r/AITA Husband Used My Personal Trauma in a "Prank"

[@bradygreenberg6482]

That's not just approaching deal breaker behavior with that "prank". That has crossed the finish line, won the medal, and retired. DIVORCE. THAT. MAN.

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

It's his unapologetic gaslighting that cinches it.

[@angelfire67]

@@sylveonprince1498 What a horrible comment. Clearly you've never been severely traumatized and then had someone bring it up years later as a "prank."

[@ihategmailpasswords]

@@sylveonprince1498 weak bait, man. if you're gonna troll, don't suck at it

[@Minimiki1758]

​@@sylveonprince1498 rage bait

[@linda-0587]

@sylveonprince1498 Be quiet, manchild

[@FederalBurroOfInvestigation]

The MIL was mad over banana oats? They have a kid who wants to make banana oats as a snack, and that's the one that sends her over the edge?

[@JosieJOK]

IKR?! This kid sounds like she has a comfortable relationship with food, can regulate her consumption of snacks, and voluntarily eats healthy things. Plenty of people would love for their kids to be like that!! OP and her husband are doing a stellar job of raising their kid(s) and MIL hates it because…? (I think she hates it because it’s all about control-and she doesn’t have it.). OP is NTA, but husband needs to put his foot down with his mom; otherwise MIL will continue to brush off her behavior. She may still do that, but the consequences need to come from her son.

[@Emeraldwitch30]

This one pissed me off too. My mom was horrible about making us eat stuff we didn't like when I was young and I didn't do it to my kids. I get that I come from a huge family. Mom and dad 6 girls and one boy growing up so there were times we were lucky to have food due to my parents factory going on strike. We never starved but I donkinda understand. As we got older I started helping cook and make menus to help my mom take pressure off her from working and if I cooked I didn't have to wash dishes. But she did get to the point if we didn't like a certain dinner then we could have cereal or PB &J sandwich we had to make. Well my youngest grandson has food issues and so did my son. They eat well enough but certain foods just make them gag. My mom didn't want to accommodate picky eaters but then I brought up a point. Well I guess I'll bring over some of my yellow wax beans for Thanksgiving this year I have a bumper crop of them and they are delicious. She got upset and said oh ick I hate wax beans just bring green ones. I told her geez you just need to not be so picky and eat them. Basically throwing her own words back at her. It finally dawned on her that if she as an adult had foods she didn't like then children obviously do too. She's much better now about it.

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

The parents aren't doing things the way Granny CU Next Tuesday wants and THIS CANNOT STAND.

[@bibigamer502]

The grandparent is just upset she can’t tell her grandchild what to do

[@ResidentMilf]

I'm not DEFENDING her behavior, merely EXPLAINING it. During the great depression, most people were of the mind that wasting food was just about one of the worst things you could do, and many of those people passed that attitude on to their children and grandchildren. I had many friends (as late as the 90's and 00's) who, if they didn't finish their dinner, would have it for breakfast the next day. Their parents wouldn't allow them to have anything else until it was gone because they didn't want the dinner to go to waste. My husband's parents even did it to him, but he broke the cycle with our kids.

[@jleavs258]

Say it with me everybody. It’s only a prank when both people find it funny.

[@iamdb1990]

I'd say it's only a prank when it doesn't risk the lives of anyone and it's literally harmless

[@kbowman772]

I would say if it was conceivable that both parties would find it funny just to allow for certain jokes just not landing.

[@Ashdenise2290]

Exactly! The husband was playing with OP's trauma which is a red flag and a no go. He shouldn't have said op was overreacting when she was crying, he should've helped console her and apologize, not op, it could've caused her to go into early labour too

[@adamb89]

@@kbowman772 Or also if the other party can't do jack squat about it, since you may as well have fun at that point.

[@michaelcook6288]

No. You can't make me say it.

[@kylakylix]

I just can’t believe she apologized. And that he didn’t immediately comfort her and say no it was def my fault. But what can you expect from a guy who’d do that in the first place? Masking outright cruelty through the lens of a prank/joke shows despicable character. I hope OP realizes this. If he weaponizes her traumas against her, his partner, how could he even hope to be an adequate father?

[@hollytheanimalcrossingfan]

@@kylakylix that husband, hopefully ex, is more childish than her.

[@YourXavier]

>>I just can’t believe she apologized I can, because it's quite likely that this is only the latest in a long line of boundary-pushing behavior from a guy who is steadily becoming more and more abusive. This isn't the first time he's done something sh**ty and blamed her for it, and it's not going to be the last.

[@sophia18883]

With her thinking she needs to apologize, him thinking it was an okay prank her like that and the rest of the way she phrased everything, it’s a pretty obvious that he’s done pretty terrible stuff before/doesn’t treat her well and she’s not able to see it..: I feel so bad for her

[@pauldwalker]

husband is gaslighting wife. i’d question how abusive husband is to the wife in day to day things.

[@ashh4929]

​@@YourXavierI was just coming to say this. She had to apologize because "I've been known to not take a joke"? I definitely have to wonder just what these "funny jokes" consist of. I'm just sorry she's stuck with this prick now.

[@Hybrid301]

That prank could have gone so wrong. What if OP had fallen in her blind panic and it had seriously hurt her or the baby. Maybe even worse if she’s that far along. No wonder this guy has to date borderline children. He has the maturity of a middle schooler.

[@HereWashThis]

🙄

[@fireson6]

I'd say if he really think it was a "harmless" prank, go to a filled movie theater and do the same thing. He'd see how "harmless" it truely is

[@whitneybennett4857]

Maybe that's exactly what he was hoping would happen.

[@destinedtogame]

@@whitneybennett4857 he did marry a not fully developed adult as a fully grown man child

[@Emeraldwitch30]

I'd be out cuz that was cruel and unnecessary. I have PTSD after a car accident which has been made worse because of my ability to pop out of anesthesia during the middle of surgery. It's happened 3 times during surgeries to fix problems from the car accident. We were driving down a shortcut dirt road and had a suv full of teen farting around coming around a bad blind curve on 2 wheels and our side of the road. They missed us by inches. I had a complete breakdown and had to have my hubby pull over so I could throw up. Before this he knew I had problems with cars and driving and close calls before, but he said he didn't quite get how involuntary this disorder can be. It took years of me having to drive because I wasn't driving during the bad accident even tho it wasn't my husband's fault. A teenager ran a red light. Doing 55 😮 he pushed us into oncoming traffic where we struck 2 other cars and stopped by hitting a phone pole.

