MENTAL HEALTH Q&A

[@ThisIsKassia]

To the person at the end who asked about having the energy to clean their home, I just want to remind you that there is no shame in hiring people. If you can afford it, hiring a house cleaner is a form of self care. Maybe even for just one session a month.

[@Phyreflyte]

This Is Kassia I agree. While it might not be something you can splurge on frequently, it can definitely help out during those times when you know you’d benefit from more order but just can’t seem to handle it yourself

[@rhianhy]

Absolutely a great suggestion if people are able to! x

[@hollyjustice9858]

I completely agree with hiring help if you can. I have budgeted for this and find I feel so much more calm.

[@llalarson]

Holy shit your hair looks amazing!!!!!😍

[@saintsynchronicity7738]

Your hair looks so freaking amazing

[@charleyb2227]

omgg! that haircut looks amazing on you! a big chop is always so satisfying❤

[@jessicaplymale]

These mental health videos are like a gentle hug that my brain needs 🖤

[@shannonb5829]

Rhian, I am so happy that you found the right doctor to provide you with the proper diagnosis. It gives me hope and you so seem so much “yourself” and happy and comfortable with who you are. I can tell it’s been a very long journey and a mental health journey isn’t an easy one. Xoxo 🖤

[@rhianhy]

Thank you sweet friend

[@Hakuismyman715]

I really appreciate you and your content. I've been dealing with anxiety and depression for the past 12 years or so and it's only recently that I've been able to be more comfortable and accepting of myself and my illnesses (which has also aided me in overcoming a lot of obstacles as well). Knowing that someone cool and well informed is open and accepting really helps me because evem though I've become more accepting there are days where I do get wrapped up in negativity and need some reminding that I'm okay and that I don't need to be ashamed of my illnesses. Being in university and having peers without mental health problems thriving has put me in a weird limbo where I'm constantly like YOU'RE DOING FINE DESPITE YOUR ILLNESS ! but also feeling super behind and not on the same level as others in my field and getting down on myself for not being able to achieve as much as them. However, I'm in my 4th year now and I've cut down on comparing myself a lot and I'm focusing a lot on giving myself credit and doing my best without regarding where my peers are at. Having vocal people like you really enforcing the idea that mental illness isn't wrong has helped me so much because I don't think I would be where I am now if there wasn't such positive and accepting people out there.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you for sharing this! I'm so glad you're in a place where you're able to compare yourself less because i know its really hard to do.

[@taylormurphy1537]

You are truly an inspiration Rhian, thank you so much for sharing your mental health journey with us ❤️ it really gives me hope on my darkest days that things will get better! Your self care advice videos provide such helpful tips, many of which I’ve implemented into my daily self care routine and have been helping immensely 😊 also your new haircut is so gorgeous, it looks like you got it professionally cut! 👌🏻

[@ashleywarner7995]

I do that conversation thing in my head all the time... whether it's one that's going to happen or one that prob never is but needs to, or I would like to but am to anxious to ever make it happen. I never realized it wasn't rlly normal... I mean, I knew it was kinda weird and that most people prob don't do that, but I never thought much of it. Interesting. This was a great video, ur awesome at answering things from a sensible, neutral point of view. I'm sure u have helped so many people, in so many ways. Good for u for pushing urself and overcoming ur challenges in order to help urself and others. So many physical and mental illnesses are misunderstood and/or not taken seriously. It's awesome that u have created a place of support, acceptance & understanding. Be proud of yourself, hun. Having a true positive impact is a huge thing, especially in the online community. And you've done it in multiple ways by shining a light on mental health and animal cruelty awareness.👍👊🤘✌ Thanks for the time u put into your content and caring about ur subscribers/supporters. 💛💙💜💕

[@ashleywarner7995]

Belle Cici lol, nice to know we're not the only ones though, huh.

[@seniaj7615]

Just subscribed to your channel and I gotta say you are so informative on Mental awareness and bettering yourself all in all.I am in the state of getting myself back together and have witnessed some depression/anxiety this summer and it's been up and down.Being able to stumble upon you has been another shine of light into the right path.You are so beautiful!!!!!!😍😍😍😍

[@rhianhy]

I'm so glad you found me! I hope things start to turn around for you soon, i'm sure they will! Just think about how resilient you are to have come through those rough times

[@casandrac1806]

Oh my goodness when you explained how the new diagnosis changed your life it is EXACTLY how I've felt since starting treatment for my anxiety. I've been completely unmedicated for the past 10 years since graduating high school and I didn't realize how bad it was until I started treatment. EVERYTHING is easier now and like you said I just feel like MYSELF again. I don't have a specific diagnosis right now, I had a couple when I was a teenager and went through several different medications but nothing ever felt right. Whatever is "wrong" with me I don't care lol I'm just thankful the medicine is working! So glad you're doing so well too!

