questions and answers: my 5 year relationship, dealing with regret, and why you won't see my baby

[@TheCottageFairy]

I’m sorry about the background noise and the constantly mischievous kitty! ❤ I can only imagine home life will be more disruptive in the future 😂 but I did my best. Sending much love and light.

[@allrightallrightallright1919]

A playful cat is always a delightful bonus and enhances any video. 🥰🐈

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

I’m sending love and light to you as well, Paola! ❤❤❤

[@tanyajohnston8262]

I didn’t hear back ground noise and kitty is cute

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

@@tanyajohnston8262 I didn’t hear background noises either.

[@catherineleslie-faye4302]

Blessings on you and your family. Working within your local environments needs is always for the best.

[@KarenSharin]

When Luke looks at you I can tell how much he adores you . I'm glad you are keeping your sweet baby to yourself . Mamma instinct .❤

[@Sally-nse2]

There is a lot told in a look ❤

[@tekla5487]

Very good decision to keep your child away from the internet! Too many people don't realise how important that is!

[@anette2050]

Where I come from (Austria), people don't generally show their kids online at all, so to me, it seems very normal and is definitely a good decision!

[@katiel1979]

Realize

[@tammy8050]

'Was I helping or hindering my journey forward?' Wow!

[@KristenMcNamara]

Sending love your way Paola, you’re such a gift to this world thank you for sharing your light with us. ❤

[@youtubeShortsCenter]

Being introverted and talking so well !👍😊

[@mialorenzen3538]

Loved your video today, thanks so much for sharing!! 🎉🎉❤❤. Blessings to you!!! ❤❤😊😊

[@mivvymakesmusic]

You are far from boring, Paola! 😄

[@mmd9976]

I respect you a lot for choosing not to show your child online. You are respecting your child and that is being a very good parent.

[@kiara4345]

Protecting them from the Internet, 100%

[@rsmith4407]

Keep your baby away from the internet 100%. For as long as possible generally too! We should stop being so naive about the many many reasons why everyone should keep their lives private and their children’s image protected.

[@mordie31]

I misread this as "body" and still agreed. 🤣

[@emd5095]

I have raised 7 children over 33 years, my youngest is 10. I agree 💯 to keep your children off the internet as long as possible. Also, consider homeschooling seriously

[@WisdomClarity]

I think she can decide how she wants to live her own life. 😂

[@penny6254]

Yes, keeping your baby out of your videos is a very responsible choice.

[@anna_m59]

@@WisdomClarityshe already decided , people only agreed ..

[@captainpharaoh]

No need to explain why you're not putting your child online. As a parent, I completely understand and relate. You share enough of yourself with all of us and we're lucky to benefit from that. You deserve privacy, and I think your child will be lucky to have you two as parents.

[@WabiSabiStories]

That cat is absolutely adorable! 😍Such a cute and fluffy addition to an already great video!

[@TheCottageFairy]

She likes to keep things interesting 🤣

[@safronthinks]

😂😂

[@Gwaycee]

The kitty and bunnies are the main reason I watch this channel. 🐈🐇🐇😊❤

[@safronthinks]

@@Gwaycee really...????

[@Gwaycee]

@@safronthinks Really. I love little animals. Darcy, her rabbit, was the one who actually led me here, RIP. I have two kitties myself, a mommy goat, and some chicks. 🙂

[@marianl3447]

I TOTALLY LOVE that you thought enough about your child to NOT put him on public view online. ..and you have the integrity to make you choice no matter how many people would expect and want to see him/her.

[@wendygaonach3908]

I agree wholeheartedly with your decision to not put your child online. I used to sign papers each year for school to keep my son out of public photos. I think it's a safer idea as well.

[@greatbigbeautifultomorrow113]

That's a great decision. My son is over 2 and we have never posted a photo online of him. I don't agree with it. They can't tell you if they want to be exploited or not. Us as parents have to protect our children. I cringe when people post their labor and birth videos that baby is a second old and already strangers have seen them. We have to be the voice for the voiceless. You never know who is viewing your photos, what they can do with them, etc. It's not safe.

