Problematic wife always asks for divorce in arguments and returned her mahr to me, Are we divorced?

[@eesah37]

May Allah protect us from spouses like this.

[@malcolmhoward7983]

ameen

[@makeislameasy4206]

Ameen

[@jacoposparta9501]

Aameen

[@xander583]

Ameen

[@ahmedhamza4510]

امين يا رب العالمين

[@Tresdrole123]

The sheikh’s opinion is valid. The husband probably deserves to be divorced. And the wife is likely disagreeable. Divorce. End of story.

[@badolgiringya5035]

unfortunately im going through the same issues! I love her so much but its just becoming tiring atm! may ALLAH SWT give her hidayah and guide us all.

[@nazmunEva]

Ameen.....she is lucky to have such a concerning husband who asks hidayah for her instead of ignoring her and/or misbehaving with her. May Allah preserve ur couple

[@unknown-user-911]

Take her to the masjid and be a man my brother. I made a huge mistake like this in my life. You must know your worth and she shouldn't take it for granted. I told this same to my own sister about her husband and vice- versa. Pray on the Musalla together....LOVE is something that can make a person do anything...instill that in her... the way she did with you. BISMILLAH

[@Mr.Moon098]

Inshallah try asking her what issue needs to be resolved, unless mentally ill a person will have a valid reason to be upset.

[@SyedAhmedSakif]

I wasted 5 years of my life to a women like this. I wasted my life while she was cheating.

[@Myobatsu]

dont worry bro, if what you said is true and you were honorable in the relationship there is a special place in hell for women like her and whatever burden or pain she caused you inshallah she will receive it 10 fold and Allah knows best.

[@Ash-zp9sy]

@@Myobatsuare you God who is deciding her punishment? Hush up and stop the hate! You men aren’t so innocent it’s well known you mistreat women and then when she finally bursts you people act like you were the victim all along. Look at yourselves and decide your own punishments before you start punishing women….

[@proudmuslimah4423]

​@@Ash-zp9sy sister he said she was cheating. It's still the men in this case?

[@YoMegaStar69]

@@Ash-zp9sy🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 youre really funny, but i dont eant to get into an argument bevause winning an argument against someone who is educated is hard, but winnign and argument against someone who is uneducated is nearly impossible

[@Ash-zp9sy]

@@proudmuslimah4423women cheat that’s wrong but have you ever thought their husband might be pushing them into another man’s arms? Also we do not know the full story so condemning and punishing is incorrect and also we are not God so we don’t decide how someone is punished. Also, how many men cheat? How many get forgiven? How many just say oh I made a mistake let’s move on? I’m sure there are lots so how much are they condemned to hell? Wrong is wrong no matter what and if she cheated Allah swt will deal with her but I hate that when men make the same mistakes and worse and with no circumstances to push them into cheating it’s passively ignored and there is no condemnation that’s what grinds my gears 🧐🧐

[@nhm958]

There is always a 2 side story dont just conclude soon enough without listening to other story. We womens are emotionally dependent. In india there is a lot of cases where men stay too long on abroad and their wife stay with their in-laws. Believe me it is driving them crazy. All the hardship they have to face through everything which is draining them emotionally and physically. When we women often talks about these problems through phone the husbands wont get it and they are absent when women wants them the most . This cultural practice have taken a lot of marriage and separated a lot.

[@Afridarbaz]

Idk why people leave their wives alone to earn money

[@ibrahimaziz2365]

Sheikh isn't saying that one or the other is right or wrong. Most couples don't straight up start talking about divorce everytime they have a fight. Like this frequently. It's best for both of them to divorce and move on and find someone more compatible. The sheikh is simply quoting the hadith that if the wife had no valid reason, and shariah describes all valid reasons, to want divorce from her husband, then she will not enter paradise. Being a menace is not considered a good thing in Islam.

[@simplesilent499]

​@@ibrahimaziz2365No relationship ends without a reason.

[@simplesilent499]

Totally agree with you. I have seen a similar story. The husband lives abroad without his wife and the wife used to live with her in-laws. Whenever she would talk about taking her with him, he would say that I have sisters until I get them married, I will not keep you with me. After 15 years of marriage, when all his siblings were married, the wife demanded to come abroad husband refused, after that his wife demanded a divorce from him. 15 years of this girl's life were wasted in this way. This man did not even make a child from his wife.