[@rhianhy]

Thank you for sharing this, truly! And i'm so happy you've found something that helps even though you may not fully know what the "thing" is. I think knowing what my thing is has not only helped me be kinder to myself (i don't think i realized the awful stories i told myself about why i couldn't grasp certain things or why i struggled SO much in school) but also helped me to get the right medication i likely would've never come across for other reasons. So happy for us both

[@mimze]

Thank you Rhian for making these videos, they are really helpful! Also your hair looks amazing!

[@Andrayalee]

I still can't believe you have under 100k subs. I always think of you as one of the biggest. Definitely one of the people I pay attention to the most, love your content

[@AlyssaDannaker]

Oh jeez, the tears are a flowin' over here too. My boyfriend has ADHD and was diagnosed (of course) AFTER all of his struggles through college at age 23/24. I forget that he experiences things differently and he is still struggling through the last few semesters for his master's degree. I forget that he can't just sit down and get work done, even with his medication. It's really hard and I'm learning how to be there for him and just listen -- listen to what he's struggling with and just be there. I have loved hearing your thoughts on everything, so thank you again for sharing as much as you do. I also have been dealing with new anxieties and focus issues myself (he thinks I also have ADHD but it never seems too bad for me, so I'm not sure if I should seek a diagnosis...), and your tips and words of encouragement are so so helpful and appreciated. Also love the new hair!! I have a pixie but recently have started buzzing it super short. Us short hair girls are rockin' those necks and cheekbones!! :)

[@yvettemarie2640]

Love your new hair. I was so inspired, I had mine cut similar today. Could you do a short hair care and styling video soon so I know what to use and do with mine? 💇‍♀️

[@AlicjaHR69]

One of the most honest and true videos I saw at yt. Thank you. From my heart.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you

[@kimberlyh5868]

I always script what I am going to say in certain situation/with certain people. I have never told anyone before because I thought I was the only one or that it was part of my anxiety. This has made me feel so much more human and normal. Such a great video and your hair looks amazing! X

[@rhianhy]

Absolutely human

[@AmiMelaine]

I legit envy your calm demeanor and seemingly organized speech. I was just diagnosed with ADHD and I am scattered AF. 😅

[@sophied6247]

The only thing better than your hair is you commitment to being a mental health advocate. Thankyou. You're so important and so are these videos 💜

[@InMyRepEra.13]

First off I absolutely love your hair!!! Secondly you’ve been my favorite KZbinr lately. I love all the mental health talk, it has seriously helped me so much!!! 💕💕💕

[@rhianhy]

Thank you so much

[@Wendy-xx4me]

'Ever feel like giving up' - I've experienced this many times due to severe pain conditions, and have learned that if I can just hold on, it will pass. If I feel this way again, I know from experience, that it will pass, and that helps me hold on. I agree that it is the condition and not my true feelings - what I want is for whatever it is to stop, not my life. I also consider those I love most, and what it would do to them should I stop fighting during those times and that helps me hold on too. It's scary writing this, but I hope it helps someone else :)

[@ravenwolfe5825]

Me too. Thank you!

[@shell877]

Rhian, it's so refreshing to hear someone else talk about mental health and have similar attitudes. I love that you said those thoughts arent me or that's not me cause that's how I identify it also, when things get bad. Don't know why you'd get thumbs down on this but I'd hope that the people that do say why, at least they engaged. Keep up the good work!!!

[@rhianhy]

Thanks so much Michelle! And no worries on the thumbs down, its all engagement like you said

[@madeleinesvensson-m3y]

I agree 100% with all your answers pretty much. I dont have ADHD but I do struggle with anxiety and episodes of depression. I have too found that you should always be honest and dont lie and say you are having a headache when you are in fact depressed. You should always think about how you are affecting others around you but still have selflove and take care of yourself instead of bending over backwards for others and end up feeling even more drained and depressed. I will check out your video about tools, thank you so much for putting yourself out there and beeing such an inspiration for others.

