INTJ Personality: Mind Wiring For Personal Growth

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In this video Joel Mark Witt goes beyond the typical INTJ personality type descriptions around behavior and talks about the mental wiring of the INTJ mind.
Topics:
- The cognitive functions for INTJs
- How to use your personality for personal development
- Ways to stop allowing your personality to hijack your happiness
- Ways that you as an INTJ show and receive love
- Next action steps for your INTJ personal growth journey
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[@dlehmann8353]

How FUNNY!!! I was Nodding away just a second before you stated... "you must be nodding..." how TRUE... this is very good. worth listening to again and again... female INTJ here

[@Angeprof]

The ways we show we love can be stated in one word, commitment. Some may prefer the term loyalty.

[@joerrrrrrrrrrr]

This is on point. Thank you

[@who-x1x]

😊❤❤❤❤

[@deniskarmalita4071]

It's interesting how this video has more views than any other personality type...we really are curious about understanding the world and ourselves

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

We seem to get the most INTJs - INFJs - INTPs and INFPs watching our content.

[@gracehoman66]

I think that's partially because the way you present yourself appeals to these type, the 'hacker' image, you seem like you're going to include lots of data and graphs haha. (fellow ENFP)

[@numinous4789]

Indeed. And the disparity is even more provocative given the very high degree of rarity of the INTJ type.

[@millerdog2]

The things that I read online seeem like a lot of people are fascinated by this type. It also seems that a lot of people know an INTJ and are experts concerning them. All I know is that I have felt alienated my whole life. It has never felt like to me like anyone wants to be an INTJ, they are too busy disregarding half the things I say.

[@hujax]

Agree, people tend to see grass is greener on the other side .

[@actionmethod]

Sometimes I push people away on purpose because I know they won't be happy with me. And I don't want to be the reason for someone's sadness.

[@The_Scouts_Code]

actionmethod hows that workin for ya?

[@m-bronte]

that's not good, I am a INTJ and I push people away at times but the ones I push are the ones I know will be the most mentally draining on me. Maybe try and give people a chance and let them get to know you, you might be surprised.

[@SonyasAllAroundLook]

actionmethod Your response was honest, and caring!

[@SonyasAllAroundLook]

M Brontë I agree with you, from experience!

[@TruthSeekerClub]

i do it too

[@DMJ13]

"Done is better than perfect". That's what i needed! Sometimes i end up thinking and planning too much, exhausting myself before i even start the work.

[@itsShadowmonarch]

Fr we struggle with these things a lot (

[@shaun-andrewnero7111]

I fully agree with you. What I do, I just start with a project, then I fill the gaps as I go along. I fight for perfection with everything I have.

[@BlackSailPass_GuitarCovers]

"Start by doing it badly. The willingness to be a fool is the precursor to transformation." - Jordan Peterson

[@toiletfarm]

Impacting the world. This is it. It’s not about money, it’s about purpose.

[@andreww4751]

it's about sending a message

[@rubenmedina9156]

Once you learn your purpose, everything starts to align!

[@claudiamanta1943]

@@rubenmedina9156clearly, you are not an INTJ. It would be wise not to say to an INTJ that there is a ‘purpose’ externally assigned to them by any gods, humans, stars, or fates. The INTJ will give you the death stare and more or less politely show you the door or they will forever ignore you (if you are lucky).

[@DanielTunnicliffe]

True, though money is nice if one can get it.

[@DinaStrange]

Done is better than perfect? NO WAY! Perfectly done is what we want :P

[@Dark-iv3gm]

I DEFINITELY agree.

[@EminentJade]

"Perfectionism" mate

[@jeremiahp.2984]

Damned right! I quit watching after he said that, lol

[@tayleel8795]

I physically jerked at that part Haha

[@andrewsunderlandbeauclair]

Perfect is almost good enough.

[@davidalan8524]

I am an INTJ-T and I've started telling others that I am the Avocado of people. I am rough and hard on the outside, but soft and vulnerable inside. I am an acquired taste that not everyone will enjoy but the ones who do will love and keep coming back for. I am complex and full of flavor, a little bitter and no doubt I can be salty. I don't pair well with everyone, however when I do pair well it is better then good... it's magical.

[@AsiyaIammuah]

Right now, I'm letting my introverted feeling get the best of me and I've been a shut-in only leaving the house when absolutely necessary. It's been so long since I've been effective at something , which makes matters worse but watching this has given me great insight. Good job personality hacker.

[@eclipsesjerhail1282]

+BeaulaOla This is exactly what it has been like for me over the past five years. Good luck and I hope we get to see some of your ideas become reality as they get tested in the real world.

[@missrepresent5847]

I was going through this also since June. This week, these podcasts got me in flow again

[@joelmarkwitt]

+BeaulaOla Thanks for the feedback about your experience. What are you going to do to get into action?

[@BadButNotSad]

+Alexis K absolutely true.

[@ZephyrAXR]

lol. I don't go out near as much either. I've become accustomed to passive aggressive behavior from people. Its even more frustrating when people say you should get out more. I'm going to wait for people to mature. As much as I love to be in hostile areas where I'm the one who gets in trouble when I simple defend myself. I'll pass. That's paranoia and speculation, but hey. I continue to be direct. Well. That was more in past. I'm getting out more. I'm just tired of dealing with passive aggressive people. Life works out for the best. ^.^ Just need more real people around me.

