Purity, Husband Losing His Faith, Toxic Coworker⎮ ADVICE Q&A

[@cheyannehall639]

For situation #2 I really don't think that marriage is the answer. Marriage would be a temporary fix to the sexual temptations; however, it won't fix any underlying issues. There needs to boundaries and a level of respect for both of them to care about their partners purity. Rushing into marriage just to have sex will only cause more problems down the road. If lust is leading you through life, it will just lead you into deeper sins later on down the road.

[@lifewithcecile6152]

Amen sister

[@veronicaphiri7432]

Fantastic response! Marriage wont solve, it will simply mask the issue.

[@briannaschatz2960]

woah! Super wise!

[@angelavanoosten1]

soo true

[@bluebutterfly288]

If there is trouble with purity, there are other prinicples and priorities that aren't there. They will only become more obvious and troublesome in marriage.

[@mygeetube]

#1: I absolutely tried to change my husband and grow his faith for him. Obviously didn't work, and he was really only going through the motions bc he knew it was important to me. I changed my method, stopped trying to change him, and focused on MY relationship with God. I prayed for him privately, and never stopped. The Bible says so so so many times, you reap what you sow. And it's so true. 1-1.5 years later, he now asks me if we want to go to church 🙏 He had to want it for himself for it to really mean anything to his heart.

[@amandabear328]

This is so inspiring and encouraging. Thank you!🙏🏾♥️

[@KizNic]

Yeah this is so true especially your last sentence. He has to want it for himself and you have to trust that God's got him. All you can do is pray and be patient. The way you described it reminds me of the movie War Room... same thing happened in that film where the wife had to pray and trust God with her husband.

[@emiliamontalbano3643]

So wonderful to hear testimonies like this. So often we hear about how dangerous being unequally yoked in marriage is, which has been so so discouraging to hear. Thank you for sharing. Yes, being unequally yoked can be dangerous but I truly believe in some circumstances for some people, we are brought together with someone who doesn’t know God for His greater purpose, so they can see His light, too 💗

[@KizNic]

Yup @@emiliamontalbano3643 . Once God sends you there, and He has to send you there, it can apply in that sense. But of course it is not for us to go marry someone who is unequally yoked just to change him or help him see the light. Most of the times God does not God call us to that. This is different, however, from inviting and bringing someone you may like (who may not know the Lord) to church. You are not committed to this person, it's not your responsibility to ensure he accepts God but, because you care about him, you want the best so you invite him to church. (Just making this practical). I hope though that you are no longer discouraged by the verse. Not being unequally yoked is not meant to discourage but to protect and guide us. It's not a form of happiness God is taking away from us, it is Him ensuring joy.

[@KizNic]

​(Following on from my comment above) So yes, it is dangerous if you are unequally yoked. However! God is redeeming and loving. If you do end up in a relationship (friendship or marriage) that is unequally yoked, God will tell you what to do. You may end up unequally yoked in different ways too. Some people have been deceived (I am thankful for sight). Some didn't even know about unequal yoking (so I am thankful for knowing and understanding the Word). Some have been tempted (I am thankful for self-control). And even within the Church you can be unequally yoked - God has a certain person in mind for you and you just have a relationship with another (I thank God for prophetic capacity). But whatever the way, willingly or unknowingly, and whatever the type of relationship, friendship or marriage, whatever the stage of the relationship, together for 2 months or for 10 years, God guides you. We just have to do our part and not set ourselves up for it. We obey and trust, and God guides and protects.

[@milkbread5036]

I really really appreciate these open conversations as Christians WITHOUT Judgement but trying to understand each other and help each other out like the Bible says to bring each other up and bear one another's burdens :)

[@lovesalt8613]

yeessss!!! i agree :)

[@Thegracefilledjourney]

For situation 2: I have heard this from Chad and Tori; also remember that the devil will do everything in his power to get you two into bed before marriage, and then everything to get you out of bed and separate you when you are married. So I would definitely work on your spiritual relationships separately. And like Kian said, don’t ever be alone together if that’s what tempts you too. The Bible says to FLEEEEE from temptation!!! Hope you both get through this!! 🤍🤍🤍

[@username25256]

Being alone together is a temptation in itself. It’s not right and should not happen.

[@angelavanoosten1]

yessss

[@melissarecarte8316]

For solution #2! My boyfriend and I struggled with sexual sin and would fall every single weekend (we did not sleep together). It was really weighing heavy on our hearts and we knew something had to be done. We read an awesome article about fasting from one another. We decided we would do a two week fast to refocus on the Lord and to pray for his guidance. It was LIFE CHANGING and 100% worth it. Our hearts are now set on honoring him through purity. RESISTING sexual temptation should push us to marriage, but constantly falling to it should make us STOP and think if this is what the Lord truly wants for us. It is difficult but worth it to honor the Lord!

