REAL Tough Guys Don't Fight-What They Do Instead Will Save Your Life

[@EdLatimore1]

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[@bernieeod57]

@@EdLatimore1 I am a "Gun guy" And a practitioner of Kenpo Karate. If I were ever to start up my own "Gun- Fu" Training center, I would have a mat room where every day would start with an empty handed sparring match. This would place a person in a fighting mindset. Shooting is not the same as fighting. The late James Yeager, who ran a tactical school called "Tactical response" Referred to his classes as "Fighting pistol / Rifle / Shotgun "

[@boathemian7694]

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[@EdLatimore1]

@@boathemian7694 Hope you enjoy my guy!

[@Steven-ih5et]

Great video, thank you. Loved the story of you walking away from someone smaller than you.

[@JohnHastie-y7c]

I m looking forward to watching your self improvement videos

[@hawkeye5829]

The fight you avoid is the fight you win 100% of the time.

[@EdLatimore1]

Totally agree

[@Joeangel70]

Some People teach their kids to fight while others send their kids to law school. Which one wins.

[@carification]

@@hawkeye5829 you are right - but the world we live in? be real!

[@MMAGUY13]

Yes 💯 ❤

[@Avariche]

Facts. Learning to fight's most important lesson I learned, was don't fight. Avoid situations you can. Don't put yourself in danger. Check your ego at the door when you leave. My instructor said you learn to fight so you don't have to. Took a while to understand the wisdom of those words.

[@yathercantillano3874]

You get older and you realize most people never really grew up.

[@EdLatimore1]

And a lot of em are dangerous AF

[@ggrant7400]

@@yathercantillano3874 Fact

[@dweb]

And become POTUS or the billionaire who buys the US president.

[@delaunthirdgill-ross7667]

Agreed. Most people are "dangerous" in my opinion; everyone has a threat level and you're better off overestimating it then underestimating. Even a kid in a warzone can kill you 😅 no one is untouchable

[@tahseti1113]

You get older and you realize that your best weapon is between your ears.

[@AfterLife-t8c]

My dad used to say, "Nobody wins a fight. If you have to fight, you've already lost."

[@EdLatimore1]

@@AfterLife-t8c wise words!

[@kerripendragon4888]

Bruce Lee lost many times then !!

[@PekingKhan]

those were agreed upon bouts

[@EdLatimore1]

@@PekingKhan exactly. haha

[@carification]

yes someone does win. what can you do if no other option.

[@nathanlamont9920]

The worst person to get into with is a guy with NOTHING to lose and/or everything to prove.

[@EdLatimore1]

Yep! That's an explosive situation waiting to happen

[@xo_ectophylla_alba_xo]

And usually, that’s the only one who WANTS a fight

[@bernieeod57]

@@nathanlamont9920 One can say you can make two mistakes: a) Fighting when you could have avoided it b) Not fighting when you should have

[@DimMak74]

Or a guy who like an old-time gunslinger that just lives for that type of sh¡t............

[@xo_ectophylla_alba_xo]

@@DimMak74 Adrenaline junkies 😩😳

[@HC_Training_Adventures1990]

My father was a really good golden glove boxer from the 80s in new mexico. He wasnt only great in the ring but on the street he would KO dudes he spared with johney tapia and fought mike tyson cards. He was on his way up until he tried to avenge one of my uncles who was stabbed in a street fight. My father had a reputation but the guy He wanted to fist fight. Had other plans and instead pulled the gun and ended my father. That was an 89 and I was born in 90. Every story I hear about him from his friends and around town always remind me that people looked at him like he was invincible. However, I'm reminded everyday that as great as he was, he could not fight a bullet and I remember that because I am well trained myself and I understand that walking away, especially these days will save your life more than you know it. Thanks for the good video. Solid advice 💪🏽

[@EdLatimore1]

Damn dude. That's a rough story. I'm legit sorry to hear that your father went out like that. Thanks for enjoying the video though

[@ggrant7400]

SALUTE...I truly can identify. Much respect to your father (God Rest his Soul) I myself had to learn the hard way too on the streets. Blessings that I'm still here and now a Pro and USA Amateur license Boxing Coach/Mentor ECT. I've been fortunate to still be here in the flesh. I too was a fighter... I didn't care about who I fought on the street. Now that I'm older and wiser, I teach my guys self control, and to always remind them that they are a walking weapon and the meaning of Boxing and Street Fighting... Consequently, THERES NO RULES IN STREET FIGHTING. ANYTHING GOES. I've been stabbed in the back which penetrated an inch and a half in my lower back at the age of 22; Then stabbed again at the age of 26 (in the back again). This showed and taught me that a dude or dudes will not fight you fairly..NOT WHEN ITS A STREET FIGHT..It was only a matter of time when someone was going to end my life... Overall, much respect to you and my sincere condolences to you and your family...

[@Dan-d9v]

I had buddy like that although he wasn't a boxer, but he might as well have been, cause he knocked out everybody, now mind he didn't go around starting fights, well one night out and some dudes BS when so everybody gets out their cars my buddy gets one coming at him hits pretty solid but not a good clean hit, but it does knock the guy down, as soon this dude the floor he pulls out a gun and shoots my buddy in the chest died right there and then, 17 year old kid shot dead by a coward.

[@GetRight-np6qm]

⁠@@Dan-d9vdid he get shot because he knocked somebody out ?

[@Dan-d9v]

@@GetRight-np6qm no, the guy that came at my friend tried hit him but my friend blocked his punch, so my friend countered not a solid hit just enough to knock him down, once the guy hit the ground he pulled out a gun and shot my friend in the chest, my buddy died there in the middle of the street.

[@Refr619]

Dont ever fight someone who aint talking or replying responding. Because hes thinking about 50 different ways to kill you in that moment

[@highsecurityagent8778]

OK.😃

[@thomas1880]

Beware the dog that doesn’t bark!

[@Leothelion357]

Fax🤌

[@DanielHaapala-sn1cu]

Detta är sant !