[@dukeofjax]

This issue on love is this, INTJ’s will tell you about how they’re wired, yet others still refuse to accept this difference and instead act as if we are the ones always required to change to the “norm”.

[@cassiewash-bowman7797]

I HATE public interactions. people are irrational it bothers me to my core.

[@purpleguy5226]

Cassie Wash also very arrogant and ignorant like how can you go about life as a literal living stereotype

[@btsismylifeline9194]

same...They are not even serious bout their life & goals...they seem so stupid to me..what irritates me most is that they don't know anything bout this world but still do arguements with us...

[@pikachuiswatchingyou]

As an INTJ, try to see it as an exercise. I like to challenge myself and I learned to fake to have shallow conversations and fake to be an extrovert even though I can't relate or I find it useless. INTJ are very good at hiding emotions too.

[@tone3560]

Irrational or ignorant?

[@danscho2]

Well, start reading about psychology and you will see that they behave not irrational but exactly how science thinks that human behavior is normal. As an INTJ reading about scientific matters shouldn't bother you, so go ahead. The only thing is, they very often are not as reflected as some think have INTJ...with all the inherent benefits and disadvantages. In conclusion I would say you only can disgrace someones way of living as "irrational" if you really understand why they act as they do. Then I promise you, public interaction will maybe not be your favorite activity but way more bearable :)

[@nicolaimatthew5928]

I've been a shut-in for almost 1 year and this video made me realize that my introverted feeling is in control most of the time. I've been on a streak of inaction and indulging in addictions, it's like a loop. I now understand what I need to do to fix this

[@christopherus]

I’ve been looping around for years trying to figure out what I’m supposed to be doing with my life and not finding anything that seems perfect or that I feel like I’m “meant” to do. Consequently, I’ve been locked in an introspective spiral of doubt and inaction. The description of the intrusive Authenticity function really hit home.

[@hauntingvilla]

Be confident in your thinking not in feelings daily routine of this thought might help you

[@batman26898]

Hello @christopherus how's life going?? I'm here for exact same problem as you😢

[@msinbalony]

Story of my Life.

[@buidseach]

OMG, this is me, my 10 year old process has stopped me even going outside with anxiety disorder and I prefer to prevent getting hurt by not doing anything and concentrating on trying to feel good !

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

So now you know the challenge... What action are you going to take?

[@buidseach]

Probably think about it for ten seconds before returning to doing something which makes me feel good :(

[@ThePlatineist]

Same here. And feeling good for me refers to feeling good with my senses 'over-eating, binge-watching anime/k or jdrama to escape reality/reading manga/etc.'

[@buidseach]

Yep.

[@epistte]

How many INTJs have social anxiety? I do and need to take meds for it.

[@jeannydaniel2022]

There was a time at work I became so pissed, I decided to show my real self and was ready to quit anytime. My 10 year old passenger was not in the picture anymore. I was not afraid what my boss or everyone would say, I questioned them and had my plans implemented whatever it took. I showed them that they are wrong and how my ideas were right. I did it because I was angry. I was rude and arrogant. This continued for 6 months. But in the end, my boss praised me and said I was smart. He liked me a lot, he gave me a promotion. I lost all my friends though. No one wants to talk to me.

[@Asmo6]

I've ended up in some of the worst possible positions in life by letting my procrastinating nature to take hold. And my inability to act or live in the moment. I made a relationship my ultimate project, and exhibited pretty much the full INTJ spectrum as I picked it apart. Locked on to this singular goal, everything else fell away. As the other areas of life caught fire, I ignored them until they pulled the rest of the joy out of my life. As you would expect, being the object in the INTJ microscope takes its toll. I can tell you how deep the self indulgent rabbit hole goes. Violating all my own personal boundaries in the process. Much to my own detriment. Initiative is my new anti-me mechanism. I ask myself does this improve my quality of life? Is it positive? Can this hurt me? No? Then do it. Today. I still struggle with the loss of my ultimate project, and the love that came with it. It's still the problem I'll never be able to solve now. And the future that would have brought. But I understand me better now. And I don't feel crazy any more. Which, I have a feeling a lot of INTJ's that go against their internal makeup do. Good luck out there fellow ponderers. I know at times you'll need it. Learn to live in the moment at times. Even if it feels impossible. The person you love may need you too.

[@pogonolagododipopopo]

bro, im like in a similar situation, I should start tomorrow taking action about my question and follow the answer I got from my interrogation,

[@rubenmedina9156]

I hope you are now doing better my friend!,

[@Twinhit]

Proud of my 10 and 3 year old imaginary friends! LOL

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

I also like my children. I just don't let them drive my car. My 4 year old daughter would drive me off a bridge if she could. I'm even scared to let her drive at 16. :-)

[@AnimexBoy7]

Seriously I'm mind blown, I've read hundreads of articles and many other videos But this perspective of view is quite original and very explicit / easy to grasp

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thanks for the feedback. What will you do now that this has given you insight? How will you use this to personally grow?

