Reacting to "Wear It Well" - and, YOU Tell Me About My Style? | THE OUTFITS VIDEO

[@yalazha]

I totally agree with you about discerning whether or not the experience and goals of the author align with ourselves first. I like to listen to an interview with the author from their press tour, while driving or during exercise, before I consider buying a book.

[@fromscratcheewithstef]

What a great tip!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Yes! What I found with this book/author is that I actually feel like I got more out of her "practical examples" in videos where she did her method with others, so I was hoping to get more out of the book than I did! But I guess it also makes sense that when speaking or working with a client she would be in her "element" as as stylist, rather than as an author, since most of her job is probably actually working with people and their clothes in real life/in practical examples.

[@torvous]

I don't have three words for you, more like a description: to me, your style is like a really cool, smart librarian in an alternate universe where the librarians are the awesomest and most people are indifferent to athletes. In this wonderful place with books floor to ceiling, you are the one I seek out for the best book recommendations.

[@bthomson]

Oh my yes.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

This is better than three words! Thank you!

[@belkyhernandez8281]

Congratulations!!!! From here it looks like progress! I remember you saying you used to be easily influenced and would adopt things without considering if they the things you adopted were right for you. But now, you recognize that the perspective of the influencer who wrote a book may not be relevant to your priorities and experience. That perspective applied to other situations will help you be more intentional about how you spend your money.

[@Minimadaa]

I went to a concert the other night, not something I do often now that I’m 30 with kids. I was wearing jeans, comfy shoes, a basic t shirt, brought a jacket, hair in a braid. I was there to enjoy the music! So many concerts of my 20’s I was cold and uncomfortable for the sake of looking fashionable. I was thinking about your discussions on personal style, because the venue was full of people in all kinds of crazy outfits. I’m sure some genuinely dress with wacky or bold personal style, but seeing the crowd in mass dressed a certain way, I could just tell this is not what these people usually wear! Just a bunch of people wearing cute concert outfits but many looked uncomfortable. It felt like everyone was trying to convey a certain thing about themselves that was not genuine. It was fascinating and sad?? Anyway, I’m probably just jaded and realizations like that make me want to lean further into minimalist styles.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Haha oh, us jaded 30 and 30-somethings...I feel it too. I want to find the balance of "fun/fashionable" AND practical, because I'm not okay with being uncomfortable (in any way!) anymore in my outfit, no matter the occasion. The last concert I attended I think I wore a similarly basic "regular" outfit, my touch of crazy was adding a purple lipstick, which was a quick and easy way to make it "not an everyday look". I know that method won't be for everyone either, and in some cases wearing unconventional makeup can be uncomfortable too!

[@NebelungFlower]

I haven't watched the video yet, but I wanted to recommend a book called "Worn: a People's History of Clothing" by Sofi Thanhauser (which I'm still in the process of reading). This is part of the summary: "From the women who transformed stalks of flax into linen to clothe their families in nineteenth century New England to those who earn their dowries in the cotton-spinning factories of South India today, this book traces the origins of garment-making through time and around the world. Exploring the social, economic and environmental impact of our most personal possessions, Worn looks beyond care labels to show how clothes reveal the truth about what we really care about." It's really putting me off consumerism, and I think you might appreciate its content :)

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Added to the reading list! Thank you!

[@testing1-2three]

Interesting. Thanks for covering this book I was curious about reading it.

[@testing1-2three]

Love the outfits at the end! 👏❤ Excellent pairings!

[@PoppyMorrison-y7z]

I really agree with this sentiment. I have read a lot of styling advice but for example right now I am working and I have a little kid. To me fashion is fun and I do care what I look like but it's not my priority or my job things to be practical and work for me. As you said clothes are a part of my life not the focus! I don't think that it's that obvious even for example style influencers on ticktock its their job/career so its fundamentally a different way of viewing clothes/fashion/style Xx

[@shellbell8062]

Relaxed, Arty, Individual (and I'd like to add a word relating to colour - but I'm not sure what it is since you range from soft pastel to bright primary colours)

[@lindatsardakas]

Very interesting thoughts, thank you. I have the book but haven't had the time to read it yet. Actually, I guessed two of your words right: relaxed and cool! The third is one of my own words: artistic. What I nice coincidence. Perhaps it's the connection with music? I play classical guitar 😊

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

I will say it was an enjoyable and easy read, and I'd be curious to know what you think after you've finished if you care to share an update! Also I LOVE classical guitar so much

[@aveliese]

I don't think it's a you problem. I think these things like Which shoe matches the outfit, universal clothes, and are you a spring, summer, whatever are all constructs in the fashion world. Not everything has to match, be perfectly put together, and there can be style in mismatching. And it's not the stylist's fault either because a big part of their job is to be on trend and to play into social constructs regarding fashion. I think there's two ways people look at style: objective and subjective, so not everyone agrees on how to go about it.

[@juliehanson1175]

I had kind of a low bar for this book too, but it did deliver more than I thought it would. I liked the 3 word method and it made sense to me (mostly sporty, with some classic and minimal) - so yeah, I can skip boho, vintage, hard (edgy), etc. because they are pretty "extra" for me. Totally agree with you on trench coats. My climate does not lend itself to that at all - if it rains, it's usually too cold, otherwise it's just too impractical.

[@melaniejennings-r7i]

My first thoughts for your style are comfortable,unique,independent. Those are mostly based on the feelings I have when I see your outfits. I love what you are doing and hope to see more content. Thanks for all the thought you put into this!

[@beeraeutiful]

No street feet on the carpet! Gives me the ick too.

