Resist Their Humbling Tactics

[@SapphireLovee]

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[@llgrazes]

My therapist said it the best… why would you take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from?❤

[@trinidadianbeauty1]

Ouuuuuu a word baby!!!! Your therapist is a real one 🎯

[@llgrazes]

I stayed with her for six years until she retired, she was a beautiful woman, a bright, and shining soul that helped me so very much

[@dclarke1896]

Wow! Yes! Thanks for sharing! 💯

[@LOVE-HUMILITY33]

The same way they take your ideas, aura, thoughts, persona, style. They can't take your criticism but take everything else. 😂😂

[@Lovebugg444]

Ooooo ima use this

[@coyotegaxiola4281]

It's not just pretty/beautiful women that people try to humble: People try humble SMART women, too. Anytime a woman shows confidence, someone feels the need to drag her down. I also recommend the stone Labradorite. It protects in the same way as your grounding/affirmation/shield exercise. It would work really well for that. Great video!

[@Theeg0thicc]

Was gonna say this! Doesn’t matter if a woman is conventionally attractive or not, they want to humble women, they hate to see women confident, happy, and carefree

[@alexissmith8158]

​​@@Theeg0thiccI feel it lots from women who give to much uncalled for advice, especially when there is envy in the air...like seriously, if i do something a certain way, differently from how other people do it, it most likely means i wanted it that way, it was my choice. Why would someone analize my actions without me asking for it, "give grades" and better options? And then expect for me to appreciate their intervention, sometimes even act hurt when i ignore their bs....With men it is different, they sort of test you, talk out of their a** and if you don't react, they either temporarely shush, leave you alone or they fix it on the spot. Most women keep at it, kinda like waiting for your approval...Dang, girl, i'm not gonna say yes to that, not in a million years!😂😂😂 Much love to anybody reading my rant!❤

[@Angell_Lee]

I stopped sharing my goals and dreams with others, I only share with those that can make them come true. I live by this quote: "Don't tell people your dreams, show them" 💖

[@llgrazes]

I absolutely love this. Don’t tell someone your dreams show them. Because not everybody can be happy for us not even some women.😢

[@marte1376]

I share my goals once they're done. The best you can do is teach with example.

[@Melinamiu007]

“The universe will bless you the more you are yourself” 💕

[@chinadoll7]

I was put through this by women in my family and women at work. But they also tried to slander me and get me fired. I used to have low self esteem because I thought there was something wrong with me for people to constantly treat me so badly. Now looking back I see they were insecure and possibly jealous. I’m getting my confidence back, but it’s taken therapy, coaching, and cutting off just about everyone.

[@blubayou4654]

Sweetheart, same!! I'm glad you've advanced beyond that❤❤

[@coyotegaxiola4281]

Grrrl, same. ❤

[@saygraye]

same ❤❤❤❤❤🎉

[@Annabreezy19]

I learned this about myself too... jealousy is real 💯💯

[@danaparfitt2491]

It took getting a career away from them Then "convid" Ftw!!!!! All weak

[@matrescence_motherhood]

All my girlfriends and sisters pulled away when I became more successful and did a physical glow up. It was actually really sad. But I’m gonna keep being the lion 🦁

[@ie3045]

that is really sad, sorry to hear that, I had the same experience. I thought I did something wrong. I had a friend who I thought was a friend but then I realized she was competing with me. I only compete against myself because I believe we all possess different types of talents and skills.

[@Giantfloatingballoonhead]

that fake concern thing is so real and I’ve experienced it multiple times. I’m also choosing to turn envy, anger, hate, disdain, etc into fuel. Thank you for the visual representation - I’m a visual girlie!

[@SapphireLovee]

@@Giantfloatingballoonhead Exactly that ! And it’s my pleasure love ✨🫶🏾💋♟️

[@Developinglandk]

Yes the “I’m only telling you this because I care” sounds like abuse to me 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@NarcSlayer912]

Yeah these humbling tactics are crazy. Why punish me for being me??

