Q217 - Love, Death, and Betrayal

Would you rather that your perfect lover betrayed you or died?
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[@Quasihamster]

I see you recently oiled your sombrero? Did it squeak or what was wrong with it?

[@IudiciumInfernalum]

It's important to oil your sombrero regularly!

[@maximebakleh8052]

Maybe its just about that industrial machine oil smell, quite irresistible indeed.

[@danielevans545]

IudiciumInfernalum Matron!

[@str_j1649]

It's important to use lube when putting on a sombrero, especially as your forehead gets bigger.

[@drharmonica]

You took the words right out of my mouth.

[@normannormiemates4844]

A slingshot, sombrero and 3 in 1 oil. What sort of bank heist was that?

[@TheLiamis]

T Riddle a very slippery and Mexican heist.

[@coryman125]

A successful one. Lindybeige isn't in prison after all ;)

[@HummelJaeger]

Not a bank heist. They're the items required to maintain the most satisfying love imaginable.

[@DaFinkingOrk]

@@HummelJaeger good one haha

[@colinp2238]

I find this very poignant as my wife and son were killed when she (and I) were 21. It devastated me because we were so good together, almost perfect. The union was so strong that it was not possible for me to successfully have other relationships but I still remember, so well, how close and intense our bonds were.

[@colinp2238]

AllTheGoodNamesAreTaken [Unregistered Hypercam 2] it was 1975

[@colinp2238]

No as I stated in my original comment. I tried but at first it felt like betrayal and after I think I was comparing and perhaps expecting too much.

[@colinp2238]

Maybe I have seen her again if she has reincarnated? Unfortunately it is hard to describe exactly the feelings and emotions in mere words, they are not adequare for the task. Thanks for your kind words and consideration.

[@More_Row]

colin Paterson I believe you’ll see them again my friend. Thanks for sharing and keep your head up. Take care friend

[@UselessZero]

Who cares about Sombrero? What's up with 3-in-1 Multipurpose Oil?!

[@spookerredmenace3950]

a well oiled Sombrero lol

[@JimFortune]

Useless 3-in-1 oil cans are not beige, so they don't matter.

[@Christopher-N]

_"Maybe I'm wrong on this one, but for me, the beast doesn't include selling out."_ -- Wayne's World

[@vladimirdan1959]

He's preparing for the six months of perfect love.

[@JimFortune]

Vladimir Dan That's a horrible thing to say. I like it.

[@alexboren5443]

3 in one. Multi purpose oil

[@PaulPaulPaulson]

Works for love, death and betrayal

[@brumby92]

Alex bloody good stuff. From bike chains to door locks.

[@Christopher-N]

_"Well that's where I see things just a little differently. Contract or no, I will not bow to any sponsor."_ -- Wayne's World

[@wildtony79]

Matter of fact, I’ve got it now......

[@Kraljevich]

I love you Lindy , dont die in 6 months!

[@TheGuy-kb5mh]

Im from in six months and hes still alive boys, unless he is a robot created by the british to spread anti french propaganda.

[@mulekicker2118]

Undead Prince I’m from 1 year in the future, still alive and still in the EU

[@declanedmison5442]

I’m from two years in the future, he is in fact not dead.

[@minutemanqvs]

Yeah, 3 in 1 oil is a good start for a satisfying love experience.

[@SyoaranBarker]

*lindy points at the screen* "Don't lie to me!" Me: YESSIR!

[@CatoConroy]

I don't know why but I rather enjoy these answers and rants.

[@samza360]

I would answer no to the question, because I worry that once those 6 months are up, I will compare any future experience to that one, and be dissatisfied with anything less. Thats not how i want to live

[@siggitiggi]

It's better to have loved and lost, so long as you don't lose your mind. Which betrayal, indifference, and dishonesty might cause you.

[@micahphilson]

I agree that you'd have to know she would betray you, but then... is it really betrayal if you're fully expecting it to come to pass? If you know, for absolute fact, that she will run off with someone else, is it truly betrayal if you yourself accepted that very thing as one of the terms of the relationship?

