7 Warning Signs Of Grooming

[@Psych2go]

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[@minermole101]

Agreed.

[@ARainbowAfterDark]

This is an important video! Grooming can also happen to adults, the way it happens is a bit different, but it’s important to remember it’s not exclusive to minors

[@parisnola2695]

This is a real serious sh*t for everybody to watch. It seems that not many people are preparing their young kids and teens to be fully aware of the shady world we live in.

[@stacyreed1]

Can u do grooming warning signs happening to adults and vulnerable adults?

[@JimmmyRaynor]

it's awful how many groomers are waving pride flags and following these groomer strategies online and tell their victims not to tell their parents

[@kamh64]

The fact that there’s a need for this video is heartbreaking

[@lillyfahey1921]

This Video Could Literally Save Lives. 🙌🏻 🙏🏻 🤍

[@sagemaster1357]

​@lillyfahey1921 True, better to be aware than unaware.

[@gemmesguerra9566]

But it’s been prevalent for the past fee decades. True, it’s sad.

[@susanlisson7066]

It is but it’s also very important because many could benefit from it.

[@numbuh1507]

Or the fact that parents feel that children shouldn't be educated at all on anything sexual so they refuse to show this video to them.

[@MoonGlow22]

"Special treatment or attention" yeah, it seems my childhood was safe

[@anasaliyow2838]

Bro got the middle child treatment 😭 🙏

[@M4t_P4tGT]

Yikes

[@fennek1nviking]

😭 Honestly same

[@Wishkeirs]

Youch 😭

[@TheSoulCalledZuzia]

True, lol

[@svxxkai]

I sent this to my cousin as a tip, when I was 6 she told me she was SA'd by our Uncle, she was also SA'd at her current age. She had no one to talk to, she just told her online friends, they boost her up. I'm trying to help her too. I'll do whatever it costs, even if the Gr★★mer is more powerful than me.

[@SageStarks]

I pray that you have as much support as you need to protect your cousin. No one deserves to go through that

[@Jacielovinfunkin27]

Im so sorry that happened to to your cousin😔 No one deserves to be gr§§med

[@PokeSplashh]

im so sorry that has happened, your uncle is an awful person. especially since its a relative..

[@Londonforlife09]

69 likes >:) also im sorry that happened to them 😢

[@airam1721]

If I had enough knowledge of stuff, plans and resources, I'd go there to help you in a few years, I have no idea of how to help, though. How old are both of you? I'll try cooking plans (whatever it costs, as you said)

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

My heart goes out to anyone who has been, or could've been a potential victim of grooming. It's a dark world we live in.

[@YourLackingAce]

Thank you, it's mind damaging. But I'm currently healing every day!

[@swagubirk]

happened to me a year ago, thanks!

[@BeanicatorVEVO]

happened to me when i had discord in secret without my parents. Guy eventually went offline one day after saying he was gonna commit suicide but i still think it's fake. The last known username of him was b1gb1rd.

[@carelessdreamer]

I was a target but thankfully not a victim. My intuition has always been one of my strongest traits, so I pulled away whenever things felt off, thankfully. Less than a year later, the guy was found to be texting multiple teenage girls and lost his job. I haven’t told anyone not out of shame, but just because I’ve already processed it so it doesn’t really feel relevant. And because my parents wouldn’t leave pieces big enough to find.

[@Whyamiawakeat3am]

Thank you, I’ve been a target but thankfully never a victim.

[@jayarthasengupta7423]

1:33 Excessive Secrecy 2:08 Unexplained Gifts 2:31 Special Treatment or Attention 2:56 Spending Time Alone 3:24 Allowing Forbidden Things 4:04 Excessive Physical Touching 4:43 Minimizing Concerns

[@Im_Just_A_Silly_Goober]

​@@davidarvingumazon5024 This isn't funny, you're weird...

[@davidarvingumazon5024]

@@Im_Just_A_Silly_Goober Not really weird. "All slaves should be free" "All slaves should be free" Or read OP out of context simultaneously with two different perspectives, it's similar to logic of reading one sentence with different meanings. The two different perspectives refers to: Perspective 1: Read OP normally just like the vid's context Perspective 2: Read OP out of context, this implies OP's every statements/claims are what most adults do-which will resulted reading one sentence with different meanings, hence making a joke. Edit: O_O Lots of people don't get my joke.

[@Im_Just_A_Silly_Goober]

@@davidarvingumazon5024 What does that even mean...? Bro, not every adult is a pedo-

[@DinosaurNick]

@@davidarvingumazon5024 are you confessing?

[@davidarvingumazon5024]

@@DinosaurNick That's moving the goalpost and poisoning the well, nice try but it won't work on me. =_=

[@SillyFishhh]

"Excessive physical touch" Yep, i know what it feels like. I was too scared to tell someone.

[@Maryam-bt7kg]

I’m so sorry for you 😢I hope you are doing better 😊

[@soyaliovee]

Same

[@Slaygirlypop12398]

Do better mkay? tell all adults you trust and seek help 😊

[@Slaygirlypop12398]

​@@soyalioveemaybe not say same and says "Oh yea me too" not being rude btw!

[@soyaliovee]

@@Slaygirlypop12398 English is not my language, same is just saying you feel the same too right? Idrk sorry if saying a word come off as rude

[@trinaq]

The biggest red flag is definitely "You seem so mature for your age."

[@Megolsky]

I don’t think half of all adults I know are groomers

[@grubby227]

i have 2 yr diff with my gf but she is like literally more mature, logical, and emotionally stronger than me 😭

[@Thiccness_Is_Delicious]

My mother said that about me all the time when i was a kid so did others lol That said I was speaking in full sentences at 7 months 😅

[@ThalonRamacorn]

How is that a red flag? That is a praise... People see too much into small compliments like that :D

[@ShawnRavenfire]

@@ThalonRamacorn I think it all comes down to HOW it's said.

[@SoGoesLife_]

This channel makes me question my childhood, more often than not.

[@Dance_poetry_nature]

I'm so sorry

[@DinosaurNick]

same

[@minaashdio9373]

Damn I am sorry

[@cherryuu24]

sending lots of hugs and energy to you, i hope you know that it is okay to question your childhood and takes time to figure it all out

[@Psych2go]

Sorry to hear :( How many signs did you relate to?

[@Kouddii]

I think that my brother is being groomed. I'm so torn on what to do. I'm terrified, and I know he thinks it's okay, but I just can't help but hesitate. I don't know who to tell and how I can tell them. After watching this video I'm more than sure that my guess is accurate. They are doing most of these things. I always wondered why he was getting gifts and attention from them 24/7. I was always wondering why he thought it was normal. *I was always wondering why they kept it a secret.* Thank you, Psych2go. You helped me come to my senses and smack my braincells across the face and go "we gotta do this, get up."

[@humanhuman7280]

These long comments always sound fake as hell i dont know why

[@Kouddii]

@@humanhuman7280 😭😭😭 is it the grammar?

[@ZamB3_]

Hope you tell your parents first. it's a good thing that your parent knows about this

[@paperengine33]

Yes, definitely tell your parents. Definitely reach out. You can help your brother, you just need to reach out.

[@Lanoira13]

The best thing you can do is support your brother so he knows you're there to help, encourage healthy behaviors and boundaries, and make sure it's not secret. If there's nothing wrong with their relationship (assuming there's nothing in your brother's life he cannot trust the other adults in your life with due to their failings as support figures) there should be no reason things need to be secret. Secret and private are not the same thing. He doesn't have to violate either his or his "friend's" privacy to be honest about how much they're hanging out, when they're going to be hanging out, what they're generally talking about or doing. The thing is pressure doesn't help people come forward about those things, trust and support do. Keep in mind though the part that makes it "grooming" is the abuse, or intended abuse (breaking down someone's boundaries or standards so they'll accept or submit to mistreatment later that they likely wouldn't have otherwise tolerated). If there is no abuse, and no knowledge or evidence of intended abuse, then that isn't really grooming, it's just being an awful influence. Which happens sometimes, and is still bad and abusive in its own way. No adult in your life should erode your boundaries, any adult in a child's life should be building them up to be ready for the world, not the opposite. If you're afraid this person isn't doing that, you should definitely talk to your brother and the people around you about that.

