Nourishing your Mother & Father in You | Dharma Talk by Thich Nhat Hanh, 2011.09.30 (Magnolia Grove)

The Sangha is gathered together at Magnolia Grove Monastery in Batesville, Mississippi during the 2011 US Teaching Tour with the theme Cultivating the Mind of Love. This 88-minute dharma talk is from September 30, 2011.
We begin with a 23-minute teaching for the children present at the retreat. Of course, everyone can benefit and enjoy this teaching regardless of age. Thay shares a story of bringing a bag of popcorn, but not to pop, to the children at an Italian retreat. The seed of corn that becomes the plant of corn. And how we can nourish our father and mother.
After the children leave, we continue with the Sutra on the Full Awareness of Breathing. Yesterday we learned the first eight exercises of mindful breathing - the realm of bodyand the realm of feeling. Today we continue with realm of our mind. Mental formation.
9. Aware of mental formation
What is “formation” - comes from samskara. Anything that is formed, is a formation. There are physical formations and mental formation. What are the mental formations? The good ones and the negative ones. Can we name our mental formations? Call it by it’s true name.
Store and Mind consciousness. What are the characteristics of these? A teaching on seeds (bija) and how we can use our practice. What is our the ways that we suppress our negative mental formations? The most common is to consume. But what can we do instead?
10. Gladden the mental formation
This is equivalent to the practice of Right Diligence. There are four steps in this practice: First, not to give opportunity for the negative seeds to come up in the first place / in ourselves or in each other. What are the conditions we are creating around us? We should know how to consume. Second, if by chance a negative seed arises then try your best to help it go down as quickly as possible. This is the art of embracing the negative mental formation. We can invite a good seed to come up. Change the CD. Third, give the good seeds plenty of chances to come up. This is the art of flower watering. In ourselves and in the other person. Thay shares the story of the couple who came to Plum Village from the city of Bordeaux. The fourth aspect of the practice, of the good seed has manifested then keep it present as long as you can. If we can do this, then even more good seeds continue to grow.
11. Concentrating the mind / mental formation
12. Liberating the mind / mental formation
When we are concentrated, we discover the nature of what is there. We can see the non-flower elements of the flower. Happiness is made of non-happiness elements. Mindfulness can bring concentration. Liberation is the fruit of concentration. There are many forms and teachings in cultivating concentration. What are some examples?
There are three kinds of concentration found in every school of Buddhism: emptiness, sighlessness, and aimlessness. These are the Three Doors of Liberation. Insight arrives.
Impermanence is another concentration. When we look into the family album, are we the same or different from the baby in the picture.
The last four exercises of mindful breathing are about the objects of mind. Reality is not something outside of our mind - it is the object of our mind. These last four help with the practice to release and transform our suffering.
13. Contemplating Impermanence
14. Contemplating non-craving
15. Contemplating the ultimate (nirvana)
16. Contemplating letting go
The talk concludes with an overview and teaching of these last four exercises, particularly our objects of craving. Money, power, sex. The conditions of our happiness are already present and available.
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[@PatriciaWright-o4i]

This talk made many things clearer and my heart much lighter. Hearing this gladdens my heart and encourages my practice immeasurably 🙏❤️🙏❤️

[@lindaj5492]

1:26 I notice as he finishes reading from the card, he gazes down at a little yellow flower that reaches up to him above the others. As he continues speaking, he glances down at it again several times; and the flower seems to dance gently. At 3:28 he reaches down to touch it gently. 💗 Inter-being 🙏

[@ritamorelli3869]

Oh how beautiful 😍

[@elinannestad5320]

this is a mega-talk - I feel as if there is nothing left out.

[@maywin4204]

Yes, my mother is around me...tearing and praying for mother daily. I'm proud of her....

[@elinannestad5320]

me too

[@BethyKable]

He is so gracious to share his knowledge and wisdom with the whole world when his true practice is to meditate and stay in his community. I admire him so much.

[@ConexionHumanaOficial]

I love what Thay explains about our parents. It's amazing for our nourishment. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Evangelina Cortes.