[@ellie10may12]

Did you drink water?? Or eat at night? x

[@melissarecarte8316]

@@ellie10may12 hi! It was a fast from each other! We didn’t communicate or see one another. We took the time to focus on our own personal relationships with the Lord and asked for true repentance and guidance.

[@ughnotuagainughnotuagain4275]

I love the " we did not sleep together" because I know what that means and I'm glad you mentioned that! Its not just sexual intercourse that courses you to sin. Sexual acts and even sexual thoughts lead to soul ties. Had to find that one out the hard way, but won't He do it!

[@cristinadiaz984]

“That’s in proverbs somewhere” -me trying to quote the Bible 😂

[@DaniBritt]

Situation #5 Girl, I’m literally in that same situation, I was seeing this guy that was so confusing, and ultimately playing with my emotions. Didn’t have peace about it whatsoever. I asked God to take him out of my life, and he ended up revealing his true colors to me, and it made my decision so incredibly easy and clear for me to cut things off immediately. I confronted him about everything, told him I needed to move on with my life, asked God for forgiveness for walking down a dark path with him. I also prayed that he removes any attachment to this person, and he has completely. He has given me this peace in my heart these past few weeks that I can’t even understand. So in conclusion, I would cut off this person completely, maybe even consider moving jobs if possible, and truly asking the Lord to remove any attraction to this person, because He can do anything if you trust Him! God bless you girl, never stop trusting the Lord!

[@kyleg4453]

1. "Dear doubting believer: Your assurance is not based on your hold of Christ but on His hold of you"-Burk Parsons

[@itsmamawolf]

I’ve also learned that it’s not always about asking God to change them, but first ask God to change us

[@diyamukesh]

This is 100% it ♥️

[@isisundrwood]

Situation 2: I think that something that wasn’t addressed in the answer is that lust is an issue of the heart as well as an issue of self control. The question you have to ask yourselves is “why do we no longer hold on to this standard when we are together? Why do we follow our fleshy desires over the word when we get together?” I think you have to do a self check about why being together makes you fall consistently, when if this person was God’s best for you they should be pushing you closer to God, not allowing for u to fall sexually. I think another question he would have to ask himself is does he really value his future wife’s purity.? Do you guys even know the severity of walking in impure paths? These are more important than the act of falling sexually, but falling sexually shows that there may be some inconsistencies in ur thoughts about purity and the importance of it biblically. Getting married would allow u to have sex, but it does not fix the issues about purity and lust, marriage and sex doesn’t cure a lustful heart, God does.

[@lifewithcecile6152]

Aman

[@angelavanoosten1]

SO GOOD!

[@sofiagenoves2221]

Im so glad you pointed this out. Completely agree with your last senence!

[@SoloUnaEsposita_Feliz]

AMENNNNN 🔥🔥🔥

[@ShirleyT652]

Wow. I wish I could save this message somewhere.

[@abbyweibel5751]

Kian I loved the way you talked about all of these situations with such gentleness but without being scared of speaking the truth, great job!

[@zoeelizabethlovesjesus8464]

Jealousy, envy, or feeling like you’re not enough for someone, those are LIES FROM THE DEVIL. You will ALWAYS be enough for the right person from GOD.

[@itsmamawolf]

For situation 2: If being alone is what causes them to sin sexually they should not be alone & hold themselves accountable

[@kaylanfomby7506]

On that, I'm thinking they each need close friends/mentors to confess to and to check in with them!

[@CARLECREATES]

Situation 5 advice: make a standards list! Pray over and watch God place the man of your dreams in your life That’s what God did to me and gurl be patient and cling to God because you’re both being prepared right now and the right ones comin!!!! - ask God to reveal to you all the negatives that you don’t see about this guy and to guard your heart above all else! If you change the way you view him in your mind as a moody immature guy he’ll eventually become more unattractive in your mind!!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thanks for your recommendations and advice!

[@kaylanfomby7506]

Yes this is so true! Pray against clouded judgment and pray for clarity to see this guy for who he is. And it's important to govern your thoughts! He might be in a really wounded place emotionally, or just really struggling to be considerate of others in relationships, and that is NOT something you want to jump into if he isn't surrendering those negative things to God. The idea of someone is pretty great until you realize dating them means personally experiencing all their flaws too ... And if his flaws are red flags when y'all aren't even dating, dating will only make them stand out more. Not saying he's a bad person, bc most of the time it's just inner brokenness that causes people to treat others unkindly, but I am saying sometimes it helps to think practically of the long term. The heart is fickle and will latch on to people all day, but that doesn't mean we have to be dragged around by said heart feelings.

