Relationships: Don't Give Up!

It's kind of funny. In the teacher's manual of A Course In Miracles, there are some direct comments Jesus is making about relationships. And it's funny, because he's not saying, "There are some good ones and there some bad ones." He just kind of calls them all learning opportunities.
So he says, "Yeah there are some people that you'll barely know, like acquaintances. And those are learning opportunities. And those are people we call acquaintances." But he doesn't really address it that way. He's just, "People that just in passing, you know, pass through our lives, learning opportunities.
But then he gets to another category that we would call life mate. He says, "There's people that you'll spend a great deal of time with," which could include life mates. And he says, "That doesn't mean there aren't going to be challenges." And he even says, In fact, you might even find," (like the wording is along the lines of) "They might become quite contentious."
But again, he's not saying, "Oh, that's sad. You should go and find the right one for you." There is no such thing. They're all just learning opportunities. And our job is to create holiness amongst our thoughts about all human beings ever, throughout all time. Complete love, unconditional love for everyone. Spiritual love for everyone. That's our destiny.
It's not just our goal. Thank God it's a destiny, meaning, one day it'll actually come to pass. So why do I want to prolong that by still having judgmental contentious relations?
Do your best to heal all relationships that come into your life - acquaintances, life mates, or whatever they are, but see through things a little more clearly. Be awake, spiritually, and see through things. So just recognize that, you know, they will go through stages. Don't say to yourself, just because it's going through a challenging stage, it must mean it's over. But also don't say because it's in a honeymoon stage it's supposed to be forever.
Those are both ego presentations. Honeymoon to basically B.S. ourselves into getting all you know stimulate and excited in the situation, and then the honeymoon's over, getting into fault-finding and judgment. Neither of those are God.
So, we're going to go through those, but see them.See them and call them for what they are, and do your best to say, "You know, I'm going to create gifting relationships and when I do, I'm not going to so easily get tempted to toss them out. Because when I give thanks for them, because there are some good relations that reflect our progress, don't dis them or you throw away your progress. You see, the ego will trick you into doing that.
Try not to give in so easily on those that have been earned. Instead give thanks for them. And do your best to stay out of judgement with the others. It doesn't mean stay blind and remain in a hurtful situation. But do your best to see it and learn what you can from it.
"Where's this coming from? What are these lessons about? What are these buttons being pushed, and where are they coming from?" Ask. And then practice your best to forgive.
But you can also then make your decision. "I forgave, but I don't think I'm staying in this relationship." Especially if there's any kinds of dangers involved. Especially. God would not want you to be in pain or in danger. Leave. God would want you to. If you're in danger of some kind or your children are in danger, leave. But God even in that would say, "Now that you're safely in a hotel, a women's shelter, or in your own house, a new life, I want you to sit and take some time to see what you can learn from it so we don't have to see you do that again.
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[@coolwater644]

Wow. I just got a big AHA moment. The thing where couples work on keeping the romance alive (of course both must be invested in this for it to work) really means they are working to keep a false reality. So we shouldn't keep longing for that 'loving feeling' but work on the reality with all it's highs and lows. And accept that reality is the norm instead of chasing the 'butterfly' of what we think we are missing and what we are led to believe is the norm according to the media (and certain relationship 'experts'! Thanks so much!!!

[@Peace0210]

The darkness in us doesn’t like us to find light.nice words .

[@deaandreacchi4216]

Hello Michael. Thank you for the reminder. I did reach a state of higher consciousness and when I looked at anyone all I saw was their magnificence and their beauty as divine beings. I loved everyone unconditionally because I was connected to that love and it was being reflected back to me. Having left that altered state I am back in ego and I can't see that anymore but I know it's still there waiting for me to connect to it. I am looking for love in all the wrong places. It is inside of me waiting to be expressed. It doesn't exist externally to me. Bless you for reminding me of what I know but have forgotten. The truth sets you free. Blessings and love to you.

[@melvif]

Whew, these talks really put you in a space. Take about letting go, and yes daily. Once you learn something to can't unlearn it. Then there's the answer to the question as to "why do I keep going through the same thing, or why does this keep happening"

[@carlitacabrera5845]

My karma... they just want to have fun with me then they pull away. I cant break the pattern. Id love to have at least a relationship to get through all the stages! And stil i cant. Noone seems to want something deep with me. As you see i need to work on acceptance... i love your words michael. Thank u

[@carlitacabrera5845]

Thank u for reading me :)

[@JackieMolinary-Singer]

I just purchased “Creating Fulfilling Relationships”, and even though I’m only starting chapter 2, I’m enjoying every second since the very beginning. I’ve been happily single/complete for many years working on my inner self, and looking forward to experiencing a Gifted/Holy relationship in God’s Perfect timing - if that is His will. 😇

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

That's so wonderful to hear/read. ~MM

[@sarahrudolph5367]

I am so there with you. What a profound and fulfilling place to be. In Love with Love.

