Privacy, Opposite of Narcissism

[@dontbecomeone9523]

(note to self') "Withholding information makes us less vulnerable to abuse" Thank you Sam!

[@marlenaeva3813]

Yeah, that's true and insigtful.

[@BenOnuMuDiyorum]

A note a for me too "The only time my family members reached to communicate me it was the time I witholding the information. The moment they find the way to know what I know, solely I know, their crave to know and reach dissolved."

[@Jgggffysert]

Withholding from whom ...and you must respect other people privacy

[@TechPunditHome]

Yep. They also expect you to tell them everything about your life. Digging information for malicious purposes pretending to be a caring friend.

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

É o que acontece comigo, sou perseguida por hackers, narcisistas, psicopatas, gângsteres, pessoas que não conheço, do governo nacional e estrangeiro, tudo o assunto sou eu, a sensação é de insegurança, desconforto, desconfiança, pessoas normais, comuns não ficam perseguindo outras pessoas, ao invés de eles me matarem logo... Ficam me perseguindo, falando de mim, eu não tenho privacidade, agora me pergunta se eu invadi a privacidade deles do celular? Do computador deles? Se eu acessei tudo lá? Não, eu não tenho o conhecimento desses hackers, e nem quero ter, mas eles ficam me perseguindo, por vingança, maldade, ou na justiça deles? Porque por enquanto eles não me mataram ou ordenaram os capachos, capangas, fantoches assassinos deles me executar com requintes de crueldade. Porque aquelas pessoas não tem somente a mente diabólica eles tem até passagem de crimes hediondos, diabólicos, está nos jornais, e tem até videos no KZbin, KZbin não proíbe de videos pesados ficar circulando, eu fiquei assistindo essas coisas pesadas, e confesso que fiquei com o psicológico, emocional bem não, fiquei chocada, toda vez que vejo, que eu for ver cenas pesadas eu vou sempre olhar com horror, eu tenho horror a violência, agora eu tenho isso, esses psicopatas, serial killers me perseguindo na rede social, meu celular invadido, não confio em vizinhos, não me sinto segura, posso nem dizer se esta pior do país do Dragão Vermelho, mas minha situação é nada boa. Isso tudo por causa de umas Tretas nas redes sociais facebook, agora sou perseguida.

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

I'm just dealing with this from my family too...

[@1lisalopez]

I love the way you insert humour on such serious topics 👍🏼 I find today’s post poignant but true. I also received an email newsletter from my VPN company. They were announcing that Apple will be scanning photos. They will be looking for evidence or sources of illegal activity and this information will be reported to authorities. I have nothing to hide but my shock and anger that I have come to realize little by little I have no private life. Trying to hang onto my identity has become a real thing.

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

Eu também não tenho privacidade nenhuma, sou perseguida, vigiada por vizinhos, gângsteres, pessoas do governo nacional, estrangeiro, meu celular foi invadido, eles falam de mim, espalham sobre mim.

[@drutter4515]

Thank you for articulating this so well. Have always known this instinctively - hence why I have always refrained form using social media. But sadly, most people seem to treat privacy with suspicion in the Brave New World we are creating.

[@meditationchannel9113]

More on the topic of narcissists and privacy please. Really enjoyed this video. Very informative.

[@talkbrian1522]

Absolutely always grateful for your videos because your insight is impeccably spot on

[@Bornintoclusterb]

Wow what a large lexicon you have 😆😉😘thank you for this video I hadn’t considered the aspect of privacy as it relates to narcissism. Interesting.

[@sydneysoucek9677]

Yes! More on intimacy and privacy, this was so interesting. Also, tips on maintaining the privacy, perhaps. Thank you

[@sallyburnside2185]

This is EXACTLY right. Thank you!!!!!!!!

[@marlenaeva3813]

Thanks. My mother still changes her clothes with her bedroom door open to the point where you can see her naked body. She also talks to you while stripping. Might as well do a striptease show for the family cause it's the same thing. I find this lack of privacy really concerning. Especially if narcs have young children running around the house. On a good note: I grew up with a sense of privacy (I've had friends with healthy parents teaching me a lot of stuff) and now I can't stand people who're devoid of boundaries or any privacy whatsoever (this includes posting your private matters on social media-unless these matters relate to abuse or mental health issues that can raise awareness and help others).

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

Eu não tenho privacidade nenhuma, meu celular foi invadido.