[@Todoroki-Shoto]

When I was in middle school I met a friend's sister at my friend's birthday party. I was standoffish because of abuse that was happening at home? but her sister said I was "Cool" and started meeting me every single day at the bus stop. In the beginning we talked about TV-shows - but after a while she started by asking questions about my body and its maturity, then moved onto kissing and touching. My parents ignored it as "Friends" or "Friends sister", but this woman said she loved me and wanted to protect me from the family situation I was in. She joined the military and started buying me gaming consoles, clothes, games, weapons etc. It was a huge topic for years not to tell anyone, because she could get arrested. She would choke me, cut me with knives, and used to have me wear a collar for her? but she would also play it off as something normal (My parents thought it was a stylistic choice). Eventually she convinced me to move into her barracks with her. She would tell her coworkers I was family, or that I was her friend - then she would hook up with them behind the scenes while actively telling me she was dating me. Years later, I had people tell me they would get messages from her saying to leave me alone, or that she would hover when other people tried to get near me? I remember once at a BBQ party, one of her superiors was put off by the age gap and tried to ask if I was ok? but I was heavily manipulated into thinking things were normal, and that I was in love. I remember everyone else at the BBQ played it off as "He's a boy who likes older girls/he's lucky", but this guy went out of his way to track me down when I wandered away from the group to ask more questions and I respect him for that now even if he never did anything to get me away from that situation (He still recognized it was wrong). TLDR: A person being groomed isn't going to tell you "Hey I'm in danger", they might say "This is my friend" or "This is my partner" they might know not everything is normal, but see it as "A form of love specific to the person who cares for me". The kid might be going through other forms of abuse in their life? or be a survivor of extreme circumstances and see their situation as the better option. Don't take things at face value, even if a kid gets mad about you trying to help them they will be grateful years later.

[@someoneyoudonthavetoworryabt]

that is horrible, i hope you're okay now

[@NyxWas_Stolen]

that is horrific, and what she did is so disgusting and so disgraceful to the military. but most importantly, it was disgraceful to you. i hope you're healing and having a better life now ☹️

[@trailerparkpegasus]

Thats severely fucked. What is it with mfs in power and "trustworthy" positions being creeps? Ive been s/aed nd groomed by MULTIPLE (yes, MULTIPLE) fucking cops in my lifetime

[@LeiaLouise]

I hope that you are in a safe place and on your way to physical and mental recovery ❤️‍🩹

[@BumpyMan]

I hope u all right but its kinda dumb for not calling for help or anything

[@FreakyEmmetRealll]

When I was younger, I got groomed online and I didn’t know at all. They weren’t even an adult but they made it so obvious that they were grooming me and that same person is still roaming to this day. I’m still recovering and when I tried to expose them for what they did no one listened :(

[@SarahtheAutisticCartoongeek]

Who was it ? 🤔

[@FreakyEmmetRealll]

@@SarahtheAutisticCartoongeek this dude from the splatoon fandom who (I believe) changed his name to “Sleepy Squid” to get away but he was known as Sleepybean when he did it

[@jccuchvjvj]

What do you mean by groomed online?

[@SarahtheAutisticCartoongeek]

@@FreakyEmmetRealll Oh hell no 😭💔 I'm so sorry 😔

[@SarahtheAutisticCartoongeek]

@@jccuchvjvj like when an adult or an older person talks inappropriately or seggual to minors or kids 🤔

[@Strawberrydafox]

I thought grooming was brushing hair or making someone relax I never knew grooming was something sexual

[@Cube-0f-ic3]

Grooming has 2 definitions 1. Sexual 2. Brushing hair

[@A10PlaysGames]

"I just groomed a little kid right no-" *JAIL*

[@llama_mm3380]

Bro is living in the 1800s 💀

[@Appl3F4ng]

​@@llama_mm3380 Cats cleaning themselves can be also called grooming, you can say they are grooming themselves instead of washing/cleaning

[@llama_mm3380]

@@Appl3F4ng it's a joke

[@Maddiedoggie]

While this video is mainly directed at children who are especially vulnerable to grooming, adults can be manipulated and groomed too. I’ve had people try to groom me despite being in my 20s, trying to exploit my autism and how desperate I am for a stable relationship with someone I like.

[@mint_marigold1229]

This! 👆

[@logandsouza6273]

I'm so sorry man! That sounds so incredibly awful! I hope you can find someone in your life that loves you for who you are, because you deserve that. I wish you nothing but the best for the future. Sincerely: An Internet Stranger.

[@marchioof]

Bro. Same I had the same issue a couple times.

[@Gamer_Katari]

True I'm also scared and worried after I've struggle lonely issues, yet I'm still scared (at my own same age of 20, I'm just not ready to use the word 'trust other's' specifically)

[@Vantitas]

I disagree since adults typically have more control of what happens to them compared to minors. Because it kills me how I’ve seen this word be misused as a means of dodging accountability over any bad decisions made. At the end of the day, there will always be terrible people in the world while it’s up to you through proper discernment to know who they are. Therefore, I don’t say this to invalidate your experience or anything, but looking at this from a different angle.

[@Waggers789]

As a kid, I got groomed and thankful nothing happened but my god as an adult now I realise what happened it's quite scary. These types of warning sign videos are important to share. It could help someone.

[@Psych2go]

We're hoping we can save lives before it's too late. Awareness is the key

[@jenivettebigham7060]

Me too! Several times. I just recently unlocked a memory when I was 12/13 my mom wanting me to date my stepdads "young" coworker. My aunt and I were talking about it. She said my mom said "who cares how old he is if he buys her things" wtf. Thank goodness that young man was not comfortable with it. I remember just feeling confused but just standing there. I have zero contact with my mother. She hasn't even met my 2nd baby. Only met my first once.

[@Waggers789]

@@jenivettebigham7060I'm so sorry this happened to you, it weird how a memory can be triggered by something like a video. This is why these types of videos are so important and people should share experiences to make others aware so history doesn't repeat itself.

[@alih5374]

Same, luckily nothing happened because the caught it this year and he got investigated. He was a teacher at middle school and this year my mom found a text on my phone and reported it to the police. There were so many sighns from 11-14, I just turned 15 and the investigation ended like 3 months ago so it’s still on my mind a lot.

[@あかね626]

I'm a minor who had terrible past, watching this vid It triggered me so much that I remember my unwanted memories with my groomer when I was around 5-10 yrs until it happened again with another groomer who was my own father when I got 12-14, glad I told my mom the truth about his behavior or it would gotten worse if hadn't to, and they got divorced+ filed an case against that man...

[@dawn2941]

my dad 1. told me not to tell my mom that he was letting me sit on his lap (he would often 'let his hands wander') 2. often guiltripped me with excessive gift-giving and disappointment when I said I didn't remember them 3. ignored my brother - blatantly and obviously favorited me over him 4. honestly my mother and my brother (the only other immediate family I had in the house) were always distant, so it was extremely easy for 'one-on-one time' 5. often broke sensible rules my mother set for me (such as not letting me stay up too late, watching inappropriate content - I was ten - and eating too much sugar) - he'd break those rules and tell me that my mother was too strict anyway, or 'crazy' or 'insane' (and while she does have her own mental issues I believe now that those were okay rules) 6. constantly touched me, asked for hugs, inappropriate touching, - I couldn't say no because I was *ten* - and he was mostly absent from my life anyway, so I didn't know what father-daughter boundaries were *supposed* to be, etc 7. my mother disliked my father because he was an asshole to her and would often comment about how 'it isn't very appropriate for you to sit on his lap' (but she never did anything because she was often away for work and didn't know how bad it was, I don't resent her for not knowing) and she'd usually complain about him in general - he'd tell me and my brother she was 'crazy', or narcissistic (which she is, I won't deny that), or lazy, or - generally badmouthing her (they both badmouthed each other to us, though, so I guess in this aspect both of them check the box)

[@onecat5618]

Oh SHIIIII-💀 dad is a douche bag

[@justAsmileyface]

I feel like my step dad is also like that when i tell something to my mom about what he did he would say that "Oh so know ur on her side after i feed u and everything" and it makes me feel bad about it

[@Faith_To_Fate]

@@justAsmileyfacehe’s just manipulating you, he isn’t giving you food for your sake but for his own (I guess you already know that) You shouldn’t feel bad about calling him out Maybe try contacting someone outside of your family who could help or the police?

