Raped By My Best Friend 2 (Extra Comments & Details)

A follow up to my other video, My Story of being raped by my best friend.
See part 1 first: • Raped By My Best Friend.
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[@BuckRogers-hc7lj]

Mikey, you are such a strong man. Thank you for standing up to the ignorance, but doing it with class and facts. You’re a special guy and I’m so glad I came across your channel.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thanks Buck! What an awesome comment, I appreciate your kind words more than I can express. I’m so glad you found my channel. Big ole 🤗’s!!

[@inezsson]

Thanks for being brave enough to share your trauma. My neighbor started raping me when he was 14 and I was 7. He would come by with his little brother and we would play the typical games. He would send his brother home and take me into the woods to "play" in the creek. I was so young I had no idea what he was planning. It eventually stopped when his brother caught us as he finished. I was never the same even though I had no idea at 9 years old that what had happened was rape. I still, 4 decades later, have no desire for sex.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story!! I can totally relate to that feeling of thinking that there’s been a shift, but not having the maturity or vocabulary of why.. I really hope that you can get through this, because sex can be the most beautiful thing when you can approach it with a healthy spirit.. Sending you the biggest 🤗’s!!!

[@BOLLOCKS1968]

This is quite similar to my own experiences. 40 + years later and I hate anyone in my personal space. I despise being touched and not a fan of intimacy. I just try and forget as best I can. No amount of expensive therapy or endlessly rehashing these events has helped me overcome my distrust of people. Sorry you endured the same!

[@jerricabeckel3672]

I’m so sorry you went through that nobody should have to go through that , and listen to people who have not been in your shoes, or assaulted make you feel bad, or explain yourself. People need to think before they speak, especially to victims.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Hi Jerrica! Thank you SOOO much for your comment and kind words! I couldn’t agree with you more. My purpose in posting the original video was to hopefully connect with others who are afraid of telling their truths. That’s why when I did receive pushback (thankfully, it wasn’t a lot) still it was important for me to respond. It’s so hard to speak about these situations, sometimes a person is so focused on just letting it out, and not “covering all bases” to pacify a strangers doubts. THIS vid was to tell them, don’t let anyone’s doubt silence, or make you second guess your truth. And for those who feel the need to doubt, it’s really never your place to define something you were not a witness to. Again THANK YOU!! Big 🤗’s!

[@EdDeaFice70]

Great video. Loved the car analogy. It’s sad that you had to explain yourself in the first place. You are one brave man Mikey!

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you, Eddie! I appreciate the super sweet words more than I can express. Big ole 🤗's and ❣!!

[@tayvis4407]

💔my heart breaks for you! Being raped is a life changing experience. I stand beside you in this situation, even without hearing from the other person. NO means NO!! Big hugs my friend

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Hi Rollin!! Thanks for the awesome comment and kind words.. You are so right about it being a life changing experience and while I was too afraid at the time to say anything, I think the most important thing I can do today is to make sure that anyone else who has gone/is going through a similar experience, understands that they are not at fault, or alone… Big ole 🤗’s and lotsa ❣️!!!

[@GTNM1961]

I just discovered your videos and I wanted to say thank you for sharing your experiences with molestation and being raped. I too experienced both in my childhood and just buried it deep in my head. Over the past several years, I have decided to look into my experiences as a child and have been able to face those issues after more than 40 years of suppression. I have really enjoyed your videos and wish you the very best in whatever lies ahead. PS....you are very attractive 😉

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Hey there "G". 😁Thanks for the comment. I'm so happy you enjoyed my videos, but more importantly that you've decided to look at those experiences that we unfortunately share. I definitely wish you all the health and happiness possible! Big ole🤗 and ❣!!.. Oh: PS.. THANK YOU 😊

[@ljrockstar69]

I was taken advantage of sexually when I 9 or 10 years old by a neighborhood male teen. I didn't know what was happening, I didn't want to do what he ask me to do, but somehow manipulated the situation and said it was "normal" and no one should know about it. Till this day as an adult, I still ruminate about it and feel trauma bonded, if that makes any sense. I was taken advantage of and scared at that time that I didn't want anyone to find out. Didn't know the lines at that age what was and was not appropriate.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you sooo much for sharing your story. The trauma bond makes perfect sense to me, as does your assessment of why the trauma develops and it’s lasting effects. My heart goes out to you? Sending you the biggest 🤗’s

[@Allah_Loves_Forgives_and_Saves]

"Normal" and "don't tell anyone" is an oxymoron. But kids are so naive so..

