How Khadeen & Devale Ellis Have Made It 20 Years | Dear Black Love | Refinery29

[@keonhill1925]

The fact that Khadeen and Devale were able to create a beautiful discussion despite the distasteful job of the host is a testament to how powerful their union is. Praying continued blessings over their marriage and grateful for their honesty, transparency and testimony.

[@Godslight1970s]

Very well said!!! I love these two together and their beautiful family. I'm 9 min in and wondering what the heck was wrong with the rude host. So far she's pretty sarcastic and is coming off as a hater. Edit - hopefully she gathers herself as the interview continues.

[@ashworld2998]

I just said this because hunny I don’t know if I would have been able to keep it together she was mad rude & shady! When Devale said “who hurt you?” I was like okkkkkk

[@1GreatAgent]

She did seem to have a chip on her shoulder where Devale was concerned. 🤔

[@vbm2119]

@@1GreatAgent because we all know he's beating the box of his co-star "fatima" 🤧

[@britonyabanks]

@@vbm2119 Stop. Why are you lying on this man? What prize do you win by lying on someone?

[@Kyrah]

“Loving a Black Woman is the epitome of living myself” boom there it is ✨💌🙏🏾

[@misunderstoodkj]

*loving*

[@cbgwins]

Love

[@misunderstoodkj]

@Dwayne Belger Are you gay? Just curious because of your comment. I'm getting weird vibes from your comment.

[@dd470_]

And vis versa

[@dd470_]

@Dwayne Belger right

[@asiam1528]

He still looks at her with admiration and love after 20 years so awesome 👏

[@angelwakefield5574]

Reminds me of me and my husband of 24 years and 5 kids. I’m a Sag just like Khadeen and my hubby is very similar to Devale is basically just like my husband. I love this couple they inspire me to be even better in my marriage.,

[@prayalways8562]

It’s a beautiful thing to behold

[@NicSug1]

I am happy that he was honest enough to acknowledge the shade in a funny way. This couple is just beautiful. Their honesty is so what makes them so authentic.

[@sisj-g112]

U said it rt. When Mr.Ellis felt the shade n called it out on the spot considered it handle. Then we witnessed it. Ur comment was on point.

[@KorenStone]

That host was very distasteful and rude. They killed this interview tho in spite of her attitude. I have been following them since Vlog 1 on youtube and they have come such a long way. Such an inspiration to myself and my relationship

[@cynthiasmith9063]

Very. distasteful. Like he said "Who hurt you!" Lol

[@dominiquewilliams1822]

She was very cold and fake

[@kalaboosqueaks4446]

I thought I was the only one who noticed that. She was mad rude. Like ma’am you can have that type of black love. You just have to get ya head out ya ass.

[@nellabella6699]

Yes , she was definitely rude . They both handled themselves well despite her energy

[@Msnatbel]

You could tell she has a bitter past from issues with men. SMH

[@natasharochelle3218]

This was cringing to watch with this host. I agree with Davale, she seems bitter toward men. And I am a black woman. Don’t care for her.

[@ManipuraCentreCo]

Same. I'm glad Devale called her out on it.

[@sfreeman417]

Host was disrespectful for no reason. Instead of celebrating the couple and commending Devale she threw shade the entire show. Not professional, but in true Kay style, she flipped it to honor her husband.

[@ThePeetes]

Love them! So glad Devale stood up for himself. I know Khadeen was keeping it together because she doesn’t play about her husband 😂👏🏼

[@cynthiaholcomb8142]

Facts 💯

[@star4110]

The host was rude. She better realize she’s interviewing Black Royalty. Devale handled her rudeness very well. What a beautiful couple 😘❤️

[@ccluvshow]

Correct, I was very displeased after the third rude comment

[@amcra1]

Gtfoh. They cool but they are not royalty. Y’all do way too much

[@sakkiyya68]

i thought the same thing like they came out here for you ! stop rushing them and and let them answer! i love the Ellis family

[@gg784]

@@amcra1 shut up 🙄

[@missourixpress]

This couple is super wonderful. As a black man I am truly a supporter of Devale, but Khadeen holds him down in a major way. I support black love and respect the work they both put in.