[@Ash-x9m]

@@dawn2941 lol

[@damnablethief]

There are monsters in this world, they are just disguised as people

[@TheNightGamer-zk1eo]

This heartbreaking thing is how true this is. It's devastating how dark a place the world have become

[@Dance_poetry_nature]

It's so true. I always think of this quote from Supernatural "demons I get, people are crazy." It's sad to think that people are the real monsters in this world.

[@heiserberg_owo]

not disguised, humans are monsters, or not, every place, every group has some

[@Dance_poetry_nature]

Yikes. I feel SO bad for minors who go through that.

[@lylyssy]

Happened when I was 14-17 & I’m 22 now. The side effects are still strong.

[@naomilauzut92]

Same ​@@lylyssy

[@lylyssy]

@@naomilauzut92 😮😮 how are you coping after all of that happened? Does it bother you every day?

[@naomilauzut92]

@@lylyssy the thing is, it kept happening back to back to a point where I just dissociated. I can't feel anything anymore. No emotions, no hatred, no love, nothing I often fake my emotion to fit in but deep down inside I feel nothing for nobody. Not myself or anyone I love or care about. So it's not really much coping, it's that I don't care about anything anymore

[@kilato9649]

​@@naomilauzut92Shi tragic

[@glenn06]

This is a topic that should be touched on at schools for self awareness.

[@Psych2go]

Perhaps, we can encourage our viewers to ask their teachers to share the video.

[@CrimeNetArchive]

The groomer character is easily the most terrifying character design you have ever made guys.

[@thesuaviestbeatle]

is it just me or does he look like dream

[@CrimeNetArchive]

@@thesuaviestbeatle HMMMM

[@maazfarhantheepicgamer311]

@@thesuaviestbeatle now looking at it it looks a lot like dream

[@CheeseMeat_]

@@thesuaviestbeatle In one way or another

[@Filoanonymous]

I WAS THINKING THAT AND WENT "DREAM THAT YOU?" ​@@thesuaviestbeatle

[@ComfyLilith]

I was 14 and vented way too hard to someone, wish I knew what I was getting into before it went down hill. I just pray no one gets hurt like this!

[@-originalLemon-]

Maybe don't vent anymore.

[@leonkuwata6954]

​@@-originalLemon- Venting is normal. You just need find a trusted person

[@justalpha9138]

​@@-originalLemon-That is also not healthy

[@-originalLemon-]

@@leonkuwata6954"trusted person" that's going to take longer than blackbelthitoshis' interpretation on the word "In a moment" you might say "ooh get a therapist" but the problem is that for one, I am not going to spend my time complaining about all my problems to a person who doesn't even know who I am and probably doesn't care either, as a matter of a fact, all it would do is feed it's ego. And second of all I don't really, play among us anymore because it's just bots.

[@leonkuwata6954]

@@-originalLemon- 1) venting isn't complaining. It's different. People who vent seek support and solutions from others. People who complain don't. 2) very mature of you to make a joke, under a video about grooming. 3) your opinion IS valid. I won't tell you what to do. But the way you said "Maybe don't vent anymore" sounds like you're blaming the victim.

[@artemis8057]

when i was sa'd/groomed by my eldest sisters ex fiancée when i was 12 i looked for a vid that could validate my suspicions, didnt really find any but thankfully i didnt let it go on for more than a day. there needs to be more vids like this from more people. no one should shy away from these types of videos when it could help someone in the long run. kudos for making this, it can really help someone speak up before its too late.

[@lurkerprivilages]

it doesnt just happen to kids, adults can groom other adults too. and it's not always sexual either.

[@MirrorOrune]

Can confirm - first met my groomer at 13, then reunited at 16 - and he haunted me until I was 21 when we cut ties. Grooming can happen to literally anyone.

[@ghostthelizard]

Yeah it happens especially to adults who are vulnerable (for example due to mental disability) or when theres a strong power dynamic (like college teacher and their student). But kids are targeted more because theyre easier targets than most adults. We can definitely still acknowledge that there are adult victims

[@JamiroquaiEnjoyer]

​@@MirrorOruneREUNITED? now that's a worse fate

[@DanielaDiaz-iv6mm]

​@@ghostthelizard😢 I have a mental disability and adult men are creepy af, I can confirm

[@jccuchvjvj]

And kids can groom adults too. My friend's sister groomed me at the party once and she was like 13, 14 max back then.

[@byuftbl]

All these signs happened with the “abducted in plain sight” girl. The neighbor who took her groomed her for years. He’d send her flowers after a play. He’d told her parents it was okay for him to spend time alone with her. He convinced them to let him sleep in her bed for “therapy” because he claimed he was told he had a problem liking young girls so he needed to sleep there to learn not to do anything to them. He got everyone in that family to trust him and then kidnapped her basically with the parents permission. She was supposed to go horseback riding with him, but they never came back and he tied her up in a trailer and convinced her aliens had kidnapped them both and she had to marry and have kids with him to help save their planet. Real messed up stuff. He even had an affair with the mom because he had convinced her to trust him and that her husband didn’t love him like he did. The girl was only a kid and teen at this time so she didn’t know better, and the parents were very naive because back then we didn’t know this stuff because there was no internet we easily could access info. This day and age I hope they wouldn’t known better, but back then this was a member of their church and they thought they could trust him.

[@Kiki_Creature.808.]

Wow😳🥺 people can be really horrible and manipulative it’s crazy what you can convince someone of doing

[@arpanarastogi8756]

I didn't know about this movie before, but I looked it up after reading your comment and apparently, it's a documentary based on something true? I was shocked and somewhat appalled. Just how can someone be so deviously manipulative?

[@Kiki_Creature.808.]

@@arpanarastogi8756 yea I think I’ve seen it before

[@byuftbl]

@@arpanarastogi8756 yes it is definitely a true story. He really was super manipulative to the whole family so he could get everyone to trust him so he could get away with his sick desires.

[@nunusthoughts]

I'm so sorry but the parents were super dumb like he literally told them he liked children but they still let their daughter spend time with him is crazy💀💀💀

[@Simply_Luvhxlay]

I remember chatting with a stranger i met online who was double my age for half of this year. He always used to say im so mature for my age, he later confessed to me shamelessly and i blocked him. Dodged a bullet.

[@mrs._.yn_malfoy3610]

Unfortunately, I fell victim to it when I was a child. A few years have now passed and I've hardly spoken to anyone about it and every time someone says to me, "You're so grown up for your age," I feel sick and feel sick cold down my spine and it has done a lot of damage to me mentally and physically which is why I struggle with it every single day. In any case, what I want to say is to the adults, watch your children and what they do on their cell phones, iPads etc. and to the people who have the desire to do something like that, please get professional help. It's a crime to do that to someone and not cool.

[@littleann8138]

Im so sorry you went through that as well. It is never too late to speak up or out, even if just to loved ones or a therapist. Part of leaving their control can be recovery and growth and not feeling guilty or ashamed because it was never your fault.

[@CakeWalkAmesie]

Womp. Im sorry that that happened to you

[@Occison]

@@CakeWalkAmesieIm coming for you

[@AwhErzaOfficial]

​@@Occison Real

[@TommyKJgaming]

@@Occison okay the start would be not okay but did you read the rest of the comment

[@kaeshow]

i was groomed throighout the ages 7-12 and it was so bad that i literally thought i loved them. theyre really manipulative.. :(( tysm for spreading awareness

[@jing3rYu]

I'm sorry that happened ❤️ Hope you're feeling better now, stay safe)

[@cherryuu24]

sending lots of hugs and energy to you kae, i went through similar situation..except with family members, i do hope you able to be safe now and heal from it slowly

[@kaeshow]

@@jing3rYu Thankyou ❤️❤️‼️

[@kaeshow]

@@cherryuu24 Thank you i really appreciate it, im so sorry that happened to you also :(( i hope you feel better now /get better soon!