[@Chunkyshoesuk]

I got that almost a year ago. I got it on preorder when it first come out. Ive still not read all of it tho. About 2/3’s of it. I watch a lot of fashion content so I understood the designer references but not all of the celebs. I defo agree about the trench coat. Hear all the time its a wardrobe staple. Ive got 4 of them ( maybe 5) which I was ‘influenced’ in the same way to buy and rarely ( maybe one of once a year) wear any of them. I really like your style. I think your 3 words are relaxed, classic & casual

[@viktorias1963]

What bothers my with many stylist, is that everything is about looking mainstream stylish, personal twist or not, you will still blend in with the crowd. And for me, the people that impress me with there style are not that. Also, many mainstream stylish people fall under the category of "it looks good because she is skinny/pretty". Also I actually despise universal items, even well fitting jeans make me feel "meh" (I am just not a pants person). Button ups never look right, and I don't understand the purpose of a jeans jacket, since it's any cardigan keeps me warmer on a chilly evening. Also, after typing this comment, I realized that I need to stop trying to blend in :D

[@cn7228]

I totally agree with you on the tight pants thing. I think this is why i looked up to HLP's style so much: she showed me how i could wear oversized clothes and feel stylish, which was groundbreaking after years of living in loose sweatpants (and feeling out of place at times because of it-- if a person feels comfortable in sweatpants i dont think that needs to change, but for me it was awesome finding that i could enjoy style and be comfy)

[@karencomerford4433]

I see your first word as relaxed, your second as “put-together” as you do seem to think about how to construct your outfits and your third word as individual. Love how your videos are so thought provoking, a new subscriber here! 😊

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Aw, welcome!

[@dinapawlow1622]

I like Amy’s approach to fashion, it is less to do with clothes and more to do with words. Rather intellectual and cerebral…. You don’t really need more clothes or new clothes ,or trendy clothes, or expensive clothes to get your style.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Yes I'm also a fan of her more "cerebral" explanations...I'm curious to see what Amy's book is like someday too, but at its current price point (and after what I learned reading this one) I think I'm waiting to try and find it at a library...

[@jl82714]

Loved this and I also just finished her book and had the same conundrums! I thought it would be for me but it felt a bit more for a stylist-centric life I think. I did follow her three word method from her KZbin and found my three words but then added a fourth because three wasn’t enough. I’d guess yours might be sporty, modern-polished, cool (see I added a fourth for you as well lol) Thank you for mentioning trench coats. I have tried them on and I feel like Sherlock gone wrong 😂 definitely not a requirement for everyone’s wardrobe!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Sherlock gone wrong! Love that 😁

[@happylovejojo1763]

Seeing your outfits at the is inspiring. Inspired to style my closet more. Thank you.

[@rachelcostello2361]

Thank you for this excellent review! Although the book's content did not end up being for you, at least we got this insightful video out of it! I was only loosely aware of the 3 words styling tip before this and would love to hear more about how you are using it to guide your styling/shopping. I would also love to know what 3 words you connect with and try to emulate. I loved your look book at the end, it was hard to pair down to 3 words but I would go with casual, cool and funky (plus breezy as a bonus one)

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

I chose "relaxed" for the practical word, "artistic" for the aspirational, and "cool" for the "emotional/how I want to feel" 😁 so pretty similar to your choices! I probably will do some "week-in-outfits" videos this Fall, so I can try to revisit this and try and talk through how I feel each element is at play with some of the "looks"

[@jennaj.1072]

My words for you are Relaxed, Sporty and Architectural. I like the 3 word approach, but not Bornstein's method of choosing said words. Mainly it's the aspirational word I don't like, I want my words to describe me as I am now (because I am enough). 😄 Mine are Comfortable (=loose-fitting, casual), Simple (=solid colors, boxy shapes, simple patterns) yet Whimsical (=quirky details, pairing opposites, something fun).

[@bthomson]

Nice choices would think you would be both comfortable and noticeable!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

That's a good point! I guess if we think the "aspirational" word is also something that's already inside ourselves, and it's more about "bringing out that aspect" - but it is a difficult one to frame through a lens of current contentment.

[@annapetryk]

I agree with you. Mine are, at least for now: simple, boyish, harmonic. Not because I aspire to be boyish, but I like such style/cuts. Those words helped me narrow my choices, made me think what I really wear/like to wear, but I wouldn't put too much time into creating them. For me they are just helpful frames, not some complex philosophy 😊

[@ericalbrockway]

I love seeing some of your outfits Alexa! I couldn't tell you what the aspirational and emotional of your three words are, but if I had to guess, I would say practical, casual, and unexpected ☺

[@JoB1808]

The tibi jeans are super! Your hair and all the violete outfit are amazing!!! You inspired me for a no buy year! 4 days no buy and I saw what you said! But my road is far! I think that your style has been improved so much!

[@fromscratcheewithstef]

Which jeans are they? They've been mentioned a lot, but I don't know what we're talking about...and.... there's no link 😅😂😅😂

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

You can do it and I'll be here for no-buy support 😁 thank you!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

so I mention two pairs of tibi jeans, one is on my "wishlist" and don't own, the "sid" style, and the other that I DO own and wear in this video are the dark wash "brancusi" jeans, in the first outfit in the "outfits section" with the bright blue tank and shoes. They first appeared in a wishlist and then in my "no buy failure" video because I caved and bought them on final sale clearance 😅 so there's kind of a saga of these jeans on this channel haha

[@fromscratcheewithstef]

@Alexas.nobuyyear aha! I would absolutely qualify that as a 'consciously calculated fail'

[@testing1-2three]

Yeah the trench coat is always lauded as a “classic” and recommended by most stylists/influencers on KZbin but I’ve never seen anyone wearing one. I’ve seen someone say no one wears them in the suburbs. I live near a city and I still struggle to find people wearing them. I do have one I like, in more My style and color and I make it work (one day a year). 😩

[@JehanineMelmoth]

When I was young, only women over 60 wore trenchcoats. Even now, 40 years later, I’ve never seen anyone under 60 wearing one.

