Renee's HIV story: "My ex-husband knowingly infected me with HIV."

[@reneeburgess209]

Thank you for sharing my story.

[@RealWomenRealStories]

We love you Renee. How brave! Contact us if you wish to create a follow up movie: [e-mail] . Stay safe.

[@Darkchild547]

Thank you for being brave opening up about the awful betrayal you experienced. 💕💕

[@hallejudy]

Can you do a full story on how you are going strong.

[@daniellemisin4049]

Bless you for your strength in sharing your story.

[@shannsimms9072]

You're a tough cookie Renee

[@RealWomenRealStories]

ALL: Renee’s children were not infected.

[@mikegracie3212]

Thank goodness. I hope that she and her family have a blessed life.

[@mommakingithappen2223]

Thank god

[@louellarobertson8074]

Praise God🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏽

[@denishiagee2955]

Oh Thank You Father Bless You Jesus 🙏 ❤

[@KM-iz6sg]

That is only through the grace of God!

[@Claudia-M]

Wow😧 For her own husband to knowingly give his own wife & possibly twin babies a death sentence is incredibly selfish. I would be furious!!!

[@MissMarusa]

HIV is not a death sentence anymore. They have medicine now that make the virus undetectable and this can also make it non-transmissible. They also don't fall ill with Aids if they get the medication. Science has thankfully progressed a lot.

[@tdesq.2463]

@@MissMarusa That's good to know. But as far as Her Loving Husband (ahem) is concerned, it's the thought that counts. What's his mindset: That of a Murderer. He essentially tried to shoot his Wife in the head, but fortunately missed and hit Her in the shoulder. Quite a life altering wound still. But he tried to kill Her. He needs to be taken out and tortured. ... TD, Boston

[@Claudia-M]

@@MissMarusa That’s amazing news! The fact that medicine has advanced & he still kept it hidden from her is even more selfish. Had he been honest, she could’ve been treating herself & her babies from the start.

[@tdesq.2463]

@@Claudia-M Right. Oftentimes, silence speaks volumes to the person's intent and broader mindset. But, Yes. Great News re the medical advances.

[@americahenderson1236]

@@MissMarusa and guess what? Viktarvy (the drug) is not covered by health insurance, and is close to 2;500 dollars A MONTH, so unless the infected person makes six figures or more more than likely is a death sentence, access to meds and health insurance is ridiculous, there's some laws that need immediate change

[@shiningstar5919]

I’m angered by this. What an empowered woman. I’m so grateful he got sentenced

[@g.m.5395]

My sister I respect you and I love you. I am terribly sorry .

[@naturalbeauty5028]

This is why I don’t judge people with that disease. You don’t know how they got it can be their husband or wives , they can be born with HIV you just don’t know. I rather be their friend and supportive instead of judging them and lose a good possible friendship with someone .

[@dewilew2137]

Same is true for HSV.

[@mayanovak2497]

My best friends boyfriend gave him HIV on purpose too. I’m so sorry you went through this, these type of evil people prey upon the most loving and pure individuals among us

[@JoBunny87]

Why in the fck would anyone do that to someone???

[@intergalacticbnb]

@@JoBunny87 because people can be incredibly selfish and don’t want to suffer with the consequences alone. I think it’s like mass shooters who refuse to go out alone.

[@dewilew2137]

@@intergalacticbnb men age evil

[@Sarah-gm9tq]

wow a lot of men really really hate women. So sorry for this woman's experience.

[@gigilamoore2656]

Unfortunately, a lot of women don't feel too hot about themselves as some stay after men have infected them with HIV and all sorts of STD's. I am glad she left him and did the work to get him prosecuted.

[@christoffesedao3579]

Okay Sarah, you think women haven’t spread the disease as well? No need to isolate the focus only on men.

[@intergalacticbnb]

@@christoffesedao3579 I don’t think she’s isolating the reality that both men and women are responsible, but she’s referring to the testimony that she just watched

[@shawtyred1511]

People please get tested and get a blood test before you get married you and your partner need to do this

[@wanderingaudi4138]

You are so brave to come forth with your story, you are a warrior!