[@Psych2go]

I'm so sorry you had to go through such a traumatic experience. It's heartbreaking how manipulative people can be, especially when targeting vulnerable young individuals. :(

[@luisabolado]

“our relationship is special and others wouldnt understand” hits so hard wth how did i ever think that was normal😭😭 literally had all these checked off by a former teacher, this video is so needed and important. pls be cautious

[@heavyrainfall9586]

I have a friend who says he groomed someone. That’s because the other person said he did. My friend believed it to be true because it was his best friend who said such a thing. He sent me an unbelievable amount of screenshots, and I don’t believe he groomed the other person. This friend has never lied to me, that’s why I questioned him. Watching this video, I noticed: my friend did not do a single one of these. Him and his friend didn’t even talk all day, at most maybe 5 minutes at a time, 4-5 times a day (it was over discord, and she never wanted to call him). The only time they had hour long talks was when she was mad at him. He always told her to tell him if he did anything wrong, and she always said no. Even if it was something small, he’d apologize. Years into their friendship, she said he groomed her, and he just accepted it. Again, this guy’s never lied to me. Rereading everything he sent and spoke (we must have called for… maybe 4 hours just talking that one night), the only thing I noticed was he had a hard time picking up when she wanted to stop talking, so he’d keep going on about x subject. One day, she said it was so draining to be with him. It’s been… almost 2 years? He’s in alot better of a mindset, and has turned his life around, but I don’t believe he groomed her because he did ask for her approval for many things. I’m not trying to be vague, I just dont want this comment to be super absurdly long. I personally believe he was accused and just accepted it (until me and a couple of his other friends) told him he didn’t groom. The other person, I can only imagine her friends were on her side, but I was never friends with her to begin with, so I dont know her thoughts. On one hand, I am only getting one side of the story. On the other, again there was an absurd amount of screenshots, and I’m a slow reader, but it means I did see the talks they both had

[@FaunaFae-kz6zg]

I relate to this so much it makes me think you're talking about me when I'm reading this except I'm not he im a she, its hard bc u cant relly vent about being falsely accused for grooming bc of the hate from other ppl being suspicious of what you're saying, therefor i would like for no one to @ me on this pls.

[@greenliongirl07]

I think I understand. I was accused of being verbally abusive for refusing to loan someone $20. I said no at normal tone, but she said I yelled at her because she interpreted as yelling. She then demanded I tell her why (she was bad to borrow money and and not pay it back and it was a tight week for me) and that I give her the $20 to compensate emotional damage. She didn't get the money.

[@tallajc-mt2zr]

I do wanna know how old they both were and if they ever talked about their dating life

[@Certez2]

People like this restore my faith in humanity :3 I have a girlfriend thtabis a lot younger than me and we are e-dating but I am not grooming her, we truly love eachother

[@heythere4926]

HOW OLD WERE THEY? Just the fact of them talking and texting each other is a BIG red flag. Not to mention them not agreeing on what happened beween them.

[@pleasebekind7056]

It baffles me how schools don't have "keeping yourself safe" lessons. It should be a mandatory requirement like once a week Edit: omg "keeping yourself safe" is the OBJECTIVE of the lesson, it obviously isn't/wouldn't be called that 🙄 I don't know what it would be called but this is a serious video about signs of grooming. This is not the place for jokes.

[@JasonBernier-b5r]

Keeping yourself safe the amount of sexual abuse on your street should not surprise you people always make excuses.... why do you think everyone keeps talking about Epstien, Ellen and P Diddy it's rife In America and Britain just like racism!

[@pleasebekind7056]

@@JasonBernier-b5r I'm not surprised by the amount of it all, that's why I said I'm baffled schools don't have the lessons?

[@JasonBernier-b5r]

@@pleasebekind7056 They don't care if a drag queen can walk in your school when it clearly the drag queen normalising their behaviour if that's really important do you think the school cares if a stranger or family member molested or raped teachers and head teachers don't care!

[@TheChainTV]

Then how does Bullies grow in a school Eco System.. Bullys are essential for weaker kids to grow..believe me I was bullied in Middle School and High School.. it made me feel weak. So I went to learn self defense after in community College even then I did get mugged in college too out of 40$ on knife point...it's a scary world we live in...

[@pleasebekind7056]

@@TheChainTV I'm literally talking about keeping kids safe from grooming. Why's kids bullying kids now been brought up?

[@Bloomingz]

I was groomed by a 19 year old man at the age of 13. The worst experience I’ve ever been through, they act like your friend, they sprinkle in little compliments to slowly get you hooked. I rarely got attention from men, so the second this man came in and started complimenting me, of course I was smitten. He then started asking weirder, and more personal questions that’s just not appropriate to ask a child. I remember telling him, “what if my parents find out about this”, or, “my parents wouldn’t like this”.. and he’d just deny it and say my parents opinions didn’t matter. He’d influence me to do disgusting things. My mom eventually found out and cussed him out, he never responded and never faced the consequences. Hes done it to other children, I’ve met one of his other victims, a 15 year old boy.and I know he’s still out there doing it to more.

[@soyaliovee]

Noooo I hope he get arrested

[@yourlocalppgobsessed]

@@soyalioveeMe too

[@uncleweirdbeard86]

As someone that has been groomed before, I wish I had this knowledge back then. Now the damage has been done and all I can do is try to prevent it from happening to others. It does so much more damage than anyone may realize without having gone through it themselves. No amount of counseling or medication can undo it. Its up to the victim to be strong. If you too have been groomed or touched inappropriately and are reading this, then the fact you are reading this proves you are strong because you are still here as I am. You are not alone, so don't hesitate to speak out about what's going on, whether it be that you feel you are being groomed or already have been and are just trying to pick up the pieces of your shattered childhood. I know how you feel and even if those you go to may not know how it feels, they will understand you need help. Enjoy your childhood and innocents please. I never had the chance to

[@lylyssy]

I’m the same as you ♥

[@Marionetta-j2z]

Hey my friend is getting groomed by our teacher, he even has a wife but she says that it's fine with her but I slowly see her being obsessed with him. And he still hadn't even give a name to their relationship like he had sexual relationship with her but hadn't ever asked he to be his girlfriend or anything what should I do?

[@uncleweirdbeard86]

@@Marionetta-j2z You should report it to the authorities. If you are afraid, you can report it to the anonymous tip line

[@Dreamr4life1]

​@@Marionetta-j2z there's hotlines you can call and child protective services (they don't just deal with abuse within the family) I just googled pedophile hotlines and results came up

[@Dreamr4life1]

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. You never deserved any of that, no one deserves that, and I'm proud of you for staying strong and are still living 🫂

[@B1LL_w1thaW]

Idk why but some of those seems familiar

[@divyanshumishra4268]

stay safe, don't let harm get to you AND don't harm anyone either

[@Someone-or8tp]

It should be noted that grooming can also be done for non-sexual purposes (grooming a child to be like a parent's therapist or 'friend'- a shoulder to lean on and put their adult burdens on- for example), and the manipulation used in grooming can match up with other types of abuse and manipulation (I.e. special attention, random gift giving both match up with signs of love bombing).

[@ashsa07]

​@@Someone-or8tp woah.. that's also grooming?

[@Someone-or8tp]

@@ashsa07 not in the traditional sense, but the idea of introducing adult topics to a child who isn't old enough to fully understand or navigate them consensually, there's an undeniable overlap. Even if it's not sexual, it's still inappropriate, right? Like if one parent is venting about their problems with your other parent, or talking about issues with their personal life and friends, or (for example) offering you alcohol because you're "so mature, you're the only friend I can talk to about this, so what's the harm in a drink between friends? Oh, but don't tell your teachers I did this. It's a secret between us, okay?" You can't deny that these are all the characteristics of grooming.

[@ashsa07]

@@Someone-or8tp I really appreciate the time you took to explain everything so clearly, I understand it a lot better now. Thank you so much!!

[@omegaotaku1342]

3:03 I legit heard "redditors" instead of "predators"

[@teachmehowtofard2849]

Its not far off

[@Mag3.1415]

I mean either works

[@-Butter_Bread]

SAME 😭

[@teachmehowtofard2849]

@@-Butter_Bread is that the chop

[@-Butter_Bread]

@@teachmehowtofard2849 ?

[@Dragonmoon8526]

Let's not forget that while applicable, between an adult and minor. These same manipulative tactics can be used in age gap relationships, where one party is significantly younger. Just because they're 18 doesn't mean they can't be a victim.

[@lunatheemperor]

Thank you for pointing this out, I don't think enough attention is given to this issue when it's two adults. I was in an age gap relationship like this for 7 years.

[@Dance_poetry_nature]

This is very true. I was in my very early 20s and met a man in his late 40s. We ended up "dating" but I have always had a terrible, sinking feeling when I look back on that time. Even though I was an adult, I was in an extremely vulnerable space and that man took advantage of it. It makes me mad and sad all in one.