[@SonyasAllAroundLook]

I agree!

[@darkrebel123]

INTJs appreciate new perspectives. This analogy of the car offered a new perspective for me.

[@farizanroslan]

yeah. I am a shut in. the world is so beautiful, but so ugly at the same time.

[@GROTETHQUE]

This is.what i feel every moment. And i'm in the shell too. But friend Don't you wanna see more beautiful world? I realized that if i want to see that, i have to broke my cycle(protective) and let my self to get some environments, fills up my imagination and new things to think And supportive people to let me do my idea become real. Hugs from other INTJ female.

[@farizanroslan]

@@GROTETHQUE indeed, new things to observe and new perspectives to ponder about is a must in our lives. These views help as we can be more optimistic at times, especially when things get rough and miserable. Thank you, I appreciate it. Although I'm less of a shut in as I was before, our global pandemic issue has lead me towards 'quarantine' yet again. Thank you, you're a nice person Rui.

[@TheBrocktonBlockbust]

Sometimes I ask myself if its wrong to be how I am.

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Nope. All good. Now go forth and keep creatin your reality.

[@ThePlatineist]

I often thought that. After watching this I finally understand how great of a personality type I am. I always found myself feeling most attracted to or relating to (fictional characters) who are like INTJ's especially when I was in 'the grip' and not totally myself (as in depressed, unmotivated and uninspired and afraid to do anything). I'd like to think it's because those are the people I wanted to be like and now I understand I can be like that, I just need to get out of this grip and start acting on my ideas and putting them out there.

[@btsismylifeline9194]

+Blueberyl you are exactly like me! ... i think you are my clone...btw how old are you?

[@ixd1188]

Very true. Sometimes I want to talk to people for long periods of time. Just to break out from my mind palace. But just thinking about it exhausts me already.

[@thespacecowboy5737]

Maybe, maybe not

[@1984july5th]

my ten year old pissing me off, he keeps watching KZbin until exercise and sleep!

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Hahaha. Nice.

[@karmer88]

Personally the most helpful part of this video was as I understand - don't make the project perfect before releasing it (because it may never be ready), release it as soon as possible and then try make it perfect. And seeing you project work in real life will be the best feeling you ever had :)

[@stevemcgee99]

+Aivaras Pauga that's essentially what Agile or Lean project management is trying to do.

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Yep. Done is better than perfect.

[@aniokay]

This is the best thing I've heard

[@lechch]

Best thing i've heard about an INTJ. I usually struggle with implementation, always working to perfect my ideas and it never ends. Great insight here. Now i know what to do.

[@Edzia130]

This just made everything clear! I finally understand why I keep on reminiscing, why I constantly introspect, why I think of people who wrong me in the past. It is my wrongly used introverted feeling! Also, I an see now how I grew, how and when I learned to just get things done and accomplish. I am really impressed with this video!

[@RoopaDudleyPaintings]

I am INTJ Artist. I am known to be authentic in my work which is my pride and joy.. I am very comfortable in my skin even when I have to bare my soul for all to see.

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Sounds like you're doing great. Was this hard won or have you always been able to do this? Any challenges you've faced along the way?

[@RoopaDudleyPaintings]

I am enjoying what I do that is for sure. It was hard indeed at first. Like going on the nude beach for the first time and having the guts to drop off the clothes. It was awkward to say the least. However, as you know us INTJs are paradoxical and standing up to a challenge is what we do best. I kept on producing my chess art till the people around me got over the shock of the new. What helped me succeed as an artist (speaking of recognition) and form my tribe was the compelling story behind each and every piece of my work.

[@mintfire5851]

Roopa Dudley what kind of artist are you and can I see your work?😁 I may become an INTJ artist/pianist/musician too

[@PeterMcPherson]

I hadn't realized that my 10-year old was holding me back until I became business partner with an ENTJ. Having retired from my previous career it seems I stopped using my copilot, so it's best I develop that (Effectiveness) in some other way. One of my biggest challenges is to lock into one or two specific interests, rather than taking a casual interest in a dozen or so. And then there's the tendency to be thinking ahead all the time, rather than being "in the moment".

[@stevemcgee99]

+Peter McPherson In undergraduate days I got a lot of feedback about 'not being in the moment' - complaints from others. Luckily today I see this as my strength instead of as a defect. I'd love to find an ENTJ I could partner with to do some great work.

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thank you for the feedback and your perspective.

[@hectorandem2944]

You don't always have to bring your child to work 😎

[@candacewilliams6761]

I'm more focused on myself. Not love at this moment. I have to learn to love me first. Thanks for the video. I really appreciate your hard work.

[@devindelgrego4500]

working with other people...

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

In what context?

[@subarutransmittedinfection1036]

I set with some girls at lunch and I always move over one seat when I lm not talking because I feel like Im annoying them. Someone else said to come set with them at lunch and I don't know what to do.