[@kaylanfomby7506]

Also! It's possible that Girl #5 idolizes romance too much! I realized that with a guy who's been in my life for the past couple of years; there's been so many coincidental encounters and because I liked him I thought it was a sign romantically, but after a period of surrendering my love of romance to God, realized it's very possible that the coincidences were really God orchestrating opportunities for him to encounter the unconditional love and healing of God through me, completely unrelated to romantic things. And because we share the same career interests, I realized it's possible that God just wants us to know each other for future networking purposes, not for romantic things. It's all about God's perspective!

[@Beloved_Boahemaah]

Saw this in my recommendations. Decided to ignore it. I don’t even know when i clicked on it but MY MY MY! I have been SO BLESSED! Wow! Thank you so much ❤️🙏🏿

[@shanaalisab2691]

The Holy Spirit definitely showed up. I just got clarity about something I’ve believed for a long time and it was not the complete truth. Thankful for this video and God using You in this way for His glory. Question 5- I have a friend who is going through this. I’ve been there severalllll times! I’m engaged now, my fiancé, from day 1 has been clear on his pursuit for me. Confusion like that doesn’t seem like his pursuit is clear. That doesn’t sound like Gods best. Like Kian said, that doesn’t sound like an answered prayer. And what stood out is knowing Gods character and that doesn’t align with His character. Praying for you for discernment and receiving wisdom from the Holy Spirit in Jesus name, Amen 🙏🏽

[@carolinemaryfrances1326]

Whatttt I was listening to this as I was studying my Bible and literally right as you talk about God being the beginning of wisdom I just got done reading Proverbs 1:7 “the fear of the lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Gods hidden in coincidences ❤️

[@abbyjoystudio]

I love that you pray before videos💛 My dad taught me to pray before everything, even before driving anywhere!

[@Derriann9705]

“Stop. I don’t want to hear the orchestra right now” 🤣 this was so good Kian, the Holy Spirit definitely spoke through you in this video! Thanks for sharing. God bless 💕

[@prescilladelarosa]

Reminder that my friend had to tell me three years ago when I was 20. She told me this scripture “For we walk by faith not by sight” - 2 Corinthians 5:7

[@miriam9775]

I think you got the gift of advising people briefly and precisely to the point. That's a real gift. God brought you where you belong I think. I recommend you to make more such videos, because you can help so many who only dare to address these things anonymously.

[@milkbread5036]

I LOVE your sweater. The color is so pretty :D

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you!!

[@jjoymedina]

@@Kian_Wolfgang where did you get it from?:)

[@rebecca2834]

I was gonna come here to say the same thing! the colour looks so good on you

[@kerrigraveslucas9992]

Situation two I agree either get married or don’t be alone together! I never go to my boyfriends house if no one else will be home, and I never invite him over to my place if no one else will be at home. Also don’t close your bedroom door. We mostly just meet in public places like at a restaurant or at a park so that takes away the temptation

[@Angelahhh]

Needed this, about husband losing faith and you think I’d know by now cuz I’ve been married 10 years but it’s a lifetime of growth. Thank you for that reminder. 🙏

[@summerdenson2769]

God most certainly was talking through you Kian. So thankful for you. I bet this will help those sweet women. And I admire you for filming this when you are feeling down. God is close to the brokenhearted, my love. Take the time you need to renew your minds and rest your Spirit. love you.

[@briannaschatz2960]

Kian, I love how open you are to advice and to change--I feel like that's pretty rare nowadays! You're gold!

[@theonegrateful-leper]

Girl I know I have said this so many times already lol and I Again I will say it ...you have grown so much. From the times I watched your testimony video to now God has worked beautifully in and on you Love you

[@gundosimphiwe]

🤍

[@andreaa.9709]

This was all handled so gracefully and tactfully. Love your faith girl

[@jazmine73317]

This was so good! Girls ditch the guy that ignores you and treats you bad. Took me too long to do that and when I decided fine “I’m single now. I’m done with being treated poorly” I met a guy right after that (lol God is funny) and now we’ve been married for 3 years in July. Choose men that love you, support you, cherish you and most of all RESPECT you. I spent way too long chasing boys and getting hurt. Try to stay abstinent and work on your relationship with God. ❤️

[@Chydova]

Just wondering, what about a man who is all those but doesn't have a close relationship with God. I have been contemplating my relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together a year. I'm just worried that this might cause problems in the future.

