The Science of Being Transgender

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[@debs74dotson92]

I am a 60yr old grandmother of a 15 year old granddaughter who is identifying as transgender. She shares these videos with me to help me understand all of these different identities. I am very open to all of these things. I want her to be happy with who she is, and I am very grateful for you, to help me learn so i can be a support her.

[@TheAnnaPhilharmonic]

You're a great grandma!! :)

[@hiimpeyton671]

So many people your age cling onto your terrible beliefs. I bet your daughter is happy you don’t. Thanks for being an ally ❤️

[@blurryhds]

That is amazing, you are doing a great job!

[@thecluckster3908]

can I get a cookie?

[@andreacooray2702]

♥️♥️♥️

[@WrenintheRoses]

I didn’t start my transition until I was 54 years old, mostly out of fear of losing my family and my career. I was miserable with myself. Here I am, 16 years later and I’m fully transitioned and I couldn’t possibly be happier about finding the courage to do what I needed to do. I’m also an outspoken advocate for transgender rights.

[@voidshards]

Oh wow! It's always so encouraging for younger trans people like myself to hear the stories of older ones. There're mostly young ones in the media and the former generations weren't as open about this topic, so it's really inspiring.

[@danicageorgemathew5038]

80% of people don't know what transgender means. And that includes me. Thank you for the education.

[@putput9575]

I appreciate people like you who are willing to go out and learn more :)

[@happypiano4810]

Makes me realize most transphobes don’t even know what they hate.

[@evil_zebra4275]

Thank you for taking the time to learn ❤️

[@gonegirrrl]

i knew what it was but it never made sense to me. this was very helpful

[@gonegirrrl]

@Thugma Penith wdym

[@psicologiajoseh]

The amount of humble people in the comments, admitting their need for education on this matter (of course me being one of them) gives me hope for humanity.

[@henrybusse7513]

Exactly my thoughts as well! I fully expected a lot of hateful comments, but i was pleasantly surprised to see people genuinely understanding the video!

[@berrysnowyboy5251]

same

[@theprogrammer32]

"...when the roman emperor preferred to be called a lady, even though *she* was assigned male at birth." *"she"* It's that easy but it melts my heart so much

[@Al_Afrah]

Same. She is a she even though she was assigned male at birth.

[@master106]

empress.

[@croissora]

fr 😭

[@Sam-fq5hc]

@@menow. have some respect for once.

[@b3rntk4r3]

Same 🥺

[@ThrottleKitty]

Even as a trans women who isn't non-binary, I was glad you mentioned non-binary. It's sad how often they get erased, despite there being just as much science and history backing their existence as ours.

[@finley6161]

Yes! I am genderfluid but I had never heard it or any other gender identity under the non binary umbrella be mentioned scientifically until now.

[@Typus803]

hearing that being non binary is as valid (scientifically) as being transgender makes me happy I'm always questioning myself about how valid I am, so now I know that I'm valid

[@pugmommy9865]

I'm really glad too, I've always felt like it wouldn't matter how I was born and sometimes I want to be male sometimes I want to be female but a lot of people have a hard time understanding this concept. Because they think you can only be one gender or the other and I'm so happy that it's backed up by science.

[@NikaHollywood]

Agender science nerd here. It made my day too!!

[@failedsocialexperiment2382]

I'm non binary as I feel, it makes the best sense.

[@xhalgr]

My mother is trying to avoid acknowledging that I’m transgender by accepting that I’m pansexual, so I’m sending this to her to prove my brain is right and my gender is real.

[@atalantafugiens0426]

Hmm.

[@nukiradio]

Those aren't opposites, I dont see why that's a valid way to dismiss gender. "You accept everyone romantically, therefore, you're lying about your gender" .... da vinki?

[@melancholymountain1232]

Though the video may not solve all your problems I hope she learns something from this! Good luck ✨

[@jettflowers]

i’m a closeted trans and i’m also pansexual. Please give me an update on how it went/goes

[@jettflowers]

@@blacktigerpaw1 dude^

[@matdiehl2945]

I was 5 when I knew I was not right in my body. I’m 72 yrs old. Still not right but learned to live with it. Reading these stories gives me hope for the future of people like me.

[@whyl0ser91]

I'm sorry you had to go through your life like that hopefully things get better :}

[@GogglzMUSIC]

It's never too late to live your best life ❤

[@nisagomez4366]

Same, I knew around 5 yrs old. It was a different time. I started my transition when I was 55. So amazingly happy. Gender euphoria is real! Things are getting better but today I had to decline a job offer in Austin because of the ani-trans laws in Texas. Hopefully things will change for the better.

[@fluffybytez]

hoping you're still happy living!!

[@No-ky3kb]

You don't have to live with it still

[@miranda4059]

As a trans women myself 3 years post op im really satisfied with myself after transitioning mtf

[@DJ-kt5bk]

That’s good to hear, I hope you are doing a lot better now! 💙

[@Rebellious_Pastry]

I'm not personally Trans but I do admire how They can put up with so much and still be breathing

[@Jordan-jp5ks]

Im so proud of you queen!!!!!!

[@kentesart]

I'm 7 months late but I still would like to say rock on sis!

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

I'm many months late, but I want to say congrats and HELL YES! Glad you are feeling satisfied and more happy now! Keep being awesome!

[@rottofox]

I'm just going to send this to my mum- hopefully she will finally understand that I'm not having a "phase"

[@joseserrano5323]

yes queen or king or other royalty terms

[@DJ-kt5bk]

Even if it was a ‘phase’ you are still valid beautiful and amazing

[@veganarchistcommunist3051]

I've thought about doing the same thing, except playing it out loud for people to hear.

[@thisisepic3052]

@@joseserrano5323 L O R D

[@aurora-st4r_rl]

@@joseserrano5323 YES MY LIEGE

[@sinzianabeceriu940]

I'll admit I used to be fairly transphobic; I will also admit I used to not understand the whole science of being transgender, because no one has told me or cared to explain properly, so I thank you for this video! This definitely changed my way of thinking and I now have a better understanding on the subject :)

[@dontpanic6349]

That's very incredible to hear! The education & awreness of lgbtq+ topic is super important, so it's great to hear you took the time to watch this video :)

[@user-vw4xp5nt9f]

now that is epic 🏳️‍⚧️

[@karlmelver5147]

(tbh I was transphobic and very racist until I found out I AM trans)

[@karlmelver5147]

@@Greyyguy28374 lol, no just realized I was a asshole to a bunch of people, so apologized and we ended up getting along better

[@peque9579]

I was also extremely transphobic and homophobic, during those times I was having asexual tendencies but straight up denied it bc "being ace is gay and im not gay" but im glad I matured early enough to realize that trans people exist and everyone in the LGBTQ+ exist :)))

[@AImusic-electro]

I wish i could show this to my mom, she thinks that being transgender is just a phase and no matter how hard i try to prove her wrong she just ignores it..

[@Necrocosmia]

I'm sorry about that, you deserve a good family who respects who you are. Some people are just stuck in their ways, and it's truly a tragedy. I hope you have good friends who support your identity, as that can be extremely helpful

[@fluffybytez]

she can learn, don't worry! just show her videos such as this and she'll learn!! it may be hard to believe, but she will learn!

[@KuaChan]

Same lmao

[@Dedan_Rigor]

Same here

[@Minyassa]

I hope you eventually got to show it to her.

[@raymondthecartoonenjoyer4803]

I really wish the surgeries weren't so expensive so I could actually have a chance at getting them.

[@sammybun8871]

Theres a grant you can get in the USA. I don't have it on me atm but if you qualify (doctors note, psychiatrist note, having been on hormones for a few years, certain annual income range, etc.) Then they cover up to 90% of transition costs. I'm in some Facebook support groups and I've had a person send me the link before. But you might find it if you google "transgender surgery grant" or something similar. It's a whole enrollment process thingy where you reserve yourself a spot of coverage and surgery the next year.

[@alexthewolfia7452]

@@sammybun8871 That sounds so cool! I'm glad that there's a grant for that.

[@jenneljustus9601]

Many health insurance companies do cover reassignment surgery

[@QuinnOsgood-c9v]

@@raymondthecartoonenjoyer4803 I don't know where you are with your transition, but lot's of the states on the west cost have some form of socialized medical care. Oregon and Washington are probably the best, they will cover all gender affirming care including confirmation surgeries

[@rottjavel3073]

some people say "you don't chose your gender" and not realizing that by saying that they are accidentally supporting trans people as they didn't chose their gender, they were born with the gender they identify as

[@rottjavel3073]

@@jntznbruh Theres a huge difference between race and gender. You inherit a race, but you don't inherit your gender. you mention facts, the only fact here is that a doctor assigns you a gender at birth. There is actual science behind being transgender, which makes me wonder if you actually watched the video at all or just went right to the comments to fight with people TL;DR of the video: men and women have different brain chemistry. Studies have shown that trans women have brain chemistry much more similar to cis women, and trans men have chemistry more similar to cis men.

[@rottjavel3073]

@@jntznbruh did you even read what i typed? Never in my comment did i mention that they are taking away someones freedom by assigning a gender Guess who diagnoses people with gender dysphoria, aka being trans, and prescribes hormones and suggests different tratments? Doctors And i sure as hell am going to trust a doctor who specializes in gender identity more than a doctor who took one look at an infants genitals.

[@rottjavel3073]

@@jntznbruh That's how you generally distinguish gender yes, and in most cases they're right because majority of the population is cis. But if another doctor later in that persons life says "hey this is wrong" then we have to listen to that doctor it would be like a doctor saying "Your kid is healthy", but then later in life another doctor finds that the kid has a heart condition. You wouldn't say "that can't be true, the doctor said my child was healthy"

[@rottjavel3073]

@@jntznbruh you can't chose your gender either. You don't choose to have a male or a female brain, you don't choose to have a male or a female body, you don't chose to have those two mismatch, you don't chose to be trans. Changing your race isn't a thing, the people who claim that just wants to be part of a culture common among that race, or are trolls trying to stir up controversy. You can be apart of a different culture, but not a different race.

[@animposter4971]

@@jntznbruh watch the video before heading to the comment section and spreading misinformation

[@TouchcreatorYT]

Transphobic people: 5 year olds don't know their gender! Me: Then why are you forcing a gender on them if they apparently "dont know"

[@lupo3555]

*cricket noises as the transphobes experience reality failures*

[@pinruihuang8463]

@@caffeinati You're forcing them to be cisgender.

[@emmet3541]

@@caffeinati It is forcing a gender if you would force a transgender child to be cisgender

[@dexterious35]

Exactly, one day when I have a child, I’m gonna let my child express themselves just as they want without being forced to wear anything girly or boyish if they don’t want to.

[@emmet3541]

@@letsgetfluffy3138 I only meant that it would forcing a gender on a transgender child if the parents don’t let them express however they want

[@CatonHuang]

I'm a Chinese transmale and I came out for my mum half years ago. But at the first time she brought me to see doctor instead of supporting me with my gender identity. After checked my body is physically healthy and normal, she stopped talk about transgender topic anymore. Meanwhile, she and my other families keep calling me with female pronoun. I tried to mention name transform and top surgery but be strongly denied then. She is utter a transphobia with nothing can heal her. If I send her trans videos she perceives these are all a lie. I don't know what can I do for myself in such a tranphobia family and country. But seeing there's people who like you supporting us, I'm really appreciated.