[@stopbugginandtakearedpill2957]

Very smart way to get confession... Thankful he was punished

Punished? You kidding, 5 years and out again doing harm to other people.

[@denishiagee2955]

Right, that was very smart of her.

[@t.c.5456]

@ you are overly aggressive and mean. She said what she said.

[@chukabucka]

Her resilience ... and she's a mom ... wow! So sorry this happened to her ...

[@uncle978]

She is an eloquent and strong woman. Thank you for sharing your story to help others

[@tamorap1614]

Many men have infected their women with differents kind of venereal deseases, or HIV. Many of them have the guts too to say they haven't. What a strong woman and what a disappointment for her knowing her husband knew about the disease, was unfaithful and he didn't tell her anything. He is trash.

[@amarelogan7081]

Many women have also infected men with STDS, since women contract them at a higher rate

[@mocamocam2258]

@@amarelogan7081 ummm women contract them at a higher rate because of the men spreading it and NOT being tested. Black men dony even go get regular check ups so we know they're not getting VOLUNTARY aids test.

[@peacegiver1000]

Gutters snipe/ sewage.

[@peacegiver1000]

Persons are of the view that promiscuous persons contract these disease. We should always be doing our tests and check ups.

[@serenity4ever2010]

@JESUS IS LORD333.AMEN. JESUS333.AMEN HIV is not aids. If you have hiv and on a regimen and taking care of yourself, you can become undetectable but it doesn't mean you don't have the virus. It's just means that the transmission rate is low. Aids is when you stopped taking your medication or haven't been in care and white blood cell drops below a certain metric. You have a chance of dying from aids than HIV.

[@galaxyglitterlatte4664]

"Well we have just one problem..." Well that's one HELL of a problem 😳

[@YouTubeUzername]

Exactly! 😂😂

[@angeleyes3386]

Exactly, Om...

[@applejellypucci]

Agreed.

[@aavv1818]

YOU'RE A VERY STRONG WOMAN!

[@tinacotton9986]

Truly a sad story. I bet he infected numerous of people. They need to expose these people that spreading this disease. Praying for you and your family.

[@MsYBBG]

I remember this story. He did expose multiple people. He was convicted again about 6 years after this case.

[@jocelynbrown3828]

200 people😢

[@fatima-xs6sn]

Ladies please.be careful A very close friend of mine went through the same , and the guy did it because he had so much anger building in him .

[@colie563]

Good on you. It sucks that the sentence was so short, but thank goodness people like you prosecute to the fullest extent of the law. Maybe it will wake folks up to this type of situation. I hope your treatment is working and you have a long and happy life.

[@tinawindham6958]

Too bad some previous lovers don’t come forward and keep him in there.

[@donaldbaptiste3399]

My friend has endured so much and each day I see a better version of herself. All things considered she is ready to be the best her see can be.

[@katekouri254]

Thank you for sharing. Sorry that you had to go through this.

[@MzStarlett5]

I am really so proud of her for being so resilient 💪🏾 and really going through with making him have to take accountability! She is a Queen 👑

[@mikegracie3212]

How is it possible that someone knowingly infects another person with HIV can ever walk free again? If they did it once they will do it again.

[@theresenydahl9531]

You are a strong and inspiring woman❤ He should be sentenced to life in jail.

[@paulalb363]

I am so sorry this happened to anyone!🙏🏽 Prayers are going up for those who experienced this horrific act against them.

[@ladykay8183]

Your story hits home with me I’ll never forget my sister coming home from a prenatal appointment and telling us she was positive she had my niece who came out negative I adopted my niece and had her periodically tested and she’s 22 and still negative due to the advancement of medicine my sister viral number were low however she passed from cancer 2 years ago thank you for your story

[@dewilew2137]

I’m so sorry about the loss of your sister. ❤

[@KristinaUSA-x5n]

I was assaulted when I was 16 in 1992 at swim and dive practice and it was covered up and I was drugged and had a head injury and do not remember exactly what happened and it was on videotape and photographed and my Facebook profile was hacked and photos posted on the 20th anniversary and I deleted it before I went to the police, but there were military and law enforcement involved and libeled my mental stability reputation and luckily tested negative for HIV.