[@maggicurry-williams8440]

And he holds her down. It’s mutual which I love!

[@ninab9169]

The host was definitely throwing shade 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@qytj1182]

Black love is beautiful, love that we are celebrating it more

[@mimim6857]

Decent interview. Would have been better with a different interviewer. Her energy threw everything off.

[@Godslight1970s]

Yes Devale thank you for calling the interviewer out and letting her know you didn't hurt her. Yikes!! I love this couple but honestly this interview is uncomfortable to watch because she was so shady towards him.

[@lostsheep7402]

I was cringing 😬 but that’s what I sense with devale he’s going to alleviate anything before they have to go COMPLETE BROOKLYN ON YUH 😩👌🏾

[@LS-il3og]

I wanted them to walk off stage. She doesn’t like their honesty. 20 years is not a complete fairytale.

[@Godslight1970s]

@@lostsheep7402 Facts lol!! I was wondering how long it would take for one of them to check her.

[@Godslight1970s]

@@LS-il3og 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Well said!

[@londoncali6895]

I’m so glad someone else noticed. It’s like she had an issue with him loving his wife!

[@ZzDippedInButter]

I love them & their story ❤️❤️❤️Im glad Devale called out the host bc she definitely kept coming for him & I couldn’t understand why.

[@kalaboosqueaks4446]

She really did try

[@LarennPBel]

Cause she was a hater

[@JenniFrom_daBlock]

Yes so glad he did!!

[@dejje7384]

The way Zac I mean Devale is looking at her as she talks is so romantic

[@amandathompson9735]

Who is this interviewer?!?! Somebody needs to tell her bitter does NOT look good on her. Playing into the bitter black woman stereotype is note cute at all. Those little side remarks really diminished this interview. Girl go heal so you don’t project your hurt onto good men. YUCK 🤮

[@Godslight1970s]

💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯

[@britonyabanks]

She needs therapy immediately.

[@ok.s4830]

I tried to like this comment more than once... It wouldn't allow me.

[@danabenson4125]

She was very biased and that behavior is unacceptable as a "journalist." She was being very unprofessional.

[@lhoward2708]

I’ve always felt, those that found their soulmates early on, were the most blessed.. it’s the dream.. I love this couple .. this is goals

[@carolynhunt499]

The Ellises are the epitome of a strong black couple. Devales perspective of not marrying a black woman was on point. I have loved them from the 1st day I discovered them on KZbin. Continued success my King and Queen. May God bless your family and union.

[@1explo2shine]

« who hurt you? » Dang I was thinking the same thing Devale!!! lol... the shade is real...

[@briabahati]

Feel like the host has the potential to be great, because her personality is very strong & she's attentive & keeps to the schedule. BUT when he said "who hurt you?" sis, thats exactly what it was giving 🤨 This is these people's journey, their story. & They are there on your employers platform because of the FULL journey. So when people speak on things that may not align with what you want, need, or approve of in relationships, you (miss mam) have to check your own bias as a host of this type of topic. & She wasn't very conscience of the magnitude of her shade & how it affected the atmosphere. It wasn't playful or tasteful or even short-winded. It was rude, & abrasive, & continuous - came off unprofessional! I appluad her for wanting to hold him accountable to his actions, but it came off very one sided & man hater like, ESPECIALLY since he is very accountable of his own actions. She can't be interviewing Black Love with lack of empathy or compassion. It was distasteful.

[@aliceghans5659]

I absolutely agree with you...she was coming off bias and it did come off a bit distasteful

[@Adods004]

Completely agree! What makes me mad is this, the mindset he had at 18-20 is literally the norm for most men! When he talked about that she basically acted like he was trash or some kind of “f-boy” like she don’t know that that’s how most men that age think! She came across as delusional like she live in a fantasy word where he was supposed to say he love and adored his wife and ONLY her from the minute he laid eyes on her, like sis why you mad at him for keeping it real?! That’s what makes them so loved now! Their realness!