[@shannonb5829]

YOUR HAIR! 🖤

[@parsimoniouspig]

Thank you Rhian. Learning coping skills for mental health stuff really put my life on a more positive trajectory and I think you are wonderful for making videos about it, especially since some people do not have a lot of exposure to compassionate ideas around mental health

[@amberleemabe-stanberry9188]

Your hair is gorgeous!!! Thank you so much for bringing MH awareness into your channel and talks. Knowledge is power! You're taking down the MH stigma with each of your videos. Thank you!!!

[@tamarakelly2298]

You look amazing!!! thank you for doing this video, I suffer with anxiety and it helps to hear other people's stories and struggles...

[@barbaragomes7869]

Thank you so much for addressing all the twats that been saying ADHD isn't real... my godson was diagnosed with it from a very young age and we still struggle with other parents and teachers at school that don't believe or don't want to believe his medical diagnose and instead prefer to label him as a "hard kid to work with" - ALSO, very happy to see you're doing so much better!

[@rhianhy]

That first line cracked me up so thank you! I'm glad your god son has support outside of those teachers... I think when people find kids with any learning or neurodevelopmental problem to be "hard to work with", its good to remember how hard it must be to just be that child!

[@kaylabare631]

Rhian, I'm currently in college and taking a pretty heavy course load and I feel kinda the same way you described. I would love to hear more about how you dealt with this and what your experience was like!

[@kaesmithmusic]

Blessings to you for sharing all your wonderful insights with us. I'm so thankful. I wish I had had these kinds of resources when I was young but at least I have them now! Thank you!!! PS you just rock in general, too. Great makeup and self-care info on your channel all the time.

[@brittanyb4400]

Getting a fiery Marilyn Monroe vibe from your new do. Love it!

[@kristav9283]

this was so sweet and genuine, i appreciate your raw honesty thank you for making this video it helped me a lot, sending positive vibes your way

[@rhianhy]

Thank you lovely Krista 🖤

[@shelahphillipsen7019]

Your voice is so calming. I had to pause the video to put my lasagna together so I wouldn't be lulled to sleep (which is a good thing). I am back now refreshed. Love you Rhian, you are an amazing woman and such an inspiration and a blessing to so many. PS, I love the new end slate!

[@ana_drc]

You’re such an amazing and strong woman! You’re a true source of inspiration, thank you for being here Rhian! We love you so much! ❤️

[@raeperonneau4941]

“This too shall pass” is one of the most powerful sentences I’ve ever learned.

[@ambermeyer602]

Please do a hair styling video ❤️

[@amyfallon5132]

This was a lovely video. I do have something to add to one of the socially anxiety questions: finding another person like my boyfriend or sister to go with me can be helpful in a social situation where I worry that I might get overwhelmed. Having someone around who understands that I occasionally have a limited capacity for socializing both gives me comfort and also someone who I can give a signal to if I feel like I'm done and I need to leave but don't want to make it awkward. I love watching these videos. Also, love your sassy new hair and love hearing that you've found peace and understanding with yourself. Thanks for the video, Rhian.

[@Marshaleina]

Thank you so much for this video!!! Going to check out the toolkit video next!

[@Nikachu0906]

I have to say I totally understand why you still get emotional talking about the doctor who diagnosed your ADHD. I spent my entire teens and early 20’s in massive amounts of pain in my pelvic region. My periods were so bad that at times I would pass out from the pain. I went to 7 different doctors over the course of 10 years before I found one bag finally diagnosed me. Finally having a diagnosis and treatment was life changing. Not only that, but 5 years and 5 surgeries later, she fought my insurance company to approve a major surgery that they were refusing to pay for. It’s rare to find a doctor that totally understands you and is willing to go to bat for you. I am so happy you have been able to get some much needed clarity with your mental health. I am still struggling with sone issues, but I am trying to make changes. And you inspire me to continue to push through, even on the days I want to just say f@&k it all. Thank you. 💜

[@rhianhy]

I’m so glad you found such a good doctor to both treat and advocate for you 🖤

[@Nikachu0906]

Rhian HY It is such a rare thing now these days to actually have a doctor listen to you. In some ways, I’m glad all this took place 20 years ago. If it was happening today, I have no clue what I would do. I will say, though, I used to work in the medical field, and I did a ton of research and basically learned all about what I thought it was that I had, and every single doctor but the one who diagnosed me kept telling me I was wrong, or imagining things, etc., but I knew something was very wrong. It I hadn’t kept pushing for answers, I really don’t know what would have happened.