[@ron100]

I appreciate the way you explain yourself. Some people think, because we’re gay, that gays are only interested in sex with other guys. That all we want is sex, constantly. We don’t want sex any more than anyone else. You’re my hero and I appreciate your honesty. Much love to you. God bless you my friend. ❤

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you sooo much for this awesome comment. You are so right in your assessment, I think a lot of that mentality is stemming from the incorrect perception that homosexuality is evil, and that lessens the believe ability that we can be victimized as well.. God bless you as well, sending big ole 🤗’s

[@Anthonayofftheheezay]

You’re other video was perfectly clear to me. I’m not sure how that commenter could have misunderstood it or misconstrued it in that way. You know, the more videos I watch the more I admire you. Your openness to share such personal details about your life is really admirable. You’re a lovely guy. Oh, and no, you’re not an old person who needs glasses to read. No clue where you would get that idea 👍😉😂❤️

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you so much for your comment and wonderful words, they really mean the world to me! Big ole 🤗’s 🤓 😂

[@Anthonayofftheheezay]

@@IAmMikeyVera You’re welcome! I’m so glad I came across your channel. You’re a class act Mikey ❤️

[@jc22358]

"You have to call it what it is". Facts.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Exactly!! 💯!! 🤗’s

[@McAvoy-ft5fg]

Thank You for sharing that...... You have My Admiration and support !!! Love from NYC !

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you for your comment and kind words.. no better love than hometown love and I send it right back at cha!! Big ole 🤗’s

[@MichaelCDavis1]

Thanks for the added context. That was missing in the original video. Don't be mad I could see how some would see it as a misunderstanding without the context of what your relationship was before the incident. There is just no coming back from that incident.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thanks Michael! I always appreciate your measured comments.. TBH, I wasn’t mad, more dumbfounded, I don’t mind checking myself if I need to.. Thats why I approached making this new vid, with no animosity whatsoever, I appreciate the opportunity to make sure that if you WANT to come on this journey with me, that I make it as easy and comfortable as possible..As usual, big ole 🤗’s

[@MichaelCDavis1]

@mikeyvera I'm curious what happened to him because if he was doing that as a child, he eventually would try the wrong person and wind up stabbed or worse. Unfortunately, you can't fix everyone, and that is his burden to carry (not yours).

[@markgomez444]

Great video, I was never confused by the first one, like you said “it was, what it was”. Oh awesome analogy! 😂

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you for saying that Mark! TBH, I have been known to skip things in a rush to the finish line, so it could’ve happened, but so happy to know you “got it”.. Big 🤗’s

[@leaper2294]

You are so strong. I wish you nothing but the best.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you so much, appreciate the kind words.. Big ole 🤗’s

[@milesjustice8638]

Sending much love brother! I am so sorry you experienced this.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you Miles, I so appreciate it and send you the biggest 🤗’s and ❣️right back at cha!!

[@tombrennan7673]

Stay strong. You're a good person and you are brave to share your story. I haven't experienced what you have but others will find a lot of encouragement from your positive energy.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Hi Tom, thank you for your comment and supportive words!! It really does mean so much to me that as a person who hasn’t had the same experience, you’re still able to show empathy and concern!! Sending the biggest 🤗’s and ❣️!!

[@tombrennan7673]

@@IAmMikeyVera You are welcome. You are an important voice to others.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

❤️

[@ampedcrypto808]

I'm sorry that you felt compelled to respond to trolls. It's so sad that people don't get the importance of consent. It seems like you are healing, and your story is so important because you are giving other people strength. And, you are taking your power back.. God bless you!

[@jelani3470]

❤️ thank you for being genuine and sincere about your past experiences but under the circumstances its it’s a shame that you have to stay the obvious for ones who cannot comprehend the fundamentals of the situation but that what sets us apart to stand strong

[@IAmMikeyVera]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you!!

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you so much for this comment!! Your specific words mean more to me than I can ever express!! I don’t mind having to clarify myself as long as it can be beneficial to others. I’m glad to do it!! But knowing that there are folks out there who get me, exactly as I present myself, means everything!! Big ole 🤗’s

[@Evan1060]

One of the hardest things for me is to be consistently supportive of my feelings and perceptions. It is hard not to discount my feelings or perceptions when others see a situation from a different point of view. However, as I get older and more aware, I realize everyone has their own viewpoint. And that viewpoint is valid for them based on their position, past experiences, and beliefs. So, I've come to a point where I am willing to review my viewpoint and keep an open mind and yet giving just as much love and support to my feelings/perceptions and viewpoint. Things always look different from the outside looking in then from the inside looking out. I'm happy you are validating yourself and your feelings no matter what other's may view based on their viewpoint. You are right for you! And that self support is so important. Thanks for sharing. Hugs.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you for such an awesome comment, I couldn’t agree more! I totally can come to terms with people having a different opinion on something in my life story (especially when I share it with the world), but (as in this situation) there’s so much self hatred, and denial and gaslighting that we do to ourselves. I have to say something, if only for those subscribers and viewers who are currently working through this and need to know that an outside viewpoint, or time, or forgiveness, doesn’t change the definition of what really happened. Big ole 🤗’s

[@Evan1060]

@@IAmMikeyVera I understand and agree with you. Really appreciate your sharing. Hugs.