[@nazmunEva]

But here the question wasn’t about this scenario isn’t it?? Living together for whole life couples don't understand each other, and if the man leaves his wife for work for years, that isn’t a marriage. It’s business and investment. U earn, send me money and i bear ur children

[@SG-dw8jh]

This is why it’s extremely crucial to be in charge of your emotions as a man and be logical. HeII with a woman that’s this disrespectful, a true man would take heart break over disrespect on any given day!!!

[@dkhailiaichrak7031]

I wonder why she insists on divorcing him?

[@faisalmaziz]

To show dominance

[@thomashardy7961]

Feminism

[@greent16]

@@thomashardy7961thank god for feminism for letting women leaving miserable marriages

[@thomashardy7961]

@@greent16 You are delusional. Feminism has no place in Islam, which is why feminists are not marriage material, never have been and never will be.

[@User80066]

​@@greent16 No problem, they will go to hell.

[@SoleilMagica]

We didn't hear her side of the story so we don't know if she was nagging him for no reason. Maybe there was a reason, but he didn't think it was important enough which would be frustrating to a lot of women.

[@fihamahmed5574]

haha. the timing of this video is so fitting. I remember a few days ago in another video people were calling shekh Assim feminist. I would like to see them in this video.

[@alpha-boss]

"Love what" 😂😂😂...

[@TheNiaz55]

That part killed me, sheikh got no chill 😂😂😂

[@alpha-boss]

@TheNiaz55 😂😂😂 he's very direct and doesn't hold back

[@ridwanashiru2399]

My tummy churned until sheikh's "with all due respect" 😂

[@alpha-boss]

@ridwanashiru2399 This sheik is funny 😂😂😂..

[@TheNiaz55]

@@alpha-boss Yh loool that’s what I love about him 💯

[@CC-hx7lj]

They probably have Sihr for separation; the jinn start from magrieb to isha. That’s why the man still loves his wife and she probably loves him too; the waswas of the jinn appointed with to this sihr of separation gets to her at that particular time. Good thing this brother didn’t divorced her yet, Alhamdulillah.

[@nazmunEva]

Mmm quite possible... But blaming everything on jinn without accepting mistakes not gonna fix the marriage

[@الفارس-ل9ف]

Valid response. She probably isn’t attracted to him.

[@_amatzz_]

I was married to a woman like this! Alhamdulilah Allah gave me a woman that is 1000 times better in every single way!

[@ousmansanneh128]

Dr May Allah protect you..more loving caring more obedient more beautiful...lovely statements

[@nouralbirtani8081]

Good advice I really dont understand why brothers stress so much. If shes a headache and you dont have any kids. Find a better wife. Even if you have kids try to make it work in every possible way and if its difficult then go get a better wife. Done

[@ahmedhamza4510]

🤲🏼اللهم اعفيني مما ابتلاه كثير من خلقك 🤲🏼

[@Raptor99114]

Facts 💯

[@shaguftaaslam1376]

I'm woman and I know how women are... She is insisting for divorce because she know that she is her husband's weak point and her husband loves her alot...if she ask divorce her husband will be panic and listen to her in every thing that's... I hate such type of women

[@monito3575]

As a woman I thought the same. Its really manipulative behaviour that some women fall into. Until the day comes and the husband will really divorce, then lots of tears wil be shed. 'be careful what you wish for ' as they say. But we dont know in the end, it is possible but we don't know her side of the story

[@iyaahn]

Dude is savage…

[@saadsajidul9001]

"My gloves are off" 💀

[@JesterSeven-ww8nc]

What kind of pathetic man wouldn't just end it here. There is more to the story why else would his wife ask for a divorce like this.

[@Ash-zp9sy]

He is hiding his true nature that’s why he said he loves her

[@burakcoskun38]

​@@Ash-zp9syu don't know you're just insinuating

[@MK-qs6os]

A lot of women say hurtful things out of anger. That being said. They have no kids. I’d be out in no time.

[@JesterSeven-ww8nc]

@@MK-qs6os A lot of men too, the fact that this man is still in the marriage says a lot.

[@MADvocate7]

Because she is sick in the head? Have you ever entertained that possibility?

[@kadencef5404]

Check for sihr please....

[@alpha-boss]

So, a woman has to have a reason to ask for divorce..

[@greent16]

This scent of jennah claim is rubbish. Women don’t need to be locked in miserable marriages

[@alpha-boss]

@greent16 I won't take the words of someone on the internet over him....

