How to Stop Yelling at Your Child - Peaceful Parent Happy Kids, Dr. Laura Markham (Summary Part 1/3)

[@EmiliaTaylor-yg8zv]

Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey

[@evgeniavm]

I use the statement from the book “How not to hate your husband after kids” by Jancee Dunn: “I know that what I’m about to do is going to cause you harm, but right now, my anger is more important to me than you are.” This instantly shifts my mood from anger to a high level of compassion.

[@inthegroovewithms.rachelle6440]

Another tip is to *SING* what you want to say if it's appropriate to do so. Have a jingle that relates back to your family expectations. Choose a little tune that you can instinctively recall and you can freestyle or prepare little rhymes for instances that have commonly been a challenge for you all. Example: *(Tune of "Mary Had A Little Lamb") *It's time to put your shoes on now Shoes on now, shoes on now It's time to put your shoes on now One foot at a time.* Or: "Speak to me with a quiet voice so I can hear your words." and you can do the same as part of your technique for letting some air out of that frustration balloon: " *I'M* going to use a quiet voice So you can hear my words." Experiment and learn what is helpful for you and *your* family. Find your *Groove*. ❤🎵

[@tifaninicole7872]

I appreciate this approach! Totally new perspective 👌🏾

[@jeenymaltese3623]

Thank you 🙌🤍🤍🤍

[@mercyadegoke2820]

This is so beautiful 👏

[@inthegroovewithms.rachelle6440]

@@tifaninicole7872 That's great! How are you?

[@inthegroovewithms.rachelle6440]

@@jeenymaltese3623 You're welcome. :) I hope you and your family are doing well.

[@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382]

I agree yelling gets in the way of connection

[@biancaharrison5712]

I choose to Love well!

[@janechiu370]

I choose connection

[@holitomoliholisticartsacad1075]

You are amazing thanks for making these videos

[@Ronaldothegoat1234football]

I choose love!

[@esminenelson4330]

Good morning to you doctor and your family... well done great job thank you so much for the information it's helping me a lot have a great day God bless you...

[@brilliantz90]

Thanks for these summary videos!

[@徐铭阳-s6d]

I chose love

[@orangetosca4007]

I choose for the long run 😌

[@cristinareyes-dixon2281]

Love these short videos! Wondering when the 3rd part will be published? I don’t see it here....

[@RealHappyEndings]

Glad you're enjoying them. The part 3 of 3 can be found here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bqXQpnSKhKh1b8U

[@perryh.5306]

But I love it when my mom yells! That means I get to do more things to make her happy!

[@RealHappyEndings]

I bet she'd be even happier if you did them before she yells! ;)

[@perryh.5306]

@@RealHappyEndings I already try! BUT some things do slip by...and she notices....and I hear about it..lol

[@trisha61387]

Okay, I get this and I do this, but what about what you actually need to be done. For instance, if they won’t put their pajamas on. I’ll do all this and come back to him but at the end of it all, I STILL need him to put his pjs on. This helps me stay calm, until I really really need him to do this and it’s been 45 min. Or if he’s not following you in public and won’t move. I can be calm all I want but it won’t make him move. Then what? Screaming at him is the only thing that ends of getting his attention that this isn’t okay and to MOVE. Idk this is all nice and lovely but it’s still not addressing how to get from point a to b without yelling.

[@RealHappyEndings]

So from this book, she suggested getting down to their level and really empathizing with them. Really try to see things from their point of view and let it show on your face and in your voice but tell them that they still have to do it. I have tried this when I have time, and it surprisingly works. You can also compromise with them. Like, okay, I'll give you five more minutes because I understand that you never had enough time to play today, but then you have to change. But I understand not always having time for that. So there's this other book I like to follow. Setting Limits with your Strong Willed Child by Robert J Mackenzie. Basically, you follow up whatever you tell them with a relatable consequence. And something you're actually going to follow through on. He suggests making it a natural consequence of possible. But that won't always be possible, nor safe, so self made consequences as well. I think a mixture of both these methods have served me well (when I use them :| ) Hopefully they do something positive for you.

[@samirali4537]

Im a kid

[@EfeAikpokhio]

Me too

[@holasrtompson4071]

Are ya winning son?

[@khosiroyalhighness4965]

Red flag- I don't want to raise a narcissist

[@RealHappyEndings]

Is that your mantra? Good one!!

[@Whitemonkey510]

@@RealHappyEndings I don't think so.