[@tdesq.2463]

What the Hell is Wrong with people! Glad You are OK and speaking up. Best to You!

[@lamoskgr]

How can we help you?

[@tdesq.2463]

@@lamoskgr That's Big! In re "We" ... please count me in. That was a very good note.

[@BlackandIndi]

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@nikkitalks4713]

Sorry that happened to you 🙏🏾

[@shatissanydunbar9771]

She is a phenomenal woman inside, out. Your story and journey has always blessed me. God will continue to keep her because there is purpose behind your pain. Love you girl ♥️

[@honeydominicana6822]

Young lady not only are you brave you're beautiful you are making a huge difference I'm so proud of you keep on using your voice God bless you

[@AA-qt1hi]

It's selfish...and downright evil. To know you're positive with a condition like that you keep having sexual relations without telling your partners. There are ways to keep them safe if they choose to be with you in some of these cases

[@PittGrad2017]

It's so sad to hear this. Stay strong Queen!

[@bentleywalker4009]

I'm in Jamaica. A very sad story. I was in a court house some years ago and a man brought before the judge for raping a 8 year old girl and gave her the aids virus because the girl's mother who died gave the man HIV. He was taking out his revenge on the child.

[@lateshiabrooks2180]

Omg!

[@jasminehill6312]

😢😢😢

[@chineloblessed4628]

Vile wickedness

[@hot49gal]

Oh my that's devastated!! What parish did it happened?

[@Flower-ck2bs]

Terrible.

[@jucutan]

Most people still aren't concerned if their partners are infected. Although we all still have a past, we still feel like we'll never get it. I wish I knew how she keeps strong after knowing, how she goes about her life, what we could do to keep going with life. God bless her and everyone who cares about her.

[@tinawindham6958]

I bet her kids keep her going by the grace of God☝🏻

[@melmel472]

Strong intelligent woman tricking him into the confession. Bravo. Praying for her health

[@lovingdensi2467]

This is the reason why I’m fine with people being gay, so that they don’t feel compelled to dupe woman into believing they are straight; endangering their health and mind. It would devastate me to find out that my significant other is actually gay. I don’t agree with the lifestyle but I rather these men feel at ease admitting their sexuality, than being homophobic.

[@jessicajennifer9827]

If you can't trust the person you share your own bed with....

[@colleenarrell485]

Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. Lots of love

[@sharonsanders8208]

It's great that you can talk about it

[@KeeNeeSha]

Trust No one. Check criminal backgrounds. Before sex get tested for any sexually transmitted diseases. Don’t jus b quick to trust a persons words. A promise only comforts a fool. What does love have to do with it? Love yourself. Take care of yourselves because mental n physical health is important. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@t.c.5456]

Here go the righteous know it alls. Disgusting

[@FreeSpirit47]

OMG! Horrible!! I hope this isn't too personal. Are your twin babies okay? Girl, I just want to give you a big hug! I left, then divorced a male who had become increasingly abusive, in 2007. When I saw what the dating world is like with all the deceit, abuse, weirdos & phukbois, it was depressing. I still believed in love, marriage, all that. When I felt like I had seen every horrible situation, I gave it one last time, had my heart shattered for what was the very last time. In 2012 I decided to be single & celibate by choice. Since then, life has become increasingly better. When I watched you talk about what a man who is supposed to love & cherish you, did? Yeah, my life is good, being single is a much better way for me. It's not for everyone, I know. I'm better off remaining single & celibate by choice. Renee, I hope you are doing well. You're a brave & strong woman!

[@tinawindham6958]

Exactly. My last divorce was 1999. I’ve had a long term guy but never want to get married again. Too many men are soiboys, mama boys. They want to be kept with a roof over their head and food in their belly. No responsibility at all. I love my rescue pets and plants, gardening and not worrying about his issues. They all need therapy but as long as their needs are met, it’s your problem. Stay safe!

[@HummingbirdEighty8]

You are an amazingly strong and empowered woman! 🕊

[@lenebrantley221]

Ladies, a lot of men are swinging both ways. They are not honest about their sexuality. Even if you ask, they will still lie. We must protect ourselves.❤

[@ukkugoodasfidem]

HIV is not a “gay” disease. Wtf.

