5 Traits INFJs Have That Others Treasure

[@RensRoom]

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[@jacob_massengale]

I've come to stoke my ego

[@delalucius5137]

Me too!

[@astoldbynickgerr]

touché ☕️

[@dinkin_flicka14]

Or to some INFJs who are low on self confidence and this video helps them to regain that confidence.

[@faunaria7127]

low self esteem amarite

[@lewomewo3480]

@@dinkin_flicka14 yes. Some of us just needs some confidence boost every now and then even if it's a bit narcissistic.

[@KeepingItKevin]

Growing up people told two things "You're weird" or "you're gonna be famous"

[@SRV2013]

I heard both of those all the time.

[@emailedanthrax6126]

I heard that last month.

[@robgreen1828]

i got told my a lot of teachers to my parents that i have a very great mind but kept on losing focus in class by daydreaming and i could do very well in life if i concentrated, and all my friends tell me im the weird but funny and sociable guy

[@darienwilliams5194]

Lol this is so true! A good balance of both.

[@zappedguy]

I spent many years of my life feeling like I didn't fit anywhere. I recently discovered that it was my rare INFJ personality type. One of the most fulfilling times in my life was my 8 years volunteering in a hospital near me. I was scheduled to spend 4 hours one day per week distributing magazines, books, personal care items etc. After a while, patients began telling me about their trials etc. and I was responding in a way they appreciated. my 4 hours became 6, then 8, and occasionally 10! The more I was listening and understanding, the more people started to want to talk and the more satisfaction I was receiving! I would end my time there exhausted, but it was nice kind of tired, knowing I did some good. I only did it one day per week because I needed my down time to recuperate and recharge. I learned during that time to understand and appreciate my differences.

[@jessicaazcue4581]

You can actually see INFJ’s in the comment section by our grammar

[@Musician_Robert]

Jessica Azcue glad there is no need to correct spelling here lol

[@the3ambreeze]

@@Musician_Robert lol

[@asuari7305]

this means our grammar sucks right? I was top of my class and i once told my language teacher that I have bad spelling because i simply cant motivate myself to learn some spellings. they just make no sense

[@randompersonlol7519]

@@asuari7305 Same, my English teacher even told students if they needed their work revised or edited to come to me. I have no motivation to learn new spellings lol just sound it out if I don't know it.

[@ritakus9871]

I feel like what you said is very true about INFJ's wanting to influence a small group. They don't want the credit, they'd like to touch the lives of an individual, and then let them touch the lives of others, by making it their own, while having the same core value. INFJ's do not desire to be famous, they have the desire to help, and if they can keep at a low profile, they tend to be more effective.

[@donnawoodford6641]

There are few people who seem to want to listen to me. I think I'm more invisible. My Ex wanted to listen to himself, and tried to make me listen, do, and think what he thought I should. So, my opinions didn't matter. I was dismissed and devalued. It was not reciprocal. I have to say that I like myself better after leaving him. Not having influence in my life caused me to become depressed. Now, I'm better. I nurture plants.

[@heatherwhatever7714]

Your plants are quietly but noticeably happy I’m betting. 🪴

[@caroliner2029]

I'm feeling so happy to be me, listening to your videos. Idealistic, perfectionistic, and altruistic. True. We will be fierce in our passion for our beliefs and convictions. We are individuals with a strong moral compass. We care for our personal growth and integrity, and want to foster it in others. We want to mentor/encourage others to be their best selves. We are creative, and see possibilities in people and situations. So satisfying. Thanks for these great insights, Ren.

[@RensRoom]

And thank YOU for your great feedback, Caroline :)

[@ElusvOptmst1]

We have great Integrity too. People have often told me they never met anyone like me.

[@Neiljjm]

When you talk about INFJ responsibility, I'm reminded of a quote from the I Ching, "He who serves, rules".

[@RensRoom]

That's a great quote :)

[@artistchristos]

Jesus Christ is Lord of all and he came as a lowly servant to the people, like lost sheep in need of the Shepherd.

[@laraoneal7284]

Yes I love the name change also . You’re more than an INFJ , you have such a uniqueness to you I cannot just group u into one description. You have huge compassion about you and ur depth of perception is so nurturing.

[@wandering248]

At 12:10 “This requires accepting one’s self, loving one’s self, loving one’s strangeness...” I absolutely love that, in part because that is such a struggle for me to do so. I wonder if you’d like to make a video about that in the future if you have any more thoughts to share on it. :) I think one other thing I admire in INFJs, which you show so clearly too, and goes hand-in-hand with many of the traits you mention, is depth of insight!