[@hadijamot4683]

​@@alpha-boss My brother I feel happy when I see the ummah smart and content 😊

[@alpha-boss]

@hadijamot4683 And why are you telling me this exactly? 🤔

[@hadijamot4683]

@@alpha-boss don't get me wrong it's a compliment

[@nadzirahfarhah3423]

Here i am unmarried

[@driveryte]

The sheikh is giving Saudi advice, were women are treated harshly Saudi women are still discriminated against in terms to marriage, family, and divorce despite the reforms, and the Saudi government continues to target and repress women's rights activists and movements

[@rizwanwasi7019]

This guy is really blind in one sided love. After all this, still he says he loves her. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

[@n.n.5696]

You don’t Know where start the problem, may be the man did something that makes the wife feeling betrayed. I personaly know a situation like that and the problems starts when the wife discovered that the man lied to her many times in lot of aspects of his life before mariage and after mariage. So after the wife became a bit resentful and used to be impatient with him at every arguments. So cheikh need to hear the wife reasons before giving such verdict i think. And other thing, some men need to learn to listen their wives. Many arguments are only caused by the wife try to talk to her husband kindly 1 Time, no réactions, 2 Time stil nothing next time the discussion will become arguments. A wife who feel well listenned by her husband will not lost energy in such kind of behaviour. I think no one like to feel stressed and emotionnaly tired all the time.

[@md.shahadathossain8880]

Or may be not,that wasn’t the point though

[@kinndah2519]

The fact she's willing to give her mehr back indicates he's contributing significantly to the problem. There's always 2 sides. If she wanted to divorce without giving back her mehr...then I'd be more skeptical that she's not that great of a woman.

[@Afridarbaz]

Right he should divorce her by not taking mehr and let her live

[@kinndah2519]

@Afridarbaz Yes, he's not that great of a husband if she's willing to forfeit the mehr. That's the biggest indicator someone actually prefers their peace over security.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

@@kinndah2519 what indicator shows that the woman is the one with the problem in cases where the husband is the one divorcing her?

[@groupno.3ghulammohaiuddin_485]

In subcontinent the mehr given is very low amount. So probably it doesn't matter to her .

[@MADvocate7]

​@@kinndah2519 the fact that wife argues and keeps nagging for divorce shows she is a terrible human being. Your bias for women is insane.

[@mccookboidat]

💯

[@sahiba9951]

The man is hiding his part of the story. There's always two sides

[@Ash-zp9sy]

Yes you’re right they hide their own wrong and disgrace the spouse

[@proudmuslimah4423]

The sheikh admitted to the man definitely having is own shortcomings!

[@YoMegaStar69]

How can you say that he is hiding his part of his story. always assume the best of the best of our brothers and sisters

[@YoMegaStar69]

@ shortcomings, do you know what that means? he couldle been clumsy or something snd his wife nags at him for that, burnt food a little nags at him, EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SHORTCOMINGS no one but Allah (SWT) is perfect

[@Ash-zp9sy]

@@YoMegaStar69 says the hypocrite who was happy to condone the bashing of a spouse in another comment. Good going with the positivity 🫏🫏

[@hani114]

Isn’t it hilarious that men jump onto the bandwagon of hearing “both” sides of the story when the man is the perpetrator. But when women get accused, suddenly the finger is pointed at them. This comment section is very telling.

[@thomashardy7961]

Because most women these days are feminists and not marriage material.

[@Irisesess]

Lmao it's the other way around

[@md.shahadathossain8880]

It's totally the opposite,it's like most of the women believe, woman can't be evil

[@ARCHANGEL_600WINGS]

Love what!! XD Get someone better women wont like to hear this LOL

[@wonderwalls3565]

Get younger and beautiful women who would obey you. The Sheikh is living in the past. Even the ugly ones dont obey their husbands now.

[@Ash-zp9sy]

Obey you? What do you think this is? You ain’t no God or master look at the wording. Ya Allah save innocent women from shady and harsh men like this give them the women who are just like them rude and disrespectful.

[@shadmansudipto7287]

Whether they're ugly or beautiful isn't what decides if they're respectful.

[@wonderwalls3565]

@@Ash-zp9sy Also I copied what sheikh said and the second line was responce of the first line.

[@wonderwalls3565]

@@Ash-zp9sy Allah's messenger also said If Sajda to a human was allowed I would have asked the women to do sujood to her husbands. Now what you have to say about the prophet PBUH?

[@wonderwalls3565]

@@shadmansudipto7287 The Sheikh said get younger and beautiful girl who would obey you. I am saying even the ugly ones dont obey their husbands how come the beautiful adn younger ones will obey their husbands?