[@rurukaba]

People borrowing tools and not bringing them back or when they do they just toss it in my toolbox... There are literally outlines of everything but they can't figure it out! Then they wonder why they can't find their tools when they need them... Drives me crazy

[@AW-uo9lg]

Ha! I usually do all the work during group projects just so that way I don't deal with other people messing up my plan

[@EminentJade]

If it was to lead it would be okay, if it was required to follow their dumb plans, 👋

[@darkrebel123]

As an INTJ, the most powerful change that I have made as I have started to mature is the adaptation of what I like to call the Nike philosophy; "Just Do It." I intuitively see a path toward making something happen, even though I don't know the details yet, but once I just take action and start the ball rolling, things miraculously fall into place and the outcome is nearly always better than I originally intended. For example my most recent obsession has become building a real estate portfolio. I just bought my first property, a duplex. Now I'm broke and can't afford the next property yet, but that doesn't have to stop me. I am working on buying my next property with no money of my own through syndication (using social skills to raise the capital and bring together all the necessary pieces to make the deal happen). This kind of progression is what the INTJ personality is meant for. This kind of progression is stressful as hell, but I found that when I lean into the stress rather than avoiding it, the reward more than compensates for the negative emotion.

[@Axeltonn]

I recently took a test from a psychologist which showed me as INTJ. After listening to this video, it is 100% true for me. I have been avoiding going full bore into my personal business venture as I am afraid of the effect it will have on me if I fail at it. So I have been sticking with my safe and comfortable corporate job. This video has given me the insight to notice this flaw and how to correct it.

[@eclipsesjerhail1282]

This was an excellent analysis. I feel more motivated to move my ideas into the real world as I have been spending too much time with 'Authenticity' closing myself off and protecting myself against emotional pain with a wall of doing that which feels good instead of doing the right thing. I'm really glad to be updated, thanks for the hard work and thanks for the survey.

[@harshitac]

I have always shut myself indoors even before corona happened

[@TheOfficialTab]

If anyone is wondering if the "introverted feelings" can really get that bad: 2 years, that's how long I'd stay indoors and just prepare for the worst. I ruined relationships out of the extreme desire to protect myself from emotional struggles, thankfully I was able to see that something was wrong with me; I attempted to search for a way out of that problem. You've gotta learn how to not be so defensive, and that putting yourself out there with people you can trust is a good thing and allows you to grow as a person. I'm an artist, and for those two years I didn't try anything new, I didn't allow for criticism, and from all of that I didn't get any better at what I was doing. The effectiveness of raising my skill level went to 0. That's not a joke, I didn't improve AT ALL. Don't let your "introverted feelings" get the better of you. After finding out what I was doing wrong, getting reacquainted with the formula for success, (which is a lot of failure and the attempt to find what causes that failure) and finally putting myself out there and getting some thick skin about things, a thousand times more stable as well as successful.

[@pogonolagododipopopo]

how you find out what you were doing was wrong

[@arindam1249]

100% same happened with me

[@franlawrence6954]

I masterminded something extraordinary (legal) and it was all in my husband’s name. It took years of my devotion, work and sacrifice. ‘We’ were set for life financially. Then he divorced me and left me homeless and turned my own family against me. That was two years ago and I’m still licking my wounds. And, yes... I’ve been living as a shut-in except to go to work... which I need to do now as he is retired in the home that ‘we’ were suppose to retire in and with everything in it. Time to get up and do it again... this time for myself. Thanks.

[@kanithor]

Thank you!! So insightful! Gave me lots of 'aha!' moments. Now I shall go swiftly forth and implement my awesome ideas that have danced in my head far too long.

[@user-xn2hf9re8r]

this is absolutely brilliant and explains so much to me as intj. thank you for posting.

[@sidahmed789]

My authenticity led me to isolation, smoking too much weed do too much drugs and not wanting to share anything that’s going on inside of my head for the last 2/3 years!

[@matthowaful]

I sometimes fear success as much as failure...failure brings me back into a comfort zone. I need to learn that it's OK to be successful and be prepared to deal with the change

[@thelemoneater]

I could never focus in schools etc, I was always stuck in my own head and ended up failing exams because I couldn't focus on the topics in class. I found one of my old English books from when I was around 6 or 7 and inside I had drawings that illustrated how car engines worked... Why the hell was I researching mechanical engineering as a kid? Why the hell couldn't I be a normal kid... Back on topic... I failed a lot as a kid and got really, really, used to failing. I like to believe that it has gotten me to think that failing is more important than winning. When you win you win... But when you fail you are given the perfect opportunity to develop and learn new ideas or learn to tackle the problem in new ways. I hate being right, because I don't learn anything from being correct.

[@keithgoldman329]

Wow this is scary how accurate this is!!!

[@justinmadison1342]

This is very confirming for me. I've come to these conclusions myself lately and this encourages me to pursue them.

[@cortneymalin849]

By far the single most useful video I've found on my personality type. I am intj-t. It was very soothing for me to watch, comforting in a way that makes me feel understood. Which I never feel in real life. My friends that I do have I've had since jr. High cause making new ones is impossible. The new people who take to me usually have an agendA.