[@Schweinehexe]

@@greatbigbeautifultomorrow113it's very scary

[@bethyoung4030]

I agree too. Yep I signed at school as well as at the YMCA that I didn’t want my kiddos photo shared.

[@juliejackman2649]

I hope you show him once so we can see what he looks like. No one could take him after just one showing. 😊

[@Sabouma28]

she just said she will not show him... @@juliejackman2649

[@lisab9734]

I so appreciate that you don’t have ads during. I wouldn’t mind an ad at the beginning. But I’ve unfollowed so many people who put adds in between as it ruins the flow of some of the channels that are like yours. I come for comfort and calm. It would ruin the flow

[@NicolesGardenNS]

You should know that ‘we’ don’t place ads in the middle of our videos, youtube does it automatically.

[@WhimsicalCrochet]

That’s mainly how they get paid tho… I personally have KZbin premium because I didn’t want to watch ads, but i still want the creators to get paid. Before I had premium I would watch ads all the way through, it’s the least we can do for those who put hours of filming and editing into their videos. Highly recommend premium if you don’t want to watch ads!

[@basicallyno1722]

@nicolesgarden are you really pretending creators don’t have control over ads playing mid roll? If you don’t know this then you should dig into your settings.

[@VinnieJo]

Thanks for sharing! I remember bringing my newborn home, sitting down in a chair with her thinking…now what do I do?!! Everyday will be an adventure, and somehow, you will figure it all out as parents! Agree with not sharing baby on social media. I love your videos. They are so calming for me.

[@TheStoryOfNicoletta]

Paola, you and the background are like a piece of a painting we see in a museum, very beautiful. Several friends of mine from a bookclub started following your channel, too. Sending you lots of love from across the sea.

[@MoonFlower52798]

Yes! And I love that gorgeous lamp! It goes so well with her vibe!

[@2Elkhounds]

yes, you are right about that....screenshots!

[@MadonnaGrogan]

Like a Vermeer painting

[@KKinda808]

"Observe don't absorb." WOW! Never apologize for keeping your child safe. That's your job as a parent. Living life on line in whatever venue can be unsafe physically, metally, and emotionally for adults. Children should not be exposed, in my opinion. Thank you for this video.

[@flytyer2728]

In regard to navigating a relationship, especially between spouses, my friend's daughter came up with this great saying: "To disagree without being disagreeable."

[@juliahurford9722]

She's very wise 👍

[@createone100]

Not a unique saying. Sorry.

[@fairyfarms]

@@createone100 but an intelligent one 😊 especially coming from a child

[@YMoon-cn3un]

It was Martin Luther King Jr's saying, or maybe even older than him

[@michellepelkey51]

I adore your decision to protect your child. You’re already a wonderful momma bear.💙

[@justjudy7320]

❤ couples are meant to be joined at the heart not at the hip❤

[@bryonmacpherson1470]

I always wonder what your next video will be about. What a wonderful chat with the Cottage Fairy! Thank you Paola. Well wishes to you and Luke on your journey to parenthood. Congratulations on 1.5M subscribers!

[@ManuelaChristina1]

I totally agree with your decision to not show your little one here online. Your cat is so cute 😊

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

I'm supportive as well. I would do the exact same thing if I was in her position.

[@Motherhubbard170]

"you did the best you could at the time" There is tremendous healing to ourselves when we 'absorb' this truth, the one time it is beneficial, even if we have to hear it from another person. Those words healed me of unbearable guilt that I could not have lived with many years ago.

[@jillychandler]

I was never blessed with children in my 18 year marriage - but I opened my own private nursery school for 3 to 5 year olds, and loved every minuet of it. I leaned so much from the wonderful children in my care. This was back in the 80s, and I always wonder how all the children that came to Woodpeckers Nursery School, in Rackenford, Devon, England, are doing now. I am sure we can all understand why you do not want to put your child online. Wow, you now have 1.5M subscribers, congratulations on that, and on the upcoming wonderful life you two will have, meeting your baby for the first time. Blessings and love, from Jilly & Madge the rescue greyhound, from West Devon, England. xxx

[@ruthsdyspraxiacontent]

Ah, Devon, England! My home county :) Love a lot of things about living there

[@jillychandler]

