Why I’m Going Back To My Toxic Ex - PRETTY BASIC EP.154

[@DAVIDELIAZAR_]

TK better remember that “If he wanted to, he would” rule …. Don’t be sitting around for that boy babe.

[@zeinabdelgado20]

💯

[@TaylorKing]

hahahah fork I know

[@cbt1901]

Y’all….I figured out that “2014 tumbler” is an aesthetic style choice coming into style. Look it up anywhere. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it.

[@ItsNicoleAnderson]

Ok but in 2014 I was in 4th grade and I’ve been obsessed with it since then so I’m all for it

[@abc-eb4zh]

everything comes back into style, it’s only a matter of time

[@sirinaxiong]

I'm glad Remi reminds Alisha to date when she's ready and not to do it for the content. Love the dating tips. Can't wait to have Pattie on the podcast.

[@trinitybatiste4193]

“they’re not D list enough to be on cameo” remi is a gem ahaha

[@tyla-jeanleroux458]

The glow up for this season is 🌟 EXQUISITE 🌟. LOVEE

[@mnm_24]

I can’t get over how good Alisha looks in this video. Especially her makeup! 😍 Remi is looking fine as always

[@mollygoodrich8977]

I agree with the toxic ex thing to a degree. eventually if it becomes mentally draining as the friend who is constantly there picking up the pieces + the shoulder to cry on, you have to wave a white flag & you just don’t want to hear about it anymore.

[@mari-us6zg]

I’m on the same boat with remi everytime Alisha talks about the women who’s an expert on relationships. The things she says don’t blow my mind, and quite frankly don’t make much sense.

[@MarshaMilla]

Same😂

[@healthyhippie8773]

Agreed, I feel like it turns into just Alisha talking instead of a joint discussion

[@8CheerleadingGirl8]

@@itsonlyada same here!

[@debbie9226]

Alisha it’s not an “ego” thing it’s an insecure thing. Either you are afraid of being turned down OR you are just “old school” and you like the guy to take the initiative. You just need to know what you want and be honest with yourself about it

[@KimmySaephan1]

If you're the type to wait for the guy to make plans, I think you have to find a guy who actually does do that. You won't have to ask him or wait for him to do it- he will just do it. If not, you're just going to keep going through the same experiences and wonder why it's not working out... girl, you know why it's not working out. BUT, if you know what you want then you gotta stick to your standards and find those guys. And if he's not what you want, boy bye! Don't wait!

[@diannevega2728]

I think this was one of the most best pod cast you guys ever did specially with situations that is happening nowadays with people.

[@khill11929]

Omg I have a close friend that has been in and out of this TOXIC relationship for over two years (note: he’s had a fiancée and kid this whole time and my friend has been the side piece this whole time) and I STRUGGLE with knowing how to be there for her because I want her to feel supported but I’ve also given her the same advice/knowledge hundreds of times and they always go through this insane cycle and it’s hard to not give “tough love” and be patient

[@cnissan89]

Support her for what? She’s continuing to make bad choices. You don’t need to be patient towards those who make bad decisions time and time again. All you can do is reiterate what a crappy person your friend and this guy are and move on with your life. Seriously. They will suck you in.

[@ryleelinn2924]

it took me about half a year of watching remis videos and hearing them say “romy” to now get the full context that romy is drunk remi hahaha. this entire time i’ve been like ok ok romy is remi but like … why?? hahaha

[@20Moody00]

😂😂😂

[@daisy31393]

IFYKYK

[@rilesfomiles8662]

I love the set so much I watch a lot of podcasts but this is definitely the most homey feel like I’m chillin w the gals

[@MarshaMilla]

I agree my favorite podcast to watch

[@madelyn5059]

Okay but like can we talk about Alisha’s makeup 😍 yesssss so bomb

[@Onelove___MIA]

With the going back to an ex is just a realization of what everyone has said that you ignored, but still heard and needing to ‘hear’ for yourself

[@thejennifermadison]

Being friends with you two would be so fun!! I love your dynamic

[@EmaniBrizgette]

I SCREAMED when you said Rancho Cucamonga/ Victoria Gardens AHHHHH I’m from here and I love you guys sm 😭💕

[@dorothyfleming643]

bring alisha's roommates + TK on for a big girl chat!!

[@_giginnnn]

absolutely loved this episode! can't wait for next week's ep lol. also, Aspyn & Cove would be SOOOO cute on the pod omg!!! you guys really need to hit her up

[@shahiraifrit7992]

When youre upto date with Remi’s vlogs and you know she loves the expresso martini with Bay leaves.