[@neiloevocati]

Hmmm....We've never Met

[@Veteransolo]

Knew a special forces guy, he was at the bar then suddenly one of his bullies from back then bumped into him there and started boasting the time he broke his arm, special forces guy kept silent till the bully dared him to fight him one on one, special forces guy refused, then bully guy put his face on his, special forces guy pushed him away, bully started swinging, special forces guy hit his head with an ashtray, sent him to la la land, bully told him that he's a coward and still a weak kid if he fights dirty to win, special forces guy replied "yet im not the one bleeding from head to toe." Bully was sent to hospital then got jailed. Special forces guy was in the army with me before he left for special forces.

[@EdLatimore1]

Serves that bully right. Shit is crazy

[@LeadLeftLeon]

Special Forces gave him 3 chances. Many other operators would only give 1 warning!

[@Payote88]

You were the special forces guy weren’t you?😏

[@Veteransolo]

@@Payote88 I wish I was brother, but no, I wasn't, I tried, I passed selection but I failed to graduate, I stuck around with the regular army, infantry, Served 3 years. But I appreciate the thought.😂

[@dxpdigital5343]

@@Veteransolo Semper Fi brother!!! Not passing may have been a blessing, you would not want to serve with serial killers (in the bad way) and men with no morals. You seem like a moral person. Thanks for your service my brethren 🙏!

[@JimmyJack-hc2jo]

I knew a guy who ran a block in prison. He mandated that every inmate under his authority run on the track first thing every rec period. One new fish complained to his big homie that the dude was making him m run and the big homie told him "Then you run!" There are many situations in prison where you're going to have to run away to live! This came from the biggest and toughest dude in the prison.

[@EdLatimore1]

Ha that's good leadership, even in prison

[@BryonLee]

I did 20 years some of it in Pelican Bay security housing unit before it was unconstitutional and closed. The real tough guys would just order something done. Same thing out here I live on an Indian reservation in Humboldt County California. For a bottle of booze somebody can be tossed in a river let alone $200 $2,000 $8,000. What I learned is that the brain controls the body. So if you can affect his brain. I was in a bar and there was a great big dude shaking and trembling about to jump out of the chair and beat the living crap out of me and I was a hitter in a prison gang and I don't always feel like taking it there and sometimes the hardware store is not open. So he's giving me a dirty look shaking and trembling about to fly out of the chair on me. I said heyyyyyyyy and opened my arms really wide smiling like I was so happy to see him. And I said you're looking good bro!!!! And I patted his shoulders and I said you're looking strong man it's really good to see you tonight and he shook my hand and smiled but still rocking and having that great intensity. I walked away and got another drink within 45 seconds he was putting somebody in the hospital and they could not pull him off of him. In the same way you can totally change the conversation and say hey do you guys know where to get some good fish and chips man and be sincere. There probably is a lot of crappie fish and chips in your town. As far as ego like asking yourself later am I a coward if you are not the best in the world then there's somebody better and that right there is hard on an ego if somebody wants to have an ego. So yeah try to get out of it why would you disembowel somebody over some lip service.

[@LeadLeftLeon]

Need endurance so they don’t get winded in case of a prison riot battle royal brawl

[@jadar9356]

@@LeadLeftLeonexactly

[@zythr9999]

@@LeadLeftLeon ..or another activity

[@chaplainsoffice6907]

The greatest victory is that which requires no battle. Sun Tzu, The Art of War.

[@EdLatimore1]

Facts

[@bernieeod57]

Patrick Swayze said it best in the Movie "Roadhouse": "I want you to be nice! Until it is time not to be nice!"

[@EdLatimore1]

You want a reputation as a nice who ain't afraid to check someone if they get outta pocket

[@brianbane6199]

Yeah, but he wasn't taking guns to fist fights either.

[@bernieeod57]

@@brianbane6199 Someone pulls a gun on you, it is time not to be nice anymore! It then becomes a problem of tactics and strategy. The purpose of having your own gun is for cases where it is time not to be nice. If you don't have a gun, step into danger, not away from danger! A Kenpo disarm techs is called "Broken rod". As the name implies, the guy will never have full use of his gun hand ever again .

[@orusbaldwin559]

Waltrip Rams ?

[@EdLatimore1]

@@orusbaldwin559 ??

[@mushroomsteve]

There are no winners in a street fight. Getting away - if it is possible - is always the best course of action. This is why I am coming around to the viewpoint that parkour is among the best "martial arts" for self-defense in an urban environment, even though it isn't really a martial art. Being able to use the environment to quickly escape a dangerous situation is a very valuable skill.

[@EdLatimore1]

Ha that's definitley a take I've never heard, but I can dig.

[@christopherjohnson1414]

eyes - opened

[@DanielHaapala-sn1cu]

Absolut ! Ja skulle våga säga att det är det perfekta "Självförsvaret" ! Nu utgår ja ifrån att man inte har något att vinna på att stanna o slåss, då är Parkour ovärderligt att kunna ! Bra sagt !

[@MarcusAurelius12]

A guy i knew in high school got into a fight several years ago and knocked the guy out. The dude hit his head on the ground and died. He's now in prison. Over a disagreement. Little did he know that day when he was putting on his socks and shoes that he would have erased someone and would be going to prison. Not worth it

[@EdLatimore1]

Wow that's a rough story. SAD as hell

[@philip571585]

This can happen in any fight.

[@EdLatimore1]

@@philip571585 That's true, which is another reason to not fight

[@Payote88]

Same 25 years wasted

[@marcalampi5036]

Thank you my Brother for this video ​@@EdLatimore1

[@viperdemonz-jenkins]

am a 49 year old man and never got in a fight and I also carry always. do not like violence, but would rather have a fighting chance than be guaranteed in a bag.

[@EdLatimore1]

That's the right mentality

[@hembrasalvaje]

Yes exactly. Be prepared for the worst case but always do everything possible to avoid ending up there

[@НеЗнам-в4г]

I always back down from fights, maybe that's reasonable, but on the other hand, really takes a toll on my confidence as a man.

[@kerry-j4m]

Nothing wrong with that,amigo,the best fights are the ones you don't engage in. I don't even argue with any one,like you I just walk away ( it takes 2 fools to argue ) so many folks are shooting people for the stupidest reasons. Stay-FROSTY-amigo. God bless

[@EdLatimore1]

How often are you getting into situations that you need to back down from???