[@Peace0210]

Turning karmics into healing relationships 🙂🙂you use so beautiful words.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Thank you. ~MM

[@pollypick2854]

Hey Michael, totally agree with the “after honeymoon stage, eventually we will not like anymore…” after understanding and experiencing relationships with jobs and humans, but with animals/pets, I really feel so much love for them from day one till their last breath, all those I had who had passed and my current living pets… I’m still wondering why only towards animals we have the honeymoon stage till the last day ❤️

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

All relationships go through the three stages--although some stages are less perceptible than others--due to having a more authentic love for some. But even animals go through these stages for most owners--as there is a stage when many owners play with them as the animal gets older. That's still a sign of the second stage.~MM

[@angyt1070]

Whew! Chock full of information on relationships MM! Daunting! 😭 Why even make a move towards anyone , ever ?? Thank you though for speaking the truth. I know you’re right. ♥️

[@gloomyxo]

Love and light to everyone seeing this 🖤🙏🏽✨💯👌🏽

[@szoya5365]

Valuable, elaborate discourses. Thank you very much!

[@azarnoosh.z]

I’ve experienced every sentence Michael. For those who seek, there is always an answer. Our brain works so weirdly. Before experiencing awakening If you’d ask me have I ever cheated in my life? I would say never ever. I’m THE most loyal person in relationships. And I have been, with all the non-committers. But recently I remembered only one case, a guy who was respecting me the most, and I have cheated on him by a one night stand. The moment that I remembered that night, I started crying, for the pain that I’ve caused for that guy and for the fact how blind I was to deny that I can be a cheater. Accepting our shadow sides isn’t going to be easy but it’s so liberating. Thank you for all your talks 🤍

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

It's so courageous of you to see this and own it. And now it's important to learn from it so you can move forward. It's so typical for people to push away others who are perhaps healthy or good for them. It can be that they don't believe that they deserve the good OR they have a secret edge calling for the more shallow behaviors . . . and so on. Whatever the reason (inner cause) though, our job (as the doer or the recipient) is to learn and graduate so we can move on to higher levels of life and consciousness. ~MM

[@rimamukherji9021]

Very beautiful and insightful.

[@yogalady60]

Thank you so much. Divine timing.

[@annabanana7010]

Thank you Michael🙏

[@suzannahmiller8441]

Really makes sense to me all of this. Loved it and puts a lot in context from past relationships. Thank you xxx

[@summerbreeze9836]

Ha. I am in the 2nd stage with my employer. I already feel I will not be continuing next season, but would like to distance myself in a more peaceful rather than resentful way. Already I have been seeking forgiveness between us and know it will come if I persist. Its a relief, really, to see another in a true way. No pedestals, but an appreciation of who they are in the better moments, while also not denying the not so great moments. It allows me to be myself, as well. I once stayed at Madonna House in Combermere. There I met a man who spoke of the woman who started it. He spoke of how cranky she was and I said, How awful that must have been for you to deal with. He responded, "Not at all. It's just who she was." And right there was the essence of acceptance.

[@jorgecrowtatsrodriguez4793]

I get this completely. Thanks for sharing.

[@healthyworld408]

Thank you so much!! 🌷👍💕

[@AncientlightInsights]

I love your soul! 🥰🌸 Thank you for your profound Insights! Practicing Acceptance! ❤

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Wonderful! ~MM

[@amandachoice6193]

Thank you. Keep doing what you are doing. Amen. 🙏

[@tourmalinequeen5252]

Thank you for this. I asked for help and I’ve just seen your video. So thank you x

[@sarahstromwell4571]

Meeee too! I love how that works! I really appreciate you Michael, wow so much wonderful wealth of wisdom and applicable knowledge! Namaste!🌷✨

[@lszabo5094]

Thank you so much!