[@jazmine73317]

I’m not sure I can answer that. My husband isn’t a believer but everyday I pray on my hands and knees for him to follow God. Everyone says you need to stay away from nonbelievers but in the Bible it calls wives of nonbelievers to just pray. If God put on your heart to marry him then maybe you just need to pray and ask God for guidance but if you’re feeling like it’s going to always be an issue then maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. I hope this helps. I know it’s hard

[@Chydova]

@@jazmine73317 thank you for the reply. Its not that he is an unbeliever, he is a Christian, but doesn't have a close relationship with Jesus as I do. Thank you once again. I will say a prayer for you and your husband as well 🙏 ❤

[@jazmine73317]

Even better! Just be an example to him and constantly pray for him. He’ll come around. If you really love him things will work out according to his plan. Thank you! Praying for you also 💛💛💛

[@kamilynnxoxo]

Your faith is beautiful and inspiring 💛

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you, thats so sweet!

[@kamilynnxoxo]

@@Kian_Wolfgang 💞

[@leannayearwood8826]

Hi Kian 🤗 God bless you. I just want to say you have been a big step towards my walk of getting closer to God.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you for the blessings! God is so good!

[@traci.3351]

It's like every time I start to get close to God again, I fall harder and further each time.

[@zoeelizabethlovesjesus8464]

I also have some more advice on fornication. That feeling the woman gets when we’re having sex that spiritual connection you feel to the person is only meant for marriage. It makes you look at them with love and googly eyes right? They’re always on your mind. It’s called a soul tie. And we’re only supposed to create GODLY soul ties. Men and woman have something in their brain and you’ll have to look it up because I can’t think of it off the top of my head but there’s this thing in our brains, and women have more than men and it’s what we call “soul ties” why women get so hurt after breaking up with someone with someone after they’ve had sex with them is because it’s a spiritual connection you created with them a LITERAL bond that you can’t stop from happening the attachment feelings and god only wants to create those in marriage because he wants to protect our hearts and have them secure. It’s not some oh you’re gonna go to hell if you have sex thing which is how almost everyone sees it, no it’s not that. God really cares about you and he wants your soul to avoid HURT he wants you to be happy and content. Example : when I lost my virginity to this guy like 4 years ago I thought he was the best person in the world and that we’d work out, and then we broke up and Iayed in bed and cried for like half a year. That’s what I get for having sex outside of marriage and disobeying God. He doesn’t want you to EVER feel that way. That’s why we wait til marriage

[@EllieDaisy]

I just want to say for anyone who’s either not Christian or doesn’t feel worthy after reading things like this - having sex is a natural part of life. Do not feel bad ❤️ You are loved and no one should be judging you on being human, having sex, loving others, anything!! Do what makes YOU happy.

[@michelleannabellethomas]

@@EllieDaisy Thank you. I notice Christians judge premarital sex harshly while many of them are gluttons, gossips, backstabbers, etc. and have no problem with these other "sins."

[@ruthsalmon2505]

@@EllieDaisy Sexual immorality (which is a sexual experience outside of the confines that God has made for it) will give fleeting satisfaction, that’s for sure. But what about the consequences? The ungodly soul ties, the spiritual death and disconnection from the Holy Spirit of God, pregnancies outside of the covenant of marriage which are also often attempted to be solved by the other sin called abortion? Sin has consequences and God did not sacrifice His only begotten Son Jesus so we can do what makes us happy. Truth is, we are called to be holy, set-apart, so that through looking more like Christ and obeying God that we might experience true happiness. Sex is the most enjoyable when in marriage and while we are in the will of God.

[@EllieDaisy]

@@ruthsalmon2505 what about letting others live without judgment 😉 I’m gonna enjoy all the sexual I want and with whoever I want and have a bloody good time doing it thanks❤️

[@EllieDaisy]

@@ruthsalmon2505 also I’ve never been married but the sex I’ve been having is amazing 😂😂

[@claudialogan22]

Love your honesty! You feel like a real life friend, not just a KZbinr I like to watch. Keep on shining Jesus’ light and giving godly advice. 💕

[@bernadetteschapman6327]

I watched this video with subtitles on and when you introduced yourself , the subtile for your name was "Cayenne". I thought it was cute and now I'm going to think of you whenever I use the cayenne spice 😂

[@cheyennepressley596]

You are amazing! Thank you for posting and following Jesus 😊

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you cheyenne! Our names are so similar :)

[@cheyennepressley596]

@@Kian_Wolfgang Yes, our names are similar! I love that you are a woman of faith! You're a light to the world. Blessings!

