Reasons Why A Narcissist Does Not Love Their Children

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In this illuminating KZbin video titled "Reasons Narcissists Do Not Love Their Children," we delve into the complex dynamics underlying narcissistic behavior and its impact on familial relationships. Drawing from both psychological insights and real-life experiences, we uncover the heartbreaking truth behind why narcissists struggle to authentically love their own children, shedding light on the detrimental effects of their self-centered worldview. Through empathetic analysis and expert guidance, viewers gain valuable understanding and validation, empowering them to navigate the challenges of narcissistic parenting with resilience and self-care. #Narcissism #Parenting #EmotionalAbuse #FamilyDynamics #MentalHealthAwareness #HealingJourney
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[@Jakairie]

I need your help please

[@EmpathicCharWithBounderies]

It continues to happen because too many people don’t want to talk about the truth about parental abuse. Too many make people feel bad for doing so. 😞🙏

[@anneyoung2310]

The kids don't want to see it either-totally understandable. They've been through enough trauma that they should never have taken on.

[@EmpathicCharWithBounderies]

@@anneyoung2310 This is what I am saying…. ALL humans were kids before they became adults…. Abused kids that aren’t able to talk about the abuse usually become adults that can’t talk about the abuse. The they have their own kids not knowing they have trauma that is going to affect their kids.

[@crs7937]

I went through that abuse, as a kid. mom left when I was 10 or so, but as a gay MAN, that made it harder as a kid in 1970-90s. My parents where not bad. Just incompatible..my Narc mom, drunk dad....as a gay man...I LIKE ME.. I have only 2 MBAs, my partner has several l degrees. BSL, JS, CCRN,,etc

[@EmpathicCharWithBounderies]

@@crs7937 😞🙏

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[@anneyoung2310]

The child becomes a tool, just like the spouse was. Horrifying.

[@benitalterry872]

So very true! So Sad.

[@monarene44]

Children are house servants and a conversation piece for them.

[@mafp22w]

My brother had a motorcycle accident at 15 that left him in a coma. My mother’s entire life has revolved around head injury recovery. At first glance it might seem that she was just a wonderful mother, but now that I’m older I can’t help but wonder if all her devotion was not love, but just a great way to bring attention to herself. She saved numerous copies of all the newspaper articles and she just seemed to thrive on the attention. My Dad left when I was two, but I was so glad that he was able to perceive that it might be a good time for me to move to his place. He was right and it was such a refreshing move. To this day, my mother thrives on pity as a victim.

[@BIGHOHO24]

Sometimes this can be called munchauser syndrome by proxy.

[@whitneysawyer483]

They need endless attention and admiration.

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[@michaelmorrison6540]

My 21 year-old son was the scapegoat for my narcissistic (ex-) wife, because he confronted her about how her lying/cheating/stealing was destroying our family. My son was severely punished by her rage. He has been estranged from her for over 4 years, and he will never reconnect with his crazy mother. It was truly heartbreaking to see a mother treat her own son in such a cruel manner. Fortunately, my son has turned out to be a fine young man… but I feel bad that his childhood was tarnished by so much drama, trauma, chaos, and conflict.

[@EmpathicCharWithBounderies]

When I was pregnant with our daughter. Her due date was close to my soon-to-be ex-husband’s birthday. He said, “Don’t be having that baby on my birthday!” 😞. It’s the same child that he has turned against me and she has physically attacked me twice. She looks just like him which I am fine with but she acts just like him…. I am very afraid that he has created another him. I pray for her daily. This marriage has affected all three of my children but because she craved his attention so much she got sucked all the way in because when the abuse was too bad and I wanted a divorce 15 years ago; he made her choose him or me I think to get out of child support. She’s the youngest. 15 years later I got the courage to file and he’s still got his hooks in her and uses her to torment me to the end. 😞🙏

[@EmpathicCharWithBounderies]

@@wingit7335 Thank you! Meditation this Thursday. He’s not being complying with court orders…. I have faith that in the end God will prevail…. I pray my daughter. It’s a sad thing to watch. It’s why I tell people to get their kids in counseling and themselves asap when they see they are married to a toxic person. It will affect you and your kids. Some of you may not ever recover because like the narcissist; they become stuck and not want change. With God all things are possible. But it can’t happen if we don’t surrender. I pray it does help. It’s why I am here on KZbin. I am trying so hard to help others. To be that voice that I needed so much. I am thankful for KZbin and content creators like myself that share because we care. I am thankful for people like Rebecca that are on here educating. The world isn’t addressing these things but we have so many platforms of individuals that are out here trying to make a change. ❤️🙏

[@josephsnisky1851]

Wow ! Unfortunately you are right. They truly show that they don't love them. It is sad , especially the look on the kids faces when they unload on them.