[@shannonmisquadis]

MM, you are an amazing human being, and I am thankful to have you in this world. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world. I love you and your sense of humor; it is refreshing. Much love to you, brother. ❤

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Thank you so much. Peace to you always. ~MM

[@racheldolan6209]

I agree that there will always be challenges in all relationships. My personal slant on this is, “every relationship has it own brand of bologna and it just depends on the brand you’re willing to put up with”. I’m not talking about abuse of anything that extreme but come on…you’re two different people coming from two different places. We aren’t always going to agree on everything. If we agree on everything then someone is not being honest. Also…I do focus on a person’s strengths rather than their weaknesses. And I am Pollyanna. It doesn’t mean I’m in denial but I allow the positives to weigh in heavier than the negatives. As always… thank you thank you thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@JackieMolinary-Singer]

You are a Blessing to us and to all of humanity Michael. Thank you for everything you do from the bottom of your heart so selflessly. Blessings from Miami, FL on this Good Friday. 🙏

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

You are so kind. ~MM

[@jbreezy5959]

Love the real talks and no b.s. . So refreshing! Thanks so much Michael , totally get the honeymoon and second phase getting real and ego wanting to run away/destroy things. WOW- it can stop our potential for growth.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Thanks for the kind feedback. ~MM

[@katemchardy542]

Thankyou Michael. xxx

[@stephaniewoods5205]

I understood all the stages you talk about. All the human experiences. To bad we have to witness them. As even if we get told this before we get into a relationship we probably wouldn't have gotten it anyway. Lucky to those who do they don't have to experience the BS.

[@lee.m.506]

Sometimes tough to o hear the truth. My honeymoon period lasted, literally 6 months-ish. Now, 13 years later of hell later, I'm desperately seeking a new direction. Thanks for this talk, Michael! Just sign me "slow-learner." But better late than never...

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

You are very welcome. Sending you prayers of support and courage. ~MM

[@suanmyhre3306]

Wow A lot to see! And complicated! And so much I have been loving my body more, creating, and plus seeing clarity in a lot of areas, Thank you for all of your time clarity and information!! ☆◇♡ Maybe a 4th or more ways? (heh heh)

[@nilsbjrnarnilsen4008]

I have bought two of you books, and reading “The Dark Night of The Soul” wow! I have learned so much these 5 years much because of a relationship, on and off and have been an experience that gave me the gifts of DNotS as I see it now because of you knowledge you give. I’m sending my gratitude where it belongs with love Nothing but love from Norway ❤️🙏🏻

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Thank you. So glad to hear of your dedication to your awakening. ~MM

[@lynnetg]

Beautiful 💚🙏

[@kchaos1312]

I am so very grateful for what you are sharing. Thank you so much.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

You are so welcome. ~MM

[@babbsromero3471]

😂this was funny and true at the same time! The grey ponytail cracked me up!

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Glad you liked it and got the joke. ~MM

[@dorthabird8327]

Spot on. Thank you.

[@katemchardy542]

Thankyou Michael. It all makes great sense.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Glad to hear that. ~MM

[@gabrielle2dream559]

Thank you so very much for your insights ♡

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

You are so welcome. ~MM

[@nomawethugama8822]

Thank you for this 🌞 Wouldn't get advice like this anywhere else.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

You're so welcome! ~MM

[@jorgecrowtatsrodriguez4793]

I just let a lover that at first we met on some soul mate level. We dated to see where it went and then It fizzled out. This relationship helped my Self heal and I’m still seeing her I guess, but I am definitely grateful to have met her. This video is coming in at a right moment.

[@aprilbrandao4925]

Thank you for your love!!!💝💝💝

[@LifeOfAnEmpath]

Forgiving my last partner has been pretty hard because he won't let go of his trauma, ego, addictions, etc. and became abusive. So this was an extreme lesson for me because I ignored what I should have in the honeymoon stage. But I did learn I deserve more than what I accepted.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

So start with forgiving yourself for taking so long to "get it." You might then be guided later to do more healing towards him. ~MM

[@mimmycal]

Excellent Michael! U just helped me find a new frame of mind on the ex of 21 years..divorced for 18...despite ...he and my oldest unable to speak with me. At my younger son s wedding. love the ...love them unintentionally. Yippee. A great destiny😍

[@TheLisajill]

really helpful information here!

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Glad you think and feel so! ~MM

[@Eyat369]

♥️

[@Peace0210]

Turning sell mate into soul mates.