[@theoneeyedowl4182]

Hey, I'm almost in the same situation. I just want to tell you that I understand what you're going through and that you deserve to be loved for who you are. May your family accept you and may you be blessed.❤️❤️

[@fish_fihs]

that sounds awful, I hope things get better for you

[@fluffybytez]

don't worry, they'll learn that transgenders are okay :) dont feel sad, my man! you're a man even if you aren't born as one!! you're gonna be alright, so don't worry!

[@kevin.710]

We are going to be okay 🩵

[@lavalambchops]

My heart goes out to you I'm so sorry

[@bethanytaylor1704]

I am straight, white, cis, and Mormon... and I am loving binging your content! You have such a soft, soothing voice and you are helping to educate me on a culture I have struggled to understand. Thank-you!!!

[@harlgg]

Thank you for taking time to learn about other kinds of people, we need more people like that. Have a nice day/night!

[@osamabenladen4262]

@ mormons are all around the more in touch with the teachings of the nazarene than any denomination aside from the american black church

[@StorminMormin91]

I'm gay, brown, cis and Mormon. Glad to see you seeking to listen, learn and love. ❤️🌈

[@StorminMormin91]

@@osamabenladen4262 I don't know about that one. Kind of you to say though

[@staticdoggoe34rd]

@ like me abro and Christian

[@Chrischi3TutorialLPs]

LGBTQ+ Education in my school was like "Oh yeah, gay people and lesbians exist, lets move on to the more important, heterosexual topics, since most of you are gonna be hets anyway."

[@metra8604]

my school gives a bit more knowledge, but doesn't go into them. hey, the nb, aro and ace flags are on the wall so that's good

[@nonimportant4069]

yeah...........

[@happynightmare2332]

You got an LGBTQ+ education in school?

[@BlueTheCartoonAddict]

@@happynightmare2332 my education is my LGBTQ+ friends, and people such as Jammidodger

[@happynightmare2332]

@@BlueTheCartoonAddict yeah mine was reddit, insta and now youtube aha. My school supports it i think? But they've never did a thing to show it. Like at all

[@kaidennassty2257]

I’m 15 (ftm) and have been on testosterone for almost 10 months. Using public bathrooms is still anxiety inducing, and I still wear heavy/baggy clothing during the hot summers. However, I recently learned from my mom that our medical insurance will 100% cover my hormone treatment and any surgeries. I should be able to get top surgery next summer, and I’ve never been happier. :)

[@alicecain4851]

Congratulations and I'm glad you have a good support system!

[@mdrocio]

That's so cool, dude! Congrats!

[@p3niscolada]

super exciting!!!! very excited for you :)

[@Meh-sn5kj]

Omg im so proud of you🥰

[@aliel6137]

YOOO thats amazing!! i wish you the best and i hope everything goes well!! :D

[@user-om2se6sl7l]

I love how he doesn’t gloss over anything he in-depth explains each term for everyone to understand

[@jimmysuros6302]

What Im wondering is what causes gender dysphoria.

[@jayit6851]

As a trans person, it feels so validating to know science is on my side. That what I feel is real.

[@jayit6851]

@Kelly Ali Well I was never "diagnosed as transgender" so no. I was however diagnosed with gender dysphoria which doesn't require brain scans.

[@_sadfrog1870]

@Kelly Ali shes saying she wasn't "diagnosed with transgender", she knew she were transgender, the brain scanning was for science, an experiment. Not all trans people need a brain scan to know who they are, or what they identify as :)

[@jayit6851]

@Kelly Ali the study that found the scans had nothing to do with gender dysphoria. Just that people who identity as binary trans female or male had brain activity that matched cis people of the same gender. It's validating because my identity isn't just me pretending, it's backed up my scientific studies and evidence. You don't have to get a brain scan to be validated as trans.

[@jayit6851]

@@_sadfrog1870 yes exactly, thank you. By the way my pronouns are she/her :)

[@_sadfrog1870]

@@jayit6851 I'll change the pronouns I put now :)

[@danih.5675]

I didn’t know I was transgender until in my twenties. God it would of been nice to have education like this growing up

[@nukiradio]

Same story here! In texas, we didnt even acknowledge autism until 2004, and being gay was a felony until 2003

[@cindymanning6757]

I'm still going through this and this wasn't hears if when I was growing up. You kept your mouth shut in school because you knew you be a target. They didn't even know about transgender you was either gay or lesbian that was it. They was kidnapping kids back then with church groups . Not giving them food and water for days and brainwashing them to be straight. There was still done electro shock thresphy going on then too. Then ofc as a teen to early 20s there was the groups attacking beating us up and killing us. Im 50 abd that makes it still hard for me to come out. I look at all of you young people doing it and wish I had your courage. I'm inly truly me at home. I must say living in those two worlds and pretending all the time to be who I'm not in public has got me depressed. Now my health isn't really that good so I might of missed my chance to be the real me. I don't know about you but I consider myself straight so I want to date straight women but once they find out your trans it seems the end if the road . Any suggestions on finding straight women to date trans men ?

[@mantisqueen964]

@@cindymanning6757 It's never too late to become the real you no matter how old you are! As for the dating situation, some people would probably say to go to a dating app, some would probably say to just get out of the house and meet new people. You could find like a group locally on the Internet, like on Facebook or something, and meet people there. That's what my therapist says I should do just to make new friends, find an LGBTQ+ group on Facebook and plan out a time and day to meet them in person. I guess what I'm saying is that the Internet and getting out both are good ways to help with that. If you also have friends who are female and are supportive of the community, it wouldn't hurt to ask them what their thoughts are on the idea of dating a trans man if any of them catch your eye, that's another option to think about. Not sure how much help this was for you but I at least hope this was a little bit helpful for you. Best of luck to you and remember, it's never too late to be your true self no matter how old you are. I believe in you!

[@suspence8467]

@Fiammy How did you come to know that you were transgender?

[@suspence8467]

@Fiammy Sorry you felt that way and I’m glad you are doing better, but I’d like to prod a little deeper if you don’t mind. Mainly, why did you decide to place your self identity in the discomfort you felt with your gender? Let me elaborate on this. I have never felt this but I’ve grown up with one person who to the best of my knowledge did. Beginning in grade school and lasting all the way through high school he sat at the “girls table” (the table were all the single or not to terribly involved girls sat at lunch) and was, at least early on, describe as “basically a girl” or “gay”. He had a feminine frame, high voice, and related with women the best. Even through all that, he never identified with his discomfort. I’m not sure if he realized that being a male doesn’t just mean being the spitting image of the male archetype or if he realized that his feelings of discomfort were feelings and not representative of reality or a combination both or other reasons, but for some reason he never identified with his discomfort (ie. saying these feelings are apart of who I am) thus he never identified as being transgender. I am wondering why you chose to identify as transgender rather than saying I am a more feminine-male but a male none the less sort of like the example I gave. Sorry if anything isn’t “worded correctly” but am genuinely curious. Edit: grammar/spelling

[@NEPtune-fy1ug]

as someone who is an ally, it has been hard for me to defend my opinions, but this video is really the best i couldve watched to fully understand this topic, thanks!

[@monicadaniels784]

Thank you for being an ally, you are awesome. I think the best argument is not found in any study. Also, a cis person will never understand being trans, and trans people don't understand being cis to a great extent. It comes down to respecting others who are different from yourself. I fought facing the fact I was trans for over 50 years, meaning I lived with a varying degree of misery most of my life, at times bearable, at times maddening. I finally decided I had to live for myself and not for other's expectations of me. I've been a super happy woman since I made that decision. I don't ask people to understand this, but I do ask them to understand the pain I went through. I've only lost a few people in my life because of my transition because I educated others about my choice. Misery versus happiness! It's as simple as that. We can't run other people's lives for them. Again, thank you! Monica

[@SmashingCapital]

@@nietkees6906 thanks bro, from what i understand from your comment, the video was inexact but it still gave a good idea, the guy got probably confused with the survey thing but yeah the conclusion is still the same Thank you for the insights

[@SmashingCapital]

@@nietkees6906 i believe the conclusion is to prove that being transgender is a thing that you can see in the structure of the brain and that is not just "transgender people's immagination" (quoting transophobes), you said that its not in the whole brain but just one part but its still part of the structure of it so i believe the conclusion is the same, why do you think that wasnt the conclusion and the objective of the video?

[@peachysoul._.glitch4095]

@@nietkees6906 I'm transgender and I'm not here to complain, is good to know more things

[@dogchaser520]

Keep in mind that the brain isn't the only proof. Gender itself is very slippery. Chromosomes don't work: there are dozens of variations that aren't XX or XY. Genitalia don't work: there's plenty of intersex genitalia. Ability to reproduce doesn't work: plenty of people who are infertile are still considered male/female. The binary is itself a myth.

[@dragonvliss2426]

I am a cisgender Lesbian who came out in the late 1970's. I remember what it was like for gay people then, and see transgender people in a similar spot now. I am an ally.

[@Vex_TheJester]

Thank you for educating yourself and not letting popular bias taint your view of trans people

[@tibo6749]

It's really unfortunate that right now a lot of gay people seem to have forgotten their past and are against trans people existing.. It's nice to see a lesbian who isn't against my life

[@blakyboo_]

Ahh I was starting to feel dysphoric until you mentioned out non-binary people are affected by this as well. When my mom gets home, I'm going to show this to her! :)

[@DJ-kt5bk]

Be careful, please only show them if it’s safe to.

[@lupo3555]

Been 7 months. Is she back yet?

[@jaymazzella7140]

@Kerrigan's Cousin yes definitely

[@sabrinachuaqui]

@Kerrigan's Cousin i’m pretty sure it is. i’m non-binary and i have a sneaking suspicion that i have always been and will always be because that is just the way i was born so i think that even when i didn’t know i was non-binary, i’m assuming that my gender in my brain would still be non-binary (i hope that makes sense and doesn’t sound absolutely ridiculous)

[@evil_zebra4275]

@@sabrinachuaqui no that makes perfect sense!

[@catsrule1343]

As a cishet person, this video was extremely helpful. I used to think that kids shouldn't be able to transition because I was quite misinformed as to how the transition process works for kids, but thanks to you explaining things clearly I see that letting trans kids be themselves is incredibly important.

[@catsrule1343]

@Truth Sorry cishet means a cisgender (identifies as the gender they were assigned at birth; not trans) and heterosexual (straight) person. And yes cisgender is a made up word because literally every word in the English language is made up, so stop thinking that just because it isn't a more recently invented word that it doesn't hold validity. Words are invented to classify real world things, and since cis ppl exist a word was invented to classify us. Thats how language works lol

[@brooks5859]

:>

[@Moon1446-j9n]

@Truth Sorry The term cishet has existed since 2006, and refers to people who are both cisgender and heterosexual (someone who is straight and identifies with their assigned gender at birth). So on the contrary, it *has* been a thing for 15 years.

[@leonamanu1619]

@Truth Sorry Its a medical term for those who stay with there assigned gender at birth 💀 Your quite uneducated arent you?

[@JohnSmith-hs9ez]

@Truth Sorry all words are made-up, that's how words work.