[@KaroDance]

I am doing conversations in my head all the time! You are amazing! You look amazing and you have so much courage ❤️ love you xxx

[@kristihudon3932]

I don't know if this would be a helpful tip to you or anybody that sees this, but I find something that really helps me when I am feeling anxious/starting to have a panic attack, I will think to myself "Am I feeling a bad anxious or an excited good anxious?". Sometimes I am able to notice that I am actually having a feeling like something really good is going to happen and I just can't differentiate between the two. Also just taking time to think about how you are feeling rather than just being stuck in the feeling can be helpful too, at least to me. But great video dear! And great hair :) Always a treat to listen to your opinions on things :)

[@rhianhy]

I'm sure if its helpful for you, it has to be helpful for others too so thank you for sharing

[@flacaninya16]

You look so beautiful Rhian!!!!

[@glyxii8201]

I have that feeling that something is “off” or “not quite right”. This video has convinced me to finally talk to my doctor about it. I run through conversations in my head as well, it almost becomes obsessive (I have re-written this comment several times over the past hour on a notepad for practice). When I get these “anxiety fits”, I guess is what I call them, it feels like heart palpitations & my brain refuses to function or process anything. Most of the time I can power through it, it’s a challenge, but I can do it. Until now I have down-played these problems, comparing myself to those that struggle with it more than I do. Convincing myself that I shouldn’t complain, that I’m just being a baby about it. Thank you so much for this video! I know it’s helped so many others as well. ❤️ P.S. Love the hair! Gives me Grace Kelly vibes for some reason.

[@rhianhy]

I'm so proud of you for making the decision to dig a little deeper. It can be really easy to do the "others have it worse" thing and push those things aside but thats not always the most helpful way

[@sonatak304]

Thank you so much for doing this video. I watched it twice. You look fabulous. Love the hair! Keep on keeping on!

[@TsepeshHanna]

Loveeeee your new look 💗

[@redtulips23]

Awe, I didn’t mean to make you cry with my question but I am so glad to hear you’re feeling more like yourself. 💕

[@SF-kc6zv]

❤️ I love the new haircut! ❤️ I also have a couple tips for the person who wrote in about reduced libido, as I’ve struggled with that in the past. For me, the best way to help myself get into that headspace was to do slower, more sensual buildups to sexy time with my partner. Taking it slow is really helpful to take the pressure off and allow me more time to get into that headspace when I’m feeling down or unsexy. The specific things that worked best for me were massages that slowly led to intimacy, and playing games that involve touch or taking clothing off 🙈 a simple game of battleship where you have to take off an article of clothing for each ship your partner sinks can be a fun way to slowly get in the mood without the pressure to get there quickly ❤️ I hope this is helpful

[@rhianhy]

LOVE THIS! I'm going to pin this comment if you're ok with that since i didn't have much help to give.

[@SF-kc6zv]

Rhian HY of course! ❤️

[@christinat9116]

Helpful as always! Thank you for being 'real' 💖

[@katie.sleeps]

Scripting conversations is something I do allll the time. I guess until you mentioned it I didn’t think about just how often I do it. I’d love a bit of insight on how you overcame that :) so happy for you x

[@Aquamarine1111]

Always feels like a catch up with a caring friend . Love your hair btw!! Xox

[@rhianhy]

Aw I feel the same when I get to catch up with you babes in the comments or DMs too 🖤

[@Aquamarine1111]

Thx so much, Rhian! Just hit me - can you do a vid on how you deal with the winter blues (in my case seasonal affective disorder)? When summer is over I’m always in complete panic about the upcoming frigid, dark months ahead. I know you live in a cold winter climate like me (Toronto), do you have any tips for your winter sisters? ❄️❄️❄️

[@martynkal.1248]

Awwww bless you Rhian for being so open and honest with your thoughts and your emotions with us! Your new hair is bangin', this was a lovely video and you've been really inspiring me to go back and fight to get a referral/get tested for inattentive ADHD. All the love and sunshine your way 💗☀️

[@rhianhy]

One suggestion I would make is to remain open when it comes to a diagnosis. I would’ve assumed I was the inattentive type but I actually have a combined diagnosis! You’d be surprised the ways the hyperactive portion can present other than the more obvious ways we think! Wishing you all the best!