[@rylandvallely1994]

Michael...thank you so much for this video. I just bought your book on relationships and am sincerely so glad to have found you! If I may ask, I have a question and some context: I absolutely love my partner of 8 years but finances have been an issue since the beginning. I've been supporting us way beyond what I feel I "should" be doing and it's caused a lot of resentment on my end. Even though I agreed to it, I did not realize it would go on this long. (I will plead insanity on that one.) In the last 1-2 years he's been on a significant journey of spiritual awakening, is a man of God, and tells me to have faith. He's in the music industry and is enormously talented. I've struggled with the faith he's asked for due to the lack of results for so many years and the backdrop of financial resentment. Most months he barely contributes half the rent alone. Do I keep holding on for things to change? I genuinely want our relationship to work out but we're at a constant point of contention regarding money.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Believe it or not, I knew where this question was going as soon as I started reading it. So sorry for the challenge but here's my advice: If you allow things to stay as they are, then you will have to totally drop into a state of COMPLETE acceptance--as though you will be okay if this is the way it will be forever. But keep in mind that if you accept this role, you are entering a contract to be his "patron" (a person who supports artists), which then puts you in the position to also play the role of his mother--taking care of him like he's a spoiled child. One option is to keep things balanced through an agreement wherein he does all the cooking and cleaning and other types of work to reciprocate. Another option is that you can hope one day his work and talent might pay off--which does happen for one in thousands creative people. Then he might be able to "pay you back." And you are correct, the tensions are there and will keep building if you do not completely own a new option or perspective. So whatever you decide, it needs to be something you can really wrap your mind around and accept. It would be unfair to both of you to fool yourselves into thinking this is okay if, in fact, it's eating you up inside. ~MM

[@rylandvallely1994]

@@MichaelMirdadTeacher Thank you so very much for taking the time to respond. This is such a rich reflection! I sincerely appreciate it and am excited to dive into all of your teachings. Blessed to have found you. Much love 🙏

[@elemenachiel-rashoma44]

I love how many different shirts you have . scrolling through the videos. I'm like that as well. very artistic. and love the beauty of fine feeling cloth on my body and feeling elevated in energy.

[@kensurrency2564]

we chose to forget (sleep) so that we could remember (awaken). it’s a cosmic play. life is but a dream!

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Actually, we chose to forget so that we would NOT remember. But as we choose to remember, we will forget about forgetting. ;-) ~MM

[@cathy5542]

Oh yes you do know what your talking about ! I've just woken up ! x

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Wonderful! ~MM

[@helenvarmas6285]

It’s funny shopping for a partner

[@newearth9082]

🙏🙏🙏

[@sanjanewmoonlife]

Are you sure relationship don't give up? I give up from relationship s when are not good.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

It's best that we do our best to make it work and if things don't improve, then it's time to give up. ~MM

[@galinakhizhniak741]

So, basically, we are here to turn on the light switch metaphorically speaking by working on our animalistic side- all primary desires like survival, sex etc to discover our divinity

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Well the idea of "working on our stuff" can take different forms. This has been taken way too seriously by monks, nuns, and mystics for far too long. It's partly about acceptance of ourselves and without judgment. And yet it's also important to not allow ourselves to go too far over the edge with our internal and external actions. It's really all about seeing things from a deeper perspective and/or seeing through whatever they seem to be. So our primal desires are both the primal spiritual desire to reflect God and our primal ego self that desires to sabotage our life with addictions and compulsive behaviors. ~MM

[@galinakhizhniak741]

So, all the relationships including romantic ones are just to shape us back into our divine selves. Most of it is doomed from the start. If you do not want /since you understand that there will be another human drama unfolding/ the romantic relationship life will find another drama for you to work on your self.

[@MichaelMirdadTeacher]

Yes. Exactly! ~MM

[@galinakhizhniak741]

@@MichaelMirdadTeacher thank you

[@melvif]

@@MichaelMirdadTeacher Wow. Very eye opening.

[@goldenratio5117]

What if your partner has become too vain, and materialistic ?? Can I please give up?????

[@TracyD2]

That’s always a good question. I came to the conclusion that yes you can if you have tried to make it work. Definitely if your partner never met you part of the way. I personally don’t believe god wants us to be miserable. Even if it didn’t work out I think if we learn and grow from it. It’s not selfish to want to be happy and in a thriving relationship. It sounds like you already gave up. I stayed in relationships far past their ending point. If I’m wrong with anything I’m open for more understanding. They say the road to hell is paved by good intentions.

[@vden02]

My heart just fell that we cannot go home until we love all. How can we love those that do evil, that cause such extreme pain to others, that are cruel and viscous to animals? Ok so I should have practiced patience and waited till later in the video to understand. Oops lol I can love the light within not the evil, cruelty based ego actions. That’s a tough one 😏

[@emdot13]

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