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[@MaiRaven3]

They don’t love themselves. They can’t really love others till they can learn to love themselves. They can’t love themselves. That’s the bottom line. It’s very sad.

[@psalm2764]

I agree. They are pitiful creatures and the best you can do is keep your distance. Deep down, they know why but they do not want to confront the truth, it is too awful for them.

[@ladonnacoleman5046]

My mom is a narcissistic and my daughter I'm 59 & I had therapy 8 year's ago and Boi they don't like I have the POWER 💯💪🏾🙏🏾😁💖

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[@pitasag123]

Ty Rebecca... I'm on that mission rn. The best I can do right now is to share online. Stay blessed & we appreciate you!!! I'm sharing this on FB!

[@mikesmith6594]

Thanks Rebecca this is true my father fits this description well . He has cognitive empathy not genuine empathy !

[@mariansmith7694]

My daughter abused me AND her children. Now custody is at risk. I just want these children to be safe.

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[@Itsmerawnreal]

@RebeccaZung… This has been the most helpful, informative, and explained video on Narcissistic parents relationship to their child that I have listened to. This was clear and to the point without getting into the weeds. Bravo!! Thank you so much for bringing light to the dark emotional world.

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[@Alpharizzchad]

They can't. They hate what they think of them self

[@victoriagarcia-xb8ki]

Great information!!!

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[@sandeepkatira7898]

100 % Bang On Point ... We experience this 24x7.. Very helpful ... Thanks Rebecca

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Thank you Rebecca 😊

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Thanks Rebecca

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[@barbaradellarocco5132]

Wow, thank you Rebecca Zung.

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[@zenbuddha5947]

It is terrible, how they behave. This constant attention of such sick people is irritating, unbearable, exhausting. My mother organized herself a private ambulance, to take her to see a doctor. But she is not sick! She wants attention!!!! Absolutely ridiculous and outrageous, how she is playing with people. She wants everybody to serve and pity her. Unfortunately our "relationship" is about boundaries, boundaries, boundaries and boundaries. I am waiting for the end of this insane drama.

[@vidphile1]

fight, flight, or FRIGHT.

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[@Sparklefizzpop4321]

I went no contact 6 years ago and just a few months ago my Golden Child brother has decided he has had enough, in my absence he has become the scapegoat and a first cousin has taken the place as Golden Child, now my brother can see what I was talking about for all those years. I’m just wondering how my narcissistic mother is going to explain to people that now both of her adult children no longer talk to her.

[@RandyBrady2024]

You are echoing my experiences.

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[@gloriahanchar8743]

When my mom got married to my dad in the year 1988 he was nice at first but after two years after He changed his character to Narcissist from 1990 to 1999 he never helped her so when I turned 10 years old I went to foster care because of my sister she called Dyp and she is also narcissist and when I was Dyp my foster mom always let me go to my parents house from when I was 10 years old to 21 years old and all of those year I always helped my mom to over come her difficulty of her disability of working in the house with dishes and sweeping and mopping up the floors and now he's still critiquing me and my mom that we don't work but we do work in the house and he does not clean up the house so yeah that was my life with a Narcissist Father.

[@richardlenz2655]

My narcissistic wife has a very lovely daughter who is now 20 and is children teacher. The son of my wife is now also 15, and my wife wanted to ask her daughter to care for the boy now. But fortunately she refused. Now the mother has to care for him. You can also be the best father, but in the end they want their children to take away from you 🤷‍♀️😵‍💫

[@username-ek9ni]

I’m actually in the middle of a divorce and I turned down child support because my narcissistic ex doesn’t want anything to do with the kids. But if I pursued support, suddenly she’d take them to “lower her costs.” So I sacrificed the support in exchange for my kids having more time with me than their narcissistic mother.

[@clintfoster1639]

I have seen it this is so sad.

[@joanneberry5390]

I find this informative and fascinating. And very sad😢.

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[@betsy56]

There are still days when im not okay alone with my thoughts. But i notice, and it's okay.

