Respond, Don't React to a Narcissist

[@gypsyfiresign1064]

One of the best things I’ve learned is to correspond between text only. Then, I have time to think about if I even need to react, and if I do I keep it short & sweet. I communicate very sharply, almost like speaking with a dog I’m training (and yes, narcs CAN be trained!). “No! That doesn’t work for me, Goodbye”. End of correspondence. If they disrespect me, I block & delete. My therapist & you, Stephanie, have helped me so much! Also, psychedelic assisted therapy has been invaluable. Killing my ego has helped so much in my overcoming my trauma journey!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Love it! I’m so glad you’re making progress.

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

What about only email?

[@a.pieceofpie]

I do much better written than verbal. I am a texter vs a pick up the phone kind of gal. It gives me time, allowing me to give grace and have tact. Plus, it can be evidence and a reminder!

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

@@a.pieceofpie very smart..

[@noturbo]

all the people that said they were my friends and didn't even want to hear my side of the story when everything went south were not my friends anyway so they did me a favor in revealing themselves to me.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

1,000% -- bye

[@craneinsaneusa1289]

Me too! People who said they loved me and were so happy I came into their family, completely turned on me and want nothing to do with me. I can’t imagine what was said and I don’t want to know. I’ve experienced evil before but this is an evil I never knew existed.

[@WarmandHardy]

When I picked up my kids from my old house, my ex wife gave my son a banana knowing I would throw out the peel. I opened up the outside trash can and saw she threw out all my Christmas decorations and it set me off. It’s truly sick that someone could use and abuse you and then taunt you for leaving their toxic ass.

[@surgeinc1]

That was so low!!😢

[@graciousSenor]

Yes, they're extremely cruel. When I moved out of my living arrangement with a narcissist (non romantic) a while back, I mentioned something to hear, to which her response was, "I knew you were good for something." Her eyes were full of hate and anger. These people just love being cruel.

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

How petty!!! 😮

[@jennifersmykala1108]

Its Not a game These people must go to jail worldwide

[@April_haulcy]

😂 💯 ❤

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

Who knows! Maybe in 1000 years they'll be considered criminals!

[@joannturi3968]

That would be letting them get off easy.

[@jacksimons-o8q]

Exciting video, A year ago I took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always rosy, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.

[@DorothyAngers]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.

[@jacksimons-o8q]

I feel your pain sister , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.

[@DorothyAngers]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

[@jacksimons-o8q]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@jaggersalapayne9353]

Happy for u...I hope it is not trauma bond motivated reconciliation... Good luck.

[@steadypace1262]

Narcissist's have an evil bent they don't have your best interest at heart, stay away from them as much as possible and keep your words few when you are around them.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

no, they def don't have your best interest at heart and they don't need to. you just need to know who they are and what their agenda is. then you can protect yourself

[@DartmoorPaul]

Oh my, 100% this is my week. I thought I had my mum minimised when she began her narc games but with one line she got past my “perimeter fence” and made me rage for 2 days. My instant emotion was to lash out and defend but I kept telling myself that would be pointless and reminded myself of your past videos on Respond don’t React and Dont get on the ride. Thank you Stephanie as always for validating our feelings and being there with such help and support ❤

[@giorgiadelgrosso3707]

I can’t believe how timely this video is for me today. Just yesterday, he triggered something in me that I thought I had overcome. His words were calculated and hit exactly where it hurts most-he knew the impact they’d have. It’s clear now that the intensity of my reaction stems from unresolved internal wounds. Thank you, Stephanie, for this video; I truly needed to hear these insights today.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

It’s the self awareness that’s then most important 🩷

[@miss_whipps]

Right there with you. I'm still surprised at how volcanic my reactions are sometimes. It's so hard to keep my head on straight when the resentment, frustration, anger, and hurt come rushing to the surface. I have a lot of work to do🤦‍♀️. Hope next week is a more peaceful one for you❤!

[@rochelledenise3426]

This is so, so, soooooooo good! I’ll be listening to this one multiple times. Thanks Steph!!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

I am so glad you liked it!