@@ruthsdyspraxiacontent Yes, I agree with you. I lived here for 18 years as a married person, then got divorced, moved to Oxford for about 4 years, but came back to Devon to live in 2006. xxx

[@ruthsdyspraxiacontent]

@@jillychandler Yes, I like the idea of moving around too and have lived in Cambridge for 3 years which I loved and then Reading for a bit which I also enjoyed.. but Devon is unique and wild and is somewhere I'm proud to call home :) It's great that we're both watching Paula who is so far away! Take care x

[@jillychandler]

@@ruthsdyspraxiacontent Yes, she is such a lovely person, both inside, and out - so beautiful in the true sense of the word. xxx

[@gracemccoy2874]

Mavi! What a ham 🥰 Ive spent the last 3 yrs of my life rewiring my brain. Doing yoga, meditating and learning as I age (im about 20ish yrs older than you 😉) that i need to get rid of negative thoughts and energy in my life. Life is short and when you look back and think of the time you spent thinking negatively or beating yourself up over stuff in your brain it truly is wasted time. Time you will never get back. You are letting those negative thoughts win and they dont deserve that prize! Absolutely not! Enjoy the lives we have been gifted and dont waste time on negativity, its never prosperous. 💕

[@ameliajasmin3688]

I completely respect your reasoning to keep your new baby off of the internet. I don't even share pictures of my child on social media anymore. You're absolutely correct, it can be damaging to have them on the internet for the world to see. We are all flies on the wall of your beautiful story. I will be happy with what you choose to share. Much love from the Oregon coast. ❤ ❤❤❤

[@lisab9734]

Completely agree not showing the bubba. I had a blog for years- my boys were only ever shown from the back and I didn’t use their names either or share things like school etc

[@martineklaassenpepler5321]

Your personal choice not to share your precious baby is to me totally fine. Loved your video today ❤

[@CrashBoomBang78]

I adore these little sit-downs, it feels like having a conversation with a friend. ❤

[@msherie943]

Paola, your video was delightful……as always! Sending love from the Midwest. You are such a beautiful inspiration. ❤️🌸

[@roseyherber]

I was so hoping we wouldn't see your baby, as much as I love looking at adorable little bubs, I just don't think it's healthy in so many different ways. Great choice 🩷

[@lindafrazier8799]

Glad your fur babies are in your videos. Understand about your baby. Glad you are well!

[@indigo_diary]

For the privacy and safety of your child, I am glad to hear you won't be sharing their face online

[@seasonallifestyle]

Congratulations on your baby! Such a blessing and a beautiful journey ! ❤❤❤

[@roserosa8276]

I had to rewatch the video about three times and probably will watch it again. You look fabulously beautiful and the music, gorgeous back light and the view is pleasant to see. The cat stole my heart so playful in it’s little world. I am delighted to hear about your life story and experiences the happy and sad moments and that’s life for all of us. I adore your work and wish you always the best in life. 🌸 🌼🌻🍄🪺

[@katem3961]

I was just so pleased but not surprised about your decision not to put your baby on your channel. Like you said, a hand or foot but not their little face, etc. You are totally entitled to your privacy despite being on YT. I really admire your choice to protect your childs privacy too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Such a beautiful video 💛🧡🤎

[@seriouslywhatever1031]

Good idea to not put the child online. I wouldn't have them in videos AT ALL. The internet is a very dark place sometimes 😬 not all faeries are kind like you. And tbh I'd rather see the cat... 😅 I love these little chat videos ❤

[@melodysnyder5278]

It makes me so happy that you will not be exploiting your baby on this outlet. So many influencers do. A child 16 and under cannot consent or have the ability to consent to dangerous predators and AI. I hope that the laws that are about to go into place will help all these children to be safe from such predators. Have a blessed day.