[@lpleach]

On 'communicating love,' your list is perfection. On effectiveness, you have sound advice. I have learned on my own that at some point I have to get the plan out in the real world. This is the ultimate measure of how good my planning is (or is not). When getting the project off the ground, I look at it as building a prototype. I can re-build the perfected plan later once I have worked out the details. I find that in the real world there are variables that I was not aware of that impact the perfected plan in my head. I accept that there is a possibility that it will not work out and I will have to start over again and a good chance that there will be adjustments once I see things taking shape. Sometimes I have to put things on hold a bit to re-think my approach when things aren't going right. In the end I usually have good results. It is satisfying to get it off my list of to-dos and sometimes I even impress myself with how well things turn out. There are also times where the imperfect end result can nag at me. Either I get over it or I fix it. Either way I'm moving forward. I've also found that perfection is a lot of work. Getting something to 95-97% perfect is generally acceptable. The amount of effort required to get another percentage point grows exponentially and I reach a point where the 'Return of investment' is no longer worth it.

[@chrism5763]

For the first time in my life, someone totally gets me! This is almost 100% me including the seduction of the Tertiary Introverted Feeling part especially when I am in an area that's totally new to me. I recently entered a Sales role (which they say is an area weakest for an INTJ) and this Introverted Feeling has held me back by letting my mind plan continuously to the point of inactivity.

[@Andracarys]

I love this. Please make one on ENTJs. I have been studying all kinds of Jungian Typology testing and can't be more in love with the theory and all sorts of testing. Your videos helped me a lot when it came to getting the theory to reality. Again, congratulations! PLEASE may the next one be about ENTJs.

[@widowmaker1797]

Always wondered why I was so different socially and how I think from the rest of the world. I've thought long and hard about so much and neglected figuring myself out. Glad I decided to now, knowing yourself better definitely helps with how information is processed and the world around you. Wish all of you best of luck in this crazy world

[@SonyasAllAroundLook]

I honestly don't know where to start, words cannot describe how thankful I am. Thank you just doesn't seem like a big enough word to truly describe how thankful I am. You fueled me. I felt so alone, and I did feel like I was an outsider, really throughout my entire life. I was aware when I was younger that I needed more discipline and a challenge, and that led me to join the Marine Corps. I did great in the 8 years that I was in. I loved it, the most memorable part of my life. In the military and outside of the military, I was always cast off as being weird and crazy, and yet they still consider me a leader...frustrating to hear. Because of you I'm fired with passion again. I started a KZbin channel as an outlet. Although, I was supposed to post every week, I started losing passion. It felt like people only wanted to look at me from the outside and not the inside. I started out doing this is a hobby. If it wasn't for you telling me to embrace it and don't be ashamed of it (my personality I mean), I probably would have been down and out for a long time. By the way this is not my comfortable way of living. I like to be creative, outgoing, active, and an explorer. I'm going to continue doing what I was doing when I was younger, starting with my ideas and bringing it to reality. I've noticed that people are easy to tell me things, but are quick to take advantage of me in the long run. I use to struggle with the fact that "I can't help that I want to help people". People automatically believe that I have a hidden agenda. And by that I mean that they assumed that I wanted something to gain for helping them, again frustrating. When I say frustrating I'm referring to becoming tired of the same scenarios rather. I truly want to help people. I hate evil things done to people and children especially. I do want to do something about it. Honestly that's why I can't afford sitting out and I do want to learn more that's going to get me to where I'm stable to handle such evil Acts. There's never a time when I'm not thankful for the words of another. Organization...It's such a great feeling to make something and know it came from your heart. I'm willing to take any materials that help me add to my skills or require new skills, so that I can reach that goal and prepare myself for something that could possibly be fatal, and in return I will gain good habits to add to my character. Again thank you so very much. Excuse me for the run-on sentences, lack in grammar and punctuations.

[@SBecktacular]

This is so right and true- I have been waaay too in my head over a particular project I wish to embark on- although it’s not rocket science, and I basically know I need to gather information but have been “afraid “ to start, but fully aware of my capability and competence. 3/4 of the way through this video I turned it off, got on the phone and started calling the people I need to talk to to get the ball rolling and start the necessary research. Thank you SO MUCH for giving me the nudge I needed to get out of that feeling/defending mode and into the action phase! Ty ty ty ty ☺️👌✊💪❤️😃

[@WhiteAkane37]

Thank u for slapping me with this video. I just realize that I focused on my fear heavily instead implementing ideas. I think that was the reason I felt empty and useless since last month.

[@onthedre]

I been playing it safe - i became a shut in for 2 months already. Thanks for this video.

[@StraightAhead135]

I see that what's in this video is the very core of my dream life!! Endless appreciation. LET'S MAKE IT HAPPEN!!

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thanks for the comment. What's your next step to "make it happen?"

[@michellehlnds4789]

Great video. Gave me insight, where I need to improve myself via to a better life.

[@InYourNetwork]

This is so helpful and accurate. Thank you so much.

[@anselmihemba6274]

Have always felt that something is missing in my life, now I know, it is ‘effectiveness’.

[@nickca6104]

This really spoke to me. I often prioritize how I feel over what I do. This is despite the fact that me doing the right things makes me feel good.

[@thomasbreed1997]

Perspectives is so spot on for me. Questions like what are the long lasting implications of emerging technologies are what drove my current academic pursuit

[@SisyphusOnSunday]

I normally don't comment on KZbin, but you Sir have shook me to my core. As I gather from my past experiences , I now consciously realise how these factors were at play in my day-to-day dealings. This video will only help me in building a better version of myself. Thank you!