[@iamtoogummy5590]

Ignorance is the worst disease

[@chaeffected2711]

it took me a couple months to learn how to stop being so reactive when ppl insult me lol after i learned, everything became sm easier

[@ShawnaHill83]

My documentary went Canada wide in 2021 and now it's in universities and colleges all across Canada. I get paid to do meet and greets and guest lectures along with other public speaking jobs. I had a woman who is in her 50's say "oh I could never leave my kids to go work" I said not you trying to mom shame me at your big old age 😂😂😂 she tried to backtrack but she was embarrassed lol I took her off ALL my social media accounts

[@glitteryapple6819]

so proud of you!! ❤❤ u go girlie!

[@ShawnaHill83]

@@glitteryapple6819 awe thanks sis ❤

[@muhdeyam6281]

Sometimes i cant believe people would openly say that. I find it mean. And of course, it triggers your day and then you end up replaying it in your head.

[@PileofAshes53]

“The more I love myself, the more I will be loved…I will be thin and fabulous”-Edina in “Absolutely Fabulous” 😆😆😆

[@Giantfloatingballoonhead]

I came back to watch this video after I clocked something a “friend” did recently. 24 hours after I shared something very sensitive concerning my current home, she threw it back in my face in a subtle way. She referred to my home as “tiny and little”. Meanwhile my home is the exact opposite of tiny and little. She made that comment while she was sitting on my chair and enjoying my space. This bit the first time she has tried to make me feel bad about something I willingly shared with her and I think I’ve given enough chances. In that moment I knew I would never share anything personal with her and she would never be invited into my space again.

[@TW69132]

“Do you not like it? Do you not like it?” 😂😂😂😂 I like you! Make em uncomfortable

[@jaymsleedan]

18:25 “The way your brain processes rejection is the same way it processes pain” ✍🏾

[@Thehoneyb]

People never hate on people they think are below them ✨

[@SapphireLovee]

They tell on themselves 🫢❤️❤️

[@Thehoneyb]

@@SapphireLovee everytime.

[@vikki8699]

The people at work are NOT your friends! They are colleagues. Thats it. Keep to yourself and read "Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office". This book helped me have confidence in calling out the passive aggressive remarks or micro agressions. Make them uncomfortable! Don't give them wiggle room either. If the dismiss, deflect, devalue or try to minimize, call it out. Why do you feel the need to say something unnecessary? Is that remark appropriate for the workplace? I beg your pardon?! Make them second guess and repeat their unprofessional comments. People tend to think twice about repeating what they said after you sternly ask "I beg your pardon?!" Works for me all the time. Most people like this try to be your best friend! They want to know everything about you, everything. Stay private! It will save your life.

[@deedee799]

Keep up your positive energy. They do it to all of us. Do not let them get you down.

[@SapphireLovee]

@@deedee799 thanks ❤️

[@Chocolatebaddie_138]

This girl tried humbling me. But when i IGNORED her she then apologized and even helped me out with something. lol OH okay ?.. 😂

[@LaTrinaMilton]

Wow! 😂lol

[@angie_the_alien]

That silence hit too hard for her she felt bad lol. As she should cause why be mean when you can be quite.

[@betweenthelines.]

This is possibly a sign of someone who was never OUT to humble you in the first place. She realized her behavior and she tried to make it right by offering assistance. Someone with truly dominating intentions would never react like that.

[@ploodohplanit8259]

Thank you gorgeous. ❤ Society is scared of confident femininity from both ends.

[@nicholej]

i have been humbled ATON in my 20s ( i just turned 30 in march no i am not a fossil) by family members, friends and men by EVERYONE and this video is coming just in time tbh

[@SapphireLovee]

@@nicholej I’m glad it came in divine timing for you☺️♟️💋✨🫶🏾

[@SevichBatana]

People did that to me so many times and then asked why am I single? The normal men afraid to approach and tash always cam freely

[@rayeregan8114]

I love this video. What I will add though is that a lot of people don't understand what they're doing. They don't have the self awareness to evaluate their behavior and be aware they are trying to humble you ect. Obviously still look out for yourself and call it out but a lot of people operating from their shadow just can't see it. I also think of you point it out to the right people they'll correct it and grow. Not everyone is built on malice. Usually it's ignorance.