[@Brotherken1234]

​@@EdLatimore1 I know right. 💡

[@kddalivest2340]

@@EdLatimore1hold up that’s an excellent question let’s start there. 🤔 I’m sure with your understanding of psychology and human nature you can be a big channel or high paid psychiatrist. Asking that question showed awareness and was going to get him to zero in on the real problem that keeps him in situation that he has to back down. I’ve been the socially isolated kid who people bullied who fought back and people just moved the goal post or came back with more people and teamed up against me. You accurately described my experience being bullied. However something about him is causing him to be in those situations

[@EdLatimore1]

@@kddalivest2340 Ha clearly I've chosen the wrong profession

[@deltabravo1969]

There is a difference between fighting and self defense. Self defense is when you fight to defend yourself and your family. Fighting is when you escalate a situation or don’t walk away from a situation that will get you into trouble. Well said coach.

[@EdLatimore1]

Damn straight

[@Andrew-un8tx]

Fighting is for fun and is done in a gym. Self defense is with weapons.

[@1r3u]

As a 5'6 guy from India, if a big guy comes at me with bad intentions, I can't afford to take the chance of being fair😂 Equalizers are my only friend in such situations so I simply avoid getting into this type of ego battles much as I can. Great video 👏🏻

[@EdLatimore1]

Ha smart move. And thanks my man!

[@bernieeod57]

@@1r3u "If you find yourself fighting fair, your tactics suck!" The late Colonel Jeff Cooper

[@1r3u]

@@bernieeod57 Good one, brother

[@jadar9356]

Yall just don’t wear deodorant no one will want to get near you

[@whispersofveracity63]

I have noticed this about Indian men. They choose feminine path and bobble their head.

[@turo3066]

Thanks for this young brother. I am a 58 yo combat veteran and BJJ practitioner. I constantly struggle with being "prepared" by carrying because the constant vigilance and situational awareness can be a burden. At the same time I have to fight the idea of shit goes down I have to be prepared to defend. I avoid crowds, and conflict and mind my business. I also live in a quiet safe community--I removed myself from the urban life almost 40 years ago. I avoid road rage by doing exactly what you suggest. Right or wrong apologize, have a nice day and move on. I drive calmly and in no rush just not to put myself in a geeked up mindset. The higher power has blessed my several times in my life with survival. What's most important is making it home everyday to those who love and need you. 🙏

[@EdLatimore1]

Exactly. Once you have people who rely on you, all that matters is getting home to them. Everything else is trivial bs.

[@anonymousbosch9265]

There’s 100 ways a physical fight can go wrong and almost no ways it can go right

[@borgullet3376]

SELF Defense. Money, cars, etc. Can be replaced. If you're not under direct physical attack. Do what ever you have to do, to be able to Walk Away. Excellent Intell Ed. Stay Blessed🙏

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you!

[@RobertCamp-vw3mt]

Best advice ever, avoid jail , lawyer bills, hospital bills and all of the heartache🫡👍🏻

[@hugheswhiteman1674]

U win at sports. U survive fights. Avoid what you can, but all men should exercise and learn to defend yourself.

[@EdLatimore1]

Absolutely!

[@FrekiBodgaedir]

Everybody needs to listen to this gentleman.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks my guy~!

[@horsetracker63]

Yes, This kind of advice could save your life!!!

[@fatamsimth]

This was great. I've only been in one streetfight. We were ambush attacked by some guys who were high on something while trying to impress their girlfriends, so we couldn't get away. It wasn't like the movies. Everyone got injured. At least one pretty seriously. There was talk of "go get the gun." It could have gone in any direction and by sheer luck had we not outnumbered them by one, we might have died in a Taco Bell parking lot. Now, despite some pretty extensive kickboxing and jiu jitsu training, as a father with 17 years of sobriety, I carry pepper spray, give people a wide berth, and go to bed at 10pm. So far, so good.

[@EdLatimore1]

That's a crazy story. Yall got jumped bu crackheads. Straight madness lol. Congrats on the sobriety!

[@fatamsimth]

@EdLatimore1 Yeah just a reminder that you gotta pay attention or you can get complacent.

[@grahambrown1980]

You live in the USA? Exercise your Second Amendment right and carry a gun, obv, get some training and practice. I’m Canadian, I’m not allowed to even own most firearms, totally unfair for all gun enthusiasts.

[@timmsheeen5360]

I’m white I was at the mall yesterday just waiting in line a black man ahead of me in line accident bump d my shoe I didn’t react I didn’t really care but I felt a hand on my shoulder looked up and he said my bad bro and I said it’s all good bro clear accident then we talked he had a bunch of clothes I was just getting a gift card and dipping he noticed and said bro go ahead that’s all your getting I said nah it’s cool man you were in line first he insisted and that was that we dapped and went our separate ways Treat Everyman as a man until they give a reason not to

[@EdLatimore1]

Love this story. Good holiday spirit too

[@timmsheeen5360]

@ definitely he was a cool dude and all the stuff on the counter was definitely for his daughter or daughters so I could tell he’s a good father just from the bulk on the checkout

[@kerry-j4m]

@@timmsheeen5360 When I'm out and about in public places I find most folks are polite and don't want to get involved in foolishness ( and neither do I-LOL ) just want to go about their day in peace and have a GOOD time with their families. God bless

[@timmsheeen5360]

@ most definitely I totally agree I’ve always been that way no one’s business is mine to interrupt or call out anyone as long as they’re doing thier own thing not hurting or threatening anyone they can do as they please And most people are that way it’s just the few ruining the many like in the usmc one marine makes a mistake we all payed but this isn’t the corps and not everyone can be peoples stress balls just because they cannot behave themselves in public

[@timmsheeen5360]

@ god bless you Thanks for your opinion I totally agree it’s only terrible if you make it that way life can be good most times especially in America we have it so good we truly don’t even understand true day to day struggle and I hope we will never learn

[@BUZZKILLJRJR]

The old saying goes a long way here, pick your fights and choose your battles. I grew up poor as hell with a schizophrenic mother, I did wrestling karate. I was a concrete foundations guy and farm hand and Construction worker my whole life. I did used to fight train, I am just a shell of my former self, my buddy worked as a trainer for North Idaho's lions den, then as a trainer I worked with him I primarily did boxing and wrestling, and a few other mixed martial arts moves he had shown me, I was not a professional fighter but I knew enough to absolutely be confident, it had to be used a few times and i was very happy I knew a thing two when the chips were down. Alcohol and egos did not mix your 1,000% correct that is the only time I ever had problems with anyone and I wasn't a guy that started fights.