[@Manorbis]

Story 1: the traumatized lady apologized for getting overwhelmed and the absolute douch didn't accept the apology.....

[@bibianaguadalupeislasherre9880]

She needs to get divorced ASAP.

[@stevenandcarminabeedle9089]

Yeah screams that he traumatizes her in other ways. People in abusive relationships have a habit of apologizing for their partner’s despicable behavior. This wasn’t the first thing, and won’t be the last. It was just significant enough for her to question it. AFTER she apologized.

[@VicGeorge2K6]

What does she need to apologize for? This man scared her half to death with his prank. Her reaction is understandable. It's the guy who needs to apologize big time for acting like an AH.

[@Manorbis]

@@VicGeorge2K6 she doesn't, that's not what I meant... I mean that she thought she needed to, and did, then the piece of crap didn't even accept the apology, as if she went too far. But he was 100% in the wrong, 0% her..

[@shadowmewfred09]

Husband: its just a joke bruh Yeah you being a good husband is a joke op this is abuse pure and simple tell him you take back your apology, throw him a middle finger then divorce him

[@sigisoltau6073]

Why stop at one middle finger. She's got two right? Well give him the double middle finger.

[@marshawargo7238]

I think that she will start to see the light, when he starts on her child. A lot of people will overlook abuse aimed at them but when it comes to their children, NOT😠Happening!!! I hope that he hasn't alienated her from family or friends who can point it out to her in a way that she can see Before that happens😢!!!

[@nils920]

Story 1: That ”prank” isn’t a red flag. That’s a strobing warning siren! And I’m saying this as a prankster myself. NTA A-F!!!!!

[@sigisoltau6073]

A siren head?

[@nicholasemjohnson47]

As a prankster, what would you say are the appropriate levels one should do pranks?

[@nils920]

@@nicholasemjohnson47 For starters, don't use a person's trauma as a base for the prank. And certainly not when that person is pregnant!

[@k3upikachu]

Yup! And another red flag is how she mentioned how she's "trying to be less sensitive". That makes me think he makes shitty "jokes" a lot and has convinced her that she's just too sensitive whenever her feelings get hurt. A man in his late 20s dating a teenager is always a red flag; he got her when she was young and the power dynamic from that affects her ability to trust her own reactions to things bc he's been able to argue that he's older so he knows better

[@Mr_Timi1]

Wow that first story was messed up... apologize to him? It's time to reevaluate this relationship.

[@hazelgrunts]

Second story: My mother had food withheld from her growing up. No foods with added sugar allowed at all. (So no candy, no pop, no fruit juice, nothing) On Easter, she literally got sugar free gum instead of chocolates. Her mother thought that it would help her to grow up to be healthy, but it actually caused harm. As a child, when she could sneak in some sugar, she did. It was rare and forbidden. When she was an adult living on her own, she indulged in sugar and became obese. Her mother’s plan backfired. This is why I hate food restriction. It only hurts in the long run. Kids need to have access to sugar in order to learn that having it all the time isn’t good. I love the mini kitchen idea.

[@TeroTheShortOne]

Yep, food restriction almost always messes up kids' relationship with food, and they're then more likely to develop disordered eating or a full-blown ED. Ask how I know.

[@emmathornley4745]

Yeah, OP is doing a fabulous job setting her kids up with a healthy relationship with food. And the daughter is learning early how to properly self regulate her eating

[@katie6731]

It really bothers me that the MIL forced a _five-year-old_ to stay up hours past her bedtime to eat until she vomited. I can't see that as anything other than abuse. It's also ridiculously counterproductive. The child might have developed a taste for fish as she got older. Now, it will be forever associated with that terrible experience. (For me, it was barbecue potato chips. Even the smell of them still turns my stomach, and it's been nearly forty years.) It will likely also make the girl reticent to try other seafood. Even _after_ what MIL did by forcing her granddaughter to eat until she vomited, the abusive hag _still_ destroyed the child's property. I wonder what MIL would have done next, if the parents hadn't gotten home when they did. Would she have returned to forcing the girl to eat the remainder of the fish? Would she have made the kid eat something else, or punished her another way? Would she have threatened her granddaughter with further abuse if she told her parents what Grandma did to her? What was MIL's gameplan? "Welcome home! I abused your child by forcing her to eat 🐠 until she vomited. Everything I did went expressly against your specific instructions and your broader parenting choices. My behavior is bound to cause a significant disruption with your daughter's trust of your rules, her willingness to try new things, and her overall relationship with food. And I did all of that for her own good! None of my actions had anything to do with my humiliation last night, when you contradicted me in front of your child by making me give her granola bar back. Now, you may shower me with praise and accolades!"

[@Starfloofle]

That mini kitchen idea is so cute and just absolutely psychologically brilliant. A lot of kids get thrown into adulthood not knowing how to care for themselves cause they never had to as a kid and this is such a healthy way to balance teaching independence with the care a kid actually needs.

[@Jacqueline_Oat]

Oh yeah big time, I'm trying to make myself eat closer to healthy each day because I always think of chips and sweets if I'm snackish instead of anything else because gas stations and such are always closer and often cheaper

[@silverflight01]

Story 1: Triggering PTSD is not a joke, Jim. A prank is if everyone laughs, not if only the prankster laughs, otherwise it's bullying. And yeah, he could've caused pregnancy complications, bet that didn't cross his mind

[@Nightdominia]

Yup. Prank is a single big rubber cockroach in the laundry, not a fake fire alarm.

[@TheOneMadHawk]

I just googled a bit and apparently this prank may be "up to 10 years in prison" kind of funny (Germany). Which is not funny at all. (Although it is unlikely to receive that high of a sentence in this instance)

[@Nightdominia]

@@TheOneMadHawk probably because, if done in a public place, it can incite panic behavior and stampeding. I would rate this "prank" as probation, bare minimum.

[@FletcherDoesStuff]

Accidentally triggered my CPTSD yesterday, can confirm, NOT FUNNY

[@Azzne-]

If something had happened, I bet he would have blamed it on her

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 2:MIL basically broke your fridge,So she owes you a fridge now And MIL is a very disrespectful person,NTA

[@lorilancaster5917]

And the little kitchen was only a problem to HER. Honestly I think she should’ve gotten kicked out the moment she snatched a treat from her granddaughters hand. However I’m also familiar with this story since I’ve read it before. MIL was being a bully and used the guise of good intentions.

[@pauldwalker]

the parents sound pretty wonderful. they are raising a well adjusted young woman. mil is a real abusive butthole.