[@ChloeVFX]

I've been trying to socially transition for almost four years now. Thanks, family, for being offended by me wanting to be myself. :) -Chloe.

[@andreacooray2702]

You'll get there one day bby 💕

[@ChloeVFX]

@@andreacooray2702 Your kindness is much appreciated. Thanks!

[@nukiradio]

I know how you feel, My mother wanted complete control over my transition narrative and said everyone was "shaming her" for not letting her talk over us

[@ChloeVFX]

@@nukiradio C'moooooon Mom, I just wanna be myself...... Why you gotta be stoop'd./ smh my head.....

[@yeetstreet4205]

Bruh same. It's been a year since I came out as gender fluid(they/them) to my fam and they haven't once called me by my pronouns.

[@naomilarisavoicu]

I used to be transphobic due to the cultural brainwash and massive lack of knowledge on this matter, but as soon as I met trans people my research on this matter started as well. Thanks to this video my thoughts are clear and I can recognise that I was wrong. I prefer facts to beliefs and the fact that those things were proved by scientifical research and someone's sex it is no longer just a matter of chromosomes I am very grateful for these new knowledge. Thank you and keep up the good work! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@infenvr]

We need more people like you. Thank you. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@_f_6957]

Cheers to you 🔥🔥🔥 that truly is amazing and we need more people like you ❤

[@Shazaam786]

Thanks for understanding the science and fact behind the people like us 😊

[@minacapella8319]

Thank you for allowing yourself to be educated and to empathize with us. I know it's not easy when you've been led to believe all sorts of things but you're proof that our efforts to help others understand are paying off.

[@plastictouch6796]

Sex is not gender. Sex is just reproductive function and gender is a set cultural constructs. For example gender roles are cultural, some cultures have men as the ones who cook, others have women as the ones who cook, and cultures evolve over time. Just because you have a certain set of genitals does not determine how you will want to dress, behave, and be friends with, who you are attracted to. All these things are determined by the brain. Like the idea that men need to be stoich and aggressive while women need to be soft and fragile is cultural. They are simply two groups that we created out of nothing which functions to reproduce societal hierarchy and culture. There is no reason to assume that someone with a penis is going to behave one way vs the other will behave a different way. In other words looking at someone's genitals when they are born and declaring their gender is absurd given that all that does is unload a million of assumptions onto what that person will become and how they will behave etc.

[@FF-cx4od]

I'm a transmale, found out i was trans at my twelve years old. I turnover, reread and reread between transgenders's brain study, i do think this is largely explained and explains a lot actually, but my mom can't support me, because "God made women and men only" but, in my perspective, this couldn't be right according intersexes's existence. And i worder anxiously: "Why did i just discorver that i was trans when pre-adolescence?" This make me freak out the majority of the time. There's a scientifical explanation for all of this? If anybody can explain i would be grateful...

[@lavadad2629]

Even though people and psychologists say that "most kids begin to feel dysphoric and stressed from ages 3 to 8" that just isnt as true, not even for "most" I feel like we all start to figure it out around puberty but there were small signs at those ages. Sit with yourself, think about your childhood, these moments will hit in the face in the weirdest moments. I know they did and still do for me and I'm 20 and just blown away cause like how did I not KNOW?? But like I look back and I "knew" that I was a 'girl' but all I wanted was to hang out with the boys be seen as one of them. It'll come to you, these moments, ya just got to look for them.

[@JS-mf9ow]

@@username4864 as a transgender christian that has been shunned from my church and family, thank you so much for sharing this article! :))

[@FF-cx4od]

@@turnipslol1069 Did you ever thought you were trans and just snap out of it?

[@FF-cx4od]

@@turnipslol1069 So dont act like ya know... stop invalidating people, not cool man.

[@FF-cx4od]

@@turnipslol1069 So in your view i sound very insecure lol anyway im not willing to argue or anything and you didnt said anything offensive so whatever... do what you want and take care.

[@mardipantz]

I started my transition in 1977 in even much more ignorant times. All my friends I grew up with are gone because of it. This is wonderful. Thank you for your werk! 👯‍♀️🏳️‍⚧️🙏🏽💟

[@peque9579]

😎

[@user-vt3qw5ql8b]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD that's because of you

[@thatoneguy9036]

@@_N3cr0s1s_ Lean is superior

[@Number_1_monday_Hater]

@@_N3cr0s1s_ black tar heroin with extacy is superior

[@sadsbarn]

🏳️‍⚧️❤

[@tieflingcorpse9817]

theres three parts too gender. sex which is biological, gender interpretation/roles which is a social construct, and gender identity which is psychological, none of which are strictly binary. and i think most trans people would agree but cis people (even allies) are still having trouble separating gender roles from gender identity.

[@sleepyleftie]

I have also seen examples of trans people conflating gender expression with gender identity, but shits complex, so i don't blame em. This coming from a feminine man.

[@DrTssha]

@@sleepyleftie Indeed. Feminine men are valid, and any model of gender that excludes them is incomplete. Gender is complicated, and not something easily explained. No wonder there's folk out there getting confused.

[@tieflingcorpse9817]

@@sleepyleftie well i did say most

[@magpiebirb3433]

It isnt just cis people who are still trying to seperate that shit, thats kind of stereotypical

[@KMILLER1181]

@@magpiebirb3433 AGREED.

[@dayneallensheetsftm]

At 60 I made the decision to come out to my family, friends, high school alumni and entire town as transmen. I had suppressed something I had felt from at least 5 years old and proceeded to undergo full SRS. It's been eleven years and my only regret is that I waited out of fear of society. My goal became to show what a typical average transgender man actually looked and acted like. And as a straight female I was now a gay male and again tried to show what a typical average gay man looked and acted like. I am happy to say that just through living my life in this way I have changed people's perceptions and views for the better. Every now and then I hear from someone I had known for decades that my openness and honesty about being transgender had turned them around from hatred to acceptance of people like myself. 🤗

[@Renteks-]

Your transition is perfect! I know it sounds sarcastic, but you genuinely look like a stock photo of a 60-year old dad.

[@santhemooncrystal796]

The only thing I would add is there are a LOT of trans people who realize they are trans after childhood, myself included.

[@Hooper45]

yeah same, i realized it when i was 16 - 17 years old

[@williamsvsmundo8553]

Yes, i realize it at 15 years old because i discovered what a trans is and i say "it can be me"

[@itwink_le]

I'm 15 and didn't notice anything off until 13/14

[@mememan1546]

Same here. My whole life up to the age of 15, I thought that what I was feeling was what everyone else felt. Turns out, it was a combo of adhd and gender dysphoria.

[@NeptuneCookies]

Same. The thing is, my mum says she is an ally, but she also says that my best friend who came out as trans might just think that because of puberty. And idk it makes me really confused because she says that most transgender people realise they are trans when they a children, and if she had known more about the lgbtq community when she was a teen, she would have thought she was trans too...and idk I’m not sure if I’m just unhappy with who I am because of puberty, or because I might be trans...

[@Alex_IsBroken]

Man, It seems like people who are transgender have it hard, I hope more medical research is put into transgender transitioning so they will have fewer side effects.

[@マーロンくんxX_Marlongamerjuice_X]

It is kinda hard, especially when someone close to you isn't supportive, but there are some good sides :) like when someone genders you correctly

[@TheUchi1991]

@@マーロンくんxX_Marlongamerjuice_X It also feels really nice when you get gendered correctly by a stranger for the first time. It's like Christmas and your birthday at once! But getting there.. yeah it's quite a journey... but definitely worth it!

[@GhostofTheUchiha22]

I hope they make it less expensive cuz I'm poor

[@lucifer8176]

@@TheUchi1991 I mean, can't relate :,(

[@RisingRose]

@@TheUchi1991 mannn I'm not transitioning yet _(idk how I will yet anyway, as I'm nb. probably just top surgery)_ but the other day someone in voice chat who didnt know me and didnt know i was trans was calling me 'he' the entire time and I was fucking LIVING-

[@sammybun8871]

Tldr; forcing a transgender child to be thier biological sex can really mess them up mentally. From my personal experience as a kid who was forced into hyper femininity at a young age. I had self harm thoughts for most of my childhood and even attempted my life a few times before figuring everything out and getting help. I didn't realize I was trans (ftm) until I was about eighteen and a half and had escaped home to live with a friend, then eventually my other biological parent. Well, technically speaking I didn't know transgender people existed and was raised in an extremely LGBTQ+ phobic household in texas. Growing up I was constantly put down and getting in trouble for wearing my hair in a baseball cap and wear baggy boys clothes. I think my step mom realized what I was so she began forcing me to wear makeup/bootyshorts/lowcut tanktops once I hit 13 to try and "correct" it, and would threaten violence (and wasn't afraid to act on her threats) if I didn't comply to her wishes. But after the age of 15 she would often kick me out of the house when I refused to take off my hoodie or show off my decently sized chest. (To this day I still wear a hoodie everywhere, even at my job, as a safety blanket) My first experience with a trans person was in a homeless shelter when I was 16. He was ftm and didn't like me very much because I was very sheltered and constantly asked questions once I realized that I related to how he felt. Due to my experience with hyperfeminizing from ages 13-18 (albeit I was forced to by a transphobe.) I tend to constantly invalidate myself because i still have the conditioned urge to hide my face in makeup or wear a facemask constantly because of how I was raised to believe that afabs were hideous and hated without makeup and sex appeal. For 2 and a half years after meeting him i tried to play off my actions when i was younger (ex; always playing the boy character when making up skits on the playground, trying to be more masculine since it made me comfortable, and even trying to get school mates to call my by male names in elementary) as just regular kid stuff. I still doubt myself a lot. But I'm trying to goad myself into buying a new binder so I can feel more comfortable with myself on it. I have severe anxiety around transitioning yet I'm pretty desperate for it. I've been trying to nerve myself up to call the court for a namd change and a center that specializes in transitioning; for my state I've been told the easiest place to start would be planned parenthood. I've nearly have a panic attack when I think of calling and I couldn't even get a masculine haircut without bursting into tears and my birth mom having to explain to the hair dresser what I wanted and how I wanted it because I was too scared to speak. I feel a lot better with my new haircut and my birth mother calling me by my chosen name, but I've still got a long way to go. Sorry for the ramble. I can't talk about this stuff to people irl because of severe anxiety, but something about the anonymity of the internet makes me feel more open to spew things that I usually can't talk about.

[@alicecain4851]

You've come a long way. Baby steps. Your birth Mom sounds like she's really helping. I was watching a video by Sam Collins (ftm) and he said to remember that you have time. Not be afraid to take time. So do that and go as slow as you need to. Best of luck.

[@sammybun8871]

@@alicecain4851 thank you. I watch sam Collins too, and a few other trans creators. My birth mom is very supportive of me and so is my sister. I'm very happy to have them in my life. I'm still goading myself up for the call and all that but I'm getting a bit more confidence. Time is key. ^^"

[@elmoworld850]

I'm sorry that you went through that. I'm glad you've got support now.