[@EdLatimore1]

That alcohol is nightmare fuel

[@TheCapnMorgan]

This guy gives really good advice

[@EdLatimore1]

Just dropping useful game!

[@Roberta-qe7km]

I find your content to be practical. Thank you. I agree that some people can’t separate their emotions from their ego and it gets them and the people they encounter into deadly situations. Your advice isn’t just for managing extreme situations. I was at the grocery store, parked and talking on my phone. A woman pulled her cart between my car and hers and opened her door resting it on my car. I politely rolled down my window and asked her to move her door off of my car and she went off. I got out of my car and she grabbed my door and it got physical. She felt justified because she needed to put her groceries in her car. What? I eventually deescalated the situation. Got back in my car and waited for her and her husband to leave before I went into the store. I lived to laugh about it, but really, things could have gone very wrong. Your message is clear to me. I understand you and thank you.

[@EdLatimore1]

Wow that grocery store story is actually crazy. Happy youade the smart choice to live another day.

[@grahambrown1980]

She was a Karen?

[@New_Spaniard_1492]

I live in the East Coast. I avoid ALL fights. You’ll never believe the number of people out there taking psych drugs either for depression, paranoia, or some type of Bipolar disorder. Worst of these people will smoke marijuana on crack making making their issues much more complex. Unless your life or the life of your family is in danger avoid all fights.

[@EdLatimore1]

Damn. You out there facing dope fiends. Stay safe homie.

[@williamhernandez3201]

@New_Spaniard_1492 I'm down in Florida. That's a no no. With open carry. Getting into an argument and fight could cost you your life. I agree about staying our of bars like the GZA song and most nightclubs. My experience the few times I've had issues with strangers has been at two stores and once at KFC. I ignored their comments and got out of the stores as fast I could. Guns with stand your ground laws don't mix well. On the street. I'm 48 and 5'6". Keep to myself but carry a taser. In case I see no way out. But I avoid answering back and get out of the location as fast as I can.

[@Rolling50s]

I’m 59 and a second degree BJJ black belt. This is a great message. You’re right in saying a street fight is not what it use to be. Back in the day it was usually one and one and the the best man won. My three best child hood friends all started with a fist fight. Learn how to fight so you don’t have to. Training martial arts, boxing or wrestling gives you a confidence and gives you a healthy outlet where you don’t feel the need to get in to fight but knowing if your forced to protect yourself or your family you have a better odds. Especially against an untrained tough guy

[@01dumbfrog]

I had an older fellow who got upset with my comment and decided to pull a knife and was fumbling around trying to get the blade cleared and open I made another comment that really upset him “oh you brought a knife to a gunfight your not too bright” I then hopped on my bicycle and rode to the far entrance to the grocery store and bought my food and rode my bike back home later the cops came up to me and tried to get me to press charges against him. Being two days before Thanksgiving I knew dinner in jail was worse than at home with family. So they couldn’t convince me to press charges.

[@g.p.d.2220]

Solid advice. Great video!

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you friend!

[@RKmndo]

You could get shot, stabbed, beat, arrested, sued, fired, etc.

[@EdLatimore1]

facts.

[@davidbaker8483]

Great content, fella. I'm a 62 yr old Englishman and never lived in poverty, but what you say is very practical and sensible.

[@Jasonseay52]

I've been a traditional martial artist for nearly half of my life and people tend to interpret that as an inherent ability to fight. I am very quick to tell people that no skill set in a fighting discipline can prevent from being shot. My aversion to mindless violence, gym wars, and ego battles have given some old acquaintances the perception that I am weak and I'm OK with that. Ed I really do hope your channel grows and as a request I hope you do a video some day on the ills/ benefits of "hard sparring" I think you're the man who can bring levity to these types of conversations, keep up the great work👍

[@EdLatimore1]

Hey thanks man! And yeah nothing makes you bulletproof. People need to realize it

[@jadar9356]

All fights end on the ground

[@EdLatimore1]

@@jadar9356 ummm, what?

[@Jasonseay52]

@@EdLatimore1 they're just trying to get a rise out of either of us. If what this person said is true why is it when you see two pankration wrestlers become aggressive with one another they often strike rather than grapple? It's the puncher's chance, sure you may know how to grapple and you may even be very good but most human beings regardless of skill level resort to "the puncher's chance" option instinctually because of how immediately a well placed strike can end a fight. You should know what to do should a fight get taken to the ground but as I grew up in a inner city ghetto letting a fight go to the ground was like asking to be treated like a literal doormat. In a fight with no ref that is non-consensual you want to stay on your feet as much as possible if you need to exit a situation quickly if at all possible.

[@jdrmanmusiqking]

I had to stop at 0:37 when ya blamed YT for your clickbait titles which led to confusion If your thumbnail says the opposite of what you mean, then Ya gotta make better click bait bro lol. EDIT: This is a FANTASTIC video holy smokes. You are a highly intelligent being

[@EdLatimore1]

Hey thanks man! Also, that was a tongue in cheek sardonic statement. I wasn’t serious haha.

[@jdrmanmusiqking]

@EdLatimore1 Haha yeah when i actually looked at the thumbnail i freakin laughed and facepalmed with how seriously some people take things

[@EdLatimore1]

@@jdrmanmusiqking It's all love brotha haha

[@bmcarpetcleaningandfloorca4410]