[@Dreamr4life1]

​@@Dance_poetry_nature thank you. After seeing your comment it got me thinking and realized that I too was groomed by 40 year old "friend" and former coworker while I was in my 20's. Looking back I remember all the times he bought and did things for me. He even went out of his way to take to meet my favorite celebrity, but obviously now it was so I can gain his trust. I had hit rock bottom that year. I was abused by my mom(back when I still lived with her) and mistreated at work to the point I fell down the rabbit hole of depression. I self harmed and it was visible. This is how he scoped me out because victims of abuse are easier to manipulate. It was when he started to get physical that I broke off the friendship. He used the "you threw me out like garbage" as a guilt tactic, but I was at least able to be strong enough to ignore that. I now know he was never a friend and he used me. Thank God I was never raped, but had I stayed with him longer it could have happened. Terrible people out there.

[@Dreamr4life1]

Yes and I hate how so many people romanticize it in books, mangas, doujins, yaoi, fan fictions, etc. It's not cute. While there are age gap relationships that are legit, they aren't common. The other age gap "relationships" are just grooming

[@dnkmmr69420]

@@Dance_poetry_nature then people think you are immune to grooming once you hit your 18th birthday

[@Homedude24]

thank you so much for making this. i hate how common it is that people are getting exposed for grooming, its sickening.

[@litepaw7]

It piss me off some people try to normalize it. Like some weirdo try to say it ok.

[@vicdog4440]

@@litepaw7 yea like creeps like andrew tate and that.

[@Psych2go]

You're welcome. It's deeply concerning how prevalent these issues are. If you ever need to talk or have questions about staying safe online, feel free to reach out. We might make more videos about it

[@aniboo8668]

Sometimes I think maybe that might be me in the future with how common it is for people to get exposed, it just feels like people are up and about just turning into monsters.

[@D3V1NE_ED1TZ]

It's absolutely disgusting how some older grown adults decide to prey on little kids.

[@Psych2go]

I completely get where you're coming from-it's awful and should never happen. But it also raises the question: what can we do as a society to better protect kids and prevent this from happening? It’s not just about being disgusted, but also about finding ways to make a difference. What are your thoughts?

[@suzettetomlinson967]

Please educate the children!!! I almost fell victim. Protect kids at all cost.

[@Simply_Luvhxlay]

I did too. These happen online aswell

[@FaunaFae-kz6zg]

coming from someone who was falsely accused of grooming, this hits hard to say the least, the person who did so gaslit me to the point where I accepted that I was a paedophile, when i wasnt, these are sensitive topics so I will not give my opinion. that is all.

[@Meanness_Scar]

I also had this kind of situation. Someone who was always saying different age forced me to write some things with them, saying like they are depressed but maybe writing something I'm scared of can help. Also saying that friends always say they love each other so I must say I love them and things like saying they are worried when I don't talk so I must talk even if they don't reply. And of course sending lots of adult drawings while knowing I'm scared of adult things and then also sending drawings of my fave characters. Soon people started saying that I'm bad that I'm evil and, well, you can guess what. I was told that person sent them the screenshots of something like me saying "I love you" but without their whole forcing me to say it. Or said that I asked them to draw scary things. I didn't know they really did that, I asked them and they kept saying people are just jealous, then suddenly blocked me and I was scared because I thought they may die as they always mentioned it, like saying they may, well, end their life if I won't do what they tell me to do. They always told me they are just a bit younger than me but always used the phrase "I'm a baby". Something like "I don't understand anything, I'm just a baby". When I got worried after they blocked me people just kept saying it's good for them that they blocked me. Few years later some people helped me realise that I was probably gaslit. But there were people who said they know that person was the abuser but still I'm bad for doing what they told me to do. Then this person suddenly messaged me again saying they may forgive me but I must write scary things with them. When I told them I must know they are adult before talking with them just for safety they blocked me again and lots of random people messaged me saying I'm a groomer, people started to block me, I got banned from few servers. Soon later I joined one server and just normally talked with many people, one person was saying they are a child but when I asked if I can help with homework they always refused and often started talking about things not suitable for children. When I was worried about it people just brushed it off and then suddenly I got banned. And again, lots of "groomer" messages. But this person kept saying that others are jealous of our friendship and things like "You can admire me in secret" that was creepy. And suddenly someone who said they are 17 started writing really adult things to me and almost demanding to reply in the same way. When I explained I'm scared they said that they were told to do it to get proofs that I'm a, well, you know. But when they realised that I'm scared and tried to instead explain people I'm not evil, they lost contact with people who send them. Of course, the person who send them was the "admire in secret" person. Later this sent person said they have 14th birthday. So, someone sent them to an adult, telling them to write adult things and lie about their age to pretend to be "legal" so an adult may take a bite and write something scary while they were like 13 and it was all to find "proofs" to frame someone to be worse than a murderer. It scares me to think someone really used a child to do it, either really thinking I'm evil and sending a child while thinking I may do something worse than death to them or knowing I would never do anything like it and making a huge plot using a child only to fabricate "proofs" to accuse me for the worst thing in the world. Even up until today I sometimes get messages like "Groomer", "I know what you did to X" (X being the first person mentioned) and now when I want to tell a friend I like them I always say "I like you in a safe, friendly way, without any bad intentions" to just make sure it won't be misunderstood or used against me. For many years I wanted to erase myself because I believed I may accidentally hurt someone without realising it. I don't think about adult things and I know I sometimes accidentally may joke about something normal and people may find a different meaning. Or I say something normal for me and people laugh and I just need someone to explain me that it can have a different meaning. So I'm always scared I may say something like "I like you, you are great" and someone may think I'm trying to court them. Once one older than me person was saying they are so bad, so ugly and so on and after I told they "You are great" I was accused for love bombing. I also always deeply look into anything I watch or read before recommending it to anyone because I'm scared that maybe, just maybe, there is even one nanoscond not good for kids and people would think I'm sending it with bad intentions. Even if the person is older than me. So in the end I'm scared of everyone, myself included, the whole world itself. I'm also feeling guilty when I talk about the historical person I admire and someone jokes I may like him too much because I think it would be disrespectful and I also feel really scared since my current age is higher than the age he died at, even if he was like two years younger than I am now when he died. Even if someone is a lot older I'm still scared I may say something bad without realising it. Even after many people explained I was the victim in the mentioned case I just keep thinking about people shifting the blame on the younger victims and I just feel like that even my existence is wrong and people who support me are just kind to me but maybe they are wrong. I feel like it's wrong for me to even exist.

[@littleann8138]

Im sorry that happened to you. Have you considered therapy to unpack how that impacted you and what happened in the situation?

[@littleann8138]

@@Meanness_Scarplease consider therapy to have a proffessional help you unpack how this impacted you. KZbin comment section cannot provide the level of support and knowledge that could help you

[@Meanness_Scar]

@@littleann8138 I'm sorry

[@aidenimome]

can you tell me the age gap between you and the accuser? im just curious

[@Quokkababygirlfanfics]

My cousin (male) got groomed when he was a toddler. He had babysitters and those babysitters would shower him and when they would they literally would KISS him on the LIPS. He's now an adult and i still don't think that he realises what happened was wrong because he talks about it likes its nothing and just laughs at it. I find it so sad how he was so used to so many different female babysitters kissing him on the lips it was normal for him. And reminder most of those babysitters were in their LATE TWENTIES and some even MARRIED🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮

[@Quokkababygirlfanfics]

@@keckingrabbit354 We’re Mexican, sometimes people do it to their babies which is pretty normal, but they wouldn’t do it in that innocent way, my cousin said that they would so it VERY often, and most of the time it was only when they would bathe him

[@Ash-x9m]

@@Quokkababygirlfanfics Womp Womp

[@cazyrito]

I’m happy this video is here. As someone who was groomed, it truly is hard to tell if you’re being groomed without being taught what grooming is. I hope this video helps save many lives from this type of trauma. It truly is a difficult thing to go through and recover from.

[@Liam-T-M]

Wow I'm 11 and I didn't know what grooming was thank you for the info!

[@LeonAlkoholik67]

Yea that term is getting more commonly known these days. It's also not too uncommon, that big content creators (especially those that make children related content) abuse their position and do this to their own fans, privately. I think around 3-5 (max) content creators I used to watch in my childhood, are p€dos, which can come to light even after many years, sometimes.

[@pearltem5826]

Why are you 11 and on the internet, please don't let out your age like that

[@callumtee1534]

@@pearltem5826 yes, but well at least it helped

[@Psych2go]

Very important topic to know! I'm glad this video can help you.

