QUESTIONS I'VE BEEN AVOIDING| my divorce, co-parenting, single mum stigma

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[@aneesahm4301]

Yes, pick wisely sisters. If you see red flags in the beginning DON’T IGNORE THEM.

[@amalabdisamed8523]

I'm single mother for the last 5years,with zero help from anyone else,I can feel you 💯

[@jawariarazaq8220]

Same

[@intissar25]

I am single mum with 4 children and no help and no family in this country 😢 That’s super hard and my ex-husband making my life even harder.

[@milkywayxoxo852]

Allah make it easy for you ameen yahrabul almeen

[@zebibaasani7131]

From what I I’m experiencing I I’m so proud of you 👏 not easy but better have peace of mind

[@KaltounHag]

​@@intissar25 I was single mom in UK with 2 kids lkn I left after 4 years back Home couldn't handle during coronavirus.

[@wafaalmohanna5927]

I’ve been a single mother since my daughter was born and she’s 25 now mashallah. All I can say it was the best decision of my life and things get much easier as they grow older alhamdullilah ❤

[@emahenecia4660]

What did you do to support her? Work or funding from organizations?

[@user-uk2ki4iy5m]

How was her mental health as a young girl 2 years -5years was she okay. I heard children with single parent household can grow up with issues

[@gailainsley6939]

@@user-uk2ki4iy5m. Everyone can grow up with issues. If the home isn’t peaceful it’s even worse. Better for mother to be alone with peace, than to subject her children to trauma. It has an effect later on.

[@wafaalmohanna5927]

@@emahenecia4660 I worked and she started working while studying at the age of 16 years

[@wafaalmohanna5927]

@@user-uk2ki4iy5m her mental health was as normal as any child. She started asking me to get married at 9 years cause she wanted a sister. That’s when I stopped working and focused on her. I had saved enough money to support us from the years before. Which made us very close to each other

[@ColorfulLifestyles]

Hi abaayo. I was a single mom once with 3 kids and Alhamdulilah. I did it, and I just prayed each day and asked Allah to make my path each day smoother and easier. So insh Allah may Allah make it easy for you, and that one day you will look back and say dayum. I don't know how I did, but I did, and now it's over.❤😊

[@CeeCee113]

She’s 💯 right when she said be extremely careful and prayerful when you pick your life partner or father of your child or children!!!! You don’t want to be stuck with a narcissist or a useless unsolicited sperm donor!!! Learn from our mistakes and be very careful, prayerful 🙏 and wise. Stay blessed

[@ikramt.8602]

I loved how you say "it's okay to be not okay". That's self-love ❤ May Allah SWT help you and your loved ones become stronger: spiritually, mentally, physically, everything

[@gigi5507]

I've been a single mother for ten years; however, I'm not divorced. It's complicated, and I’m in the dark. He doesn't want to divorce me, and yet, I’m doing 120% of everything: working part-time, children, rent, and bills. I'm dying inside, but I will never show it to my children. No help from my family. May Allah (swa) help all mothers and give all husbands guidance, Ameen

[@Youtubeisdecent]

You can apply for a kula and the imam can force him to divorce

[@Ms.4ever33]

Ameen! It really is SO hard. May Allah make it easy for you and me both 😔 no one knows the burden and the feeling of 'stuckness' one feels when they're neither married or divorced unless they're going through it themselves. It's so frustrating. Ugh.

[@NSahal2024]

May Allah make it easy for u sis ur amazing mother 😘😘

[@AC-iw5mv]

May Allah help you out of this unclear situation. If this is you on your picture, oh my you are stunning mashaAllah

[@istarhabeen]

Take him to the islamic court and the normal court. Few months withour providing for you is enough for you to get divorces without giving him back the meher.

[@tofytisa6576]

Alot of stigma around divorce in most of east african communities its shocking. Wish you healing in this journey. You are brave and strong. Yes build your tribe.

[@Hanna95000]

Not really, tbh. Somalis don't stigmatise divorce much, it's extremely common for divorce woman to remarry even when they're old. No one really bats an eye lid at it.

[@faebalina7786]

I think East Africans are actually one of the least to stigmatise divorce yeah there is some stigma and naturally lots of nosiness but it’s not deadly like in some cultures which has pros and cons.Asians from sub continent I think stigma is pretty severe and in comparison Somalis are quite good in understand divorce is not the end of either of their lives or reputations.