You have good content, I recognized your name from fighting the Duke’s son on national tv. I have different experiences and a different perspective. I boxed in the amateurs, played football and basketball and suffered life altering injuries that linger today. I’m 50 with 2 knee surgeries, nose and orbital reconstruction, elbow surgery, and osteoarthritis and sciatica. I’ve been training to improve because my work is physically demanding. I’m a shell of what I was in my youth. Never had too many conflicts until I was in my late 40’s. One after the other for about a year. They were racially and age motivated unfortunately. Luckily, none of them came to blows. One guy did try to hit me from behind when I was taking out the trash but luckily missed when I turned around after hearing footsteps coming towards me. Two of the men were in their early twenties. Quicker, faster, and probably stronger. I was an easy target. At the time, I was wearing a knee and arm brace from carpal tunnel. So I was vulnerable to attacks I suppose. The taunts lasted for more than a year leaving my home and coming home from work. Constant death threats and racial slurs. I wasn’t sure what they were capable of, but I ignored them. The neighbors just watched, some laughed. Now, I could have went off the deep end. But, it was a no win situation. Neither one of them worked. One lived with his mom and the other his girlfriend with no jobs. I later found out both had priors and felony convictions. I knew if I approach with hostility and if I can land something I can go to jail. Or, I can get pummeled and still might go to jail with a lot of injuries and a lawsuit. I own a business and made good money and I’ve been in lawsuits before. You pick your battles because these guys have nothing to lose. I wasn’t sure they had access to weapons. I sure wasn’t going to use one unless I knew for sure they are carrying. We’re in Florida so it’s typical all of us carry but there is consequences. I never felt my life was about to end. I think it’s best to de escalate if you have money, a family and you are older. Eventually, these guys got arrested for something else. Looking back I’m glad I let everything just play out rather than overreact. It sucks, but it could have put me in a jail cell or a hospital and lose my business.

[@EdLatimore1]

You made the right brotha. For sure. And yeah, that was me!

[@donaldjohnson-y6n]

There never was a fair fight era. Most start with one guy throwing a punch while the other guy isn't looking, is walking away, or doesn't even realize they are about to fight.

[@EdLatimore1]

Maybe where you're from.

[@thinktankindi2664]

I grew up in a fair fight era...being a teenager in the eighties.

[@randystrand908]

Excellent points and nicely presented. Thank you.

[@TheBruces56]

I'm a former LEO and believe you are spot on here, especially concerning "road rage". Very few people will engage someone on the sidewalk the way they do in traffic. This is most true of female drivers who are in no position to go to war with anyone. On this subject I suggest everyone watch the movie "Unhinged", with Russell Crowe.

[@EdLatimore1]

Yo that movie was rough to watch. I caught it on a plane.

[@docbohemian1328]

I thought the ending was bullshit, but the rest was pretty good.

[@horsetracker63]

Hey Ed, Always good to hear your opinions and facts of life!!! One thing I was taught by a city raised man, who is my best friend, is: Time Of Day!! Someplace that is fairly safe in the day time, is not at night!!

[@muatachikwendu-oc6wq]

New subscriber Little Rock Arkansas I haved boxed martial artist over 60 years former kick boxer excellent information thanks for sharing Champ

[@EdLatimore1]

Hey thanks for digging my content and finding value in what a younger guy is saying.

[@ONLYINDADECOUNTY]

Positive voice. The world needs more of this

[@boathemian7694]

I’m 64 and in great shape and train including sprint training. Good skill to have.

[@EdLatimore1]

Sprint training at 64 is some role model type mindset. Salute to you man!

[@imjustsam1745]

Just found your channel this morning. You remind me old friends I don't see as often as I'd like. Thanks for being authentic, I'm going to binge later.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you friend!

[@josephlundy3534]

Wow ! the BEST most articulate deescalation advice I've ever heard ! Great video ! Stay safe in a crazy and often Cruel World, by being aware and prepared.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks my man! Wishing the same to you!

[@MrArdytube]

Thanks!

[@EdLatimore1]

Hey!! Thank you!!

[@MrArdytube]

@ Thanks back at you for the common sense. It is not about winning, or teaching someone a lesson…it is about getting on with your life

[@DALDO135]

You never win, If you win the fight, " which is 99% over nothing " Now your going to jail, with a major lawsuit! I C/C 24/7 don't drink or drug for many years now. I don't want any unnecessary problems... GREAT ADVICE... First time viewer. 👍🇺🇸

[@EdLatimore1]

@@DALDO135 thank you!

[@AnthonyDibiaseIdeas]

Best real life advice I've ever seen on YT. Well done and thank you.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you very much!

[@timmsheeen5360]

Bro I literally just had this weirdo literally shoulder check me at the gym and split then I recognized him I don’t make eye contact ever at the gym I’m in my zone at all times while there I then call him over he comes and I politely told him you need to watch where your walking you know nothing about who you may cross, of course he told on himself because he starts shadow boxing apparently talking crap but my headphones were drowning him out Now I could have gone outside and done the deed but anyone who tries to start a fight in the middle of public THEY ARE A COWARD AND WILL NOT ACT they’re looking for attention and someone to stop the fight for them Trouble will find you but you don’t need to engage you are not weak if you don’t destroy someone asking for it all he did was made a fool out of himself and literally got kicked out while I was working out because he was apparently STILL SHOUTING THREATS INSIDE THE Gym funny because I heard nothing I gave him great advice Don’t be a gym beta

[@EdLatimore1]

Yo that's actually crazy. Some folks never learn

[@timmsheeen5360]

@ not only did I see him walking towards me I stopped to let him pass by I had nowhere else to move I was right next to the dumbbell rack against the mirror dude had some issues

[@Treating-World-Love]

​@@EdLatimore1Stay this way bro don't let YT sell out your morals ethic values

[@wayofthekodiak3118]

Always some BS at the gym. I switched gyms because of issues with the one I was using. The other gym is really close by so no big deal, but it isn't as crowded and the patrons are an older more mature crowd.

[@Treating-World-Love]

@wayofthekodiak3118 That's how people are today loosing they're minds destroying themselves bad health and addictions and STD just wanna make you miserable

[@DaRealDBG7]

Situational Awareness Be smart Stay 10 steps ahead Become a weapon

[@bernieeod57]

Also, running away also triggers "Pursuit mode". It triggers the predator instinct and the thrill of pursuit overcomes the predator. Retreat while facing your accosting attacker only turning to run after a safe distance has been established

[@EdLatimore1]

Very good point to add.

[@walteradams5369]

Remember biblical : a soft answer turns away anger. Used it, it works

[@EdLatimore1]

I thought this going one way, but I completely agree with you

[@IndenturedSavant13]

I grew up learning to fight. Street fight and boxing. You won't know you're in a fight if i decide to neutralize you. Bullies are the easiest fights there are. They try to play a psychological game because they are afraid, just how a Chihuahua acts violent because it knows if shit actually goes down they're getting wrecked, so they use bluffs to avoid this.