[@tinazivk]

hmmm.I don't think it's the same .. .i also have "no shame" with my family in that regard but don't post and publish almost anything anywhere - -- mostly I don't even have a phone ... . I think pepole "oveRdO" what is private and what not because we are mostly the same in most things and hence I think so they make themselves "special" - as if they are the only ones having boobs or I don't know receiving a message - I think this is a lot of BS - because most people t hat are overly private are fucking psychos AND narcissist because they are criminals and / or bad people ... .

[@exprimaexprima]

@@milena11570 in a provokative or exposing manner no

[@suzystone244]

​@@milena11570that is a BIG NO..intrusive behavore to ones privacy. Boundaries are there for a reason.

[@pgbergeron5569]

Love this and completely agree with you. Just wanted to share a word of caution. You're speaking a truth that is considered extremely dangerous and inflamitory by the majority of people these days. I completely agree with you and wish for everyone to truly understand this. The problem is there are a lot of people who will make it their sole mission in life to silence this kind of speech. Just please be extremely mindful of your choice of words. You're too valuable a speaker of the truth to have ridiculous people target you. Be blessed and safe always❣️❣️❣️🙃🙏🏻🖖🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@gabeclaufredd1099]

You're a little too late. Sam's life has already been picked apart and people have already tried to discredit him and shut him down. Yet, here he is.

[@pgbergeron5569]

@@gabeclaufredd1099 Ah, yes no surprise there. Must say I'm really happy he's made it through the storm. I was actually forced to relocate due to this kind of ridiculous nonsense. Just keep praying for balance to be restored in all our lives and the world and universe in general. We're all in real trouble if the scales keep being completely upended like in the recent past years. Stay safe and blessed Always! 🙃

[@babym7484]

"Thanks for listening. I hope you are doing it in private." 😂😂

[@susanrose4792]

I liked your talk on privacy Sam. I have bipolar one disorder. I’ve worked very hard to keep things to myself being private that is. I dated a narcissist for 2 1/2 years and now I can’t stop talking about it and I went no contact. I am writing a book about our private life together but I’ll never publish But I think this is helping me heal.

[@alexandrusava642]

This makes sense of why I feel so disturbed knowing my mom's husband is stalking me online.

[@galefralin2886]

It is disturbing. Be ware and protect yourself.

[@abhethashogun7177]

Thank you Professor for your hard work

[@TheRantanplan2009]

Do you think the public school system is designed to make the pupils good targets for easy narc usage later in society?Like preparing them for later consumption.

[@Lauren-vf1ip]

I am a public school teacher and have been for 20 years and I don’t notice anything shady like that. In my experience the students are mostly exposed to their individual teachers and their education each year is only as good as their teacher in my opinion. Teachers have the influence over the students not administrators. They barely lay eyes on each other.

[@David5201]

The media is already taking care of it.

[@kikirieck8988]

@@Lauren-vf1ip I was in such a school. Was a very, very bad school. I had absolutely no knowledge.The eleven year old brother of my best friend knew more than I did. Thankfully the Internet was on its way to us all when I left school and I was shocked to see that I hadnt learned anything ! I was very angry and sad - but, since that time I could meet some nice folks who were helping me to learn the right things. Doing things right is heaven on earth ! Learning is wonderful !

[@happycamper3561]

As a public school teacher, the public schools are run by woke Marxist narcissists who want to control and exploit the opportunity to promote their twisted ideology on kids who can’t question them.

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

Every school is different. Religious public schools in the UK with the boarding system taking kids away from their parents leaving them with their privacy violated & indoctrinated & vulnerable to sexual abuse by teachers or religious figures is what the UK political system is founded on, alternatively known as the old boy network or the dodgey handshake brigade. Thankfully the Tories the lost boys at the top of their pyramid scheme have been kicked out, but as can be seen by all the riots the far right have been instigating since the Labour party got in power, you can tell certain people are not happy.

[@LillianStead]

Thank you Sam. Very helpful and spot on.

[@fearnoevil9730]

Thank you, I really enjoyed this video.

[@xy7090]

I've been waiting for this!

[@vikgrisel97]

I was interested in a guy, so I approached him to start a conversation. After I had barely said two words, he started telling me about his whole life, every detail. He asked very personal questions and told me details like where he lived, where he was going to move, etc. He thought he was a great person because he worked at a bank, he needed validation of his greatness in every sentence he said. At no point did he want to form a bond with me, he just wanted an ear to listen to him and make him feel better about himself. The funny thing is that he never told me he had a girlfriend!

[@SaurabhrajaDode10]

Might be possible that he needs multiple romantic partner at the same time to get validation for his own greatness !!