[@gabryg1849]

Grazie ancora Maestro Thay.. And Sangha as well, 🙏😊

[@maywin4204]

So valuable speech, my parents around me continuation, clouds never die...

[@aigoo8377]

Thank you teacher

[@catherinefriederich]

Right to the heart as always, Beloved TNH

[@kefelekassa5413]

This man represents the true human good!!!!!!

[@roncephil5021]

Best of Thay’s talks I have heard/watched. He starts and ends with engaging and amusing stories (Italy and Modern Vietnam) and includes essential teaching on maintaining and improving personal relationships. ❤❤❤

[@evangelinacortes708]

Thank you so much Venerable Thay. I'm here learning from your deep wisdom. Today is a great special day because I'm preparing my new stage in your teachings. My Honor and Gratitude to you for the eternity. LOVE YOU. EC.

[@bengoldberger1113]

Thank you, Teacher.

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

I love learning about how to keep my family with me through awareness .. 🌸🐇🤸🏼😌

[@Sarahizahhsum]

My parents are narcissists and so am I. I have to heal them through me and stay away or else I go back to my old ways. I can't keep doing this to people. I can't keep hurting them with my own pain. It's not fair. I am isolating as I am on my journey.

[@dejan3860]

Narcisism cánnot be healed.look" malignas self love,by sam vaknin Hitler,staljin and all politicians,serrial killers are narcisists só you are

[@dejan3860]

Narcisism is reincarnated vampirism,no healing for that

[@dejan3860]

Pray tô Satan,legendary .... litthium. Grandiose narc.,maybe Satan will help you,He is your father

[@dejan3860]

Penicilin did better with me than anyone hand on my head

[@dejan3860]

Sigmund Freud was incestuous and concluded that we all are.i am rather carefull with being only extension of parents I knew guys who were very diferent than parents. Fathef and mother doctors and He is a thief.....and there are many other examples. It seems that buddhhism has to be modernised,as thay stated

[@maywin4204]

Everything comprises in this Dhama talk, thank you and feels so calm..

[@Benswinger]

Very healing. Very helpful. Thank you.🙏

[@maywin4204]

Effective presentation with drawings to memorize deep more to be mindfull in everyday situations and restoration...

[@kerry-anne39]

Beautiful 💕

[@skystanlake173]

Lately I've been listening to my voice when I speak and I hear a mixture of my parents' voices, it weirds me out. But this puts it into perspective. Thank you.

[@ConexionHumanaOficial]

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Venerable Dear Thay. I love this teachings. In simple words he explain deep knowledge. Marvelous Master, kind and strong at the same time, a lot of wisdom in every word. I love you Thay. Hugs. Evangelina Cortes.

[@awolpeace1781]

It is me who planted the seeds of all my own futures

[@awolpeace1781]

Embrace all that comes from you but control how it comes out

[@KRSNALOKO813]

48:45 Love/Peace Treaty

[@christihill2177]

Teacher, if mother is in daughter, and if living daughter is angry at living mother, can mother heal daughter's anger with mindful meditation?

[@booktownasmr]

Thank you for your wisdom I have a question how can one move out to another place if she or he has no place to move out to , I live with a very angry brother he always touches the seed of anger and fear and despair in me I don’t know how to deal with that problem in my life I am seeking for help 😢😢😢

[@jinkyjoyacain6800]

They saying right now to kill me. Not BLESSED and I want REVENGE for Everything. Please BLESSED to all the People's giving me a HOPE, OPPORTUNITY and WEALTHS. I love you very much my Father Thich Nhat Hanh. I'm using your lecture to giving them a Badluck .

[@michaeldooley5331]

My wife and I are living with my parents due to my health challenges. My mother has been touching me inappropriately and acting jealous of my wife. I have informed my wife but we are unable to leave. I am in great physical pain and I don't think I can live much longer under these conditions. I try mindful breathing all day.

[@upstatenewyork]

Can you please explain what you mean by touching you inappropriately.

[@KRSNALOKO813]

The stress/abuse you're suffering is likely more detrimental to your health than the physical conditions u are suffering from. Namaste and God speed 🙏🏼

[@sophiakh9590]

I am so sorry to hear of this. How are you now? Have you found a safe place to live?