[@EdLatimore1]

"You won't know you're in a fight if neutralize you." That's a life motto

[@beavischrist5]

You must be a bare knuckle fighter from Ireland 😊

[@EdLatimore1]

@beavischrist5 haha

[@gerardhennessey2919]

The day of hands is over. Truest statement ever. It’s best to walk/run away if you can. Don’t let your ego get you injured/killed.

[@EdLatimore1]

It's only the younger guys who disagree with this idea.

[@RobertCamp-vw3mt]

In todays world at least here in Texas this is an open carry state, so I just assume whenever I’m driving in my truck that the other vehicles around me they are armed🤔 so the last thing I wanna do since I am unarmed is calls any sort of conflict. In other words I stay in my own lane.👍🏻

[@EdLatimore1]

They do say that an armed society is a polite society!

[@rickypitman1035]

Yes sir an Armed Society is a Polite Society

[@51Dss]

Excellent advice - you're a man who has "walked the walk" - if you know what I mean. I'm old (73) and "old school" and White. But I ain't stupid nor am I oblivious to how drastically things have changed (regarding self preservation) in our society. I didn't grow up "in the 'hood" mind you but I did grow up in a neighborhood that was close to it...close enough that I learned many of the lessons you talk about here in this video. I was always a smallish man - in my youth I reached 5' 9" and only weighed 150lb when I got out of High School. There was a boxing gym not far from my house and my brothers and friends and I would go down there and pretend to be boxers once in a while. Bump each other about the head and shoulders with big pillowy gloves...despite my stature and scrawny physique I was the dominant boy in that crowd. LOL! Over time I learned to work a speed bag - made it look like I really knew what I was doing - I didn't and I knew it. LOL One thing I learned early enough was that I really couldn't fight worth a dam...although I got into a few unavoidable scraps I relied on my ability to read a room, a person...I developed the ability to see a potential threat before it could get to me. I was good at that. It has served me well for my entire life. I swallowed my pride more times than I care to remember when I was a teenager and a young man. But that's a story for another time. When I was about 13 I discovered that I had a natural talent for using firearms. I could shoot rifle, pistol, shotgun quite well. It came naturally to me. I ended up going into the Air Force (in order to evade being drafted and sent to Vietnam) and I qualified Expert with a rifle in Basic Training at Lackland Air Force Base in 1970. Although I could handle a pistol just as well as I could handle the rifle Air Force never gave me a chance to do that. Even though I could shoot well I was still a skinny scrawny guy. I weighed about 155lb when I arrived at Boot camp and I gained 10 pounds by the time I graduated basic. Could shoot but alas still could not fight worth a dam. LOL I saw how things were rapidly changing. I say how society was changing for the worse back in the 70's...society was becoming more violent - more of a dangerous place than it had been before. Sometime around the mid seventies Because I lived and worked around the periphery of "the hood" - there was an always present possibility that I would cross paths with someone "who had nothing to lose" - I decided it was in my best interest to carry a gun in order to protect my family, my home, myself from violent attack. I am a bit unusual in that I have been armed as I moved about in my daily life for more than 40 years. I have always been diligent about training with gun(s). Today it is a sad reality that there are more people walking and driving about who are armed...and dam'd few of them have gone to the trouble of training with their guns. Even fewer of them are level headed and they lack good common sense. They allow their emotions to dictate their actions - habitually so. I tell people - before you lay on your car horn, sneer, make faces, give the finger or behave in any aggressive manner while driving your car - just know that that other driver - that person who made you angry in all likelihood ALSO IS CARRYING A GUN - A GUN JUST LIKE THE ONE YOU HAVE...that is to say his gun shoots bullets and kills just as easily as does YOUR GUN. If you have difficulty controlling your anger - if your emotions get the better of you then you have no business carrying a gun! Period - full stop - end of discussion. I thank God I never had to shoot anyone - It came close to that several times over the decades but all praise to God it never got to that point. There can be no doubt that such a thing would have forever changed the trajectory of my life - and not for the better! Once in a firearms training class I spoke up saying "owning and carrying a gun will make a coward of a smart and level headed man" - This confused almost everyone in the room. I explained further. "it's better to back off - walk away - and to be thought of as a coward than it would be to defend your pride and your ego and in the process to shoot someone" - I went on saying - "Remember, YOU have a LOT to lose if you allow yourself to be drawn into a physical confrontation and you WILL lose a lot if you end up shooting someone. Righteous shooting or not - you will lose among other things, your peace of mind" - your life will inevitably evolve into something of a living hell if you shoot someone. Here is the order of things a man should know to do as he goes about his business: 1: Prevention - avoid places where trouble is most likely to occur 2" De-escalation - Be as non-confrontational as you can be. Be quick to say "my bad" or "sorry" and teach yourself how to at least look and sound sincere when you say "sorry" 3: Run away - if there is an escape route - take it. Take it without hesitation and don't look back. 4: Learn from experience - after a confrontation sit down and think of ways to avoid doing or saying whatever led to the confrontation in the first place

[@EdLatimore1]

Wow this one of the most thoughtful comments I've ever read and it really hits home on the message of the video. People don't realize that just because you were right doesn't mean you did the right thing, if that makes sense. Maybe it's better if I say, it doesn't mean you did the best thing. Because those bullets are going to accounted for and sometimes, even if you feel like you had no choice, the law (or the street) will see things differently. I really appreciate you writing this comment. I hope everyone reads it.

[@rickypitman1035]

This is what it's Really about. Laying on the ground Hurt very Bad and knowing this is "THE END"

[@johndepalm4180]

All men should know how to fight. I have taught my son how to convey this warning, " i really don't wanna fight, but if you continue to try me, you're not gonna be able to control how I react to you." Saying this out loud in an ear shot of everyone puts witnesses on your side. I like to call it a pugilistic disclaimer of sorts.

[@EdLatimore1]

I'm DEFINITELY teaching my son this as well. That's a lot clearer than "If you start this, I'm gonna end it."