[@ladybug3380]

@@ukkugoodasfidem but it’s prevalent in that community

[@imParisthoee]

@@ukkugoodasfidem you missed the part that her husband was sleeping with men and women? HIV is highest in the gay community. of course HIV isn’t a gay disease but to be in denial about the high rates amongst men who have sex with men helps no one.

[@ukkugoodasfidem]

@@imParisthoee I didn’t miss a thing. I don’t stand for the stigmatization of the correlation of hiv being a “gay disease.” People have sex with people. If any of those people have an STI, it can be transmitted. HIV didn’t start in the gay community and it won’t end there. Education and protection are key. This is not a women vs gay men/dl men debate. The commenter is talking about men “swinging both ways” as if that is the problem and it’s not. We need to protect ourselves, sure. 1. Dudes are DL because of homophobic women and society as a whole. This is no excuse to lie to your partner or knowingly spread infections. 2. All people (even in a seemingly monogamous or religious relationship) should regularly test. PERIOD. 3. We all need to take accountability for our sexual health and stop passing the buck. Why are you sleeping with anyone without a test? At least one test per year, how will you pinpoint where you got the infection. I test every 3 months and I’m married. I’m a sexual health professional. It’s my business to educate and debunk misinformation.

[@imParisthoee]

@@ukkugoodasfidem ANYWAY men are downlow because those men hate the fact that they’re gay, and they’re worried about the men in their lives negatively treating them as well as the women in their lives. don’t solely blame women for grown men’s insecurities. those men have internalized homophobia and they hate themselves for their sexual desires and they think they can fuck it away with a woman. men are DL because they like the thrill of it. they want to front and cap like they’re straight. let’s not act like DL men are just dying to wave the rainbow flag and live in their truth. their truth IS being on the downlow. these men CHOOSE to openly date women KNOWING their attraction to men. so how is this women’s fault? they go out of their way to find themselves in relationships with women just to go and cheat on them. gay men have no problem sitting around and warning women about DL men and we’re all supposed to be so grateful that they imparted that “insider” knowledge on us naive female folk. but when women aren’t fucking stupid and talk about these fronting ass DL men and warn each other about their propensity to cheat, lie and spread infection, then women are homophobic. i am not pretending that women can’t be homophobic and don’t perpetuate it. but honey this is a man’s world. men are more afraid of men then they would ever be of some women’s opinions. homophobia doesn’t exist because women are straight. take some damn responsibility. if you’re a man who knows they like men......DON’T DATE WOMEN. who are you doing that for???? for every DL man there’s an out and proud gay man who has no shame about who he is. and you know who he’s in community with? other gay men. and you know who else? who he’s probably hanging with, clubbing with, in deep friendship with? WOMEN. we gon sit here and act like historically gay men don’t find themselves always in the company of women? that women aren’t the first to be accepting of gay men? again i would never sit here and deny that there aren’t some homophobic ass women. definitely. but to say women in general are homophobic and that’s why these men are on the DL and not these men are on the downlow because they themselves are homophobic, is a completely ridiculous statement.

[@vintagebabyseventythree6244]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing and raising awareness. I hope you are doing well ♥️

[@sissyhippie9799]

Thank you for your honesty and story!! 🌹🌹🌹

[@jewels3596]

God bless you for being string and getting justice for yourself!

[@twingzable]

Wow so sorry. What a betrayal of your trust.

[@disneyprincessintraining2725]

Holy crap, I don’t think I would ever forgive my husband if he knowingly infected me with HIV while pregnant with our child. I’d be angry enough if it was just me but endangering our children would kill me. Such a strong woman, so glad he was caught.

[@loveLeeAnne99]

Thank you for sharing your story

[@affie3279]

5 years is a joke for such a serious crime. Ugh

[@Justbrowsing2023]

I think I remember when this was on the local news.

[@LuvJewels7]

God Bless your strength and thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏻

[@hollee5912]

What a beautiful woman. I'm so sorry this has happened to her. Bless her.