[@Cvickers419]

Wow, I can't believe your step mother would make you dress like that. Even if you were not feeling the way you were, it's completely inappropriate to have a young teenager dress the way described. I'm just shocked that would be forced on someone. I am struggling with learning all of this because my 12 and 11 year olds came out to me as Trans. While I'm not phobic, and I support what they feel....im having a hard time accepting that for 12 years I had 3 daughters and now I have 2 sons and a daughter and that the names I sat for hours deciding between while pregnant until I found the perfect ones that felt completely right for them both are now something else entirely to them that I need to use. How do I let go of all the things that happened with them growing up and being my girls? I want to do this for them because I know it makes them happy. I have done everything they have asked, cut off all their hair, they wear the clothes they want to wear, I will get my 12 year old a binder to feel more comfortable too but calling them another name and using he him or them has been really hard for me to let go. I don't want to keep pushing it down the road and them start to feel uncomfortable because I know it was hard for them to tell me. Which I wish it wasn't but I understand why it is. I feel lost myself in trying to understand how they feel so that I can let go of Jayde and Maya and embrace Owen and Ivan. Any help is appreciated, any guidance, anything.

[@sammybun8871]

@@Cvickers419 I'm not the best at advice but I would suggest continuing to support them and asking them questions to show that you are interested and supportive. I can understand the feelings of loss and confusion that you have over these new changes and the challenges that come with it. I suggest joining a few Facebook support groups for transgender people and thier families. I'm in a couple that are welcoming of family members and friends of transgender people who are looking to learn more about what thier loved one is going through and feeling.

[@natalie-u6n]

growing up with gender dysphoria is like walking around with wet socks all your life.. a super uncomfortable experience so you aren't too happy but you think everyone else has these wet socks on too. eventually one day you mention how uncomfortable your socks are to someone & that person asks "what are you talking about? my socks are not wet, they are dry & comfy.." .. then after thousands of hours of questioning, you come to the realization you are trans & decide to transiton so now your socks are finally dry & comfy (:

[@No-ky3kb]

What a great explanation. I describe it as like when you have a dream when all your teeth fell out but you wake up and it's real.

[@lhid]

YES THIS

[@Ifkedurmummy]

im out to everyone, but i still get misgendered regulary. Today my gender dysphoria is super bad, so im just here vibing 0-0 Edit: my family is much more accepting now, thank you all for the support! Your all valid and wonderful! I'm gonna send this to my foster mom so that's kind of cool! Also TW: there are quite a lot of transphobes in my replies sadly so please be careful!

[@wolfoddity2626]

i hope you feel a bit better soon!

[@Ifkedurmummy]

@@wolfoddity2626 I'm feeling much better, as soon as my brother saw me being uncomfortable he cheered me up a bit, Thank you for your concern though. It was actually really nice of you!

[@wolfoddity2626]

@@Ifkedurmummy awwh its sweet how your brother is so nice :)

[@Ifkedurmummy]

@@wolfoddity2626 He was the first one to actually be ok with my name and pronoun change, he is my VIP. He is ao annoying but he was super excited to have a brother because we always acted like brothers :DD

[@Ifkedurmummy]

@@wolfoddity2626 I hope your doing ok though :))

[@chrysopelea9418]

My therapist was transphobic, and I would have thought she had known better, having studied psychology. She would refuse to refer to me by my gender identity saying it wasn’t “proper” for her as a therapist to refer to me by proper pronouns since it was dishonest to her profession, and somehow what was in my pants was more important to her -_-

[@jvmeel7454]

I hope you get a new therapist, I also.hope that you are ok

[@jvmeel7454]

@Thugma Penith We don't need nor want people like you here go be transphobic elsewhere 😐

[@jvmeel7454]

@@isitsweet9567 What same thing?

[@nukiradio]

@@isitsweet9567 no, the won't. An understanding therapist like mine, immediately asked for preferred name and pronouns, even though she herself is not a gender specialist

[@muumu0]

@@isitsweet9567 it's respectful to refer someone to their correct pronouns.

[@NataliePine]

My mum tried lots of scientific arguments against transgenderism when I came out to her. I showed her that her arguments were wrong, and so she just fell back to saying that "trans people just make me feel physically ill" and she thought that was sufficient reason to reject the whole concept. She finished by saying I'd make an ugly girl. It's sad but it shows that behind the scientific veneer, transphobes are transphobes, pure and simple. Thank you for making this video, so that people can tear down the fake respectability that transphobes have disguised their transphobia with.

[@Likecherries777]

Some people are just too absorbed in their own ideals that they refuse to look at and accept facts. I'm sorry your mom is one of those people, and I hope that one day she can look past her bigotry and accept you.

[@Likecherries777]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD Please go touch some grass for the love of God please 🤢😰😰

[@nobitches9828]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD touch grass, and breathe fresh air please 🥰

[@howtomeetwomen-]

@Natalie

[@SmashingCapital]

It comes down to the education people recieve when they are kids

[@kathrynlove8252]

Your explanation of the MRI evidence supporting gender identity as a brain function is misleading. I think you mean to say that the MRI findings in cis-gender males and females mirror the findings in self-identified males and females (independent of which reproductive organs they were born with) while being different between the “sexes”. Thus it is concluded that brain function determines gender. I think this corresponds to the neurobiological findings of Dr. R. Sapolsky of Stanford University.

[@emanuelashosha]

Was about to say

[@Mel-yz5ec]

“People we’re identifying as trans or *genderfluid* through the Middle Ages” as a genderfluid person that made me so unbelievably happy

[@iantaakalla8180]

It’s very neat to note that trans people and genderfluid people are really integral parts of humanity as opposed to the screed told these days

[@Mel-yz5ec]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD excuse me?

[@bopsgaming3810]

Oh boy, get ready for the twitter argument

[@Likecherries777]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD Well, yeah, I guess we really wouldn't know considering trans people were wildly erased from history by transhobes

[@JustPidgeon1]

The source provided on that literally mentions nothing about genderfluid. Only binary trans. The only sentence it mentioned genderfluid: "Whether one calls themselves transgender, non-binary, gender queer, gender fluid, or a drag queen, one can learn from other people who have developed tools and strategies for gender transitioning. " Also lmfao drag queen isn't even trans. Shows how much Gabrielle Bychowski knows about transsexualism. "A clear example of this is in the medieval chivalric story, the Roman de Silence" - story abut about a transsex man "St. Marinos the Monk." - transsex man "Take, for instance, the case of St. Joan of Arc." - source just speculates she might be trans or ̶n̶o̶n̶b̶i̶n̶a̶r̶y̶ spicy term for gender nonconforming. She is a woman and people erase history when they claim she is trans and not just GNC.

[@Junosensei]

I'm a trans woman with _some_ professional credentials in scientific journalism--that is, reading scientific studies, having a complex and comprehensive understanding of the literature (aka. knowing what is actually being said), and reporting that science to the public. This video misses out on a MAJOR element of these brain scan studies that ends up, unfortunately, breaking down the entire video's argument. This does _not_ mean gender isn't supported by science, but rather, that "gender" is complicated, the brain is complicated, and the science is far from conclusive on sexual dimorphism (biological differences between the [cis-]sexes) in the brain. I'll try my best to explain: 1) *Sexual dimorphism in the brain* - Brain scans like the ones done in these studies show brain matter distribution (which I will shorten to "BMD" for the remainder of this post) of white and gray matter. While we do see some correlative consistencies of BMD between the [cis-]sexes, the variation is enough that we can say pretty confidently that BMD is not truly sexually dimorphic. 2) *Brain plasticity* - Missing from the video is an acknowledgement that BMD is fluid. Your BMD will fluctuate at different parts of your life. While we do find a general correlation between BMD and gender (both cis and trans), correlation does not presume causation. Theoretically, one's perception of one's own gender could influence one's behavior, experiences, diet, relationships, etc. and any of these could thus influence one's BMD. If so, then your brain would not cause your gender identity or dysphoria, but rather be a product of it. 3) *Does science prove the gender spectrum?* - This video acknowledges the "spectrum" of BMD, but makes the mistake of presuming this spectrum thus means gender in the brain is also a spectrum. Without a solid link between gender and BMD (again, see #2), we cannot conflate the two or say that science proves the gender spectrum. 4) *What do the studies NOT conclude?* - You cannot determine whether you are trans or not by getting a brain scan. You can still have gender dysphoria or be trans and have BMD that aligns with your assigned sex. BMD does not indicate true sexual dimorphism of the brain. Science does not prove validation of gender identity (yet). Science does not prove a gender spectrum (yet). 5) *...Okay then. What's the point of these studies then? What DO they say?* - Correlation and not a whole lot else (yet). The authors have also clarified the same. These studies are the necessary beginning of research into a really complex field. Finding correlations helps us narrow down likely factors of causation and illuminate other possibilities. Also, knowing our gender identities interact with our biology is nice to know. The point of this comment is to highlight the scientific mistakes in this video, but as I'm aware that losing "our brains determine our gender" as a sound argument against transphobes is a tough blow to take, I must remind you that "gender" is socially constructed (among other things), so science doesn't really have a say in how we construct gender anyway. It can be a spectrum because we say so. You don't need scientific validation. Likewise, transphobes can't use science to invalidate your gender. But if you really want some validation, the medical field validates gender transition, both social and medical, based on the current consensus that the only way to alleviate gender dysphoria is to transition. Our health outcomes rely heavily on this.

[@skyhighlander6447]

I had to blink a few times when I saw this was posted two days ago with all the 7 month old comments. Thanks a lot for this! I’m majoring in psychology and thus appreciate this very well explained breakdown of the study. I figured it was a little too good to be true, but knowing the actual significance of the results instead of what the video assumes is proven helps with being scientifically misinformed. At least it does for me. With how complex the brain is and the interaction with the environment that is often overlooked, it might not be as simple as comparing brain scans. I see the fact that transsexuals feel happier after transition as some kind of scientific proof in itself: because it shows that transition does in fact have long-term positive effects on these people and thus breaks the ‘it’s just a phase’ arguments apart. It’s not hard biological evidence or anything, but with something as complex as the brain with so many working parts, sometimes it helps to just look at the effects of something instead of figuring out every detail of the cause to have an argument that your existence is valid. Besides, like you said, gender is still a social construct: whatever makes you feel most comfortable goes, because nobody else can really decide how something ‘should’ make you feel but you. If someone is against that when you’re not harming anybody with it, I guess it’s just on their narrow perspective and not on you for feeling the way you do. At least that’s what I think. Again, thanks a lot for the breakdown of the study, it was exactly what I was looking for honestly. ^^

[@johnbltz]

Thank you! As an nb anthropologist I was also pretty aghast at "people have identified as transgender forever!" Like... just no. It is certainly true that many (potentially most) cultures have/had people who live/d cross-gender lives, but "transgender" is a very recent western concept that fails to adequately capture these people's experiences. Imposing our own culture's gender concepts on non-western cultures is deeply imperialist and problematic. Non-western, non-white people have their own conceptions of gender and we need to learn to respect that. As an aside, I think it's also pretty dangerous to rely on these brain scan studies given how misogynistic they often are, for example frequent claims that women are just "wired" to be less logical and more emotional. These studies are highly biologically reductive and play into the trope that trans people (especially transfeminine people) are just crypto-misogynists, it's fuel for TERFs and it really doesn't help!