[@jennifergonzalez8498]

I'm 42 years old I'm just leaving an unhealthy and abusive relationship of 12 years I'm scared but ready...its time for me to give whatever insight understanding of what I have been through to at least one person who needs to hear it .....if what does not kill us makes us stronger our strength is useless if we lend it to those who need it...our happiness depends on it .... thank for validating what I already knew it is just the nudge I needed to close my eyes jump and grow wings on the down

[@1984july5th]

funny cause as an intj you just set a goal and when we do a ticking clock dissipate our feeling emotion and when you reach an almost exhausted state we go no look back we just go

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thanks Jennifer for sharing. Wishing you the best on the next step in your journey.

[@LizInTheB]

Interesting. My motto is similar, yet opposite (because INTJ/contradiction ;-). For me, if what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, then what 'good' is that strength if we *can't* lend some to those who need it? I do my best to use my decades of ups and downs in life and with people, to 'help' others who struggle with such things. I hope you landed softly, and that you're thriving. Toxic relationships are the worst. I'm glad you're on the other side.

[@MrMarkCaudill]

This is a great video, I got to quit hiding from the world and get out and show the world my genius.

[@ramaniagharkar3914]

Beautiful video! Right on the point

[@ajinkyabhalerao4270]

This Video is very underrated. I've got so much information and data from this!

[@Prosperroify]

Really great stuff. One of the things I like about Personality Hacker is how you guys package and explain the personality types in such an easy to understand model where even the terminology for the types you use is descriptive. If I were to be critical one small thing that I would like to see improve would be better explanations of the varied blends of each function. I feel that you guys almost do that when you start talking about the "age level" of the functions, or their maturity level (3 yr old etc.). But it's almost like you are treating it as if the functions behave the same way as their more mature representation of themselves. For instance, If I'm an INTJ and my Fi is my tertiary it is not just an immature and defensive little Fi with a different role compared to an Infp's Fi. It looks quite different too. I love how you demonstrate warnings and advice concerning how they will influence our behavior but what about their actual description according to the type they are a part of? The function actually looks different because of how it is blended with the other two dominant functions. As an illustration, water is still water whether its in Canada or California, but people swim in it in California and ski on it in Canada. Hope that makes since, and I would love to see that maybe on a more advanced video. Anyway thanks for the video and great job guys, keep it up!

[@joecoolmccall]

This is very good. First , it gives direct and practical ideas. I deal with the theoretical all the time- but you made this concrete. Second, it was direct and to the point with efficiency.

[@ChandaAshley]

Oh my goodness!!!! Yes! All day long....yes!!! Thank you for making this video! 🥰🙌

[@irenewilliams3455]

This awesome advice, thank you!

[@iamanentppersonalitytype3184]

As an INTJ this makes so much semse, thanks for the video.

[@LyPhan00]

OMG the INTJ Defensive Strategy part speaks straight to me. I'm so scared :((

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thanks for the feedback +Ly Phan. Here's an article +PH Antonia Dodge wrote that a lot of INTJs have found helpful: www.personalityhacker.com/intj-personality-type Lots of great stuff in there to mine out.

[@rusurveillancetaskforce]

Feeling scared is an emotion. Confirmed non-INTJ.

[@ksun029]

+Speed Pasadena lmao yes fear/death are basicly illusions death is something that only gets "meaning" in life so i create death by living...So life is the act of death and death is the act of life...fear is a result of lack of understanding.

[@chingchingbling2145]

@@rusurveillancetaskforce Lol yes. The first thing that an INTJ would have (and be jovial about, not afraid) is the epiphany that'd follow any Ni realizations, followed by visions about using the said Ni epiphanies to advance oneself. The OP is probably someone with lead or secondary Fi.

[@m-bronte]

I'm an INTJ....and yes I keep myself safe at times, but I also take chances. The INTJ expressions of love is definitely accurate lol! and I definitely live my life by my feels....I trust my feels in most cases. Example when I meet someone my first thought is, am I getting a good vibe from this person.

[@peppylemon1717]

Thanks for this. When learning about MBTI in the beginning, it’s easy to just “justify” many of our behavior, but in the end you cannot escape the matter of the fact why these even exist in the first place... How to be a more balanced person, how to use this information to live a more balanced life, to be more content and how to be an effective contributor to society as a whole.

[@briancavan8116]

When I was younger I took the risks. Got others involved. Etc. In pretty much every instance the others involved let me down. Most people aren't driven the way we are. Because they haven't invested the thought. It gets lost in the effort. I have worked towards HUGE deals. Only to see a "partner" crumble under pressure. Or a individual refuse to pay what they owe. Its really hard as you age with fewer years to waste on such disappointment.

[@latinaalma1947]

Sorry to hear that you have been let down.

[@fairytalecaro]

I appreciate how informative this video was!🧚‍♀️✨

[@sachinkumarbhoi1672]

It's the most useful video than other videos which talks about INTJ behaviour

[@seanfields1712]

Wow! Personality Hacker is so good!