[@RisingRevengeance]

@@sylveonprince1498 Being a contrarian in every comment is not the cool flex you think it is

[@lancerevell5979]

​@@sylveonprince1498Troll. 😒

[@CooperGal24]

“For your daughter’s own good”. Is it for her “own good” if the Monster in Law treats her granddaughter’s eating disorder like nothing? She broke the trust of the family by withholding food from her granddaughter, punished her for said disorder and purposely destroyed a mini fridge. And the fact she demands respect, but disrespects her own family, that’s a double standard hypocrisy on the MIL’s part! Get a lawsuit against her for the fridge and causing the daughter stress, then file a restraining order against the witch! At this point, she’s lost ANY chances of seeing her family again after that crappy stunt she pulled!

[@Im-Cyber]

Reading through the op's comments on story 1... It seems like OP might slowly be breaking out of denial of how bad this is. And I really hope she realizes it soon.

[@lostshadows768]

Story 3: OP should put that money towards a divorce lawyer. She should sell a bunch of the now ignored hobby items and put that money towards the bills, since some of it should have gone towards them in the first place.

[@MrDoverfield]

Why would any marry such immature man child? He’s treating his wife like he’s Mom. Thankfully we can call a spade a spade without deeply offending a power tripping mod unlike Reddit.

[@indigofeilds9520]

@@MrDoverfieldwhat? /genq

[@MrDoverfield]

@@indigofeilds9520 the mods over at r/AmItheAsshole will delete any comments with the slightest insult. Doesn’t matter if it’s a descriptive or even if it not directed to the OP the mods will delete. It’s the reason they’re so many similar subreddits because they allow open discourse and other subjects not allowed over there.

[@marcywu5005]

It's unfortunate that that boy, because men don't do that, literally only sees her as a piggy bank.

[@indigofeilds9520]

@@MrDoverfield ohhhh, the "you can call a spade a spade" thing kind of confused me.

[@cassandrafiscus9192]

For the last story, anyone else notice that OP mentioned being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, aka what was once one of the handful of autism diagnosis, and thus that this cousin stole from his disabled relative and then OP's mom covered it up in a way that made it sound like it's a-okay as long as the child who can't comprehend this type of action is the victim? As someone whose diagnosis was ALSO Asperger's as a child (what would likely be called Level 1 Autism nowadays), I could be lied to all day up until I was around 14 and not even notice, so that is NOT a good thing to do to someone who hasn't learned that people lie, people steal.

[@digifreak90]

Yeah, it almost makes me wonder if OP's mom is lowkey ableist.

[@DesertRainReads]

I agree 1000%, I was diagnosed as on the spectrum when I was 26, I'm 43 now. Cousin is a shitbag, mom is also no better.

[@michaelcook6288]

All kids are easily gullible. That's why they're called kids. Quit throwing autism into everything. If you go to a Dr they will diagnose you with anything. That's there job. If they cure you or tell you you have nothing wrong then you don't come back. Why is it that America leads the world in mental health issues and not by a small margin? Because everyone believes the dam doctors when nothing is wrong with them!

[@ciscodeer9094]

I can relate with the last story, my cousin stole $80 from my safe, this was twenty something odd years ago, but then forward a couple of years ago he burned my uncle on $40 on some cash app, sadly it's best we leave him alone.

[@teaoclock9080]

Yeah, that part was utterly wild. It's not ok to say it's fine to do wrong to someone that can't understand it, and it's an extra layer of messed up that clearly the mother knew that OP *did* understand it but decided that her kid getting screwed over was less important than her nephew's potential upset if he was disciplined for it. And it doesn't surprise me in the slightest that OP still holds mistrust for their cousin over it - one of the common traits autistic people have is a strong sense of justice, so they can't stand when other people get away with breaking obvious rules like "don't steal other people's stuff". It's not ok that the mother let the cousin get away with it back then, and it's not ok that she thinks OP should just get over it now.

[@Juju2927]

Typical "AH Prank" Behavior : Step 1 > Find the thing that would either act on their Trauma or Break expensive stuff Step 2 > Trigger their Trauma / Break their stuff Step 3 > Laugh at their face Step 4 > Realize they're either Angry or crying Step 5 > Be defensive and tell them to learn how to take a joke. Step 6 > Make a Self-Pity party to your entourage to have a wall to protect you. Truly a mature and healthy behavior.

[@hollytheanimalcrossingfan]

@@Juju2927 reminds me of the time someone posted really revolting pics on Google+ during a memorial. And then they got angry at me for not laughing and told me to "stop being so soft" and "learn to grow a spine and laugh a little" even though i wasn't directly affected by it, i know a lot where. All I'll say was that this was in December. Also what should I expect from a mod who let them post NSFW Pokemon trainer pictures and then call me a creep for calling them out.

[@silviac221]

It's narcissistic behaviour

[@cmorreira13]

Money grubbing husband: she needs to get out and away from that man. They weren't married long so get an annulment for financial abuse.

[@doomdayish]

A typical response from a woman. If it had been the other way around you would have said the husband needed to deal with it because that is what a man is supposed to do.

[@bigjalapeno7061]

Yep

[@silviac221]

How can she accept that situation, and even tell him everything about her finances?

[@botanicalitus4194]

@@doomdayishliterally nobody would say that if the roles were reversed. In fact, if the role were reversed EVERYONE would be calling the wife a gold digger. Stop playing victim its embarrassing

[@cmorreira13]

​@botanicalitus4194 no way, I would have said the same if it were the man with money, ect. In fact, in videos he has done with that situation, I said for dude to get out of the relationship.

[@ezelfrancisco1349]

Story 1: we don’t need OP’s backstory to know that the husband did is divorce territory.

[@hellefur7861]

This. Even without the PTSD, it wasn't a prank, just a distastefull cruel, on the Edge of double homo side.

[@BeeWhistler]

That’s really true. Remove the horrific past trauma and there’s still an entire parade of red flags. Include the trauma and it’s beyond disgusting to do what he did. I smell a groomer and manipulator. I hope Reddit gave her the info she needed to get out,

[@Mr_Timi1]

I hated being forced to eat things I didn't like and today I still have a lot of things on my list that I just will not eat.

[@hollytheanimalcrossingfan]

@@Mr_Timi1 there's certain foods i can't eat/ don't want to eat. The taste and texture of certain foods make me gag instantly. I've been told for years that it's all in my head.

[@DesertRainReads]

You and me both, OP in the 2nd Story is a solid NTA. MiL is totally TA, end of. MiL needs to pay up for the fridge.