[@AshlyRa]

Ommggg finally a video I can relate to because I am not a under confident or lacking or something. Girls like the insecure girls don't treat me well. But genuine confident treat me great.

[@Sheisme120]

0:56 Same here, I tend to experience way more bullying from women than men. Female bullies also have a tendency to twist the situation and make themselves out to be the victim. It is beyond frustrating!😤😡

[@theresaelizabethelijah117]

The enemy of a woman is a woman, sad but true 😢

[@melanatedone8655]

Perfect timing....i listen to subliminal affirmations. I found a chanel that plays them. They really do help... within 2 weeks I noticed I was smiling and walking with a skip😊😊😊....great video

[@joyceadena]

Found you through algorithm you look amazing 😊

[@SapphireLovee]

@@joyceadena thank you ☺️

[@Camillyahreal]

I like this video, this happens to people who have a lot of a charisma too. And you’re presentation is fine. It’s not what you have, it’s how you use it.

[@theresaelizabethelijah117]

Oh wow, this is so true 😮

[@akiaadams5399]

It's not HUMBLING...what it really is IS AN ATTEMPT TO HUMILIATE...BIG DIFFERENCE!!

[@LeilaniLight11709]

You gave a BOOKS worth of teaching in ONE video, my dear young woman!

[@yashyashyashy]

I’ve met people who I’ve thought were “a bit much” or “doing too much” but I’ve never felt the need to humble these people. I think it’s strange to do that at all. Imagine thinking “this persons existence and energy needs my intervention” it’s so weird. I have been at the receiving end of humbling and those people have been ignored 😊

[@trish6116]

Girl this video was so good. I 100% agree, there’s been so so many instances in my life where people have tried to antagonize me to get a reaction out of me and I REFUSE. There is so much power in that and not to mention it’s honestly a rush to see someone get even more flustered bc you’re not feeding into their misery and giving what they want 😊 like I’m winning even more. I used to do a good job at being firm w standing on boundaries but after back to back trauma and abusive relationships it’s not as easy. I feel it in my spirit bc it’s one of the things that can never be taken from me but it’s ok w practice and the things you mentioned in the video I will get there. One day at a time. So thanks again especially for mentioning how repeatedly accepting the same bs will only damage you in the long run, how the brain perceives rejection and pain the same. I love to learn the logic and science behind things, it helps. But self awareness only can take you so far so I must practice. God bless you.

[@GuardianAngel-d1y]

You are a Very Beautiful well spoken Young Lady

[@Lemoncupcake699]

Ahh I wish I'd found you in my high school/ college years! I used to take things to heart when female 'friends' and male 'admirers' would use these humbling tactics.

[@Phenomwon1313]

I have found my tribe! 💃🏾😍 Hello Queens!!✨

[@baybeecakes450]

Love the Irish ☘️ accent❤

[@Kiki-jx6by]

They want to humble you so that they can use you for as long as they can and to get as much as they can

[@LeilaniLight11709]

My dear....you are BEAUTIFUL......in your metal/observation/connecting the dots and teaching....WOW!

[@jahodwatts]

“Do you not like it”😭😭

[@Giantfloatingballoonhead]

P.S: you’re very beautiful. Love your facial features.

[@SapphireLovee]

@@Giantfloatingballoonhead aw thank you so much ❤️

[@PAK-Indulekha-Nair]

Solution: Be Selfish

[@valentina47734]

They already say that about you,so why not?