[@anyaangel1354]

My sentiment exactly, I came in the comment to see if it’s only me alone feel this way .

[@ZzDippedInButter]

Yea she kept coming for Devale and I don’t understand why

[@christthelord91]

@@ZzDippedInButter exactlyyyy

[@tyneydacosta7398]

The Host absolutely did NOT pass the vibe check 😒 Devale is a great guy obviously & she’s talking to him like he’s a F* boy . Let that hurt go sis he didn’t do nothing to you

[@TahjaniqueJ.]

The interviewer stankkkkk!! Who hurt you mamas?’

[@MichaelAlexander1967]

People not clapping, because we having those emotional church/spiritual tears. We love us some Khadeem and DeVale Ellis. May God keep them blessed and shining their light. - Amen

[@bemechellebland3278]

I love this couple and pray for their continued strength, love and longevity together. You all are amazing.

[@AmberSeti]

Amen

[@corrinneburnette8947]

Amen, and they are still young

[@valeriefullilove5198]

Thoroughly enjoyed the Ellis's testimony and conversation. May God continue to bless and keep them.

[@Rocioslane]

I’ve been following them for years, so it’s great seeing them reach this platform too among many others of course! 👏🏼

[@pattreac3429]

Black Love....20 more years together. Much Blessings 🙏

[@noirefit5954]

The hosts comments and slick shade had me side eyeing her lol. Like damn girl, yo hurt showing. I felt her though, I’ve given to a man I thought would be my forever and was broken. This was hard to watch but I ended up laughing along with them. Love exists 🥰

[@destinyh2008]

Your willingness to open up and state that you have been hurt before is commendable. Everyone walking the face of this earth has been hurt in some sort of way. I'm hoping and wish that you have been able to work past your hurt and move forward being, and prayerfully, better than before. To best of your ability.

[@Reeses710]

Yesss "everything we've done, from the time we were 18 to now....we've done together" ....come on --> #TeamWork #BlackLove ....Khadeen & Devale always speak with intention, admiration & love, such a great discussion...despite the host coming off a little impatient because of the time crunch.

[@sharonthomas8645]

Just love they vibe together ❤️

[@MsIcollins]

Love that what she invested into him was appreciated by his actions many of us women invest the world an barely get it in return . Thank you 🙏🏽 Davalle for showing how it’s supposed to be done

[@jeanine945]

Absolutely correct

[@carlah8814]

Say it again for the people in the back 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@_kjanae_]

@Dwayne Belger mens’ lives all the time

[@_kjanae_]

I can’t wait to get my return. I deserve it

[@nicolehenderson3884]

As with any investment, learn as much as you can about what you're investing IN. Most women are way to eager...and easy. I was raised by my dad, which I think has given me a different perspective than most women on relationships. I have NEVER "been" with a man that I didn't know, that I know, that I know, that he knows, and his mama knows, that he loves him some Nicole! If I didn't feel that to be the case "it" wasn't happening. So if you're going to invest in a man 'take the time' to learn his character and to know that he loves you, and that usually means keeping your legs closed until that happens.

[@carlenedwyer8877]

Devale was raised right point blank period🤩

[@70sbabys]

Incredible couple, Incredible love, and wishing them a lifetime of happiness.

[@shanakelly4864]

Husband is amazing!! He loves his wife through everything. 💕💕There are loving thoughtful men who never get understood because some women unknowingly think it’s all about them.

[@vanessabaker6747]

DeVale and Khadeen make such a beautiful couple and I just love 💕 their chemistry that they share together and I love 💕 them as a whole. I love 💕 everything that they stand for as a couple and as a family. I pray that God blessed them in everything that they asked for. Love 💕 you guys!!!! I am truly blessed to be one of their truly blessed fan's.

[@TheChamp1_1]

I’m glad I’m not the only one that peeped the energy the host was giving. But overall enjoyed this. Love the Ellis family.

[@jr9941]

Very nice interview! Love when two people can be transparent and work together as a team! And still together!! ♥️

[@sfreeman417]

So extremely proud of the Ellises!! Love them!!