[@pialupa]

All the young trendy corporate girlies are wearing trenchcoats in my city. Perhaps because they are told to do so by the fashion influencers 😅

[@laurens3055]

Oh that is funny. I have been wearing a trenchcoat since highschool. I have a more classic/vintage inspired style. A trenchcoat is my number one most worn piece. I grew up in the suburbs and now live in a rainy city so a trenchcoat works really well. I do know that none of my friends wear trenchcoats so I think it is a matter of preference. It definitely doesn't work for everyone's style but I personally have always loved them. I'm very picky about how they look though, need them to go past my knees and I prefer them to be loose and not double breasted.

[@cn7228]

When I was in middle/high school, "trench coat guy" was synonymous with "fedora guy" and "wolf shirt guy". I'm glad these clothes can be worn now without a negative connotation because I want people to dress freely in what they like, but it's really funny that these are seen as classic staples when they were so divisive in my youth

[@mnop1774]

I'm catching up on your videos after being out west for 7 days and embracing the beauty of mountains, horses, wide open spaces and no electronics. Thank you for talking about this book and I know it's not for me. Three words is catchy and yet, too limiting imo. I see your style as very much who you are at this very moment. Out west I was cowboy boots, Stetson hat, jeans, sterling and turquoise. While I love those, I live in a city that makes it out of place to wear on a daily basis. I love your style Alexa. In my eyes it's creative, unexpected, interesting and relaxed just for starters. The fun is seeing how we evolve and adapt new looks.

[@bthomson]

New looks with the SAME clothes!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

I hope you return to your everyday life relaxed and recharged, sounds like a beautiful little break!

[@annapetryk]

Btw, it's not just Asian culture hating shoes on carpets. It's the same in Eastern Europe 😂 I would never ever wear shoes in someone's home, unless they insist and make me do it 😅 but it still would give me a huge no-no moment 😅

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ooh that's cool to know!

[@cn7228]

I didn't grow up in a shoes-off household, but my husband got me on board when I moved in with him (we're both white Americans, we just don't wanna have to clean the house all the time.... We also don't wear clothes that have been outside in the bed for the same reason) We moved overseas a few years ago to a city where the streets are a lot dirtier than where we used to live and there's always dog poop and human piss on the sidewalks, and we have gotten more strict about not wearing shoes in the house. What amazes me is that we're unique in this city and everyone I've met, whether they're local or immigrants like us, wears shoes in their homes... Like did you guys not walk past the same piss and s*it I did today??

[@MIOLAZARUS]

You only need one word: Artist! You dress like an artist. That means all of your wardrobe and whatever you feel like for whatever occation😎 I think your style is very cool ❤ You have made me listen to classical music again and my life is greater for it! Thank you 🤩

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Aw, thank you! And that's amazing, classical music is EPIC in my humble opinion 😁

[@zingara76]

Casual, mismatched and Maximalist. Disclaimer ⚡️ I hear the book 📕 (not sure what images are inside) I’m also not American no clue what brands are popular up there and I’m low income person and a mom. Maybe those factors can influence my opinion. I actually like the book, I enjoy all the little exercises and advice. l feel the book can be useful no matter whos reading it. She does give some famous people names, but everyone knows who’s Diana the princess and how she dress, it’s useful to understand the word method. She also goes into each different clothing piece like jeans,shirts. I never feel she was pushing a brand. I like the idea of the ritual. It can be complicated for people who have to much stuff, but if you have small quantities opening the door of your closet can be a very pleasant experience. I have a small closet and every-time I open the door I get excited about it. Specially whit my little kids, makes dressing easy and fast, instead of “where’s my bla blah cloths” anyway I think is a good book. Does she used photos? I wonder if that can make someone feel different?

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

There are photos and actually I really enjoyed the photos and layout of the actual book! It felt well-designed and pleasing to look at. It's also possible that I would feel different if I listened to the book (does the author narrate the audiobook?) because maybe hearing in someone else's voice, some of the things would make more sense than reading it in MY voice. This is an interesting thought. I'm happy to hear you found it to be good! Would you believe I actually don't know any of Princess Diana's styles? The only thing I heard about from her clothing is the "revenge dress" and I don't know if that is what we are supposed to imagine for her general "style" 😅 but it just shoes that I am living under a rock and maybe most people will know more of these examples of people!

[@ifetayodavidson-cade5613]

Three phrases works best for me: streamlined bohemian (tunics, etc, but one cuff rather than 15 bracelets), colorful monochrome (wearing one color head to toe to emphasize being tall), and wearable architecture (interesting shapes without discomfort)

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Love the idea of wearable architecture!

[@visionofewe]

Three style words: soft (as in color and/or lines: hem lines, drape, no harsh creases/corners of bags) like a river rock, free (looseness, simple/minimal details, and casual/versatility), and expression of height/tallness (largest section of body with breaks is lower half). Soft, free, height: Air elemental but with practicality.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Love this!

[@zuzzzap]

Alexa I really like Your style and I would mark it as chic, eclectic and laid back. I also think that You are sooo pretty! kisses 😘

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Aw thank you!

[@scrappy6932]

Alexa - you are beautiful! I loved all your cool outfits - thanks so much for the fashion show. What a fun person you are! I will refrain from pasting three words on you - a dozen wouldn't be enough. Can we have more Beethoven next week?

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ooh there will be some Beethoven (Symphony No. 9) next week, I think! (In an impromptu "closet vlog" 😅)

[@laurens3055]

I would say whimsy, structural, and sophistication for your three words. I think in more of imagery though so the thought that came to mind seeing your outfits was a cat that had dipped their paws in a watercolor palette in a gazebo and is now walking in the garden. A little obscure I know, but I think it evokes a stronger energy than just three words.

[@bthomson]

Absolutely love this sweet image! 🐈🐾🌺

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

This is incredible and I'm actually very honored to embody this kind of image, thank you

[@samlynn8068]

Sporty, sculptural, comfortable!

[@melaniegoode5557]

Relaxed, casual, colourful

[@lamochilademary1969]

I am no style guru either but I think you would be casual, relaxed, and sporty. Thank you for telling us about the book, I was also thinking about buying it, so you saved me some bucks because although I am a New Yorker, I live in Colombia South America, and have a life that is not very stylish.