[@SuperSpider-qx6ct]

You look amazing. i can imagine you rocking a sleek long bob for some reason! Thank you for the vid :)

[@SapphireLovee]

@@SuperSpider-qx6ct Thank you and I can see that 👀💓

[@galaxyride4944]

The people I know have to try to humble me. Sometimes it works.

[@SapphireLovee]

@@galaxyride4944 yes it would work especially when you don’t know why they do it. We are human. They humbled me so bad I went to therapy and was learning to talk to people “nicer” so they don’t get mad at me because I was convinced It was me 😂😂 so it’s okay it gets the best of us

[@HEARTFULLOFJEWELS]

Sapphire, thank you so much videos and girlies like you have been helping me!! I feel like many times I am a target not just based on looks and me being well put together it’s also my accomplishments. I realized a pattern of me being faced with wowen who try to dry hate, throw shade, try to humble me down and never knew why… and it’s simply they are afraid of your greatness!! I’m still working on this because I still feel triggered from time to time so I’m taking all suggestions and continuing my growing and self work.

[@emilybowne6043]

I enjoyed your video. I've lost count of how many times people (both men and women) have tried "humbling" me. I got to where I stopped talking to them. I basically learned the same things that you did; granted, had to watch and read a lot of sources about what you covered in a concise way. This is one of those videos that goes over things that I wish I had found when I was young. At my work place, I've also taught others these things, and told them that you don't need those kinds of people in your life. Life is messy as it is already, you don't need to add more to it. Thank you for this video. I hope this video helps others who need to hear this ❤ Rock on fellow queen

[@shani.ninety]

As soon as a man or woman tries to humble me or makes a ‘joke’ about me that’s designed to offend me I am out of there 🏃‍♀️ dangerous people to be around.

[@Lovebugg444]

My Child’s father is always trying to humble me. I’m leaving him soon F That.

[@coyotegaxiola4281]

Thanks so much for the breakdown of the neurology behind humbling and rejection. That was so, so helpful.

[@Kirrie_Sushicat]

I'm so glad I found your video! Yesterday my boss humbled me when I was asking for a free day due to overwork last week where I learned some important softwares for work by myselfy improved the working pipeline and had 3 night shifts. It's really the bare minimum I was asking. But he just said: "the free compensation days are only for special occasions. It's normal for everyone to learn aside from their work." None of my colleages dared to reply, because they've never been compensated for their overtime too. The more I learn, the more they try to keep me small and silent. It's frustrating. The only way I see to get out of the situation is to leave asap.

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

This video you created is impeccable!! ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉I am so happy your video showed up in my newsfeed! You’re the best, thank you for your wisdom!! ❤❤❤

[@SapphireLovee]

Thank you so much!!

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

@@SapphireLovee the video blew me away!! You are so welcome. Well deserved compliment.

[@WeRNthisToGetHer]

I literally watched this to help rewire myself after a bombardment of negativity. I'm feeling so down. I know it will pass. Thank you for the pep talk. I know this is true and I am pretty resilient, but after awhile it starts to get to me. ❤

[@daysleepnightread6905]

This is just another way of saying “grow a thick skin,” and “don’t let it get to you.”

[@VictoriaBiblicalHebrew]

Go girl 🎉

[@anousha9345]

Intro hit me so hard I didn’t even hesitate to subscribe

[@SapphireLovee]

@@anousha9345 hi pretty welcome to the community 🫶🏾💋

[@brooklynwatsontv]

I am so pleased I found your channel Empress. Love from Brooklyn NYC.

[@ie3045]

You are absolutely right! Silence is a deadly treatment, when you don't react back; their the ones who look extremely silly!

[@ie3045]

opps I meant they're

[@maameabenaanimwaah1580]

I'm a new subie here enjoying your content. Keep it going.