[@182non]

@@Hanna95000 Agreed , original comment must be talking about other east Africa countries?

[@daisybee5943]

East Africans marry divorce, marry divorce many times. It's normal for them. They don't do long-term marriages. They are known for this and don't care.

[@rohimabegum8623]

I am so happy you both are co-parenting. Some women use the kids as weapons and play games, not letting the father have access and see the children.

[@AAYZFN]

Thank you for sharing your story Zeinah. Allah does not put us through anything more than we can bear - stay strong, you've got this! I've been a single mum to my son now for 7 years. His with me 99% of the time. For 3 years, I had him with me 100% with no support. Alhumdulilah it does get easier, so keep going forward ladies - my ex lives next door to me with his new family since we broke up. Remember, no one can break you when Allah is blessing you ❤ some people will try to destroy you, but Allah will build you right in front of them. Keep your faith strong and have sabr ❤

[@pakola131]

Sis, Allah grant you and your kids happiness and health. Have followed you for a longtime and enjoy your content. Honestly, those of us who have been here from the beginning are happy you are happy. We don’t need the in’s and out’s just happy to see you thriving xxx

[@Habibatalarab26]

I am going through divorce as well. I have 3 kids, u are right be careful who u have kids with, true colors of the other persons shows.

[@nicolewirgau6620]

I understand the nosey people must be wayyy tooo much 😢. But i was just like omg how awful for her. I couldn't imagine the struggles of co parenting or divorce, but also the bravery to walk away from a toxic relationship, not to just stay because you don't want a divorce & to raise ur children by urself. Ive watched from the very beginning. Lots of love. keep going

[@Z.Nuriii]

Dangers of putting your life online, you get some nosey people and haters, sadly. I guess they have to expect that when starting social media.

[@cookingcorner5263]

It so so sad to hear that a beautiful family with such a beautiful children went apart. Live still surprises me 😔 when I started watching you I would never believe that after few years they will separate. Even after one of your previous videos I hoped that both of you just living apart for a while and you'll be back together. You are very strong person and as adults I am sure both of you made the best decision for you and your children ❤️ you are right it was meant to happen and it happened. There are lots of families who struggle, it affects their children's lives but still don't have that courage to free themselves.

[@bintenawaz534]

Yes you are right .i am on the same position that I want to apart from him or may be some point he want that aswell because of kids specially my 5 year old daughter we are together.she loves both of us together all the time..I am struggling from last two years,because of kids I can’t take this big life decision.i am not saying he is not a good father he do everything for kids but I think he want better wife then me…..and most specifically I don’t want lose my kids.they are my 17 year of hardwork.

[@hamsahassan5788]

Asc hooyo when I heard you story to be honest I cried, Cause you was beautiful families,. Insha'Allah everything allaah's hand .I know my somali mother's they're very strong mum and love they children .

[@newwineskin5494]

Same 😮😢.

[@AuntiBiBi_MiMi]

I love the long cleaning videos, it's motivation, gives me great ideas and different people do different things that might benefit me or not.

[@jinitabunsi6743]

You're looking absolutely stunning!! God bless you and your kids ❤❤❤ it is never easy, but you got this, sis !!

[@abubakarhabibat2907]

It's been almost 2 years of my divorce too and it's getting better, Alhamdulillah as you said counting current blessings go a long way, my kids are doing amazing too.

[@asmaidris]

I am a divorcee too and I have 4 children, it’s hard but I learned over the years to trust in Allah and not a human being, children are humble and caring alhumdulillah. We can form our own community sisters

[@MMM-z2d]

Single mums are the strongest and most loving people and rarely or never get a break!

[@s.razzaq7254]

Sis I don't mean to be rude but people will ask all questions because u chose to put ur life out there

[@Lovely-z8b]

Zeinah Nur is an amazing, strong, smart & unapologetic Muslim woman. Please make dua for Palestine, Congo, Sudan, Muslims in Myanmar, India, Yemen & Syria.

[@AyeshaRameez]

When i watched your videos then i was definitely curious but knew it wasnt my place to ask. I could see you had seperated but i feel so sad to know you are actually divorced now. May allah make it easy for you and your family.

[@56789jazz]

I’m a single mum and I’ve never been happier.