[@christymason8253]

I believe "observe, don't absorb" will become my new mantra. Such wisdom from such a young person! I feel blessed to see these videos from an old soul. Each video presents something new for me to contemplate. Love the "icing on top" that your kitty, bunny, and puppy provide! 💜💜💜

[@tedpreston4155]

That has become a mantra of sorts for me as well. I wasn't surprised to hear Paola use that expression in the same breath as she praised the effect of meditation on her life. One of the most common forms of meditation encourages us to be aware of the thoughts that intrude on our consciousness when we're trying to focus our awareness on something else. We can learn so much by examining the sort of thoughts that our minds pester us with, without judging ourselves over having produced those thoughts. That sort of observation is invaluable for understanding how our minds work, subconsciously, and how often our repetitive thoughts represent emotions that are not "honest": they too often represent feelings and judgements that are not based solidly in reality. Observing those thoughts teaches us that we should not absorb them. Many of our thoughts simply don't serve us well, and we are happier in the end if we recognize this unhelpful tendency of our our minds. I too appreciate Paola's wisdom. I wish that someone had taught me these lessons when I was her age.

[@DistinctiveThinking]

I agree with your choice for your child. I have found it rather sad when a new baby or child is constantly exposed to a camera in their personal space. I am of the opinion this is really unhealthy. There is nothing wrong with taking pictures or filming family with moderation. But these days it seems a camera, iPhone, TV is what so many parents put in front of their little ones to pacify. ❤

[@ABJK-ds4wq]

Feeling safe and respected, well put. I’m going through something with a family member and this hit close to home. Thank you 🧡🧡🧡

[@BobRoyAce77]

One of the greatest treasures of raising my sons, and homeschooling them, was recapturing the wonder of life. It is so easy to lose that wonder, as adults. The way that the children repeatedly marvel at the new, and especially beautiful, things that they encounter, is truly infectious!

[@donnaj.1634]

I agree with no showing babies or children on the internet. Love your videos 💜🙏🏻🕊️💜

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

I have a KZbin Channel as well. When I have kids of my own one day, I don’t plan on showing them on the internet either. I respect and support Paola’s decision. 🧚🏽💙

[@donnaj.1634]

@@WoodlandFaerie0610 I just subscribed to your KZbin. 😊

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

@@donnaj.1634 Really?! You didn’t have to do that. Thank you!

[@donnaj.1634]

@@WoodlandFaerie0610 I t looks like a beautiful channel 😊

[@williamjameslehy1341]

I am disregarding the part where you work a full time job and live in an HOA. In my headcanon you live in a thatched cottage in a forest clearing, and you're married to a woodsman with a pet elk.

[@morrigans_cottage]

I think it’s really healthy to keep your baby offline, you just never know! Also just wanted to say your videos are shot so beautifully I love watching them

[@yvonnebirch6026]

I love how you view little children as magical developing little humans discovering the world. Your child is going to have lovely parents ! This was a such a cosy video. Thank you ! 🙏💕🌷

[@unikreations2258]

“Observe and don’t absorb” is such great advice. It really helped me deal with my current unstable emotional ride. Thank you and stay wonderful and beautiful.

[@sunflowersoul8461]

Every time I watch these videos, I get so emotional for some reason. I think it’s because the world we live in, is so fast and chaotic that seeing someone else thrive at a pace that is more natural and grounding is so humbling. We were not meant to work ourselves into the ground. Thank you so much for sharing your story. My bf and I are really struggling with communicating right now about what we each need/want. The codependent part of me, wants to just agree without setting boundaries, bc that always feels safer.

[@HannahMitchell-Art]

Holy mackerel! You have 1.5 million subscribers! Wow congratulations!!! 🎉🎉❤❤

[@tedpreston4155]

It's wonderful to think that we have a million plus kindred souls out there, who think that Paola is worthy of a subscription. There's hope for our world after all!

[@HannahMitchell-Art]

@@tedpreston4155 so true!

[@sharaniramesh1943]

I am so glad you won't show your baby online! So many families make that mistake and I am sure it is harmful to the child when it grows up. There are a lot of studies and other kinds of research going on right now about babies who grow up always being shown online and growing up in front of a camera and so far it is not looking good.

[@themermaidtree1144]

You have such an innate talent for wisdom for such a young person. Not showing your child is a very safe and sensible thing to do. I might also advise to not say their name, maybe their initial or a nickname as well. FYI, my ex-husband was a famous commercial textile artist and designed your two afghans! It was fun to see you enjoying his designs.