[@Junosensei]

@@skyhighlander6447 - When you consider science's relation with social constructs, it makes sense. Science is usually trying to get as close to a "mathematical" logical conclusion to describe what's real as humanly possible, so it is occupied with logical statements like, "If the criteria to define an A is _this_ and the criteria to define a B is _that,_ then subject #2384 with _this_ criteria must logically be an A." Science, however, does not have the means to determine or create the criteria to define either A or B. Humans do that and if something doesn't compute, they change that criteria until it does. So this whole "What is a man/woman?" question is hardly scientific. It's social language. Even when you try to go down the straight and narrow path of reproductive differences of the biological sexes, you find that sex is a consequence of complex factors acting on what is essentially the same single organs (in the fetus) to change their shape and function one way or the other with a wide range of possibilities. That single fact is how it becomes possible for some amphibians and fish to change reproductive function halfway through life. Humans may not be able to do that today, but we're probably just a few generations away from figuring out some way to tap into that same genetic minefield. Maybe.

[@Junosensei]

@@johnbltz - I think the only real danger of relying on these brain studies is relying on them to give you answers they aren't designed to give. If white and grey BMD truly did correspond to/cause logical and emotional behaviors, it would be absolutely fine to say women/men are more likely to be logical/emotional. But that's not what these brain studies show, even consequentially.

[@seanskoog388]

Science is needed to prove everything. This guy did his research. If your experience goes against science, maybe try to figure out why that is.

[@78tries]

I wish i had the courage to show this to my relatives ;-; im not even out to them yett

[@Rebellious_Pastry]

Test the waters with another PBR video. Then see how they take it. Unless you are secretly a fan. Because PBR makes amazing videos about the G and the T of the LGBTQ. Once I'm personally comfortable enough to come out to my channel as Demisexual then I would have Demisexual content. So there's many of resources for the G and the T but I'm sure other letters are in the working

[@idioticlight]

@@Rebellious_Pastrydemisexual? Are you only attracted to maui from Moana? Cant blame you, after you see peak male performance everything else disappoints. (I know what demisexual is, this is a very obvious joke)

[@jean_etcetera]

@@idioticlight As a demisexual, I only feel attracted to giant shiny crustaceans that sing 😎

[@Mrhighguru]

I have the courage to tell them myself

[@theasyren5821]

Take your time, don't force youself to do something you not comfortable with! I hope you find your time to come out and that you have supportive relatives that accept you for who you are!!!!!

[@livelovelovefandoms]

I'm a trans masculine person so my pronouns are he/him I felt had gender dysphoria for 9 years I hate how none of my family excepts me

[@AlphaMatt1000]

Thank you for this video, it really helped me understand my child who recently has come out as being a transgender boy. Its been hard, but searching for scientific answers has helped me a lot as a parent to understand why and how this is happening.

[@plushtuber101pt7]

I’m so glad you decided to educate yourself to better understand your child. Much love to you! ❤️

[@KMILLER1181]

I am a Cis ally mother of a wonderful trans daughter and gay son. I am glad these videos are available also. You're doing a excellent job supporting your child in this.

[@skylerpatrick23]

These types of things NEED to be taught in schools. Especially since I used to think that transgender people would go through brain swap with each other to be in the gender they believe they are

[@Killroy007]

@@_Sakidora_ thats exactly why the science behind lgbtq+ identities needs to be explained. Afterall you dont want people to believe in terf propaganda or similair things!

[@Killroy007]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD why is that an "atleast"? Thats like really really horrible to gatekeep womanhood from those born with a female brain.

[@ihatemylifeAHHH]

@@Ldspade why?

[@Z._D1A]

Can't. I'm in Florida 😃

[@MCantDraw]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD Yall this is a motherless troll. Dont feed it

[@oa5538]

They should show this video in schools.

[@nerf_or_nothin9551]

That would be great

[@зимняя_душа]

So true

[@hm3drake35]

Conservatives won't allow it. They won't allow anything they contradicts their religious or political worldviews.

[@razzbarree9020]

Conservatives would cry and weep and bribe and suck off every faculty member until they said they wouldnt so it prolly would never happen,, But ye it should

[@omni8568]

I agree

[@betsyroberts9704]

I am a cis gender female and have many friends in the LGBTQ+ community. I was also educated in science, medicine, and psychology. I applaud everyone who made this video (and channel) possible! I love the scientific studies and will cite them when transphobic people start their spiels. I can't imagine the discomfort and sadness a trans person must feel to have to hear transphobic rhetoric, and especially lately. I wish a major news network would present this scientific evidence on TV. It would certainly educate some people. Others, unfortunately, will refuse to listen and I think it's due to religious beliefs and politics. I live in the Bible belt (Deep South) so unfortunately I see this frequently. If they are open to learning, I try to educate them. I long for a world where we are all just PEOPLE. Period. Skin color, sex, gender, appearance, etc: all a bit different yet the same. I'm 62 now and hope I live to see that day. Keep up the good work! 🌈❤🙏

[@lilithconley3097]

Things have honestly been so scary recently, often times I feel very small and meek. I have always been a very sensitive person and all the hatred and violence towards trans people can get to be overwhelming sometimes. I'm lucky I don't have to deal with much direct transphobia since I pass in public now, but I still see it, and it breaks my heart that people just don't get it. I just wish I could somehow project my feelings to others so they could understand who I am... Luckily I have one person in my life who sees me for who I am in my soul, and I will cherish that forever 💜 Thank you for helping educate people where you can, it honestly means the world to me, and I'm sure other trans people would say the same thing ❤️❤️❤️

[@Ocean_Reign]

I wish the world was filled with people like you.

[@betsyroberts9704]

@@lilithconley3097 ❤️❤️❤️

[@betsyroberts9704]

@@Ocean_Reign ❤️❤️❤️

[@gaeltt9865]

I long for the same thing: a world where sex, gender, sexual orientation, belief, skin color, political views, physical and mental (dis)abilities will no longer be a source for hatred. Where we can all just be who we are and be accepted as ourselves! ♥🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

[@sam-is-sleeping]

as a child, i never felt gender dysphoria, because my main dysphoria is things from puberty, mainly my chest. as a child i was very free and always had my shirt off around my family, but puberty really limited me and i felt like i was not myself anymore. i sadly cannot do anything about it right now, but hopefully someday i can be happy with how i look :) edit: i do wanna preface that i am genderfluid (usually feel more masculine most of the time) as i’m seeing a lot of people saying it could be gender dysmorphia(i believe) or just society beating up woman ab their bodies. i have been able to think about it long enough to know that it is not that.

[@sailors-slut6721]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD Normal isn’t a thing

[@_tminj]

Same here!

[@artbookgaming]

Hopefully you'll find comfort. Good luck

[@pipipupu256]

My parents wouldn't let me take my shirt off after I turned like 6 or 7 💀💀

[@FieldOfHats3]

Goodluck, fellow closet buddy. 💗

[@lilysmith1673]

I'm actually crying right now. You don't even know how fucking validating it is, the way you calmly and passively state that non-binary people are valid, that it is scientifically proven that we exist in in between states. I'm so so grateful for this video, this is the most reassuring and comforting thing I've heard in a long time. thank you so much. Instant follow

[@faenene]

Me too 🥰 makes my enby self so happy

[@SmashingCapital]

@@faenene what does enby mean

[@unprecedentedferalman233]

@@SmashingCapital it’s just a shorter word for nonbinary :D

[@SmashingCapital]

@@unprecedentedferalman233 oh ok thanks

[@klowningaround]

no matter what people say (people who aren’t scientists or have correct knowledge) trans and non-binary people have always been here, we’ve probably been buried by history but we still exist!

[@Aldersnap]

My sister came out as trans to our parents a year ago and while they say they "accept my sister's gender journey" they still come up with excuses to misgender her and get annoyed whenever I correct them. I'm sending them this video to hopefully broaden their perspectives. The video is so informative thank you for making it

[@introusas]

Thank you for speaking up for your sister. Those first couple of years are really hard, especially as a teen.

[@gracekinsley3142]

as a transgender physician it was nice to see a well presented essay that anyone can understand, kudos.

[@senpai16]

Its so satisfying as a trans person to have studies confirming what I've thought my whole life

[@senpai16]

@@GooberV.-o technically this isn't new its been replicated over and over with more trans people coming out. So tho I see your point, I do think its a discovery that is hear to stay.

[@jajomlat]

cope

[@bobthet-rex2718]

I would like to point out two things I have heard him say that you should be careful with. 1. He said that transgender people typically discover their gender identity at an early age; but their are also people who discover it much later in life. I discovered it when I was 18, I know people who discovered it when they were in their 30s, I've even known people who've discovered it in their 80s. There is no set age limit to know if you are trans, and transitioning later in life is perfectly valid as well. 2. He said to ask your friends their pronouns. NEVER DO THIS, instead offer your own pronouns when you introduce yourself, do not judge your friend if they do not offer their pronouns in turn. Some people are in the closet and don't feel comfortable with saying their preferred pronouns, but at the same time don't want to lie about their pronouns, demanding pronouns from someone can be incredibly stressful from someone in the closet and can cause grief and fear. So when introducing yourself, don't ask for someone else's pronouns, but instead offer your own.

[@deaven6606]

Thanks you I’m a teen and I’m still figuring myself out and me finding it out in 4th grade made me kinda feel like maybe I was faking but that made me feel more confident in myself thank you :)

[@aliceslab]

@@brunettebird57 at least their heart was in the right place

[@RandoPassingBy]

Also if they didn’t offer you their pronouns, just use they/them Works for me at least XD

[@_tminj]

I think your point is really good! I think for the 2nd one tho, he meant you should still ask if you want to be respectful

[@_tminj]

@@brunettebird57 Yeah

[@Joeyblondewolf2]

I loveeeee these kind of videos 🤩 it always fascinates me learning about the brain and stuff

[@creationisntgood942]

Glad you're open minded to educate yourself This stuff is pretty interesting

[@reon2x22]

I love all your cosplays (especially the yaois ones) and videos :3

[@kw2080]

What if the video misrepresented the study findings, so that you weren’t actually learning about the brain, would you still love having “learned” wrong information? You heard at the end the promise to ban anyone commenting critically. That’s because they did only 6 hours research and probably know it was misrepresented.People shouldn’t tie their identity to research. You are who you are regardless. Honesty about your identity will strengthen the world, as well as honesty about the research.

[@creationisntgood942]

@@kw2080 I'll look into it then so I can have a proper representation

[@reon2x22]

@@kw2080 what wrong information do share and explain.

[@kevin.710]

I’m a trans man… seeing trans persons get attacked in the media and throughout social media has been having a really bad mental impact on me… I hope you all know you are valid and belong. 🏳️‍⚧️

[@TinnyDee]

Kevin, I'm not even trans and it gets me too. It's difficult to see the vile things humans can do to each other. Just want to say...allow for personal beautiful moments in your life. I know it's got to be hard, and you do have to walk a very fine line of being careful and safe, yet at the same time not being so fearful that it allows you to be closed off for acceptance and kindness. It's tricky. I'm not trans, and I'm not sure this will help but I could relate to your comment.

[@TheClaudee_]

@Eclipsestar150well, usuallly instagram or twitter. And also mostly recent comments on videos like these (yt) so I recommend not checking the freshest comments Ofcourse, hate can be anywhere and sometimes unexpected, Take care :))

[@Gingerbeard]

I don't think that any kind of "phobe" is linked to intelligence, we are getting better but most schools and teachers teach that gender is determined by chromosomes. So the argument most transphobes come with is " If you were born with XX or XY you are that gender" The fact that it's the brain that determines your gender is not being taught in schools, more on the internet, and in optional classes, you can take. Most people are just misinformed and believe what they were taught from a young age. And unless you are a teacher or professor from a school that person recognizes as someone with factual authority, they will likely ignore the facts.

