[@florianstraub72]

I once seen a video where a woman talked about how she kissed a guy while making a film (in the scene they werent ment ot kiss) and she just went for it. Then the guy went out, frustraited. A worker told her that she coud get sued for it. And She replyed to that worker with: "Well if anybody sueing me, there fired." The whole room cheered at her. Sidenote: She was both producer and actor

[@PorcupineFood]

the whole "man vs. bear" thing was so dumb to me because the bear is 100% going to kill you. either you kill the bear or the bear kills you. you could live with the man, you do not get that option with the bear. the man has an upside, the bear does not, and yes both of them have potential bad outcomes but one has good outcomes and the other doesn't. for the love of god I don't want to hear about this again-

[@jackbluehq6653]

The whole man vs bear is dumb as you say They bring up the argument that men statistically kill women more. And like yeah, that's cause the MAJOIRTY of bears (which is tiny compared to the amount of men) do not live in envioments where people are. If there was billions of bears living in city's there would be literally hundreds of millions if not billions of cases of both women and men getting killed or attacked.

[@Mousse9]

The entire thing was just to denigrate men. There was no real logic or actual discussion to it. Just a vehicle to denigrate, nothing more.

[@trolleymouse]

Bears are such serious threats that we literally named a continent after the fact that it was as far away from bears as possible.

[@Shiftinggers]

For Pews the entire question is funnier because she lives in Romania, a country that still has large populations of brown bears very close to some pretty big cities like Brașov. Nothing like being at a wedding there and getting alerts from emergency services that a bear has been spotted in your area

[@gabrielfrancisco4280]

To be fair, there are many cases of bears running away from humans. And men can do horrible things to a women and don't kill her, so she has to live with the consequences of that, the bear at least will just kill you.

[@necrosteel5013]

bullying is simply the act of denigrating someone without any considerable provocation. bruh....there is good reason that women get such aggressive pushback and have soo many people immediately jump to further justifying "me-soggy-knees". there is significant pushback in real life from any act justification no matter the legitimacy of reason. there is also this constant need to justify general standards and views, god forbid anyone actually says any thing about "women as a whole", when it is women as a whole who sanctioned, venerated and stood alongside these wrong doers for years until oh no, men are here to take the whole community to court for it.

[@user725t]

or youre too blind to see the other side.

[@necrosteel5013]

@@user725t your too sick to understand that there is no other side. only those who wish to groom and denigrate man to lower than that of cattle and those who wish to justify man's right to autonomy and existence in a sick society which only desires to violate that very notion and make it a taboo on par with r@pe and c@nnibalism.

[@necrosteel5013]

@@user725t on another perspective on this same comment... you tell me what the "other side" intends to do? what principles they hold? what binds them together? and why they continue to shelter and support those who's only aim is to cause further harm and denigration to men as a whole? if you can dismiss my entire consideration with such an empty phrase akin to "trust me bro, you meanie", i would like to know exactly why should I or any other man do so?

[@user725t]

@@necrosteel5013 dude, are you saying that generalising Men is a good thing? I'm actually talking about Men who are bullied by Womn and society who don't bat an eye. This youtuber is just another fragile fmcl who can't stand a Man who talks about how Men are abused. I'm talking about other side as it the Mens side. Society don't call out Womn. They aren't held same responsibilities and can't take criticism..

[@molkereis8626]

Him agreeing with the bear thing is where I am done. I get it men can be aggressive and deceptive thank you for pointing out traits that both men and women have but gendering it. If you truly believe that a random bear is safer than a random man from the 4 billion pool you are dumb. If you defend that you are dumb. This guy is dumb.

[@elikyiael8740]

when i was little i saw what it looked like, but i think i got some heavy luck as the majority of the women in my life were very good people, even at work or at the universities

[@karere1s]

I just saw a Korean anime series called True Beauty... Pretty much everything he talked about was present in it 😬

[@pawsvtuber]

I know what I'm watching tomorrow, thanks 😅

[@Itsukazutrap]

Japanese anime series, about a Korean webtoon. The anime is Japanese

[@n00bfishie]

Already seen this on stream but I’ll watch again for my daily dose of cute fluffy ears and tail ❤

[@cypureisreallybusy]

those fluffy ears man. CHOMPA

[@Juhno]

2:25 Motives vary of course. But many people will "rejoice" about those videos, because many of society's problems have been purposefully branded so that victims are always women and perpetrators are always men. But the truth is that anyone can be "toxic" (god I hate that word), abusive, commit domestic violence. And anyone can be a victim. And many people see that. So they are happy if someone once in a while talks about the other side of the matter. In many countries, about 50% of the perpetrators of domestic violence are women. Some difference can be found in the type of domestic violence.

[@MrOrchidion]

let's not forget that women ahve their experiences no. however, elt's also not forget that those women who blanketly accuse and ahte ALL MEN are the problem.

[@Hatenashi_Raza]

if rolling your eyes is bulling...oh gods i'm the greatest bulli ever

[@hibouowll7468]

Oh. She has better looks... she has better social circles.... she has better wealth... Dude. She still have 99 problems. It's just that her looks, or social circle or wealth is not of one. But everyone have their problems, they're just not the same.