[@patriciamoran9143]

How marvelous! I was just admiring the design when I read your comment

[@ellensantos1493]

Hi from Brazil!!!🇧🇷 I just wanna say that i loooveeee your work, I watch all your videos, since quarantine they have been like therapy for me. Thank you for sharing magic, hope and humanity through your inspiring videos, I love you so much and I wish you the best❤

[@Kathiewinkle]

Glad you learned all these important lessons about abuse when you are young. Your platform is very important to hopefully spare many from abuse and hopefully the individual is able to feel worthy of love and attract a gentle soul…!

[@barbaraelco2988]

You are such a sweet beautiful person❤ you are also articulate and wise beyond your years..loved your book also. I love the calm simple beauty of these videos and seeing your artistic talent. I really enjoy watching these even though my style of decorating,creating,living is different in some ways( I'm more of an old world renaissance style..rustic,italian elegance) but still this all resonates with me because you are authentic,creative,passionate,and wholehearted and share how YOU are doing that! So thank you and God bless you and your family❤

[@ktsls82]

I think you are so wise to keep your baby private. I started watching vlogs many years ago when daily vlogging first started. Three families featured their children. I watched those kids turn from normal children to performers for the camera. They became self conscious and were always thinking about how they should act. It really is not a healthy situation. I applaud you!

[@mdmcgee]

"I did the best I could with the information and resources I had at the time" is the healthiest mantra especially going into parenting. My second favorite is "This is temporary." Every time I struggled as a new parent I sought some sort of fix or technique to solve an issue with my little (from gas pains to sleep) only to realize later I simply just needed to comfort and wait for her to come through this growth spurt or physical maturity etc. There is so much information out there and people wanting to sell you workshops or "solutions" to perfectly normal childhood experiences that just require love and patience. I personally found all the information quite disconnecting from really getting to know my children and attuning to their unique needs. Information always changes and giving oneself grace and room to grow as a parent (even apart from that wealth of information) is so vital. ❤

[@jwilliams2545]

@mdmcgee. Lovely comment as you are one of the 20% in America who has a family that isn't dysfunctional. A true fact: 80% of American families are dysfunctional. Want proof? Just read the comments on channels like this one! Sad but true.

[@kaiju_k5042]

I have a 3 year old son and this advice is GOLD

[@mdmcgee]

@kaiju_k5042 little ones are so pure and genuine and NEW. I found that I needed to grow and change in the early years more than I needed to try to train or force my littles to fit into some sort of prescribed mold that would somehow magically make it all "easier." It simply is really hard for a while. You lose a lot of ease and comfort. But it does all come back with time and all the tremendous joys Paola talks about looking forward to makes it absolutely worth it. Its good to remember kids eventually burp on their own, go potty on their own, feed themselves, sleep through the night, etc. when you're exhausted and overwhelmed with these things in the moment. It's temporary. I've found some of the hardest things in life are absolutely the most worthwhile. ❤️

[@kaiju_k5042]

@@mdmcgee Making me tear up here

[@ЭстелиЭн]

Absolutely! Love and patience are the most important things in parenting... Unconditional love❤

[@trippin414]

The intro of the video, those objeçts are one of a kind... ❤ Beautiful!

[@artsyladie7]

Nice little chat and love the cat and needlework atmosphere! Glad you are well resting quietly today.🐈‍⬛🧵🪡♥

[@TheNaturalMtDew]

I love and respect your choice not to show your baby on your channel. It's important to protect your children. :) Really enjoyed hearing you answer questions while working away on your sampler. It was like drinking tea and chatting with a friend. 💕

[@wolfman3295]

Dear Paola, you are such a Cottage Fairy gem and Luke is your perfect gem partner. Your relationship advice is so wonderful too. I love that you need to protect the privacy of your soon to be baby. Your videos have helped so many of your subscribers too. Thank you so much for all of your sharing.

[@ainhoaherrero2560]

Dear Paola, I really like your company. Your words reflect wisdom and a positive outlook on the world that have really impacted how I see things for the better. I cannot thank you enough ❤️

[@courtneyawalsh]

Very smart to not show your baby on the internet!