[@shahinhasham9645]

I'm single parent but I'm not alone allahsubhantallah is always with us it's with his will that we go through this life so alhamdailil smile live breath stop asking someone else woes to make you feel better send her dua saying may allahsubhantallah grant you strength and happiness. My sisters its okay to feel hurt just be there for them to lean on . I think this sister is gone be okay alhamdailil ❤❤❤❤❤

[@doribala4964]

Thank you so much for your honesty. Really appreciate it! Also thanks for your good advice about criticism ❤ may Allah always protect you and your kids ❤

[@commontator2270]

Sis can you please talk about the whole multiple wife topic if you can. I’m going to be separating from my husband who’s been having secret affairs for the past few years which I just found out, and they’re all women who were willing to be his ‘secret wife’. Devastated is not even the word right now I’m so hurt, everything was fine between us and even though he’s apologising now and saying he will change I can’t get past this heartbreak and the way he treated me during this time and neglected our 3 children while spending time with these women. I don’t even know how to leave, where do I go and stay with my 3 kids? What do I do? Lots of duas needed please and may Allah give all of us the strength to get through this for our childrens sake.

[@razamughal4582]

This is the result of women preventing four marriages. They have made themselves WORTHLESS.

[@supersleepymedic]

I’m so sorry to hear this. May Allah give you strength to deal with this difficulty. SubhanAllah these men have no restraint and use Islam to fulfil their desires while not realising how serious of a burden they’re placing on themselves. And how do these side women willingly participate in such is beyond me. May Allah protect all Muslimahs and grant ease to those going through such suffering ❤

[@fatimakoor5127]

Allah guide you dear sister. Polygamy is allowed in islam but Allah didn't say wives has to accept it. If you feel like you can't rather leave. It's more detrimental to kids to stay in these types of situations so don't stay because of them. They might be happier with 2 separate honest and happy parents then 2 living a secret life. May Allah grant you the strength to make the right decision In Shaa Allah

[@mondrella627]

@@razamughal4582you need the permission from the first wife, if she isn’t okay with it then you can’t marry more. Also this should be discussed before marriage and you can write in the nikkah contract that you don’t want to. Also he kept it a secret, He didn’t even discuss it with her.

[@safiyap4085]

May Allah help you dear

[@timai9089]

Your makeup is stunning 🥰 thank you for sharing your journey

[@cookingbakingandeverything5750]

You look beautiful Maashallah 😊Shukran for the life update. Shukran for also using your platform to speak about Gaza. Wishing all the best for you and your boys Ameen.

[@asifaqureshi4650]

Always wait for your videos 😊 May Allah SWT protect you and your kids from All the Evil eyes Allahumma Aameen🤲🏼

[@alexandrasaini582]

You look gorgeous with a printed hijab, especially aqua blue and peacock green/blue 💙💚💙💚💙

[@sarakhan677]

Can you make a video on red flags in a relationships? How to choose wisely?

[@HidaRafi]

That’s a very good Question. Especially for those who don’t know what a healthy relationship should be like…

[@noreenbi9079]

I don't think there is no right or wrong answer . U don't really know any1 until u start living with them . Then u find out the real person . Cos before that they could act like they are all nice . And will promise u the world . It is very scary .

[@roxyngeorgie]

Allahumma barik. May Allah protect you and your children

[@farzanamalick1233]

You look amazing & your doing a great job with all your going through

[@aminah761]

May Allah make it easy on us Im a single mom of 2 daughters too . Allahuma barark

[@shaidasadiq959]

May Allah swt make your journey easy and may your daughters be the coolness of your eyes ameen 🤲🏽

[@gawaskitchen]

You are a beautiful person Zeinah im happy you doing well sis Alghamdulilah,May Allah make this new journey an easy one In Sha Allah❤

[@ZaraKhan-c4r]

It’s sad what your going through we all go Through tests and trails in this temporary world Pray for Gaza

[@LearningWithMaryam]

You look beautiful MashAllah 😍. Thanks for this video. I wish you all the best in life Ameen. It's hard when you love someone but they continue to make the same mistake that literally involves you daily. May Allah guide us all Ameen.