[@frootsnacc6790]

And she actively said the smell of fish makes her *sick* That poor girl isn’t gonna trust fish at all

[@frootsnacc6790]

@@sylveonprince1498They’re raising her with enough autonomy to develop a healthy relationship with food; how many toddlers do you know get hungry and decide to make something like *banana oats?* That’s a pretty healthy snack

[@kentario1610]

​@@frootsnacc6790 "your kid is going to be fat if she can eat a snack whenever she wants!" The snacks: a muesli bar, fruit salad, single pieces of chocolate, banana oats Yeah, I am heavily (hah) side-eyeing MIL.

[@yilincai5873]

I knew where the first story was going, but my jaw dropped when she said she was pregnant like oh my lord I feel so bad for her

[@geistgrace6452]

Story 1:NTA OP. No. That's straight up emotional abuse, and leading into physical abuse. Apologizing to him is an AH thing. Why apologize to your abuser?

[@VicGeorge2K6]

She's NOT the AH for apologizing when there is no reason for her to do so. He's the AH for demanding an apology from her because he just can't see how his prank really affected her.

[@bigjalapeno7061]

Yea really

[@silverflight01]

Story 6: Well, the cousin never apologized for the theft or paid OP the money equivalent or anything that is him acknowledging that what he did was wrong and wants to make up for it, so OP has every right to not let him in. Maybe don't steal next time and people won't ban you from their houses for it. Also, shame on mom for siding with the cousin because "getting grounded for the summer would be bad for his mental health," how do you think OP feels?

[@bluestreaker9242]

As someone with Asperger's, myself, I honestly couldn't have said it better...err...myself. XD Apparently, according to OP's mom, if you have any cognitive disability whatsoever, you don't understand how theft works? Uuuuuh I'm pretty sure I can comprehend the dictionary definition, it's like, one of the golden rules of the social contract that we all learned as kids. "Don't steal" falls in to the camp of "Do unto others as you would have done unto you", it's not that hard to understand. If my brothers, who are on the more severe end of the spectrum, can understand it, then ANYONE can understand it, just sayin'. :3

[@soulgazer11]

Story 2: all 3 of the houses I've lived in as a kid had unhealthy behaviour with food. From experience, this is a recipe for eating disorders. Don't withhold food from kids. Don't force them to eat things they don't like if they've already tried. That's AH behaviour.

[@susangrande8142]

I totally agree with you! 💯 My mother had weird and contradictory ideas about eating: I was supposed to eat all the food on my plate, but SHE chose the amount I was “supposed” to eat, which taught me to eat past satiety, and then she was upset when I got a little chubby, and she put me, a 7-year-old, on a diet! 😵‍💫 That was in the 1960s.

[@kconway2263]

The MIL’s behavior can absolutely cause trauma if done repeatedly. I’ve seen it firsthand. Asking a kid to try something is fine, but forcing them to eat stuff they don’t like is not.

[@RealCoolstriker64]

@@sylveonprince1498least obvious rage bait

[@lancerevell5979]

​@@RealCoolstriker64 More like a typical internet troll. I've seen this over decades. 😮

[@SkunkApe407]

My folks had a rule about food. Try two bites of everything. If you do, you can legitimately say you don't like it, and move on. Made it real easy for me to figure out what I did and didn't like, and taught me to be adventurous with my food choices. With that and my time in the Navy, I've managed to try things most Americans have never even heard of. I can also walk into almost any kind of restaurant now, and almost guarantee that I can find something I like

[@jessicaconner1242]

Bro that “ joke” could have made her have the baby right then and there. And what if you fell down the stairs?

[@royaltyfreecoco]

Story 1: OP, girl, get outta there! That is NOT a prank. PRANKS ARE FUNNY, NOT TRAUMAIZING!! On top of being 34 WEEKS pregnant is DANGEROUS. NTA

[@sylveonprince1498]

Is a prank Op is a baby

[@lancerevell5979]

​@@sylveonprince1498 And you are a troll. 🤨

[@athf4ever780]

@@lancerevell5979don’t feed them

[@princessbeaniewiggle]

Story 2: That's a Montessori kitchen. Most Montessori households have one. It's great because it fosters independence.

[@maranathaschraag5757]

Wow - she treats customers badly and gets bad tips and then blames it on race. Self-fulfilling prophecy much? Not only does she not deserve a tip, i'd report her to the manager and post a very honest review.

[@seekeroftruth6728]

Sometimes, it doesn't matter how good your service is. Some people just have no problem stealing your services and taking money out of your pocket like you owe them something.

[@bryn1063]

I wonder how many black people actually overheard her and decided "naw you ain't worth my money" because it so easily happened to op here. Sure people don't tip but I've seen that from all races. To purposely treat a race differently like that that is terrible and she should be fired.

[@Sochi314]

​@seekeroftruth6728 if tips are optional, how is it stealing services? And just so you know, I am someone that always tips as I am aware of the predatory service industry for tip earners.

[@seekeroftruth6728]

@@Sochi314 If you're taking up a table in a server's section, when they might only be making $2.13/hr, and you think tipping is "optional," then you don't deserve to be in public. That server has to tip out a percentage of your bill to the hosts, the bartenders, AND the bussers. So they are literally paying to serve you at the point. What part of that do you think is okay?

[@Sochi314]

@@seekeroftruth6728 did you purposefully skip the part of my reply stating that I ALWAYS TIP and am aware of the predatory practices in the tipping industry? Restaurant owners don't have to exploit their staff and give an unlivable wage. Instead of coming up with this theory that someone is stealing by being seated, ask yourself why wouldn't the cost be added to your meal? Tips are OPTIONAL which is why the consumer has the choice on whether or not to add additional money to their bill. When you go to a restaurant, do you also ask yourself how much of your money goes toward the electricity, water, gas, mortgage? I'm sure you don't. When you go to a gas station, do you give more money to the cashier because you understand that a trucker has to bring the gas to the station in the first place? Be serious. I'm quite certain if you go out in public you don't spend $20 on your meal and give $150-200 tip because you know that restaurants are getting over on their staff and you look out for the hosts, busboy, dishwasher and wait staff.

[@Swnsasy]

Why is it we constantly hear stories in this manner and it's a HUGE age difference? He gaslit HER into apologizing TO HIM!!?? It shows he's programed her... This is disgusting and vile to do to someone you claim to love and whose 34weeks pregnant!! She could have fallen down the stairs.. What a low life POS...

[@YourXavier]

Exactly my thoughts. The fact that she went to apologize to him indicates to me that he's trained her to do so, quite likely through years of steadily increasing abuse.

