Releasing Imposter Syndrome ~ Embracing my Bisexuality

[@emilyhall7810]

Thank you for sharing about your experiences with labeling yourself as bisexual. I'm happily married to a man, and I've never been in a serious relationship with a woman, but I've always felt myself to be bisexual. I've had my guy friends tell me that all women are somewhat bisexual, and that it's something that we do for attention, but I've never felt it to be the case. In fact, I've kept it from most people since I live in a very Catholic part of the United States. It's nice to here someone else who identified with the bisexual label before having a serious relationship with a female. In some ways, I feel it is a mute point because I'm in a happy serious relationship (marriage), but in other ways I feel it is still relevant to who I am. Thank you for sharing, and many happy returns of the day. ^_^

[@bookwight]

"Something that we do for attention." Whose attention? Theirs? Ack! That's a classic example of patriarchal beliefs at work, framing women's sexuality as something that exists only to serve men, or only as it relates to men. Bleh. I'm glad you don't believe that! (Sorry, but I just couldn't walk past that one. I'm not arguing with you, by the way, just with your friends' assertion.) And if you feel you are bisexual, then you totally get to own that (as I'm sure you know) inside yourself. It's your life, and your identity, and no one else's business - unless you want it to be. Many hugs to you! 💜💜

Ugh yes those sorts of attitudes really piss me off too! I absolutely agree, even if I had never had a relationship with a woman, it still would be important to me to acknowledge my bisexuality - partly because it's an important aspect of my being, and partly because denying one's own bisexuality does nothing to help awareness and acceptance of bisexuality at large. :)

[@Zoe-wl2gt]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I just recently came to terms with my bisexuality, prior to that I was afraid to label myself as bi because I hadn't had a "real" relationship with a women. And by that I mean I dated girls in my early teens but it never got intimate, so I felt like I couldn't know for sure that I was actually bisexual and buried my feelings for years. But I finally realized that this fact didn't make my attraction towards women any less legitimate and am finally fully embracing the bisexual label. Again, thanks for sharing and many blessings to you xx

Always delighted to know that my words resonate! So glad to hear, all the best

[@xuxagirl87]

Talks on your sexuality are always appreciated! I actually relate big-time to this one. I'm bi but have never had a gf, and I often feel like people will dismiss my bisexuality (or rather bi-romanticism) as false if they find out. Combined with a desire to be in a relationship with anyone (I've been single for far longer than I care to admit, and I'm definitely looking for ways to remedy it)... it's a real struggle

[@seawynd99]

when I embraced MY bisexuality,I became totally confused and lost...it was an androgynous nothing with no real commitment to anyone or anything. my gay friends shunned me,my straight friends doubted my sincerity. i was the perpetual fence-sitter and I knew it. thankfully,at last,I made a decision to embrace my true nature~~heterosexuality.life has been good ever since.

[@bookwight]

It sounds like you've reached a very healthy place with all these issues, which is wonderful. And I'm so happy to see you looking so happy as you talk about your relationship. Long may that happiness continue! 💗💖✨

[@marchbushnell-lane9147]

I can absolutely relate to the imposter syndrome with bisexuality. I used to identify as bisexual (now I identify as pansexual) but I always felt that people were judging me and assuming I was lying because I hadn't had a serious relationship with a woman. I still struggle with it to be honest, but it just happens to be the way my life has gone.

I hope you find more peace with this! I have definitely found that many, many pan- or bi-sexuals have struggled with identification in this way.

[@ruthizred9090]

I feel the same way! I just changed my label from bi to queer and it feels both liberating and confusing. I feel like I've internalized a lot of societies assumptions of queer people. I always feel like I have to prove to myself that I'm attracted to women. Every time I'm attracted to a woman, I go "yes! See! I are queer!" Its on ongoing cycle that gets quite exhausting. I just want to accept myself. (Yes I'm aware this video was 4 years ago haha)

[@PaganScholar]

Wow, you articulated something Iv really struggled putting a name on. Iv had so much self doubt about my academic strengths that I didn't pursue a masters. Thank you, it's actually really gratifying to name it. To be able to call it out I guess.

[@ametrinemoon]

I'm currently crapping myself as I am currently redoing my honours top - up, I had a crap grade for my bigger module, and now I am petrified for my last 2 modules. Well done on your MSc and on the PhD.

[@moonstone-dreamer6512]

Thank you for sharing all of this with us. It's very helpful and even though I think you covered everything with your bisexuality if you want to talk about it some more then you can. I think I may be bisexual also so it's very helpful for me

[@EclecticGoddess4]

Good for you!!!!