[@thecarnew5334]

@@pearltem5826it’s true. Although it’s the same for me. Of course, I tried to make a “but actually” but everything sounded creepy, especially in the context of this video.

[@snowwhite-wk1ny]

I think i remember one time when i was being groomed and i didn't even realize it until years later, thankfully this video made me realize that i was groomed when i was younger. I was groomed when i was maybe 5 or 6? Somewhere near that age, I don't really remember since I never thought of it as a big impact to my mental health. And ever since then, my mind was corrupted with inappropriate stuff that involved sex. I faintly remember it but, it still lingers in my mind because i had a bad feeling about it but still went along because the groomer was normalizing it for me. I've tried to make my mental health better by pushing away any inappropriate thoughts and stop any inappropriate actions the groomer normalized in my mind for maybe months and even a year. It's working and now my mental health is a lot better. And btw, this all happened online too. I also remember a time online where i could've got groomed but, i was older, like 8 or 9? And took my older sister's advice about not to look for love at a young age. I also luckily, avoided being groomed because a person defended me from my faint memory. But, then again i don't think it was a groomer, just a online dater because when i told them about my age they were shocked about it. I give my thanks to my older sister and that person for caring about my well-being and in case if it was actually a groomer instead of an online dater.

[@tilly-the-silly-frilly]

It’s so sad that people have downgraded in such a manner that videos like these need to be made. Thank you for spreading this information

[@TR_wsr1]

Dear lord, all of these match. I made many adult friends, and many took advantage of me. The trying to spend alone time, trying to talk about topics related to s** and telling me that he was only trying to educate me, trying to build trust with me, the excessive touching which he tried to justify saying "people do this in many cultures as a sign of affection", then trying to make me think I should keep my involvement with him secret, as his wife and my parents everyone will misunderstand, everyone is too " judgemental", the constant gift giving to make me feel indebted and make me let my guard down, even though I didn’t want to most of the time, and always telling me I should go to him whenever I have issues I need advice on, And most importantly When I noticed how excessive he was being as he harassed me, he was saying that he thought I was mature. Basically, trying to make me think that since I'm more mature compared to everyone my age, I should do things he wants to make me do. Everyone reading this, please stay safe. I only came to the chilling realization when he was actively trying to do s**** harassment, and even then I doubted and blamed myself for days. I am so traumatised I struggle to live normally as I used to. I'm completely shattered mentally. Everyone please be safe, and if you are a parent, be a trustable adult to your child. Otherwise they'll hide things from you and eventually end up in serious situations.

[@OtterSkull]

Sorry you had to go through this, hope you're doing better now :)

[@TR_wsr1]

​@@OtterSkull Thank you, and if you could, please read the comment now as I had to edit it since I couldn’t finish writing everything due to keyboard issues.

[@Dance_poetry_nature]

I am so sorry that you went through that.

[@OtterSkull]

@@TR_wsr1 Thanks, I read your edit, just know that none of it was your fault and feel free to talk to someone that is close to you and that you trust. Please consider going to therapy, it will help. Stay safe and have a nice day!

[@TR_wsr1]

@@OtterSkull thanks for your kind words!

[@nm3ow]

me watching this and realizing that one online adult "friend" wasnt just being nice: 😱

[@Ur_local-Gir]

Thank you so much for explaining, and being my comfort channel for 3 years

[@raheemahnitoto3099]

There’s one misrepresentation in this video. According to psychiatrist, including Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a lead expert on narcissism, and law enforcement, grooming can also be done to adults. This video is really important because it focuses on grooming on children as an issue but it should say that grooming could be done on anyone, but the focus today would be on what grooming looks like with children. The incomplete definition set up adults who are victims of grooming to be invalidated. That being said, it would also be cool if you guys could do a video on what it looks like for adult victims.

[@juanpaologalua5869]

adults groomed by adults? lol

[@raheemahnitoto3099]

Before anyone replies, I just want to emphasize that this video is very important and should not be muddied with including adult grooming It just should make sure the definition at the beginning is complete so there isn’t a misunderstanding.

[@juanpaologalua5869]

@@raheemahnitoto3099 adults cannot never be groomed because that's already consensual. only 18 yrs and below fits the definition of being groomed or minors.

[@chaoticcow4357]

​@@juanpaologalua5869 thats not funny. it frequently happens. grooming is manipulation. you being an adult doesnt mean you wont feel pride or pressure when another adult love bombs you. it doesnt mean you wont break rules (typically laws) when another adult tells you to. it doesnt mean you wont be told to keep a toxic relationship a secret because an adult tells you to. it doesnt mean you wont have issues saying no when another adult pressures you. these things happen all the time. alot of adults have reported being pressured into activities by these groomers. whats crappy is, unlike with children, they cant do much anything about it in the ways of law.

[@raheemahnitoto3099]

@@juanpaologalua5869 this is a misunderstanding that I’m talking about. Adults can be coerced my grooming. It happens a lot in cults. If you look at the strict definition of grooming, it states that. I am quoting information from psychology and law enforcement. Not taking them into consideration, causes more harm.

[@lunasquib]

Babes this was a year too late but thanks 🥰

[@alex_slays331]

damn this is funny but i’m still real sorry for u ❤❤ u got this

[@Yumekii334]

I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you get the justice you deserve.❤❤ Keep going babes 🫂

[@swagubirk]

FR same for me

[@arpanarastogi8756]

3 years for me

[@rocketvybe]

@@arpanarastogi8756 I stopped it before it got too far, it still bothers me but now I can help others.

[@R.T.R._1992]

TYSM! I've been looking for "how to" stuff for telling your parents you think this might be happening but it's always "how to tell if *YOUR KID* is being groomed" OMG!!!

[@DaDMonDCB]

I hate the world. I hate that this is a thing that even can happen. I was accused of even a *hint* of grooming activity while I was volunteering at a church. And once I realized that was what they were concerned about, I felt so betrayed and upset. ...then later in life, the Smash Bros shit happened, and a few years after that, I found out one of my cousins *was* being groomed by a priest in his community. I hate it all. I hate this world.

[@DaDMonDCB]

Just to make sure to cut off anyone wondering, even though my comments don't normally get answered; I used to volunteer at a church. Didn't even match my faith, but it was the first place I stumbled into after a panic attack, and they welcomed me into their College Age program, and then as a mentor for the Youth. I used to help set up drinks, then started bringing my WiiU and letting the kids do 8 player Smash before the service started, and I'd help the pastors and stuff. One girl, who mighta been a freshmen at her oldest, expressed upset at going on a field trip without being with her friends, some grouping related thing. I told her it'd be good for her to make new friends and give it a shot; new experiences and all that. When she was still upset, I gave her my phone number and said to text me if she ever wanted to vent or give someone an ear, and I'd see it and try to reply even though I work/do school as well. I then warned her group leader about her seeming upset about being lonely, and then I got talked *at* by like 4 different other adults that what I did was questionable at best, and potentially grooming. Ignoring none of these signs at all being on the table, or how open I was about just trying to do the right thing, I couldn't have been any more hurt once the pieces got into place. As if I would prey on someone young enough to be my baby sister, particularly when I already had folks in my age bracket that I was trying to date. ..... and then in later years, I'd learn just how serious the community need be to keep any sort of adult-kid reaction to an absolute minimum, and how frailly small that line is. Let alone my Aunt telling us that my special-needs nephew had been getting inappropriate messages sent to him by his own minister, and being told to keep quiet about it by the bastard. As hurt as I felt that the possibility of me doing such a horrifyingly wrong thing could EVER come up in anyone's mind, the realization that there are folk who DO commit such atrocities felt even worse. I hate this world.

[@eshaanreza832]

Did the KKK hillbilly community blame a drag queen and protect the pedophile priest?

[@gashkage22]

Your right bad people live in this world, you shouldn’t hate the world, hate the crocked individuals. But just as I have free will to like this world, you too have the free will to hate this world too. We are all beings which have dark and light with in ourselves the true test in life is which side you choose follow and no path is easy. Never let others dictate how you should live your life, being friends with a child isn’t wrong, being supportive isn’t wrong either. People who manipulate good traits are evil. Ditch that church or become spiritual, there are good people amongst the dark world.

[@Flippylover_69]

The church is a really common grooming spot, given how much leaders and authority figures are glorified there. People also bring their children there frequently, and unfortunately wherever kids are is usually where the creeps will be too. That being said though, monsters lurk everywhere, it’s impossible to escape them. It’s sad but true.