[@martynkal.1248]

Thank you for the advice!

[@romanticashale]

1. your hair looks amazing and even though i just cut my hair, this makes me want to chop a few more inches off 2. thank you so much for these kinds of videos. i always find them so relaxing and helpful. i enjoy how realistic you are about mental health while still being incredibly compassionate, sometimes i feel like it's hard to find both those things from one person, especially on the internet. i struggle a lot with pretty severe anxiety and depression but i've used a lot of your coping tips in the past and i always find your videos to be helpful and uplifting. i don't have really any close friends anymore and it's nice to just hear from someone that i'm not completely broken. just thank you you, i can't emphasize how much these videos mean to me

[@rhianhy]

Thank you sweet friend! I hope today is a good one

[@agathelv7602]

The new haircut is beautiful !

[@autismandpodcast]

We love you Rhian

[@ChiChiGianni]

Love your hair! Also love your videos on mental health. Such an important topic that unless you suffer with it people tend to forget. ❤️

[@DC-ef8op]

Your hair looks great. The shorter style brings out your eyes even more so now.

[@0EXPLODIERT]

Thank you so much for this video! xx

[@samsula123]

Ive told you before how you’ve helped me but I wanted to let you know because of your videos I pursued my doctor further and found out I was bipolar. It saved my life literally. I was so scared to see a psychiatrist like it meant I was officially “crazy” and the experience was actually quite awesome. Now I’m medicated and go to therapy and I feel like I got my life back. Thank you for these videos.

[@rhianhy]

I’m so proud of you for taking care of YOU! So strong! 🖤

[@emmahaggkvist6750]

1. Such good tips! 2. So happy for you and your newfound peace with yourself! You deserve it!

[@rhianhy]

Hey Emma! Number 3 is mostly answered in my adult ADHD video if you wanna check that out x

[@heatherhernandez5561]

Your hair looks great

[@MIOLAZARUS]

Must say i LOVE your channel. just found it and the binge-watching has started. I have BPD... And also live vegan and cruelty free. I can relate to so many things. Thank you for being on youtube

[@krishnashah3941]

I'd love ADHD focused videos! I recently got diagnosed with Adult ADHD too and I'm still trying to figure out the what meds & dosages works for me. In the mean time, I'd love to learn more tips and tricks to deal with the ADHD so I can actually focus more. So far, I definitely feel more calmer and focused with automated tasks but I still struggle with focused/concentration requiring tasks.

[@rhianhy]

I'll definitely get to work on it!! x

[@Luna-hm7mq]

This is a really great video, I love your mental health related videos. Also, your hair looks so beautiful!!

[@meganlash6746]

Haven't even watched the video yet - had to tell you how much I LOVE your hair! You look GORGEOUS!!!!

[@greenorangeviolet]

Your hair looks so good!!! Def need a tutorial :)

[@jessikajane7279]

You were born for this haircut! 🖤 So gorgeous on you!

[@JessiicaxXOXx]

omg your hair looks so good mom

[@melissamacneil4519]

How adorable is your hair!!

[@kimbasciano_]

Love you Rhian! Your videos always put me in a better mood & have helped me more than you’ll ever know. Xoxo

[@privatetatum]

LOVE the hair!! Super duper cute!

[@nadareyene]

omg i always adore women with short hair it’s so powerful

[@MyLifeInTheDesert]

You look gorgeous! Love the hair.

[@michelle5873]

THAT END SCREEN IS AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFULLL!!! Ok 1st thing, yes distractions is what gets me through my mornings. Usually if I am stressed about work, the mornings are the WORST. The best help was actually going straight to hulu. I am rewatching all Project Runway series... It is also what helps me fall back asleep sometimes. I recently discovered that Headspace has some really cool sleepcasts that tell you a cute story for you to fall asleep. I was using the 45 min chatty grwm, so that's another option HAHA! A video on ideas on how to deal with panic attacks would be really cool. Yes we're all different, but I think we would all be up to different things to try. You said a very important detail that I don't think everyone gets. Seeking therapy helps SO MUCH in understanding your situation and how certain things are not you it is just your mental health state. I wish more people could understand that. For me that's what therapy has brought me and has helped me be so much more at peace with myself. So excited for the videos this week!