[@zorfmorf2414]

The first part of the question basically includes for me that we would be absolutely and unquestionably in love with each other (not only me with them), so my partner wouldn't think of or even be able to betray me after. So that kind of contradicts each other I feel.

[@cavecenam]

maybe... you can betray her the day, before she would betray you. I mean... that would be a surprise

[@xeigen2]

I imagined the question to mean you'd get to make this decision and then if you say yes your memory of it is erased. So from your perspective it all just happens, you don't know the death/betrayal is coming.

[@robinderoos1166]

we call that pussy whipped... that is inviting misfortune on yourself... because usually they leave with half of your stuff...

[@jimbob3332]

"Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal!"

[@bookaufman9643]

The love that ends in death always reminds me of the horrible loss that Richard Feynman had to endure. That dude was so freaking cool and pretty noble too.

[@ashleyradwell709]

Easier to get over someone who betrayed you then someone you love and died ...

[@2belowfreezing]

7:04 Man I wish someone would think fwaaa of me!

[@TheAutistWhisperer]

I think I prefer betrayed, because there's a chance of redemption and I'm speaking from experience.

[@inlovewithgoats1092]

Please tell me that girl in you profile pic just stubbed her toe really hard.

[@mr.fabulousmegardev6256]

But the fact that Lindy-dear is pointing out is that the question is broken due to the 'fulfilling' love not being fulfilling, so the betrayal 'twould be possibly more psychologically-harmful. At least with the death, 'tis guaranteed at least the love was genuine, but could thou live with the fact thy love was faking it the whole time?

[@TheAutistWhisperer]

_Ofenkartoffel_ Ah yeah thats Toga, nah, she' just enjoying the prospect of potentially killing a hero.

[@inlovewithgoats1092]

TheAutistWhisperer Yeah, she really seems to be enjoying herself. I assume those on her face are bloodstains? :D

[@TheAutistWhisperer]

_Ofenkartoffel_ lol oh she just really blushes when she sees blood, in fact, that's her quirk, when she drinks someones blood she can take their form.

[@pihkasankari]

did you think of the fakt that when the love of your dreams die, you might not be able to love or feel the joy of love the same way as before because you will always compare your new relationships to that perfect one and will never be truly satisfied with your life.

[@christopherberry9496]

Great video. And I'm sure I'm not the only one who found it timely in some way. Thanks.

[@Arkantos117]

Betrayal is the worst crime. Better to have an enemy than a traitor.

[@snoowbrigade]

-Add "Don't lie to Lloyd" to survival guide

[@Olivman7]

I would say a hard "NO" to either questions. (assuming "betrayal" means something really serious like "stabbing me in the stomach" or "selling the Rebellion out just as we're about to deal a fatal blow to the Empire", and not just "not do the dishes when she promised she would") For all Lloyd talks about people bouncing back from things, some people are devastated by their relatives dying tragically. I imagine that my dating life after that point would feel horribly bland, shallow and unstable. Even if my emotional makeup weren't permanently changed, I would probably have a lot of trouble staying and being happy in subsequent, non-perfect relationship.

[@wallabytrack9750]

Great video! The 3 in 1 oil really captures one's imagination.

[@mullac1992]

What if she was only going to die IF you met her? You monster Lindy! You could have saved her, but you sentenced her to death for your own selfish love!!!

[@stefanusbayu1426]

I love how everyone just point out the oil instead of the sombrero

[@jscarborough9928]

Perhaps the writers were a bit prudish, and used "love" as a euphemism for sex.

[@WardancerHB]

My love for you is pure and honest, Lindy! I'll be honest, I love cheese too, though

[@Serial765]

"no where does it say I die" - man of beige 2018

[@proudpolish548]

I missed this series.

[@triggerhippy2826]

odd items in shot: pink spiral-bound book>3-in-one oil>Sombrero only an explanation for the sombrero.......

[@pauljmorton]

I'd think that greatly benefitting humanity is something my family would want me to do, so doing that would be a great gift for them.

[@Thetasigmaalpha]

It wasn’t the hat that got me. I was wondering about the 3 in 1, what was it for ? I need to know. It will cause me sleepless night.