[@luckysunbird8862]

Thank you for sharing your story. Respect to you my dear. ( from an old lesbian).

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you for the comment and kind words, much appreciate! (From a middle aged gay dude) 😂

[@zaclooking3656]

People can be sooo self centered. Take care mate!

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thanks Zac!!

[@mugabedavid4845]

Sorry for what happened to you I pray GOD heals you

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you so much for the comment and kind words. Yes, I’m in much better place now, thank GOD.. Big 🤗’s!!

[@stevemarks4724]

I'm sorry that happened to you Mikey keep your head up things are looking up for you it wasn't your fault that night don't blame yourself stay strong & positive 🙏

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you Steve! I appreciate your kind words. Big ole 🤗’s

[@hectormacias8890]

I'm an elderly person now but when I was young apparently I was very attractive. Ladies would fall in love with me but the only problem was that I was gay. At the time I was in the closet (still am) so they felt the rejection. New years eve 2000 I got invited to a party. I have always watched my drinking but for some reason after two hours of partying I could not even walk. I feel the only way that could have happened if they had spiked my drinks which I'm sure they did. So three ladies took me to their van to take me home. When I woke up next day my pants and undies were down to my knees. So I knew these so-called ladies had taken advantage of me. That is one of the worst feelings anyone can have. Non consentual sex is rape. Do not wish this on anyone.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you sooo much for sharing your unique story, I really appreciate you speaking your truth and I’m sorry that happened to you. Don’t know why, but the fact your assault was done by females hits a little harder for me. Any adult should be trusted, but I think as a society, we seldom think of women being capable of doing something like this.. Sending you the biggest 🤗’s and ❣️!!!

[@jamesoverton5794]

I was 21 years old when it almost happened to me. I was out with friends and one of their uncles. We went out to a club an hour from our town. I got really drunk and when the night was over the uncle drove my car with me back home. I remember getting into the front passenger seat & before we got outta the parking lot he was unzip my jeans and stuck his hand into my underwear. I immediately pulled his hand away and told his I wasn’t interested and he should’ve not done that. I passed out and don’t remember the ride home. We were alone in my car. I don’t remember getting inside the house or how I got in my bed. The next thing that I remember was waking up on my stomach, one of my friends had put me into bed and had a trash can next to it . Obviously I was throwing up I awoke with somebody, trying to undressed me….take my jeans off and pull my shirt over my head. I fought so hard and pushed him (uncle) off me. I was really weak and the only reason he didn’t raped me was because his nephew came to check on me….I’m 44 now and haven’t been drunk since then and only social drink of no more than 3 with dinners and friends/family. I remember this as if it happened two hours ago.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Wow James!! Thank you for commenting and for sharing your story!!! May not have been rape, but for sure still a form of sexual abuse. I can totally relate, not only with having the trauma and it’s lingering affects but (maybe in another future vid), the additional layer of being intoxicated during it. Thank you for speaking your truth and again, for sharing so openly, I felt it and I’m sorry that you had that experience!! Big ole 🤗’s and ❣️!!!

[@davidfryer9359]

The best way to heal is to meet with him, after all these years. Tell him why you need to talk. He needs to hear all of this. I don’t think he knew how it would have and did affect you. He may not even realize that he needs your forgiveness. You must confront this demon festering inside you. By that I don’t mean him. I mean the harm inflicted upon you by his actions. It matters not his intentions. What matters that it scarred you for life. Stop letting it. Talk to him. Let him tell you his side. It makes a difference in the end. Don’t let another day go by without talking to him. Do not let the window of opportunity close. When he dies, and you don’t say your peace to him and give him the opportunity to give you his side, you will be in more pain than you can imagine. I know for a fact it is true. Please. End this chapter in your life. Close this book forever. Then you can love freely uninhibited. Whoever loves you deserves this as much as you do. Find him. Peacefully talk to him. The peace in your life depends on it. Do it before it’s to late. I won’t tell you my story besides my first love killed himself a year ago. We in love at 14 years old. There were so many things I needed to tell him but didn’t. Now I have a giant hole in my life where once he lived. I can’t replace that. He can’t take his suicide back. This is about you. Not me. I’m sorry I’m not your friend. I would have never let anyone hurt you. Especially me. ❤

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you for your comment and super kind words.. I am definitely in a much healthier place today (if you’ve seen some of my other vids, I had a lot more to unpack besides this situation), but I can say therapy has been my saving grace through all of it. I have forgiven him and moved on (which is why I am able to make these vids, something I would have NEVER done before).. I know I still have quite a ways to go, but I am happy with myself and my life.. I really wish the same for you.. BTW, thanks so much for these last sentence.. I can tell you are a genuine and caring person (it’s radiant), and I definitely could’ve used a friend like you. Sending big ole 🤗’s and ❣️!