[@rhianhy]

Thank you Michelle! I think the hard thing with preparing for/ dealing with panic attacks is that sometimes, no matter how prepared you are... in that moment you're just not able to employ those things. I'll try and figure out some helpful tips for that too. You're right... we're all different but often in the process of trying things we figure out things that DO work, even if its not the original thing you were trying! x

[@michelle5873]

Exactly. I don't think there are ANY ways that are perfect to deal with, maybe just ideas to explore to see what kinda work. I think the most important part is to be very kind to yourself, before, during, and afterwards. I recently prepared by keeping alcohol pads at my desk to help me breathe better haha. Thanks for a great video

[@roselinefelisha]

Always want to thank you for these videos 🖤

[@carissaritchardson6719]

One thing I would like to mention is that to get some blood work done specifically to see if you are B12 deficient. There is a psychiatrist on the east coast that has done some research on health psychology specifically with vitamin deficienies and she and others have found that just by giving a B12 shot if it's an extreme case or just a supplement as well as fish oil pill or flax seed oil pill if vegan can help lift depressive tendencies. Obviously discuss with the doctor first but I thought I would give info about this in case medications have not worked for you! Also breathing techniques can be extremely helpful for anxiety and panic attacks. Just by doing it twice a day can be very helpful and I highly recommend!

[@potatoflips2694]

Love the hair! Short hair looks so good! :D

[@LeoRafDonnyMikey]

Cute hair!!! I've been debating cutting mine off again and you've convinced me to do so. Cheers! :-)

[@kirstynr45]

First, the hair looks amazing! So happy you cut it and love it. Second, your end screen photo on the video is beautiful. Love the switch up. Third, thanks for making this video! I suppose that should have been the first point ☺️ It’s nice to know (but I’m sorry that others go through it, too) that I’m not the only human out there that scripts conversations. I have terrible social anxiety, so I guess that’s why. Still dealing with that and figuring it out day by day. Anywho, it’s so good to hear that you feel like you understand yourself better now. 💛💛💛

[@rhianhy]

Thank you Kirstyn

[@kindheart9643]

Thank you for this video, you helped me a lot!

[@auroracid5417]

I LOVE THE HAIR!!!!

[@samsula123]

Omg I LOOOOVE YOUR HAIR!

[@Nikachu0906]

I LOVE the haircut! It looks great on you :-).

[@mcgulliksen2021]

You have come a long way! Just ignore those tools. You got this. (I had a laundry list of diagnoses since my 20s. I'm 51. I remember all of the experiences regardless of where I am *right now" & some may come to visit again... you just never know). I think that it's great that you can cope with social anxiety. I have turned into quite the loner but I make it to work every day now... wasn't always that way either 😂. Take care of you!

[@rhianhy]

Thanks so much Kerry! I always look forward to your input

[@Rollypollyrory]

Loving the bob, it looks so good on you

[@betsyfoster2180]

i am LIVING for your hair

[@c_rosen2847]

Really love your hair!

[@Phyreflyte]

In regards to the diminished libido: Exercise and a good vitamin regimen helped me considerably. Exercise releases a lot of stress, frustration, and tension, and it typically increases my comfortability with my own body, making me feel sexier. That being said, it’s often difficult to want to exercise when depressed. Vitamins, particularly D, B complex, and magnesium help a lot with emotional stability, energy, and overall health. Another thing that helps is spending more time working up to the sexual interaction with your partner. Take a warm shower together with some music placing, and wash each other’s bodies. Hold hands or snuggle on the couch. Have an evening together with no screen time or social media...just focus on each other and go for a long walk, a picnic, or play some games together. Spend more time on foreplay. Make sure you incorporate a lot of physical tough that doesn’t necessarily lead up to sex...for instance, my depression usually makes me NOT want to be touched and my husband knows that, so on those days he does simple stuff like touch my shoulder in passing, stroke my hair, rub my feet, etc. All of those things create a sense of love, warmth, and safety, so it’s much easier to move on to more physical things later on. Most importantly, understand that it’s the medication or the illness making you feel that way. You ARE still desirable and lovable, even if you don’t feel it, and it’s also okay to go through periods of time where you focus on other aspects of the relationship and sex is kind of on a side burner for a couple weeks.