[@bigjalapeno7061]

Yea I find age gaps like that weird

[@arirose5887]

For the MIL story: I would be absolutely furious if that happened to my child. My husband and I work so so had to give our son a healthy relationship with food. Food is always available, he eats until he says all done or more please, he wants a snack before a meal he gets it. Being a 2 year old he’s in a bit of a phase where he’ll throw from his tray intentionally to feed the dog a bit of his food. My mil hates this and takes his plate away and ends the meal when he does this. Luckily when I told her we as the parents don’t approve of that correction for the behavior it stopped. OP needs to cut that mil off from her kids if she can’t cooperate

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 1: He didn’t expect OP’s apology because he felt like crap for scaring her? Please whatever it is making OP feel like she’s somehow wrong for having a breakdown at the horrific behavior of her husband. Take it off of her so she can be understandably angry at that POS and stand up for herself. What if OP had slipped and fell down the stairs, or the panic did something to the unborn child? Will somehow make it she fault because you panicked for what you thought was a serious emergency? F that guy, OP needs to go until that butt-hole learns to apologize, and act like a f adult.

[@RealCoolstriker64]

The mom in the last story definitely deserved more than 2/5. $2000 worth of games don’t just go *vanish from their cases.* She wasn’t just failing to protect her child, she was GASLIGHTING her child and telling the rest of her family that she would *happily* accept that excuse whenever convenient. She’s *actively* enabling the abuse of her own child. Maybe not 5/5, but WAY more than just 2.

[@emzkinz]

That prank could have cause OP to go into early labor. It could literally have killed the baby. If she had fallen on the stair, it could have killed them both. 5/5 butthole. And thats before you add in the fact OP likely has PTSD from a house fire

[@bigjalapeno7061]

Oh wow

[@FeliksTheGoblin]

6:18 I have a similar story! When I was in preschool I hadn’t had all my allergy and autism figured out so I used to have big problems while eating. On that particular day teacher lady made me eat all of the soup I didn’t want to, ended up puking in it and being forced to eat it. Great way to start an eating disorder 10/10

[@heatherashby830]

Whyyyyyyyy

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 4: OP should have left, and call the manager for what she said. And No OP is not wrong for not giving that B-word money after her disrespectful and racist behavior. MIL is crazy to think you should have tipped her, being the bigger person does not mean being a pushover. And she’s lucky you didn’t call her out the second you heard her.

[@myrayglasgow6320]

@@seekeroftruth6728 I would disagree with you

[@seekeroftruth6728]

@@myrayglasgow6320 Tell me you've never worked in the service industry without telling me.

[@apolar0476]

​@@seekeroftruth6728So being openly racist and treating someone different for their ethnicity is fine because "wowee they don't tip well" really?

[@seekeroftruth6728]

@@apolar0476 It's not racist if it's true.

[@apolar0476]

@@seekeroftruth6728 it is racist tho? She literally gave her a worse treatment just because of her skin color also the worse tips might have a correlation with worse treatment towards black people which in turn comes from internalized racism

[@nyarix4838]

“Shows character” was her not paying for everyone’s meal not showing character?? She didn’t have to do to that 😭😭

[@Sochi314]

Her character was displayed with the suggestion. She's okay with someone being treated as less than due to any bias/prejudice.

[@oceanspace7671]

Waitress story: Thats when you leave a penny as a tip. My mother was a waitress for a long time and she said that if you really want to offend someone on wait staff then you leave them a penny

[@stevenandcarminabeedle9089]

Or write on the receipt TIP: don’t stereotype customers and give bad service. But I like how she gave that waitress the honest feedback she asked for.

[@sarahserenityqueen117]

I have severe PTSD due to trauma. My husband KNOWS better than to pull any ""prank"" that deals with my trauma because it will push me over the edge. OP PLEASE divorce him!! That's not a prank, that was abuse, manipulation and just pure cruelty in every form. You're not the @$$hole. Your husband is. Please divorce him and get full custody of your child. Because if he can do this to you, imagine what can happen with the child.

[@andrewlanglois6362]

1:35 Harmless Joke?? Sounds like your husband is the "Boy That Cried Wolf" to a fire. He's dooming the residents to a fire when it actually comes. He should receive some help 🙄😒

[@Zachcraftone]

As someone who was the victim of a house fire. Doing this as a prank is beyond evil, trauma is not a joke. Personally all I remember is my uncle yelling my name, I don’t even remember anything between jumping out of bed and leaping out the front door. What I can remember is the fact that I could see nothing and that it felt like a campfire in all directions. I may have not remembered the escape, but I do remember the buildup and the aftermath. Lost possessions, memories, the ptsd and depression, and that’s not even half of it. And I got fucking lucky as I nearly slept through it, anyone who shouts “fire” are just pure garbage.

[@WishGender]

my family had a house fire 2 and a half years ago and we were really lucky. All of our pets made it out alive (though we didn't have time to grab the cats since they ran and hid from the alarm, and it was just after midnight. luckily they were smart and went upstairs since the fire was in the basement and they were all safe when we managed to come get them the next morning. All 3 are still happy and healthy today). Because the house is an old build, the basement door was thick solid wood, and probably was the one thing that kept the damage from being so much worse. Even if OP wasn't pregnant and her trauma was caused by a fire more like mine, which is pretty good considering the circumstances, I would still say the husband is TA. Hell, even if she didn't have any trauma at all, it's still not a funny prank

[@bigjalapeno7061]

That really does sound horrible

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* I have an idea what the "prank" was when OP shared her backstory. I don't even need to hear the whole story to say OP is NTA, and she should divorce her husband AND seek full custody. If he thinks lying about a fire is a "harmless prank," then he shouldn't be trusted around a kid. *Second OP:* I like OP's and her husband's approach toward nutrition for their daughter. OP's MIL way overstepped, and she should stay at a hotel on her next visit if OP's husband invites her again. OP is NTA. *Third OP:* This is financial abu5e, right? Either way, OP is NTA, and she should divorce her husband. *Fourth OP:* Where's the "blowing up" part? OP said he wasn't interested and stated why. The woman's financial situation is not OP's responsibility. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* Setting aside the rac15m, the waitress gave OP and her mom poor service, and OP tipped her what she deserved. OP is NTA, and I'm side-eyeing her boyfriend's mom. *Sixth OP:* I hope OP also banned their "mom" from visiting their house, too. Both OP's mom and OP's cousin should pay OP $2000 total along with apologizing to them. OP is NTA. Lol, get out of my head, rSlash!

