Reflection on the end of my first relationship in TEN years!

[@robinbeers6689]

When someone has been a big part of a time of illness and disability in your life, there will always be a bond there. I had a long term relationship with someone when I was diagnosed with cancer in 2007. Even though I am very sure that we are not the right people for each other, he will always be a part of my memories. In my case, it felt like me getting healthy was what broke us up. It seemed that he needed to be needed.

[@cabanachronicles]

Yes, you can love someone for what they meant to you, without being in love with them. I think that’s a truer form of love.

[@theresastuppiello9589]

Some come for a lifetime, some for a season. All come for a reason. Take the lessons. Bless them all. And God Bless you. You are very special. Don't sell yourself short.

[@ellieb2914]

I was going to write my own comment but I can't add anything to yours. Perfectly articulated.

[@ianbown3543]

I love that saying, it might just become one of my favourites

[@gaypreator8547]

“Friends for a Reason: Friends for a Season: Friends for a Life-Time.” (Love/Friends.)

[@secondspring4613]

It's hard to gently and gracefully move on from a relationship that is no longer serving you but you never really know what is just around the corner. I was single for 20 years and along came "the one". Now, in this last chapter of my life, I am preparing for a wedding. Never in a million years did I think that would happen. Oh and on a side note...when you describe that expat community....I have experienced the same thing. It seems like a common thing among those communities no matter where they are in the world.

[@cabanachronicles]

Amazing! Congrats ❤

[@adgermatthews8313]

Regret is something we all experience, but it teaches us how to handle the future. With patience, things just work out for the best. Grow, live, love, and be happy.

[@AnneMB955]

This is very generous. 😊

[@cabanachronicles]

Thank you Adger, as always! No regrets though... only gains 😊

[@CarnivoreStork]

Just guessing here, but they way you met up, it sounds like he’s quite the Nomad and eventually needs to keep traveling for his wanderlust. No reflection on you not being a good partner, but people with that personality trait start to get itchy & unhappy in just a couple years. My sister at 70 yrs old still has it, it never seems to leave. Every few years she wants to move to another state...(the old grass is always greener). I tried to tell her 👉🏼 contentment Is a gift. Being thankful & satisfied would go a long way for her, but I understand for some people that wanderlust is burning in them. Good for you for not holding him back and I’m glad you got settled in a new town with less stressful people. 🖤

[@AnneMB955]

We meet people for reasons. Our relationships are important. I really believe that people come into our lives for life lessons. Wish you all the best in your current single life.

[@Nik513m]

From what you have shared, it sounds like you are in a better place geographically for your life. How strange that you had so many people that were trying to interfere with your relationship. Dreams & plans are hard to let go of. There's a grief that goes with it. You are strong & you have grown so much ❤

[@Audifan8595]

It sounds like you're on the right path towards healing and growing from this experience. I'm glad you are allowing yourself the grace to feel how you feel, whether it's catharsis, grief, relief, anger, or whatever else. A lot of people never learn to be patient with themselves. I think you have the strength and clarity to take the lessons you need from this relationship and leave the things you aren't meant to carry. I wish you peace in your heart. I believe that whatever comes next is the will of the universe. You have a beautiful heart, and I'm looking forward to following along with this next great adventure in your life. Much love xx

[@gabit48]

Big hug!

[@garyhiland6013]

Wait a minute, me first.

[@niconavarro899]

I appreciate your content and your vulnerability. It’s nice to hear someone speak about things I can understand.

[@shrivanik.l.7798]

I wish you good health, love, and happiness! Thank you for trusting us enough to share!