[@josalynbrinson5980]

Very much on point! As for authenticity I have become so excessive about what I should do or the perfect job title for me to pursue. I don’t want to do anything, but write in my journal until it is clear and it’s never clear. It’s miserable contemplating day end and out. Only to get comfortable with an idea then dismiss it due to comparisons with others or the doubt that anyone would understand where I’m coming from. Or I get inspired by a random distraction and waste precious time . I focus so much on a specific definition and title that I am not getting things done because I want it perfect now. Well thanks personality hackers for helping me realize that I must do what feels right which sometime feel like I am going forward blindly. And I rather be blind moving forward then stuck going nowhere any day.

[@momof3plusdsg]

Typically I score INTP or a few INFJ results on personality tests - I'm pretty sure most people assume I'm an INFJ or if they only know me superficially; an ESFP because most people confuse personality types with what we've studied, what we do for a living and what hobbies we share/let others know about. I just took your personality hacker test on your website and I'm so excited to have a different result than usual, my first INTJ score - I have a son who scored INTJ on some test and it fits him perfectly, we understand each other pretty well but there are differences in thoughts; he's very self confident and it's very important for him to always be right or factual, not so much the case for me. He's the perfectionist, though he appears cluttered even careless at times to people who don't know him well. It's like he pretends to not care when things are difficult for him. I don't care if I "look bad". I'm happy to keep thoughts within, I don't identify with a need to test things in the real World. In fact, this is a side of me that frustrates a lot of people! I guess the verdict is still out on my real type, and that's more interesting to me than actually knowing which type I might really be and I'll be happy with whatever type, no matter the result. I've had a lot of thoughts about how society and familial expectations might've shaped my default thinking process as a mature adult, differently than if I'd grown up with different circumstances. If I'm honest with myself, I probbably rely more on introverted feelings than I'm comfortable with.

[@beachysmeachy_]

Everything in this video is spot on for me, but especially the slide titled “How INTJ’s Communicate Love,” was definitely right on.

[@sabrinacasey6378]

I have let my 10yr old fi take control but not being a shut in. I just can't stand being at home and being forced to focus my sensing in the real world by my family. So i normally go out alone put my headphones on and explore my mind. I never notice where i'm at nor do i notice the song playing. I just go to places alone like in the library or mall or parks or even college just so that i can think. People close to me think i've gone crazy ( sometimes i do too). But i just don't wan't to feel bad or drained. I want to indulge in interesting thoughts and work on projects by my self.

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

You've found a solution to get your need met. Any ideas for other INTJs?

[@ThePlatineist]

There's nothing crazy about wanting to be alone. I trust my parents and siblings enough that I don't feel drained or tired when I am around them. Also there's no one in my family who craves to talk all day or anything, we are perfectly fine all doing our own things in silence. But I do like to go off alone with my mind by shutting myself off with headphones and going on my laptop. The people I tend to shield myself from is from my friends. I don't like meeting up every day or even talking via text all day. I'll ignore them for a few days straight, before finally responding. I need the recharge.

[@ayoubkhalil1]

That's awesome I've actually been doing that as well but going to different spots to read and its super relaxing, really enjoy just being alone with nature. You think you've gone crazy cause your just so unique you haven't met anyone like you yet so you think your weird, your just awesome.

[@EverywhereNYC]

Absolutely brilliant!!

[@melodymurtaugh2275]

My authenticity has DEFINITELY held me back from my goals. I’ve always fallen short of all of my goals, because when I get stressed or it becomes difficult, I give up and end up beating myself up for not accomplishing anything. It’s a vicious cycle.

[@beejohn1016]

Wow ...deep ..I pretty much was aware of my perspectives and effectiveness. the one that just got me is the authenticity. I'm always having "visions" of what needs to be done in the future . My 10 year old often gets in the way ....i have become very shuttered as of recent . Basically everything that was described is accurate.

[@ilhamesse7118]

Really insightful video!

[@jacobmols7904]

What i found to be most effective for gathering information, learning expanding my world and become able to see more. Was not to focus on 1 skill. But on many different ones. Since each skill "some examples"->> Programming, 2d&3d design craftsmanship, music, sport/fitness. All have different subjective & objective views that holds the logic for that particulair skill. But at the same time developing/experimenting in 1 skill, while contemplating on others. Adding to that becoming better at 1 can also make u become better at other skills without contemplation since the thought pattern only adds to making a domino effect of information. U hold the spark, start the fire.

[@numinous4789]

Excellent, and a great resource for INTJs, like myself.

[@warmth5]

Your model is really handy and makes things clear; all its parts which are explained in detail in your PODCAST; it is great and just strikes... it gives a coherent and systematic exposition of all my experiences! e.g. I tend to delay things and prefer to just think alone even though I have experienced that I find satisfaction in a well relation and practice... both part are needed yet the difficulty is keeping a good balance between the perception and execution!!!

[@rmcd823]

Very exact. Helped a lot. Thank you.

