Is She Really Wet for You?! Female Arousal vs. Desire ft. Dr. Lori Brotto

[@michaelgregory6883]

Your honesty is refreshing.

[@steverandal-ii5nn]

Dr.Malik~ I'm do glad for your posts. Way late, but very much needed in our social environment. We here in the US are so sexually screwed up. Hope your show make a difference, keep up the great work.❤

[@nthused]

A fascinating conversation. Historically the Western societies have repressed sex far more than what is healthy for our growth as people. This has adversely affected our thoughts, consciously and subconsciously, and has broken a lot of relationships. Thank you for your candid talks on the subject. Appreciate you and your work.

[@yourneighborhoodfriendlyme4242]

Couldn't agree more. It's sad, really. Hopefully we just keep getting more open and progressive with this stuff as a society and species instead of regressing or stagnating.

[@user-jo5fz8iw3b]

Great video and excellent information ladies !! Short and sweet and to the point !! Thank you @RenaMalikMD and Dr Brotto

[@Sanjaijoshi547]

Thank you so much Dr.Rena for this amazing knowledge 🙏 ❤️ Really incredible and most informative 🎉🎉🎉

[@Frank_and_outright]

Great information thanks Rena

[@rutgersmarine2065]

Thanks Dr Rena. You are awesome!!!

[@KxNOxUTA]

Great education and advocating for topic that need more progress.

[@michaelgregory6883]

You press toward truth…good…keep pressing…keep pressing.

[@FutureAIDev2015]

Before I even start the video I'm going to guess. Arousal is the neurophysiological reaction mediated by the central nervous system, and desire is the conscious psychological response mediated by higher brain centers.

[@MarcusHart]

Very educational. Especially knowing now that wetness can be a defense mechanism.

[@chris2790]

Not defensive. Protective. There's a difference.

[@_negentropy_]

Thanks so much for clarifying diffs b/w arousal and desire. Hugely important message that “wet” does not mean consent. Is there a full interview with Dr. Brotto?

[@ginafleener3962]

Dr. Rena rocks it😊

[@michaelgregory6883]

Thank you for pressing toward truth in describing arousal, desire and fulfillment. Consider subtle cameras in the subjects’ bedroom.

[@ChrisBanda]

Love the tangent/rant about the puritanical objection to sexual research in the US & Canada, what a bummer especially in 2024. Sadly no politician or decision maker will have much of an incentive to change this any time soon given the "culture war" implications of the subject.

[@cxBuck]

@4:55 there is more scattering of light when the reflecting surface becomes more irregular, i.e. it changes to a more irregular shape. More blood flow may happen during arousal as well, but it is not directly causing more scattering, which reduces the level of light reflected back to the transmitter. Just say'n.

[@georgemaupin6787]

Dr. Malik, the last few minutes of this interview are the most interesting. South Asian females are SO much more better Research Lab partners for cross - culture with North America based sex education. Example: until recently, the Age of Concent in China was 10 years old. Its history has been in Chinese culture around for thousands of years; its purpose to keep Chinese Emporer's within - the - Family NAME! 😮

[@georgemaupin6787]

Dr Malik, my research is based on Masters- Johnson's title, "Human Sexual Response" & others, & my own experience.❤

[@dakotahrickard]

With respect, I agree we need more sexual education in schools. The ignorance people in general have about sexuality in general and reproduction in specific is wild. On the other hand, much of the sexual education literature I've encountered is more about sexual enabling. Sex ed starts in fifth grade. At that point, kids aren't mentally prepared to handle having sex. Even in prehistoric societies, those were children, not adults, and children are not meant to reproduce. Right now, we are fighting a culture war, as many people have pointed out, but the easiest, simplest methodology is to provide information on all of this. We need to provide that information completely, including the pros and cons surrounding these very sensitive issues. Just as an example, right now, any negative opinion of masturbation is generally dismissed as spurious or archaic, but as I understand, masturbation can lead to dysfunctions. So it, again as just an example, is not clearly and unequivocally positive, even from a strictly medical/psychological point of view, but most sexual education material either tacitly implies one should masturbate or outright instructs children on how to go about it. We need to create material vetted by physicians, psychologists, and other health professionals, uninfluenced by party politics and big business, which clearly outlines all of the concepts surrounding sexuality, specifically including significaytly increased information on reproduction.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