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[@user-wk5uf6sp5p]

Wake them up, give them the mic, and never again try to manipulate them. My business model. ❤❤❤

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[@pitasag123]

God bless my boys and my daughter my boys are suffering heavily and we're diagnosed autistic and one with ADHD. I'm not perfect I do yell I do not hit but I am with him 24/7 and having trouble getting resources for them I don't have a vehicle but they are not scared of my yelling they were only scared of his they actually laugh at me when I yell God bless they know I'm not going to hurt them them and I think that's a Big Y of why they're regressing they're almost five and they know what to do to get their way with me even though mostly nonverbal they understand tremendously. They went from not speaking at all to as soon as we left they started doing ABCs and speaking and singing and Counting I'm just so happy that all four of us are driving as for my daughter her issues are private but she does admit to being depressed (she is older and I've seen the change in her). I so want to go into one of these webinars but I don't know if these boys will stay quiet enough LOL I'm trying to get respite care so that I can get a break 10:11

[@lorimiller7261]

Everything with my ex narc husband was transactional. He never showed true emotion to our kids. He would make them do really crazy heavy duty chores just to give them $10. He would hold everything over our heads, look what I do for you , you owe me. All about control and he makes $400,000 a year. As soon as my kids became teens and had their own opinions he hated that. It all went down hill after that. Financial abuse was a big red flag, the verbal abuse to our kids was a game changer. Plan an exit strategy and leave ❤ Praying for every survivor 🙏🏻

[@goodwillbunny5773]

Very timely. I watched my daughter with her child. If I intervened, my daughter would act wrathful when I wasn’t around.

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[@Wyoming_Wes]

Thank you for talking about God.

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[@jameselliott7729]

Straight compliment, no disrespect. Whatsoever, you're very beautiful gorgeous, intelligent one

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🎯💯❤️

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[@sharonproctor3085]

My husband walked out on Thanksgiving Day. At the divorce, he was told the amount of child support he would pay. His response; im not paying Child support, she had them not me. Then he was gone.

[@belindasanders7072]

OMG does the shoe fit! Problem is my grandsons r only 13. How can u explain this.

[@BelovedPeaceValley]

My son‘s father continuously refers to him as “my boy” half of the time he won’t even say his name he’s always saying” I want to see my boy” whenever I talk to him. I told him the other day that his name is Skyler, not my boy, proving that he thinks of our son only as a possession an ornament to be worn or shown off.

[@rosaliá-from-mystery-kingdom]

Because of my narc mom I'm now don't have faith in future. Some how I'm spending my days on bed sleeping a lot. Don't even want to live another day. I have to study but I can't.

[@tnt01]

Speak to a therapist.

[@selmasel6584]

Pray to god. He can help you

[@ytfeverguy8367]

It's called Drama of the Gifted Child for a reason.

[@phyllistouchstone7136]

This is so sad. I let these people adopt my grandbabies after my daughter was murdered.

[@johncorson6599]

Ugh … my 20 year old step daughter was murdered by her boyfriend in the late 90s, not once did I see my ex wife cry about it including subsequent years .. expected to see at least red eyes after crying all day when I came home from work .. never saw it and she refused, with vitriol, to see counselors, therapists or grief support groups

[@EmpathicCharWithBounderies]

😞🙏

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@@johncorson6599 😞🙏

[@phyllistouchstone7136]

@@johncorson6599 i cry everyday since Sept. 2020. Now I cry over by grandbabies. I haven’t seen them in over a year. These people blocked me

[@BelovedPeaceValley]

My soon to be ex-husband, we’ve been separated for over three years now has told me numerous times that he would quit his job just so he wouldn’t have to pay child support. But then he wants to have 50-50 custody when he can’t even show up on time yesterday he was three hours late and then wanted to stay until 9 o’clock at night. And today he was supposed to be here by 1 o’clock and didn’t show up until 4 o’clock. There’s always an excuse with him. My son lives with me full-time and has lived with me full-time for the last four years.

[@Garfamily123]

I'm currently looking for a good family law lawyer to help me with some legal guidance on how to establish and navigate a parenting plan with my x narc . I'm in Pasco county. Any recommendations ?

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

I can't see the link to the "phrases to disarm a narcissist" please?

[@jonathanblack1416]