[@RensRoom]

It's a struggle for me too. Thanks for your comment! :)

[@EllaChinois]

When I am paying extra attention to what others are telling me, I may look very intense. Often time I get told, "Why are you freaking out? You should see your face. Relax. It is okay." I am always left speechless. Honestly, I don't feel anxious. It reminds me of cats' faxial expressions: when cats are being too attentive when looking at humans, humans tend to believe cats are being judgmental.

[@gmm6106]

EllaChina same 😂people always tell me to relax. I’m focused man 😭

[@patriciahall651]

People would always tell me I was staring at them. Often times they would think I wasn't paying attention, but I was seriously listening to them and observing their expressions or mannerisms. Thinking about what they were trying to say, then I would ask them questions... Is this what you experience?

[@thenextpoetician6328]

Cats are Aspie INFJs as far as I can tell.

[@jessenceq3250]

Absolutely fantastic. And positive - which is important as the INFJ is very critical of themselves and sometimes get nihilist. I've added this to my private "INFJ - really resonated" playlist. In this video, you are actually providing the traits you speak of. 😉 Thank you!

[@hopeinhumanity.]

Jessence Q I kinda laughed when I read this comment because I believe I have 20+ playlists now and a few of them are ‘INFJ (tired of scrolling list)’, ‘INFJ fav list’, and ‘INFJ’.

[@Lisaaaaaaq]

Thank you so much Ren ❤ This really resonated with me. Whether we like it or not, we have this great ability to influence people. We need to accept this and use it for good. I can see now you're a true INFJ lol

[@silentgrove7670]

Several years ago I would go birdwatching and I would see Wren's at a certain place. I called that place Wren's Corner, I had my hopes as it brought back a special memory. I had two meetings with INFJs this week. Both had features of exploring deeper things than most other people will which is one of the reasons I like your type. Also they seem to like my intensity which is nice. Yesterday I spoke with one about feelings and relationships and almost no one else will explore such a topic other than at a surface level. We both have romantic interests in early stages and being of opposite genders I suggested we discuss what I refer to as "decoding the secret language of the opposite gender". I feel as you do as well that most people do not seem to care about deeper and intense experiences. Neither of the INFJs seem intimidated by this and one said they find me endearing. I think INFJs have a strong ability to validate the experiences of others. I remember what one INFJ said in a video ... paraphrased, "Show me what you are not showing the world, I will hold it for you."

[@astoldbynickgerr]

What a beautiful comment all in all.

[@MyNameBeeKayy]

Love that you made it just your name. It’s personal, distinctive, and genuine. And probably the easiest way to cross platforms, which I hadn’t considered until now. I recently started uploading videos and was considering changing the name of my channel to make it less personal, but I’m also noticing that a lot of other INFJs on KZbin are recognized b y their real names. It might also be a good way to seem more... human and relatable, since a lot of our qualities would have us seem or feel otherwise. Thanks for the awesome content, and contributing to the growing INFJ community on KZbin. Gonna do my part as well, and all you guys are instrumental help and inspiration. Thanks again!

[@BryanChance]

Everything you said here I'm can relate to, although I couldn't articulate it as you did. I'm glad that you mentioned the cliche that INFJ's want to be left alone and keep to themselves. Some people tell me that I'm outgoing and sociable and others say I'm a quiet home body. They are both correct. :-) In general I'm definitely an introvert but I CAN appear to be extroverted. I need time alone to ponder, self reflect and process things in my mind.

[@witsek7000]

Ren’s Den

[@RensRoom]

Haha, nice!

[@pmlover1810]

That was my first thought as well 😛

[@witsek7000]

PM Lover definitely a good thought

[@filmspotchannel]

Hi Renaud, I like your channel name, but your idea about changing it to Ren's Corner sounds good, too. I appreciate your understanding and effort in making these videos. Have a great day!❤

[@mandyvincent1439]

I work in a hospitality setting. I have found that the sales department seems to be always interested in my ideas on different changes that make it more inviting and yet more financially beneficial. The ideas always seem to be greatly successful, for both business and also the people who come to our establishment. Have come to be more proficient at expressing those ideas to certain people.

[@erikknudsen4034]

I seem to excel at the exact same thing, only in a different setting and business! That's awesome.

[@elizabethkelly6325]

Ren's Room is a good name. As an infj, I can totally relate to these 6 things.