[@tenacioustm]

Love Love Love This couple and how beautiful it is for them to share their real and raw life with us. Thank you and may God continue to bless you.

[@juanitathecreator]

These two are one of the most consistent, realist and most transparent couples and I’m not sure what the shade was about but it was tacky. I love them and they’re goals. They’re should be NO SHADE thrown toward them at all!

[@kaylorenvlog8568]

I agree it made her def look like a hater, I don’t see why no one would be smiling at them… they are admiring and inspiring and they def can show our people what the true definition of black love means to us all!

[@keishajohnson5335]

Devale. Let me just say to you...you explained how I have felt since I started dating. I have been divorced for 12 years, and have been waiting for the black man because of this reason right here. I need someone that's going to understand. Loving a Black woman is the epitome of loving myself, poweeeerrrrrrful.

[@devinelove5757]

I love the authenticity and transparency 💯

[@Queensawakening]

I'm only half way through but the host slick comments after Devale speaks is one reason some black men feel like they cant speak their truth, let this man talk. I'm sure he has done plenty of "making up".

[@AB.Therapy]

Love from Canarsie! Please get a new host but. The way K finessed and the way Devale answered the questions is a testament to how strong their relationship is. They can’t be divided even when being asked divisive questions. The soak the peas part 🔥, being with your best friend, I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

[@dionnefreshmundle9328]

Wishing you 20+20 more love, joy and happiness from 🇯🇲

[@LetaLuvaLuva]

This was a wonderful interview. 💕✨I enjoy the Ellis’s genuine responses and overall professionalism.

[@SheniceSays214]

So happy to have the full conversation after watching the clip that has happened circling around.

[@contessanowacki5754]

I love them so much nothing is never fake with them always real and transparent.

[@aliceghans5659]

I'm only inspired by 3 couples and they are one of them. Such a beautiful couple... I pray God will bless them everything they need to continue to have a successful lasting marriage. Small critique I wish the host wasn't as disinterested as she was with Devale's answered... especially about the one when he was 18. We all make mistakes but the beautiful thing about it is growing from it and that's what he's done

[@Deyanira9944]

And the other 2

[@shantakoa8596]

I absolutely positively love Khadeen and Devale Ellis. I have watched them from baby Jackson, all 3 births, and I hope now and always. Thank you for sharing your life. I’m still praying for my king. 💙💜💙💙💙💙

[@arx3lsworld38]

I truly enjoyed watching this!, I’ve been keeping up with the Ellis’s for some years now. They are such an inspiration and I hope to have a family similar to their’s soon!❤️🙏🏽

[@seriouslyme921]

I just love listening to these two! Such a beautiful couple. Black love is everything! Much love all the way from Berlin😘 btw I peeped the shade too Devale

[@silverbackgorillagang]

Love Is So Beautiful ❤️ You Can See The Anointing On Them 🙏🏾

[@ArnitaBlo]

I just saw the part where he told her that she needed to get "more sunshine and less shade..." 😂😂👍🏽 I don't know about them but I like their dedication to each other...

[@pallana3701]

I’m so happy for these two I’m glad their happy 20 years later 😍😘

[@gaillastof837]

I don't know them. But I can say I really admire and appreciate them, the little window into their lives is beautiful. Keep shining🌟

[@sherijones8805]

Listen to deadass podcast or watch their youtube. I love them.

[@ShericeeJ]

Nah throw away the host ! Disgusting attitude 🫢😮‍💨 shoutout to K and D for pushing through this interview and giving what you know the audience wants. Your authentic answers 👏🏾👏🏾🤎🤎kudos to Devale for making light of the situation 👌🏾

[@2dpang]

Love this couple they real AF 🇯🇲🇯🇲

[@pamk1967]

This was so awesome to hear and witness! I love the Ellises and their Beautiful family! I love their story and how they still love, live and ride hard for each other. ❤️❤️💕💕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@strongwomentogether6577]

It's the first time I'm learning that khadene is Jamaican love the yaad vibes. love how Devale says bullet bullet...black love in the house and of course Devale got himself a Jamaican queen.🇯🇲🇯🇲 Jamaica in the house🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

Yes I knew she was Jamaican - Chinese.