[@sableeve5796]

Your setting is so calming and soothing

[@tedpreston4155]

That's one of my favorite parts of Paola's channel! Happily, it runs in her blood: her brother's channel is equally soothing! It even extends to her fans. I can't think of another channel where reading the comments is as uplifting as the videos! 🙂

[@andreamayne3509]

Everyone of us must do what feels right to them so as to have no worries or regrets. I am sure your baby will be beautiful and I look forward to your stories of motherhood and all the fun moments that brings.

[@jennyc1846]

The question " why did you decide to become a mother"? ....what a very private and personal question to ask a stranger, to ask anyone in fact... all the best to you and Luke Paola for the safe arrival of your first child Im sure he/she will grow up much loved in your wonderful family❤

[@Uapa500]

Same goes for "Why won't you become a mother?". They are indeed private questions.

[@denisebell3435]

jenny c of course this girl is on the internet exposing her inner thoughts and life why not ask her that question .. she is always complaining about being tired, sick this and that normal that she does not sound healthy. so why not ask her. kids are not bunnies or cats or dogs they are human

[@jennyc1846]

​@@denisebell3435 Actually Denise I haven't visited this and many other sites for a while because I got sick of the depressing' whoa is me attitude' on many of them. I have more than once suggested to Paola that she should enjoy the life she has and to stop looking back on all of her past misery (a lot of folk have baggage but they don't bring it up at every opportunity). Told her to stop dwelling on the negatives. There are enough young people out there these days who seem to thrive on this negativity. They need to toughen up!! Seems to me Paola has an awesome family, fantastic husband and extended family, lives in a beautiful part of the world in a lovely home built for her by her hubby and FIL she should have nothing to be miserable about...and she is expecting a baby. She works in a book shop not a sweat shop life is pretty cushy I imagine. That said, yes she puts herself out there on the net but she also deserves the privacy to not talk about some things if she chooses. None of us would like our private personal lives out there for all to see, just because they use FB, Twitter and god knows what else...I hate social media!! Have a great day and cheers from Western Australia

[@denisebell3435]

@@mmecharlotte yes i agree wholeheartly .. now a days one wants children for benefits only not really knowing that you come last and your children come first. so i respect girls that think twice before bringing in chiidren to this world because i just want a child ... . they grow nuts after birth and take it out on the child or partner.

[@juniorchavesopicassodeyahu988]

13:19 You look beautiful in that outfit. My crush would look cute in it 😘😍I love her braid hairstyle. Imagine Dua in a braid hairstyle like that. She would look cute in that outfit too

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

I think your crush would look beautiful in it too! ❤️

[@kagging.9782]

You are soooo soothing! Love your videos, thank you!

[@lilsheba1]

I miss these days sometimes, especially with my oldest child. That girl is now 34 years old...and the time went by so FAST!!! It can seem hard at times but in the end the time just flies by.

[@ljshaw8516]

Amen to you for giving respect to your little one. I would expect no less from the Wonderful Cottage Fairy. Rest, refresh and relax. You are growing the miracle of life. x's, lj

[@kimberlyholt2241]

Whatever you choose, everyone should respect, although it is exciting and lovely to admire and watch kiddos grow! I know he'll be intrigued and raised loving nature as his mommy! 🦋🌻🌾🌿🍀🍃🍂🍁

[@ayidas]

You are radiating confidence and assertiveness, Paola! Loved this video ❄️

[@TheCottageFairy]

Thank you! Took several years to get there 😅 I’m trying and I appreciate your kind words

[@MarisaAndChew]