[@davidfryer9359]

@@IAmMikeyVera I’m touched… not in the head like mental…I mean I’m touched deep inside my heart that you were so responsive and open. You are the caliber of person that all of us look for in a friend. I hope I run into you one day. Don’t be surprised if a hot fifty seven year old comes up to you and hugs you out of the blue. 😂 You are a fine man. You’ve stood trials by fire and are all the better for it. All my gratitude, my peace and my love are yours.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

David, thank you so, so much for this comment. I’m traveling cross country, so I finally found a moment to check my messages and I’m so glad I saw this, it really means the world to me… oh and I’m all about a good hug, especially from a hot 57er 😉.. Be safe and we’ll!! Big ole 🤗’s and ❣️.

[@TheAlfredPlatform]

You have a new Facebook follower 💪🏾

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Awesome!!! Thank you!! ❤️🤗❤️

[@patrickprobst366]

Hello Mikey I’m Patrick I have to say I definitely respect your opinion and thoughts on what happened to you with your best friend.. it was wrong and totally inappropriate for his actions and I believe he knew and understood it at that point.. but I’ve watched both videos and remember you saying that you froze and couldn’t say anything in real time at that moment, and then there was a tried position change and you snapped out of it and said “Stop” and he complied immediately.. do you think that his actions were intentional to rape you? Or just a real nasty,stupid, incredibly unacceptable behavior? And also do you think maybe with the sister conversation he was or didn’t think you was gay when you said stop and then seeing with another guy got his mine confuse and that nasty stupid incredibly unacceptable behavior kicked in.. in my opinion what the best friend needed was a beat down to understand how in this life you have think about your action and how they will affect the other person.. seriously.. last but not least i really appreciate your bravery in sharing your stories and I have no ill will of you or your stories just admiration..🙏

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Hi Patrick, thanks for the comment, I appreciate it.. Yeah, what I’ve learned is that “freezing” is a very common response to unwanted penetration to protect the brain and the body. It’s hard to say what he was thinking, there are so many angles to look at it and I’ve spent so many years trying, but what I know now is that ultimately, it doesn’t matter because the trauma stay the same no matter what his intentions may have been .Likewise with the sis conversation, why did he do that, I don’t know, but ultimately, the end result was him hurting me, yet again. When I forgave him, that’s when I stopped trying to find reason in his actions, so I don’t hold animosity at all. Thanks again for your comment!! Big ole 🤗’s

[@stuartcrichton4763]

Mikey, first of all, I hope I'm not misunderstanding you. ❤ Anything without your approval, no matter what, must not proceed, whatever it may be. I believe it was taking advantage of your kind nature. I've had to learn respect and boundaries within my own personal life. In saying that, I did realize that some were or are still taking advantage of me. Work in progress, but I won't allow it anymore. People assumed that they knew me or still know me. They don't.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Hey Stuart!! No misunderstanding at all.. Your comment says you understood exactly what I was saying!! Consent is THE key word. As a “top”, I couldn’t imagine not wanting to know someone consented to my advances before I went any further. The empathetic part of me understands the age of my BFF and the sexual confusion and exploration that goes along with being a teen, but what I hope I made clear is that, in spite of the understanding, there is no excuse for penetrating someone without consent.. Big ole 🤗’s

[@aaronclites1099]

I would first like to say how sorry I am that that happened to you. I have a second comment, but I want to post it separately because I feel that to include it here would take something away from the first comment, and I don't want to do that. Second comment coming up.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you Aaron for your comment and kind words!! I really appreciate it! Sending big ole 🤗’s!!

[@aceautonewportky]

Any of your non believers, let me ask them if, at 4 yrs old and surviving being violently raped by the babysitters 18 yr old son, if I was asking for it. Mikey Vera, know there are others that have experienced horrific trauma. I could have let it destroy me, but I refused to let it. Thank you for your content.

[@IAmMikeyVera]

Thank you so much for your comment!! I truly appreciate you stating the facts and sharing your own story.. I think we as a society have learned to gaslight ourselves into only seeing rape through a narrow lens. Thanks again!! Sending big ole 🤗’a and ❣️!!!