[@BiggieBungas]

8:28 i had that happen to me in college. Suddenly everybody thought i was a sexist. Put up with it for a month before i quit college all together

[@SagittariusAyy]

But you wouldn’t bully us, right, Paws?

[@pawsvtuber]

I'd have to leave my rock, no thanks 😂

[@greedsin555]

When he makes videos on woman he always spends 3-5 min at the start of the vid denigrating men When he makes a vid on men he spends the first 3-5 min glorifying women I understand why he dose it it's just so tiresome

[@viktorgabriel2554]

he hates other men becose feminists tell him to

[@Mousse9]

Yeah, that’s the reason I don’t follow this guy anymore. The bias is clear. Or, perhaps, the fear of retaliation is clear.

[@greedsin555]

@@Mousse9 I think it's more fear of retaliation as he seams to change what he says in interview

[@Mousse9]

@@greedsin555 That really says everything about “who you can’t criticize”…

[@greedsin555]

@@Mousse9 careful bro noticing things that hard can get you band

[@revracentertainment]

I say bullying is use of physical force, other than that grow tough skin. Note parents or S.O.s doing it is still abuse.

[@BiggieBungas]

43:18 well perhaps there are many people who dont believe they can find another friend group. Its incredibly easy to say that you can just walk away from your problems and call that a solution but for a loy of people that just isnt an option.

[@pawsvtuber]

Isn't that how they get you? By having that belief that you'll have no one else without them? It's the same old tale of "better the known abuse than the unknown". It might sound like it's the easy solution, but it's not easy, walking away is hard. But it is, from personal experience, worth it.

[@BiggieBungas]

@pawsvtuber thank you for your insight. You are absolutely right. I was just trying to find a more nuanced option and failed to see the depth in.... well "walking away". Thanks for replying. And have a great day.

[@GamingKo-u4f]

Bro the more i listen the paws in this video the more I think that maybe she is the bully in the group lol

[@pawsvtuber]

Too busy playing video games and reading books to socialize 😂

[@kamikaze00007]

Paws, I highly suggest watching the anime My Youth Romantic Comedy is Wrong As Expected. You're going to love that one.

[@tyalisanathois2723]

I now understand what happened to me when I was 18/20... I always had a feeling who, what and why... but could not express it properly. Now I am 35 and finally know. By the way, I avoided retaliation because I understood it would happen... but ignoring was not enough avoid being isolated then cut off.

[@robertgabriel7619]

bulling is inheriting imature

[@demoniachan7507]

This is why being careless is good sometime 😎

[@Hilariumosis]

Then the bullies see the video and be like "Your Dr.K tricks won't work on me sweetie" 😅

[@low-keyvibin3189]

If boy being aggressive,girl would be passive aggressive most of the time.

[@syrenet]

Tldr: play the female mind games instead of just saying thing as they are?

[@nobiisok9572]

Always interesting to see you react to Dr K's content

[@viktorgabriel2554]

Its light harassment until you do it repetitively but this guy has a massive bias sadly so you cant really trust a word he says he is also talking about things that everyone has known about for years and trying to make it sound like a recent discovery but when i call this out its misogyny when he calls it out its ok. like notice how he said no attack on women then spends two minutes excusing calling all men monsters

[@jasonmeade955]

To be fair, he is highly educated and has extensive experience providing mental healthcare for both women and men. He has seen a lot of the things "everyone" has known about for years and seen that it isn't even close to "everyone." I give him some leeway, as he is trying to talk to everyone, not just pandering to one specific demographic.

[@markjacobs3232]

@@jasonmeade955 He has a bias, and it is pandering to one specific group, he is fine to let "men are monsters" stand, but "women can be bad" has a disclaimer, it doesn't get more obvious.

[@umbra9017]

Love Dr K, might be one of the best creators on any platform.

[@icedamage2136]

Am trecut arena 16 pe Clash Royale

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

Nice :)

[@hengineer]

Dr k buys into the misogony rhetoric. Tsk

[@darklelouchg8505]

He also is an apologist for eastern medicine snake oil salesmen. Very obvious from one of his discussions with a doctor.

[@vaninda1751]

You are aware that misogyny is a real thing right? Just because it's over used by crazy leftoids online doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

[@botyirby5059]

can you elaborate more on that front if you dont mind?

[@zeeteepippi275]

@@botyirby5059 That you can't speak about womens faults without prefacing it like that. You don't have to point out all the women who hate men every time that a guy does something bad, in fact it's often used to downplay or sympathize with them. But with guys every time they speak about women in generalities it's always overplayed and they're turned into this scapegoat of uncontrollable beasts that want to dominate and demonize for absolutely no reason.

[@medekhgui]

Unfortunately, you must. As many strides as we've made in honest public conversations, we've still got a long way to go.

[@OrbObserver]

Paws argues with a literal Psychiatrist for an hour based purely on her own anecdotes lol

[@pawsvtuber]

I'm sorry, I didn't know I had to display my own degree to have an opinion on the subject. Would it make you sleep better at night if you knew I studied psychology? Or that our school system here is different than there? 💀

[@user725t]

@@pawsvtuber i feel sad that you have a meltdown when a Man discusses about how womn hurt men. so sad.

[@thejake543]

who would of thought sean connory was right all along they just need a little slap to act right