[@tootstoyou1]

Thanks for sharing so honestly the good, and not so good times. I for one very much appreciate living vicariously through your changes and adventures. Hope that doesn’t sound weird! lol 😊 Keep smiling, and in the words of Scarlet O’Hara….. “tomorrow is another day .” ❤

[@cabanachronicles]

Not weird at all! Thanks for your appreciation ❤

[@TD-nf1qo]

Have you watched videos on Personality types? My BF is an Avoidant, while I am an Anxious type. I found all this on youtube this week, and it really makes sense to me how we ended up together and why we have so many struggles...but also how much opposites attract in lots of positive ways, even within all the pain and frustrations. I've learned a lot about myself and him (and relationships in general) since watching this. Dealing with health struggles definitely plays a part in staying with someone - you have to do what is best overall in the place you are in life. We all live and learn...focusing on all the positives as you move forward will help you to move on to someone more suited for you. Sending lots of love! P.S. 40 something is not old (otherwise I am old too! lol) and you ARE beautiful. One day I hope you will see that yourself :)

[@svetoslavgyurov1976]

Thank you, for the authenticity and openness, useful conclusions and good advice. Carry on!❤

[@dollyrocker40]

We meet people for a reason and we breakaway for reason nothing stranger than folk Good luck with your beautiful life. Xx faye xx p.s you did the right thing breaking away. And you have wonderful memories 💜

[@nikkiwatkins4143]

Thank you for sharing 😌. I'd love to read your book. Can you advise where I can find it please 😁.

[@adgermatthews8313]

Amazon sells it. Immaculate by Rebecca Audrey Johnson.

[@ellie698]

​@@adgermatthews8313 Thank you 🙏🏻

[@thorcarnivore]

I love your stories ❤

[@greggard7092]

Good luck to you over there in northern Spain, it was nice listening to this video

[@ellie698]

Please do a Jane Austen and write about "one or two families" in the small community that you were part of. The British expats in Spain. That would be a great read 🤓👍🏼

[@cabanachronicles]

I'm on it!! Haha 👍

[@ellie698]

@@cabanachronicles Yay!!!

[@ellie698]

@@cabanachronicles What's your previous novel called? I want to read it 🤓👍🏼

[@cabanachronicles]

@@ellie698 'The Immaculate' and my author name is Rebecca Audrey Johnson. Thank you!!! If you like it please leave a review!! 🥰

[@ellie698]

@@cabanachronicles 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 I'm a very slow reader so don't expect a review quickly hahaha. I have MS and get dreadful brain fog and fatigue. But ... I'm going to go carnivore after seeing the results you've had, so 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

[@rapajaro]

Hi Becca, I believe you have plenty of things to share, are you considring going back to writting? You have a story to tell and plenty of people to learn from your experience

[@cabanachronicles]

Every day I'm moving closer to writing again ☺

[@tomw588]

Keep your chin up, Rebecca.

[@mydanshi9683]

Very good video and didn’t cross the line. Not sure why you don’t think you’re very attractive. I think you have a great look and lots of people would be attracted to you. You’re well above average. I look forward to your further adventures and relationship with Mr Right

[@ianbown3543]

sometimes Love takes time to develop, don't shut yourself off to other potential relationships. life is short

[@carrikartes1403]

We can't help but care for the people who care for us. That may seem like an oxymoron, but it is two levels of the same word. Emotionally dependent on the person that is there to meet our needs. It is a survival response. It can be a desperate feeling because those needs absolutely need to be met. I would guess that he got to feel needed and strong in the relationship. When you became ablebody it changed the relationship. Because the needs changed.

[@IllyaWilson]

Change is enevitable. Not that you will, but, try not to beat yourself up too much over it. We understand.

[@AbzScotland]

Onward and upward...

[@lynnfrench4969]

🫶

[@ellie698]

Oh no 😕😕😕

[@TruthSeeker-rn1tm]

Get off the drugs, get off the medication, you'll be good.

[@cabanachronicles]

I don't take any drugs or medication...

[@ruthkief8962]

He became ill and u dumped him? Bye

[@cabanachronicles]

Yeah... that's how it went down 🙄

[@ellie698]

Did you listen properly at all???

[@mydanshi9683]

There’s always a troll at the end of the comments. Watch out, you might feature in the next book 😂