This explains my trauma with my narcissistic mother and my narcissistic side also. Because I never had validation of being of value or my mother who’s always right and never says I’m sorry ever that traumatized me growing up and so I was always trying to prove to my mother my worth and value and greatness I have in me. It drove me to study the world in every direction possible to think of to figure this world out in truth and so I look to take it all and put it all together Mike a big puzzle with endless little puzzle pieces to make s nice of it all of what is actually truth. Where do all prices come together to agree. But also being sick my entire life from birth from my mother I. Deep stress while pregnant with me because my dad didn’t work at that time and he drank in his chair like all the as good while my mother had my sister behind was one already with me on the way. Born premature with a collapsed lung in a milk barn born where we lived. So I grew up with learning disabilities “severe ADD” and a nail bitter until I was given a year to live after five days a week treatment on intravenous antibiotics and then told I had a year to live when they pulled the plug on treatment. But I heard in my head, No! All diseases are parasites and they all have the same living and working environment they live I. And thrive on to work to eat decaying matter from lack of blood flow to a zone and they then grow. So I went home from the doctors to just read about all parasites I could knowing I would see a common denominator of tis and that the beneficials would have the exact opposite living and thriving environment and that this would feel me or lead me to see how to cure all diseases and end the plight of man. And in about 20 minutes of reading I saw it all clearly and so I knew all life and what created life and death and even aging. I found the fountain of youth literally. Not that you live forever but you lover I your time of 120 to 140 and are young like the entire time of life and when your time is up you go to sleep well and alive but just don’t wake up. This was the original way of creation I found. And this was how I lived to seek higher knowledge and truth that no one’s found and why even though no had learning disabilities I read a research everything binder Tue sun my entire life to find something that made me so great that my mother would just pay me in the back and say that’s my son. He did this and I’m so proud of him. Like most mothers do but not mine to me. I’m told and warms my entire life that I’ll be a failure liken my dad unless I do Al she says that I don’t want or agree with. Well I cured myself in less than two weeks after I found this all out and was verifiably. Y doctor with tests. My mother saw this and I got both obit that’s nice Jonathan now kitten to me or you’ll fail like your father. It was like she didn’t believe me or she just didn’t care at all. I thought I had something that would make my mother proud of me. Nope 👎 not at all. Then over many years I keep showing her people messaging me thanking me for curing them of things like AIDS, brain cancer and even move my mother was sitting next to me at one of my children’s school shows and all of a sudden in comes live a woman thanking me saying she had her surgery for removal of her uterus that was Ming scheduled for just then and she was sent home she said just now because Bruegel said her uterus is perfect and no cancer seen and so she was free to leave without the knife making a cut. I showed my mother this all going down live right in my phone and she again just said that’s great Jonathan now focus on your kids here. Unbelievable. And all this time my own mother is fight cancer for so many years and still has even now to this day and had all her reproductive system removed and she’s still fighting for her life and won’t even let me cure her the right and safe way I proved to her. It tears my soul and I’m heat her gout out of me. Severe PTSD but disease free I am today.

[@flynneart1111]

What if its both parents

[@Jason-Moon]

As an only child born into that situation: you remain connected with your own heart no matter how much it hurts (disconnecting from our hearts is what happened to them), you work to free yourself from the shadows they project onto you, and then you must identify your wounds to heal them and recover your whole self once you are free.

[@larrycohen3682]

Ms Zung, I enjoy your channel but I would like to asked you a question regarding a manipulate boss. I am having a problem with my Manager and owner of the company in responding to my either text messages or email regarding my specific issues. Can you please help? Thank you, Larry

[@AmandaLove-uo2du]

My narcissistic ex who I lived with for 8 years was horrible to his daughter lot of the time. And i know he used her as an excuse to get what he wanted from his parents. Like anytime he wanted money or whatever from them he say well kayla needs this and kayla needs that. As a way to manipulate them. Was disgusting.

[@LunaLucie3911]

10:39 turn your pain into power

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[@Mystic45708]

Our son’s ex wife is only concerned about the money she can get she doesn’t care for the children at all

[@etaokha4164]

They love money more than anyone or anything

[@Nolapoolguru]

Noooo I don’t want to watch :( hurts too much

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[@lajimolala4968]

My mom would treat me nicely every payday time

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[@sukhadaadasi9552]

B.O.R.I.N.G.

[@EMGEE718]

Lol narc much?

[@carriedillmann4455]

What do mean??? Rebecca is fantastic!!!!!

[@Sparklefizzpop4321]

I went no contact 6 years ago and just a few months ago my Golden Child brother has decided he has had enough, in my absence he has become the scapegoat and a first cousin has taken the place as Golden Child, now my brother can see what I was talking about for all those years. I’m just wondering how my narcissistic mother is going to explain to people that now both of her adult children no longer talk to her.

[@Sparklefizzpop4321]

I went no contact 6 years ago and just a few months ago my Golden Child brother has decided he has had enough, in my absence he has become the scapegoat and a first cousin has taken the place as Golden Child, now my brother can see what I was talking about for all those years. I’m just wondering how my narcissistic mother is going to explain to people that now both of her adult children no longer talk to her.

[@Sparklefizzpop4321]

I went no contact 6 years ago and just a few months ago my Golden Child brother has decided he has had enough, in my absence he has become the scapegoat and a first cousin has taken the place as Golden Child, now my brother can see what I was talking about for all those years. I’m just wondering how my narcissistic mother is going to explain to people that now both of her adult children no longer talk to her.