[@patriziawaldron6612]

I think you are absolutely brilliant. I would say your style is very chic! Love your channel.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Thank you!

[@candibee8918]

I laughed so much with you in this video! I actually had this in my Amazon cart, and then going into my no-buy, I put a hold on it at the library. I’m now 4th in line, but I’m so glad I didn’t buy it now that I’m seeing your review! The Row is absolutely never going to be in my price range 😂 In Canada, nobody ever wears shoes in the house. It’s a very odd thing to see in movies! My three words for you would be: Comfortable, Elegant, Warm

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Yes! You may still enjoy some of it if you read it from the library - but it's defintiely not a book I consider relevant enough for me to keep around long term 🫠

[@am-cat-o9o]

I don't know if I could nail down three concise words for you - I've wrestled with this too and making the words concrete generally annoys me after a period of time. However, in the spirit of "what style do you see?" I would say you seem to be about exploring the tension between minimal-plain and artistic, usually in "classic" pieces, worn with comfort in mind. Enjoying your content a lot, I have it playing in the background when I feel "shop-y" and need a mental reset.

[@bthomson]

"Shop-y" love that! It's an adjiverb! 😘🏷🎁

[@joannegodwin5238]

I loved your fashion show. You've gotten so many good words from other commenters so I've nothing new. I'd say Comfortable, Modern, Cool. And I agree about trench coats and shoes in the house!

[@Desiree_Rose]

Totally lost me at "altar"...good grief! Can our self-worship get any more obvious?? 🤦‍♀️ Thank you for the review! Saved me from wasting my time💜

[@rebeccajordan4491]

Caveat: I love consuming style content and would love to be a stylist. However, after watching a lot of videos with Alison Bornstein - either featuring her or just featuring her work - I’m very conflicted. On the one hand, her 3-word method has actually proven to be a real game changer for me, but she’s not the only person who uses a 3-word method. Other than that, I find her work to be extremely boring. I think her style is boring, and most of the clients I’ve seen of hers are just… boring. Nothing wows me. So overall, my question about her is, “does she have great STYLE, or is she just tall, skinny, wealthy and extremely well-connected?” I feel like it’s the latter, honestly.

[@conselfquence389]

I would say your words are comfortable, structured, easy. From your examples you tend to pick something with a tailored shape be it a blazer, tailored pants or a structed purse and match it with an easy/comfortable piece like a tshirt and then add easy/comfortable to wear shoes. My three words for you don't follow the rules of each fitting into a category, but they were just the first words that came to mind seeing your choices as someone who has never read the book so i wasn't influenced by the suggested choices I imagine were offered by he author.

[@bthomson]

I just read an interesting bio about ...another Thomson! Details unknown and very exemplary! 😎

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

👀

[@cjr790]

My thoughts would be relaxed & fun and then maybe something to address an element of simplicity? Or clean?

[@waitwhat8321]

I don’t have 3 words but would say in my view your outfits were classic with a twist of funk.

[@annie-sc]

I love your tshirts sm!!😂❤

[@gabi4247]

My guess before looking at the description is playful, current, comfortable. The base outfits are all very tailored, current, and neutral but then you bring in very strong pops of color that may not "go" with the outfits in crayola colors that feel very different.

[@arathema]

I felt myself nodding when you brought up how she used different people's styling. I had a similar feeling, and ended up googling when a basic description sounded interesting. But in the larger picture, this book felt like someone who was used to talking in visual mediums trying to bring them into a written form. Those examples in a YT video, showing as background visuals as she gave them? That would work great! I would have loved some illustrations or photos as part of the book.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

This is so true actually, what a great point! I have felt like I got more about watching her visual content, working with people in real life, than I got out of this book!

[@pompom8030]

I see relaxed, elevated and minimal or fun 🎉

[@LeahTackles]

Structured, casual, quirky for you! For me I think classic, elevated, feminine

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ooh thank you for sharing yours!

[@cn7228]

OMG I taught middle school at age 24 and high school the following year at 25. It was terrifying and it was so hard to find clothes that made me look like a teacher. It was quite humbling regularly getting asked if I had a hallpass at the middle school 😂

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

I think I was 27-28 for my year at the high school, but yeah I definitely felt like I had to level up and throw on a blazer to convey authority over those teenagers 😆

[@melanies8263]

My three words for you (based on the outfits and what we've seen from your personality) would be: relaxed, structured (as an add-on, see bags, pants, blazers etc.), and artsy for the overall vibe / feeling 😊 (Mine are casual, classic, and effortless - I think 😅)

[@shenelleramjewan2416]

Comfortable, casual, artsy/playful

[@bthomson]

Those are good words.

[@tinylittlebutstillalion4101]

I would describe your style as relaxed, fun, soft, feminin mixed with a little bit of classic style. I know that is more than 3 words, i have also tried to find my 3 words and 3 just is not enough for me❤

[@CS-ly3lx]

Clothing can enhance and draw attention to your own beauty. You have a lovely face, enchanting eyes, gorgeous hair, a wonderfully slender neck, amazing collarbones, and great shoulders. The outfit from today's selection that looks the best on you is the one around minute 23.37, with slate gray pants and the white tube top, slightly softened by the billowy white shirt. That outfit moves the eye up to your face and lets you shine. You feel happy in it. In comparison, the t-shirts with statements and pictures draw the eye to your midriff first. And bright shoes draw the eye right down to your feet. I think you could incorporate more of the elements of your performance clothes into what you wear every day. Your personality comes across as sincere, analytic, and articulate. Perhaps your style lies in that direction, too.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Thank you for this thoughtful comment, (and I'm flattered by your compliments 🫣) I'll probably notice some of these details now that you have mentioned them! For me I think there is a bit of a question of whether I want to look "good/my best" or if I just want to "have fun" (hence the graphic tees, the shoes) and I guess I don't know if my style in general is more focused on the idea of looking the best, or fun with clothes. This is actually an interesting overall idea to me, so I might revisit this at some point!