[@elizabethmeans-p5y]

@@StephanieLynCoaching hey babe

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

If you want to be happy? Take responsibility for yourself! Boom, period , end of story! Thank you 😊 spot on!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Haha.. it's the truth :)

[@Tarsarian]

The excuses that you listed is what my ex covert narc wife used on me. I would try to talk basic truths so we can stand on something and repair the marriage. Instead she would give her statement and walk away, followed by when I went to talk that I was abusing her.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

It’s textbook and it is a cycle

[@fillistine]

I go through it time and again. I need to LEARN once and for all

[@steadypace1262]

Join the club dealing with a narcissist is the hardest thing you will ever have to do.🕊

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

You will in time, but they will try to destroy you first.

[@cherylsulkowski6563]

Every thing you said is so true. I have slowed down and have ignored the snide remarks like he didn’t even say anything.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

There you go.. not feeding into the childish behavior

[@miss_whipps]

Dang girl, you're on point🎯! This is the first of your content I've seen, and it REALLY resonates. Subscribed! Looking forward to hearing more of your insights and guidance, bc I'm struggling big time . Thank you for this video; it's just what I needed to hear tonight❤

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Girls thanks for subscribing and glad you’re here 🙌

[@MW-nOttawa]

You're a superb woman. Hope to meet you on the spirit side! Big hugs from Canada.

[@steenkristensen6351]

Thanks Stephanie for your information, and have a Nice Day 👍

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You're so welcome!

[@misterrashad666]

Thanks for this! Youre awesome. It can be super frustrating dealing with a narcissistic person.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

No it is buuuut this is all about learning what’s going on in you that’s triggering you. That when you start healing some serious things 🙌

[@Steve20333]

if you are with a narcissist leave , you can do nothing , they will destroy you ! I have 35/ years of experience , I have lost EVERYTHING .

[@Yezebnesh_Maharat]

Thanks, Stephanie.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You're so welcome!

[@Billn1971]

Exactly what my narcissistic father does. Projects an image of a decent person. But family members and closer friends know the truth.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

It’s the feeling you get around a person. Regardless of what they project, energy doesn’t lie

[@Billn1971]

@StephanieLynCoaching For damn sure...lol.

[@MomTube-i9w]

Built up resentment ❤

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

1,000%!

[@allenbeachy3511]

Thanks for sharing!

[@angellollar1083]

So good 👍 👏 Thanks bunches!!!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You are so welcome!

[@AGBVON992]

They love to show off then turn away and call you a show off when your not paying them any attention

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

It’s projection

[@chriscastino7473]

This is immensely helpful. Thanks!!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You’re so welcome!

[@TruthandJustice-hz9nv]

This was pure gold Stephanie, Thank you so much for this, You know you're healed when you don't emotionally react, And become indifferent to it all, Stoicism is a great teacher, It's a treasure :-) I like what you said be Golden and you're not easily manipulated and influenced, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory power praise and smiles :-) to the most high :-) :-) :-)

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

👍

[@TruthandJustice-hz9nv]

@StephanieLynCoaching Thank you :-)

[@Alanadesigns]

Definitely sounds like a plan! 👍🏻✨

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

☺️

[@SardonischerDean]

Love this woman. Beautiful and spot on.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Thanks girl!

[@itsbillieraebates]

Excellent advice! now if I can just apply it when I’m in the moment.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

I know, it’s the hardest part! But you 100% got this!

[@sanjeevbains690]

Practicing - when I am being challenged it always gives me the opportunity to rise up

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Love that!

[@anj-i5b]

Thank you!

[@kyoung6967]

Untrue going through therapy these things will always be with us ots all needed basic human things from someone

[@Stu_DLNGR]

Thank you, ma'am. You always hit home runs but this one is exactly what I needed to hear, nowadays. Until recently, I had been spending all of my time and energy trying to adjust my lines in the sand, only to realize I was being egotistical. My situation is inescapable and my lines aren't respected, anyway, so something else needs to happen. What's the lesson? I'm trying to forgive and not let ish get to me. I'm also trying to communicate better. Laugh!!!! Be entertained by their bs. Everything you mentioned in this one hits home. ❤

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Thank you so much for your kind words-it means the world to me that this resonated with you. It sounds like you’re making powerful shifts in how you handle boundaries and perspective, and I’m rooting for you every step of the way

[@Stu_DLNGR]

​@@StephanieLynCoaching❤ Thank you and thanks for being here helping 😊

[@ThumpertTheFascistCottontail]

when the narcissists plays the victim, laugh at their suffering.

