Personality Disorders and History

[@olaaaa1991]

Dr Honda, I'm Polish and I think about the generational trauma that permeates the society every day. The aggression and the lack of respect for people as individuals comes in my opinion from the centuries of poverty, hunger, deprivation and strife. I’m very interested in this topic since I observe the effects of what not only 20th century but also hundreds of years of slavery/feudalism have done to my people. You can’t be generous and kind if you are raised by generations who had nothing, were miserable, poor and had little control over their lives.

[@catifexart274]

0:15 Kathleen, cursed vs blessed (Sending all of our love to you Kathleen and thank you for contributing to the podcast so much) 13:06 War & personality disorders. Trauma, consummerism, slavery, less attachment insecurity in the past.... 36:25 OPP 37:46 Punxutony Phil, places of the United States 44:55 Dave Chapelle 53:32 Emails not getting response 1:17:00 Fanmail for PIS 1:18:00 Social anxiety, emails Thank you Dr Honda and Stacy

[@Star-dj1kw]

Thank you for the Time stamps - also sending care to Kathleen 💗

[@scmommy4539]

Thank you so much for these time stamps & I am also sending love to Kathleen! I hope we can get updates on Kathleen. ❤️❤️❤️

[@FashionVanilla]

As a Polish person - I fully agree. Don't want to make it sound patronising, but I am really impressed by your awareness and empathy. An oldest family member of mine passed away a few days ago. I cried for hours last night thinking about good moments we shared - how they made me feel loved, how generous they were. Then, for some reason, I reminded myself that they also used to have darker moments in the past, I was thinking of their abuse towards the closest ones. Obviously, I don't want these thoughts overshadow the wonderful traits they had; and I just truly view them as a good person who got harmed by the horror of the childhood in Poland, in the 1930s and 1940s. It doesn't make the aggression ok, but the person, as a child, as the whole population of children in Poland, was a witness of the WWII horror. The stories they shared seemed unreal. No one talks about it. I myself sometimes cannot believe. I am grateful to be Polish gen Z, but my personality issues seem to be strongly correlated with all the generational trauma which I am trying to break through therapy. And I am thinking of Ukrainians and the problems they will have to face, which are longer lasting than the invasion itself. (Btw I wonder whether the overwhelming fetishising of Slavic women is connected to our history and its results. Living abroad I am stopped on the streets by men just because, in their words, "I look Eastern European". Seems to happen way too often to be a coincidence. I don't know)

[@davidward805]

I also had a good career as a musician and a music professor. Now I listen to music a lot, as well as podcasts, talking books, etc. So I enjoy myself and my life.

[@sarawarrender1326]

You've changed my life and your videos really help me deal with my anxiety! Thank you!! ❤️💕

[@oliviapop5613]

Hi Dr. Kirk and Bob! I'm Romanian and just wanted to mention that it seems Bob got the years mixed up around 14:55. Romania banned abortions in 1967 and they were legalized again in 1989 with the fall of communism. But also, I couldn't find any facts either, just a scientific paper from 2019 mentioning no significant correlation between abortion legality and crime rate. Which makes sense here given the vastly different economic landscapes of the prosperous 60s and tumultuous 90s. I don't know what it was like in the US, just wanted to mention that because it was surprising to hear my country being brought up haha. We are no strangers to transgenerational trauma either, and the effects are still seen today. In any case, this was a very interesting episode and thank you for all your hard work!

[@Authentistic-ism]

Second vote for social anxiety deep dive. Today I learned about "gelotophobia," a sub-type of social phobia involving being laughed at specifically. Are there other social phobia subtypes?

[@davidward805]

I consider myself happy, which may seem strange because I am now handicapped and spend all my time in bed or my wheelchair. I have had many years of therapy and also explored spirituality a lot. Now I make living mindfully a big priority. I am retired and have enough money to live on. I live in NYC in a very nice apartment that is affordable because of the rent laws here. So I am happy. And I feel blessed and lucky.

[@jane347]

Good for you👍You are an inspiration to others

[@meepgirl1434]

Lots of hugs and love Kathleen

[@ana_lynn_w2959]

Kathleen if you read this we are sending spirit hugs and much love!

[@davidward805]

Speaking of happiness, you may know that in Bhutan happiness is the highest value of the society.

[@timetochillathome7786]

Early morning treat! This is awesome, thank you 🎉

[@rainydayjane8257]

Yay, my favourite podcast duo...Dr Kirk and Bob!! Fellows, your sincerity, humility and calmness shines through in your delivery!! 🥰 Thank you for these talks!! They are so healing for me. 🙏🙏

[@sB-wt5ov]

Of course you deserved it! Everyone deserves to have that, and there is nothing to feel guilt about just by having a loving family and being blessed. At the very least you guys model what others want to learn for their next generation, and we see a solution to our problems in comparison, so stable, loving homes play an important part to others, too.

[@laurak6127]

Hi, this episode got me thinking about the controversial topic of psychedelics and their ability to help people feel peace when they are terminally ill, I actually wrote a research paper on this in college and found the stories incredible and heartwarming. Maybe it’s something worth talking about? I’m very sad to hear Kathleen’s situation. For me, I felt very unlucky after having a terrible childhood full of trauma followed by a difficult time “aging out” of DSS custody (I had neglectful abusive parents and was removed from them) and being thrown out to be an adult after all of that. I definitely felt cursed, hopeless and alone. But after years of therapy I finally feel hope, joy, love, compassion and in some ways I even feel grateful for some of my trauma that I survived. It was awful and I still have struggles but the other side is something I could have never imagined. I hope that I can help other people the way so many have helped me (that includes Psychology in Seattle). That would make me feel like I was blessed after all the years of feeling cursed. Love this show, listen and like every day ❤️

[@Jamienc]

lol 20 solid minutes of Kirk rambling about the weather while Bob just says "yup" "uh-huh" "sure"

[@LittleJazzyBirdie]

😂😂😂

[@tijanamaletic895]

Dave Chapelle show was in the 2000’s! I always think it’s crazy what I assume is the 90’s but is actually Y2K. Love you guys, Bob is a national treasure

[@laurak6127]

Yes, Bob is a treasure, love how you phrased that

[@veronicadunn1880]

I’m sure you filmed this before the Oscars, but this would have been the perfect video to talk about the incident. Curious to hear your opinion!

[@jane347]

Great talk Thank You guys👍💚

[@NicoleArata.artworks]

🇵🇸💔 sometimes the trauma of trans generational trauma gets sooo swept under the rug, appreciate the discussion

[@Indigo00eyez]

Since social anxiety is so prevalent among millennials, please indeed do a deep dive!! Thanks for all you and Bob do! PS. I love listening to Bob’s stories and anecdotes 🧡

[@sloanefrances1881]

"Waiting Room" by Fugazi has been one of my several anthems for the last few months

[@sB-wt5ov]

Hugs to Stacy!

[@draconisneurocam]

I appreciate your views on capitalism.

[@PN.mod20]

Dr. Honda....there's an interesting pdf chapter online by Nancy McWilliams phd from her book. The chapter titled is Masochistic (Self-Defeating) Personality Disorder. Easy to find online. The book is Psychoanalytic Analysis. Thought you may find it interesting.

[@cocojumbo2323]

Thank you :-)

[@emeraldpilgrimfireuma]

Cute Bob!

[@crondawn7961]

I’m so sorry… 💚💚💚

[@RenayOpish]

What did you just do at 41.01 or so??? You broke the code of every native NWer!!

[@nattyjuneart]

hiiiiiii

[@sloanefrances1881]

Hare Krishna Kathleen 🦄