[@vesper8190]

Love the outfits!

[@coldcomfort1932]

Combining what you have said (as this is more telling about your style) and your outfits I’d say your three words are Practical/Comfortable, Creative and Neat. I honestly feel that some of your structural bags don’t fit with the rest of your vibe as they appear perhaps a little too controlled. However the Polene across body and the more relaxed shoulder bag look great. Both are neat yet have a relaxed, practical, natural vibe to them. That’s my opinion for what it is worth……

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Thanks for sharing!

[@isabellerininger6249]

One of my favorite pieces is my navy blue trench coat, back in the day when I worked in the city I wore it daily to protect my clothing from the dirt of the city. Tailoring-as a short person I have had many, many pants taken up an inch or two. It’s not nearly as pretentious or expensive as it sounds.😉 $5 per cuff. Coffee is more expensive.🙃

[@isabellerininger6249]

Somehow my edit to my post won’t take. If I had 3 words for your style they would be quirky, oversized, and youthful. 👍

[@isabellerininger6249]

Oh-and I tagged you in my favorite 3 Word video. It was great seeing it done in action. 👍 it’s Allison Borenstein. (I may have that misspelled)

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Yes! Another commenter mentioned too that it might be just that I'm lucky enough to not absolutely need to get things tailored to work, which is a very good point. The most typical "issue" I have is that sleeves/pants are slightly too short, and I haven't historically purchased garments that are high quality enough to have the allowance to be "let out" in those areas. Otherwise I can also get away with things being oversized and therefore NOT tailored since I'm quite tall and also don't personally mind the more androgynous or breezy look of "less fitted" clothes. So my perspective has been opened! And I'm happy/relieved to hear that it is not expensive for practical adjustments! Also funny enough I never considered trench coats in colors that aren't khaki or beige - a navy one actually sounds lovely, although I will remind myself that I initially didn't feel that I needed a trench coat, so I don't need to go looking into a navy one 🤣 I'm not sure I'm seeing a tag notification (could be me, I'm not the most tech savvy!) but if it's Allison's own video I will go check that out! I haven't totally given up on the method, even if the book didn't really speak to me!

[@moko7682]

Words about your style that came to my mind: breezy, light, fresh, luminous, urban, street style, relaxed, laid back, youthful, artistic, creative, colorful, classic

[@Maykono1]

I would say both laid back and chic with a touch of colourful edgy personality.

[@barbb1672]

Thank you! I thought about purchasing the book, your comments tell me that it’s really not worth it for me!

[@nataliehill9056]

I love your content, but I never have time to write something thoughtful as a comment so I just want to say I love your outfits in the end!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

🥰

[@emmy8526]

The three word thing really gets on my nerves. It wouldn’t be helpful at all when shopping; one could use it to rationalize any purchase or not. The brief ubiquity of these style philosophies (Smilovic, too) and similar bursts of identical trend bla-bla on social media makes me think of that scene in Life of Brian where Brian says to his followers (whom he doesn’t want and didn’t ask for): “You’re all individuals!” And they all respond in expressionless unison: “We’re all individuals.” I think it’s more everything else going on in the world, but I find I’m less interested in fashion YT than ever. I find it irritating not relaxing. The only ones I relate to are the ones consistently deinfluencing and celebrating people wearing what they already have, like yourself. Otherwise 'personal style' is just the new fantasy self! For my part, I’ve enjoyed gathering what I have over time and I want to wear it and combine it to get a bit of joy and beauty in a day. All these rules and brand obsessions sound increasingly detached from reality, even to a person interested in clothes as creative expression. Relatedly, pretty clueless influenced-influencers having to hire Bornstein to tell them to wear a t-shirt with jeans, then getting on Indyx to sell their parasocial relationship to followers in the guise of supposed stylists is a new low in the medium of shaking coins out of your audience’s pockets. In a friendly way: please don’t apologize throughout your think pieces. One diplomatic disclaimer upfront and in your description is enough, I think! You’re as entitled to your opinion as anyone else and if anyone disagrees, they can juice your engagement stats in the comments. (:

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Oh I think I might have to revisit Life of Brian, that sounds excellent. I am also reaching that point of letting go of all the fashion YT content I used to watch, and I guess my priorities have shifted - I'd love to see more creators who ONLY do deinfluencing, "trend critiquing," or wear-what-you-have content while hardly ever bringing in anything new, because I'm increasingly unwilling to sift through content that I don't want to watch just to wait for the kinds of "fashion content" that I do enjoy. I guess that's partly why I'm here, although I can't bring myself to do too many fashion videos while I have other "anti-consumerist" ideas to talk through 😅 Thank you for the friendly advice - I'll try to remember this! It's hard for me to have "negative" or "critical" opinions of the work of others and I'm still figuring out how to present these things in a useful way, since everyone has their own life experience and etc. and I'm keenly aware that my opinion could be just as invalid to someone with the experience to match what I'm criticizing. BUT, I am getting to the point where I think certain practices are just objectively unethical (especially in the realms of online influencing), which means I feel better about defending a critical position about them! Finally! Haha

[@pialupa]