[@dk.kapsukas2195]

It's used for oil related purposes.

[@Pertinax193A.D.]

Kevin Best oiling the sombrero

[@JosephParker_Nottheboxer]

If it was worded "after 6 months it would end" but you don't know how you might get more trepidation. I've seen the woman I love pass away and it still hurts. In saying that I did my best for another woman a few years later and it ended after I found out she was lying to me about more and more things. I have more positive thoughts and I guess more emotion attached to the lady the passed away.

[@Wingedshadowwolf]

Next question: First off, I'm on good terms with my family so I'd help them out first. They are a slice of humanity as whole anyways so, why not? Now depending on inheritance taxes and whatnot, if inheriting my things were to actually be a burden then perhaps donating it to some kind of help people/planet cause would be a better route to go. I haven't looked into this at all, if I die tomorrow whatever will happen will happen.

[@danpurcell404]

Maybe you could make a podcast by answering questions from this book?

[@michaelmilburn911]

Lindybeige oiling up

[@atesemireltutar6661]

Fixing the question: You meet a wonderful person at one holiday of yours but you learn that they are in a unloving relationship and they must "betray" you after the holiday because of their responsibilities.

[@Lilitha11]

It is a self fulfilling prophecy. You know she is going to betray you, and so you have your doubts and the doubt is what turns her off and causes her to betray you. She really did love you, but your doubts ruined it.

[@phatbastard0alkaline]

I was wondering, even if you knew she would betray you in 6 months time, maybe she really did love you just like the first part said even in this betrayal scenario. But maybe there was a change at the end that occured because of the choice/question you got, because it made you "aware" or something in advance or more like... you really wasn't aware of it, you've been told that she would betray you. So for you, maybe it wouldn't be the most satisfying love imaginable because you would know that she would betray you, but she didn't at the beginning nor the middle but towards the end of 6 months after maybe noticing you being odd/reserved or the like, so maybe you pushed her into it. Its just a speculation. I had a really short relationship where we both loved eachother but it was certainly a test if anything, a chance i was offered. She asked me: "Do you want to try this? I really do love you" And i said: "Yes, why wouldn't i want to take the chance of being with the one i love." We broke up 3 months later. This is a break up and not a betrayal but when you're hurt it sure can feel like they betrayed you. I would do it again, im still somewhat in pain even today 2 years later. I think she was sort of... already telling herself that it wouldn't last because of reasons that we both knew of. Which, i think, sealed the fate of our relationship as partners. But i do know we loved each other. And i think this... precognition you may say that also came from my side, that i had to be the best i can be for her and for myself, sort of changed the outcome of what could've been and how long it would've or could've last. I feel like i will always love her, but then again love makes you blind. But i still think love is always worth to give a shot because i got experiences and memories i wouldn't trade away.

[@secondswell]

3:10 I think everyone was miserable before they met you Lindy hahahah.

[@tv-pp]

While I agree it's better than to have loved and lost, THE most satisfying love being ripped away from you might be enough to drive anyone to suicide even if they didn't think they would.

[@bluesap7318]

7:05 fwaaa!

[@johnlake3698]

"DON'T LIE TO ME!"

[@dundschannel]

Jaysus christ I watch your channel for tanks and swords and good ol' french hating, not for feels.

[@1994Farmer]

You will become a legend!

[@killerkonnat]

Getting paid (your friend paid) 1 pound per minute for holding your hand in a bucket of ice water sounds like a really shitty deal. You'll only be able to hold it there for about 10 minutes until you have a major risk of injury. I wouldn't endure severe pain for a tenner...

[@Madash023]

The questions (not your videos) are frustrating in how little detail and specificity they give. I can't answer them without clarification on what certain words mean and more detail on the scenario.

[@rurushu8094]

More Q217 please

[@greg4629]

it's possible to have a really satisfying happy relationship and yet still commit adultery. humans are complicated.

[@biggreenangryman1904]

just because you love her doesnt mean shes gonna love you back.

[@holymanlogin]

We'he evolved to fear love in a good reasons.