Paola, when my kids were little I kept their images offline except to share privately, I made that choice bc of their father having had been abusive as well as his family. Once my kids were older and had a say, they were okay with pictures to just be "private" not for the whole world. So i never shared publicly and i even messaged the school one time for having photos of my kids online when they knew it was a risk to them bc of their files at school saying as much. The school promptly removed and apologized. Now my kids are 21 and 19 and both of them have extremely private social media. The only photos I've seen of my son online were posted by his gf on her facebook, with his permission (they've been together 3 years and respect each other very well). I have seen photos of my daughter online that she has posted to be open and I wish she hadn't as in them she was often partying etc and looked the part but she was an adult and what she was doing was legal for her age where i am. I think it's great that you plan to wait and at least not make this channel all about the baby, of course you can discuss raising a baby, parenting choices and so on and not have the baby be part of the videos as well. So many KZbinrs get a HUGE influx of subscribers when they announce a pregnancy and then they get a bunch of gifts (which you said you experienced) but then those same people are mad when people don't do birth videos and baby videos etc and it's sad and even a bit ummm gross(?) that people subscribe to intentionally follow a pregnancy and delivery and then the baby growing up. I get it, its money for the mom but the types of people are not necessarily good and the fact that so many do feel ENTITLED to see the baby and get the details is proof that they don't actually have the wellbeing of the mom or child at the forefront of their mind! Sadly, a lot of mom bloggers who began to realize that not everyone was there for the right reason and decided to not show their kids anymore, or to show them only if they were running through type of thing, lost a lot of viewers and income and that is really sad bc it just proved that were often watching for the wrong reasons :( I am happy you are already planning to give your baby the respect and privacy it deserves. !!!

[@123canadagirl]

Your cat is beautiful! I have two cats as children since I wasn’t able to have children. You don’t need to explain why you want to be a mom. Whether someone wants children or not is private. It hurts when I get asked why I don’t have children snd they assume i didn’t want them. Your art is beautiful as well. Love your channel! I’d keep my child off the internet too. God bless you and your husband and soon to be child. 😊

[@zenlife321]

We love the kitty …don’t edit out …🐈‍⬛❤️🥰

[@johndej]

Your comments about working with children sparked some thoughts for me. As a retired elementary teacher, I've had the joy of knowing many of my kids as children and as adults. This has been the greatest reward I could have ever asked for. Regarding your baby, you've made the best choice possible. Even though people would love to 'be involved', no one has the right to do that without your permission. Thank you for another wonderful video. I wish you good health and lots of rest!

[@aglowinthedarkunicornsilly5943]

I almost cried when you began describing why you want to be a mother. I am a crybaby but it reminded me so much of how much my mom took care of me; and was really a steward for my growth. I still look up to her so much everyday because being her daughter is a gift 😭

[@SassySue67]

Totally agree with your decision to keep your child off the internet. Your videos are always an inspiration to me.

[@MS-bs8dd]

The silent You-Luke part. The way he is self contained is everything for us empaths ❤

[@andypandy-qz5om]

I'm so glad you won't be showing your little one on the internet. I knew you'd have the maturity and wisdom to guard your child's privacy. Wishing you and your family good health.

[@EnglishCoach3Ts]

I love this video. I would love to see your baby and I totally respect your privacy and your baby's privacy. Many best wishes ❤

[@rianneshirley01]

sending love and light back from the Netherlands❤

[@marieb4]

So glad to hear you've decided to keep your little one offline. Very wise decision. Wishing you all the best. ❤

[@lisab9734]

That lamp and the embroidery! I want! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@bethyoung4030]

I love that lamp!!

[@MelissaDong]

Thank you for sharing. Well said. May your family continue to flourish in all that you do. I’m so happy for you and yours. Also, you are such a blessing to me. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. Sending love and hugs. ❤🤗

[@Isladepatmos-hr5zn]

God bless you and your husband

[@lianeabeyta4515]

As a 70 something grandma... I have always felt fascinated by little humans. I grew up with all girls in my home. Dad was mostly working so it was me, my Mom, a little sister and an older sister. We were close as there was only 2 years between each of us. But since I was surrounded by girls... I found boys the most interesting, I envied people with brothers. I thought that must be so wonderful. So I had a son , who is now 51, and he gave me 3 grandsons!!!! They are now 29, 19 and 3 years old!!!! I got all my boys and found their growing from babies to young men, to fathers the most fascinating journey ever! My favorite artist is also Beatrix Potter and I loved Tasha Tudor. I love the textiles on your chair and lap blanket. The colors and patterns are soft and beautiful.

