Grieving the Loss of Childhood for Survivors of Childhood Trauma

[@daisyhadfield3374]

This is my third video I am watching. I've suffered year of childhood abuse. And I've felt so many revelations from these videos. I take them into therapy. I actually feel like I'm going somewhere, I feel like I'm healing. So thank you. For your information, your soft voice that shows care even though you can't see us. Thank you for making these, keep doing it. I know it helps me, so I'm sure it's helped or will help others. I can not say thank you enough for the education.

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

Welcome to the Courageous Journeys community! I'm so, so glad you're finding the videos helpful. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

[@hcf555]

As an ex therapist, this topic isn't talked about enough. I believe it's a huge reason why people don't ever really look at and process their childhood trauma due to the pain of the grief that inevitably comes up in time. Thank you for talking about this.

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

Yes! I think it can also be challenging for some therapists to be in that space of grief with clients as it's something we've all experienced to some extent. I wish it was something that was addressed more through the education and training process. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@KatWoodland]

My grief, over the full discovery of my lost (and lied about) childhood, was nearly a year long. A partial ego death was just part of it. Thank you for this video.

[@MishMacky]

​@@KatWoodland I'm 3/4 way through a similar experience... Devastating life review and ego death / dark night of the soul... The grief is harrowing. Hope you are doing well now

[@KatWest20]

Thank you! Through counseling I recently identified that I am grieving the fact that I had no childhood, and my relationship with my mother is based on what I was and what I did for her rather than tender moments of love and a secure relationship. I am continuing to go to counseling and EMDR therapy to try and resolve some of this, but your video helps a lot! Thank you

[@AnaIrimiabooks]

I am literally grieving over this and my whole body hurts. My Nervous system is in Freeze from the fact that it recorded this feeling as dangerous in childhood. I had shock/denial/numbness at first. Then, after, I had a lot of anger on God (Universe). Then because I also danced with non duality, the realisation that the universe is me, lead to the ego self to blame that. And now is a lot of sadness for what happened, why it happened, all the pain, the shame, the rejection, the beliefs that stem from all these. This sadness is so powerful, so deep. I suspect sexual abuse in infancy… just 1 year into this and it’s so strong. Profound grief. So deep it scares me sometimes

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm so sorry you're feeling all of this so profoundly. ❤️ You are not alone. Be gentle with yourself as you continue to navigate through this. I hope you have the support you deserve as you heal. Thank you for watching and commenting.

[@barbaramulhall9470]

Great video❤ Yes, I found it difficult to reconcile how I could grieve the loss of a father who abused me while grieving the loss of a father I could feel safe with, trusting in and loved by. The heartbreak I experienced was unbelievably painful and took time to heal. Today, I trust my own experience and have worked tirelessly on my healing to feel the loss and heal my heart.😊 Today, I found myself say to myself how content I feel within myself and about who I am. I'm grateful to myself for never giving up on me, and I'm grateful to all those therapists and mentors who walked beside me and who supported me on the days when I struggled.❤

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm grateful you didn't give up on you too. 😊❤️ It's definitely not easy to move through the grief but it is so important to honor the reality of loss. Thank you for sharing.

[@Ross_Embossed]

Thank you! #NarcissisticAbuse from Psychological & Verbally aabusive Dad, and Identity Enmeshment and manipulation from childhood & adolescence brings me here. • *I'm 39, but when I was 32, I entered the World of **#Grief** - and now I'm grieving the loss of my **#Self** as I've been in **#Freeze** Response in confusion and anxious depression for 5-6yrs.* • I'm trying CBT, DBT but Stressful Family Dynamics (Narcissistic Fallout) has made my support net VERY SHAKY. • Even the best Therapists I've dound say "Practice Self-Love", and "#ReParenting", *but I resist bc I need the love from somone else, so I subconsciously refuse to "Do The Work", and then I Guilt Trip myself* for not healing faster & better. *_Please help_* 🙏🙏🙏

[@KatWoodland]

Reparenting by developing the lost parts of my existence, involves Erik Erikson’s Stages of Childhood Development.

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm glad that is working for you. There are many paths to healing the various wounded parts within us. Thank you for commenting. ❤️

[@talibaron5715]

LOVED this. You explained this topic in such a clear way. Many thanks. Although I am in therapy, I didn't even recognize that grief was there. Thanks again

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm so glad it resonated and you were able to feel a connection to what I shared. Recognizing much of the pain we experience as grief is so much a part of the understanding we need as we heal. Thanks so much for watching and sharing. ❤️

[@khaledkhalid100]

Thank you

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

You're very welcome. ❤️

[@brittneyjames-su4vc]

Can you share a guided meditation for this grief work please

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

Thank you for watching and asking. ❤️ Unfortunately, I can't think of one to recommend right now, either one of mine or from someone else, aside from possibly the one you can receive free by signing up for my email list that is about releasing any feelings that create difficulty for you. It's definitely not specific to grief nor the complexity of it. It's a great idea for an upcoming meditation to create!

[@megankwisdom]

I am consciously trying to cultivate a sense of grief for my childhood so that i can process my trauma but I'm having difficulty knowing what grief feels like. Everyone talks about it like it's obvious, as if one should just inherently know how to grieve. i can feel anger, resentment, etc. but grief eludes me. How do i get in touch with an emotion that i don't understand?

[@hcf555]

Daniel Mackler has a yt vid about being unable to grieve. Very much recommend his work.