[@heatherann4390]

My daughter is saying she doesnt have any privacy at her dads

[@heatherann4390]

@@mikewallis2987 yes i know...

[@darcyhope8342]

An excellent topic Sam thank you and soo true!!! I AM being listened to now by my narssistic psychopath neighbour Chris Jevons who is abusing and intimating me and breeching my human rights to privacy.Impacting my mental health and making me feel unsafe In my own home. Knowingly causing me me distress he's done it by cloning my phone. He is really one sick narrassist

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

Eu perdi minha privacidade, meu celular, redes sociais invadida, sou alvo de bullying, ficam me enviando indiretas, sou vigiada por vizinhos, gângsteres, e pessoas do governo nacional e internacional, nada na vizinhança aqui esta normal, mudaram a rotina, agora o negócio deles é me vigiar e procurar saber o que comento nos canais do KZbin, videos que assisto, tudo, minha vida acabou uma vez que minha vida, tudo sobre mim é público, me tornei um alvo, eu não uso drogas, não sou alcoólatra, não tenho renda, vivo dependendo dos meus irmãos, minha familia, não saio mais sozinha de casa, acho que nunca mais vou sair, e só espero minha morte, porque já tem anos que só fico dentro de casa, no meu quarto em celular, sendo perseguida virtualmente, vigiada, eu tinha uma vida normal, eu era normal, depois fiquei doente, e nunca mais sai sozinha, não tomo remédios, só saio pra ir na psicóloga perto de casa, eu não faço mais nada, nada, minha vida acabou, não tenho saúde, ninguém me visita e eu não visito ninguém, perdi minha vida social real, pode ser que nem deveria mais usar celular, as pessoas da vizinhança vão falar de mim de qualquer jeito, falam mal, ah vizinhança fofoqueira desde criança meu pai dizia que vizinhança é fofoqueira, hoje vejo em comentários nos canais de KZbin que toda rua é fofoqueira, isso é tão normal, e tão antigo, que ninguém cuida de sí mesmo, cuida é da vida do outro, me tornei o que eles são, nem querendo, nas minhas paranóias, manias perseguição, as pessoas simplesmente falam de mim, mas eu não era de querer falar dos outros, ou querer saber, mas depois que fiquei paranóica, e tive meu celular invadido, sofri ameaças.

[@andrewgirvan3540]

Is it then reckless to even attempt a non anonymous presence on the internet? Obviously not as wide open as you have been describing. I realize anonymity seems to be the norm online and have wondered if this doesn't have a negative effect on a person's identity amid others that exist anonymously?

[@TheCakeIsALie422]

Professor, is there anything to do or say when a narcissistic family member (family I married into, husband sibling) violates privacy/an obvious boundary for the first time? Or should it just be ignored, except for separating ourselves further? Example is sister in law hacking a private Facebook group, screenshot ying a 2 year old comment and sending it to our whole family demanding “an explanation” of why I was complaining “in public” about her behavior

[@isabelletouchard8226]

Hello Sam , can you help me to understand why after i go from him ,( he push me to go ,he was so bad with me in the last time of relation) beginn the divorce ,now he never answear to my message ,ignore me totally ,i wrote him just some thinks about papers for divorce nothing else .but since march when i go from him never he give a sign .why they make this ? And i am now a free women but is really hard hard hard ,why i think at him each day ,sometimes with nostalgie sometimes with hate .i want to forget this men ,how can i do this ,how long it takes ? Thank you for your videos .if you can answear ,will be great ,thank you .greetings from france

[@dionne4927]

Brilliant!

[@theramyani]

Your channel and you have made me intolerant to any "easy" channel that talks about personality disorders.

[@andersbrogaard6347]

Interesting how humans in the search for psychological security of some sort, wich dont exits, create a more and more disintegrated, confused, insecure self-centered world...are we utterly mad, and have no love whatsoever ? thanks for the talk, always a great displeasure ;)

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

O mundo parece um grande manicômio, circo, selva, na maioria das vezes. Mas proteção psicológica? Não parece existir, eu procuro evitar aquilo que prejudica minha psiquê, parece que não existe segurança, eu perdi algo valioso que é minha privacidade, além da liberdade, sou alvo de bullying, perseguição do governo nacional e internacional. Não tô bem, não sei como vai se suceder as coisas, só posso deduzir.