[@xaoi_ling]

this is so bad what happend to the world i miss 2017 but yeah what happend

[@authurstretchygreenthing8464]

I think it's perfectly fine to have adults for friends if you're a kid, especially if they're helpful and supportive. But if there's one that starts acting like this, and you're either the parent or one of the more responsible adult friends seeing these behaviors, know what to say and who to call. Prioritize the safety of that child, even if they get mad at you for taking away their creepy "friend."

[@PancakeRights]

Yeah I agree! Children may not understand but they will in the future. It's about explaining it to them.

[@alexisgarcia1344]

Having an adult as a "friend"?! Children and adults can not be friends.(As defined a mutual, equal respect and exchange within a relationship) Adults play roles in children's lives, especially if they aren't their parent, like teacher, coach, pastor, youth group leader, aunt, uncle, etc. A friend signifies a mutual respect and bond for the other person. A role is a part that is played for a specific purpose; to teach, to coach, to guide, etc. Children under the age of 18 are unaware of these nuanced definitions. (Especially, teenagers that are wanting independence and connection to their family, while being hormonal) Children learn about friendships from engaging with other children that are equal in age, interest, and are learning how to relate to people outside of their family unit. Through these experiences, children are learning how to relate to people their own age, with a few adults guiding them along the way. This is why children and adults can't be friends. Adults hold too much power over the child, and it's an imbalance of power.

[@hollysister2005]

​@@alexisgarcia1344"This is why adults and children can't be friends, Adults hold too much power over the children" ok so even an "adult" just passed 18th birthday can't be friends with older teens(16-17)? a person who is just in adulthood can't have friendship with teens that are 16-17? I don't think an 18 year old who is new to adulthood will hold too much power over the teens.

[@CoffeeRobin-cs1nf]

@@alexisgarcia1344 Oh yes because obviosuly when it's your 18th birthday you suddenly gain a bunch of knowledge about relationships

[@alexisgarcia1344]

@CoffeeRobin-cs1nf No one is saying 18 year olds know all about relationships. They are still learning to navigate life. An adult doesn't take an 18 year old very seriously. Their inexperience is evident to a healthy adult.

[@leyyaballim1458]

This is absolutely disgusting that people do this to innocent children May all those who are victims find help and peace and we love you❤

[@Alice_fpelovesoliver]

Fact l’m seven and grooming happen to me in internet..

[@mekeda2482]

Nooo i hope you are doing well ​@Alice_fpelovesoliver

[@smollsquishytaeil]

This is scary, but I'm glad that they made this video

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the love and support!

[@autisticwoman665]

As a person who got groomed online more than once, I'm glad people put awareness to this...This is a serious issue that people sadly overlooked at it and blame the victims for this, heck, this subject is mocked at! Thank you so much for this video, and I hope people who are experiencing the same thing are doing well. Remember, none of this is your fault, you're a minor/you were a minor. Innocent and pure❤. The one who should be ashamed is the groomer herself/himself!

[@autisticwoman665]

@Dessaysdesu grooming is an adult who force a child to do not so family-friendly stuffs (aka sensual stuffs) How that works? It's simple, an adult who talk to the child and send something (like his or her body) is an exemple of grooming and all of that. Grooming is like p€d0ph/lia but online.

[@BioLumiiEscence]

i got touched today, by my cousin's father, he was outside with me, alone. he brought me into a van, (we were in the backyard,) he picked me up, on his lap. then i noticed something was wrong. he kissed me on the cheek, all the way up to my lip. then he touched my girl spot. my pants were still on, i pushed him, tried to escape, cried, he finally let me out. i layed down after. he layed next to me without asking. i had enough. i told him i was going to sleep with my cousin, he was drunk and didn't think i would tell, so he let me. i ran, grabbed my ipad, she conforted me. i was crying so hard, we played roblox together and as far as i'm concered is she might be going through this too. she sounded 100% honest when she told me she never heard of her father doing such thing. i was glad to hear she was ok, i asked if she's ever been in a situation with p3doph1les. she said no, and it made me feel worse. i've been targeted since i was 9, I'm 11 now, ik it's not smart to say my age publicly, but i feel safe here ;(

[@SuperCatCamper]

Oh no!!! 🤓🤓

[@YourLackingAce]

I wish my younger self would've known this.. This is so important to learn the warning signs!! Trust your gut!

[@maytalacedo2942]

What's really sad is this happened at the golden age of Hollywood and child actors and actresses especially the 1930s-2000s. Their autobiography and documentary about this saids it all.

[@whyamihere_7604]

I needed this when I was younger, I'm happy people can see this video now to avoid what I and so many others have gone through. Thank you for this.

[@ShawnRavenfire]

This is all good information, but I think it's worth pointing out that in cases where a young person has seriously oppressive parents, and any person trying to be helpful might hit a few of those checkmarks incidentally.

[@jayc7249]

Indeed, I think they said something of that extent at the start But indeed, strict, restrictive parents can drive the child away and creates the perfect opportunity for 'safe heaven' older people/adults

[@HawkeyeVoid]

You may want to be mindful about how “oppressive parents” is defined. That term gets thrown around a lot, and like you said, does lead to situations where others can justify these types of behaviors.

[@Johnnysmithy24]

“Your parents are oppressive” is exactly what a groomer would say

[@ShawnRavenfire]

@@HawkeyeVoid True, but I think it comes down to a you-know-it-when-you-see-it kind of situation. Like someone from CPS pulling children away from an abusive home, for example, could technically be considered "not respecting the parents boundaries."

[@kristen8481]

show this vid to drakes girlfriends

[@happytherabbit6927]

NAH BRO NAH😭💀

[@Basssith]

NAWWWW Under rated btw

[@jessicavazquez6082]

Lol

[@Kyoya-Pls-Ejaculate-on-my-face]

STOP

[@istealgender1758]

NOOOO YOUR SO BAD FOR THISSSSSSSSSS

[@loafyee]

i met this one older person online; and she always gave my excessive gifts, and allowed stuff my parents forbid. most of her friends were minors, and i was the younger ones. she kept me because “i was mature,”(unlike my other friend, who im still friends with.) i left her group, because i kept it a secret from my family. “its our secret” is something i heard from her a lot. i don’t know if this proves if i have gotten groomed, but i hope anyone who has heals properly!

[@sadcow93]

What’s sad is I always knew I had been groomed as a teenager but it took til I was 30 for my brain to really accept it. It’s like I told myself what had happened but my brain wouldn’t listen. It’s sad what the body does to protect itself. You feel so special and loved, then you age out and get tossed aside. It really fucks with your head and the idea of love, they also have you convinced it was your idea to initiate these things. Btw I am in a much healthier place now as an adult and therapy helps. Videos like this are triggering as hell but it’s also comforting in a weird way. Thank you for making this and sharing the info

[@griceldabarriga5797]

So when I was 8, my dad’s friend came over for thanksgiving, he came inside and me and my mom were sitting at the table. I didn’t really trust him and mom didn’t either.. he give me a shoulder massage.. my mom noticed that I looked really uncomfortable with that, even my dog started barking at him. He stop when my dog barked and my dad walked in and asked him what happened, he said my dog barked at him for no reason. Then he went into the garage with my dad, my mom looked at me and told me “if your uncomfortable with that, say something about it.” I nodded and I still don’t trust him to this day.

[@PeterSpimpson3456]

I read this as 7 warning signs of gooning. No regrets.

[@AcaiMations]

NAUUR 💀

[@riceenjoyer35]

seriously me too😭

[@kuroyuuep]

"You act more mature compare to kids your age." It's sad for the fact that alot of people are being groomed without noticing it... Mostly minors, because they want to shale their young minds, litle by little...

[@vex8641]

I had a vrchat relationship with a guy who i only dated because i felt bad for him. I knew something was off from the beginning, since he was always trying to pull me away from my friends, touching my avatar (which ik isnt real, L me but still) and would always treat me with more priority with his friends. So glad we broke up, since we were 4 years apart and he had a literal job, while I was still a kid. He always talked to me about literally going to live with him, which was an immediate red flag. Im really thankful theres people like your channel that point this stuff out, otherwise others would end up like my dumbass.

[@twister107]

Thank you for covering this. I’ve seen people throw this around simply because they weren’t happy in a relationship. Accusations of such matter are very serious and can ruin an individuals life whether they are innocent or not.