[@gracecarlton95]

it's baileys bby. not bay leaves 😭

[@nelly8123]

@@gracecarlton95 hahahahahaha I LOVE THIS 😂

[@8CheerleadingGirl8]

bay leaves i’m fcking crying

[@Laura-ox9er]

Already listened this morning but you bet I’m gonna listen again for the video😂💁🏻‍♀️

[@ablockprincess]

Same girl same 😂😂😂💖💖💖

[@sunwarrior5999]

Idk what it is, but I just LOVED this ep! I've watched all the pretty basic eps, & have my favs, but I would literally watch this one again. I'm married, so I'm past toxic exes lol, but this was so interesting & reminiscent of past relationships/friendships! Also Alisha, don't worry about dating or bringing the dating content girl! Do your thing at your pace! Wish Remi & Alisha all the happiness in the world! Can't wait to meet this love guru btw!

[@adreyauna]

Ooooo can we get an episode with the assistants?! Maybe they can be the host or guests!

[@hannahstone9448]

Queens got me through cooking my little ones dinner, my son is 3 and he just ate almost half a pizza… it’s insane 😂 to be fair it was a small personal pizza but he’s eating everything My autistic daughter is 6 and she’s very picky, like chicken nuggets, Mac & cheese and pizza & carrots (cheese puffs) I always feel so “proud” we go into a store and she’ll ask for “carrots” and people around me are like wow, wow look at that 😂😂 then I go and sneak the cheese puffs in cause that’s what she really meant. Love you 💓

[@aureliavukovich3588]

i dont know why, but this is literally one of my all time fav episodes

[@karagira0410]

You should actually bring Sierra Schultzzie as a guest!!!

[@amanimarch976]

I love Pam!!! I used to watch her show millionaire matchmaker on Bravo.. i found her so interesting and always wondered what happened to her PLZ PLZ PLZZZZZ have her on the podcast 🥺

[@oneawkwardunicorn]

not you guys bringing up aspyn and sierra and i literally just watched both of their videos before this !!! i love when all my favs are friends ❤️❤️

[@erincruickshank6235]

aspyn needs to go on the pod

[@Jess___tv]

Yes! Would love to see Aspyn!

[@ItsOyku]

I totally agree with Alisha when she said "two people can be toxic to each other" I had a best friend who I cherished so much but I was in a bad place and it was very stressful times for both of us because we were seniors so we had a big falling out. It wasn't one thing but I bottled so much and we just stopped talking. Yeah they hurt me so bad but I know I wasn't perfect, I've made mistakes unknowingly and I realized that after a few months. It just sucks that in their head I'm probably the villain, the one who was in the wrong and the one who broke the friendship but they don't know how much they've hurt me. In the friendship, I didn't feel loved, respected, or appreciated. I was just there to fill their void when their other friends weren't there. I miss the good times, I loved them dearly but I guess it was meant to happen. I'm not the same person as I was 3 years ago. I'm sure they arent also... omg, it felt great to rant because I stopped talking about her to our close mutual friend because I knew they wouldn't appreciate it and might think I'm obsessed or whatever. I think she texted me twice or maybe once but I was very anxious and was dry lol I hope they didn't think I was being mean haha so dude if you are somehow reading this umm I'm both sorry and not sorry, I miss the good times and I genuinely wish only good things for you

[@Lizabef101]

Alisha babe, we don't need dating tea we just want you to be happy with a good guy one day when YOU'RE ready. We love you! We love you as well, Remi!

[@jmchi86]

I love watching the podcasts! I can't listen to them, if there isn't video I just can't do it! I have to see what's going on haha!

[@chloe_evans]

on Wednesdays we listen to pretty basic🥰✨

[@jocelynchavez8054]

Living for the new PB banner!!!

[@lexidowler8628]

I’m sitting here crying thinking oh my god what am I putting my best friends through. My boyfriend is the BIGGEST POS. I’m definitely gonna hold onto the girls I’ve got😭❤️ total eye opener 😭😭😭❤️

[@trinityrodriguez1716]

Omg I literally go to Victoria Gardens for everything that’s so weird hearing them talk about it!!! I am legit obsessed with that place!