[@biancazoie3030]

God Bless You. Thank you for your courageous message. Yes you are strong. Wise. And brave. May you receive all the loving help, joy and support you deserve. Happy thanksgiving ❤️

[@blacklildiosa7458]

I am so so so sorry that you had to go through this.

[@gl3936]

Omg! I’m so sorry for what they did to you. Horrible monsters walk upon us.

[@shawtyred1511]

God bless you thank you for sharing your story

[@babouche8784]

Such a beautiful, strong and inspiring woman! Thank you for your courage, let‘s break the stigma. I do have one question though: How could you like proof to the court that you didn’t have HIV beforehand? Best wishes and good health for your future! 🙏🏻

[@nessacartlidge-kingdom479]

I follow her story on other platforms and they both had gotten tested before marriage. He lied to her about his results at the time.

[@babouche8784]

@@nessacartlidge-kingdom479 Wow, what a bastard.. Tysm!

[@denishiagee2955]

@@nessacartlidge-kingdom479 wow.

[@Tee-kc3pn]

She had a baby before... they always test you for hiv when pregnant

[@mydietisfruitsnuttandseed9817]

HIV mutates quickly, so forensic microbiologists can use phylogenetic analyses to see if the HIV strain she has is derived from the strain her ex carries.

[@shaiyaraina3]

I thank you for your strong courage to tell your truth.

[@TreyParkersBitch]

You go girl…smart and brave to trick him into facing justice. Sad story but you’re a bad ass lady.

[@margekomon4521]

Thank God after 11years of separation my ex husband and I are still single

[@kimberleyhanlon1492]

So glad you did this video and showed people don’t live in shame and guess what it can happen to anyone no race no gender based anyone !

[@dedel-o-bailey7254]

Bravo love. U did the right thing for family N your peace of mind.

[@linnyw1072]

I'm greatful that treatment has improved so she can live to see her children grow up

[@indrao6171]

Thank you for sharing, a took great courage. You are so right we can't be naïve to think that it can't happen to us, it can! I hope you will get the treatment and most of all support that is needed. God bless you.

[@Beencouraged777]

Whole reason I stay single and celibate . People don’t care y’all. Selfish.

[@reneaustin5910]

He is so evil

[@hallejudy]

This is painful

[@mahalyahmilner177]

Thank u for sharing sis

[@marlenebtagelman2451]

Oh my! Thank you for sharing your story.

[@pannyvet92]

That why I tested my boyfriend before we started be serious. He accepted, and I was really happy he was OK with it... Some people might think u are crazy, but he told me that in England he met more than 16 girls in 2 years and I was :wtf you don't touch me 😂 bring me a test! And then he did.... All negative except for herpes to his upper lip. Now we are togheter from 4 Years, and I yes I know that we are not an exception, maybe one day we break up, we betray, we separate and can happen also to us. But from my opinion regular check ups and tests should be normality in all couples. Even if u don't cheat.

[@cherylthec]

That doesn't protect you either because I heard a story on the radio of a lady that got it from her fiance that tested negative.... he was on a drug protocol that made the virus undetectable... smh...scary out there...

[@denishiagee2955]

@@cherylthec dmn dats very scary. So sorry 😞

[@cherylthec]

@@denishiagee2955 it's not me. I was listening to a radio program with a therapist and this lady called in from Baltimore crying about this... I was really sad for her...

[@necilya]

Oh yes the UK can be wild. It’s normal to get tested before you start a new relationship in my opinion.

[@necilya]

@@cherylthec I thought that when the virus was undetectable it couldn’t be transmitted. Maybe he was off his meds when he gave it to her. I don’t have much knowledge about that, I just remember watching this video about a young lady who got hiv on her 1st sexual relationship. However she was lucky enough to find a guy who married her knowing about her medical condition. They used condoms al the time. Then she wanted to have kids and that’s when her doctor explain to her that it was perfectly fine, she didn’t need to use condoms as she was medication and that the virus was undetectable. She had no idea and was having protected sex all those years. They ended up having kids together.

[@dcc-randomstorieswithmel7424]

That is not one problem,that is a CONUNDRUM of problema

[@shaniyajulie629]

Positive since 2002 !!!! Are you serious thats a long ass time you dont do that too people !!