[@YaYa-hq9kt]

Thank you so much. I have a friend who is under 15 and talks to people over the age of 20 explicitly. I've been doing my best to get them to block these people and not talk to them. It's a bit of a fight because they're so desperate for attention and they're hypersexual. Being over 18 myself, I refuse to address that with a 100 foot pole- but I just try to be there and check in with them and filter who they let into their life so they don't get hurt. They don't believe they're being groomed even though I've given them some signs and thinks its their fault for it and I want them to know it's not their fault and for them to get help for this. It's not easy and I'm sure a lot of kids are targets of grooming (I was at some point, but my parents forced me to give up my phone for a long time and I was scared of getting in trouble, so I didn't do it again-) Thanks again. I'm gonna send them this video and I really hope this helps..

[@ruu.q]

@@YaYa-hq9kt same thing is happening w my friend too, she's literally dating an 18 y/o when she's 15-16, I told her to stop but shes also too hypers . xual and desperate for attention

[@itzpilly]

I was groomed before. I was too young to even know what it was. I used to online date on roblox when i was much younger, like 9. And I found this friend who I seemed to like- A lot! We were the best of friends, and then he just asked me if we could be a couple. Knowing my brain at the time, I wasn't really smart, so I said "Ok" He was kind of clingy, and whenever I saw someone ask about the relationship we had, he would just shrug them off. We always had this game we played where you would kill noobs and they would be different sizes, or in different maps. I loved that game. That's where we met as well. He was very nice meeting me and even accepted some few things I thought was embarrassing! But as I grew a bit older, I realized something I was up, "Hold up, something isn't right here." After that we started to argue when I felt more and more uncomfortable with him, before we broke up. I don't know what hes doing at the moment, but I hope he doesn't ever prey on children again. 🖕

[@aniashie]

When I turned 13, I got into a relationship with a 15-16 year old. I don’t know if my experience counts as grooming (it was online btw) but he was a compulsive liar, manipulating me to feel empathy for him, making up stories about his life that would get him empathy from others especially little children. Eventually, down the line, I don’t know if he also lied about this but he pretend to fake su1c1de and on an online app, I could only ping him and hope he’d respond. That’s how I started dating him, I felt so bad for him. Our relationship was a lie, a week later, he broke up with me then I developed feelings. Then he threatened to doxx my friends and me. I was so scared, so fucking scared. I was so scared he’d come hurt me, kill me, doxx me, or hunt me. Then I learned, he wanted to become my boyfriend so he could use me for his personal gain. I think he wanted me to kms. He’s 18 now. I’m still recovering. I’m so glad my situation didn’t get worse.

[@aniashie]

@tthfhhgheeee he groomed (to a more accurate definition of it) my friend too so DARN HIM!

[@STAYFRESHBABY]

This is why I like being alone, I have major trust issues with people.

[@Leftiescrewdriver30]

It makes sense because people are so f&cked these days.. Keep your sanity and dignity

[@bouncy372]

I agree unfortunately

[@BFTSHP]

same dude (unless I can just trust my friends only)

[@PolishGod1234]

I prefer to be alone too, but not because of any grooming - people just bore me

[@amiable_monster]

Same, buddy. I wish my paranoia was irrational in a "aliens Will Kidnap me" not the "i can be easily manipulated" way. Because last one holds some truth

[@Shmabs_theoutdoorcat]

I don’t think I’ve ever experienced grooming, but I, along with many other people appreciate this video. Thank you for informing us about the facts to keep safe and know when grooming is happening!

[@inquisitiveartist8035]

I love this example in the beginning where she's basically talking about when you're accusing someone of being a groomer without context, you're being an extreme disservice to the actual victims out there who have been actually groomed. I used to be friends with a kid whom I used to look up to until he made a video of him calling a guy out for being a predator with no evidence nor context, so that kid's casually a clout chaser and being the absolute worst disservice of all the victims who have been sexually hurt and groomed, and that's when I lost respect for the kid for making that terrible video (and the video is still up, unfortunately). And nowadays, on social media people are just now posting videos that everything is grooming, everything is this or that. I love Psych2Go's video for mentioning this in the video.

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Excessive secrecy 1:32 2). Unexplained gifts 2:07 3). Special treatment or attention 2:30 4). Spending time alone 2:55 5). Allowing forbidden things 3:23 6). Excessive physical touching 4:03 7). Minimizing concerns 4:42 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@GalacticCritter]

Is it bad that my stepdad did all of this to me before my mom broke up with him?

[@PhnxI3]

Seeing videos like these and knowing there’s a need for videos like these is absolutely heartbreaking. I was lucky as a child because for some reason I was veryyyyy aware of stranger danger and stayed the hell away from from older people especially men.

[@ducksushi2427]

I.... when I was a kid, I used to go to a chess class run by an elderly man. He used to hide me from his wife, as the classes were at his home and do hideous stuff with.. you know.... And I wasn't the only one. Many other boys of that class. It left an emotional scar . I did eventually leave that class, but I didn't tell anyone except after watching videos like yours... I have told some close friends and my tution teacher. I have since received comfort.... ...thank you.

[@baldiv2.0]

HOW AM I NOW JUST SEEING THIS, I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH, THANK YOU 😭🙏🏽

[@ilivory974]

I wish people would also acknowledge the fact that you can be groomed by people who are the same age as you.

[@jenivettebigham7060]

Ty for this!!!!! We all need to educate ourselves and our children. You guys are the best

[@Psych2go]

You’re welcome.

[@samsh1945]

It's normal for a child to keep secrets from their parents. Its NOT normal for another adult to help a child keep secrets from their parents. NO MATTER HOW HARMLESS THE SECRET SEEMS!

[@minermole101]

Especially considering how even within different nerd/geek communities and fandoms this frequently occurs in, it's definitely an important topic and glad Psych2Go finally made a video on this topic.

[@COMICALWEIRDO0]

1:02 "accusing somone of grooming holds serious consequences." Twitter users:

[@aidenimome]

fr

[@shaledrawn]

This happened to me and I told my family, they all victim blamed and called me a liar. Now my whole family hates me ;-;

[@apexhacker346]

"Say Drake I heard you like em young..." - Kendrick Lamar

[@YTuser854]

2:30 wow that is one of the most disturbing things ive seen recently

[@isolatemylove]

im a minor, I had been groomed at 7 by my cousin brother ( he was 16 at the time ), thank u for educating me about this and I really appreciate you talked about this, I have not been in contact with him for 3 years now.

[@gulagbatman1318]

Thanks for talking about these difficult subjects. It's definitely helpful. ❤

[@Psych2go]

Glad this helps!! :) We hope more people will benefit from this video and this information keeps more people safe.

[@ball.jointed.darling]

it's so important to remember that the relationship doesnt have to be sexual or romantic for it to be grooming

[@Wintergatanaddict]

The fact i just turned 14 and I show a few of these traits to a friend thats OLDER THAN ME is scary wtf

[@melanatedbeauty8939]

Yay her voice is back I love her sm thanks for the video guys!💕

[@Fandomerr]

Thank you for posting this video, these have educated me a lot.

[@Psych2go]

Glad this helps!! :) We hope more people will benefit from this video and this information keeps more people safe.

[@Fandomerr]

@@Psych2go Yes:) I know lots of people at my school have hard home lives and I’m trying to help:)

[@AndiWolfMan077]

I wish I watched this 4 years ago when I was 14 and I probably would have realised what that 19 year old man was trying to do sooner instead of it being 3 years.

[@hi_im_N_hello]

this guy is my literally my therapist and mental doctor in the internet, i mean literally 🤣

[@Alice_09-7]

I'm young, thank u for this warning, this is why im very shy towards others

[@ItzNadar]

this gets me a bit concerned knowing that a school staff from my school has 6 of these signs to me and i don't know if i should be concerned?

[@iamhere697]

I don't know you or this person, but if you are concerned you should mention this to a responsible individual that you trust. Just my opinion. Stay safe.

[@metaphysicalfreediver]

run

[@sk8kitty]

This one hit a little too close to home

[@EquinoxWasTaken]

something i feel like i should mention is intimidation for example, the groomer may convince the victim that bad stuff will happen if they leave or ghost them (like saying can find you)

[@Frying_pan652]

This happened to me way too many times and it ended up SO badly when i was 12

[@aidenimome]

explain?

[@carterfaust5236]

​@@aidenimomethey don't have to