[@Justwatchedyou]

Can the Narcissist not use privacy as a tool or weapon? My Narcissist cries "privacy" only when his secret life is about to be exposed, proving that the grandiose persona he has created, is a lie. My Narcissist shuns social media. He very carefully controls, who and what information about him, anyone gets. But when he does talk about himself it's a show, he's the only one standing and its usually an over exaggeration, down playing serious matters or flat out lies. The purpose to convey a better off than he is, successful, not abusive and in control, male. He fearfully relies on his privacy and the secrets that others keep for him, in order to exist.

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

Eu acho que há mais pessoas narcisistas no mundo, do que não são narcisistas

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

E a rede social esta cheia de narcisistas

[@dianeoliveira6780]

So true...

[@CliffRockafella]

No cons piracy ?? haha . Good on ya man you are right on point .

[@harremsis]

Does this hypothesis apply to vulnerable narcissism? A person close to me who shows all signs off a vulnerable narc is very private with their personal information. I interpret it to be a way of excerting control...

[@samvaknin]

You are confusing privacy with secrecy.

[@harremsis]

@@samvaknin so are you making a distinction between the narcissist's attitude towards their own information and that of others?

[@birdieculture]

Whatever narcissists do its their choice. But I have a serious problem with them uploading OTHER PEOPLE's videos online. Why should other people cooperate just becoz they want content? If they walk up to me / start filming me randomly on the street etc, I'd probably tell them off and have them delete the video.

[@elisamasilvaalmeida8798]

Se eu flagrar pessoas fazendo isso de me filmar, ou tirar fotos de mim na rua, penso em fazer nada, porque pode ser uma pessoa armada com arma de fogo, confio não

[@-astrangerontheinternet6687]

5:16 As I’m trying to write a religious exemption to prevent them from putting synthetic genetic code into my body, I’m realizing that the state boundary is thin and fickle.

[@winter-i-i]

i find that there's truth in Catherine Mckennon's view on privacy. Marital rape for example is not a thing in islam, consequently it is not recognized as a crime in muslim countries. all sexual matters are a serious taboo in these countries and women and girls are shamed and shunned and threatened if they come forward about their rape, so their abuser remains protected. on the other hand, i find that feminism can also go too far when it starts policing women's behavior and robbing them of their individuality and authenticity.

[@jakeoandasan1304]

Some people wants to know every details about you and then exploit those 😏 If someone shows their true color, RUN and never look back 😏

[@Reevay762]

My Family = Game of Thrones 😊 This makes sense.

[@MelonRace]

Sounds like our state premier, Daniel Andrews

[@powdery.Monica]

Everyone and his dog should be fascinating by him 😂😂😂 get me off

[@Jessiethegirl23]

Mic drop

[@wombot2188]

I don't agree with the drugs example. Drug consumtions even if solitary are generally associated with drugs traffic which involve other people and prohibited by the state. Its also seems nature to be attacked by the community if drugs are often associated with crimes and poverty

[@samvaknin]

Drugs are associated with crime BECAUSE of the interference of the state and its idiotic "war on drugs".

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

@@samvaknin alternatively known as the war for drugs... or rather state controlled organised crime syndicates control of the global illegal drugs supply hiding behind vested interests in government,, so they can justify their enormous profits. If drugs were legalised, legally supplied & monitored, & legally grown & controlled, & provided by licenced doctors & pharmacists, you would stop wars, stop organised crime, stop gang violence, stop mass immigration caused by destabilisation of countries across the planet by the drug cartels etc. But then people at the top would no longer be able to get away with murder nor be able to accumulate such massive profits at the expense of everyone else.

[@bebe8842]

You're quite funny😁🙃

[@クルックシャンクバド]

With the NSA keeping tabs on everyone's communications, we can only hope our politicians end up like Saddam Hussein.

[@umsiee]

Lol

[@zukerfamily673]

חחח.. חמדמדים

[@CoreLabb]

OMG reminds me of my ex. They got mad at me because I didn't tell them very much of my business even though we were in a relationship. I knew if I told them what I was doing everybody and their mother would know. They always told their business over the phone to family and friends but always said they are a "private person". So imagine 5 phone calls a day and hearing them gossip about themselves or whomever for atleast 20 minutes oer call, then spoke in code about me then denied it! It was so annoying. If I left the house all I said was, "I'll be back, going to run errands." Of course they thought I was cheating but I did not want them to know which store I was at, etc. to avoid stalking when we broke up (I knew it was a relationship to exit).

[@powdery.Monica]

5:45 what this word I'd? Khalas

[@samvaknin]

Alas.

[@Jensth]

Brilliant!