I took my mom to a trip to Japan. We were at some ramen shop, although I found the favor was quite on the spot, she insisted asking for extra spices, hot sauce ginger etc. Although I am not a japanese resident, I know enough about the local etiquette that it was a big taboo to ask for extra spices in their culinary culture. But I didn't want to disappoint my mom or spoil her appetite, after all I would rather offend the shop instead of hurting my mom's feeling. So I made a heavy sigh and made the impossible request to the poor oneechan who gave me the most surprised look afterwards. At first she tried to decline it by affirming that it couldn't be done as all the spices were in the kitchen not for the customers. But I explained to her that we were tourists and my mom didn't feel too well as she would benefit so much from some sweet ginger side dish. Then she replied reluctantly that she was going to ask the chef. When she finally came back with some tiny serving of hot sauce and ginger, I thanked her tremendously. While my mom had no clue what just happened, she was still complaining about the taste and portion of them, and demanded me to request for extra ginger. I was just beyond speechless. With all being said, it is just a small example in life that people who care more tend to suffer more as well.