[@SapphireLovee]

@@maameabenaanimwaah1580 Welcome to the community darling 💓 thank you for showing love ✨🫶🏾stay blessed

[@almavirgs17]

That's I quit my job, Thank goodness that I've been working on myself before getting that job I know my co-workers are not bad people but their insecurities about themselves and projecting it to me it just too much and toxic for me, I cannot articulate how I felt about it then but watching this video made me realize that what my co-workers where doing is called "humbling" and they don't like it that I'm confident about myself. I've tried so hard not to be affected by them, and their toxic mindset and behavior, always trying to intentionally trigger me or make me feel mad, but then I always remember that your environment shapes you identity and beliefs, so I thought back then that if I stay for longer here I will eventually turn like them and I don't want that to happen, I don't want to waste all those years trying to heal myself. And so I quit and I only had that job for 4 months hahaha

[@almavirgs17]

10:37 - 11:03 this! Exactly what I experienced!

[@catherinedinh3578]

thank your for talking about your experience that I can personally relate I learned a lot of things in life and yours experience just confirm about mines thank you

[@elisabethngobaleba8848]

What a powerful video❤🎉 thanks a lot for sharing with such love and devotion ❤❤❤

[@frenchie_at_heart7387]

Omg I need to hear more examples of jealous things people have said to you, because your examples are crazyyyy. People can be awful!

[@milaxoxox]

I really appreciate content like this. I find videos of this nature very validating. Thank you, Sapphire.

[@Rebecca-x]

I find it so hard to control my emotions tho 😭 I hate it. I really want to know how to control my emotions but I just don’t know how to

[@SapphireLovee]

@@Rebecca-x let me cook up a video for ya 👩‍🍳

[@Rebecca-x]

@@SapphireLovee thank you 🩷🩷🩷

[@CerseiLannister999]

You control it by understanding they want to see you break down. Their peasants, don't give them what they want.

[@Rebecca-x]

@@CerseiLannister999 yeah I get what you’re saying. Been going through an incredibly difficult time as of late. Trying to better but honestly I just feel like giving up. Like I don’t wanna be here anymore

[@Shirl292]

I go off when people upset me too. I'm doing Joe Dispenza's breaking the habit of being yourself... wish me luck. Also, have been doing inner child and self love meditation

[@queenbee7074]

This golden shield meditation always works without fail! If i feel down or unsure or spiritually attacked I do the golden light meditation. Much love and success to you!

[@AmeliaVasquez266]

Beautiful inside and out✨ Thanks for the message

[@SapphireLovee]

@@AmeliaVasquez266 aw thank you Kayla. I see you in your profile picture too. Pretty 😍

[@NastassiaJuanita]

This woman is genius

[@dreamsi]

She IS 💜

[@earphbound720]

My mother did this a lot and now 40 years later, I feel less confident than before. I second guess myself a lot these days and I never used to be that way.

[@strwbrriepixie]

so happy i discovered your channel ❤

[@BrittWood-g8h]

They misuse the term humble thwy jealous and dont wanna see you shinning making excuses for being a hater you make to much money humble yourself you can afford food humble yourself you get your hair and nails done humble yourself these folks weird they want you to be on broke and bum status everyday so you wont look like a threat to them or appear better no its called self care cant humble me for something thats called confidence im not bout to look bummy to make the next fill better about themselves they need to get up and work for the things others want

[@TheFabulousLV]

Exactly!

[@MH-ku5kn]

7:30 “Luck” was being put on. Succeeding was being prepared and the right fit for the opportunity. Be appreciative but your success is your own.

[@kamaiyabourne5227]

Thank you so so much for this very enlightening video Queen Sapphire💋.. YAHUAH bless you and all that watched this video. Keep shining💎💖✨

[@MimiGirlsGuide]

You are so on point!👆This happens so much. Why can't other people get over themselves and be happy for others? Reason why they are not happy, is that they cannot be happy for themselves nor other people. Humbling other people is gaslighting and toxic😔 It is putting others down, when you could have a chance to uplift them! This is such a shame.. Good topic, good video, thanks!❤

[@LadyMasterPortia]

You are so fabulous 💅🏽 this was so relatable for me

[@cigar8241]