😀💔 *3 men die and go to Heaven* St Peter looks at him and says "You were unfaithful to your wife 28 times. Don't worry, you'll be accepted in -- only you won't get a brand new car like those who were more loyal in their marriage" Confused the man asks "I get a car though?" St Peter replies "Of course. Everyone needs a car in heaven to get around. Only you'll be receiving a beat up old Ford Pinto " Meanwhile the man sees a couple of his old friends receiving their cars. The first guy had one minor affair during a rough patch in his marriage and was given a nice Toyota Camry. The second guy is granted a brand new Lamborghini for never even thinking about another woman other than his wife. All of a sudden, inside heaven, the man with the Ford Pinto starts crying. Concerned, his two friends check on him to ask him why he's so sad. He points to his wife who is riding around on a pair of roller skates.

[@Martin_Priesthood]

😮😮😂😂😂👌💯

[@Eddybo22]

Gosh darn diddly

[@cliff_fall]

😂😂😂😂

[@kimaretydesign]

Savage😅😅😅😅

[@Martin_Priesthood]

@@kimaretydesign 🎯

[@tonynes3577]

As a Man, I was brought up multicultural and also multi sexual, being gay, straight and bisexual at different times in my life. In fact I have a European Canadian upbringing. I am also a male Nurse, working with women, further expanding my view on woman although more professional. Living in the United States for the last 30 years ( for my career) I felt very sexually repressed. But that was my choice. Now in my 60s I don't care that much about sex. But maybe I do because I visit my French Girlfriend in Canada quite often! Hey, thanks for the conversation! We need to progress sexually in the USA!

[@rizwanuddin4388]

Dr Rena you are looking amazing in this video, great job done by you .👌👌👌👌👌👌👌🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@Joaodocaminhao0234]

Thank you👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@Martin_Priesthood]

19 year olds ❌⬇️ wrong sample space wrong data. . Very informative. .

[@timocosta4369]

I started drinking more water and a week or two and only had 4 sodas in two weeks

[@PANTYEATR1]

I'm interested in knowing how desire and arousal works when familiarity is a Factor.

[@straightrippnable706]

Thanks for teaching, ladies

[@PeterDMayr]

What about diet & lubrification? Alcohol consumption? Health in general?

[@this_is_jmdub]

interesting topic! thanks for the video. Is there any research on if sexually uneducated people are more or less sexually active? or if they reproduce more or less?

[@michaelgregory6883]

With permission to monitor specific acts. Also, is temperature useful? And muscle tone?

[@rpols22]

I love how so many of these studies use college kids as their sample. This is not representative of the population as even by today's standards, most high school graduates don't go, or graduate from college. Its just a quick and convenient method for survey groups to finalize their test surveys. Its kinda lazy when you think about it....

[@schahrzadmorgan]

I completely agree. I developed sexually so much since my college years. Even what arouses me has changed.

[@briar35981]

She's not. She has no genuine desire for her man. The man isn't her first choice. The real genuine desire is for a man in her past who did nothing formidable for her. She choose this man because of his provisional abilities. Their intimacy will be totally transactional. He's on a point system.

[@mtower235]

They want me To take out the trash, mow the yard, change the oil…….

[@nigelthomas6642]

Interesting

[@coastalgrasslander4511]

and here I thought I was going to learn something about erectile tissue, glands, and secretions,... but even these women don't want to talk about physical sexual anatomy. decades of this political crap.

[@garyK.45ACP]

Lubrication is lubrication. I'm in!

[@RohitKumar-ig8jo]

Wt i want.. z matters first!!.. Then everything else comes❤

[@tonyrome224]

Happy Memorial Day weekend! Have a blessed Sunday! Arousal is an understatement 😘🌹💞🔥😉

[@ramonmartinez1348]

Jade yoni egg,expert plz

[@rbfarrell1]

For men in the U.S. probably best to rent a garden tool when needed. W-m-n and men want different things at different times. Get married in the U.S. and everything will be about her and what she wants. Most married men have less sex or none. But they still deal with her B.S. everyday it is a bad deal for men.