[@CreatedbyJara]

I love that you make videos like this! I love how much you interact with your subscribers 🤍

[@evagermaine5352]

Situation 2: My first thought was that this is a heart issue so I would recommend a change in perspective. Spend time with the Lord in prayer and in His word to find out why He created this standard. It changes your perspective on how to honour it. The bible also calls us to flee from temptation so it’s better to understand the underlying principle because the ‘face’ of the temptation can change. May God strengthen you!

[@ariw9790]

Situation 3: First, all that Kian said was highly advisable. As humans we always try to seek justification with those around us, but even if we do everything God asks of us there will still be someone saying we’re not right with God. So trusting your feelings and the opinions of those around you, will ultimately lead to the devil having a way in to condemn you. Seek God’s approval first, push all opinions out of your head and like Kian said, search the scriptures for God’s word on it. I do just also want to add that God only sees marriage as a relationship because of the covenant He created with marriage, so when we aren’t married He views us as separate people and we aren’t under that same covenant of Jesus-Man-Wife-Child. So when you said you guys are basically already a family and he is now your daughter’s dad, just know that with how God designed His covenant, things as they are, are out of order. But just know that God wont condemn you and make you feel horrible about it, He will only bring light and open your eyes with His word! :)

[@breesherr]

#5! Hey, girl! I have been in a very similar situation! If Kian’s advice doesn’t help and you’re still focused or distracted by him, pray about quitting your job. Removing yourself from the situation really helps, and allows you to continue moving on :) Hope that helps!

[@xbeccax8429]

I whole heartedly believe that the Lord was speaking through you in this video and you were speaking with such love and acceptance and wisdom. Really helped me remember that the way you were approaching some of these situations, is how God would approach them if we were asking Him for the advice and that was really helpful. Sometimes I forgot that God is kindhearted and not just an angry God as terrible as that sounds lol.

[@graceshepp]

Right when I heard the first question I was also going to recommend the prayer book!! Not only have the prayers come to pass over my husband but it has helped change my heart in ways I never thought I needed to change. It can be easy to pray out of selfishness and out of trying to change someone but the prayer book helps me cover my husband in prayer in all areas, not just the things I see.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

So good!! Thanks for sharing this testimony!

[@kristismyk1930]

Situation 3: as Christians, we are called to speak the truth in love to other Christians. This includes accountability when we see someone living in a way that may not be honoring God. Especially for newer believers. Sinning doesn’t mean you’re going to hell, but even though you feel happy doesn’t mean you’re not living disobedient to God. The Bible doesn’t directly speak on living together before marriage, but it also doesn’t directly address a lot of things we shouldn’t do. It is, however, implied. There are many great articles and scriptures addressing this. Even if you’re not having sex, living alone together exemplifies marriage without that sacred covenant made under God. It is acting as though you are married without taking that vow. It can cause confusion to unbelievers, and potentially be a stumbling block to others. There is so much to be said on this topic and it is not any easy one, but God’s word and other resources can help us to pursue His best for us, even when it may not feel like the best. Praying for you and your family 💕

[@mariprep]

This was soo good! Throughly enjoyed this video!! Can’t wait for episode 2!!

[@ellaagasaro496]

I genuinely have respect for people who live together before they are married and don’t mess up. You should make a whole genuine video on how the journey of living with Kyle prior to your marriage was like. If there were any temptations and how you didn’t give into them. It may be helpful for so many people.

[@annalev1630]

This video is so great. It just made me feel I am not the only one who has different thoughts and problems cause in church it seems sometimes people are doing so great....everyone has something on mind. Loved the format

[@ndzaloM]

Situation 1: 1 Peter 3:1-2 "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives." I think this scripture can be applied to the situation + prayer

[@user-jy1oq9qr5e]

First and I’m trying to reconnect with God and your videos has helped me a great deal

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

That is so amazing!! 💛 keep getting to know Him!

[@sientwa6102]

6:25 thank you. I really underestimate the power of prayer. I don't know when the last time was, when I actually prayed +believed that something would happen. I am not married and I don't have a boyfriend but I am sure I have to start praying. Now.

[@kaylanfomby7506]

Amen!

[@dianaramos9581]

always so refreshing to kick back and watch your videos 💛🥰

[@riccardamacdonald2878]

Kian❤I just love watching your videos! It's amazing how I can be on the other side of the world but have that opportunity to share in sisterhood with you. Thank you for all of your videos and for being open to sharing your life and wisdom. You will never know how greatly it influences the rest of the sisterhood. When I watch your videos, that are so real and honest, I always feel like I'm not alone and that I have loving Christian sisters around the world going through the same things I'm going through. So this comment is just to say thank you and thank you to all the sisters in the comments as well. God bless you all❤!