[@Queensawakening]

The fact that Kay knew his answer was sound bite material lol. That was a good ass answer!

[@ok.s4830]

It's why I watch every video I can find of The Ellis's... Thier "professional realism" is unmatched. Their combined strength and energy is revolutionary. Thier courage is invigorating! Each video is too short for me... I be like .."awwwe that's it" and then I scour KZbin looking for more. All that came together again and as usual on this show and they absolutely killed it. The host on the other hand... I don't know her name and refuse to remember her face after tonight. Unfortunately she is the stereotype of why Blk Men date elsewhere. Mrs. Ellis is the epitomy of what Blk Men need and are seeking. Take heavy Notes Men and Women.

[@shakariwilcher44]

Maybe get another interviewer her personality is off-putting...😩 but on another note...I love them though!!! Most definitely a vibe!!! 🥰

[@chinazaokenwa8164]

I just love you two soo much it’s unhealthy 🥺❤️. Please don’t clock out EVER, you people make me see reasons why I have to forgive or keep accepting my partner when I think he’s in the wrong. Those 3 minutes mean the world to us your KZbin Fam❤️I love you so much Kay and Devale

[@lynettejohnson8418]

Love this Couple!❤ Powerful interview from both Devale and Kadeem ..Regardless of the Shade and Rudeness of Interviewer against Devale!!

[@sisj-g112]

To the interviewer tku for be transparent and realistic and in the is.🥰 Super power you hold in ur mic. To the audience the question was so powerful in my life right now tku for the inner power to seek answers to the feelings inside you. To Mr. &Mrs. Ellis please allow GOD to continue to use you in every facet of your life. I will be married for 25years in 2023 n watching this show has witness to me he is my person. That I didn't waste time going on the roller coaster ride of love. Stay strong in GOD N REST IN HIS LOVE. MY YOU TWO CONTINUE TO DEMONSTRATE IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE IT ALL.❤❤❤

[@rhondawilliams8935]

Khadeen & Devale you two are hands down my favorite couple. I'm 50 years old & married and I have learned so much from you two regarding marriage etc. Thank you for sharing your life with us. And may God continue to bless your union and family. Much love to y'all ♥️

[@cynthiahunt7193]

Love this, great example of a great and loving couple.

[@Lindseyquemckinnon]

The host giving jealousy 😂

[@meshellflipping1330]

I agree

[@LRain-jf5hr]

Yeah, the host made it really uncomfortable. Love Khadeen and Devale for being a class act. Praying for their continued success and long-lasting love ❤️

[@ginadobson7855]

I love their respect for each other!

[@humblewarrior7593]

Congratulations on 20 years you two 🥂💝!

[@britonyabanks]

The host is bitter and rude. The snide comments were unwarranted. She shouldn’t be hosting if she’s going to be rude.

[@ThatGirlGiGiNYC]

The host was shady! I'm glad he called it out! Love them!!

[@danreielle]

This was so beautiful. Thank you to R29 and to Khadeen and Devale for giving us this. ❤️🖤

[@donnajoyner9781]

This facilitator is shady...slick!

[@Godslight1970s]

💯

[@deniseorenge]

My favorite couple. Give them a reality show!

[@staceymack6614]

This was VERY cringy. I had to come to the comments to see if I was trippin. The interviewer was very weird. It was unprofessional. I wonder if she was reprimanded. Thanks Khadeen & Devale for keeping it professional and loving. Love u guys.

[@LoveKeyara]

I had to come to the comments also to make sure I wasn’t tripping lol. The interviewer vibe was way off! And she was rude for no reason 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@ruckes13]

Absolutely love this couple and their journey ❤️.. Black love at its best ❤❤❤. He loves his Queen. And she loves her King.

[@anonymoustube1]

i loved this so cute. khadeen is superwomen. 4 kids and glowing!