[@gebronthomasson6960]

arousal and desire is two different things in men too..not exclusive to women.

[@alg11297]

it's very important to know the difference because.....

[@christophersterling6788]

Facts

[@xyzct]

What do women want? _Something else._

[@DrShahid-p5x]

Rena mailk is best urologists according my mind because she lacture is very interesting ❤I much enjoy

[@gebronthomasson6960]

you answered your own argument against why “sexual health “ is pushed back against.. you just used “cis-woman”(aka a woman) and “non-binary” and “trans”..

[@javedjutt660]

Beautiful

[@RohitKumar-ig8jo]

WT I want z matters😂❤🎉

[@samuelpancake4084]

Pretty interesting. But one question. Why or how is racism related to not having sex? (No hate but i turned my head sideways on that one)

[@KxNOxUTA]

There are racial biases in regards to how ppl of those groups supposedly are and think etc. Which leads to their struggles not being addressed. And it's not about "not having sex". There are many sorts of biases from "these women supposedly are all great in bed" from "these women supposedly wouldn't even touch the topic". All of them can impact how easy or hard it is for them to get the correct support and how easy or hard it is to speak on a topic when they are aware of the existing biases and depending on what is shamed or expected in each bias group. To name a reverse racial bias: When I was in Japan, men would talk me up in the street and jump to sexual offers, as the bias is that Western women are more open than Asian women in regards to the topic. Which is ...... hilariously false even though they were right that I was fine having mature and simple talks about the topic but personally have 0 interest in hookups XDDDDDD If I lived in Japan, I might possibly run into problem when the expectation is "western women are experienced and open" and a shy western woman had to come in to speak on how they very much struggle with that expectation and it affects their ability to have intercourse with their current partner. And she could be faced with a doctor who is too blunt cause they work with a bias of "Western ppl don't get subtle communication". Or this bias could affect things like being suspected to have STIs regardless of saying you have no sexual experience and doctors investigating the wrong direction. These are just a few examples how different biases can affect communities when it comes to the topic.

[@BradleyT2p2]

@@KxNOxUTA All that word salad and you don't know the difference between race and lineage?

[@TirsoGarcia-j6w]

Hey Dr Malik, I have a question, I would like to asked you privately.

[@michaelgregory6883]

…bedrooms.

[@lovepeacebliss]

The women arousal tests seem dumb. Is it not known that women are less visually stimulated than men. Seems like a dumb way to test

[@usainbolt5153]

In abrahamic religions mustarbation is considered as sexual immorality and the individual who practices that is a sinner Sinner=hellbound

[@Silvermoonscorpion]

Try saying that word ten times fast. Photo.. what.. 😅

[@Zzrdemon6633]

Doc you look tired! Take a break

[@rsgabrys----]

--------------------------‐ if she ain't game .......same.....thx ....bye....all I beg for is world peace .....

[@Silvermoonscorpion]

This she agrees.. I don't take it personally. I see a denial/rejection as a blessing..

[@frederickhunter4649]

This is bogus, why is sex presented to be so complicated now and so much theory is needed this is useless information. even a hamster has the ability to know what to do to get aroused. whe are all equipped mentally and naturally with the ability to get aroused ,every body that has sex was aroused before the sex act starts.the western culture it self is very sexual motivating, just look at you tube for instance is all over the place 😮

[@khaliddurrani6432]

Arousal is youth and to some extent middle age ; whereas desire is old age. In other words desire is the means to the end - Arousal. Got it ??

[@cliff_fall]

Wrong. Got it?

[@kevindice1092]

Word salad.