[@hajira5013]

You are correct sister pick wisely who we gave children with out mothers and aunts should give us these advice too.but sometimes too they carry on their unhealthy unhappy marriages and have lots of kids end up bitter in a mess and depression and resentments

[@SalRaj-ex9fs]

Thank you for sharing this video. I think it has come as a shock to a lot of us. I’m happy to hear you are co parenting. That can help you have your time too. I just wanted to ask was your marriage bad all throughout or did you have some good years? ❤️

[@-God-Is1]

Hey sis… do you listen to the digital sisterhood? SOOOOO GOOD and 100% perfect for mom walks ❤️

[@MC-vd5kp]

I wish I could do my scatf in such a beautiful way and also have such a beautiful scarf to begin with! It's so stylish!

[@NBegum-ug7vp]

Sorry to hear your divorced sis. May Allah SWA make it easy for you & the kids ameen. Sis I used to watch your cooking vlogs for years on yt. Alhamdulilah like the way u plan meal days etc n the way u prep freezer food too. Your a good mum please remember this. Remember me in ur duas please 🙏❤😊

[@safiahanif7012]

Salaam Zeinah. How are doing ?i wow U are going through this but are motivating us shukran. I am just in awe of you. Keep going Allah SWT is with you x

[@neviamuktar]

Subhan'allah i wonder if life of social media effects marriages

[@Qurbajoog]

Love the honesty Zeinah ❤ I see you getting hold of things. Everything is qadr I am happy this day was a good day for you. May it get even better inshaAllah. Allaha yamacaka ❤️

[@maishaqureshi5124]

Can you do a makeup tutorial because your base is looking flawless!

[@sadiyoyasin9890]

May Allah make it easy for you

[@kamilah5621]

I truly agree where you're coming from. People who try to shame others for things that's not really as important as the hurt going on ard the world 🌎🌎

[@shaznaakhtar8751]

Sending you a big hug 🤗 and duas 🤲🏽🌸 keep smiling sister 🫶🏼 so happy to know your in a good place Alhamdulillah, we all have our ups and downs but it’s how we overcome that feeling or thought that makes a difference. Thank you for asking how we/I am 😂 alhamdulillah not great but can’t complain 👊🏽

[@rkbeg80]

Those floral hijabs were around 2010 era... are they making a comeback???

[@gemmaraheem2493]

They absolutely are ❤ zeinah is a trend setter Masha Allah, Allah huma barak.

[@somerafahad4091]

I love you to bits and test us by all means we don’t know what. May ALLAH give you courage and strength to carry on.

[@nasikiwamgaya205]

May Allah make it easy for you 🤗🤗❤️❤️ You inspire many Muslim women 🥰 Allahumma Barik.

[@staytrue4094]

Amazing advice for all the single sisters mA

[@halimandagire2716]

Yes zeinah am a single mum but trust me Allah is here for us

[@ayaan8877]

I love you for the sake of Allah ❤ you’re honest and I love the boundaries you set! Xbty Allahs got you! Keep doing you ❤️

[@gundegakrumina9393]

Lots of love. You are amazing, never forget that

[@wakanyoninyaga]

Sending you all the love

[@JemilaSeman]

Good to see you ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Kamina-pw9tl]

Yes sis pray for Palestinians congrats on choosing yourself 👸🏽💕💕

[@marwa3605]

Please do day in the life vlogs after school and daily routine with meals and snack ideas

[@JambeSianga]

So cute how you pronounce privacy😂💓preevesee im so used to saying/hearing pryvessy😂

[@Makecookinglookeasy]

My favourite UK based 😊 KZbinr ❤❤❤

[@-God-Is1]

I would love a Somali vlog or Q&A. I know best to nothing about the people or culture, but you are such a lovely part of our ummah and I would like to educate myself. JAK ❤️

[@roseprincess21]

N May Allah guide US all back to the straight path and fix our Salah and make it super easier for us allahuma ameen

[@ridhwanadam1103]

I like your honesty MashaAllah

[@hiba7170]

May Allah SWT bring you ease and with that ease may he grant you more ease. Mothers are the back bone of this world. You seem like an incredible mother allahuma barik💛. The haters can go eat rocks

[@rinabegum5856]

May Allah SWT make it easy for you! And Masha Allah I'm so happy to hear you don't care what 'people think!' honestly get a life to those of you that trool and want to know everything non of your business really! Work on yourself to create happiness within and Insha Allah help you! ❤

[@roseprincess21]

Talk about addition I’m struggling as a Muslim sister may Allah help me stop and never look back allahuma ameen ❤️❤️❤️

[@CoffeandTea1]

Take care yourself that all❤

[@domingassousa3389]

Absolutely 💯 ❤❤❤ love you girl❤❤❤❤

[@saeemamajid7066]

I’m become a single mother after 16 years of marriage with 3 children and my eldest is autistic

[@scarlettshara]

It's so horrible how some people have hounded you into having to announce your divorce. Why are they obsessed with someone else's life? They are not entitled to anything.