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 2: MIL would be paying for that mini fridge if I had anything to say about it, wouldn’t be an argument or conversation. Normally i’m off for the eat what you’ve been serve or starve rule, but that’s not what happened, MIL overstepped and your daughter and their barfing as a result of it. Some people truly hate certain foods and that’s OK, it wasn’t like she was refusing to eat vegetables. I feel a bit bad for the husband who’s stuck in the middle but even he gets that his mom most definitely overstepped.

[@JamesDavy2009]

This kind of reminded me of the Karen subset known as the allergy denialist-the type of parents/relatives that intentionally feed something to a kid that is allergic to certain foods and then pull a Surprised Pikachu when the kid goes into anaphylactic shock.

[@annabelfazukimi7902]

Fridge MIL deserves a way higher score, she messed with the child's food and basically made her throw up, that's fricked up

[@lorilancaster5917]

And she damaged something that she loved and helped provide her with independence. And MIL did this because she acted most like an immature child in this story and didn’t like not having her way

[@vicproductions7420]

Story 2: I could understand where the MIL was coming from if she just thought that the daughter was a picky eater and trying to get her to eat something healthier. I've had a couple of cases like that as a kid where my mom would basically try to sit me down and get me to eat my food or else no videogames. At the time, I begrudged it but now that I'm older, I see where she was coming from and she just wanted me to be healthy. If there was ever a case where I had a serious issue with the food, she wouldn't force it down my throat and if I couldn't finish the whole plate, that was okay too. The fact that the MIL was still doubling down despite making the daughter eat her food to the point where she threw up is nothing like what I'm describing though. Like, it's one thing if you accidentally assumed wrong and realised, "Oh fuck, I really messed up" and tried to fix things, give the daughter some food that she's okay eating and admit to your mistake to the parents. But no! She STILL insisted that she was in the right despite making her granddaughter suffer as a consequence and then, she thinks it's okay to destroy a fridge. Like, wtf???

[@ebonymondesir2587]

5th story: I bet if you ask your boyfriend's mother if she's willing to give a waitress a tip for talking crap about her behind her back she's gonna say,NO. But she's perfectly fine for lecturing you for not being a decent person by not giving a to a person who talks crap about you a tip. If anything you're just doing that waitress a favor. Which is teaching her a lesson not to pull that kind of stunt to the next person that she's gonna serve next.

[@seekeroftruth6728]

It's a well-known thing. The server's biggest mistakes were 1. Saying the quiet part out loud. And 2. Not giving them the benefit of the doubt. Every once in a while, you're wrong. It's rare, but it happens.

[@anonymouspatriotnetwork2740]

If the waitress honestly wants a tip you should give her one. Give her a tip on where she can find a good psychiatrist to help her erase her racism

[@timisme8360]

I usually agree with your ratings but this time, the pranking husband gets five out of five. My ex wife and I used to prank each other. Just silly little stuff, nothing over the top. But even so, we agreed that there were to be no pranks from the second trimester on because we know the dangers.

[@DesertRainReads]

Oh lord, my heart goes out to OP in story 1. Back in 2016 me and my family lost everything in a housefire, including one of my beloved cats. This was not a "harmless prank" whatsoever, this was borderline sociopathic behavior. Husband is a shitbag for this. I'm so angry for OP here. She's solidly in the NTA category. She needs to consider divorcing his ass. Husband is TA, end of story.

[@jeremyweaver9598]

I'm 47 and has always been incapable of eating fish. It makes me sick. I've always been this way. My doctor said I had an intolerance to eating fish. It's like an allergy, but minus the anaphylaxis. It's been annoying, especially during childhood, since my dad was a fish fanatic. Even the smell makes me gag. I totally understand the kid's aversion to fish.

[@kathleenmcconaha5608]

My SIL has same problem. I serve fish only when he's working nights and is gone by dinner time

[@Avrysatos]

I can't stand it either. the smell is so bad.

[@maris7457]

that was me with mushrooms. never could eat it. my entire life. family tried to force me to eat it, and it would make me violently throw up and diarrhea. so i'd refuse to eat it, and they would make me go to bed hungry. so there were several nights i went to bed hungry as a kid. as i started getting older it started giving me allergic reactions too, even just from the smell of it or touching it. they never stopped trying to make me eat it and cooking it around me, and the smell would make me have reactions. i had a secret stash of antihistamines that i would take to try and deal with it and would hide in the bathroom with the window open as much as i could. i also had allergic reactions to all nuts/peanuts, and they tried to make me eat those/sneak those into my food too. i had to be vigilant about knowing what was in the house and checking the food being served to me... finally learned as an adult that my reactions are caused by MCAS (i'm 32)

[@davido.1233]

Second to last story: A group of my friends in college went to a restaurant and their service was abysmal, from the server threatening to remove everyone's drinks because one of them forgot her ID (while the location was right next to our college, meaning the servers should already know most people who visit them are college students and therefore over 18 -- we're in Canada) to being late with food and intentionally rude. When it came time to pay, everyone paid separately and it soon became apparent no one intended to tip the server so she started hovering over people as they paid for their food to try to force them to tip her, like that was ever going to happen. TLDR, I had some friends have a bad experience and when they told me about it, I boycotted the restaurant for over nine years.

[@DeanDraxon8752]

Friendly reminder that forcing your kids to eat something they don’t want to, only results in them having a bad relationship with food.

[@wingracer1614]

Yep, which is exactly what the parents are trying to avoid.

[@destinedtogame]

Pranks are only funny if both people laugh

[@FeliksTheGoblin]

The first story is like waking a vet by shooting

[@Sus_pumpkin]

Or its like putting a Vietnam veteran into the jungle with gunshot noises and screaming

[@JamesDavy2009]

@@Sus_pumpkin Not made by Michael Winslow.

[@kippzthemudkip2652]

2:15 I lost everything in the 2011 wildfire season in Oklahoma it took everything this would be an instant break up

[@TypicalYouTubeBrowser]

Racist Server Story: Maybe Black people aren’t tipping you because you because you’re giving them sh!t service

[@ficialintelligence1869]

(Bonus) Fluorescent Red Flags from Orbit: I have seen this soooo many times; my father did this with my own mother. Your husband is controlling you. He is keeping _you_ broke, as a way of ensuring that he doesn't lose his meal ticket. You will never be able to build up a nest egg (or escape egg). I'm betting that he controls you in other ways. If the other tell tale signs are there: negging, back-handed compliments, acting pissy around you for no apparent reason, run ... don't walk ... to the nearest divorce lawyer.

[@WolfODonnelfan]

Totally agree. I would also stop paying bills like electric, water and so on if he refuses to pitch in.