[@Bearded_Tattooed_Guy]

... and yet!

[@jpjpish1830]

You killed her didn't you. This won't cut the mustard with the peelers

[@Newidhan]

That Oxford coma

[@TheMarynator]

This is a good idea. Attack for 1M

[@ValdVincent]

Well with the first one it comes down to how much money they have. Second one, hell no, can't have some treacherous jabronie in the ones mitts.

[@alexandermoon6349]

How did you "once nearly surf board off a Cliff"?

[@crazyjay7676]

Product placing is alive and well, I'm getting the urge to buy some oil. Oh and maybe stick with Mrs Palmer and her 5 lovely daughters.

[@myothersoul1953]

Maybe love isn't permanent, a fixed thing, just because it's the most satisfying requited love for both you one month doesn't mean it will be six months later. Suppose you were going to have the most satisfying love for six months then you don't know what? Could be betrayal could be death, just plain boredom or more of the same? It's always a game of chance, you'll probably get hurt, do it anyway.

[@Mike-rx3mn]

Yea it was the oil I didn't expect, the sombrero is just the kind of thing he would have lying around. I think you didn't take into account all the 60's romcoms where a man leaves his wife and gets lost at sea, or reported as Kia, or just assumed dead, then the widow takes up with another lover. She could absolutely love you with all her heart, but then in 6 months, her first husband is rescued and returns. So the gypsy that told you she would leave you in 6 months is right, you wouldn't want to ruin the first marriage of her and a possible hero husband. You bow out like a gentleman, knowing you had the best sex, she would still love you, and as the saying goes (all the other ladies would want you and all the other guys would want to be you)

[@Kikilang60]

What's with the 3 in 1 oil. I just used mine up.

[@Valkanna.Nublet]

I'd rather betrayal over death. Betrayal could potentially be worked out, forgiven, and moved past. Death is permanent. I say that as someone who's been shat on multiple times without any happy conclusion.

[@cartrips9263]

But then again, if they wouldnt die, they would betray you. So youre actually killing them if you choose the option of them dying! So the pain would be less, because you just saved a life at your own emotional expense.

[@AtheAetheling]

If she betrays you, its not exactly the most perfect relationship imaginable is it? Kinda cancels it out.

[@Kumimono]

Would you rather sounds like a choice. In effect, you are causing the death of someone you love, or the betrayal of someone who (perhaps) thinks they love you. Would you?

[@neil7737]

I kind of want you to just do audiobooks or some vo for something

[@royvogel2023]

Betrayed is worse, I know 😡

[@mr.fabulousmegardev6256]

If my idea of a perfect lover was someone who'd never betray me, then wouldn't that mean the 'perfect lover' who'd betray me wasn't perfect in the first place? Or what if my idea of a perfect lover was someone who was immortal, and never died?

[@fourthaeon9418]

I’d say no.

[@zenjr1004]

And if you choosing to have the affair causes her to die in 6 months, would you still be selfish to have it?

[@Skelstoolbox]

You look tired Loyd.. Or maybe it's just me.. 4:48 am here on the West Coast of North America..

[@zaneslocombe8008]

I know what you mean about cultural appropriation. It is a ridiculous concept. Extrapolated to its fullest extent, we would have no imports or exports, or even language.

[@rebeccakarl520]

@lindybeige What if she is betraying you out of love. Thinking for example of a princess that is being forced into a marriage for your safety. Maybe her forced betrothed has threatened your life if she didnt marry him. BTW i love your videos and help keep me going through my days!!! keeep it up.

[@Kikilang60]

Six months? Everyone is going to die. Six months, or sixty years, it's all the same. betrayal is the way to go. The person doesn't die. You might feel bad, but hey people change, If the person you loved was going to die, and you could chose for them to just betray you. Who wouldn't take that deal?

[@michaelt.5672]

Kiki Lang Problem: That's a matter of free will. You are proposing a choice between allowing your lover to die or to have their character warped to the point of unrecognisability (if that betrayal is what she really wants). Hence the person you knew and loved is, in a sense, dead either way.

