Rights of Children in Islam

Right of Children in Islam
Agenda
This talk is primarily for the parents
Rights of Allah (swt)
Rights of other are derived
What are the rights of children
What are the limits of these rights
Rights of Allah are
To be worshipped which is the first pillar of our religion
To be obeyed - obedience is a form of worship (absolute and unconditional obedience is to be given to Allah only)
The word “Rabb” denotes not just “God” but also the one who is obeyed
Rights of children are derived from obedience to Allah (swt)
Meaning rights must be given and if not given, the person will be held accountable for this failure. The rights of children must be given.
Rights of Children
We must select good parents for our children.
Our children have this right over us before they are born.
If we select bad or sinful spouses, we are infact harming our children because we are giing them bad parents.
We must select good spouses for ourselves because our children deserve good parents.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Marry the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4802; Muslim, 1466)
When our children re born, they have the right to be breastfed for up to two years.
Breastfeeding
Mothers may breastfeed their children two complete years for whoever wishes to complete the nursing [period]. Upon the father is the mothers' provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable. No person is charged with more than his capacity. No mother should be harmed through her child, and no father through his child. And upon the [father's] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father]. And if they both desire weaning through mutual consent from both of them and consultation, there is no blame upon either of them. And if you wish to have your children nursed by a substitute, there is no blame upon you as long as you give payment according to what is acceptable. And fear Allah and know that Allah is Seeing of what you do. (Al Baqarah:233)
It entails harm to a child if we do not do this form them.
Our children have a right to a good upbringing, education, protection and care.
“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”[al-Tahreem 66:6]
Our children have a right to equal and fair treatment.
“Fear Allaah and treat your children fairly.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2447; Muslim, 1623).
We must give equal gift to our children
Nu'man b. Bashir reported: My father donated to me some of his property. My mother Amra bint Rawaha said: I shall not be pleased (with this act) until you make Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) a witness to it. My father went to Allaah's Prophet (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) in order to make him the witness of the donation given to me. Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said to him: Have you done the same with every son of yours? He said: No. Thereupon he (the Prophet) said: Fear Allaah, and observe equity in case of your children. My father returned and got back the gift. Sahih Muslim 3965
If we give something to one child, we must give them same to another. We must especially be careful and not show favoritism. It is possible for a parent to have a favorite child but the parents cannot show favoritism in terms of love, spending etc.
Our children have a right to love and affection
Right to love and affection
Parents instinctively know to love their children but there are limits
Our children have a right to be provided for according to the means of the parents
Our children have a right to inheritance once we pass away. We must write own our will to make sure the wealth is distributed according to Islamic rules.
the limit to the right of children is that we do not disobey Allah in our love for our children.

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What about the right of freedom

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Thank you for the lesson.

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Today partiality by parents between their children is a common problem in our society, but mostly Scholars don't raise this issue.

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Up to what age do children have these rights?