[@andreacooray2702]

Well said 👏👏

[@charliegriswold1445]

Thankfully my school is extremely LGBTQIA+ inclusive, with a couple of days specifically on LGBT+ issues in health. There is also a program called lgbTea where you drink tea and talk about those issues via fun stuff.

[@trishcoffey222]

@@charliegriswold1445 I wish the school I go to is like that

[@sludgechan]

@@charliegriswold1445 your school is awesome

[@KMILLER1181]

I agree most people that are any type of phones are confused and uneducated about the topic and don't want to know either. But regardless these are strong beautiful people, it's hard to be criticized and told that they are wrong when it has nothing to do with them. Great job 👏

[@lucalu2442]

I recently tried coming out to my mom, however she didn't fully accept me, saying that apparently she'll call me a boy at 18 since I'm not old enough. This video might change her mind, thank you so much for this video.

[@canopus5178]

she'll come around eventually

[@ransomsavampire]

​@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD r/AccidentalAlly

[@ej-ej49]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD THAT'S THE SPIRIT

[@monicava]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD thanks for being an ally man

[@alex_valden]

@@MyDadJustLeftMeXD YASSS SLAYY we love an ally 😜😜🤙🏳️‍⚧️

[@queenchaosyet]

I had a pan sex-ed teacher and I think the line that stuck with me the most during one class was "ive experienced most of the different variations (m/m, m/f, f/f) of sex so i'd say that I'm pretty credible on the subject". She was the coolest

[@nighttrain1236]

That sounds like boundary-breaking oversharing to me.

[@Izzythemaker127]

@@nighttrain1236 Its a sex-ed class, and they are teaching about sex. May I ask why you have a problem with that?

[@alexz3585]

I didn't really feel like anything was wrong before I was about 9, I just remember doing some questionable things when i was in kindergarten like pulling my clitoris to pee while standing, not understanding why I needed to behave a certain way, when all of my friends were allowed to do whatever the hell they wanted (my only friends were boys throughout my whole life, never really felt like I belonged with the girls), trying to be like other girls, but never really being interested in dolls and playing house and all that shit... I remember vividly after 2nd grade in camp for the first time I felt so uncomfortable being a girl (I was 9 and my breast had just started developing). That was the first time i noticed I didn't feel like I belonged in the body I was born into. Didn't know a thing about transpeople or the fact they existed until i was about 18/19, tried fitting in and being a girl throughout my whole puberty, hated it, was depressed by 7th/8th grade. Now I'm 22, came out last year January... had my first T - shot last week, can't remember when was the last time i was this happy

[@fluffybytez]

MY KING

[@f0xygem]

Wow! It only took one shot?

[@fuel-pcbox]

@@f0xygem Nah, the physical effects of HRT take a WHILE to start, but the emotional effects are pretty much immediate.

[@fuel-pcbox]

Damn, when I was like 10 or so, there was this girl I was classmates with who literally already had like, adult-sized boobs. Just imagine how much MORE of a hell that would've been if she was trans... It was probably already bad enough just having the fucking back pain from that shit, especially at that young of an age... TBH I'm jealous of her adult self now, but I can't fucking IMAGINE having had to grow up with that shit at like, the age of 10. Shit would've KILLED my back 💀

[@oksanamiller9830]

Oooh interesting. As a Cis person, I wanted to understand my Trans pals better, so thank you for educating me and everyone else who watched this video!

[@oksanamiller9830]

@@MalachiHealey Ummm. What? Could you elaborate/explain. I don't understand what you mean by "lobotomize yourself".

[@teritt]

@@oksanamiller9830 I think they saw trans and are spamming thr comments about trans self harm.

[@berrienberry]

I love that you kept calling it our "true names". I normally call it my chosen name, but true name is so very sweet! Also thank you for tacking on the extra information about nonbinary brains as well. That's helpful!

[@notsocial__]

I identify myself as a transgender male. I was IDENTIFIED as female at birth. I came out as transgender to some of my teachers, friends but specially to my parents and my little brother. They seemed to be pretty supportive. I’m still planning to start transitioning but I’m still afraid to tell my parents. I still face some people that are transphobic and homophobic, since I mostly hang out with my best friend, that he identifies as pansexual. When I face those homophobic people he tells me that everything will be okay

[@renee_ray9483]

I love how you say diagnosed instead of assigned 😂

[@renee_ray9483]

I was also diagnosed female, it was a horrible misdiagnosis.

[@suyogv8235]

Hope things work out all right.

[@JustPidgeon1]

"I was diagnosed as female at birth" You were IDENTIFIED as female.

[@notsocial__]

Oh my God, guys stop, I made a mistake

[@TheAdhdGaming]

3:17 when the professor says "grooming" they mean doing their hair, not the other definition

[@anjaliroongta8077]

As someone who is genderfluid, I had a question about this- so if a trans man's brain is more like a cis man's brain etc, then how does genderfluidity work? And if our gender is determined in out brain at birth, then how is gender a social construct? Sorry if these are offensive, I'm trying to learn more.

[@queenidragon4489]

I'm not a scientist or phycologist but I think that the social construct part of gender has to do with the sectioning of certain characteristics into genders while the biological gender is solely the based on the brain and because the brain is messy the idea of gender is messy sorry if you wanted a professional opinion

[@JustARoamer]

The gender is a social construct is refering to gender roles and stereotypes. Like "women cook and clean. And wear makeup. Look pretty" and "men cant sho emotion. Man must be strong. Unga bunga"

[@anjaliroongta8077]

@@queenidragon4489 Wait so gender roles are a construct but gender isn't. Which means it's possible other animals might have gender? Like other than biological sex?

[@anjaliroongta8077]

@@JustARoamer ah. Okay

[@happypiano4810]

I think it’s a different mechanism. My guess is that it’s the same biology as non-binary, but that biology acts different for different people.

[@adrian_31605]

I've been on testosterone for a year and 8 months now. Hormones have really helped with my self-esteem. I look, sound, and feel more like myself. I've even been mistaken as cisgender haha. I'm very thankful to have a supportive family, because without them, I would not have come this far in my transition.

[@canopus5178]

really happy for you

[@PDD555]

Really happy for you! I'm not trans but could you tell me how is it to have testosterone? I've always been a not so masculine boy and therefore I haven't had any facial hair, but I wish I could be more masculine. Is there a way to get testosterone?

[@ianl3350]

@@PDD555 I’d suggest bringing up “Minoxidil” with your doctor if you really want facial hair but haven’t been satisfied with what you’ve got naturally. It promotes facial hair growth and, while it can be bought over-the-counter it’s always suggested to discuss with your doctor first. Other things to consider are making sure you’re eating well- make sure you’ve got all and enough of your essential nutrients just to help you grow in general. Working out can help naturally increase your testosterone levels a bit and it’s a very healthy and natural way to feel/look more traditionally masculine even if you don’t get into body building or anything like that lol. Testosterone is generally not recommended for cis men (unless they have a condition that causes them to have abnormally low T levels). Taking it improperly can actually cause your body to chemically change your testosterone into estrogen, producing more feminine features instead of more masculine ones.

[@PDD555]

@@ianl3350 thanks! I'll definitely check it out

[@kaidkaid88]

yay!!!

[@marciefree]

Back in 1993 when I first started my transition to female I had to do all of this research myself. I spent a lot of time in libraries if you can imagine. I instinctively felt a lot of these conclusions but didn’t have it all in print like we do today to back me up. It’s getting better. Love to all. xoxoxoxo m.

[@TrailoFire]

I 100% agree that LGBTQ science needs to be studied and taught. Lack of knowledge is destroying people on both sides. I fully support and affirm all LGBTQ+ Thanks for another great video.

[@mergimergimergi]

I thought there will be a lot of debates but in reality this comment section is pretty calm

[@slimal1]

Indeed, I was pleasantly surprised as well, then I realized this was just an echo chamber of curated comments, unfortunately. Nevertheless, this was some good info.

[@nukiradio]

@@slimal1 it's no echochamber, I've run into some very disingenuous people here

[@eyesack6845]

@@nukiradio He bans whoever says anything homophobic.

[@slimal1]

@@eyesack6845 Yeah. I get that there would be some objectively awful persons in these comments (threats of violence and death) and they deserve to be removed. But dissenting opinions have to be entertained and discussed for swift and meaningful progress.

[@eyesack6845]

@@slimal1 yeah.

[@LexiVAD]

I always had a had time hard understanding non-binary, gender fluids, etc (But never went against, minorize or ignore friends who felt that way and preferred to be treated that way) and this video helped me out quite a ton. Thank you!

[@elliefuller3667]

Thank you for taking the time to understand!

[@collprin]

wait untill you discover genders that relate to fruit and whatnot

[@teritt]

@@collprin You talking about xenogenders? Cause like they aren’t harming anyone?

[@kaiyodei]

@@teritt so if someone makes a story and the only transgender character they have is glittergender, that is ok?

[@teritt]

@@kaiyodei I mean my criticism would be that it isn’t very diverse if you use only an outside the binary gender and not also the binary transgender people.

[@vickireid9581]

I wanted to say you did a great job of explaining the science of transgender. I am a heterosexual woman but I have always felt that all people need to be heard and understood no mater their race gender identification or sexual preferences. We're all worthy of love respect and acceptance and celebrated for our individuality.

[@collprin]

what if they think they were Danger Mouse in a past life?

[@doggedmeerkat7785]

I’m trans myself and I kinda struggle with the idea of puberty blockers. Social transitioning is great but I’d like to find out more from both sides for puberty blockers.

[@KevetteofArethria]

This is one of the only "I am trans but..." comments I can get behind. There does need to be more research and/or more social awareness of what puberty blockers do and the effects they can have. I personally am all cool with puberty blockers, especially for the teens that don't reach the stage of puberty as quickly as some. However, that comes from my belief that even children from legal standards are their own selves (To a point). They can think, feel, make mistakes, feel the impact of their mistakes, and carry on based on what they have learned. I was one of those children. Let it be known, I am no psychologist, I am no doctor... I want more sexology types of research, I want more awareness, I want more of us caring about what these (To me, very important) medications can do for adults and children alike who may identify as transexual. I need more information. Not validation, but just simple information. Tried and true. We are a while away due to the suppression of this kind of research, but maybe one day we will get there given enough time and resources. In the coming years we will get more and more information, we will find out how transexual people align to society, and we will understand what is going on to try and understand the 0.1% of the population who identify in this way, we will see the side effects and the reaction from modern day society. We can't know for now, but we will. We will always figure out something we do not understand. We are only human, all of us. Anyway, yeah, I've been battling with my own identity for a while now. Seeing this video has left me thinking about what makes me... ME. So I thought I would respond giving my own little thoughts on it. Be easy, fellow human :^)

[@jace.after.midnight]

2:15 this makes so much more sense- ive been suffering from depression ever since the age of 10, and have been experiencing anxiety for as long as i can fully remember- i never understood why i was depressed. When i was 12 though, i finally found out what transgender and being transgender was. I fit in mostly all of the "symptoms" (idk what to call them) and was pushing down my gender dysphoria and just labeling it poor self esteem. Its been 4ish years now and ive never been happier with myself. Even though my family doesn't support me, i know who i am now and im so much happier knowing that what i am is normal. Thank you for the great videos, and helping me understand myself more

[@jace.after.midnight]

@@max-bc5uo Never said that. I was gonna type out what I actually said but you clearly cant read.