[@rickyconstancio7856]

"Before I start this video..." Me: starts skipping forward.

[@LittleMissHoop]

LOL same

[@laraoneal7284]

I just love you Ren. I do believe that since meeting your incredible parents and their ability of loving u so much that u have these beautiful traits and the freedom to express those traits bc they have allowed u to truly be yourself.

[@dvsdv4347]

yes I really loved his parents and their easy interaction with each other.ren you are lucky to have such parents who accept you for all you are as an infj being so different to others it is hard for parents to relate to this

[@ggresham4419]

The prophet Cave thing is so funny to me , because I always tell my mother I wish I could just go and live in the middle of the Woods for weeks or months and I would be glad that there's a little town maybe within 15 miles or more that I can visit for a couple days and then go back to the woods. The second thing is something that weighs on me ,the influence, sure I can pride myself in the influence , and I feel very guilty for that it can almost put me into a coma because it's linked to me feeling like a manipulator and then very sinful for being a manipulator and prideful. I try to tell myself and , I really do believe I try, to only take someone's own personal components and help them by moving around their components, to see the light so to speak. However if someone's irking me or completely dullsville I will plant seeds, and I'll even try to water them and then if they really drive me crazy I'll send in a tsunami.

[@LittleMissHoop]

Jordan Peterson is INFJ?! Very cool! Explains why I feel like I totally 'get' him, being an INFJ myself

[@deadpooltyinterwebs7233]

Outstanding content. Thank you so much for putting this message out into the Ether. I've been tested twice (with a 7 year span) and came up INFJ. Given the limited numbers of this personality type, there is limited material from which I can learn from if that makes sense. Thank you again this really improved my day/week/month/life =)

[@JayDaMusicLover]

Perhaps a play on the “Realm of Thought” like the “Realm of Ren”, or “Insights with Ren”, or “Ren’s Real Talk”, or “Deep Thoughts with Ren”. There is a few suggestions lol. Regardless of what you call it, i will still be back! Horray, for not changing your avi lol after watching your interview with Pucokie that you recommended, I finally figured out the meaning behind it and I find its symbolism very suiting! As for your video I agree with what you said. I still have to hone how to put my vision into proper words to influence others better. I tend to use my abstraction when talking to people and they always end up confused, but when I put it into simpler terms they tend to thank me for it. It does in the end still feel very rewarding. Great video Ren!

[@RensRoom]

Oh my, you guys are spoiling me with your suggestions! ♥

[@TheFab1013]

You know, I’ve always wondered why, I can come in to a new job and people sometimes maybe the most quiet people will just come up to me and tell me their life story or mostly their problems. I just took it as I’m that guy. The person people may not want advice from, but someone just to let it out to. I’ve always accepted that, but I have always genuinely listen to them.

[@jaiferkhalifa1729]

you are amazing thank you for this and keep going, please

[@IterDux]

The name change sounds good man! Do it!

[@luismx8]

I really relate to what you said. It helps me know myself better. Thank you for the knowledge you share. I will watch more of your videos. Just one comment: I generally find your videos a bit too long. That’s why I havent watched many of them in the past. Once I actually watched and listened I realized you have great content. Keep it up and good luck on finding a name for your channel that will take you where you feel you need to go.

[@robgreen1828]

Through Ren’s Lens

[@redeemedstone]

Ren's Reality

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Yeah!!

[@kacake]

Intensity & passion - Intuition & Judging curiosity & long term vision Influence & Responsibilty - extraverted feeling people oriented causes for humanity Creativity & Idealism - Introverted self expression

[@TeraHammer]

Thanks Ren! This explains really well on why being a mentor to a intern felt so satisfying to me!

[@occupiedaustralia9952]

I keep honesty as a core belief , that lends itself really well to our positive traits. Thank you Renaud for this. I relate very easy to young people and really enjoy helping them.

[@syedazeez6457]

Very clearly explained. It is true to the last word. Self realization has come after a longtime by people like you about our real character. Thanks.

[@Bayoubebe]

Wow, wow, wow!!! GREAT video!❤😊

[@infj-tguy6275]

I'm very passionate about alien life and space, I even get nervous twitches because I get so excited from seein how ppl react to hearin about how aliens helped shape our species and that there are stars like Uy-Scuti that make our sun look like a speck of dust in a massive library or that there are entire planets made out of diamond, magnitars to gamma ray bursts, 3 suns orbiting each other and the possibility of white holes and black holes so beyond the word collasol it rivals god in size vs power, the universe is absolutely amazing and 1000% mind blowing

[@RensRoom]

Thanks for sharing!