[@chriss5212]

I hate when people say black lives matter when you go and do people this way.. It's sad.

[@sabrinasamuels12]

Update I realised this is ladybyrd.. she didn’t deserve this at all. You are so strong. He will have to answer for what he did.

[@lyetaherb4703]

Thanks Sis for sharing your life story😘😘😘🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 We appreciate your honesty and courage to testify on such a delicate subject. 🖤💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@ednajeanamos7224]

Your a very strong women

[@calcleg4121]

Wow, that was a powerful and profound 6.5 mins!

[@gymeni]

There were a couple of cases in Ohio of men knowingly infecting women and I believe the punishment for this in Ohio is harsher. Something needs to be done to make these sentences stiffer.

[@CarmelQueenHere]

Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a beautiful soul. A strong queen. 🙏❤

[@breahjade]

You should hear her entire story

[@da5449]

Thanks for your story and warning ...God Bless and be well

[@msk806]

Thank you. It does happen to others just as you shared.

[@nt9476]

Such a great story of a person who knew their self worth. No good person knowingly infects another with a life altering disease and especially allowing this to be passed on to their kids! Do not marry reckless people who don’t value their own lives.

[@shelenawright682]

God bless you dear..

[@krisleshiba3390]

This is heartbreaking 💔😢

[@franciscarodriguez1443]

Wow Thank you for sharing your story Iam sorry to say I too have Hiv by my partner It's been hard I couldn't click on faster to hear yours Nowhes dieing he refuses to takes medication He's still in denial Wow ty again

[@marlenevalle4252]

I have a question... In the united states before officially marrying don't they make the couple test for HIV, VDRL, blood group rh? At least in my country where I come from its a must to do before getting married.

[@carriechinn8104]

It varies from each state.

[@tdesq.2463]

@@carriechinn8104 Correct. There's no Federal requirement that I am aware of. Thus, left to the States and their Constitutions and Statutes. And, yes, Marriage is authorized and certified under State Laws, and only affected by Federal authority if determined by US Judiciary to be in violation of the US Constitution. Good Answer! You nailed it! 👍

[@nessacartlidge-kingdom479]

They did get tested but he lied about his results to her. She has a huge FB platform following where she tells her entire story.

[@lovelocked5385]

Not in NY state. No blood work or anything medical before I got married.

[@feliciapatterson1014]

Exactly!! In Michigan you have to go to counseling before marriage to make sure that's what yall want and also a H.I.V. test! Yes a felony in Michigan as well.

[@ktgoldielocks5187]

Your such A beautiful & brave girl ...... thanks 4 having the courage to share your truth.......all the love going 4ward, stay strong 🧡

[@neonsoul2123]

Thank you for sharing. Peace be unto you!

[@koyankrumah9857]

Thank you for sharing- so brave!

[@dawnmaestascowell6930]

You are a beautiful woman for fighting for your life! You are my angel 😇

[@denishiagee2955]

Omg mam...I am so sorry and thanks for your testimony 🙏 ❤ 😥

[@danait757]

This is my biggest fear.

[@carlagarrett3244]

you are so strong to have had him incarcerated for this!

[@611mellissa]

God bless this young woman. This man was completely foul.

[@seviregis7441]

That’s terrible, poor woman, the child also would inherit the disease. He knew he had AIDS and never told her.

[@kbrew922007]

Sending best wishes and infinite love from the dawgpound to you Renee...

[@Practicemode-cgl]

Oh this is so scary ..

[@crilin25]

I'm feeling very sorry for her. This why when started a new relationship you should go to the doctor and have a check up. I do not know if she kept her babies it would have been very difficult for me.

[@shaudajohnson4356]

Wow!!!!! Positive since 2002!!??

[@bleugaze]

This kind of depravity is one of the behaviors about ppl I least understand. I would love to know more about the types of personality and mentalities behind these ppl. I would also like to know if her babies are OK. Fortunately HIV is no longer a death sentence, but left untreated...I don't understand that

[@tubester4567]

Narcissism and selfishness. We live in a culture where nobody takes responsibility, its always someone elses fault.