Disclaimer: I haven't read the book because I know from experience that I don't get much out of style books. I just watched quite some content from and with Bornstein. Your 3 words: Can't speak on your 2nd or 3rd word, since those are personal. But my ideas for your 1st word are: relaxed, easy, effortless. Now onto my notes! 3 words method: Theoretically I like this idea of creating a personal style statement. However, in practice, it just doesn't help me much. You need to fill these 3 words with meaning yourself. Simple, classic, relaxed. What does that mean? I find style systems that describe meanings to words and that can be learned more useful: casual with classic influences and minimal styling (Wonder Wardrobe), Mushroom/Stone/Earth (Style Roots), perhaps even Soft Natural (Kibbe) and Natural-Classic (Kitchener Essences). I find learning a method and some vocabulary (objective approach) more helpful than making up random words based on how I feel (subjective approach). "9 timeless pieces for every woman": I immediately dislike any stylist that gives you a list of essential items everyone needs. Because it just doesn't exist. Style is personal and lifestyles vary a lot. I do feel like her method/book is very much catered to young-ish city women in fashion who want to create stylish and modern outfits. And for those people this list of 9 pieces might apply. But it's not universal. My favourite style educator is and will always be Daria Andronescu with her Wonder Wardrobe method. Because she teaches systems that can be applied by all women and that result in personal and functioning wardrobes. A note on tailoring: Maybe you are just lucky that items fit you off the rack and you don't NEED to get them tailored. I am short and get almost all blouses and about half of the trousers I buy shortened in order to make them fit me. I doubt that I will ever find a blazer that fits me (small but bigger chest). Pretty sure I will have to get one custom-made. So be lucky! :D

[@yalazha]

I had to dig around for my own copy of the book (yes I have it 😂) cause I agree with you on the point about closet essentials. Allison does clarify, she doesn’t think there are must haves that should be in every person’s wardrobe. But that the silhouettes described are the building blocks of a functional wardrobe. However, I wish she had provided alternatives to illustrate that, like the blazer and trenchcoat in her list are specific types of outerwear that aren’t my essentials.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Thank you for these very thoughtful notes! And I really love Daria Andronescu's wardrobes inspired by art pieces, she does beautiful work. You are also totally right about the tailoring, I wasn't thinking about the scenarios where things truly don't work without some adjustment. In my case things are sometimes a bit too short (but I try to buy "long" for pants to avoid this), or sometimes things end up a bit "oversized" on the top (as someone without much chest!), but this is a style I can work with usually, and as long as I wear separates rather than dresses I can get the right sizes for top and bottom. Thank you for reminding me about these different scenarios where tailoring isn't just for a better "fit," but is actually necessary!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

On reflection, I actually wonder if the "closet essentials" is just a problem of wording, or presenting this kind of information in the most "clickbaity" way. In the age of social media it seems like these "lists of essentials" are very popular, whereas more carefully worded conversations about how certain building blocks can be fundamental to everyone are not as popular or catchy...

[@pialupa]

@@Alexas.nobuyyear That is absolutely right, the "here is a list of things you need"-rhetoric is definitely a marketing technique being used by influencers, brands, fashion magazines, etc. And I am allergic to it 😅

[@yalazha]

Refined, artsy, and either modern or playful. There’s relaxed shapes, casual styles, minimal outfits, and feminine details but what’s more prominent are those words. Refined in the tailored pieces, satin skirt, Nisolo sandals, and the first outfits in general; artsy and playful in the graphic tees, interesting silhouettes, use of color, and combinations.

[@Llllaaa666]

Playful - this one is good one - definitely one of the three words!

[@eleanorandrews6048]

Architectural, sporty,classic

[@Julia.robokut]

Trendy, playful, unique. I think you have a model body type and face, and can easily pull off the looks from the runway. I really liked the outfit, I think it was at the very end? The black shirt and pants with flowing white shirt - the contrast looks amazing on you! I don’t know if you ever heard of Carol Tuttle’s method of ‘dressing your truth’ it’s quite interesting, check it out 😊

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Aw thank you, and thank you for the recommendation! I'll take a look!

[@valyaobraztsova]

I do not have kids, but I do not have 20 minutes every morning to think of what to put on anyway :D When it comes to tailoring, my experience with fitting clothes is rather negative as the proportions get changed and the item becomes not what I liked when I bought it. Tailoring an item from scratch seems to be a journey into unknown 🙊 For my money, I want to see what am I buying and it has to fit perfectly from day 1.

[@angelamelum4304]

Ha I never could figure out my own style words. I have three written down, but question at least one of the words because pieces I bought that fit that style I never wore.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ooh, maybe it's too "aspirational" of a word, or maybe that vibe just doesn't work for you in a practical sense? I wonder what would happen if you made a point to wear those pieces, and note how you feel or why you think you don't actually wear them!

[@danicab836]

I LOVE your style. You pair ‘feminine’ and ‘masculine’ elements together so well. Really enjoying your content. Also the idea of having an altar for your 3 fashion words made me feel a little sad tbh. Like what are we doing.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Thank you! And yeah I just can't with the altar thing...but, I don't want to disrespect anyone for whom that idea feels important and meaningful! So I tried not to be inflammatory here 😅

[@fromscratcheewithstef]

Sporty-Cool-Quirky Sporty-a play on "athletic" because your look isn't "is she an athlete?" But the outfits with trainers did not look 'unexpected shoe,' they looked the most harmonious to my eye. It's also the most prominent and practical element of your style, IMO. Cool- it edged out 'chic' bc I do think the distinction is that [my impression is that] you aspire your looks to be cool like an artist rather than chic like a Parisienne model. Quirky- a tricky one since it can have a negative connotation, but theres no other way to describe it, and its the deepest compliment from my heart: Name another person who could--and would--purchase and wear a shirt feat a composer famous for a viola comp both ironically and unironocally. I'll wait.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

It certainly IS practical - I remember vividly a time when I was wearing some backless mules with a kitten heel, and ended up throwing my back out at work. So I'm happy to have cultivated a style that allows for trainers at work. I'll take quirky any day, negative connotations or not! Thank you! 😁

[@amykatrina7542]

The altar thing cracked me up, honestly 😂 for context, I am a practicing pagan and I have and use an altar space for my spiritual practice, but the idea of setting up an altar for my three fashion words...? It's just a no 🙈😂 I think I ran across similar issues when I read The Curated Closet - the author suggests moodboards galore, and going to shops without buying to harvest inspiration, and finding/developing a personal colour palette, and a whole bunch of other ideas, and after a while I felt kind of exhausted just reading it. It seemed so labour-intensive and non-intuitive, which for me was just never going to work. Much like taking 20 minutes to get dressed in the mornings, who has the time? I also read a book a few years back called Style Statement, which encourages you to define your style with two words. At the time I remember being really into it but today I don't even remember what my words were 😂

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Yes - I found myself trying to be extremely careful speaking in this video because I'm aware that this is the internet, and people of all experiences/beliefs/preferences etc. might come across this and I don't want to come across as disrespectful. That being said, and since I feel that I'm "among friends" in this comment conversation - some parts of this had me thinking "are we for REAL here?!" in a sassy incredulous tone...I just can't, with this level of taking wardrobing seriously, it gets to a certain point where it's just not fun anymore!