[@Kikilang60]

I'm not so sure I want anyone I know to die. Betrayal? If my love one betrayed me To Nazis I would want reveng. If they betrayed by cheated by cheating? I don't think I woud want them dead.

[@jamietus1012]

1:25, Jon Luc Picard? or just Shakespeare (which did you think of first)

[@brumby92]

I feel like you made this one too easy Lloyd my friend. Try to imagine the situation if you didn't know you she would die / betray you. Or rather, what if you unknowingly betrayed her?

[@Cdre_Satori]

Amazing video and the question made me realize why I have one ex that I never felt bad about while I have a plethora of others I would do well without. It is because it was intense relationship that had beggining, seducing and an ending. She chose another dude, and although I am not saying it often, in this one case " ´twas better to love and lost, than to never love at all." I think death would be preferable to betreyal. It is saying something about myself, but I think I would never be able to bring myself to truly love her if I knew she was going to betray me. I would always be watching for the first sign of betreyal. You cannot love without trust and faith they will not hurt you intentionaly.

[@aleksaa24]

Yes your arguments for why yes in the part 1 are good and I would have to agree, but you have to consider that then you would be comparing every other experience with women to that one and every other would pale in comparison. In my opinion that is the biggest problem with this question and not that she would die.

[@mortoopz]

Yeah, don't read out the next question.... just put it at the front end of the next video, we can simply pause.

[@Hassenboy]

Lloyd the player

[@IGR-yn6nq]

I chose Death

[@schwinglo]

...and what if she were FRENCH?!

[@Sopel429]

Why not both?

[@_Alphah]

Anyone else think the outro is too loud?

[@wujalwujal6388]

Do I sense a product placement?

[@mederichebert]

What if she only dies if you meet her?

[@IvanHreshko]

what about the option, if that person that u d really love will die because of your choice?(if u reject she\he will carry on living and nothing happens)

[@Samuel-ni7vv]

Well that would sort of be like killing your loved one then? I think the answer is quite obvious here lol.

[@billy4072]

ok got to 4.36. ffs . whats you point???

[@zreed545]

It says betrayal, that doesn't mean romantic betrayal it's possible she betrays your alliance in a game of Risk.

[@spazzen]

That would be worse. It always happens, you agree to attack the same person and when you've crippled your army they always stab you in the back

[@Hassenboy]

And she would still be killed

[@shimavitz47]

Betrays your army to the Persians*

[@marcopellosie2779]

Oh... that hurts...

[@supportwarcraft3]

"You have the chance to meet someone with whom you can have the most satisfying love imaginable - the stuff of dreams. But she's French."

[@mederichebert]

But how can it be satisfying then?

[@charliedawson4877]

That sentence doesn't compute. Whenever she's in trouble she'd run away and I'd be left to pick up the pieces.

[@dexis9412]

But that doesn’t make sense anyway, you might be able to feel wonderful love, but if she’s French it can’t possibly be the best possible love!

[@JohnMiller-zr8pl]

Just to think how Lindybeige would react 😁, i don't understand why the despise? yes they're not the most brave and the most clean people

[@JS-wp4gs]

its better to have loved and lost....than to engage in land warfare with russia in the middle of winter

[@lindybeige]

That is true of many things.

[@marcopellosie2779]

When lindy is your only reply for 2 years

[@Sam-go3mb]

@@marcopellosie2779 Hey you should've left them alone they had a thing going on. Oh well it's all 4 of us now, what's up squad.

[@normalcitizen_1]

@@Sam-go3mb make it the 5 of us, I’m good currently building a trébuchet, wish me luck

[@figo3554]

Let's hope it doesn't happen soon

[@greyareaRK1]

For a moment I thought there were answers in the back.

[@lindybeige]

That would be a much more useful book!

[@aeroplain]

Lindy uses the sombrero to MISDIRECT his viewers from the 3-in-1 Multi-purpose Oil product placement in the lower righthand corner! I feel betrayed by my perfect lover already.

[@fourthaeon9418]

Bs

[@jatsantsa]

this video was sponzored by 3 in 1 multipurpose oil

[@BenjaminEmm]

For all your sombrero needs

[@tofuchicken2]

more on that later

[@neilhillis9858]

Spicy!