[@tofusamurai22]

GREAT video-- thank you! This helped me a lot! ^_^ (P.S. I do see Jordan Peterson more as an ENTP with well-developed Fe, via his psychology background. His Si is tamed, and integrated, but he has this uneasy relationship with it. He loathes when control is imposed, especially when it's incompetent. He also has this hyper-order in relationship to developing healthy routines, for himself or others, in a way that you can tell-- and he has said-- relates to the total lack of this in his youth.)

[@RensRoom]

Thank you! I'm also considering more seriously whether JP might be ENTP after all.

[@jimmygarcia7250]

Name ur channel renauds phenomenon

[@RommyFallas]

Thank you. This video was a pennydrop🙏

[@RensRoom]

Haha, thanks.

[@NisLcCrew]

Thank you Ren, you help me find motivations by putting into words this things :))

[@melanie.l6282]

thank you for your positivity.quite a lot of people treat us like weird, strange ,what's wrong with him with her???i even heard on Bethelight channel we are autist"(don't go there anymore)now i have found your channel.great!!!

[@RensRoom]

Thank you very much, Melanie! :)

[@janellellis5388]

Ren’s INFJ Philosophy

[@garruksson]

I actually prefer the philosophy vids but a name change makes a lot of sense for sure. I second rens den like someone else commented 😋

[@dvsdv4347]

Rens retreat

[@RensRoom]

Damn, that's a great suggestion.

[@thaisarvelos1]

When you were talking, I thought about Ren's words/ Ren's words of philosophy/ Ren's philosophy/ Ren's thoughts/ Ren's whatever you decide xD What I mean is that it would be nice the name change. Also, what you said about intensity and influence were particularly relatable. It's scary and empowering knowing that you can influence someone else's thoughts, feelings and actions.

[@RensRoom]

I agree with you that it can be a little scary! Glad you related to the content. And thanks for the suggestion, by the way! I like Ren's words, but I feel like Ren's Room is more... inclusive, maybe?

[@PowerRedBullTypology]

Ren's words sounds more Te (Ren tells stuff to you - one way direction) Ren's Room (indeed) sounds more Fe... (indeed, inclusive)

[@RensRoom]

Interesting functional analysis! I agree that Ren's Room sounds more Fe. By the way, what is your own type? I believe you mentioned it before but I am not sure I remember.

[@PowerRedBullTypology]

INTP

[@RensRoom]

Cool!

[@teresarmiento2849]

Love this ... you’re so spot on 🙌

[@teresarmiento2849]

Just finding my way through this .. ever so true and finding it really helps 🙏

[@z1pp0m4n]

You earned my subscription with this video. Congrats! 😉😂 Intensity. Lol. I've been told I make people feel as though I'm staring a "hole" in them....

[@z1pp0m4n]

I've been told I have a golden aura! I'd love to know why that means... if any know.

[@fruitoflifemyhoneybe]

your videos make a lot of sense and are very much relatable.. #infj and thriving

[@shawnatoft7891]

Thank you for this

[@johannaljungdahl7562]

Nice to "hang out" with you 🙋 If you want to change the channel's name I think " World of Ren's Philosophy" would be nice and could incorporate everything you might wanna share with your audience on KZbin. Keep up the good work, it is much appreciated 👋🌹

[@RensRoom]

Thanks Johanna! :)

[@Musician_Robert]

Ren’s Philosophy Sounds good.

[@heatherwhatever7714]

You might open up exposure with KZbin. Good idea.

[@Coneman3]

I don't understand how so many people are motivated to do their jobs which usually seem boring and mundane, and then they just go home and do chores and mundane things. Never understood that. I can see a contradiction here in that INFJs are highly motivated but can procrastinate so much in doing things because they live so much in their heads. INFJs want to do perfect, important things. I think Sensing types just think F types are stupid and/or lazy.

[@melanie.l6282]

thanks for your reply.going to watch your other videos

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Absolute Spot On!

[@melanie.l6282]

Thank you for this video!! I have not be personaly attacked by anybody on the net /but i have seen videos that are mean to infjs /Having said that outside of the net in our society we are labelled strange : weird ; or nut case so it"s hard in every day life (work-family)!! So thanks again it's so refreshing!!

[@Neiljjm]

Hey Ren. Like the name change; you always film in a room in the background so it fits! You mentioned in this video the link between INFJs and intimacy. Can you tell me which video that was? Thanks. Keep up the great work!