[@nicolemeredith3007]

Great advice! I've been watching your videos since I've been back in Church 2019 in Auckland and I've really seen your growth and maturity in this video. So good, your helping so many others navigate through their decisions and walk with Jesus. 💗

[@arr0991]

YEESS!!! On situation #5!! Thank you so much for your words because I’ve been trying to put those exact words together for a situation with my niece were she keeps asking me about the same guy over and over again, and no matter how many times she “realizes” that’s not the guy God has for her she keeps coming with questions about the same castle In the sky that she has been building in her mind for the longest time. And I think what you said about speaking about the guy with all your friends it’s key to not forgetting and letting go of the fantasy and the attachment, so I’ll be using that next time the topic comes to surface!! Thank you very much!! And to the girl in the situation #5 I would tell you, when people show you who they really are, please believe them. I think you yourself have the answer to your problem, you’ve said he’s not the answer to your prayers, you’ve said you have built imaginary strings or attachments in your hearts, so you know already, now is a matter of accepting it, and not being afraid of letting go of the “excitement” of the idea and moving on. The man that God has for you will reflect His character and will reflect Jesus. Jesus would never play with your hearts or confuse your feelings, and height will he. Many blessings and praying for you sis

[@lauramora7621]

Kian, i love this video. I hope you do this type of videos more often ✨❤️

[@conniek1039]

these are some heavy topics but you took them on wonderfully Kian!

[@StrongerThanStroke]

#1 Ask your husband if he would be open to praying with you once a day, week...if he says no remember and cling to Isaiah 54:5 (the Lord is your Husband). Go into prayer daily, take your concerns to God. 1 Peter 3:1 win your husband over without words...this takes discipline. Daily: Pray and read scripture, don’t argue or complain to your husband, take your concerns to the Lord. You be the peace in your home. 🙏🏽❤️

[@angallaher]

Wow! Just discovered your channel. So much wisdom in your responses. Love how you backed it all up with scripture and you brought everything back to God. Appreciate you sharing this, especially the book recommendation to pray for your husband. I could really use some help in that area of knowing how to pray for him in all areas. This has been so helpful to me! I also truly appreciate that you turn people to the word rather than feelings because I know myself can get caught up on my feelings rather than going to His word. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! I am a new subscriber for sure!!!

[@jessiezsings]

This was SOOOO good. I hope you do SO many more of these!!

[@emmamakescoffee]

Thank you so much for this! You have helped me to be proactive about seeking God in my own situation. Also, absolutely love your vids!! 🪴🪴

[@suddenIypineappIes]

love this so much! your advice is actually really good, God bless :))

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you girl!!

[@AntheaCarson]

Lemme just tell you how good your title is ok! I hit subscribe before I even got to the video just based on your great title!!

[@jackie.mendoza]

Hi Kian! Your DSLR Camera link isn't working. What camera do you use? :)

[@moniquegarcia8361]

Another phenomenal book about wives with a biblical perspective is The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. Having read it, I highly recommend!! It's filled with practical advice, covers almost every topic, and is filled with Scripture. There's also a study guide that goes along with it :)

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you for the recommendation!

[@bluebutterfly288]

For situation #3-God calls us to admonish one another in love. The friend mentioned may be trying to do this. Sometimes we take that as judgement instead of wise people pointing out truth to us. Get wise counsel. Read scriptures. And Dont listen to your heart as it is deceitful above all else. (That is clear all over the proverbs) God has a very clear plan laid out in the bible for how a family should come together and he doesnt make exceptions.

[@christinetabucol5827]

Thank you kian! Badly need this

[@raegan_price]

On #1 agree all you said, but with her question is it my place to speak up on things, I would say with blatant sin if he claims to be a Christian than for SURE. And once you do, then don’t keep doing it. But with blatant sin like the lords name in vain I’d for sure call it out with scripture at least once. 😭🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ItsEverythingEuodia]

Yeesss. We are called to judge Christians righteously. Remove the log out of out own eye first then remove the speck out of the other persons eye.

[@roshinafont8093]

For situation number 3 I just wanted to say that we are saved by believing that Jesus died for us and accepting the free gift of salvation. Our works do not save us, whatever we do. Our salvation comes from Jesus alone, His free gift for us! I agree with what Kian said about the difference between condemnation and conviction. One is healthy, the other one is not. I, too, agree that you should pray- talk to God, tell Him how you feel towards your friend, towards your partner. God already knows your thoughts, so be honest, be you. He can handle it and He won't condemn you for it. Then ask Him about the whole of your situation. He is so willing to listen AND to talk to you. He loves you. He can't wait to show you His thoughts and love. I find reading the Bible, listening to worship music a great way to grow in your faith and be in communion with God. Also- COMMUNITY. This is so important. Find a christian community to be a part of. Pray (I'll also pray) that God will lead you to find one:) Hope this is helpful!