[@Samjams1234567]

Omg the cal story ahhhhh I felt that hahaha awww poor cal. But I’m sure those guys won’t ever remember and also he has a new story now haha. Guys I love your podcast I needed this today! Also the glam is amazing!!! You guys look so beautiful!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@8CheerleadingGirl8]

love yall so much y’all are absolutely stunning as always. i hope y’all know and see how beautiful you both are inside and out. love yall ladies

[@mrsbryanpereira]

love that this podcast is on video!!!!!! but maybe is it possible to get it in 1080p ? 🤗🤗🤗🤗 love you queens ❤️❤️

[@Alicia-sv7bk]

get Aspyn and parker on!!!

[@amandaramirez8500]

I listen to pods while I work so I can’t watch the video normally! Happy to be here 🤗

[@jababes7208]

AYSPEN needs to come on!!!!

[@gibsonprs]

The musician in the Cal story is Mike Green.. Check out his album Restart.. He’s super talented

[@MikeGreenMusic]

🤘

[@vannylinares9667]

Unfortunately that happened with a friend of mine, I decided to be the one to step up because everyone hated him family and friends and I didn’t like the talking behind her back. I told her and I knew I had lost her and no longer going to be her go to person for her when she said well you don’t have to like him I do. I said oh ok, and we’re still friends but unfortunately that toxic guy is still there and it’s like walking on eggshells.

[@cz5981]

27:30 YES i'm exactly like that too, and i think it's an INFJ thing. we are just very intense and take things seriously, we also hold grudges and can find it difficult to forget things

[@kay6025]

This is my favorite podcast🥰🥰🥰 I’m so happy you guys have video now!!!

[@rudyrehl7483]

Every good show needs a Bert and an Ernie 🥲🥰

[@vansh8816]

remiii......... girlll I can't the second hand embarrassment I can't

[@emilywebb4619]

Alisha is absolutely serving this episode

[@carlyrok101]

am i tripping or is something different looks wise with alisha? i cant put my finger on it but something is new!

[@anitacudiamat7624]

I feel like it’s Botox or something. Or her lips. Not sure but I agree.

[@carlyrok101]

@@anitacudiamat7624 yes!! i was thinking something with her lips or even her teeth, they look super white !

[@aspenromeiser5448]

I believe they got their makeup professionally done for that episode cause they had a photoshoot after the pod, if I remember their Instagram stories correctly!

[@AshleyGulas]

Yea I think it’s just her makeup mainly the brows I think are way more thick and dark then what she usually does

[@aimesoto8934]

I’ve had a few favorite episodes. But I think this one tops it so far😁

[@toreemohr4051]

hi remi and alisha! I absolutely love listening to the podcast. I just wanted to say that I had a dream the other night that you hosted all your dogs on the podcast. like literally you guys were on one couch and rosie and daisy where sitting on the other couch lol

[@thefudgeameh]

OMGGG you guys talking about victoria gardens as an IE girlie is so wild HAHAHA

[@abrilbr2802]

it will be fun to see kirsten and ericka titus on an episode

[@LadyRosieRose]

BRB…not me going to the South Coast Plaza to wait to meet Remi because I was too shy to meet her in college 🙈

[@nathaliabozon]

Alisha your makeup looks so gorgeous in this video 💜

[@miasayoko1697]

OMG YES THE MONGOLIAN BBQ AHAHAHAHAHHAHA

[@prettybasicpodcast]

WE STAN

[@taylorlazo4263]

as an IE girly, this episode opening with victoria gardens was equally exciting and traumatizing 💀 that mongolian bbq goes hard tho .. #909things💀

[@shawnwithachance123]

the way that i was listening to the beginning of this ep on weds and now i'm watching the video :-)))) LOVE THAT FOR ME AND LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS PODCAST !!!!!

[@brendanalugo]

Been scrolling through KZbin waiting for this episode b’se YT notifications sometimes are really slow 🙄…let me listen and watch

[@santho0962]

PODCAST SWAP WITH UNSOLICITED ADVICE!!!!!

[@cnissan89]

Love rems outfit. That green is excellent on her.

[@brittanypriester4962]

Poor Cal 😂😅 I would not be okay

[@madeline01838]

OMG pleaseeeee have aspyn on!!

[@manuelabarajas8881]

one of my favorite episodes :) luv you guys

[@audreyhamilton5765]

i absolutely loved this episode, please have patty on!!!!!