[@amwilliams76]

My absolutely favorite couple 😍😍😍many blessings to your union

[@shantelledotcom]

What is this host's issue with this black man. She was very demeaning and belittling to him for what reason?! Devale is a very self-aware man who has recognized the areas he has fallen short in and has corrected them and continues to improve. He is driven, has purpose , has vision and is very passionate. Most of all he loves his wife and it's clear. Their relationship is something the average couple can relate to because it's real. Not the fairytale bs we are told to expect from men. Wishing them continued growth, love and success in their relationship and purpose together.

[@paulawoods8249]

Exactly why you want to throw shade on a good black brother

[@ashleyglover8219]

Yalllllllllll are seriously my favorite couple!!!!!!!!!

[@ashworld2998]

I love them I love their presence on this show but it was cringing because I feel like it was so much shade thrown by the host & I feel like she was rushing them idk maybe it was just me I didn’t like the vibe from her.

[@Godslight1970s]

It was not just you. I just left another comment agreeing that she was pretty rude and sarcastic.

[@ashworld2998]

@@Godslight1970s yes very you can tell they was uncomfortable they just kept it together

[@tiap9583]

Love Khadeen & Devale...the Host definitely gets a side eye. I understand the importance of keeping things on schedule BUT the shade, unnecessary comments and rushing was a complete turn off! There's a way to keep the conversation flowing and within the time restraints in a more tactful manner! It was clear that she was "only doing her job"...lacked sincerity and authentic engagement.

[@patriciabrooks303]

Great answer king “Devale” on what it means to marry a black woman.

[@BrotherEDEN]

So how many went right from here and play Beauty by Dru Hill ???!!!

[@Lysseeeee]

Ugh the host 🙄🙄 I love them though. They're definitely a motivational couple and ones to look up to. 💙

[@angelwakefield5574]

I Love, Love Love this couple and I’ve been following them for a year!!!

[@antoinette8405]

I love the Ellis's they are truly beautiful people.

[@multiracefemalesm8247]

Wow, I love there relationship!! I hope they endure, beautiful.

[@vc9732]

Yes Devale call out the Shade! it was a Long Shadow! Ms Kathleen could barely look at him. LOL She had to turn it around though for the sake of the interview. __ One thing I had to add, Sometimes WE dont appreciate Black Men who are transparent about their stuff. Devale has always talked about his growth and his journey in an honest way. WE should always give our men the safe space to own thier stuff and grow and not hold it against them. And that is what Khadeen has done all these years. He is safe with her, She is safe with him. ok that is all. LOL

[@trudy_triad]

Fair.

[@mssimone7147]

The host energy was negative and kinda jealous...even when she said "hes supposed to ...".I love how the couple handled it with class and just so graceful!

[@dawnthompson7743]

I pray to have a love like this!!!😍😘

[@_thejblife_]

This interviewer clearly has been hurt and is projecting. Love the Ellises though.

[@Godslight1970s]

💯👏🏾

[@ok.s4830]

Clearly!!

[@infiniteblessings74]

If I'm getting an opportunity to choose, and I choose her.. she's the one....kudos Devale, when you know you know

[@bevill72able]

Wow...."you are way beyond more than enough." So sweet!

[@sloapodcast]

This hostess wack and if you haven’t seen that Devale and Khadeen are very authentic, transparent, and honest then you didn’t do your due diligence. Sheesh, she need to do some healing!

[@roots4140]

This was horrible. When she asked about what it's like to love a black woman.... I was like... excluding yourself, right? Cuz Sis.....

[@sloapodcast]

@@roots4140 Smh. I loved the fact that Devale called her behind out!

[@LMBynum]

I loved the Ellises. This would have been a much better interview with a different host.

[@lalitacarter1582]

I SO love them! Great representation of Black Love! Love to see it😍😍😎😎

[@aieshadaniels6104]

Beautiful Strong African Heritage!!! Love how y'all love your Caribbean and Brooklyn roots like myself!! Keep it going, like this if you see them going strong for another 20!!! #PureLove