[@aron2015]

Do all married people go through this?

[@Afridarbaz]

Most

[@user-zc2hz3yj2k]

I don't think so

[@------------L--------------]

depends how u view everything

[@Asterite]

No if you marry someone that fears Allah truly then no

[@makeislameasy4206]

@@aron2015 no

[@InternetAlterEgo2024]

So many crazy women in the comments. Sheikh is 100% right.

[@makeislameasy4206]

@@InternetAlterEgo2024 true😅

[@ferdousimiah6843]

Shes as too much hormones her body needs a baby. Once she becomes a mum the dynamics will change. If she is a sincere loving woman. If she has another agenda clearly not interested in him then divorce him. When i argued with my other half i would instantly ask for divorce becuse i wanted to hurt him. Remember woman are complicated creatures when they say something it ca mean the opposite. Men are more grounded and logical. Shes either being a drama queen and a spoiled brat. Or she is not serious about him. She could be testing the relationship boundaries how much power she can have over him. Without talking to both of them or meeting them it would be hard to give advise. No one knows whats in someones heart. Marriage is like a seed it grows with time and becomes stronger but both of you would need to work on it. There is no such thing as love. That grows with Allahs blessings.

[@mymuna4689]

" she has too much hormones in her body needs a baby. Once she becomes a mum the dynamics will change" Bro how old are you? That was such a idiotic things to say. A woman will decide if she wants a baby or not. And about dynamic changing after giving birth is straight up is just stupid

[@Bakingspecial]

Without listening to the other side it's difficult to decide, even if she's at fault the language respectable Aalim is using is making me sad as a woman, that "there is lot of supply😢"

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@Bakingspecial sometimes we as women need to be told hard truths like that so maybe we begin to cherish what we have. Sheikh might be harsh but he is right.

[@Ash-zp9sy]

I don’t agree with this sheikh he is being derogative about women and giving them no value. It’s despicable that such influences are encouraging men to be so flamboyant about something as sacred as marriage. I say to my hubby if he is not happy with how I treat him either tell me how I’m wrong or just leave because I’m sick and tired of his victimhood and laziness and oh life is difficult. He lies and says I’m awkward and don’t let him be free 🤣🤣 my Allah knows I don’t get in his face rather I do everything to please him but his still unhappy and whines about having to be responsible. We have two children and married for 12 years so what do you want? Be a husband / father or get out I’m tired of hearing about him struggling in married life and how I’m to blame. Married life is difficult for everyone I’m also struggling but do I let my responsibilities go and whine about being a victim? NO! Seriously men are never to blame it’s clear it always somehow comes back to the woman being blamed for every bad situation! That’s why I have given up hope and trust in humans and I only look to Allah for justice. I need to be patient and justice will be served on the day of judgement. The husband in this case is not telling the full story you can hear it in his voice….

[@Ash-zp9sy]

are you married? If not you have no clue? A lot happens in marriages. I’m not saying when you threaten divorce at every opportunity it’s ok but some situations it’s because the spouse pushes you to an extreme. Yes the person screaming divorce can become toxic or seem toxic but there are times when they are just sick of the antics of their spouse. I know I live it. But I’m not going to lie I am going to try and not spout this nonsense to him regardless of his toxic behaviour because repeating something constantly loses its value.

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@Ash-zp9sy sister the sheikh said it that the man too isn't perfect. I am sure no one wants their spouse to keep nagging at them with divorce threats. Also fear Allah, if you follow the sheikh but during videos and on posts he sides with women when needed but we should be ready to accept to truth as women when we are at fault too.

[@imransadiq4149]

Oh boy! You must be great at parties🤡

[@Abdullah34610]

The sheikh has 11 daughters. He is an elder with experience in consulting. Let's assume the husband is in the wrong - what do you suggest they do? She's the one asking for divorce. They follow the sheikhs advice and she gets the divorce she's been wanting. What's the big deal? Maybe they're both great people but they just didn't mesh well.

[@Ash-zp9sy]

@ listen lady I’m a woman and I will stand for my sisters if they are in a bad place but that does not mean I evade the truth. Marriage is very difficult and it’s testing. Every situation is different. My Allah knows I work at my marriage and I do more than many women put together. If the man still whines then he can go I’m not going to beg him. That’s my stance. I’m one of the ones that I treat people well until I find a reason not to, you lose my respect when you mistreat a good person. The sheikh needs to encourage working at your marriage instead of increasing the divorce rates. That’s my point.