I’m the man and other men or women try to humble me so bad and I’ve discovered early on that I’m very attractive that it makes people feel insecure. For instance they might user gesture hands like chill😂😂 meanwhile, I’m not saying anything or doing anything just observing. Sometimes women treat me like I’m gay lol they’ll bring their gay homeboys and I usually squeeze the shit out of their hands to let them know hey don’t fall into this drama. I’m also gentle and genuinely kind and when you step off my boundaries I shit on you and move on . I forgot to mention that gossip and laughing at others irritates my spirits so, my standards are high and I don’t regret it

[@GENRTS]

The audio is great babe💕

[@chantelles5841]

This was great!!!! Thank you ❤

[@BlackFairy-zk7wl]

It's really a compliment thanks ❤

[@VictoriaBiblicalHebrew]

I love these videos.

[@TheMeghajoshi]

Tell such people next day tht thanks for d compliment but i think luck is another word for hardwork you say it luck i say hardwork😂

[@GinaRogers-cb3sg]

The mic pen is genius

[@0_Katt_0]

I love your furry pen. I got bullied for being immature and not taking things seriously for using furry and cute pens at work

[@Legacytarot89]

Bestie, I love you. Thanks. God bless you ❤

[@stacieadams4356]

This was a word 👏🏾 I related to all of it all too well 😢💯 Thank you for this video ❤

[@SapphireLovee]

@@stacieadams4356 I’m glad it resonated hunny 💋✨♟️ and you’re welcome

[@pinnacle99]

Thank you for sharing this with us!

[@mellosings6180]

You’re beautiful. You speak beautifully. Video was timely😫thank you.

[@you-me-at-twilight]

All of your advice is beyond needed ❤ it’s like I know when a bitch tries to humble me but idk how to act I used to just keep my head up and ignore them but that lead me to hell lol so your videos are really hitting the nail thank you thank you THANK YOU ❤❤

[@sheilugriffony]

Thank you so much for this video, it's really helpful and concise. I just need to work on putting your advice into practice now ☺️💖

[@sophiesoprano]

Amazing advice.

[@joyceg7859]

Imagine being long time friends with someone who when you told them you wanted to be a model they said “ I think you need more work “ only to turn around and say “ you’ve always said sly things to me over the years “ only to tell me all her deepest darkest gripes … would you tell someone who’s sly to you ANYTHING about you ?!?!?! There’s a reason why she barely knew any of my business though….

[@evajane2526]

amazing message!!!

[@LaTrinaMilton]

😮‍💨🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🙌🏽‼️LIVED IT‼️🙏🏽

[@Lisaaaaaaq]

Thank you ❤❤

[@P_d4321]

Sis the blush 😳 respectfully 🫣

[@SapphireLovee]

@@P_d4321now I do love a good blush but the filter in the video enhanced it more

[@true4585]

I actually liked the blush. Lol 😂 I was admiring it the whole time. It’s a cute look.

[@SapphireLovee]

@@true4585 thanks ☺️

[@fashionwithoutlabels]

Yes Sis, the blush is BOMB on you ❤. And the original commenter is a PRIME example of your topic…somebody trying to humble you. Continue to wear your blush, Sis. You don’t have to explain it either, it’s your choice. First time on your channel, immediately subbed😊

[@des2bfit]

This was such a great video needed this !!

[@sunshinedayz2172]

Thank you. 👍👍

[@S070-g8q]

Yes, some positive affirmations are good to do, however I would be careful with some of those. I think an even better solution would be to surround yourself with better people. If people are showing you that they are not your tribe, remove yourself. Find a group of people who are a better fit for you.

[@SapphireLovee]

@@S070-g8q I 1000% agree.

[@LaraY44488]

Thank you, perfect timing ❤❤

[@dani5639]

Thank u sis

[@Officialjessicasanchez7]

I’ve had MEN tell me “I hope you know your beauty won’t last forever”

[@janjansxm]

I'm so happy I found you