[@beepbop7041]

Says male and female so much and fricken- once says Non-binary- *Screams*

[@seanskoog388]

Because most people are male or female? And genuinely feeling like you are neither gender because you are born that way and not influenced at all by society is rare? It exists and should be respected, but it's rare.

[@nukiradio]

@@thisisepic3052 this was helpful, thank you

[@llynxfyremusic]

@@seanskoog388 wdym, influenced by society? Gender is a hugely social thing, how could any gender not be influenced by it?

[@seanskoog388]

​@@llynxfyremusic If you are fine with your female body and your only discomfort is with gender roles and expectations, that is completely different from people who feel they were born in the wrong body. Most people I know personally who prefer to be referred to as "they" (all except two) have no physical gender dysphoria. I personally was raised to view male and female as a combination of sex characteristics, not gender roles. If you have no problem with being 100% physically female, there is no reason that fints in my world view to not be a woman.

[@llynxfyremusic]

@@seanskoog388 true, but feeling uncomfortable with the social aspects of your assigned gender rather than bodily aspects of an assigned gender doesn't make you any less trans

[@astrovoid9393]

as a nonbinary person, i'm so glad that you acknowledged being nonbinary as just as valid as being ftm and mtf

[@barrianic4]

i am also enby

[@pleurerducoeur9852]

Same!!

[@fuel-pcbox]

I'm not going to say this is the experience of any other people who identify as non-binary, but when I had just realized I was trans, I was a little confused about how I sometimes acted really girly and sometimes like an aggressive man, so I thought I was genderfluid... Until I decided to stop going by he/him pronouns entirely because they just felt more wrong the more they were used for me at that point. I realized that the whole girly/manly dichotomy in gender roles is a complete fabrication, and that I should just let myself be who I want to be and identify how I want to identify without being bound by such stupid shit. So I realized I was just a girl. A binary trans woman. And that's fine, be who you want to be. Whether that's a binary cis person, a binary trans person, or a non-binary person. It's all valid, scientifically, historically, and morally.

[@jonyoder2356]

I've never had the opportunity to ask someone who identifies as nonbinary. What exactly does it mean and entail? Is it that a person doesn't want to adhere to social gender roles? I guess my thinking is that if a person doesn't want to conform to gender roles then don't but it doesn't mean someone should say they aren't male or female. Am I wrong with this? nonbinary to me seems to be some silly new way for people to buck the established system (if there is such a thing). Please explain.

[@anonymous01201]

I want to show this to my transphobic father but I can't because the branding of the channel would put him off before he even starts watching it

[@RespectfullyBiasedReader]

You could try leaving up the comments or skipping ahead, or maybe trying to paraphrase or use their sources directly?

[@averagetransboi]

As a transboy who isn't old enough to medically transition, this made me feel better about being trans... I'm glad this video exists... Might send it to my dad

[@meenerman7693]

how did your dad react?

[@averagetransboi]

@@meenerman7693 I didn't send it to him cause I was too scared of getting grounded or something like that

[@meenerman7693]

@@averagetransboi thats too bad. even though it doesnt feel like it at times, your parents are the best support group . family is for life even if we dont always agree on issues. many people i speak with about transitioning have actually come to regret their choice, please be careful because there is a point of no return.

[@guywithatie1919]

@@averagetransboi I was in the same boat a few months ago. Eventually I came out and it didn’t go well. After a few months my parents finally accepted it and started to use the right name and pronouns. I’d highly suggest you join an online support group to help and distract you until you can transition. On a side note I’m ace too and it’s cool to meet another asexual trans guy, good luck in your transition.

[@FieldOfHats3]

Hi! I'm a closet trans demi-boy! Hope all goes well for you! Goodluck! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@shuk0rina444]

i don’t understand how people have a problem with being transgender. or gay. or literally any gender or sexual identity. so what if someone identifies as a woman despite being biologically born a man? what does that do to you? how is that hurting you in any way? i feel like if something isn’t hurting anyone or isn’t bad in any type of way, you shouldn’t hate it. that’s just pointless.

[@liviavaleria1342]

I agree. The extent people will go to avoid basic human decency even when it's so easy is astounding to me. If someone wanted to be called by their middle name because their first name has baggage, why not just call them by their middle name instead of insisting on calling them by their first name because "it's legally your name." Asking to be called she instead of he is about one of the least intrusive and easiest accommodations for anyone that I can think of, and it means so much to them. So why not just try to co-exist even if you don't agree that they're the gender they claim?

[@Human-san]

If only everyone thought like you did, there would be a bit less drama in today's world.

[@Bearical]

It's because it's different and it's in our human nature to dislike change. It's actually a survival instinct from our cavemen ancestors. Eating different, unknown food could kill them for example. But right now, it's not necessary. That's why you can not convince these people to accept it. It will take decades, ages for them to accept it. I'm not saying it's good, but it's not weird. All these cavemen instincts are also the reason why there will never be peace in our time.

[@Ka_orellana]

Ikr, as a society we need to be spreading more kindness and positivity here❤

[@twicepilled]

@mia did you even watch the video

[@Hemogoblin127]

I really admire and appreciate the people on youtube who put this kind of education out there, whether it be sex ed or lgbt education, these types of channels have taught me more about myself than the school system has in 5 years

[@WingedEspeon]

I'm surprised that most trans people don't choose to medically transition at all. I think this goes to show that these treatments need to be more widely available and accessable. I don't want to invalidate those who genuinely don't want any form of medical transition, but I think lots of us want to and don't have the option, or the option comes at too high a cost. Of course I am incredibly biased as I started Estrogen 3 weeks ago, and I felt mentally more healthy immediately after taking the first dose.

[@rileymackenzie51]

I grew up in a religious household where I was extremely sheltered from any information that hinted trans people even existed. I remember, as a kid always thinking to myself that I wanted to be a girl but just resigned to the idea that it was impossible to do so. The result was severe depression throughout my entire teenage life, and into young adulthood with multiple attempts on my life. By the age of 18, I had already heard about trans people, but my knowledge was very limited, and was brainwashed to be transphobic. Until I met some trans people and actually became really good friends with them, even dated a trans guy at one point. Those experiences opened my mind up and made me realize that I didn't have to live as a male for the rest of my life. I could actually be who I wanted. So I trialed feminine pronouns with my closest friends, and started researching heavily. Today, I am 103 days into hormone treatment and making plans for vocal, facial and gender reassignment surgeries. I'm happier than I have ever been, my entire life and feel so much freedom in being myself. I'm no longer socially awkward, love meeting new people and have stopped letting other people's opinions affect me. Being allowed to be my true gender has freed me from an endless cycle of depression and self hate. My parents still aren't supportive, but I've made friends who are and am even engaged to the most supportive guy I could ever ask for. I know this probably won't reach anyone who I was ever transphobic to in my childhood, but I feel genuinely sorry for all of it. I let my parents influence push me to hatred for people I just didn't understand. Not even realizing that I too am trans. Videos like this are so so important to the world, as they help people to understand something that can seem very complex when looking from the outside. Thank you PBR for making this and providing people with access to education on this subject.

[@rileymackenzie51]

@@yourcommentisntfunnyv2709 So it's normal to hate people for doing something that makes them happy and literally has no effect on you whatsoever? By that logic, racism is normal and okay. Killing someone for no reason is okay then right?

[@chey7691]

No you aren't alone, it took a while to accept myself and stop just pretending for the sake of other's comfort in ignorance. I have a similar story I'm most ways to yours, and I finally am ready to accept myself even if I lose people I thought cared about me. It turns out they only liked me when I did things they liked that fit into a limited view they had of the world, only cared about the image they had instead of the REAL me. I too hope to appreciate those that I used to "not understand" and apologize for the hatred I projected out while I was struggling to live as a gender that never fit me. Thank you for posting your story.

[@rileymackenzie51]

@@chey7691 I'm sad to hear that you had similar struggles but so, so happy to hear that you've figured yourself out! You couldn't have said it better though. These people only care about their own image. My parents, for example, are more worried about their own image in the church from their child coming out as trans. They want me to be happy, sure but only to be happy by doing what they want me to do. We may be a small community, but we are in this together. The world is slowly changing, for the better and becoming more accepting. I hope that our efforts now will provide a fully accepting world for the next generation 💙

[@Tranitosaur]

I was sadly anti-LGBTQ+ as well when I was a child to teen, 'cause I didn't understand them as well and thought it wasn't normal. But I realized they pretty much behaved the same way as any human and I did research to understand better. Found out that I'm a transman lel I'm such a hypocrite and an idiot.

[@FrostNapCat]

You've spoken right into my heart with the first two sentences. I felt like a girl since I was around 12 but I resigned too until I was 20

[@dx_67]

sending this to my mom to help with coming out as ftm This video is incredibly informative, and reassuring, I hope that it will help more people understand gender dysphoria and transitioning over the years so that the suicide rates may decrease and acceptance may spread.

[@mayo_d]

I hope it goes well for you!!

[@KawaiiCat2]

2:14 story of my life.....also I’m a trans guy and live in California. I’d like to point out that my insurance here doesn’t require me to be on hormones for a year for top surgery but I do need to live in my gender for 6 months before being on the waitlist. This is so awesome and so much good research put into it. Thanks for making such a great video!

[@PoweredByRainbows]

You’re so welcome! We enjoy doing the hard research because we know schools don’t do it and we know that others need to know these things. So keep coming back for more education and thank you for stopping by. We love the support and we love hearing comments like yours..it makes the work all worthwhile. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️‍🌈, Professor Pride

[@KawaiiCat2]

@@PoweredByRainbows 😃 Keep it up!🌈

[@girlinred3257]

hey, i’m having gender issues and i don’t know if i wanna be a boy or a girl. it’s stressful and i don’t know what to do. you got any advice?

[@DrTssha]

@@girlinred3257 Hey, I know this is 7 months later, but if you still need advice, I'd suggest experimenting with social presentation. Try out different clothes, accessories, maybe a different haircut or hairstyle (shorter, longer...whichever feels right to you). If you're in a supportive environment, it's a safe and low-impact way to figure yourself out. You may be cis, trans, non-binary...who knows? Whatever identity you settle on, you'll probably know yourself a lot better regardless.

[@LorenaSophiaDelpino]

THANK YOU,THANK YOU ,THANKYOU I am a 75year old Transgender woman and am about to meet with a therapist next week. Your video answered so many questions regarding the feelings I have had since I was two years old. Knowing then that I wanted to be a girl. at the age of 12 I had surgery for what I was told at the time was for a double hernia. I recently after much research and a recent conversation with my primary doctor was actually very possibly Ambiguous genitals. The results was the wrong choice. I also appreciate the fact I have choices as far as Hormone's are concerned I do very much enjoy dressing and presenting my self as a woman the happier side. Thank you again Sophia

[@_untitled-person_3499]

When I was a kid I would always think of shaving my legs when I was older or being a girl in my dreams swaying my hips when I walk and even played with barbies. Realising now I am trans gender I am scared that I'll not be able to go through medical treatment to become what I want because I didn't know as a kid

[@cole4973]

don't worry :) I didn't know as a kid either. I knew I was different and I wasn't comfortable but I didn't have the words. That doesn't make you any less valid! Some people don't ever find out they're trans, some find out much later in life, and some find it as children. You don't have to have known when you were a kid to get medical treatment, instead focus on who you are and how you want to be in the future. Lots of people didn't know until they were much older and were still able to successfully transition. Remember you're valid and appreciated!