[@KxNOxUTA]

Arousal: The body is in an elevated state which can be anything between "danger alert" to "state of high positive excitement". In terms of body: Physical reactions like flushing, swelling, dryness or lubrication (depends what and where and who and why). Desire: Aka "want to". Your body can be in a state of arousal without you desiring that: e.g. the body is pleased or stressed even though you do not want it to be either in your current situation if the situation does not fit the positive/negative state of excitement. (e.g. involuntary hard-ons or orgasms in random places. Protective lubrication and swelling during SA. Flushing in the face when you want to stay cool but your body still expressed your embarrassment or anger) You can have desire without arousal: people may want to get worked up positively or negatively and they feel the feelings but their body does not follow and does not get aroused for the correct reaction. (impotence or inability to get excited about sex regardless of wanting it as well as struggles with orgasm. Being unable to set boundaries and stop a situation regardless of wanting to.) Only if arousal and desire are both present AND positively aligned, that's when intercourse is fun AND legal (aka, not a crime.) You cannot know if both are present, without asking, because desire does not necessarily correlate with arousal AND arousal can be there but not complete, like in the case of illness (e.g. physical arousal is there but vaginal dryness due to age or illness may still require external support even though otherwise the body is "all in").

[@steverandal-ii5nn]

I disagree, any combination can happen at any age.

[@lizcrabb9510]

What???? I'm 74, my boyfriend is 59. Talk about desire and arousal!!!!! I take bio identical estrogen and I am enjoying sex more than 30 years ago! We are not doing boring sex either. 🎉

[@cato451]

No woman has ever wanted me.

[@dmck_24]

Same thing here too. It's like they don't care about me

[@KxNOxUTA]

@@dmck_24 That is actually possible. The question is: Do you care for them or do you only care for what they can "do for you"?. Also: Do you care for yourself? Because if you struggle with self-esteem, then that can make interactions particularly awkward :3 There is a lot you can do. First of all you want to learn the basics of how to make female friends and how to regulate your emotions to keep it platonic. After that you'll have a network of ppl who can actually help you with troubleshooting when you proceed to the area of dating. Most importantly however: Make sure you are a feminist and work through your internal sexistic biases (which the majority of ppl regardless of gender will have by default cause that's a systemic issue). The better you understand what struggles women face in the world and what makes us really hyper-vigilant when it comes to relationship choices, the better you'll do. Especially when subconscious sexistic biases stop sabotaging your efforts. There's really a great lot in your power that you can actually do to improve your situation. Just please make sure you seek advice from ppl who are good at this (and not any of those women hating dudes out there giving terrible advice to their own male peers and taking their money while making the overall situation worse by the day ///orz///) If you need basic 1x1 instructions (which are not at all as simple as ppl suggest, if noone taught you) you might want to go over to HealthyGamerGG, because a real and modern psychiatrist is going over these struggles together with the community and really goes into the nitty gritty of "how to make friends" and "how to be less awkward in conversations" etc.

[@dmck_24]

@KxNOxUTA it's like they don't give me a chance to talk to them. I used tinder and I got no results. I don't know how to make female friends

[@usainbolt5153]

Not possible

[@dmck_24]

@@usainbolt5153 how?

[@Stacity]

Men tend to not communicate with woman just connect emotionally we are weak at that eg how was your day can I help you etc .

[@TheMountainBeyondTheWoods]

Watching american doctors bending over backwards to try not to say anything someone somewhere might perceive as offensive is a mix of pathetic and funny. The way they emphasize the whole "people that identify as women" and other ridiculous nonsense is really sad. I wouldn't want to be treated by a doctor this confused.

[@Asiansxsymbol]

Idk if they're "wet" for me but I've been with over 800. 😊

[@MrJfortheElohim]

This is the craziest crap I have ever heard.

[@carlost5263]

Really? Wow another woke stuff

[@steverandal-ii5nn]

New info is new info, where is the wokeness?

[@CarlosGarcia-xz8qb]

There's no such thing as systemic racism

[@charlesterrizzi8311]

Affirmative action was an example of systemic racism. College admissions which favor certain racial groups is another example of systemic racism

[@CarlosGarcia-xz8qb]

@@charlesterrizzi8311 Well systemic racism suggests that the system and their institutions are racist per se. I would say that the people running those instructions and even the system have agendas and bias which could give that impression, the point that you just made is a very good example of that

[@ceasetheday87]

the fact that someone can think there’s no such thing as systemic racism makes it very likely that systemic racism exists. if the system is not aware of racism, how would the system then mitigate or avoid it?

[@mrgilmore6953]

Women don’t know what they want. You have to tell them.