[@feartheghus]

And non-name brand sombreros.

[@JimFortune]

About the sombrero: And it's beige.

[@sparetime2475]

Jim Fortune it's lindy-beige

[@JimFortune]

Sparetime 247 No, it's sombrero beige. Lindy is the man, not the hat.

[@alfatazer_8991]

In this video Lindybeige contemplates his hypothetical soulmate. His Lindybae? *LINDYBAE!*

[@Wingedshadowwolf]

Alfatazer _ LOL!

[@alanlodge7429]

LINDYBABE?

[@tallthinkev]

Death is easier to deal with than betrayal in my personal experience.

[@yoavshati]

Doesn't sound vey fun

[@kingbranden1369]

Generally speaking problematic living people are more troublesome than your own memories of a dead person.

[@Stettafire]

I've found it easier to forget someone who was unfaithful. Eventually I can kind of tell myself 'ah well, they didn't care about me anyway, stuff them!' But when someone has died it has hung over my shoulders like a pile of rocks. Much harder to deal with.

[@mjbull5156]

Barring suicide, death is not a choice, betrayal always is a choice.

[@blackdeath4eternity]

+tallthinkev necrophiliac? sorry lol.

[@MadNumForce]

I knew Lloyd would answer YES to experience perfect love for a few months. I know I'd prefer never to meet her (or him, who knows). Because: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loss_aversion I'd much rather avoid a crippling pain of unknown consequences on every other aspect of my life than experience 6 months of bliss. Compared to these 6 month, every other relation will lack passion, and I would live them as Ersatz of the blissful gone relation. The partner would feel that she's only filling a gaping hole, and not even filling it well, and this would doom the relation from the start. On the other hand, I've never known bliss, and it seems it didn't compromise my ability to live and enjoy live. I can do without absolute bliss. Actually, I'd rather have the chance to carefully build a partial bliss but long lasting, than gambling my whole life for 6 months of pleasure, possibly compromising my entire ability to ever feel happy again.

[@jabrwok]

Infidelity is the worst betrayal IMO. Not only is it dishonesty, which we all hate, but it calls into question the paternity of the children she's already borne for you (if any). Sexual exclusivity between husband and wife reassures the husband that his wife's children are his own (absent genetic testing, men have no way of knowing whether we've successfully reproduced or not), and thus gives him an emotional and biological investment in the future beyond his own lifetime. Infidelity steals his legacy from him and divorces him from the future.

[@Wingedshadowwolf]

jabrwok And guys(or gals) fucking around can bring in STDs, some of which can go unnoticed until it's too late or passed to the children during birth.

[@mrurquhart9138]

The trouble I find with the scenario in which your partner would die is the fact that you potentially set yourself up for a life in which every relationship that follows would seem unfulfilling and lackluster. Think about it for a moment, if this 6 month relationship is the MOST SATISFYING (as is stated in the question) then naturally any romance following that would be less satisfying by comparison. You would find yourself comparing every future romance to this one, thus being forever tormented by the fact that you will never have a romantic relationship like the one you had for 6 months. It would also make it nigh impossible to simply move on given the fact that every future romantic relationship will be a reminder of the perfect romance you once had and now can't have.

[@lindybeige]

I see your point, but the same logic would mean that I should never see the best film, or eat the tastiest food, or listen to the best music.

[@mrurquhart9138]

May I begin by saying I am honored to receive a reply from you! and reply by saying that sure we could replace the word 'relationship' in the question with the word 'food' or 'film' or 'music.' My point is that whatever stimuli you choose to replace it with the end result would be the same. If you were only allowed to have this "best experience" for a limited time then when that time is up, you would lament it's absence. If we play by the rules of the question, then this "best experience" is the best there ever was or ever will be in it's respective category. We would break the question and render the exercise pointless if this "best experience" was replaceable with something else. Thank you for reading my ramblings!

[@figo3554]

Basically Flowers for Algernoning yourself

[@tomstafford7510]

Mexican Beigeman!