[@DrTssha]

Plenty of trans people learn about this (or figure themselves out) later in life. I personally figured out I was Bigender at 31, and that was only because someone literally drew a picture about what their gender identity looked like, and I realized that's what MY gender identity looked like too. Society never taught us about these identities, so we had to figure it out for ourselves, and some figure it out later than others. I've known people who transitioned in their 50s and 60s, and they're very glad they did. Outcomes vary based on age, but you might be surprised how effective it can be for you. It's never too late to transition. So in short, if you think you might be trans, you might be trans. If transitioning is what you want, go for it. Find a support group in your community and talk to other trans people. You may find your story is more common than you think, and that you can have a good outcome in your transition.

[@collprin]

i never did that. guess I need to rethink my gender. my favorite barbie was a praying mantis and favorite baby a rubber chicken. did have a dollhouse though! smurfs and some MLP.

[@DrTssha]

@@collprin I mean, it doesn't hurt to question your gender, certainly, but toys don't inherently have gender restrictions (and I'm gonna ask culture to stop judging kids for using the "wrong" toys). I'm guessing there's other stuff that might make you question your gender though, and this can be contributing evidence. But toys don't make the gender, and whatever your identity, whatever toys you played with are totally valid for it. Doesn't matter whether it's dolls, action figures or rubber chickens. :) In any case, good luck in your gender journey! It can take awhile (certainly did in my case), and it won't always make you happy, but it's worth it in the long run.

[@kaiyodei]

@@DrTssha i've seen people say "I never did/liked___________as a child" and people jump right to "omg maybe you are not cis!" just you know, because someone wasn't a typical girly-girl, was a tomboy, right away means they are not cis.

[@mylife-23]

Proud Nonbinary ☺️🌻

[@owlthesadenby3924]

same here! 💛💜💛💜

[@mylife-23]

@@owlthesadenby3924 🌻✌️☺️

[@DJ-kt5bk]

Same here 💙 be proud of who you are 💙 also I’m getting my first skirt soon I can’t wait

[@mylife-23]

@@DJ-kt5bk ☺️🌻💕✌️🎉

[@DJ-kt5bk]

@@mylife-23 💙🏳️‍🌈😛🌈🖤

[@lazilylapis676]

As a trans person, id never heard of that 2015 study, this is REALLY cool to learn !! Thanks for delving into it. Pretty validating 🥰

[@_tminj]

@@90shottasethzzz W

[@sikkcos]

@@90shottasethzzz get more creative 💀

[@kami761]

Alternative title "Let your basic biology say hi to advanced biology"

[@egobworderrr]

Love how you support people and not call them a "sin" And if your still reading this. Be yourself and don't let people bring you down don't let people control your sexuality, gender, pronouns, and don't bring other people down don't call your self stupid, dumb, and other mean things your not! If someone makes fun of you for your looks don't listen to them it's YOU and that what makes you special! Make sure to eat, drink, everyday and be healthy! :)

[@arrwstrt8238]

aww thanks. this is a great thing to hear :)

[@everyoneiswelcomeeverywher9522]

This melts my heart so much

[@preacherman85379]

He doesn’t doesn’t decide what is or isn’t a sin

[@egobworderrr]

@@preacherman85379 He didint even call anyone a sin but ok

[@blueduckey2]

really needed this message! ty!!

[@carys_thecrafter]

What feels so frustrating about this is every issue any trans individual faces can be so easily solved if all transphobic individuals just would put their bibles down for a second and actually look into the science. What's also upsetting is, statistically, transgender individuals do not get gender reassignment surgery due to issues such as family, friends, cost, ect. : Not because they do not want to. If insurance agencies assisted in the costs and human kind overall learned to be more accepting, people wouldn't have to look in a mirror day in and day out and feel disgusting knowing that their body does not match who they are. And that, kids, is why we make a better future.

[@ses694]

Well all healthcare should be provided whether or not people are able to aquire insurance, by the state with no middlemen

[@KMILLER1181]

AGREED. I am a Cis ally and it breaks my heart to see these negative comments. I don't and can't understand why it's worth commenting on something you know nothing about.

[@aliceslab]

I have united healthcare, for now, and they dont even cover my medicine. I pay almost 50$/month for it. If i could pay the 100,000 out of pocket for srs like i want, id only have to pay 7$/month for the estrogen.

[@carys_thecrafter]

@@FreeTheDonbas the Bible is evil XD

[@aliceslab]

@@FreeTheDonbas thats different, gay men are still men. Trans women are different in that our brain is similar in structure whereas gay men have similar regions of attraction but not complete structure like trans women. Which leads to the identity alignment.

[@pastelmarie]

How do I, as a trans ally, send this to my whole family without actually sending it? 😂 💖 🏳️‍⚧️

[@jibsjensen2587]

A whole mood lol

[@Limayde]

You could create a burner email and send it to everyone, including yourself. Then when they ask who this "goat_orange21167" is, you can pretend to be just as oblivious as them.

[@renee2292]

Diffusion Tensor Imaging (DTI), Gender spectrum. I'm the mother of a 23 year old autistic individual. What you're saying about gender and the brain closely follows findings regarding autistic individuals. As any mother (or father) of an autistic individual can argue, this is NOT a mental problem. It's just different. People have recognized autistic savants for decades. We even made a movie called "Rain Man". Long story short: Our brain is very complex and trying to shoe-horn human mental processes into some easy box doesn't work. It makes a lot more sense to recognize that there is a spectrum of gender identity, just like there is a spectrum of autism or any other recognized human mental state. I've always maintained that "normal" is an illusion! lol Thank you for the very detailed and fact filled video. I appreciate the effort and research you put into this.

[@wendyrock4260]

Well said. My 35 year old son is autistic. Not a a disease, just different. People just need to accept others as they are.

[@poetry6502]

Going to send this to my dad who said I would never be a guy 👹

[@poetry6502]

He's just mad I'm more masculine then him 😩

[@saltedwounds]

@@poetry6502 omg 💀

[@depressoespresso5774]

@@poetry6502 I absolutely love that

[@cloudminingqueen]

@@poetry6502 LMAOO GO OFF

[@deiofdoom7017]

thanks matt!! I've been wanting to start doing a name change at home and start learning more about puberty blockers, so this video helped alot thanks!

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

Good luck and wish you the best! What name have you chosen, if you don't mind me asking and what pronouns do you go by? :D

[@deiofdoom7017]

@@ReptilianTeaDrinker the name i wanna go bye is Dei, and my pronouns are mostly they/them and de/dem (neopronoun) and i'm trying others too!

[@Meh-sn5kj]

@@deiofdoom7017 hi Dei, nice to meet you :)

[@lauramildon-clews7850]

I am a sixty seven year old trans woman.It is so gratifying to know that there has been reserch done that proves we are valid.Thank you so much for that

[@twicepilled]

💓

[@MossMothMyBeloved]

You are valid and awesome ❤🏳‍⚧

[@SWSimpson]

I know several trans people, and if someone sat down and listened to their stories, what they've been through, and got to know them even just a little bit, they would have some empathy for them and feel sad over some of the things they have been through. But, people lack empathy these days and somehow, too many Christians If someone is bipolar, it doesn't meant they have gender dismorphia, and no one should ever tell them that they are. They have to find that out on their own or else you are sending them down the wrong road.

[@Markinsegerd]

This was exactly what I needed. Ive been trying to find something that shows that im not “mentally ill” and this is exactly it. And now I can send it to my parents.. (once I move out lol). Im already on the waiting list for the gender clinic but it takes like 2 years before I get my intake and so im literally counting by the day. But this gave me some rest and I figured it’ll be all good in the end. Thank you doctor pride❤️

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Well while you’re counting your days until then, just know we’re here for you with weekly education and a 24/7 safe space where you can be yourself without anyone judging. And if they do judge, we ban them because I’m we are lgbt friendly here. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️‍🌈, Professor Pride

[@lokiijustwannasleep7865]

hope you get to both move out and transition (if you want to) as soon as possible! sending love and support your way! just hang in there and you'll get what you want in the end

[@babybatz666]

My parents call me by my dead name and wrong pronouns. Say things like "It's just a phase." They give me a bunch of examples of people de-transitioning. So i, the person who is too scared to tell them to stop and call me by my preferred name and pronouns bc , they traumatized me enough already. Puts a bunch of trans memes in my whatsapp status and posts a lot of vents about how much this sh!t makes me wanna d!3, to really shove it down their throat that this is not some kind of sick prank im pulling on them. My older sister bought me a trans and bi flag for my birthday and told me to go shove it down their throat. So i am having fun while getting more depressed and su!€idal bc of it at the same time.

[@semisentiententity5486]

I'm really sorry that your parents put you through that. I hope things get better soon! Stay strong and remember you are loved, appreciated, cherished, and valid! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@Fallograme]

I’m sorry about that! I will not know your exact feelings but in this comment section, you are safe! You can talk to me anytime! 💖✨👑

[@FieldOfHats3]

Hey... If you feel depressed and suïçıđal, you should probably get a therapist. It could make your parents accepting easier, while helping with those thoughts. I, myself, have trouble with thoughts such as those. If you can't get a therapist, try finding a hobby, accepting friend group, or just something that distracts you from those thoughts and your situation. Good luck ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@babybatz666]

@@FieldOfHats3 Thanks. I got an appointment at a psychiatrist in May, so i can hopefully get on T and get Top surgery as soon as possible. That would be amazing, nd since health care is free where i live this should be going smoothly. :)

[@FieldOfHats3]

@@babybatz666 sweet! I hope it continues going well! Stay safe and well :] ( •v•) / / 🍀

[@Lee_Snapi]

As a transgender male, this video explains a lot of how I feel. For a very long time, I thought I was just confused, and I thought there was something wrong with me for thinking the way I did. I was in the closet for 2 and a half years. Once I realized, a lot of things made sense. I always felt like I was a male, even when I was 5-7. I never felt like I fit as a female, and I was uncomfortable with the thought of being a female before I even realized. I struggle with so much Dysphoria, to the point of almost damaging my body permanently. My family is so supportive, and I really wish all LGBTQ+ people had the same support I was given. I am often misgendered in public, and it's very frustrating. I really wish I was just seen as a regular male amongst others, not thought of differently or treated differently. I am just getting into gender therapy, and am working towards puberty blockers and testosterone. Reminder, your gender is valid, your pronouns are valid, your gender identity is valid, YOU are valid

[@miranda4059]

As a transgender female i can kind of relate because i realized i was a transgender female 6-9 and i came out at 16 as a transgender female i am currently 3 years fully transitioned and have had a breast augmentation and bottom surgery and i now feel extremely happy and satisfied with myself good luck on your transition much love😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤💞💞💞💞