[@Sam-jh3xh]

Off topic, but where is the pic in the background from?

[@miaadam1574]

I think you’re respecting and honouring yours and kids (especially) privacy really well. One day they’ll get older and want to watch. Stay strong

[@MariamAAli-vm1yp]

Do you think if you got professional support from a Family counsellor or therapist then maybe you guys would still be together?

[@yaz6439]

Salaam sis where did you get your hijabs from mashallah x

[@szrx]

May Allah ease your affairs and bless you 🤍

[@tara-misu9749]

Alhamdullilah ❤

[@saniasania9670]

Pourquoi a t'elle divorcé je ne comprend pas l'anglais ??

[@SabrinaGulzar]

Its no1s business what you do in your life live it to your fullest and dont let the haters get to you We plan and Allah plans and his plans are the best all we can do is be grateful for what hes planned

[@ElArana1]

Why did they divorce someone please explain???

[@halbraun123]

I offer counseling

[@Badflyful]

What was it that made you divorce am curious, seemed like you were so compatible...

[@uok6216]

As curious as people are, it's probably best to not discuss further. Her kids will end up watching this vid some day and the truth may hurt regarding their father or mother. So let's let her keep the privacy she wants to children are involved in the mix. Also, lol we truly don't need to know.

[@somji09sabiha]

@@uok6216 So he cheated on you? :(

[@catherineirmak7046]

Be yourself always make your priorities yours. Being a mother is hard but doing it alone brings growth and challenges. Allah swr will never burden us with more than we can handle. I pray that you be comforted and get all you deserve in life. RESPECT you share only what you think is correct for you and your children. 5 children raised by single mum without support. Wouldn't change it for anything.❤ to you and those lovely babies

[@razninrahman9734]

It's hard, know allah knows the effort you make for your kids and he will reward you. Our kids are so clever they know more then you think

[@HodanJamal-ov1tm]

Asc abaayo guuleso farxad kunoola❤

[@angelaoliver2750]

Hello I do hope that Allah will bless you in all that you do. And I hope you keep your self well also you have two beautiful children 😊

[@Star-wh9lc]

You have be So🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thankful To Allah sis Other women Lose Their Health and Life in Age I,am So Lost 😭😭😭

[@FarzTurk]

Sending you lots of love❤ Please may I ask where the hijab from?

[@poisonedchalice]

What made you realise the marriage was over? What was the cause? You should do a video on red flags 🚩 May Allah ease your pain and suffering.

[@z-1il]

Keep going sister

[@Cauliflowera]

Ur soo beautiful sister x

[@sulekhaomar7890]

Wa alyakum salaam sister ❤❤❤

[@iamasia9820]

allhuma barik love your vedios n i pray that you get everthing u want in this life ❤❤❤❤ m watching you since 2018 ❤

[@rnadim8902]

Hijab link please

[@Enchantedforver]

Have an open mind to get back together..the grass is not always greener on the other side.

[@safiasaid1717]

Masha Allah beautiful video very useful

[@EverythingEman]

Sister, I hope you don't find this question rude or silly but what was your ex's nationality? I'm aaking because he didn't look very Somalian and wondering was it cross- cultural differences that caused the split?

[@monayusuf9761]

He is 100% Somali and he does look Somali

[@EverythingEman]

​@@monayusuf9761he looked very Pakistani or some other South Asian nationality to me...I'll have a look again 🧐 not that I'm nosy but I really thought maybe it's cross cultural. May Allah make it easy for them both whatever the reason.

[@razaanferris5771]

With all due respect...i get what u saying that there is a limit to your business..but you did broadcast that you are not living with your husband anymore so ofcourse people gnna ask questions...stop getting offended...if u don't wana answer move along...

[@MEME-r6x5c]

"People" have no common decency or respect anymore you wouldn't approach a stranger in the street so why would anyone think it's acceptable to do it online? Because they've crossed a line and don't have any clue about manners anymore

[@nazneenshabbir1730]

Hi, glad you are doing better than you where. Please can you tell me where the hijab is from. Thank you.