[@sinhsumedh1879]

Sadhu-3 .

[@soundyoucantouch]

Completely off topic but can’t helped to be flabbergasted: did anyone realised that Thay drew that big, perfect circle with his free hand around 31:58? 😱

[@jinkyjoyacain6800]

Father Thich Nhat Hanh not sharing my skills to Eugene Subido. A lot of Bad People's giving a Bad Smell and to my Family's like Manananggal Smells. Please get everything God's in Philippines. Thank you very much. I Love You Very Much 😘💖.

[@jinkyjoyacain6800]

Father Thich Nhat Hanh PLEASE BLESSED President Bongbong Marcos and Hong Kong Country not to giving me a BAD LUCK. Giving them an ETERNAL BUDDHA DIAMOND WEALTH. Thank you very much and I love you very much in my Spirits, My Souls and My LIFE.

[@jinkyjoyacain6800]

Father Thich Nhat Hanh always PROTECT my Mother Nenita Tan Acain, the Philippines Government and Philippines Hospitals injecting virus to lungs of my mother and slitting the bodies. All the philippine ancestor like kapre for getting spirits please get that. I love you very much my Father Thich Nhat Hanh.

[@Crafty-One]

Love this guy and his teachings. Only thing that I wonder is he says they dont have bank accounts or posessions. Then how did go purchase that property in France(plum village) as the sanctuary immediately after leaving vietnam to organize all this? He mustve paid cash no? If not he had a job to finance it? None of it makes any sense or makes little sense.

[@kashemdrycell3667]

Today is Friday, April 29th, 2022

[@dejan3860]

Couple from bordou, shows thays incompetence in that matter.women like exactly guys like that.

[@marlenesimoes206]

Legenda em português.

[@marlenesimoes206]

Legenda...

[@jinkyjoyacain6800]

Father Thich Nhat Hanh always my family's about Buddhaa Wealths. I'm alone right now, a lot of Bad Stories in my past about last night in ESPLANADE Park in SJDM Bulacan for Buddha Wealths for their Promotions. The Government doing that for their purposes in life. They always invading my family's bodies for their foods, for their happiness and for their WEALTHS for PROMOTION. I sacrifice everything for 40 years until now. They invading my mind, my body , my health to say I'm BOBO, I'm Bastard, I'm Ampon for their WEALTHS.

[@jinkyjoyacain6800]

Father Thich Nhat Hanh please not share my skills to Eugene Subido. Blessed them only a wealth for UTANG na LOOB or DEPTH of GRATITUDE.i love you very much my Father Thich Nhat Hanh.

[@dejan3860]

Thay says that we humans are young species on the earth,yet we act like bosses. Than he says that everything outside is the object of mind,how than earth existed before before us? That is contradictore and not thruth. It is a mistake of ancient buddhism, and shoud be deleted,should be adaptad to here and now.impermanence permeates buddhism, therefore thay is wrong,in this particular ,but important case.

[@dejan3860]

Thay is absolutely incompetente on relationships between man and women,especialy in case of that guy who had many girls,...women like exactly promiscuidade men.

[@osinaki]

The moment when you realize it’s all bullshit…

[@dejan3860]

If anyone bothers to answer i,ll be thankfull.

[@dejan3860]

Further more buddhha said that in the case of old age sickness and death,mother cannot take place for the son,and die for him.but if we are only continuation,and lack any idiosyncracy,how is that? By idiosyncracy i dont mean self It is confusão,and if anyone could explain i would be thankfull.i,d like tô add that buddha was not a Prince,neither his father was a King His father was just a servant of a local president of poor bichar.so buddha didn,t left a kingdom behind,but misereble provincial life.the stories about kingdom are legendas by simple people.

[@dejan3860]

Not all of us have good seeds,there are evil People and they run the world

[@dejan3860]

That woman from bordou,France,was crying becouse her parecer satisfeito her masochism, by cheating on her.she wasn,t sad.she liked him cause He cheated on her and i am sure that if He became faithfull her" love" for him vanished