[@johndepalm4180]

@EdLatimore1 🫡🫡🫡

[@mortvald]

I'd say that's good but really this only bruises the ego of whoever he's fighting, sometimes it'll work in your favor other time (most of the time) It'll push the other guy to escalate. Really, the best answer is to feed his ego and leave, say you're sorry and dip. Let him be someone else's problem.

[@j.m.f.g.450]

I do apreciate the authenticity of your words, never heard someone being so honestly clear regarding the responsability that carries using your fists.

[@EdLatimore1]

Hey thank you!

[@iman4807]

Physics degree!! Word!! Every action has an equal reaction

[@EdLatimore1]

Very dang true!

[@alfredspic481]

People out here think shits a game. Driving like shit, being rude asf in public, run their mouth n other dumb shit. I always got my 40 cal just in case somebody plays too much...

[@EdLatimore1]

When shit gets real, people ain't ready

[@bowlingdj300]

dude is spot on here, its so hard to control your anger in these situations ive found myself in a few that i regret but was very fortunate didnt escalate any further but certainly could have. Unless you have zero other options try not to go there

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks my guy. Happy you made it through stuff

[@LeadLeftLeon]

Safest part of the day 8 to 11 am followed by 5 to 7 am. What a coincidence because 5 am to 11 am are the golden hours. Start at 5 am get more done than most people before noon and you’ll feel so proud of yourself

[@emilianoyaboi5911]

Gotta have that blade or the heat on you nowadays, ppl are lunatics out there, just searching for trouble. God Bless big man!

[@EdLatimore1]

Very true and very sad

[@skzombierain7536]

Thank you for providing rational and researched information for people. Your breakdown of human psychology in the context of conflict is quite spot-on - and legitimately one's 'First Line of Defense'.

[@LeadLeftLeon]

Martial arts training can make you dangerous but a gun can make any chump deadly. A scared person is more likely to draw their gun

[@nickthompson529]

Great message! In the real world, you don’t know who you’re dealing with, what kind of day they’re having, or what they are willing to do to you. You should always avoid a physical altercation if it’s possible. There are times when it is not possible and you should know how to take care of yourself. You should also understand that every physical altercation could result in your death, so make sure that what you’re fighting for is worth the risk. I don’t think women really understand this. A friend of mine got mugged at gun point while working in DC. This dude is a former D1 college linebacker, so he’s huge, but he didn’t give the muggers any resistance. They took his wallet and phone and ran away. Upon hearing this, my wife expressed surprise that someone would mug him because he’s so big. I explained to her that big dudes don’t want to be shot anymore than small dudes, and bullets work on all takers.

[@EdLatimore1]

Yep. Ain't no one bulletproof

[@beltwayjo7391]

I’m from the DMV and I’ve had my share of some extreme issues that sometimes lead to some serious repercussions. I’ve also had some martial arts training and I can tell you that I’m efficient enough to handle mine…but I’m 47 and I’m not about to be out here scrappin’ and squabblin’ with these YNs…. So I do avoid the areas of "negative activities " so if you invite yourself to me and I have no problems with you initially then that person may be in grave danger if he thinks it’s gonna be a sweet endeavor. We

[@EdLatimore1]

I feel you man. Too old to be getting into that mess for sure

[@chanslorvalorum6905]

“ Blah blah look at me. I’m so cool and tough and I have to post a comment so half a dozen strangers on the internet think I’m great”

[@PeaceMaker669-c1i]

I was given a simple assault charge even though the guy was drunk and attacked me and I only hit him one time with a right hook on the side of his ahead close to the eye! He got a hairline skull fracture I could have really hurt him because he went down but I didn’t! He even admitted in court that he was the aggressor and pushed me and tried to hit me first! That’s our justice system! After spending 2000$ on a lawyer I got 2 years probation and a misdemeanor simple assault charge! I’m still angry about it!

[@EdLatimore1]

Wow the system failed you on that one. Not even cool you caught the charge.

[@diligentsun1154]

The Nighttime belongs to the Beast

[@EdLatimore1]

And them beasts don't play around!

[@bluwater1422]

​@@EdLatimore1facts

[@bluwater1422]

Facts

[@Sonnyinfl]

Good information. Thank you!

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you!

[@ShaunSavage-kl9pd]

I was at a gas station waiting on my wife to get off work. This guy who's 7 feet tall 300 pounds ran over started beating on me so I got out and defended myself. He got his ass kicked and went to jail

[@EdLatimore1]

Damn happy he ain't that thang though. He lucky you ain't have it either.

[@cheesybeast1721]

@@EdLatimore1I keep that “thang” with me everywhere I go but I still train kickboxing and boxing multiple times a week

[@rickyking1790]

So why did he randomly just start beating on you?

[@EdLatimore1]

@@rickyking1790 haha who?

[@rickyking1790]

@@EdLatimore1 The dude stated a 7 foot 300lb guy ran over to him and started beating on him. I asked him why did he start randomly start beating on him.

[@gregrudzinski]

Very interesting stuff. Having Hollywood glorify violence adds fuel to the fire as well. I have been caught in the situations you have described and will confirm that being in top fitness saved the day (night). No eye contact helps too but can't be helped sometimes. Not wearing bling items is also good practice.

[@EdLatimore1]

Yeah Hollywood definitely plays a role. My gun instructor was telling me how many guys think they wanna be like John Wick.

[@alanspring8462]

I am 62 and I learn something every day. Happy to subscribe, my friend.❤❤❤

[@EdLatimore1]

Hey awesome man! Happy to have you!

[@AustinOwen-h4c]

This is great advice for once on KZbin. I’m not a professional fighter by any means but I’m competent with or without a weapon. However I take more pride in my ability to avoid fights or stop them before they get out of control than I do in my ability to fight. Sparring is fun, sport fighting is fun, but real fights get brutal fast

[@EdLatimore1]

Real fights get real, fast. I tell folks ro keep the boxing in the ring.

[@RSE-2020]

I'm from England and this is the best self-defense video of ever heard even though I'm black belt in karate❤

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks friend!

[@HagakureJunkie]

Damn, I thought Latimore was HUGE, then I find out he’s smaller than me, wild! Love the content man!! From a fellow Pennsylvanian, keep it up!!

[@EdLatimore1]

Haha I'm not a huge guy but I don't think anyone would call me small either. Much love from PA!