[@mariarichards5221]

thankyou 🔥 💪 ❤️ 🌹 🕊 🙏

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You're welcome!

[@TITUSBarahona]

crazy how much people rely on surface-level ideas when Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki exists, but I guess not everyone is ready for deeper truths

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

What?

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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[@loriarmstrong4451]

For me, its like a swap of emotions. The narc creates a situation that is designed to create an emotion in me, but the thing is: I'm not responding with MY OWN emotions, I'm taking on the narcs anger, frustration, trauma, ect. Once I realized that it was GAME OVER for them. Their tactics ONLY work if I respond. So, I'm completely non reactive to the narcs. Its crazy on my end to take on their trauma. And it's crazy on their end to see their trauma on me and be all happy because the narc temporarily gets a sense of relief. Wouldn't it take less time to work through their stuff. The narc at this point is traumatized by their own personality. That's why they are always trying to delegate "their stuff" to the strong. They try tearing others down, meanwhile they are trying to build themselves up with the SAME qualities that they're trying to extinguish in others. The devil has exploited their pain and given them HIS personality and taught them HIS ways. So, they put on the devil's dark powers to protect themselves from pain. They inflict it 1st so that others don't "get over on them"

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

What a good observation!

[@B.I.-EIO_macdonald9786]

Edging God Out=ego

[@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr]

♥️Comments for my ♥️family♥️ no one else♥️I tried my best ♥️and stand by for 30 yrs ♥️After the cloudy day♥️ I hope the wonderful ♥️sun shine in our lives ♥️

[@carolnahigian9518]

my EX sends Obnoxious Texts!

[@marilynbeckett6747]

Just act like they don't exist. If I'm forced to speak to them, I'm gonna tell 'em they're wasting their time

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

girl no, all you need to do is boundaries. calm and confident - you got this!

[@TheKezmeister2011]

I start shaking...

[@TerriIrvine]

it’s wild how no one talks about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki even though it completely shifts how you see things, but I guess not everyone is ready

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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[@menow1650]

👍

[@garykuech50]

I feel like I just met a girl in a car in the woods and she taught me stuff..

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Haha!!

[@garykuech50]

Why does my wife of 8-9 years literally throw away every opportunity to grow, and even give away things of value to her family members who do not value them.. Yes, she grew up in poverty.. But we joined together to make her life better and for me to have a partner in life.. But her mind reverts constantly away from our vision, to the point that it feels like she is married to every friend and family member - and not at all to me... Also, yes - I should have mastered our goals and never let her take them off track.. But she starts tiny, and works into disaster.. Like Adam and Eve.. Just a little bite and life as we knew it has ended..

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Guilt. Or perhaps codependency

[@PinarNurmuhammet]

if this resonates with you, you owe it to yourself to read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, but maybe it’s not for everyone

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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[@aprilwashington3150]

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[@AngelitaGreenlee]

imagine trusting this kind of content but never exploring books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, no wonder people stay in the same cycles

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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[@lydiaroy8196]

Thank you for your videos they have really helped aid in my healing. I need to buy one of your courses

[@makeblackcommunitiesgreata6496]

😊❤️😊❤️

[@AnjanetteHarding]

funny how people spend so much time on this stuff but ignore books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki that actually explain what’s going on

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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[@HyeKline]

imagine trusting this kind of content but never exploring books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, no wonder people stay in the same cycles

[@MaryannHale-h6g]

funny how people spend so much time on this stuff but ignore books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki that actually explain what’s going on

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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[@THURMANPantoja]

imagine trusting this kind of content but never exploring books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, no wonder people stay in the same cycles

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

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