People will notice what your body looks like.

[@emanuelad3534]

A few months ago I watched a kdrama. And one of the actors was kind of ignoring most of other people remarks, questioning and impoliteness. I totally loved it and I thought what a great thing to be less responsive… you only say a few words to me and I used to answer and explain and try to convince people. Gradually, I am learning that is ok to let it pass by you. Ideally maintaining ur inner calm too. Great job dear, speeding awareness! Geneen Roth is a writer, funny and intelligent, I think u would like her books.

[@Fatimah-cs5co]

It's so hard for me with my family. My mother got bariatric surgery and always brings it up especially when talking about me having an intimate relationship. Even going out to eat or on walks, my body is brought up and it really is so jolting when I'm trying not to focus on it so much. Some of the constant worry about my body developed because of the looks and comments from family since I was a little girl, and the desire is always to just focus on it more or first before they do so I'm prepared. What an exhausting cycle, learning to take care of mytotal self rather than fixating.

[@kathynewkirk683]

I have never had anyone doing that to me, initially, I got loads of compliments. Then I after a while I didn’t. I had this scenario that that played in my head that everyone was watching me admiring me. I had this fit and healthy persona. And if I gained wt, there’s notice. And I’d find myself binging. All or nothing. But, I’m learniit. I put pressure on myself, to stay skinny. But, no one was noticing. It was all me. I freaked out about going out or small vacations and parties and how I was going to manage it. It was so stressful. Now I do it for me, mostly. I go to the gym regularly, walk regularly. Eating mostly healthy. Weight goes up and down. I living that healthy lifestyle but started allowing myself to enjoy some nights out and vacations, and friends, but balance it out. It’s still a struggle though. Hate to eat something I shouldn’t. I know I have orthorexia. It’s like,once I have something I shouldn’t, I lose control. I love eating healthy, but I let it get between enjoying time with friends. I don’t want to change my healthy lifestyle, I want to change my fear of not living my healthy lifestyle. I want balance…

[@ThatDataLady]

Out here doing gods work

[@parisamgh60]

Thank you so much for your fantastic videos🙏🏻I've struggled with binge eating for 11 years, and your advice has been a huge help. While I still have my ups and downs, it's mostly under control. How do I manage my thoughts about food when everyone around me is dieting and labeling food as good or bad? They judge bodies, have surgeries for the perfect look, and many are taking Ozempic. Honestly, it feels like 90% of the people I know are like this. Meanwhile, I'm battling with body image and food issues. What can I do to escape this cycle? Just one comment about my weight can push me back into bingeing or dieting, and I don't want to return to that dark place.

[@Klimopjes]

Your videos are very helpful for me during my recovery. I loved this video and the wooden-spoon analogy, I will remind myself of this in the future. I was wondering though, after I heard your last answer (at 3:25); isn’t thanking someone a motivator for them to keep commenting on other peoples bodies and weight..? To me it seems like an opportunity to create more awareness around the effect of these comments, by explaining how harmful this can be and how it can be misinterpreted by many people. In a polite way of course, because I’m sure it’s well meant. Since it’s someone you’re close with, I would hope that they are open for your feedback and want to learn.

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you for your message! I'm so glad that these were helpful for you. I love this question! What you're mentioning here I am interpreting as setting boundaries. If that's the case, I think that this can be immensely helpful. While we can't control other people and it's up to others how they wish to respond, we can set and enforce our own boundaries. If someone is comfortable enough in their assertiveness to do this, my opinion is that this is very positive. In both body image and other areas. Some may find this too challenging at first and others may simply not want to give such conversations the time of day. All of our boundaries and methods are different and so I invite everyone to follow what is most helpful for them x

[@Klimopjes]

I agree that it depends on the situation and if the person is feeling comfortable/confident enough to do this… in my opinion it’s a good way to ‘practice’, in a safe setting, with someone you know well. Talking to a body-focused acquaintance or even stranger about this, is a different story and one step too far for me (not brave enough for that… yet), but I’m working on it. It sure is way easier to just say ‘thank you’, that would be my minimal-effort option when I’m just too tired to answer honestly :’) Thanks a lot for your time x

[@sandychics]

Hey I can’t download your blue print document. The button doesn’t work.

[@borodiymaria3172]

1st❤🎉🎉🎉

[@lauras950]

Can you share your instagram account? Thanks!