[@rhianhy]

Love these suggestions! Thank you so much for sharing

[@skyedireen7600]

Love the hair!!!

[@jennymagick_yt]

Big hug to you! 🤗😘

[@rk7558]

Love you Rhian x

[@kirstynr45]

Oh, and thanks for answering my question! I’ve gotten better about actually leaving the house. I only get anxious about leaving if it’s to go on a walk alone or going to my apartment gym alone. So, I still don’t leave the house often for those. But leaving for other reasons, I do! Now, the battle is having the conversation with myself about going into wherever I’ve driven to. I have to talk myself into getting out of the car and stop myself from just driving back home. And man oh man, if I forget my phone and can’t use it to pretend like the world doesn’t exist around me, that’s quite the day let me tell you. I’ve come accustomed to using my phone to pretend like I’m on a call so strangers won’t talk to me 😂. Anxiety aside, I really need to learn that being uncomfortable in life is okay 😬

[@rhianhy]

I wonder if listening to a podcast while driving and then even in earbuds when you get to where you're going could help? I've absolutely done the "drive there and swiftly turn around" thing but you're so right... being uncomfortable is ok sometimes. x

[@michelle5873]

For me I had too many times I just wanted to call in sick to work where I just did not want to get out of bed. Then I started to shift my mind into, what do I lose by trying to have a work day? I said to myself "Worst case I leave early" and honestly that helped me so much. I also started doing what rhian said, distractions. Put on a favorite show, anything that would allow you to let your mind go someplace else. Also don't be so hard on yourself, do it slowly. It eventually goes better. I think it is playing with your mind into a "what if i do it & its ok?" I went from leaving early work to then finally getting the day complete. slow steps. I know everyone is different, so I dont want to impose. Hope you find something that works for you :)

[@kirstynr45]

Michelle Cruz Thanks for your input! I like that mindset. I’ll definitely give that a try. It’s worked in the past! I totally forgot that I used to do that scenario in my mind and ask myself that question. It’s a day by day process, but I think that will help me again. I used to say to myself, “Okay I know I haven’t been here before and I don’t know where anything is or how it’s going to go, but if I don’t go in and find out, I will never be able know. Worst case - I have to actually work up the nerve to ask someone a question and hope they’re nice.” I think that will be my new life motto again. If anything, it’s better than doing nothing to help myself, which is what I’ve been doing for quite a while now. I appreciate you bringing it up! Internet stranger friends are awesome 💛

[@michelle5873]

The mind is a crazy scary thing. Hope it works. Some days it's easier but at least it helped for some days for me. Good luck :)

[@kirstynr45]

Michelle Cruz Best of luck to you, too! 😊

[@hollyjustice9858]

For the sexual side effects, when I was on an anti depressant, my Dr added Wellbutrin to my regimen which did help a little.

[@rhianhy]

This was actually the reason i switched to Wellbutrin too!

[@anotherkyr]

My sister has ADD and I used to hate it because I could see when she 'switched off' from our conversations and got distracted by something else. As she got older she's really learnt to notice when she does it and will try to get back into the conversation, but I've learnt when to tell her not to worry because what I was saying wasn't really important.

[@rhianhy]

As frustrating as i'm sure it can be in your position... imagine how frustrating it is to experience in your own brain. Not being able to follow conversations, lessons, instruction related to your job etc no matter how hard you try or want to. Its no fun. Hopefully, as i have, your sister has also found ways to make her ADD work for her and is able to see it as the valuable form of human diversity that it is!

[@ZohaBaquar]

Love. This. Hair. Wow. Wow.

[@melaniegardner9118]

Haircut! Yas.

[@rowanthomas9181]

Haha jup related to the ‘I also much prefer to cry in the shower’. A good shower cry with some sad music is the best sometimes hahaha

[@rhianhy]

Exactly! Just let it all out!

[@iWasMadeInTheUsa]

OH MY GOODNESS, YOUR HAIR!!!! It looks amazing :) Maybe I should get a haircut now...uh at the salon though hehe

[@rhianhy]

Highly recommend! ✂️

[@happytrails699]

Great video and your hair would look so adorable cut like that.

[@ashleywarner7995]

Ur hair looks gorgeous! Love it long, but it's also very cute short and i think short hair makes people look younger usually.

[@monicacastaneda9217]

All I can say is thank you