[@nixthelapin9869]

2nd story: I think its such a clever idea to let your kid pick their snacks and teach them to regulate for the week! While we didn’t have that exactly growing up, we had a similar rule for soda- my parents noticed that my sister and I were liking it a lot, which concerned them for health reasons (sugar, teeth, etc), and instead of banning it outright, they still kept soda cans in the fridge, but said we were only allowed one a week. We could pick whichever day we wanted, but once we did, no extra soda cans. So, we learned to pick and choose. Actually, some weeks we’d even forget or choose not to have soda bc we got used to just having other drinks. I think taking it further with a whole snack bar is a great idea! (If you can afford it of course)

[@noniechong2000]

Story 1: Excuse me did that poor excuse of a husband *USED OPS PAST TRAUMA TO RE-TRAMATIZE HER AND TRY AND JUSTIFY IT AS A PRANK?!?!?* Story 2: Oh yeah forcing a *CHILD* to continue eating something and to the point of her PUKING- And damaging the child's fridge is just fucking bonkers-

[@JamesDavy2009]

Re: Story 2: MIL was nothing more than a relic from a bygone era.

[@Artretha]

I feel like the husband in the first story deserves 4 or even the rare 5/5. He not only re-traumatized his wife, he did so *while she was pregnant*! That could've sent her into labor right then and there, and that's the best case scenario! His kid isn't even born yet, and he's already abusing them. Don't even get me started on how triggering a trauma is abusive, too. And this doesn't just "approach" divorce territory; it's already *in* divorce territory. I hope she leaves him!

[@drakeiceheart8690]

Story 1. Run, don't walk, to the nearest exit. That husband is not very mindful, not demure at all. PTSD is not something to prank someone about and I doubt at this point in the marriage he wouldn't have know about the fire.

[@JosieJOK]

Oh, he _definitely_ knew about it; the OP said he did in her original post! This is definitely a FLEE, NOW moment!

[@Alila-30]

not very demure, very mindful... 😪

[@urgon6321]

Story 1: OP should apologize. She should say something like "I'm so, so sorry I've ever met you. Now get lost!". Story 2: great idea about snacks. MIL should pay. Don't invite her until she does. Story 3: OP, sell the gun, the RC car and anything else he doesn't play with anymore. Sell the e-bike, once he gets bored with it. He probably won't even notice. Get a divorce, too. Story 5: you did well. I never understood that tip stuff anyway. In my country servers are paid by the restaurant owner/manager, and tips are for really exemplary service, not a matter of fact.

[@JamesDavy2009]

Re: Story 5: Hear, hear! Yanks need to stop this mandatory tipping garbage and pay the servers fairly, or shut the business down for insolvency.

[@Qsalis]

Grandma deserves a higher score - this is HOW KIDS DEVELOP EATING DISORDERS!

[@digifreak90]

For the first story, I was honestly concerned that the stress and panic was going to cause a miscarriage. I despise people who knowingly use other people's severe trauma for "pranks". For the waitress, I would have immediately confronted the waitress when I overheard her conversation and told her to get her manager. That isn't a situation that calls for being petty, it calls for informing the people she works for that her behavior is unacceptable.

[@annika5893]

Last story, mommy dearest should get used to the fact that the mental umbilical cord has been cut. She has no business in who OP lets in their own house and under what conditions. Let go, mother. You don't call the shots in your child's life anymore.

[@shadowcatface]

The last story I had cousins like that, when we told their mom (our aunt) she always took thier side. My cousins would then trade or sell our games at their middle school, so we never got a chance to get the back. Also so there was no proof that they had it. It never made sense for them to steal from us because their mom and dad would buy them whatever they wanted, but they would refuse just to steal from our single income house. We always had to hide our games after that at a different family members' house on our dad's side.

[@Yaminisu]

If it’s such a harmless ‘prank’ then why is it against the law to yell fire in a movie theater? Or somewhere public like that? Because it causes PANIC and it’s not something to joke about.

[@MissIsley]

Story one; RUN. You can tell she’s been so manipulated to take this kind of abuse from him. Did you clock the age that they got married? She was 19 and he’s was 30.

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 3:This guy is only a burden and a very wasteful person,NTA

[@lorilancaster5917]

And while OP isn’t an AH, she can tell him No and show him a spreadsheet with where her money goes, the money he knows about, and his finances and ask him how is it fair?

[@Aurielle80s90s]

Game collector here, you steal from me I’m never letting you in my house or near me ever again. And I’m pressing charges

[@geistgrace6452]

Story 4: There's a word for people who aren't interested in dating/ a relationship, and use their body for money. I can't say it without my comment being auto deleted, but I'm sure you can guess.

[@omadaboi3918]

I'm 100% without a doubt sure op was talking to a bot/scam account

[@hyzmarca2737]

The Boy Who Cried Wolf is a classic story for a reason. You don't raise false alarms for life-threatening dangers as a prank.

[@mavis4801]

Well considering OP in the tipping story didn’t get the waitress fired that should be considered the tip.

[@RowanWhite1980]

The tiny pantry/kitchen in the second story genuinely sounds really cute and clever.

[@DarthTaz]

As someone who earns tips at my job a 1 CENT tip is a bigger FU than a nil since they went out of their way to give it

[@jonathanwestcott6594]

Story 5 / Racist Server: I understand the dilemma of whether to tip big and prove her wrong (but rewarding her behavior) or proving her right by leaving no tip. Either option just sucks tbh. Ideally, best idea would've been to request a new server at the very least and then tip THEM incredibly well. At least then you're both proving her wrong and not rewarding awful behavior. After that its up to you whether you feel shes learned her lesson or whether you decide to report her to her manager. Just feels like a waste of a teaching moment tbh. Cause now shes just learned to be quieter about her racism.

[@Maria_Miciano_5]

Story one I don’t care about KZbin’s guidelines right now. But what the fuck is wrong with the husband? The wife is meek in my opinion. I wonder if her husband does stuff like this on a daily basis. I hope OP divorces her husband. He is disgusting.

[@threecards333]

Given the ages when they got married and how he acts, he is a predator who loves to control OP.

[@dinlupus3196]

you realize he probably groomed her? It's not really her fault, she seems use to that kind of psychological manipulation, I don't think she know how a healthy relationship looks like

[@LucaDGropius]

Story of the restaurant: Tip is OPTIONAL and is a way of saying "thank you" for the service. If you treat bad the costumers, you shouldn't even open your mouth about tip.

[@getofmylawnplays3666]

Fresh off the YT press.