[@RensRoom]

Hi Neiljjm, I'm trying to think of the video but I can't figure it out... Do I really say that I made a video on INFJs and intimacy, or do I say something else than "intimacy"?

[@Neiljjm]

Hey Ren. Your comment was more like, " INFJ;s artistic expression is very intimate..." Something along those lines. It is an intriguing observation.

[@Neiljjm]

Hi Ren, the comment is around the 9:00 mark. The comment was more about how the Ni vision is something that is intimate but should still be shared with others. Do you remember which video? Thanks.

[@agentcovfefe6983]

Yes less generic! Ren's Corner sounds good.

[@juleendickson1079]

So as a fellow nerd, what books do you think INFJs should read?

[@eyeinthesky6702]

Yah change ur name! U seem intellectual and I like the words U use! Human something sounds good! Like Human Response or Only Human kinda thing! Ur cute!♥️

[@haitiantonice2722]

I don’t know if I’m a INFJ. But I have helped a lots, of people’s. I m very good with peoples, I also can feels they pains, when I’m around them. I love people lot, but I don’t Like they betrayed. I don’t believe in those thing.

[@Musician_Robert]

You speak very, well Ren. I think you should have a professional name for your channel. Perhaps, Ren’s Office or Ren’s Corner is good too, like you mentioned. Ren’s Mind - sounds cool too. Have a great night. 😀

[@aidakasaei7780]

What do you think of astrological signs? I read somewhere that they are correlated.

[@withwingsaseagleeyes]

Call your channel"Ren's Mind on Personalities"

[@jondavidperson5573]

What day is it? 😂

[@minok7374]

Hi from a Brazilian INFJ Ren! Great Videos! Question (for a video maybe): What do you think of the Big Five Personalite Traits? Do you think it may be complementary to the MBTI?

[@RensRoom]

Hi Victor, thanks for your comment! It's great to know an INFJ from Brazil :) Yes, I do think MBTI and Big5 are complementary to a degree. It's not a perfect correlation but it's there. I think I'll make a video on my Big5 results soon, but I might have to do the test again :)

[@thaisarvelos1]

Hey, Victor! I'm a Brazilian INFJ as well!! In which state do you live? About the Big5, I see a lot of correlations and also differences. The biggest difference for me is that you are somewhere within a scale of each trait instead of a dichotomy of letters - even though the letters serve just to organize the stack of cognitive functions. My results on the B5: openness was high, at 79% (N?) conscientiousness was 62.5%, which is in the moderate range (J?) extraversion was low, at 25% (I?) agreeableness was high, at 73% (F?) neuroticism was high, at 94% (Turbulent) "Core Pattern: Empathic idealist. Uses insight and creativity to help others. Thinks about how the world could be a better and more beautiful place"

[@RensRoom]

Wow Thais, we have pretty much the same level of neuroticism. Welcome to the neurotic club xD

[@thaisarvelos1]

@@RensRoom Hooray!! - wait - why am I celebrating this?! xD

[@minok7374]

@@thaisarvelos1 Wow! Verry cool! I'm from Minas Gerais, the land of the pão de queijo (i live in the capital).In Which state do you live? I took the Big5 a long time ago, (where did you took yours by the way?) i got: Openess 78% Conscientiousness 52% Extraversion 25% Agreeableness 70% Neuroticism 95% this is an average. I took many tests and they came out more or less the same.

[@stranded420]

Rens moment

[@hexxxplicittruth6443]

KZbin can you please not censor my vision of positive influence ....thanks.

[@ThomasMegabezemboy]

I'd say it resembles the shaman archetype

[@Lady_Jewels]

I was thinking Jordan Peterson is an INFJ also!

[@kimberliebyington5245]

My passion is making jewelry. Kim's Kreations on facebook

[@yohananrhinehart6846]

How about calling your channel: Ren's Place

[@shannonlogue5585]

I like "Ren's Corner." Did I spell your name correctly?

[@RensRoom]

You did :)

[@christopherj5780]

Ren's Pen. Idk

[@somebody9369]

You look cute :)

[@gummibear1735]

I've noticed it with myself. I reckon other INFJs will also be amazing at training dogs. I find that dogs are always genuine and kind natured, more than people. Cats are assholes, but a dog will never lie.

[@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384]

I get very impatient from the way you talk. If you could accelerate your words in your talk, it would be great.

[@Khiarika1]

Just accelerate the speed of the video in the settings.