[@ravencochrane9831]

Cool, organic, artistic

[@ravencochrane9831]

Wow, just went in and found your pick for your 3 words and I chose 2/3..nice lol

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Yes and also organic and relaxed are very similar! I might actually like organic more since it has more of a "nature" connotation, so thank you!

[@kellypalmer2689]

My 3 words without reading the other comments for you are - relaxed, geometric, quirky After reading the comments I think I’ll change it to relaxed, geometric and artistic. Something about your whole vibe seems to have an interesting play on art/shapes - the structure of the items, or graphics on the clothes, or the shapes of accessories, or colours of the pieces. That is what creates the interest for me.. so it’s not quite quirky or trying to be different just for the sake of it, but more meaningfully different in an artistic way :) And that’s probably what makes your style cool!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Thank you! I consider relaxed and artistic to be two of my words too so it's pleasing to know that it comes across!

[@Siures]

I also stopped wearing my watch and my wedding ring when I was breastfeeding… with little kids it’s just uncomfortable. I try to implement it again as a habit. So no accessories for me! And because I dress not only me in the morning but three people I certainly don’t have 20 minutes for me (sometimes for my kids because „I don’t want this! I change into my dress!“ „But it’s in the laundry dear!“ „And the other one?“ „It has ketchup on it.“ Child cries for five minutes before getting dressed differently, not liking it and choosing the first outfit.) I am not sure if I like the three words method. For me it’s mostly the vibe that makes a outfit for me and sometimes I really cannot say why a piece of clothing works for me. Tbh, I think the podcast „Sustain This“ handled it in length and I always thought: how boring! Also indoor shoes. I like to be barefoot. The women in the podcast found the solution to have nice slippers as indoor shoes and just for indoors. It’s a fun thing to think about (especially for other people) but for me it’s not helping. What helped me is educating myself about colors and shapes. Only a bit as I am also not a fashion expert and don’t want to be. I always „tailor“ clothes as I am small and have to change jeans on a regular basis. My goal is to have more handmade clothes made by me. And that’s not that unrealistic.

[@bthomson]

The children clothing bit was super cute! Why is " ketchup " so funny?

[@Siures]

@@bthomson Funny? Cries which the meaning of tears of despair. Sorry, I am German and learned BE in school. Was it the wrong term?

[@scrappy6932]

I agree about the "boring" content - I thought it was just me? 🥱 There are a few influencers out there who have gone on about this 3 word method and I tried to do it but the outcome was just, well, boring 😂 As for the picture you painted about getting the children dressed - that is very funny. I'd never have guessed English was not your first language. I hope you find some time to do some sewing for yourself!

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

oh goodness yes somehow the favorite outfit is always in the laundry or not presentable for some reason "but no, that is pajamas we can't wear that one out" ..."actually forget it you can wear the pajamas" 😂 I thought about the idea of house slippers or specific shoes for only indoors, but then for me what is the point of "indoor shoes", it's like some kind of costume that you don't actually use outside, so no one sees and also you don't use the functionality of the items. I understand slippers if your feet get cold indoors, but otherwise it is just not for me. I think I am also moving closer to the idea of "handmade" clothes or even learning to do small "tailoring" adjustments by myself! It helps that I don't really "need" anything right now so I can take my time in learning these things.

[@kaisa1476]

You seem to have a lot of "me problems" but I'd say most of them are a more than just your personal problems. Or perhaps I have exactly the same me problems :D Who has 20 minutes every morning even without kids? And why would I wear something uncomfortable for working at home when I can achieve the same results in sweatpants? And then the universal pieces... if you want to look classic then probably those are great items to have, but not everyone wants to.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Haha oh I sure do have a ton of "me problems" 😆 I think it's that idea where if it were a priority in our lives, we can make just about anything happen... so I want to emphasize that it's not a priority in my life right now, therefore, a me problem, and I don't judge anyone who does want this as a priority! (Or if I DO judge a bit in reality, I don't want it to define my perspective or what I communicate here - still working on it! And it was hard with this book because part of my instinctive response was like "20 minutes? an 'altar' for personal style? shoes indoors? oh HELL no!" but the other part of me does not want to get sassy on what could be someone's legitimate life priorities (which also don't hurt anyone) ...so 🤷‍♀️

[@makeitvanilla6313]

I would describe your style as minimal, relaxed and neutral.

[@magdalena4153]

casual, non-obvious, artistic

[@runemagged21]

STREET FECES. Love.

[@runemagged21]

AND Rise of the Valkyries. In one video?? Epic.

[@runemagged21]

Oh, and three words 4 U: Elevated funky function?

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

😅😆

[@JoannaSelvan]

I also don’t agree with wardrobe “staples”/ “universal pieces”. Only universal piece is some shoes, and something to cover enough of your body for it to be deemed appropriate for society. Personally I like trench coats and I have quite a collection of belted coats. I don’t own any t-shirts, especially in white. I have various tops but not t-shirt. Cosigning clothes is not in realm of my possibility either. I wear clothes until it is worn out to the point it doesn’t look good. I have to tailor most of my items. Off the rack items do not fit my body well. I like concept of 3 words as a method of self-discovery. I think your style is: minimal, utilitarian, sporty, laid back, relaxed, fun, cool, unserious. You have good style. I am still working on mine. For the longest time I only have bought clothes that fit and that was a big challenge on its own. I didn’t have much choice of expressing myself through clothing because I would just go for what fits well enough. Now I am on a me-made wardrobe sewing journey so it might change eventually :)

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ooh I'd be excited to hear more about your me-made wardrobe journey! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

[@alicetrieu7733]

Professional, simple, spunk

[@jochenkraus7016]

Three words? Dramatic musical bridges? 😅 Btw maybe you could talk about The Story Of Stuff.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

I'm probably going to re-read all of my "conscious consumerism books" and maybe aim for an end of year round-up of all the best things I took away from what I have!