[@RedPandaDreamEater]

That 2nd story: Do you know how much it messes up a kid to pull that "you don't leave the table til you eat everything" nonsense? I used to have an aunt who forced me, an, at the time kindergartner, to eat plates as big as she fixed for my uncle. It totally screwed up my ability to tell when I'm full permanently, and to this day I try to eat everything on my plate no matter what, even when I'm out eating and I could just ask for a box.

[@RiveroftheWither]

People need to normalize not forcing kids to eat food they hate. Adults don't eat food they don't like, so why do adults think children should be forced to choke down food they don't like?

[@yazajag]

Exactly, especially if they are gagging and vomiting!

[@snowkitty2395]

Forcing your child to eat something that he/she doesn't necessarily HAVE to eat, simply because there is more food available, is what I consider child abuse. Sensory issues is a very serious thing. Especially being blue balled with a fresh, healthy snack that was self made.

[@undrhil]

16 is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong. He may have been a minor but he was not a child.

[@Artretha]

Racist waitress story: when she asked if there was a mistake, I'd have replied, "no, I just don't tip racists,' and walked on out.

[@calvinthedestroyer]

#1 let's not forget about that theater where a guy yelled out fire and caused 73 people to get killed. Last story, I'd ask for an apology and $2000 plus the price those rare games are worth now.

[@Avrysatos]

or better yet, buy all the games in the same condition or better as when they were stolen and bring them back.

[@Wolfie713]

1: That's abuse, plain and simple. Emotional and mental abuse. That's not even considering the fact that OP is pregnant. 2: Bad enough to ignore OP's rules that her daughter knows, but to unplug a refrigerator and move it outside where it gets ruined? What happened to the food that was in it? Why is MIL so laser focused on destroying the mini-kitchen? OP should take MIL to small claims court. Maybe a judge ripping the MIL a new one will break her stubborn attitude. 3: OP should start telling her husband that she can't afford to spend more money on him because she's saving up to hire a divorce lawyer. And the more he pesters her for money, the more she's going to spend on a lawyer in the divorce. As an alternative, the less he bugs her for money, the less likely she is to actually seek a divorce. His choice. 4: Girl obviously doesn't care about OP and was just trying to scam him. If she cared about him, she'd be sharing her content with him for free (if he was interested in it), or just kept talking to him outside of OF and actually discouraged him from signing up because she wants to keep him separate from it. 5: After they got their food, OP should have asked to speak to the manager. It's not being a Karen when reporting a legitimate situation, and that server deserved to get called out in front of others. 6: Cousin should be required to replace the games he stole, including any specific/unique editions that he stole vs regular ones. Dabney, while you did bring up OP's mental health in general, you overlooked the fact that OP has Asperger's, AND even if OP didn't, their mom should have been protective of OP. I have no doubt that the family members are downplaying OP's feelings because of their having Asperger's, which is horrible because they are using OP's situation to devalue their worth. If OP didn't have Asperger's, they most likely wouldn't be as vocal about OP letting it go.

[@jjnix9517]

Yeah leaving her husband is reasonable, that's abusive.

[@novacommander4297]

Story 1: Why are *you* apologizing to *him?!* He made a ""joke"" out of your trauma and made you unnecessarily strain yourself while you were *pregnant!!* GET TF OUTTA THERE, GIRL!!!

[@bonniehalf-elven]

Story 6: I think OP shouldn't allow his MOTHER into his house. It's pretty bad when your own mother favors your cousin over you.

[@danielbrant6740]

*2nd Story:* MIL broke the minifridge, she bought it.

[@dwilcox7706]

"It's just a prank bro" should be legal grounds for a divorce.

[@suralos]

I will never understand the "I am doing you a favor by destroying your property" entitlement mentality like the grandmother.

[@profwaldone]

I love the mini kitchen. You, the adult, stock it with a reasonble amount of food so the kid cant overeat. But they know there is always enough in the big kitchen so its fully up to them to pace themselves on snacks and such. They clean it,(presumably semi supervised) and you can upgrade the tools as they grow older. All the while you are teaching them responsability and independence!!! Love it.

[@hollytheanimalcrossingfan]

Story one is just cruel. Again, why do people think causing someone high stress and fear, most likely causing the person to get hurt in the process is a "prank". Story 2: I remember when my grandma would try to make me eat stuff I didn't like. And I couldn't leave the table. One time, she made cooked cabbage and potatoes. I ate the potatoes but the cabbage smelt terrible. I tried it and gagged at how bad it was. After an hour, my grandma learned that I wouldn't eat it and gave me something else. That was the last time as I was getting old enough to make my own plate at that time. Now if they are eating something I don't like, I just pull out a frozen diner instead.

[@3ntity_exe]

First Story: I actually have a story like this.. It happened in the winter of my senior year of highschool, so about 2015-2016.. My bio father, lets call him Richard, managed to set off the fire alarm in our house and it woke me up.. He barged into my room holding a fire extinguisher and a serious face saying "We have to go".. Without thinking, I ran out of bed behind him and out the back porch door, only for him to close it and lock me outside, in shorts and a tanktop, in the winter.. It takes me a while to wake up, so I didn't realize I hadn't smelt smoke until I was already outside.. He left me out there for 5 minutes to make himself coffee.. He called it a prank, and I'm sitting here today with C-PTSD and a trigger for the sound of fire alarms Thanks, Richard.. Hope the weather in hell is nice

[@rkoncenasupporter]

OP in the first story, yeah time to divorce your husband, it sucks that you're having a child with this man cause he's an immature child, traumatizing you like that, nah deal breaker

[@roowyrm9576]

"Pranking" OP at 34 weeks pregnant was the most irresponsible thing. So he turns the blame onto her? Does he realise what he has really done? To OP and the baby? I doubt it!

[@CatCheshire]

Story 1: she could also go into the labour from the stress

[@MariekaMcPhee]

In the first story- that's gaslighting the poor woman trying to convince her she's acting too dramatic! Whoever wields someone's trauma to play a joke is evil. Full stop. You would never see the person the same way after that.

[@FeliksTheGoblin]

WOHOOO YOU FEED MY AUTISM EVERYDAY

[@FantasticaB]

Love love loooove the parents from story 2. Disordered eating is so common and honestly I’ve spent half my life hating myself due to it. It’s so smart to start young and teach kids how to manage their snacks/eating habits.

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 6:Even if cousin did nothing wrong,OP's house OP's rules,End of story NTA at all

[@lorilancaster5917]

And what the hell was with OPs mom using his diagnosis against him? She didn’t want to harm cousins mental health but had no problem causing harm and financial ruin to OP? Mom of the year 🙄