[@patrick2360]

Thank You Very Much For Sharing 👍 🇯🇲

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you for digging the content!

[@patrick2360]

​@EdLatimore1 You're Very Welcome, Everything You Spoke About was Spot On. I came to America from Kingston Jamaica and I Live in Baltimore Maryland and You're Absolutely Correct 💯

[@paulray494]

hey Big Ed you right about the graphics on your vids, they aren’t really descriptive of your vibe and presentation. REALLY good stuff, my third vid. count me SUBSCRIBED !😄

[@marlibread]

I appreciate how you back up your statements with the rrspective study. So many people repeat thngs they hear. Much respect for that.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you. It's important to me that any objective statements I make are verified with facts. I appreciate you noticing that attention to detail.

[@cdncampcook8680]

This video has so much truth to it that it should be watched twice. Thank you.

[@rjerew]

very insightful commentary. i enjoyed the video.

[@richard6606]

I agree with everything your saying except one thing there are states where there’s a stand your ground law and if you prove or can prove that the other person starts the fight and you beat them into the pavement you will not be charged with anything regardless of the out come this is because most people defending themselves lose control of they’re emotions in a fight and go into a fit of rage or a case of fight or flight and they don’t realize what they’ve done until it’s over sadly there usually is not reason for the altercation in the first place but this is just facts it would be a lot better if people just lived and let live.

[@EdLatimore1]

No kidding. i was under the impression that escalation of force was a thing in all states.

[@richard6606]

@ was that a question or a facetious comment? I was merely saying not all states will arrest you or jail you for pounding the tar out of someone in a fight if they start it if you lose your cool in a stand your ground state not saying it’s a good ending just life it’s really to bad people can’t live without wanting to harm someone else over ego anger or personal possessions that they think they want I learned to just avoid people and mostly been pretty lucky only a few times in my life if had to deal with those kinds of people thankfully we all walked away with only a few bumps and bruises

[@EdLatimore1]

@@richard6606 It was neither. The internet got everyone on edge haha. I'm saying that I was under the impression that escalation of force laws held no matter what and that what you're saying is news to me. I haven't looked it up either way to know if that's accurate, so I'm taking your word for it. No being facetious at all. You took the time to leave a thoughtful comment. Not my style to reply to it with anything but sincerity.

[@richard6606]

@ 👍 ya i didn’t know it until a few years ago go myself

[@EdLatimore1]

@@richard6606 I'm not a head bussa, but it's nice to know there are some places where I can make sure a dude never tries someone again.

[@richvandervecken3954]

Good advice, knowing de-escalation techniques as well as how to defend yourself if someone forces you into a fight are both worth the time and effort. Frankly anyone who knows how to fight telegraphs it by how they carry themselves, combine this with being alert to your surroundings, acknowledging people as you walk down the streets with a respectful head nod will usually keep you out of the cross hairs of someone looking for trouble. If our first response is to treat other people with respect instead of responding to a challenge with a challenge we would probably de-escalate most confrontations naturally. Only when someone is trying to use you to prove something to others will you be compelled to use your fighting skills or how fast you can run away. My lack of love for this life makes me less inclined to run away now then when I was married with young children to raise. Old guys with nothing to loose can be very dangerous men to attack, because they have life experience the young men cannot fathom and years of frustration that will probably be vented on that poor individual that pushed them into a corner.

[@EdLatimore1]

I wouldn't say they telegraph it, per se. But they definitely carry themselves a certain way. The problem is that a person who is naive to the danger of their surrounds could also move like this.

[@socratesXLIX]

Good Job! I avoid any place where there is alcohol. I use to go to a nice club the music was great. The women were gorgeous, but once the alcohol got flowing crap happened. I consider myself a peaceful man, so I stopped going to the clubs. The fights all stopped once I stopped being around alcohol or other drugs.

[@tomchurch2285]

Yes, it can take some real intestinal fortitude not to escalate (even in situations where there’s a clear way out). But being able to resist escalation is really the way (in most cases). As time goes by, this ability to let be adds to my sense of gratitude . . .

[@vicpso1]

GreatTalk! I would apologize too. and meant no disrespect.. compliment him!

[@EdLatimore1]

Guys gotta learn how to swallow their pride and live to see another day.

[@ChevySS1968]

Great life tips!! Thanks................

[@EdLatimore1]

You're welcome!

[@classicsciencefictionhorro1665]

Loved and subbed. I'm 75 and survived some stuff. OP really understands the street, This is an important video. Listen to it.

[@EdLatimore1]

The streets are unforgiving

[@CarlStreet]

You are one smart guy; Thaks for posting this. Well Done, Sir!

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks for enjoying!

[@metro8974]

I agree good video 👍🏼

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you very much!

[@vitofish961]

Great presentation! Thank you for your wisdom

[@EdLatimore1]

@vitofish961 hey thank you!

[@AWAVEINTHEOCEAN-lc5tf]

My experience as a man in his 70s who studied Martial Arts and many bar fights that I never started, the primary place for me still is when some young buck is while driving. I drove tractor trailer and have driven since 16, I have never had a ticket and taken professional driving course and still get "the finger" from people who believed they were inconvenience by my driving.

[@EdLatimore1]

People get bold from the "safety" of a vehicle

[@international360]

great vidieo as always...GOD bless

[@EdLatimore1]

Much appreciated my guy!

[@hard2getitrightagain314]

Excellent presentation! Top marks to you for content, skills, and style. I'm not sure I even learned anything new. I already live by this philosophy. I simply enjoyed what you did here. Time to learn who Ed Latimore is.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks! Much appreciated!

[@RaiTheShin]

I am glad this came up in my feed. I had some bad things happen recently and I learned the hardway but I survived. Thanks man. I also downloaded your book and I hope to learn more.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thanks man I hope you enjoy!

[@William.Driscoll]

Please keep up the great work. Thank you.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you kindly

[@HeartsXoXd]

Thank you for this video, we need more people talking like this.

[@EdLatimore1]

Much appreciated!!

[@dennisgreen6222]

great advice my friend...cheers.

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you friend!

[@staceymello5732]

Great stuff. Subscribed

[@EdLatimore1]

Thank you friend

[@Vekren]

Great advice. God bless.