[@chloewilliamson8120]

Absolutely agree and Romans 8:1 NKJV says “There is therefore now no condemnation known to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the spirit.” And the best way to grow with God is to read His Holy Word and talk to Him. Asking God about a situation is so important too!! One way to know what God is telling you is that it will always line up with His Word!! If you think God is telling you something that doesn’t line up with His Word ITS NOT GOD!! If you feel rushed or pushed into something ITS NOT GOD!! Seek God and His Kingdom for ALL ANSWERS AND QUESTIONS!!

[@riccardamacdonald2878]

Amen!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼completely agree

[@roshinafont8093]

@@chloewilliamson8120 So true! Great insight!

[@fergyleigh]

if you have time, and if you haven't yet; read _james 2:14-26_ beautiful passage ☺ We have been completely justified through the Messiah, which leaves us with the responsibility of 'being perfect as He is perfect', not to use 'our freedom in the Messiah as an opportunity to sin' (or an excuse to sin) hope that sense 🙈

[@chaelibrunotte1693]

This is so good Kian! I can see God shining and speaking through you.

[@LifebyJazzieey]

Definitely would love to see more of this!

[@ashlyn2953]

YES COLLEGE ADVICE!!!!

[@AmarachiNnadozie]

I learned a lot from watching this video ❤️ have you ever thought about being a life coach or counselor for young people? I pray God continues to give you wisdom in all that you do!

[@oilysphynx1350]

Subscribed🥰 I have the exact same problem as #1 Loved your answer. Also going to check out those books.

[@DaughterOfYahweh01]

The last situation when she’s like “no” in different ways 😂 I’m in AZ too so I hope I meet you soon 😊

[@Mieleous]

How close is she to 100k 💕 God is so good🌹

[@2000Dolores]

A couple more of these videos and she is there.....100K ! God always takes her closer....have you noticed. Thank you for supporting this girly!

[@meredithbush4092]

#3- not advice but the friend that told her she was going to hell was wrong. If she has truly accepted Christ, then nothing can separate her from God. We all sin in one way or another, but that has no bearing on our eternity if we truly believe. This person has not grown up in the church and still has a lot to learn about what the Christian life should look like. You were right telling her to pray and read Scripture so she can be transformed. If she is coming from a background that doesn’t view sex before marriage as wrong, then she doesn’t know. Her friend is right to point it out, but needs to do so in a kind and gentle manner.

[@chloewilliamson8120]

She needs only to ask forgiveness and truly repent which means to never partake in those sins again. And if she doesn’t come from a background and doesn’t know that sex before marriage is against God then she canning be held accountable for it but is she doesn’t after she knows then she has sinned. I agree with you about nothing separating us from the LOVE of God but the more a person sins the further and further they get away from God. God cannot look open sin so until a person repents and turns away from their sins they cannot have a true relationship with God. Now we all fall short of the Glory of God and we are all going to sin that’s what Jesus was for A. So we can repent and not have to pay the price of sin and B. to have a High Priest that is our advocate. We must repent from our sins as soon as we sin so we can maintain our walk with God and Jesus.

[@stephaniequintanar1529]

This is straight fire Kian! 🔥

[@prrari22]

i LOVED this video! it was beautiful and helpful and gave me so much wisdom

[@hopeolivia590]

i loved this ideo youb should defo do more !! Youre are very good at sharing truth lovingly and not being judged 💗💗🤩🤩

[@miriam9775]

Yes!

[@gundosimphiwe]

Thank you so much. 😭😭😭😭 This was so helpful

[@kaylanfomby7506]

I really liked this video! Please do another one😊

[@janesemanning5924]

#1 Although it is not our responsibility to change our hubbies, it is okay to keep them accountable. Cursing in front of the baby is a no and as a wife and a mom you can absolutely correct that behavior. When it comes to his spiritual life... if he is saying he is praying and getting with God the last thing you want is to question the man you vowed to trust. A great idea would be to invite him in to pray with you and do devotionals together to ensure he is getting some Jesus time hehe (; Kian's answer was awesome, I just wanted to chime in! I hope this helps

[@martadalio7092]

Situation n.3, about feeling judged by friends.. it's not always easy to find the perfect way to be close and support friends, we sometimes fail because we, as humans, tend to be judgemental! If they're good friends, probably they have our best interest at heart and they just come at us the wrong way! it's hard on both sides.. I would suggest to sort things out with them, and pray together to understand what God is asking to both of you! I know it's not easy though..