[@tiffanysdandron3793]

INTJ is my latest personalitity type! I say that bc im really big on personal developement ! I believe why my type shifts so often is my astrology sun sign being Pisces! I kinda am a lil bit of every personality "a camilian "! I was the ENTJ the time before this one! Also your podcast is where i discovered the "Graves Model"! (Thank you btw) I believe all those beautiful lil corks mixed together equals exactly me! Well everyone, honestly, we are all so different yet so similar! The beauty of the Struggle and those scars are extremely important! Its humbling well thats my reflection for the moment! Lol Cant wait to get to my next podcast! woohoo yall are too awesome your doing good things for your people! Keep being fishers of men teaching people like your both doing! It Saves lives !!!! Thanks again

[@lynnbilbrey8823]

The authenticity part is so crazy true omg I tried to keep getting out of my own way and it just got worse it’s so true that fro a year I’ve been preparing for implementation someday

[@bonkahermitakaintjudge9228]

Good stuff. Helpful in navigating self improvement strategies

[@wenjingyu1798]

Awesome video, thank you.

[@colonelsanders8320]

I’ve been reading most of us are in a state of idleness because we think nothing works for us so we are delaying things. “You need to focus on what needs to get done and how you do it rather than avoiding bad feelings” this spoke to me the most.

[@Personalityhacker]

Thank you for sharing what resonates from this video. ~ Joel

[@blackswan1983]

I'm an INTJ who stays authentic, as long as it doesn't get in the way of important things. Logic rules in the end.

[@aniokay]

OMG, this resonates so much with me. I've studies Meyer's Briggs for a while now, first believing I was an ENFP, then INFJ, then INFP, then INTP. And now, INTJ. I hope I have landed in the right place. The secondary function growth hit home for me. I actually wanna go out in the world, realizing projects, art and what not. But I always hesitate, because there are so many barriers - and because I can never realize the perfected image I have in my head. Then, why do it. Now I know how to bend that one...

[@drummerboysjc]

I've been applying this for a little under a week. This video explained things to me in a way that other ones have not and got me hopeful and excited enough to jump on it right away. I've been confused for a long time why my introspective processing and ideas were unable to move anything in the real world. Generally they result in blank stares or frustrating conversations that are not in sync and fall short of full expression. This video helped me realize that if introspective processing is my language, then effectiveness is the translation of my language to the world. I don't really have specific "ideas" that I'm trying to move into "effective space." I more have an understanding and set of ideals that I've developed with years of introspective, intuitive processing that I now have to translate (and adapt) to the real world. This week whenever I would leave my house I would "turn on." ie get out of my head, observe the world around me, ask myself what do I have to offer (in a non self indulgent/heady way) to the 10 foot radius around me based on everything I've learned and built up intuitively. Conversations have become less about me trying to express complex idea. I rest and relax in the room or with the individual and don't try to figure out new things or deeply process what someone is saying. I feel the release to do this now because I trust that my perspectives are deeply rooted in me and will come out automatically (without me predetermining to do it) and I know now that being in that "effective" (and not "perspectives") space is the best presentation of myself in the real time, real world anyway. "Perspectives" helps fill the gas tank, "Effectiveness" hits the gas pedal and turns that fuel into kinetic energy. I used to feel threatened by getting out there so to speak. But now I know (from this video) that it IS a good use of my energy. (In fact using this energy is enjoyable and brings more rest at the end of the day). It will help grow me AND make the world better. A win, win. So far the response has been good. I feel better and I have something to look forward to when I get up in the morning. Others seem more responsive and comfortable. Being an INTJ makes you naturally very hard to read and confusing for others to understand (and therefore trust)... the decision to NOT be that way for the benefit of others is a good one to make.

[@jaelynstanley7808]

I really appreciate this response. I’m excited to move forward with my new knowledge of having an INTJ personality type. I hope you’re doing well.

[@drummerboysjc]

@jaelynstanley7808 Thank you for reading and commenting, kind stranger! I honestly forgot I wrote this and just re-read it with fresh eyes...7 years later. How crazy!

[@anneliu3816]

I am an INTJ-A. Recently, I've realized people with insecurity can find this personality type be intimidating. Our analytical approach can drive these people back to their shells. So now I keep reminding myself to be "soft" when dealing with people with insecurity.

[@ConsHime]

"Done is better than perfect." I agree.

[@fedegonzalez5263]

Wonderful. Thank you very much

[@Life_moreabundantly]

Amazing Insight.

[@travisminott]

This is very accurate.

[@jmeneely]

Do any other INTJs out there get absolutely brilliant ideas flowing into their head when they’re sleep deprived? Know any non-INTJs that happens to as well? I don’t. Everyone in my life can’t understand how I just kind of happen upon ideas seemingly hanging from a tree in my mind, waiting to be picked when ripe.

[@aranaetheintj6304]

the phrase in this, "done is better than perfect" is just what i needed to help me keep working on a project of mine concerning religious theology. its been in my brain for about 4 years now, and theres been fears of people not wanting to read my stuff once it gets published, having personal implications if or when people find out that it's actually me writing these things (authenticity), or people saying my theories or analysis is incorrect. I have to get over these feelings of insecurity, and do what is effective, which is to actually do the work and stop getting trapped in my feelings of fear.

[@mastazenkei]

This is kinda scary how accurate this is , especially how you tell you love someone

[@VisibleMRJ]

the level of accuracy is unbelievable