[@laurennicole.rios333]

Rancho Cucamonga represent! Victoria Gardens is a great mall haha

[@zolboodashdorj5466]

I just wanted to let you guys know that the Mongolian bbq is not real Mongolian food. That’s more American Chinese food. Everytime I tell ppl I’m from Mongolia, they always talk about they had Mongolian food but Mongolian grill/bbq are not real Mongolian food. Just wanted our community know the true. Love you guys!!!!

[@DesiraeRoberts]

Would loveeeee to see Eva on as a guest

[@noellekarlovich1537]

i would love to see sam and colby on the pod!!

[@MomDateWithSashaJay]

I love watching you guys on KZbin, it definitely feels more personable like I’m sitting on the sofa with you girls!! Love love love!!!

[@stardust8746]

How do you deal with grief and get over friendships that have ended with no clear answer as to what exactly happened? A girl I used to be good friends with is only seeing the situation from her perspective and blaming everything on me. When in reality I have already apologized for my actions, but she won't apologize for her wrong doing or see the situation from my point of view.

[@Fringinto]

Remi I do the same, I put you guys on my TV and I feel like I'm listening to my friends (Wish you could hear me sometimes because I do respond to you hahah) Hello from Toronto 🇨🇦

[@JingleJangle-nl2bc]

Alisha is such an INFJ, I've always known it. everytime she tells a story or let's put some part of her personality, it's so obvious.

[@SelenaMarrie]

Hi, besties… 🤗 Sorry, I’ve missed the meet && greet!! Wish I could celebrate my 40th birthday with you… ILYSM!! 🥰

[@victoria1100]

I’m LIVING for the boots from Christmas Alisha 😍

[@chloejohnson6959]

Rem is right Alisha will be a great mom. No one wants to be 'okay'. love

[@nadiadansani2139]

Wow, I can say I’ve never gone back

[@pslivesxo]

The trumpet story. I am cackling.

[@totallyfab95]

When you watch remi’s vlogs and you know the friend is Eli lololo

[@chloeellen8033]

I know!!! I was like they need to share a little less of the details because I felt like it was too obvious!

[@balletstars17]

Right! And Remi used they pronouns but then Alisha said he pronouns and I was like oof yup we know who it is...

[@niinaajokatzenborn8445]

I love watching podcast videos but then when I need to drive i can listen like a podcast

[@leaniiss]

yesss i loveddd this episodeee!! I LOVE YOU GUYSS💕💕💕 i think you guys should have BRETMAN ROCK AS A GUESTTT

[@julianagonzalez488]

They did have one with him already

[@farzana1079]

What if the Try Guy guy didn’t give him money so in reality Cal giving money was just condescending 😭😭😭

[@farzana1079]

Ahhh wait Zack did tip him money 😭😂 crisis avoided

[@rebeccanguyen3818]

Wow love the intro clips so cute!!

[@monicalifornia]

Omg Victoria Gardens is my go to😁 love that place

[@Madisonlovesmakeup35]

I never fully understand what Alisha is talking about

[@Harshdylan]

Steph watching when remi says coves her favorite baby 👁👄👁

[@FatinZainal]

Omg pls get aspyn to the podcast 🥺

[@jocelynchavez8054]

Omg if you guys did the velour tracksuits like Adelaine Morin I’d loveee!

[@jocelynchavez8054]

Also parallel apparel should get with the velour!!!

[@ssrag_]

inland empire and orange county baddies this all makes sense why I enjoy ur podcasts

[@ruebenromero2497]

We need the love doctor on the show

[@rachelh1763]

I’m screaming at the hometown hero convo hahahaha

[@lalae2023]

Alisha you look amazing 🌸

[@oreo12432]

Love y’all sm

[@bbgvic6498]

OMG I LOVE VICTORIA GARDENS I LIVE LIKE 10 MIM AWAY YESSSS

[@SelenaMarrie]

Hi, Ladies… When a guy says “you’re mine!!” What does that mean?? Btw, I’m in a similar situation that Alisha && happy hour Chris are in… Just in a talking stage since February. Made plans to meet, but things had happened. Still trying to get together for our first meet && greet. It’s now July. Sometimes I feel like I’m being the initiator && I shouldn’t have to always be the first one to call or text someone. It’s so different with this guy then my other ex’s… Should I worry, not overthink && just go with the flow?? 🥰🤗

[@linaaahmurcc]

Do you guys watch Euphoria? If so you guys should discuss episodes weekly!

[@gracetodd5658]

Omg you guys should get luna Montana on the podcast one day