[@jochenkraus7016]

@Alexas.nobuyyear I've heard that there's more monetization towards the end of the year. So go for that sweet KZbin Money! 💰 🤣

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

@jochenkraus7016 yes - I'm not sure if it correlates with "sale season" but I'm actually planning on doing a vlogmas/video everyday in December to try and combat the shopping urges of the holidays, so if it results in more "ad revenue" I won't complain about that either! I'll probably share my first year's "earnings" after this year as well - so we can find out together 👀

[@selah5792]

Punk rock/ dianne keaton/ 80’s painter (artist)/Hollywood location scout 😊 4 words

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Hehe I'm gonna have to google who Dianne Keaton is (see, I really don't know the celebrities!) but thank you!

[@oretaviaAga]

I find the three word method hard to use for myself. I will try find some for you: unrestricted, approachable/straightforward, nonchalant. Well, I didn't fit in just three - sorry, englich is not my first language

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Aw thank you! And hey no apologies necessary, more words are better in my opinion 😊

[@cn7228]

When i hear people say to get fully dressed when you work from home im like "you clearly dont understand why i chose to work from home" LOL It reminds me a little of mari kondo's advice about "if you're a woman, try wearing something elegant to bed." While i agree with her that your loungewear is important and you should feel good at home, i dont like the implication that what makes me feel good will be the same just because we're both women. Idk, maybe this is a stretch, but some of this style advice sounds a little too traditional and male-gaze oriented to apply to me or anyone who is truly dressing for themselves.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Haha 100% on the working from home. And I'm not really a fan of any of the "if you're a man/woman...do this" advice, so that's not a stretch for me at all. I don't want it implied that I'm less of a woman, less feminine, not sexy, or whatever else, if I'm perfectly happy wearing something ratty or not elegant to bed. Not hating on Marie Kondo and if it works for her, that's great, but I do think that kind of language is a little old-fashioned, if I might dare to say.

[@selah5792]

Color block/ punk rock /easy cool

[@lindsey6579]

Some word salad for you: comfortable, elegant, charming, quirky, sporty, sleek, relaxed, creative

[@valeriemalenfant]

your 3 words based on your look and your clothing declutter could be laidback-artsy- flowy. I personally like the 3 words method (never read the book) but I hate the limitation of it. I always said I want to look like an ''old, excentric lady (with a title) in her old Manor in the English country who only had enough money to keep the stable boy'' so my style 3 words is Tailored- quirky -old word .... for it to work I think you need more then the inventory of your clothing but what you want to project to the world..... about tailoring your cloth (it's my first word soooo) I run marathons and have bigger thighs then my waist (always has and always been) and I hate when pants are tight so I go for a size that my tight are comfortable so it means that the waist is usually to big also I'm 5'3 so legs always need to be shorten. So tailoring make a world of difference with my clothing and how they fit on my body, that I fluctuate are not. my friend has a clothing line and she says pants are the hardest to make and get the sizing right.... they are almost impossible to target the majority of people. She has customers the LOVES her pants versus me who really has a hard time (they just don't fit well) so I'm saying for pants don't hesitate it is worth it.

[@scrappy6932]

this is fabulous 😂 I want to live in the manor house next door to you...

[@valeriemalenfant]

I could share the stable boy with you 😂

[@scrappy6932]

@@valeriemalenfant i was hoping you'd offer that! 😂

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

This is so true about tailoring, there are some times where it can really make a difference! So I approach this idea with new perspectives from the comments here, thank you! Also I LOVE your "style intention" description, it really creates a picture, a story, an aura, that just the 3 words cannot!

[@Tutankhamun18Reads]

My three words for you would be bright, relaxed & polished 😊

[@annelikurm6805]

Cool outfits! I would describe your style as relaxed, active and elegant

[@budomari]

Here are my three words for you: practical, whimsical, ice queen Hope you like them.

[@skhootman]

I would have said your style is maybe something like Relaxed, Artistic, and maybe Quirky. i know you chose cool as your third style word because I peeked before I commented.

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

😄 I like quirky too!

[@redrover2370]

Sleek, chic, capable

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ooh, capable! I like it

[@testing1-2three]

Maybe the “tight” jeans concept is because saggy jeans (in the rear) are worse. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@bthomson]

Do we dress for the view of others or for ourselves? ( maybe some of both🤔)

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

I've heard someone say "what I look like from the back is none of my business" and I kind of like this idea 🤣 But yes I don't love the saggy-behind look and also currently don't have much of a "behind" to work with (gotta hit the gym! haha) - maybe this is why I've started gravitating to non-jeans pants in general these days! Different shapes can camouflage (or work "with") this a bit better...

[@charmedvenuss]

Idk about three words but you do give me "rich mom at the school drop off" vibes lmao

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Haha I'll take it - the "school drop off" years are still ahead of me, but we'll see!

[@bthomson]

European ( not American), elegant, eclectic.

[@JehanineMelmoth]

I’d rather have heard a review of Portrait of the Artist, tbh. This book sounds painfully shallow (unless style is your job). Your style: cool, urban, influenced. Sorry about the last one - but that Nordgreen watch…

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Haha well I still haven't finished that one yet, I'm still stuck in the days where the author (or his character) is at school 😅 but I'll get there! And no offense taken, I'm actually getting closer and closer to "decluttering" that watch, going to give it another season of "outfits" this year to see if it's worth keeping...