[@mountainviewvintage386]

It’s why I loved being a nanny, I got to go to work and play like a child and get paid pretty well for it ☺️..well I taught them a lot too though lol

[@simonjenkins1533]

Paola, greetings, my dear! From across the pond!! Please don't forget me/us. Bless you. Sx

[@WoodlandFaerie0610]

I'm so happy you mentioned Beatrix Potter. I love her work with the Peter Rabbit and friends stories. I do also adore A.A. Milne's work as well. I love childlike stories that take me away from the complex world we live in and transport me to a place like the Hundred Acre Wood, Mr McGregor's Garden (I hope I spelled his name right and if not I apologize), Hobbitan, and so many more.

[@priyadarshineenath8159]

With love, from India! 🇮🇳 ❤

[@louisealderman9385]

Never apologize for cats, they are wonderful. We are in the first time in our marriage catless (except for a beautiful grey kitty that won't let us get near her, but is willing to let us feed her). We will be getting another, soon. I also want to say that I agree with not putting your baby in the public eye. Your job (one of them) as a parent is to protect them. If you make anything for them, I'd love to see, but it does not have to be ON the child, like clothes, just hold it up.

[@GaryM-algorth]

Perhaps you have mentioned this before..but could you please give the name and brand of your green wall paint color?

[@debjh]

Hi beautiful Paola! This was such an insightful video. I agree with all you say, and keeping your baby’s exposure to the very minimum is wise, on social media. (Although my grandma heart would love a peak, someday!) Your sweet kitty has upstaged you at times, my cat loves it when I embroider, ha! Hey, a question…I want to paint the same color as your background here. May I please know the brand and the color? Thank you so much in advance..🌿🌱🙏🌱🌿❣️Never mind! I found a short where you said it was Beher Paint, Forest Path! Awesome….

[@dorofork1040]

Loved your explanation for having kids - it resonated with my heart. I have 2 kids and it's a tough yet rewarding and amazing journey. Also, thanks for sharing all your little projects - I just ordered the silk painting set from one of the last videos, because it looked so relaxing. I used to paint on silk as a teen and liked the idea of spending some relaxing me-time without organzing all the utensils again ;).

[@pianokeys71]

Becoming a mother has been the best thing I’ve ever done. Wishing your little family well.

[@comicolini1912]

Thank you so much for sharing. I also feel like you. Learning to observe and not absorve. I´ve been watching you for a whole year ( and maybe more) and I can see how you have changed throughout your videos and not only that I recognize changes in myself. That thought made me happy. Looking back you were the perfect company for the process I´ve been living. Thank God and you of course for being brave and keep opening up your heart. I would love to learn that from you and find new ways of being courageous and offer what I was given. Sending my love, Có from Argentina.

[@catherinejustcatherine1778]

I am so glad that you picked embroidery & allowed cat content!🐱🌻👑 I may be the only one who enjoys &/or appreciates it, but, I genuinely do. I support your right to privacy, in any amd every aspect of your personal life. Being a content creator shouldn't mean that one must expose themselves to public view or criticism (beyond their chosen content.) So, thank you for sharing what feels right to you to share: your life, thoughts, and love.🌻🧡👑 Best wishes to you and your loved ones.

[@tedpreston4155]

You're definitely not alone in enjoying Paola's crafts and pets! She reminds me of my favorite parts of my own life!

[@melissablackwell9692]

Careful with the kitty and the thread! My cat was able to grab my thread and needle right out of my hands! and took off with it under the bed. By the time i got to him, he swallowed the thread and needle. This led to a very expensive surgery. Apparently, they can pass the needle, but the thread can tangle around the intestines. Just sharing because it happened si quickly and unexpectedly. Love you!

[@AFluidRealiTea]

The photo/video idea is a good one. I remember being irritated when people wouldn't post photos/videos and now I understand why. About ten years ago, when my child was born, I posted many photos in many places. Since then and over the last two years, I've taken them down from all the platforms unless they only showed the backs of heads, hands, or feet. I ask before I share photos, which gives my child some agency and privacy. Sometimes my child *asks* me to post or send a photo or to edit with an emoji over the face and then share. When I share sports photos, etc., occasionally, I add emojis over kids' faces that aren't my family. This is what I wish my loved ones would've asked about before sharing online or in photos on their walls, etc., and my child appreciates having a choice as they get older now as well, especially with AI lifting images and people using kids' images in unsavory ways.