[@erikasimone_]

This was awesome advice! Enjoyed this video🤎

[@nannyheather5640]

Kian thank you so much for making this video! So helpful. I love you and kyle💓💓💓 God bless you!

[@tafusmurielle298]

So much wisdom, God bless you ❤️

[@tafusmurielle298]

Please I have a question, how do you differentiate between what God is saying and what you just want.

[@princessjones4953]

I love your videos and following you in your life journey. I finally subscribed!

[@temperosisters1026]

Situation #3: Focus on Jesus Christ, not your sin!

[@anniedrosham7299]

Wow I can relate to the first one, with the video games. It so affected my faith and I got so so discouraged that I almost took a pause in serving God. My faith was also the only thing holding me. It gave me a new life for 4-5 years. A not easy but still the most beautiful meaningful life filled life.. until the last year when I started going to sin out of discouragement. Now idk what to do.

[@RP-ro9ci]

Love how you look for God’s guidance first❤️❤️❤️ Could you do a yeestyle haul too?☺️Also i’m sooooo excited for hallelujah sunday ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@scottbachmann1962]

Kian, you have a lot of wisdom. (Also, Stormie Omartian is awesome! And very talented. I've met her and I used to listen to her music that she made with her husband Michael in the 70s and 80s.)

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

thank you Scott!!

[@holyspiritbhaddie]

“STOP! I don’t wanna hear the orchestra right now!” 🤣

[@isabellalacy9901]

So excited to watch this video and I love your content so much and I would love another vlog soon

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Aw thank you! filming a vlog now!

[@isabellalacy9901]

@@Kian_Wolfgang so excited to watch the next vlog!

[@isabellalacy9901]

@@Kian_Wolfgang I would also love a clothing haul or cleaning videos

[@amygiommetti1661]

So excited for your next video

[@xbeccax8429]

Situation #4. If it’s God timing for you to get married, He will put it on your man’s heart to ask you to marry him.

[@luciostherpos7997]

Great video! Thank you Kian. 😊 great advice.

[@ayah316]

Yahuah will lead into all understanding and shalom (peace) with his ruach(spirit)🕊 Halleluyah! Literally means Praise YAHUAH! Yahushua his son is our messiah and his name literally means YAHUAH is salvation!!

[@Isabel-yg5qz]

Situation 5: about the dude who just started working with you. I just want to encourage you, if worst comes to worst, and your thoughts and feelings really accelerate for this dude way too much, consider finding a new job, and don't be afraid. Pray about it if you think it is a boundary you need to put in place, and trust that our good God, Jehovah Jireh, will provide for you. ❤️ God bless

[@michellexcurls9935]

Situation #3: Since she’s new in this walk! My advice would be to surrender all your troubles worries to God, because he knows best! As for the situation you are in, I would say getting married would be a drastic decision don’t feel pressured because you are being judged! But do know that God sees everything and you want to honor him with your being, spirit, soul and body (1 Thessalonians 5:23). You accepted God to step away from your humanly desires and take your cross and follow him and he will do.

[@mjalphonse]

23:26 🤣 hahahaha....dead. Loved this style of video! Would love to see more!

[@CreatedbyJara]

Love this vid! Side note: your outfit is so cute Kian 🤍

[@Cazoliie]

About situation 2 : in France we make the difference between chastity and abstinence (idk the word in english, not having sex ?) Anyway the point is that, when you're engaged, you have to be chaste but also not have sex, because it's different. You have to be chaste ALSO when you're married, even when you have sex ! It's all in the way you consider the other ans your physical interactions. Even when you're married, sex can't be selfish, for your own passions. So I don't see getting married right now as a good option if you have not learned how to be chaste. So yeah, don't be alone, learn the value of tenderness ! Also, know the cues, the one that are telling you you are going too far. Trust yourself and don't think you will hurt the other's feeling if you say "stop" while you're kissing or whatever ; if you have spoken about it with the other then it should be alright ! And if you're alone and you feel like you're gonna be too close, offer the other to pray ? You can do this 💪💪 and please pay attention to chastity even in marriage ! I'm struggling with it myself but it's a beautiful way. (I'm engaged so I feel you sistah, we've been together for more than 2 years and there's still 8 months to go. But I really don't want to see my wedding day as the "at laaaast let's have sex" day.) Oh also, natural family planning is a great way to learn chastity because it gives sex it's full meaning BUT don't do it if you don't have a stable situation, obviously

[@evagermaine5352]

Thank you for this. You added words to concepts I knew existed in my heart but didn’t know how to describe out loud. God bless you ❤️

[@Cazoliie]

@@evagermaine5352 oh I'm so glad this helped you in some capacity ! God bless you too ❤🙏